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[ - ] UPDATE: I am the OP of the MP post about DH's family trying to books a vacation house with 6 bedrooms for 30 people. I found a 2 bedroom cottage within walking distance to the big for my family to stay in. MIL just sent message that another group has already booked the house but they haven't paid the deposit. The owner is going to give them until Wednesday. I will be OK either way because it looks like options are now: 1) the house is booked and we stay home or 2) MIL ends up booking big house and my family gets cottage. I am only screwed if MIL does end up booking big house on Wednesday and cottage books before then. I am going to email cottage owner now and see if I can get a hold. 44 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
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Good luck! [ Reply | More ]
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Your husband will resent this [ Reply | More ]
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OP: He was actually good with the cottage. I explained it as that the 1 year old will sleep better there and I will stay with baby while he naps. He was totally fine with us staying separate from the main house since it is within walking. [ Reply | More ]
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You just want somewhere tou can hide and not have to associate with his family. Be honest. [ Reply | More ]
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You act like you are the only person who has ever had a kid. [ Reply | More ]
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OP: I won't get to associate with them that much either way. I will be chasing DB and making sure he isn't killing himself whenever he is awake. I am looking forward to reading a book on the deck while he naps though if I am able to get the cottage. [ Reply | More ]
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Oh please. You will not be spend every mi ute chasing your kid. You obviously never wat,h your own kid. [ Reply | More ]
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OP: Now you sound like someone who doesn't have kids. 15 month olds are suicide machines, you have to be on ground at all times. They are not independent what so ever. [ Reply | More ]
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No they are not. [ Reply | More ]
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You sound like a weirdo. [ Reply | More ]
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Come on. What's with the vitriol? [ Reply | More ]
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Ding ding ding its all about you and what you want. [ Reply | More ]
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Missing acouple of naps will not hurt snowflake [ Reply | More ]
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Yes, and OP will be blamed when baby is a pill. I hate people like you. [ Reply | More ]
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Blamed for what? Get a grip. [ Reply | More ]
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Two of the phrases on here I hate the most. You're a huge suck-fest. [ Reply | More ]
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This. [ Reply | More ]
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OP: It won't hurt him. I know he will live but grumpy, tired one year olds suck to be around. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.03.16, 03:14 AM Flag
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So do entitled pitas [ Reply | More ]
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So do entitled pitas [ Reply | More ]
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Lol. Ok. Your medal awaits, martyr. [ Reply | More ]
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Do what's best for DB. Someone 's got to. [ Reply | More ]
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So she should spend her vacation time crammed into a house with 30 ppl and get her kid off schedule to boot? For what? Why would this be desirable? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.03.16, 03:57 AM Flag
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Just suck it up amd deal with it. Geez. So annoying you are. [ Reply | More ]
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Are the people booking the cottage in your group? If not, just book it. [ Reply | More ]
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Everyone will be offended by this [ Reply | More ]
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Btw, I would try very hard not to stay in a house with 30 people. Who's gonna clean up after every meal? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.03.16, 03:10 AM Flag
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You clean up after yourself. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.03.16, 03:11 AM Flag
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Not everyone will. A few people will step up. Ugh, 30 people in a house sounds like such a nightmare. Can't imagine who would want to do it [ Reply | More ]
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Are you saying she should have her own meals in the cottage without the family? Wow. Why even go. [ Reply | More ]
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OP: I will eat in the main house. [ Reply | More ]
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OP: I will book but don't want to put deposit down unless I know the big house is booked. [ Reply | More ]
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Mmkay, Yoda. [ Reply | More ]
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I would do the big house. Way more fun. Would you have to share the bedroom with other people or can you have a bedroom to yourselves? It is only 2 nights. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.03.16, 02:59 AM Flag
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She is too good for that. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.03.16, 03:02 AM Flag
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The family will forever talk behind your back as the bitch and your kids won't have as much fun as the other kids and they will be mad at you. Bad decision to rent separate house. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.03.16, 03:13 AM Flag
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OP: I don't really care. I have been with my DH for 15 years and besides his parents, brother and sisters that are going, I have only hung out with the other relatives only maybe 3 times. I prob won't see them again unless there is a family wedding or funeral. My DD is 4, she will have plenty of fun and DB is 1. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.03.16, 03:19 AM Flag
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I disagree, tell them you need your own space. Why is this a problem? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.03.16, 03:25 AM Flag
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Maybe her kids will appreciate having their own space! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.03.16, 03:55 AM Flag
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Op, really hope this works out. The posters who think you're a brat for not wanting to stay in the big house are incomprehensible to me. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.03.16, 03:59 AM Flag
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OP: thank you. I don't get it either. I am entitled to my rights and preferences like anyone else in the family. There is no prize for being a martyr! [ Reply | More ]
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This × 1000000 I don't get the hate either. Who wants to be cooped up with a 1 year old sharing bathrooms? Everyone else here, by the looks of it. [ Reply | More ]
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Fellow princess here. I'm genuinely happy for you. GL. [ Reply | More ]
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OP: thank you! :) [ Reply | More ]
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[ - ] shopping at Sephora. Does anyone have an online promo code? Thanks! 3 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
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[ - ] What's the market rate for walking kids from the school to after school site? It's 15-20 min walk. 3 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
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Find an older kid from the school walking the same way. $5-10 a day. [ Reply | More ]
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You are going to need to pay at least $40 a day to find a reliable adult. [ Reply | More ]
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Ask after school site what other kids do, maybe they have someone on staff that can do it. [ Reply | More ]
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[ - ] A friends husband died suddenly and they just got divorced. He was catholic and she is Jewish. I want to go to the wake. She will sit Shiva. Should I go to her house too after he is buried? I've never been to a Shiva. We use to hang out a bit, but we drifted apart. I just don't know what appropriate with the Jewish faith and I want to get this right. Thanks. 10 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
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All I know is no flowers, bring food! [ Reply | More ]
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Ok, thanks [ Reply | More ]
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Wouldn't he be her ex-husband? Why is she sitting shiva for him if they're divorced? [ Reply | More ]
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I don't know, I thought it was for her child? They literally just got divorced. He looked so sad the last time I saw him. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.03.16, 03:27 AM Flag
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She's doing the right thing. [ Reply | More ]
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If they had a child of course she would sit Shiva for him. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.03.16, 08:07 AM Flag
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Yes, just be there for her. I've gone to Shiva. Sometimes its more people just having a snack, reminiscing etc. Not the mass grief you'd think. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.03.16, 03:13 AM Flag
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I'm not Jewish, but I grew up in a Jewish neighborhood and have been to lots of Shivas. As long as they don't keep kosher, bring food, a cookie tray is typical. Most jews now don't actually sit, they just stand around talking and remembering the person who died. It's more casual than you think it will be. Definitely go, she will appreciate it. [ Reply | More ]
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Ok, thanks! I'll go. [ Reply | More ]
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[ - ] Hundreds of well-wishers donate £2,000 to waitress who was refused a tip by 'racist' black Oxford student because she was white. 5 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
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The student wrote on cafe bill: ‘We will give tip when you return the land’ [ Reply | More ]
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South African Mr Qwabe is a Rhodes scholar at Oxford University, meaning he receives money from the Rhodes estate to study. [ Reply | More ]
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And where did Cecil Rhodes get that money? And do you know that the scholarships he established were only for whites originally? I'm not condoning his boorish behavior BTW but don't be naive about colonialism. [ Reply | More ]
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standard practice back then- no matter what race you are, there is a high chance your great great grandparents were racist. [ Reply | More ]
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[ - ] DD has a tiny room, and thinking of getting her a loft bed. OTher people have said that kids hate these because it's too hot. Does anyone have experience its this? Will kids sleep in a loft bed? 8 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
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My des is 14. Lives his. Been in it so e age 5 [ Reply | More ]
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Mine runs hot and has lots of complaints but his loft bed being hot is not one of them. [ Reply | More ]
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Fan? [ Reply | More ]
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I wouldn't want to make the bed, it's kind of difficult. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.03.16, 03:14 AM Flag
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You can get Zipit bedding -- the comforter zips onto the fitted sheet. Super fast, easy and perfectly neat. DD has one because only one side of her bed is accessible, and her arms are too short to make the bed properly. Not spam-- just a very satisfied customer. It would be perfect for a loft or top bunk. [ Reply | More ]
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maybe it depends on the height of your ceiling? check out apartment therapy for some ideas. [ Reply | More ]
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NP. Hmm. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.03.16, 08:03 AM Flag
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Interesting. Was thinking of this. Didn't think about the heat thing. [ Reply | More ]
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[ - ] Having thoughts for # 3. Thoughts? 6 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 05.03.16, 02:12 AM Flag
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hope you're wealthy [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.03.16, 02:12 AM Flag
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Family income before tax of 300k. But in flyover [ Reply | More ]
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Public? Expensive activities? You'll be fine [ Reply | More ]
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Private but it's 10k a year. So somewhat doable [ Reply | More ]
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Wow. That's seriously flyover tuition. Paying almost 4x that for one DC outside NYC. [ Reply | More ]
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Is that a parochial school? Even in flyover independent schools are a lot more than that. [ Reply | More ]
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[ - ] What do you think the market rate is for walking kids from the school to after school site? It's 15-20 min walk. 7 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
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Good luck finding someone to do this [ Reply | More ]
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+1, who would do this? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.03.16, 02:19 AM Flag
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Another mom might. [ Reply | More ]
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5 days a week? $250 a week. [ Reply | More ]
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I'd do it!!! [ Reply | More ]
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I'll do it!!! [ Reply | More ]
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We have a friend's babysitter walk our dc (with her regular charge) to an after school activity once a week. The kids are with her for @30 mins (school out at 3, class starts at 3:30), but it's just a couple blocks from school. We give the babysitter $10/day. [ Reply | More ]
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[ - ] Currently trying to get pregnant and my boss just asked me to attend a prestigious conference in Miami with her at the end of July. It's an important opportunity for my career, but I am terrified to go because of Zika. I kind of need to commit now or my company will be out a chunk of money, but I have no clue if I will be pregnant by then. If I decline it will look pretty bad to my boss and I don't even know how I would be able to explain why I can't go. She is 50 and has no kids, so she wouldn't be sympathetic at all. I know there are no US cases yet, but there are expected to be by summer and I would be in my first trimester. WWYD? 16 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
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Don't go. Your family is more important. [ Reply | More ]
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How do I decline though? [ Reply | More ]
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Be honest. If causes you to lose a promotion, so be it. You hope to be pregnant. I'm sure you don't need or want the added stress of worrying about this trip and Zika. [ Reply | More ]
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But no one has been infected inside the U.S. I understand your fear, but would you really be in danger? [ Reply | More ]
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What family. There is no baby. [ Reply | More ]
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I think you should go and just stay inside the whole time. Just get out of your cab at the hotel and don't leave hotel or go outside until time to return. You could also stop trying for just two months until after conference. [ Reply | More ]
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I would go. Where long sleeves and stockings. You will be fine [ Reply | More ]
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I'd go, if you get pregnant in the next month, then bow out. [ Reply | More ]
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You are just as likely to get it at home. Ask your OBGYN if you must. [ Reply | More ]
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This [ Reply | More ]
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Wear long sleeves and long pants, big hat, and use insect repellent. Say you are worried about sun damage and have big reactions to mosquito bites. [ Reply | More ]
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If you're TTC you don't want to get zika either. I wouldn't go, and would explain that you are hoping to start a family soon and don't want to risk the exposure. [ Reply | More ]
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I never got mosquito bites in FL. I did get sand flea (jelly fish) bites. [ Reply | More ]
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Book it. If you wind up pregnant apologize profusely, etc. You won't be so worried about this if it comes to pass. Worst case scenario is yiu turn it down now and you're not pregnant when the time comes [ Reply | More ]
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I thought Zika isn't even in Florida? [ Reply | More ]
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Just invest in bug spray or wipes and apply liberally. Or don't go and live in fear. [ Reply | More ]
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[ - ] We live in Manhattan, but DH has been taking our 11yr-old DS out to his brother's property in central PA for a few years now each fall to learn how to shoot and hunt, and to develop some outdoors skills. Some of the other moms seem to regard this as insane, but others are quite interested in having their sons acquire similar experiences. Where do you fall on that spectrum? 19 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
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I think what your DH is doing is critical to a city kid living a balanced life. Moms who regard it as insane are likely those sans second homes or nicer suburb upbringing and aren't well traveled and are sanders-type liberals. Ignore them. [ Reply | More ]
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Weird comment in light of the fact that Sanders totally loves guns. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.03.16, 02:24 AM Flag
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Well to be fair, he was living on a property for a while in the Vermont forest. It wasn't even inside of a town. He would have been nuts NOT to have had some kind of protection from bears, wolves, and other predators. [ Reply | More ]
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Sounds fine [ Reply | More ]
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Sounds good to me. We live in LA, but I was in the army so DD will know how to use a terrain map and compass, as well as other basic survival skills. [ Reply | More ]
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It's O.K. As long as they are good shots and make it quick for the animal. [ Reply | More ]
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Just do Boy Scouts. But I'm fine with what your dh and ds enjoy [ Reply | More ]
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Nice for your son. [ Reply | More ]
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+1 [ Reply | More ]
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I couldn't care less for hunting and I don't think children should shoot guns (don't know how old your DC is though) but I think it's important to soak up nature. We don't have forests where we pic but go to beaches and snorkel and go to farms and stables. [ Reply | More ]
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Shooting: Plinking and learning to handle a firearm seems almost like swimming, or learning to drive stick. Life skill sure, but I'd put it way down the list. Hunting: Prefer not to, but not something that should be looked as "insane". Each to their own. Outdoor skills: Falls in the "life skills" bucket like shooting, but much higher on the priority list. [ Reply | More ]
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A "life skill" to shoot a gun?! WTF. It's not the 19th c. You can't possibly be this stupid. [ Reply | More ]
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I went to a shooting range recently with dh's friend. He showed me how to shoot handguns. I'm really not into guns but always curious. Not sure I find this wrong. My family lives in rural area and all the boys do this. [ Reply | More ]
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This is why my son is in Boy Scouts, I think it's really good for him. I don't want him hunting until he choose to do it as an adult (I'm not vegan, I just don't find it appropriate), but scouts gives him a chance to learn outdoor and survival skills in a safe setting. [ Reply | More ]
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Shooting? Guns? NO. NEVER. [ Reply | More ]
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Unforgivable to allow DC to handle guns. I wouldn't allow my DC to be in your home. [ Reply | More ]
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Don't be silly. Guns are a tool like any other tool. They are significantly LESS dangerous than many common tools like table saws or arc-welders. [ Reply | More ]
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This. And it's better to learn how to use them -- honestly, they are all around us. Would you stop your child from learning how to use matches because of the danger of fire? [ Reply | More ]
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I think hunting is fine. If you're going to eat meat, might as know where it comes from. A wild animal has a much better life than a factory farmed animal. It's not insane at all. Men are made to hunt and fish. In Texas that was completely normal. [ Reply | More ]
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[ - ] Do you think it is more challenging to work as a teacher in a low income school or a high income school? 13 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
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Both have problems. In low income areas, you get very little input or interest from parents. In high income areas, you have to deal with helicopter parents and parents who look down on teachers. Pick your poison. [ Reply | More ]
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Well put [ Reply | More ]
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No [ Reply | More ]
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Low income. Kids aren't as behaved and can be racial disparity between teachers and the students. I taught. Classroom management is the toughest part of the job. [ Reply | More ]
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Low income, but also depends on so many factors. Are we talking low income, but respects the teacher? Or low income and I will slash your tires in the parking lot if you write me up kind of low income? High income is MUCH more annoying, not harder. High income parents want their kids in classes they aren't smart enough to be in. Kids want A's they didn't earn. Lots of drug usage, lots of entitlement and obnoxious attitudes. Low income kids have self esteem issues, often don't even have the basics to do homework. I had a kid who didn't have light bulbs in his apartment so he couldn't see to do his homework after dark. Elementary to High school is also a big difference. I teach in a high poverty elementary school and I can't tell you how much I LOVE my job. The kids work so hard and achieve far beyond anything you'd ever think they could. I'd rather die than teach rich kids. [ Reply | More ]
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As a teacher in a high poverty elementary school, do you think that controlled choice (i.e. computer-mandated diversity of students) would make your job easier or harder? Would a heterogenous mix of students across a wide swath of socioeconomic backgrounds (high & low income) be more challenging than your current class? [ Reply | More ]
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I think diversity and integration are great things. But don't take my word for it. Look at the research. Integrated schools help everyone. I currently have kindergarteners in my room reading between level A and level J, so even if I had a few more kids reading at high levels, it wouldn't be all that different. I already differentiate. [ Reply | More ]
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Thank you for this response. I've been trying to look at the research with an open mind. On the one hand, the research firmly concludes that integrated schools help everyone on aggregate (i.e. the entire system as a whole becomes better). But the studies don't seem to acknowledge or address whether high-performing local optimums (i.e. the most highly ranked schools that are unfortunately predominantly white/asian and have a high HHI) perform worse, better or maintain excellence post-integration. I've been trying to find answers to the latter question without much success, yet this is one of the biggest (unspoken?) concerns that seem to be on parent minds when grappling with controlled choice. [ Reply | More ]
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High income, said no teacher ever [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.03.16, 03:29 AM Flag
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Low for sure. High would be frustrating in some ways, dealing with all of the parents who think their special snowflakes are entitled to anything they want, but low income is a nightmare. My mother was a lifelong ps teacher in the inner city and it is truly awful. She was punched by kids, broke up fights daily, called every name in the book by 10 year olds, Horrid principals, none of them ever support the teachers, and incredibly sad to see how if you're poor in the US, you really get zero real education, they are too many problems in those schools to be able to educate the kids effectively. Rewarding when you see those you help, but it's so little of what you deal with everyday. [ Reply | More ]
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See, when other parents hear about stories like this (granted, this seems a bit extreme and for older children), it incites irrational hysteria and worst-case-scenario-thinking when being asked to consider controlled choice schemes (e.g. District 3 and District 1 are currently investigating this). Not to say that it's RIGHT to think this way, but I think it's a valid concern that needs to be ADDRESSED by the CECs if only to put people at ease when non-PC thoughts like this flit through their heads. [ Reply | More ]
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Op-How about HS? [ Reply | More ]
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Good point - the grade levels in question are probably just as important as another factor to consider. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.03.16, 03:56 AM Flag
[ - ] Has anyone tried Whole30 for weight loss? How much did you lose? 4 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
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I have not but have read on here that people have lost between 15-20 lbs. [ Reply | More ]
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My assistant lost about 25lbs in the first 30 days, I lost 6 lbs [ Reply | More ]
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Its a good kick start to begin eating only lean protein, good fats fruit veg no carb no dairy which will ultimately allow you to lose real weight. It provides a good structure to return to if you fall off the wagon. I like it and lost about 5lbs but had no more to lose anyway. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.03.16, 03:45 AM Flag
[ - ] Why does no one say the obvious - Kim Kardashian is FAT. F.A.T. If anyone else were half as large as her, they would be shamed endlessly or famous for being fat. I'm fine w her weight but truly missing the obvious lack of consistency in critique. 25 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
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How does she sleep on her back with that ass? [ Reply | More ]
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Hahaha, that's the truth. How can she think she is haute couture with a deliberate manmade butt like that? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.03.16, 04:40 AM Flag
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So is Michelle Obama. check her out at the Correspondent's Dinner. She looks pregnant. [ Reply | More ]
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Michelle Obama is middle aged and not paid to look pretty. [ Reply | More ]
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oh please. her whole MO is healthy eating blah blah blah. Obviously she is scarfing down the hohos like the unbelievable hypocrite she is. And btw she is not that old, and not all middle-aged women pack 30+lbs just by aging. [ Reply | More ]
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And she certainly has not spared any expense on her image over the past 8 years, she just can't pull it off as a lard ass. [ Reply | More ]
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I have met her several time, even shared a small luncheon with her party and she is anything but fat. Michelle Obama is 6' tall and in incredible shape. [ Reply | More ]
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Michelle Obama is gorgeous and fit. Looked like a knockout at the dinner. It's really sad to hear these comments. [ Reply | More ]
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Look, she puts herself out there so I think she's fair fodder to critique. I hate her. Hate her lame family. And disgusted by her fat A$$ that looks so freakish that I can't imagine she's ever taken seriously. Wtf is going on with that body? [ Reply | More ]
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I hate the Kkklan. But men like her body. Her ass is huge but it's probably not real anyway. So is she really over weight? I hate having to stand up for one of them but you should stfu about other people's bodies. There are more legitimate reasons to hate on her. [ Reply | More ]
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Black mom: Compare the family to the Klan is very poor taste. [ Reply | More ]
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I am black and they call themselves the klan. It's their initial thing. And there are 3 sisters. [ Reply | More ]
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They are the only Kklan that loves black men. [ Reply | More ]
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Does anyone deny it? She's a hog [ Reply | More ]
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I'm no fa if her's, but you're not her target audience. She also had a baby six months ago, so she looks decent for just giving birth. [ Reply | More ]
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Decent? Her ass is GINORMOUS. Not "Becky, look at her butt" big. It's just cellulite. It's unreal to me that this isn't a damning headline, as it would be for every other celebrity. [ Reply | More ]
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She probably has lipo all over and has the fat injected into her rump. Relatively thin thighs but a humungous tushy [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.03.16, 02:11 AM Flag
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Why are you insecure? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.03.16, 02:52 AM Flag
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Your DH loves her. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.03.16, 02:21 AM Flag
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I don't think highly of her, but never in a million years would've said she's fat. Michelle either! [ Reply | More ]
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[ - ] I am 5' 1" and 135 lbs. Am in considered overweight? 11 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
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Ask your doctor. [ Reply | More ]
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Slightly. But so what? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.03.16, 01:54 AM Flag
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i just feel miserable that most of my friends are size 0-4 and I end up at size 8. Feel like there is something wrong with me [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.03.16, 01:55 AM Flag
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OK, I'm a 12 so I guess I don't get this. 8 is normal and fine! Nothing is wrong with you. We all come in different shapes etc. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.03.16, 02:02 AM Flag
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Google BMI calculator. You're welcome. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.03.16, 01:54 AM Flag
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Yes, Kim, you are overweight. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.03.16, 02:10 AM Flag
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You must not carry your weight well. I am the same height and at my heaviest 133, I could still wear a size 2/4 in pants, 4 in dresses. I wear mainly Theory and Tahari. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.03.16, 02:17 AM Flag
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That's same as me, but I am 5'9 [ Reply | More ]
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You are UB huge. But You are Disney thin. [ Reply | More ]
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LOL that's me too! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.03.16, 03:07 AM Flag
[ - ] Is anyone happy with their UPK placements? 41 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 05.03.16, 01:49 AM Flag
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Not for our DC. Supposedly 85% placement for all families in their top 3 choices in NYC, but I suspect that NYC District 3 was the worst and dragged the average down. Looking at Round 2 Pre-K admissions there are hardly any remaining good schools to apply to in D3. Waitlist purgatory here we come. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.03.16, 01:53 AM Flag
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When did results come out? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.03.16, 01:58 AM Flag
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Today. You should be able to find out online. If not, then they supposedly mailed the acceptance letters and we should be getting physical copies this week. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.03.16, 02:07 AM Flag
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Woohoo TY so much. We got the program we wanted [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.03.16, 02:08 AM Flag
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Congrats :) Statistics in action hehe. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.03.16, 02:12 AM Flag
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True but we ranked realistic options not ps 87 type of places. Many pre-k programs are very good [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.03.16, 02:15 AM Flag
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NP. we're new to the city and live in D3 - do you mind sharing what schools you listed? I'm going to have to expand in R2 since I was the foolish ps 87 type. [ Reply | More ]
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I'd love to know too! One interesting point is that if you live in D3 below 100th you probably won't qualify for the NYCEECs that have income restrictions. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.03.16, 02:18 AM Flag
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I live above 100 but we certainly don't qualify for income restrictions. Our top 3 choices: ps 145, ps 166, Cathedral Parkway towers preschool. Where are you in D3? [ Reply | More ]
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^165 not 166 [ Reply | More ]
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Ah you're right. Looking at StreetEasy and the property prices are high up there too. In the 90s for us, not that it's much different. Not bemoaning the income restrictions at all, but just further restricts the available close-by PreK options (for both of us it seems). [ Reply | More ]
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Thanks for the information. Turns out the only available schools in D3 for round 2 have income restriction. Wonder if I then apply out is district? Ugh! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.03.16, 03:12 AM Flag
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191 and 145 are great. Take one that's closer to you [ Reply | More ]
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Their UPK programs are great? See, this is the type of information I wish was more easily available for other parents. Kind of like a rating system for PreK programs. The 3rd party ratings for PS191 an PS145 are abysmal. The designation of one of the 27 "most persistently dangerous" schools doesn't help either[1]. The updated list of Persistently Dangerous Schools (PDS) is not responding (can't download anything)[2], but given that PS191 was classified PDS in the 2015-2016 school year, it certainly doesn't instill confidence that the PreK program (presumably?) housed in the same buildings will be any safer. [1] https://www.dnainfo.com/new-york/20150813/upper-west-side/ps-191-ranks-as-one-of-manhattans-most-dangerous-schools-state-says [2] http://www.p12.nysed.gov/sss/ssae/schoolsafety/vadir/ [ Reply | More ]
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congrats - do you mind sharing which district? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.03.16, 02:14 AM Flag
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D3 [ Reply | More ]
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I guess you're a fellow D3er. Waiting in the purg wicha. [ Reply | More ]
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Word. I wonder how long the waiting game will last though before calling in the nuclear options. I thought I read somewhere waitlists could go all the way to "early fall". Trying to find the reference. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.03.16, 02:22 AM Flag
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Are you applying again for the round 2 placements or just waiting to see movement on the WL? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.03.16, 03:13 AM Flag
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Movement on the WLs. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.03.16, 03:29 AM Flag
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where did you get those statistics? curious. [ Reply | More ]
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https://www.dnainfo.com/new-york/20160502/corona/where-find-free-pre-k-seats-for-citys-second-round-of-admissions I am wildly speculating about D3 dragging the acceptance average down but the other statistic is in the article. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.03.16, 02:09 AM Flag
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You got nothing? Did you rank all schools? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.03.16, 02:11 AM Flag
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Correct - waitlisted on all of the 8 PreK programs that we listed in D3. Was pretty shocked, although we always knew this was a possible outcome. Lottery and all that. [ Reply | More ]
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What were you hoping for? PS 9 and PS 87 aren't realistic choices. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.03.16, 02:15 AM Flag
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Hoped for our zoned school PS84. PS9 and PS87 were ranked lower, and you're right we knew they were long shots. Surprised at some of the others like Ascension which was further up. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.03.16, 02:20 AM Flag
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What did you get? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.03.16, 02:12 AM Flag
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PS 51 in D2. Evidently the DOE is saying that was the "closest program" available given our D3 choices were all gone. D3 is, however, an anomaly (maybe D1 is similar in competitiveness?) because you pretty much only have a shot at your zoned school, and if you fail to win the zoned school lottery ticket then chances are high you're SOL. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.03.16, 02:17 AM Flag
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Do you live in D3? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.03.16, 03:14 AM Flag
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Yes living in D3. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.03.16, 03:29 AM Flag
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Wonder if it's worth applying to out of district. I'm surprised you got a placement at a school and not a CBO. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.03.16, 03:31 AM Flag
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OP - we got nothing. ranked 10 schools. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.03.16, 02:18 AM Flag
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When did it come out? I am waiting for it. Did you get an email?? TYIA [ Reply | More ]
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I did get an email - but I checked my SEMS and it was there bf email arrived. [ Reply | More ]
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TY. No email but logging in worked. So glad OP posted this [ Reply | More ]
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YW! Are you happy? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.03.16, 02:19 AM Flag
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Yeah got an email. [ Reply | More ]
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just take something. most pre-k teachers are very well educated and do a good job. you can switch schools later. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.03.16, 02:02 AM Flag
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Well we all get **a** placement (mandated by the DOE). The issue is simply that it's probably not one that was toured or expected. At least, that's what happened in our case. We all chose to live in this crazy city, and even crazier (read: competitive) district. It is what it is. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.03.16, 02:10 AM Flag
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What did you get? [ Reply | More ]
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It's really hard to ignore the school rankings, but you're right. The real test will actually be the K admissions; this is just the warmup. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.03.16, 02:11 AM Flag
[ - ] Does anyone else watch Granchester? Saw the last episode of season 2 and can't wait for season 3!!! 4 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
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I have wondered about it, is it a slow starter? [ Reply | More ]
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No, not really. Each episode has some mystery which resolves by the end. The relationships b/w characters is fun [ Reply | More ]
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Love the show. Wish the season was longer. [ Reply | More ]
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I LOVE IT!! James Norton is hot, and I remember when I thought Robson Green was the hottest (back in the Touching Evil and Wire in the Blood days. He still is of course. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.03.16, 03:19 AM Flag
[ - ] Scalia has been dead for 2.5 months. The GOP really intend to leave his seat empty for 11 months. They are a sleazy bunch. #DoYourJob 24 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
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Lol [ Reply | More ]
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Democrats shouldnt have removed filibusters on district/appellate court judges. Y'all should have wondered where the payback would be esp when McConnell didn't put the rule back in when Republicans took Senate. [ Reply | More ]
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Total BS. It's your democracy they are playing with too. That has nothing to do with the constitution that says senate must hear the presidents nominee. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.03.16, 01:49 AM Flag
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if you are going to quote the constitution, please do it accurately. The term is advice and consent, which augurs no presumption of obligation. In fact, the Democrats proved by changing the rules on district/appellate they can use whatever standard they want. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.03.16, 01:55 AM Flag
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That's false. Everyone knows scotus is 9 justices, not 8. We don't need nuances. And for nearly a year? No worries. You've given Hillary more ammo to use against the Donald. [ Reply | More ]
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everyone knows it's been 8 many times, such as when rehnquist died and marshall retired. and I don't know where you fish out the Trump reference- he isn't in the senate. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.03.16, 02:01 AM Flag
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Trump said, "delay, delay, delay!" [ Reply | More ]
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he referred to its existence and being, not an imperative. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.03.16, 02:04 AM Flag
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Too f-cking late. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.03.16, 02:05 AM Flag
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Please, your own President ends around the rules by declaring parents of anchor babies can stay and you expect the other side to confirm his nominations because of the "rules"? Have you ever looked up the term hypocrisy in the dictionary? [ Reply | More ]
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I don't understand why Obama doesn't come down hard on this, what does he have to lose? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.03.16, 01:48 AM Flag
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Hillary is using it every chance she gets, and she will ride it to victory. Obama fulfilled his constitutional duty. He picked someone. Someone that the republicans liked, I might add. [ Reply | More ]
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so why are you complaining? you should be happy. [ Reply | More ]
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Cuz he done run out of executive orders [ Reply | More ]
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The longer they hold out, the longer Hillary has to ride it. Donald trump said "delay, delay, delay". [ Reply | More ]
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they can confirm him in the lame duck session if they lose the election. Obama would look like a total dick to Garland if he withdrew it at that point. [ Reply | More ]
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Total sleazeballs. And in the meantime, Sc is not at it's full strength for 9 months. Not mention congress is not a full strength. [ Reply | More ]
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If this were a big deal, the SC would never have votes with 8 justices and the Senate would not have votes without 100 members. The fact this happens all the time proves you wrong. [ Reply | More ]
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Zzzzzz. The GOP is imploding. They are finished. We will vote their stubborn, sleazy asses out in November. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.03.16, 02:06 AM Flag
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Hillary hasn't really been attacked yet (and still has amazingly high negative ratings), because Bernie didn't do it effectively. Trump has a decent chance once the gloves come off. [ Reply | More ]
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What's he going to do? Call her a pig? The state of the union with Trump should be hilarious. Not exactly what America needs. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.03.16, 03:08 AM Flag
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The Republican party is an embarrassment. Between Trump, Cruz and the empty Supreme Court, they've established themselves as the party that doesn't play well with others. If you flunked kindergarten, please don't try to run our country. [ Reply | More ]
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+1 [ Reply | More ]
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+100000 [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.03.16, 04:22 AM Flag
[ - ] Can moms on this board help me identify the TT NYC public elementary schools? 16 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
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Yes, they can [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.03.16, 01:48 AM Flag
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Thanks, can you name one? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.03.16, 01:50 AM Flag
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besides the G&T ones: 41, 40, 6, 290, 158, 9, 87, 166 have the best scores. there are a few more whose parents would demand to be included on this list like 276, 150, 59, 267 [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.03.16, 01:53 AM Flag
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Schooldiggers shows up currently as the first result when typing "elementary school rankings nyc". You can order the results based on different criteria. However, as a sister comment pointed out, typically the citywide G&T programs are best. Don't forget NEST, Hunter College and Special Moses School for Music. A lot will depend on where you live in NYC to see if you can get zone priority during admissions. Beware that in 2018 DOE may rezone District 3. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.03.16, 01:57 AM Flag
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Thank you [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.03.16, 02:00 AM Flag
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If you have lots of money, move into the 41 or 6 zones. If you have some money, move into 290 or 158. There. Research done. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.03.16, 02:09 AM Flag
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schooldiggers is just not good. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.03.16, 02:03 AM Flag
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IMO test scores are not the be all and end all. By that measure, everyone should go to Success academy. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.03.16, 02:18 AM Flag
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In a nonmanipulated universe like GenEd, they are useful. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.03.16, 02:22 AM Flag
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You're absolutely right. I forgot to mention that the rankings should just be one data point among many in the decision. But at least it's a good starting point to get the lay of the land since the OP sounded like they don't live in the city and have no clue about the can of worms entailed in answering such a deceptively innocuous question. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.03.16, 02:34 AM Flag
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really depends on where u live. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.03.16, 02:03 AM Flag
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Which neighborhood? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.03.16, 03:00 AM Flag
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TT? Hunter, Anderson, NEST. Don't know about outer borough public schools. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.03.16, 03:02 AM Flag
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This TT thing is insane but I'll bite. TT: Hunter, Anderson, NEST. 2T: Special Music School, Lower Lab, 41, 6. 3T: TAG, BSI, 40, 290, 9, 87, 234, 158, 166, Q300. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.03.16, 03:10 AM Flag
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On what planet is Special Music School a 2T school? That place is harder to get into than Hunter, Anderson, and NEST combined. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.03.16, 04:00 AM Flag
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On what planet is Special Music School a 2T school? That place is harder to get into than Hunter, Anderson, and NEST combined. [ Reply | More ]
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