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[ - ] I had "zebra" sex in my UG sorority, should I tell DH? 29 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 04.25.15, 10:23 PM Flag
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what is that? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.25.15, 10:23 PM Flag
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For those of u living under a rock and don't know what zebra sex is, you take one white girl naked in black heels and one black girl naked in white heels both lay in bed. THey lay on the bed, and then 5 black guys naked in high white socks and 5 white guys naked in high black socks come into the room and just start having a field day with them. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.25.15, 10:24 PM Flag
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Really [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.25.15, 10:25 PM Flag
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Sounds complicated [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.25.15, 10:25 PM Flag
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This is so gay! Frats really are full of gay men !! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.25.15, 10:55 PM Flag
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Aw cute the frat guys are in UB ! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.26.15, 12:34 AM Flag
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flagged and collapsed [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.25.15, 10:25 PM Flag
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lol this is a real thing. DH's frat would partner up with the black frat for an annual "Savanna Soiree" that typically ended with a handful of PiPhi pledges getting zebra'd in the Chapter Room. very typical case these days. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.25.15, 10:26 PM Flag
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Are you for real? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.25.15, 10:30 PM Flag
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Yes. Frats are disgusting. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.25.15, 10:32 PM Flag
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Yes and so gay! Gamg bangs are so gay. Men who watch other men have sex are closet cases. I knew a gay frat guy who said it was always the closet cases who were so into this shit [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.25.15, 10:57 PM Flag
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Yeah frats are super gay. It's odd. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.26.15, 12:51 AM Flag
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So the girls had to plan ahead? Nobody has white pumps [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.25.15, 10:37 PM Flag
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Sororities get dressed up for theme parties all the time. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.25.15, 10:41 PM Flag
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Ugh! Women will do anything to get attention from alpha males. So sad [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.25.15, 10:52 PM Flag
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So sad that young women debase themselves like this [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.25.15, 10:53 PM Flag
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Dateline did a story on this new trend last night [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.25.15, 10:25 PM Flag
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no they didn't. it was some murder case [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.25.15, 10:28 PM Flag
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That's after the DH found out his wife had a zebra party. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.25.15, 10:30 PM Flag
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um, no [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.25.15, 10:35 PM Flag
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Op, are you being serious? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.25.15, 10:33 PM Flag
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yes. 100%. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.25.15, 10:35 PM Flag
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Why are you considering telling him about this? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.25.15, 10:36 PM Flag
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it's a troll, silly [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.25.15, 10:41 PM Flag
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I think it's unfair to keep this from him. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.25.15, 10:41 PM Flag
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Unfair? HOW? Unless this happen while she was married to DH, it's ancient history that needs to remain buried in the past. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.25.15, 11:07 PM Flag
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Ick [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.25.15, 10:52 PM Flag
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slut shamer. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.26.15, 12:51 AM Flag
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Fake [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.25.15, 10:57 PM Flag
[ - ] It's raining in LA! 3 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 04.25.15, 10:22 PM Flag
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Not at my house... [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.25.15, 10:24 PM Flag
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What! Really? It's really coming down here [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.25.15, 10:25 PM Flag
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Where? It seems like it's going to rain but nothing so far in BH [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.25.15, 10:35 PM Flag
[ - ] My close friend's husband sent me a series of flirtatious texts last night. Should i tell my friend about this or just let it go? 47 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 04.25.15, 10:22 PM Flag
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i'd love to see how that conversation will go [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.25.15, 10:24 PM Flag
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So I should just say nothing? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.25.15, 10:25 PM Flag
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have you ever heard the expression "shoot the messenger"? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.25.15, 10:30 PM Flag
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Yes.... This is what I'm worried about! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.25.15, 10:53 PM Flag
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Sexual or just overly friendly? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.25.15, 10:25 PM Flag
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Where do you draw he line between this two?? He told me that I was adorable, announced that he was flirting with me, and asked me to send him a photo of myself. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.25.15, 10:27 PM Flag
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^ the, not this!! (Sorry for typos-- on my phone right now) [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.25.15, 10:27 PM Flag
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Not okay. I'd tell her [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.25.15, 10:36 PM Flag
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My dh occasionally texts and jokes around with my close friends but anything like this is inexcusable line crossing behavior. If I found out he was doing this and my close friend didn't tell me I'd be furious. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.25.15, 10:38 PM Flag
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This is how I feel. I feel like I have a duty to tell her. She is one of my best friends. But I don't want to be uptight and create a mountain out of a molehill either. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.25.15, 10:40 PM Flag
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Just take screen shots and don't say much. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.25.15, 10:43 PM Flag
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Make light of it like- was he wasted? Let her think what she wants but don't make it this big serious "omg I have horrible news" thing [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.25.15, 10:44 PM Flag
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Right, right! I am not going to do that! I am going to keep it very light. For what it is worth, it seems pretty clear that he was drunk, based upon the hour at which this took place (although he didn't make any typos-- so wasn't totally wasted either). I also know that they are having some problems in their marriage right now. This is not the first time that he has pulled a jerk move, from what I understand. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.25.15, 10:47 PM Flag
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Maybe she sent them to see if you'd tell her? Update us! I'll keep watching this... [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.25.15, 11:14 PM Flag
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Okay, I will. I really don't know how to handle this, but I have gotten some good feedback here. Part of me almost wonders if they are playing a practical joke on me or something? Except for the fact that I have seen him flirt with other women in the past (never in front of his wife)... Which makes me feel like it is real. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.25.15, 11:44 PM Flag
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Op again: I also wonder if maybe it is some sort or cry for attention, since he knows full well that we are very close and tell one another everything.... I know that they are having marriage problems and that he wants more of her attention... [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.26.15, 12:50 AM Flag
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Probably a combo of all those things... [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.26.15, 02:23 AM Flag
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Let it go [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.25.15, 10:25 PM Flag
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show her the texts and laugh and say WTF Joan, Dave sent me these texts, is he always so out there??? let her decide wtf happened and what to do about it [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.25.15, 10:39 PM Flag
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Thanks. I may do this! I am certainly going to take a lighthearted approach to it if/when I mention it. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.25.15, 10:44 PM Flag
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I would just mention it to the DH. Tell him it's not appropriate and that you'll let his wife know if he continues. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.25.15, 10:50 PM Flag
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Ah, okay!! I actually hadn't thought about confronting him! There is a thought! Should I do this in person? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.25.15, 10:52 PM Flag
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Maybe but a clandestine meeting might make him think you're up for amorous relations. I'd text back in a stern but not angry way like "John, what would your wife think if she saw this? I'm sure you meant nothing by it but if you keep this up I'll have to say something." [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.25.15, 11:00 PM Flag
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Yes, this is perfect! I will do this. Thank you. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.25.15, 11:10 PM Flag
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Don't do this. it if really is a dick, he will start badmouthing you to his wife and might make up stories that you are flirting with him. Don't do it. Do nothing for now. If it persist, go out to lunch with DF and crack a joke and show her the texts and say "man, your husband is funny. You'd better tell him to stop, I'm cool but some other woman out there might think he ain't kidding." [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.26.15, 02:22 AM Flag
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Yesterday I sent a text meant for dh to a friend. That was embarrassing [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.25.15, 10:39 PM Flag
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Lol at that! :) But this was not done in error. He sent me a long series of texts from about midnight to 1:00am last night. It was clear that he knew who he was talking to. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.25.15, 10:43 PM Flag
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Is he a heavy drinker? He may already feel ashamed about doing this, especially if you don't respond. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.25.15, 11:01 PM Flag
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Well i have already responded. I responded at the time that they were sent, first with confusion, then with reproval. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.25.15, 11:05 PM Flag
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And, yes, he does drink a fair amount. He is not an alcoholic, but he likes to party. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.25.15, 11:06 PM Flag
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Yeah it was probably just drunken horniness then. I wouldn't sweat it but do tell him to stop. Imagine if DF finds the texts in her DH's phone and thinks you're a homewrecker. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.26.15, 12:53 AM Flag
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Did you respond or did he just keep texting you with no replies? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.25.15, 11:13 PM Flag
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I did respond initially, but not flirtatiously. We have never texted or called one another before. So I didn't know that it was him at first. I am not sure how he got my number. So at the beginning, I ask things like "who is this?" And say things like "I think you have the wrong number." And then he sort of creepily gives a thorough description of my physical appearance, in order to demonstrate that it is not a wrong number. Then he reveals who he is. Then I express confusion: "why are you doing this?" Then I say "I don't think you meant to send these texts to me. You shouldn't be doing this." Then I stop responding, but he continues texting for another half hour, in a flirtatious tone. The whole thing lasted for an hour. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.25.15, 11:21 PM Flag
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He sounds like such a freak.... [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.25.15, 11:30 PM Flag
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Were you responding in a friendly way? If so, prepared to lose your friend. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.25.15, 11:14 PM Flag
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I did not respond in a friendly way. It was a pretty one-sided conversation. Mostly I responded by saying: "I think that you must have the wrong number," since he was not in my contact list and didn't reveal who he was at first. When I found out who he was, I told him that he shouldn't be texting me like this and stopped responding. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.25.15, 11:26 PM Flag
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You're probably not the first. Her DH probably sends those type of texts to lots of women and has had affairs with some of them (the ones who bite). Your DF will eventually find out; the question is when. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.25.15, 10:46 PM Flag
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^^I warn you that if you tell her, she may accuse YOU of flirting with him, trying to seduce him, etc. When she confronts her DH, that is what he will say--he will try to blame-shift his actions onto you--and you may come off looking like the bad guy. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.25.15, 10:49 PM Flag
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I am not sure about whether or not he has actually had affairs. I do know that this is not the first time that he has been inappropriately flirtatious with a woman who is not his wife though. Furthermore, they are not getting along very well right now, for a variety of reasons. That said, I don't know, I am not sure that he is actually cheating on her. He is a flirtatious jerk, but I am not sure if he is a cheater. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.25.15, 10:51 PM Flag
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I think a lot of guys like the power of flirting or knowing they've still got it. It's an ego thing. Look at Anthony Weiner. Not appropriate but he may not be cheating. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.26.15, 12:54 AM Flag
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Tell him to cut it out and screencap everything, including the part where you tell him to stop. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.25.15, 10:49 PM Flag
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Should I send these screen shots to her? Or just get in touch with him and threaten to send them should be continue? (My guess is that he will probably never try something like this with me again) [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.25.15, 10:56 PM Flag
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Don't tell your friend yet but keep the evidence just in case he doesn't stop. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.25.15, 11:12 PM Flag
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did you text back? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.25.15, 10:57 PM Flag
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Yes, but not suggestively. I have nothing to hide and I am fine with showing her the whole string of texts. But I don't want to hurt her feelings. If I mention it, I would kind of prefer to gloss over the details just for her sake-- something like, "XX sent me a pretty strange series of prank texts last night! Seemed like he may have had a little too much to drink! I felt like it was pretty strange." Maybe something like that? All delivered in a lighthearted way. Or I could just approach her DH himself, as some people have suggested here. That might be the better way to go about it. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.25.15, 11:03 PM Flag
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i don't think i could bring it up with her, even in a joking way....maybe if it happens again [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.25.15, 11:14 PM Flag
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Document, delete his number and block. Since he can't help himself, he's barred. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.25.15, 11:09 PM Flag
[ - ] Why are the countries of Europe letting in so many Muslims. Look at France, Sweden, Norway, England etc. they are doomed. I don't get it. Most of them are on welfare and do not contribute to the economy. My sister who is planning to move to the US in august has been raped twice by Muslims. My brother was beaten and robbed. My brother is waiting for our mum to pass as she is elderly and has dementia before he too comes here with his family. I can't stand it. I hope Americans are smarter then that and restrict muslim immigration. 8 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 04.25.15, 10:16 PM Flag
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Americans are smarter then that and don't fall for zionist Islamophobia [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.25.15, 10:24 PM Flag
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ILY!!! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.25.15, 10:24 PM Flag
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It is people like you that will be the downfall of this country. By the way I am not jewish. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.25.15, 10:47 PM Flag
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"the downfall of this country" white rednecks are the problem in USA, not minorities [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.25.15, 10:49 PM Flag
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LOL yeah, sure wacko [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.25.15, 10:50 PM Flag
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...puh-lese [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.25.15, 11:42 PM Flag
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We should tighten our immigration laws for incoming racist pricks though [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.25.15, 10:40 PM Flag
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"racist pricks" Exactly, I run away from them. At this point, there should be an easy test the gov could apply to make sure these POS aren't hired for key positions, or even used for jury duty. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.25.15, 10:44 PM Flag
[ - ] I am hijacking my own post with s new question: I was worried about pregnany- but now you all have me worried about stds- have some of you contracted them? If so what? He is in 40's successful educated used to be married etc. no drug use, or sex with men, old question below- I will be 44 this summer and am in new relationship- he doesn't want to use condoms- what do think are my chances of getting pregnant with pulling out method? 14 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 04.25.15, 10:14 PM Flag
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No STDs but if he's serious about no condom and you don't know his history well enough to verify, ask him to get tested. Won't take long and he'll do it if he's serious. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.25.15, 10:16 PM Flag
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I got chlamydia and HPV. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.25.15, 10:17 PM Flag
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FUCK! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.25.15, 10:19 PM Flag
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HPV from rape posted about below. Chlamydia when boyfriend cheated on me at burning man. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.25.15, 10:24 PM Flag
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oh no... [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.25.15, 10:26 PM Flag
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GROSS [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.25.15, 10:28 PM Flag
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STD's can happen at any age. A 40 year old man isn't going to pass up sex with a 20 something year old girl (one of the highest groups for STD's) You have no idea where he has been sticking his penis. Demand a STD test and if he says no...there is your answer. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.25.15, 10:21 PM Flag
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true story ladies: right after I arrived in USA from South America I went to the OB/GYN and confused chlamydia with candida in Spanish (yeast infection). told my American roomate, she thought I was a whore... just a couple of years later my new OB/GYN tells me: "you will NEVER have an STD". and got a bit pissed (did she think i had no fun at al!?!?!), but hey, she's was right. i'm not taking any risk when it comes to that. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.25.15, 10:23 PM Flag
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lol [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.25.15, 10:26 PM Flag
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You are a fool to have unprotected sex at any age without knowing someone fro a very long time [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.25.15, 10:23 PM Flag
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let's face it, those we had been having sex for a long time can be unfaithful and pass HIV that way without protection. it's a lottery. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.25.15, 10:25 PM Flag
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far more unlikely to catch an STD from a long term partner than a stranger. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.25.15, 10:27 PM Flag
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I would not have unprotected sex with a man who I did not trust [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.25.15, 10:25 PM Flag
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friend of friend got herpes this way and she was rather serious with the guy. He was a real ass when she found out. I would recommend at the least that you each get tested. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.25.15, 10:29 PM Flag
[ - ] I feel like I am starting to look older than I am. Any tips? 8 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 04.25.15, 10:09 PM Flag
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drinks tons and tons of water. it hydrates your face and reduces wrinkles and makes your face look younger. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.25.15, 10:13 PM Flag
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Start with Botox [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.25.15, 10:21 PM Flag
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np: i feel the problem is not wrinkles but sagging of the face (jowls). at least for me. no wrinkles though. horrible. fillers of face lift? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.25.15, 10:34 PM Flag
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Fillers [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.25.15, 10:43 PM Flag
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Facial exercises [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.25.15, 11:14 PM Flag
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I am 42 and have deep lines in the corners of my mouth making me look like I am perpetually depressed or mad. People always ask me what's wrong. I look like I am frowning. what can I do for this? Filler? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.25.15, 10:46 PM Flag
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I get botox for this, on either side of the chin down by jawline. It relaxes the muscles pulling the corners of mouth down, makes a huge difference. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.26.15, 12:01 AM Flag
[ - ] DH lost a work friend who was attempting to summit Everest this weekend. Why do people climb that mountain? Is it just an ego thing? Death rate is super high even aside from the recent tragedy. 31 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 04.25.15, 10:00 PM Flag
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Don't try to find reasons. These happen. It doesn't take the pain away, but you can't search for justifications or be judgmental. Just support the family if you know them. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.25.15, 10:02 PM Flag
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Ugh, that's so tragic--particularly since it was an unnecessary thrill seek. I hope he was single w/o dc. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.25.15, 10:04 PM Flag
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I agree. Same thing with people that ride bicylcles in manhattan. High death rate bit people just have to prove how brave they are [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.25.15, 10:04 PM Flag
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yes [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.25.15, 10:08 PM Flag
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Death rate is nowhere close. About 1.5% of people who attempt Everest die. That's even worse than motorcyclists. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.25.15, 10:09 PM Flag
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what a nerd! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.25.15, 10:12 PM Flag
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Just saying that is a pretty extreme death rate. You're better off smoking 2 packs a day and injecting heroin. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.25.15, 10:13 PM Flag
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np--K2 and Annapurna death rates are much higher. About one third of those who have attempted to climb Annapurna have died. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.25.15, 10:18 PM Flag
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TT summits. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.25.15, 10:25 PM Flag
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Wow. Sad [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.25.15, 11:10 PM Flag
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That is high [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.25.15, 11:10 PM Flag
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wow. bad timing [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.25.15, 10:04 PM Flag
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Ego thing. I have respect for those who are avid climbers and actually climb themselves. I have no respect for rich middle aged men who get pulled up the mountain by sherpas and oxygen tanks. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.25.15, 10:10 PM Flag
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Same. I don't like the tourist industry that is Everest. I love mountain climbing and all the training and outdoorsmanship that goes with it. I'm not keen on the bragging rights unless it is shared between fellow mountaineers. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.25.15, 10:11 PM Flag
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+1 Everest is just a tick-the-box thing, like a 26.2 sticker for the overprivileged [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.25.15, 10:12 PM Flag
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Ugh. So sick of marathoners and their tin foil blankets [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.25.15, 11:11 PM Flag
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I'd say the work friend was more along the lines of rich guy with a sherpa. Still tragic but it was a pointless risk to take. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.25.15, 10:12 PM Flag
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We have a friend who arrived with his team of 10 mates (I am in Australia) at Base Camp yesterday- just to see it, not climb. We saw his wife yesterday. She's not answering her phone now... [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.25.15, 10:14 PM Flag
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Were they planning to climb originally? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.25.15, 10:17 PM Flag
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No just to see Base Camp [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.25.15, 10:18 PM Flag
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Most people around Everest survived and are fine; only something like 16 out of the hundreds on-site are confirmed to have been killed (mostly in avalanches). [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.25.15, 10:18 PM Flag
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Thank you for replying! They have 3dc & we had one for a sleepover the night before & the mum here yesterday talking about the DH's trip. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.25.15, 10:23 PM Flag
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It'll be a while before many are able to contact the outside world, due to communications system damage and overload. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.25.15, 10:31 PM Flag
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Is that the Google executive? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.25.15, 10:27 PM Flag
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I don't want to give details. Not my place. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.25.15, 10:31 PM Flag
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Yes [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.25.15, 10:37 PM Flag
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What a waste [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.25.15, 11:12 PM Flag
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Yes. An obsession. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.25.15, 11:03 PM Flag
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Studies have show. That thrill seekers do the things they do because their brains lack certain chemicals, Can't remember if it's dopamine or seratonon or what. But basically they need dangerous things to get off. They need more stimulation in order to feel normal. Hard to explain [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.25.15, 11:09 PM Flag
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hi me. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.26.15, 12:55 AM Flag
[ - ] Watching Sliding Doors. Paltrow's English accent is pretty bad, she looks so much better than she does nowadays though. 10 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 04.25.15, 10:00 PM Flag
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I have a soft spot for that movie, mostly because of the Scottish actor, though. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.25.15, 10:08 PM Flag
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yes, reminds me of the main actor of Spartacus. i get all soft remembering those naked bodies fighting each other. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.25.15, 10:13 PM Flag
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I meant John Hannah, not the guy who cheats on her. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.25.15, 10:21 PM Flag
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yeah, i can see that, he's kind of hottish and definitely seems much more interesting than Brad Pitt [ Reply | More ]
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I still miss Andy Whitfield (?) the 1st spartacus actor. How can someone that fit be taken down by cancer so quickly. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.25.15, 10:40 PM Flag
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i know!!! [ Reply | More ]
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I think they slept together on that set & that caused her & Brad to go splitsville [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.25.15, 10:15 PM Flag
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wow! the cheating boyfriend or the one working in the same building she used to work in? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.25.15, 10:16 PM Flag
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Scottish actor [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.25.15, 10:23 PM Flag
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oh I'm watching the sex scene now, these 2 had a TON of chemistry [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.25.15, 10:48 PM Flag
[ - ] What probiotics should I take? 0 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 04.25.15, 10:00 PM Flag
[ - ] Bruce Jenner is no "hero." Men like him who under go gender transformation (middle aged, married with masculine affectations) typically do it because of a sexual fetish that becomes an obsession--they become sexually aroused and masturbate at the thought of themselves being perceived as a woman, including dressing as a woman. It's called autogynephelia. True male-to-female transgenders exhibit feminine mannerisms since childhood and typically try to undergo gender transformation in their 20s and do not become sexually aroused by doing things like wearing women's lingerie (though autogynephilics do). 27 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 04.25.15, 09:57 PM Flag
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It's the weekend. No one cares. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.25.15, 09:57 PM Flag
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Yes. My ex-DH is one: seemingly very masculine, heterosexual, but masturbated to the thought of getting gender reassignment surgery--sometimes the only way he could get an erection. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.25.15, 09:59 PM Flag
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lmao [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.25.15, 09:59 PM Flag
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When did you learn this? How long did you stay? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.25.15, 10:00 PM Flag
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He told me before we got married that sometimes he liked to wear women's lingerie. I didn't think much of it, but it became more of a sexual obsession, especially when he was "stressed." I divorced him because he had an affair with a girl 20 years younger than him (which he said "cured" him of his transsexual fantasies). He said that before the affair he was seriously considering gender reassignment surgery (unbeknownst to me). [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.25.15, 10:03 PM Flag
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Ugh. This won't cure him either. It will come back. You are better off without him [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.25.15, 10:59 PM Flag
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Oy. Men are so crazy [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.25.15, 10:58 PM Flag
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i agree [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.25.15, 10:02 PM Flag
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Honestly he's rich enough for me to believe this. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.25.15, 10:51 PM Flag
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Right. Bruce Jenner is trying to wave the flag of gay/lesbian/transgender rights when in fact what he is doing is just fulfilling a sexual need. Many families and wives become devastated when men like Bruce suddenly want to become a woman and it becomes a narcissistic obsession for them--they don't care who they hurt and whose lives they destroy--becoming a woman becomes a need that trumps all others, and they will spend hundreds of thousands of dollars to do this. They've spent years masturbating while wearing lingerie and make-up. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.25.15, 10:06 PM Flag
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How do you know so much about this topic? I thought that it was interesting that Bruce said dating (sex) was not a priority. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.25.15, 10:23 PM Flag
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My ex-DH frequently had this sexual fetish. I've read a lot about this topic, have gone to support groups and spoken with wives who have gone through this (it's very secret). A lot of men in their 50s and 60s say fuck it and make steps towards gender reassignment surgery, plundering their retirement, even pushing their families into bankruptcy, saying they have the "right" to be finally happy. The surgery plus hormone treatments plus plastic surgery on the face, neck, chest, etc., costs a fortune. The wives have the rugs pulled out from them when they thought they were going to retire happily with their husbands. All the wives I've spoken to acknowledge that their husbands have been doing this for years and becoming sexually aroused by it (same with my ex-DH). And a lot of the husbands actually ask their wives to be their "best friends," saying that the wives should love their inner person; meanwhile the husbands are off having sex with men (while acting as women). [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.25.15, 10:42 PM Flag
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Agree. And I believe a year from now we will get reports that he's depressed. He will be dead in a few years by suicide or drug overdose. Mark my words. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.25.15, 11:01 PM Flag
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I think alot of men would like to adorn themselves. In traditional tribes the men wear war paint, jewelry of all knnds, tatoos, head dresses. More than the women [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.25.15, 11:02 PM Flag
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Is 65 years of age - middle aged? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.25.15, 10:16 PM Flag
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Kind of [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.25.15, 10:19 PM Flag
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It's a spectrum. Myob [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.25.15, 10:22 PM Flag
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This [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.25.15, 10:27 PM Flag
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i don't think that describes bruce, but i have not watched the interview [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.25.15, 10:37 PM Flag
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I think OP is right. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.25.15, 11:03 PM Flag
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OMG, you again? You posted this, I think verbatim, months ago. You're talking about something *entirely* different, and you know it. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.25.15, 10:50 PM Flag
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Not OP: Is it really though? This is a rich white man of immense privilege deciding he wants to be a woman. Its very different from the poor kid from down south who can't live the life he feels he should at age 9. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.25.15, 10:59 PM Flag
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Exactly [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.25.15, 10:58 PM Flag
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True, fetishes are an OCD thing. There is no way he will EVER pass [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.25.15, 10:58 PM Flag
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He will never pass for anything other than what he is - a man dressed as a woman. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.25.15, 11:25 PM Flag
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Stop replying to yourself. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.25.15, 11:14 PM Flag
[ - ] I will be 44 this dimmer and am in new relationship- he doesn't want to use condoms- what do think are my chances of getting pregnant with pulling out method? How many if you do this now for birth control? 23 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 04.25.15, 09:51 PM Flag
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your chances are about zero. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.25.15, 09:53 PM Flag
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If you have faith in the method, fine. Personally I don't and didn't take those chances. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.25.15, 09:54 PM Flag
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STDs is fair game though, men are not worth the risk [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.25.15, 10:10 PM Flag
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I was thinking of the pregnancy issue, but I agree with your comment. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.25.15, 10:13 PM Flag
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Who cares about pg? Why have unprotected sex in a "new" relationship? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.25.15, 09:56 PM Flag
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I would never do this. But I have a friend who is an OB so I hear about all of the surprise 40s pregnancies. She had a patient get pregnant naturally at 51. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.25.15, 09:57 PM Flag
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Still the odds of getting pregnant and not yaving a miscarriage are almost zero particularly with pull out. But STDs can happen at any time [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.25.15, 10:41 PM Flag
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I got pg at 46 with an oops, but if you are using pull out - odds are prob low. As long as it wouldn't be a tragedy if its' not.. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.25.15, 09:58 PM Flag
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Did you have the baby? All ok? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.25.15, 10:07 PM Flag
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STD risk aside, if you practice pulling out along with avoidance during your most fertile days i think you'll be fine. assuming you are regular enough to know when you're fertile days are; if you're periods are irregular it would be more risky i'd think. and have a Plan B on hand just in case. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.25.15, 10:04 PM Flag
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Op diagram maybe? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.25.15, 10:08 PM Flag
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diaphragm you mean? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.25.15, 10:09 PM Flag
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Ha yes [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.25.15, 10:11 PM Flag
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I'm 44 and do withdrawal with dc. We have for 4 years. He is really good at pulling out and I've known the man for 13 years. I wouldn't risk your situation. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.25.15, 10:08 PM Flag
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"he doesn't want to use condoms" dump him [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.25.15, 10:09 PM Flag
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this [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.25.15, 10:35 PM Flag
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+1000 [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.25.15, 11:39 PM Flag
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43 and currently pregnant from that method. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.25.15, 10:31 PM Flag
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LOL did you guys discuss having an abortion? at 43, not sure what i'd do [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.25.15, 10:36 PM Flag
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we would not abort. We can well afford another even though we were not quite expecting this. Our youngest is 2 1/2 so it will be fine (assuming it continues healthily). At this age, rate of miscarriage is high. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.25.15, 10:39 PM Flag
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Best of luck!!! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.25.15, 10:51 PM Flag
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You must be pretty desperate to do something you don't want to do--have sex with someone new who "doesn't want" to wear condoms. This is just the start. Don't be such a loser doormat. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.25.15, 11:38 PM Flag
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Op oh o definitely want to just calculating risk - thanks to all those who replied... Please keep the info coming [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.26.15, 01:57 AM Flag
[ - ] Many of these rape acusations are driven by " a woman scorned" 13 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 04.25.15, 09:51 PM Flag
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At Columbia she texted him over and over that she wanted him to do it in her butt. After he did so she texted him that she wanted more and more [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.25.15, 09:52 PM Flag
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However she then found out he was doing many other girls in the butt, she felt betrayed and then reported that he was a rapist. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.25.15, 09:52 PM Flag
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I hate to break it to you but I can write over and over again I want butt sex and change my mind when it comes to the act. You are allowed to change your mind about sexual activity prior to the act and during. A respectful partner understands that and stops. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.25.15, 09:54 PM Flag
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Yeah, but after she got it in the butt she sent him e mails asking for more [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.25.15, 09:56 PM Flag
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Still didn't mean she wanted it at the time. Maybe she was tired or having a hard day. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.25.15, 09:59 PM Flag
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But if she asked for more butt sex doesnt that imply that she wanted it. Why ask for more if not wanting it [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.25.15, 10:04 PM Flag
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She may not have wanted it RIGHT THEN. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.25.15, 10:10 PM Flag
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Sorry if she wanted it before and wanted it after, how can you prove she did not consent rigt then [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.25.15, 10:14 PM Flag
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She doesn't need to prove anything. Are you some type of MRA? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.25.15, 10:17 PM Flag
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enough. you are so obsessed with this rape, sounds like you need to get laid. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.25.15, 10:11 PM Flag
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I'd work on your punctionation first, and I'm not grammar mom. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.25.15, 09:52 PM Flag
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samwell said it " what what in the butt" [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.25.15, 09:53 PM Flag
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You have been making my day Ms. Betty Broderick is finally free I did not know this [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.25.15, 09:58 PM Flag
[ - ] working on my psychic abilities. ask me a question about a current situation in your life, and let's see if I can tell you about it. 17 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 04.25.15, 09:50 PM Flag
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I have a fake spider sitting on my computer table. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.25.15, 09:51 PM Flag
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It came from a school carnival [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.25.15, 10:01 PM Flag
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Almost! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.25.15, 10:02 PM Flag
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i got something about a teacher being involved [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.25.15, 10:05 PM Flag
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No, sorry. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.25.15, 10:06 PM Flag
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Will we find what we are looking found in the next few weeks [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.25.15, 09:53 PM Flag
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are you trying to adopt? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.25.15, 10:08 PM Flag
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Will he text me tonight? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.25.15, 09:55 PM Flag
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How many kids do I have? Genders too. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.25.15, 09:57 PM Flag
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You don't have kids -- yet. You think that you won't, but you'll be surprised. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.25.15, 10:00 PM Flag
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No...3 kids. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.25.15, 10:02 PM Flag
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I have a crush on a dad at school. both married and staying that way. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.25.15, 10:05 PM Flag
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Is he an attorney? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.25.15, 10:09 PM Flag
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Tell me about my relationship [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.25.15, 10:12 PM Flag
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Your relationship is actually pretty much over. You've decided to divorce, but the divorce is delayed because of contentious financial deals holding up proceedings. There are some shady legal problems, maybe even criminal. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.25.15, 10:47 PM Flag
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Wondering if a certain man will contact me again? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.25.15, 10:34 PM Flag
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Will my dc get into g&t or charter next year? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.25.15, 11:16 PM Flag
[ - ] Has anyone noticed that millennial men's mannerisms seem almost gay? They all uptalk and almost vocal fry and are easily excitable. It's odd. 8 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 04.25.15, 09:39 PM Flag
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No. There are 300 million people in the U.S. There may a demographic where the mannerisms "seem almost gay" as you describe it, but it's not universal. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.25.15, 09:41 PM Flag
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No [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.25.15, 09:43 PM Flag
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Maybe they are gay. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.25.15, 09:47 PM Flag
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Eh, even if this was true, I don't really care. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.25.15, 09:49 PM Flag
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No. Haven't noticed. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.25.15, 09:50 PM Flag
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what is vocal fry [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.25.15, 10:20 PM Flag
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It's odd to me that you ask as I don't know any that fit that description & I know a lot of them [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.25.15, 10:26 PM Flag
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Yes. Mostly dude bros. They also have a penchant for drama. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.25.15, 10:53 PM Flag
[ - ] I am an EA in the fashion industry and have been at my job 5 years. I like it but the commute and occasional long hours are brutal now that I have 2 young kids. I would love to SAHM but we can't afford it unless my home sales business takes off because we need more than my DH income. A headhunter got me an interview for a job similar to my existing one but 30% more pay. Worth going/considering this job when I ultimately would prefer to stop commuting? Not sure how feasible it is but more likely to take a lower paying job close to home in a different field at some point 5 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 04.25.15, 09:31 PM Flag
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My advice would be to go for the job that pays more and hire more help, move closer. Ask yourself where you want to be in 10 -12 years when your kids are in high school and plan for that. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.25.15, 09:36 PM Flag
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this. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.25.15, 09:45 PM Flag
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Unfortunately moving closer to work isn't really a feasible option. We rely on my mom for childcare and live near her. We also have a house in the burbs and I don't think city living is for us -- we couldn't afford much and if you added on the cost of a nanny we would be significantly worse off. I don't really want to be working in the city, I want to work in the burbs if at all, but if I was working in the city it would be nice to make 30% more... [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.25.15, 09:46 PM Flag
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It sounds like you don't want to work any more and want to stay home. But, think carefully about this, once you leave a career, it's hard to go back (not impossible but difficult). The decision you are making should best be based on long term considerations - career, retirement, financial independence - rather than short term ones like cost of child care. Think it through and then make a decision based on what is best for you and your family. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.25.15, 09:59 PM Flag
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You are right I really do want to SAH but we can't afford it right now. We could possibly afford for me to take a lower paying job close to home but it depends and nothing good has panned out so far. I guess it doesn't hurt to interview for the new position. It pays more which would allow us to save more and maybe they will have more flexibility than my current job. Or would let me trade some of the salary increase for flexibility. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.25.15, 10:06 PM Flag
[ - ] I feel so bad for these children on the train. Their moms are absolute trash. 12 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 04.25.15, 09:28 PM Flag
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i know [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.25.15, 09:32 PM Flag
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what? link? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.25.15, 09:46 PM Flag
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What do you mean link? I'm talking about the kids on the six train. The mon said "Gloria, shut your fucking mouth." And to the other "I told you not to bring that asshole outside," when referring to her 5yo DDs toy doll. How sad it must be to grow up like that. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.25.15, 09:51 PM Flag
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Someone said "I Know" so I thought it was a story form the news that you both knew about and I did not. I once saw a woman on the train singing loudly to her toddler - "we're going to your mother-fucking daddies!" [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.25.15, 10:33 PM Flag
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Probably 15 years ago. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.25.15, 10:33 PM Flag
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np. WHAT kids on the 6 train? WTF are you talking about? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.25.15, 10:53 PM Flag
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Link? Meanwhile, at least 1400 dead in Nepal. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.25.15, 09:48 PM Flag
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whatever, nepal. so far away i cant really relate. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.25.15, 09:50 PM Flag
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I wouldn't expect too much anyway. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.25.15, 09:55 PM Flag
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I know it is going to be lost here, but my neighbor is an ER doc who does time in Nepal. He is packing up. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.25.15, 10:00 PM Flag
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OR: I admire him and hope he will be okay. This kind of stuff always saddens me (even if it is on another continent). [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.25.15, 10:04 PM Flag
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what are you talking about? Why the cryptic post. link, more info please. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.25.15, 10:51 PM Flag
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