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[ - ] Sunscreen sucks in the US 5 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
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The sunscreens with the best UVA protection are best at suppressing free radical formation (Wang 2012b). Inadequate UVA protection is a persistent problem in products sold on the U.S. market. UV rays quickly break down avobenzone, the most common UVA filter in American sunscreens, unless it is mixed with a stabilizer. European sunscreens appear to provide greater free radical protection because they can contain superior UVA filters. In tests, 12 European sunscreens averaged a free radical protection factor of 13 (Wang 2011). The FDA’s weak regulations allow nearly every sunscreen to claim “broad spectrum,” or UVA, protection, even though some are much better than others. These weak rules give manufacturers little incentive to improve their products. To be truly effective at preventing skin damage and skin cancers, U.S. sunscreens need to provide better protection from UVA rays. This will not happen until the FDA sets higher requirements for UVA protection and approves the use of modern sunscreen ingredients with superior UVA filtering and stability. The FDA should ban the sale of sunscreens that provide poor UVA protection or approve a labeling system that classifies UVA protection as low, medium or high to enable consumers to choose the best products. In the absence of truly protective regulations, consumers are in the worst possible position: they are likely to think that their sunscreen is providing more protection than it really is, so they stay out longer in the sun and thereby increase their risk of skin cancer and skin damage. [ Reply | More ]
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The most important thing is to protect your face regardless of sunscreen. Men are wildly superficial [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.29.15, 08:39 PM Flag
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I'd say avoidance is key. Even the best sunscreen is flawed. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.29.15, 08:44 PM Flag
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Agree, I buy Vichy or La Roche Posay. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.29.15, 08:35 PM Flag
[ - ] I need a makeover. I have 5k and am 31 yo any suggestions on what to do? 18 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
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^budget [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.29.15, 08:09 PM Flag
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boobs and a nose job [ Reply | More ]
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not with 5 K [ Reply | More ]
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Height and weight? [ Reply | More ]
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5'2 115lbs [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.29.15, 08:13 PM Flag
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When you look in the mirror, what bothers you the most? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.29.15, 08:13 PM Flag
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How run down I look. Two kids in two years. Hair, skin. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.29.15, 08:15 PM Flag
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Get a great haircut and highlights. Go to a high end dept. store and get a personal shopper to help you pick out a few basic wardrobe pieces- boots, coat, dress, bag [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.29.15, 08:17 PM Flag
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This x1000, hair + simple high quality clothes. Maybe a facial as well, and invest in some good face masks at Sephora, develop a skincare routine. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.29.15, 08:20 PM Flag
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sitter so you can sleep in once in a while, meditation class, simple haircut, ton of water, go primal / paleo diet wise: cut out sugar and carbs [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.29.15, 08:20 PM Flag
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This! Sleep is what you need. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.29.15, 08:21 PM Flag
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Spend part of it on a gym or personal trainer or yoga studio...or just start running and generally exercising. You'll feel better, and then can celebrate with new clothes or a weekend away. Your weight sounds fine so this is probably mostly about feeling run down... [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.29.15, 08:21 PM Flag
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Chemical peel, good hair color and new makeup [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.29.15, 08:38 PM Flag
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I'm 40 and would love to have 5K to use on any of this! - budget tips for a mom who is in shape and knows how to dress ,but looks tired and has low energy? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.29.15, 08:41 PM Flag
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Try at-home chemical peels. They are easy and inexpensive. [ Reply | More ]
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Any recommendations? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.29.15, 09:09 PM Flag
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Dr Dennis gross alpha beta peel is great [ Reply | More ]
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Peels or laser for face [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.29.15, 08:50 PM Flag
[ - ] So, i am still Kondo-ing my apartment. I have now thrown out a ton of books that belonged to my late mother. They are written in a language I never read. Interestingly, I don't feel bad about getting rid of them. After 15 years. 19 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 03.29.15, 07:59 PM Flag
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Why do you keep posting about this? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.29.15, 08:00 PM Flag
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because the process fascinates me [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.29.15, 08:02 PM Flag
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you and NO ONE else! [ Reply | More ]
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This. [ Reply | More ]
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+1 [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.29.15, 08:12 PM Flag
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lighten up! declutter your inner-self! [ Reply | More ]
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Link to your other posts--I'm intrigued! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.29.15, 08:38 PM Flag
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I hope you donated, and did not throw out. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.29.15, 08:07 PM Flag
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Hard to find anyone willing to take old books in a foreign language in the U.S. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.29.15, 08:22 PM Flag
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Depends on language, many groups will take [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.29.15, 08:28 PM Flag
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Like who? [ Reply | More ]
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Prison groups [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.29.15, 08:31 PM Flag
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I was clearing out bookshelves and had esoteric books in German, French and Italian. I put them in a free library and they disappeared instantly--it became a game to see how long before they were snapped up. Lots of people in NYC read other languages. [ Reply | More ]
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NP I'm ashamed to say I threw out items that definitely deserved a second life. Problem is these items had been sitting in a corner for months, while I procrastinated about taking them to charities. Sorry. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.29.15, 09:03 PM Flag
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Nnp: I found a second life for just about everything. I think I made 20 trips to my library's donate bin. I gave a lot to a nearby church. I also gave 6 garbage bags of my nicest women's and kid's clothing and soft toys to my nanny to bring back to her home country for her family members to sell. I paid the baggage fee. Some other nice items that have resale value I gifted to my building's super to sell on Craigslist. He has a good little side business doing that--and somehow knowing where the stuff is going and who is benefiting has made it easier to let go of more valuable things that Id never sell myself. It feels extremely good to know things you once loved (or should have loved) is getting out to use. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.29.15, 09:51 PM Flag
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I need to get that book! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.29.15, 08:21 PM Flag
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I'm doing the konmari method too--it's amazing how easy it is to keep my place clean now. Join the Konmari Adventures facebook group? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.29.15, 09:17 PM Flag
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^^ im not even very attached to stuff and it's been life-changing Magic for me. No joke. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.29.15, 09:19 PM Flag
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Look through every book for hidden items. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.29.15, 09:19 PM Flag
[ - ] DD has a friend over. This kid has been tutored constantly, signed up for stuff she has no interest in, and she can't tell you what she likes, cause she doesn't get to pick anything. 11 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 03.29.15, 07:55 PM Flag
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how old? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.29.15, 07:59 PM Flag
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10 [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.29.15, 08:01 PM Flag
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Or she is having an off day. LET IT GO and if you need to, turn on the tv and bust out some sugar. THE END [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.29.15, 08:09 PM Flag
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That's most kids in nyc. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.29.15, 08:10 PM Flag
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very judgy, this [ Reply | More ]
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I know a kid like this. Completely programmed. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.29.15, 08:18 PM Flag
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Has she been over before? Is she always like this? Maybe she is just having an off day, like another poster suggested. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.29.15, 08:21 PM Flag
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Did the kid say that to you? When I was 10, I would always make myself look pathetic in front of my friends' moms and then get into a TT middle school and bask in their surprise. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.29.15, 09:05 PM Flag
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???? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.29.15, 09:17 PM Flag
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OP, do you really quiz your dd's friends so you can feel superior to them? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.29.15, 09:09 PM Flag
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Yes, I do that as a break from clubbing baby seals. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.29.15, 09:12 PM Flag
[ - ] I don't get why animated films hire celebrities to do the voice acting. Nobody cares who does the voices in a cartoon, and professional voice actors generally do a much better job anyway. Seems like a waste of the studio's money. 13 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 03.29.15, 07:51 PM Flag
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Sometimes true but sometimes it's great like Steven Tyler in Epic. [ Reply | More ]
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Or Robin Williams in Aladdin... [ Reply | More ]
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I think Robin Williams is different than like Rihanna though. He is adept at creating characters. [ Reply | More ]
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He ad libbed a lot of the lines in Aladdin. Not many actors, even comedians could do that. [ Reply | More ]
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Omg, that Steven Tyler scene was so ridiculous I spit out my soda. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.29.15, 08:06 PM Flag
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Plenty of people DO care, actually. And after having sat through a fair number of shittily voiced low-budget cartoons in my life, I can assure you that the voice actors really do need to be ACTORS for the end result not to suck, not just some random guy you can afford to hire because he works for cheap. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.29.15, 08:13 PM Flag
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Celebrities can do the talk show circuit for publicity. [ Reply | More ]
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THIS. Makes a huge difference. Doubt most of these cartoons would get funded in the first place if they did not have decent-name talent attached to them.. [ Reply | More ]
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This is the big reason - butts in seats as always. That said some are much, much better than others. Sir Ben Kingsley in The Boxtrolls was amazing, but of course, he's pretty much always amazing. [ Reply | More ]
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What celebrities are you talking about who aren't professional actors? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.29.15, 08:29 PM Flag
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Because they will promote it, go on talk shows [ Reply | More ]
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You don't think Ellen DeGeneris was amazing in Finding Nemo? Or that Nathan Lane stopped the show in Lion King? [ Reply | More ]
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I don't like it at all. For me it takes away from the animated character because all I picture is the actor. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.29.15, 09:40 PM Flag
[ - ] Went away for 2 weeks. Did not even miss my DH once. I'm back now. Don't feel "the love" nor am I excited to be around him. He's a dick most of the time. Married for only 1.5 years. I should divorce right? 10 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
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No, it can come back. "You have to act like a woman in love and you will become a woman in love." It's true. [ Reply | More ]
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1.5 years in is really early to be saying stuff like this. Does not bode well for your general compatibility over a lifetime. [ Reply | More ]
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bode well mom? [ Reply | More ]
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It doesn't look good [ Reply | More ]
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lol. I understand what she means. It's not a phrase I hear often, but I've read it twice today on this site. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.29.15, 07:58 PM Flag
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LOL. I don't think the other one was me. [ Reply | More ]
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haha aka Impending Doom mom [ Reply | More ]
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that's what I"m thinking...cut your losses early...We haven't been on a date in 9 months. It's ridiculous.-OP [ Reply | More ]
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No kids? Yes. 10000% [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.29.15, 07:58 PM Flag
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ITA. Get out now. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.29.15, 08:14 PM Flag
[ - ] My DH has no time management skills. He has been dizzing around about doing home repair for three weeks, now that we have 3 kids over for a playdate he's decided to do it, so the kids are confined to just one floor. 5 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 03.29.15, 07:47 PM Flag
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haha that is kind of hilarious. send the kids outside [ Reply | More ]
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It is raining. [ Reply | More ]
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Oh. Hm crap [ Reply | More ]
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that is so annoying [ Reply | More ]
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Yes, and I know if I say anything I"m going to be wrong. [ Reply | More ]
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[ - ] My 5.5 mo db only really naps while being held (or in the car). Does this mean I can't get a babysitter? Is it inappropriate to expect babysitter to hold baby her whole nap? 2 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 03.29.15, 07:45 PM Flag
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Not at all. Hire a baby nurse [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.29.15, 07:51 PM Flag
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All babies are like this if not given the opportunity to learn how to nap elsewhere. Hire someone with experience and perhaps they can help you teaxh baby how to nap in crib [ Reply | More ]
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[ - ] Real question - is it LMC behavior to think that your high school graduation is a big deal and should be celebrated by your parents? I ask because my mother said the same thing to me and everyone I know who says otherwise tend to be MC or LMC. 16 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
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Mc people celebrate the graduation, but they don't necessarily think graduating hs is impressive [ Reply | More ]
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It's a milestone accomplishment. Stop trying to turn it into a class war. [ Reply | More ]
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Not for most ppl outside of West Virginia. Try putting this milestone on your resume past the age of 23 and see how that goes over. [ Reply | More ]
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I know boarding school people who still list Exeter and Andover on their resume. It doesn't seem to hurt. [ Reply | More ]
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That is the rare exception given they are nationally known. [ Reply | More ]
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Do you also oppose birthday celebrations? Gettin one year older is even less impressive than graduating HS. [ Reply | More ]
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LOL! Zzzzzinnnng! [ Reply | More ]
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Depends on what constitues "celebrating". Attending and going out to lunch or dinner as a family afterward? This would be normal parental behavior for any class. Not s single parent (that Im aware of) skipped or failed to have a celebratory meal after my prep school graduation [ Reply | More ]
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My parents did - Andover '02 [ Reply | More ]
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DH's father did too, and they were definitely LMC. He was the youngest and his dad just stopped trying by the time he came along. Interestingly, DH is by far the most successful one in his family, so maybe it made a difference. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.29.15, 08:11 PM Flag
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That sucks. Your friends parents took you out or you stayed in the dorm alone while everyone went out? [ Reply | More ]
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I hid so that no one would know. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.29.15, 08:39 PM Flag
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It is a milestone, but not a major accomplishment. I think most parents take the HS grad out to dinner, but the kids leave early to party with their friends. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.29.15, 08:09 PM Flag
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we always celebrated and made a big deal of graduations. Always celebrated with fancy restaurant lunch after ceremony. I think thats extremely common. [ Reply | More ]
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Kids are psyched to be graduating and, in TT HS are both excited about college and sad to be leaving their friends. It's the biggest deal in their lives up to that point. For the OP, what are your thoughts on Bar/Bat Mitzvahs and Sweet Sixteen parties? Nothing is impressive. Christ, I went to an Ivy, and once you're in, everyone graduates unless they have personal or financial issues. Bottom line, celebrating a milestone, that up to that point is ones biggest mileatone, is a big deal. For UB, why spend money on a wedding when if you save it you know you get 1/2 back at your first divorce? In summary, that's a silly question. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.29.15, 08:42 PM Flag
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What? Everyone I know celebrated high school graduation. WTH? [ Reply | More ]
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[ - ] What are the best camps for an eight year old boy and 11 year old girl, commutable from Manhattan UES? We have been to Yomi and Ramah. Looking for something not necessarily Jewish. I know there are so many camp discussions here, but the search is terrible and as always, I am late on this. Thanks. 6 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 03.29.15, 07:37 PM Flag
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Sleep away? [ Reply | More ]
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Sorry - no, day camp. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.29.15, 07:46 PM Flag
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Ramapo is great. [ Reply | More ]
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There are so many outside the city. Do a quick google search. [ Reply | More ]
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What do I search? I would rather a recommendation from a real person. [ Reply | More ]
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I know three people who love Yomi. What didn't you like about it? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.29.15, 09:53 PM Flag
[ - ] How do you stop ruminating on past mistakes? Every time I engage in an activity that is similar to or related to something I messed up before, my brain starts to spiral into self-hatred and this drains my energy and time. 6 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
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I wonder too. I think it is a woman thing. [ Reply | More ]
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ditto [ Reply | More ]
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meditation [ Reply | More ]
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You might look into cognitive behavioral therapy: http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Cognitive_behavioral_therapy [ Reply | More ]
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+1. really helps with this. there are specific techniques that help reverse the negative self-talk. [ Reply | More ]
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+2 [ Reply | More ]
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[ - ] Do any hospitals in NYC have jacuzzis for women to labor in besides St. Luke's Roosevelt birthing center? 3 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
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ask a midwife or doula...they would know...don't think many UB'ers were in jacuzzis when they gave birth. [ Reply | More ]
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I was it was wonderful both times for me but I'm not aware of any place in NYC that allows it anymore unless you do it at home. (BTW you just fill the tub, you don't run the jacuzzi - ha) [ Reply | More ]
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They don't let you do an actual waterbirth [ Reply | More ]
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[ - ] DH's aunt wants to FaceTime with the family every 2 weeks. Annoying. 14 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
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Agreed, hate FaceTime. So loud. [ Reply | More ]
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so unflattering [ Reply | More ]
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Well, yes, that's what I hate about it, too, and she makes judgements based on what she sees. For example, we have a 6mo DB. I look chubby on FT and my nose looks huge. She says, "Oh, I see you still have that pregnant face. It can take a year to fade." [ Reply | More ]
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how awful of her! what is wrong with some people! [ Reply | More ]
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She is tactless. [ Reply | More ]
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Hit "decline". Quickly and without hesitation. [ Reply | More ]
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np: this will be my motto. thanks, poster! [ Reply | More ]
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hate, hate, hate facetime. called dh's brother on the landline to wish a happy bday to our niece. he didn't pick up and instead called us back on FaceTime and it proceeded to be a nightmare bragging session, complete with a house tour. barf. [ Reply | More ]
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haha [ Reply | More ]
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+1000, My MIL loves to FaceTime from out of state at the most inconvenient times!! she's like, "ohhh let me see the kids," just when I finally got them to sit down and do HW! [ Reply | More ]
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ugh, how awful [ Reply | More ]
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OR: and then at the end of the convo he asks me: "how are you, ______? are you ok?" barf, barf, barf. [ Reply | More ]
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is she leaving DCs a big inheritance? [ Reply | More ]
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Facetime creeps me out... I don't know why. I don't even like to FT DH when he's traveling on business. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.29.15, 08:43 PM Flag
[ - ] Anyone have "friends" who only call/text when they need something from you? I have a friend and we go away back to college days and I don't remember her being this way then but now that we are both moms with kids she only gets in touch when she needs something or has a question about something. If I text her she usually does not respond. Is this a common phenomena? 11 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
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Yes, my SIL. I get along with her fine, and she's nice enough, but I only ever hear from her when she needs something. [ Reply | More ]
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Does she respond to her texts/calls? [ Reply | More ]
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Not immediately. Usually within her own sweet time. She ignores some and then apologizes for not getting back to the text last time, so I know she sees them. [ Reply | More ]
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Well at least she apologizes. My friend just completely ignores my text - no response until she wants to get in touch again for whatever reason and then responds. I just don't understand how she can think that's ok. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.29.15, 07:29 PM Flag
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Sounds like ... she's not such a great friend. [ Reply | More ]
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What sort of questions? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.29.15, 07:23 PM Flag
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Oh yeah. Have one who is exactly like this. I only hear from her when she needs a professional favor. She wasn't always like this. [ Reply | More ]
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This is pretty much everyone I know. :-( [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.29.15, 07:26 PM Flag
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Really? She is the only person I have in my circle who acts this way. We are all busy people obviously and I am cool for her reaching out when she needs something but not responding to my calls/texts when she does not - this part I just find so bizarre and rude. [ Reply | More ]
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i have an acquaintance like that. it took me about 5 min to figure out what was going on and since then i'm friendly but give her a wide berth and don't expect anything. if i feel like responding to her requests, i do and if i don't, i don't. [ Reply | More ]
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I have a friend who is kind of like this. I feel like I only hear from her when she needs advice about something. On the other hand, I figure that I could reach out more (she's usually responsive when I do, but won't necessarily initiate unless she has a reason). I haven't ended the friendship over it, but I keep it in mind so that I don't expect more than what I know she has to give. [ Reply | More ]
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[ - ] What a good gift for a 9 yr old boy? 13 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 03.29.15, 07:19 PM Flag
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How much do you want to spend? [ Reply | More ]
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$40? It's for a relative's birthday. [ Reply | More ]
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My 9 year old is into Pokemon, mine craft, skylanders and Legos. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.29.15, 07:31 PM Flag
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Thanks. Will look those thinks up. [ Reply | More ]
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The list above is perfect. [ Reply | More ]
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And of the things on the list, Lego's is probably the safest bet. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.29.15, 07:45 PM Flag
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+1 - exactly what my 9 yo is interested in, too..... [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.29.15, 07:58 PM Flag
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+2 [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.29.15, 08:06 PM Flag
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That's exactly what my 8 year old loves too. Also sports. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.29.15, 09:54 PM Flag
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legos! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.29.15, 07:49 PM Flag
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THIS. go for the TECHNIC line with power functions [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.29.15, 07:56 PM Flag
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Those are cool. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.29.15, 08:14 PM Flag
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also nerf guns [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.29.15, 08:11 PM Flag
[ - ] Nicest hotel wishing one hour of NYC? 2 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 03.29.15, 07:14 PM Flag
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*within!! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.29.15, 07:15 PM Flag
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for what purpose? Do you live in the city and want a break somewhere else or want a cheaper alternative to staying in the city while visiting here? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.29.15, 07:19 PM Flag
[ - ] Our neighbors, a nice teacher couple with two toddlers, texted us last week asking to borrow $80 cash. Thought it was a little weird, but thought they must be desperate to ask us, considering we aren't close. So we gave it to them and they offered to write us a check and DH said to just repay me cash when you have it. Now they left today vacation for a two weeks on spring break and never repaid. Should we ask them to repay or cut our losses? 19 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 03.29.15, 07:12 PM Flag
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Look at it this way, it cost you 80 bucks to never have to deal with them again. I never expect to be repaid when I lend money and I'm rarely disappointed. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.29.15, 07:14 PM Flag
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true. i would never borrow money for anyone, much less a neighbor. and if i did, i would make it a point to repay so as not to embarrass myself. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.29.15, 07:18 PM Flag
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Money should never be lent [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.29.15, 07:18 PM Flag
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okay, scrooge. Go back in your cave and count your gold. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.29.15, 07:30 PM Flag
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Lol [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.29.15, 07:33 PM Flag
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Sucker! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.29.15, 07:14 PM Flag
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a cheap lesson for you. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.29.15, 07:20 PM Flag
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This! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.29.15, 07:31 PM Flag
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A good lesson: only "lend" $ if you don't care about getting it back. To me $80 isn't worth the trouble. If they don't repay when they return, then they're not really your friends. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.29.15, 07:49 PM Flag
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But how do you say no to a request like this? It's a small enough amount that you can't say you don't have it, and the neighbor knows this, which is why they think it's okay to ask and not repay. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.29.15, 08:04 PM Flag
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+1 [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.29.15, 08:19 PM Flag
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so weird [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.29.15, 07:49 PM Flag
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Maybe the trip is to visit their parents to explain a dire situation, and they will ask for $80 while they are at it, to pay back that nice neighbor who helped them when they needed to buy the kids food. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.29.15, 08:17 PM Flag
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I would casually bring it up once and if they don't repay you after that one reminder, then count it as a loss. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.29.15, 09:11 PM Flag
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I'm sure they remember. Just count it as charity. They obviously needed it. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.29.15, 09:14 PM Flag
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So they could go away for spring break vacation. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.29.15, 09:23 PM Flag
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This [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.29.15, 10:37 PM Flag
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You should have got the check... they offered. Now they have to 1. Have the cash, 2. Be close enough to you to give it to you, 3. Given enough of a shit to interrupt whatever they are doing to actually give it to you. All of which could take ages to happen at the same time. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.29.15, 09:29 PM Flag
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They offered. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.29.15, 09:31 PM Flag
[ - ] I am currently in my 2nd year of a PhD in Clinical Psychology. DH is always telling me that I should quit and pursue a real estate license. I find this so rude. School is hard enough, not to mention acting as the primary caregiver to 3 DCs. He treats my program like it's middle school. 13 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 03.29.15, 07:12 PM Flag
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Beyond rude. What a jerk. Good for you; keep at it. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.29.15, 07:13 PM Flag
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Real estate is a hard business because too much supply of brokers- requires zero qualification to enter. Big earnings are concentrated to those who corner a market. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.29.15, 07:25 PM Flag
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Well, what he really wants is for me to be a SAHM. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.29.15, 07:28 PM Flag
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Thats pretty funny- the concept that real estate salesperson is a euphemism for SAHM [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.29.15, 07:30 PM Flag
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Anyone who talks down a PhD student deserves a special place in hell. Keep working towards your goals! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.29.15, 07:29 PM Flag
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thanks [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.29.15, 07:34 PM Flag
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+1 [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.29.15, 08:30 PM Flag
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that's bullshit. so rude! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.29.15, 08:07 PM Flag
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I am so sorry. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.29.15, 08:09 PM Flag
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Break a dish and put your foot down. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.29.15, 08:18 PM Flag
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He feels inferior [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.29.15, 08:20 PM Flag
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This [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.29.15, 08:30 PM Flag
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Ridiculous. Clinical psychology PhD programs are ridiculously competitive. Congrats to you and ignore him!! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.29.15, 10:19 PM Flag
[ - ] Anyone actually get along with their ex? 14 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 03.29.15, 07:11 PM Flag
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No Ex-DH, but I get along well with two ex-boyfriends. They were good guys, it was just not the right time or place. The other ex-boyfriends I have no interest in keeping in touch with. Much less at stake though, since we weren't married and no kids together. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.29.15, 07:17 PM Flag
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Yes, very well. Divorce was the second smartest choice we ever made! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.29.15, 07:18 PM Flag
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Funny you ask. Just thinking about this. Yes. Have a good ex as they go. We just had lunch. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.29.15, 07:26 PM Flag
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My friend - from another country - came on vacation to NYC with her ex-DH, his new DW, and the teen kids from the first relationship. (The kid from the new marriage was too young to come along.) They all shared a rental apartment here, and they all get along well. It probably helps that my friend was the one who left. Nobody cheated, and it took a few years before either of them got into new relationships. I have also been to dinner parties with all of them - adults and kids - and they are fine. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.29.15, 07:28 PM Flag
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California? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.29.15, 07:33 PM Flag
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why california? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.29.15, 07:36 PM Flag
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a lot more open - [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.29.15, 07:38 PM Flag
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No - another country - not another state. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.29.15, 07:37 PM Flag
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lol - that makes even more sense - I've seen it out West - never in NY / NJ. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.29.15, 07:38 PM Flag
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I know someone who lives with her ex while they raise their child. They both have their own private lives and are legally divorced. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.29.15, 07:39 PM Flag
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Which state? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.29.15, 07:41 PM Flag
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Massachusetts [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.29.15, 07:57 PM Flag
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np. Ex-dh and I live in the same building, and it's perfect. I don't think I could handle living in the same apartment/house though. Wow. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.29.15, 08:23 PM Flag
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Yes [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.29.15, 08:54 PM Flag
[ - ] Where do rich people shop? In my neighborhood, there are some very wealthy people who always look pulled together but unassuming an not flaunting logos or recognizable stuff - whereas, there are also the new money moms who wear all the ubiquitous clothes and accessories. I know I asked one mom where she got her shoes (nice looking boots that were not trendy but not dowdy either) and she told me they were Saint Laurent - way out of my league. I am intrigued, though! 15 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 03.29.15, 07:06 PM Flag
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they shop high end designers but avoid the logos and trendy pieces. it's really that simple. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.29.15, 07:11 PM Flag
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Like which ones, though? The few moms I know like this seem to do a good job of mixing high and low. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.29.15, 07:13 PM Flag
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depends on the person and their style preference. high-end: prada, armani, bottega veneta, akris, ferragamo, dior, tom ford etc. low end: topshop, zara, theory etc. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.29.15, 07:40 PM Flag
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Theory is low-end now? Jesus. - np [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.29.15, 07:50 PM Flag
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it's all relative. if you are in nyc, i recommend the nordstrom rack store in union square. they have a great theory selection there at great prices. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.29.15, 07:57 PM Flag
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It always has been. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.29.15, 08:56 PM Flag
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Its not exactly high end. At best, its mid-level, perhaps more accurately the top end of bottom tier. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.29.15, 09:31 PM Flag
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In my neighborhood (Brooklyn) the stylish wealthy women seem to dress in a mix of uniqlo and designers like Rag and Bone, Acne and Isabel Marant. Understated and casual. I think people shop at local boutiques and department stores like Barneys [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.29.15, 07:18 PM Flag
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hysterical. before i saw that you said bklyn, i was going to write "Brooklyn?". LOL!!! it's so predictable. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.29.15, 08:08 PM Flag
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same in Tribeca. When I see another high-wedge sneaker bootie and skinny jeans combo I will vomit... [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.29.15, 08:14 PM Flag
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Bird is the place [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.29.15, 09:07 PM Flag
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Acne? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.29.15, 09:09 PM Flag
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nothing with a logo [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.29.15, 07:33 PM Flag
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In the city? Bergdorf, Barney's, Saks. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.29.15, 07:44 PM Flag
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+1 [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.29.15, 08:57 PM Flag
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