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[ - ] Any 80's moms what to recount random tidbits/trivia you remember from back then? I remember that "Whiskas" cat food used to be called "Kal Kan," and they had a big TV ad campaign when they changed the name. One of the "signatures" of the campaign was that it would begin with a static shot of a Kal Kan can, with a white cat on the front, and then the cat would "come to life" and hop off of the can into the commercial. 9 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
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Oh I dont remember this at all. I remember loving the perfume Love's Baby Soft and the commercial now is so sexist it is hilarious. " You can love hard- HARRY, or you can love soft, harry,,,," I loved Coke Pepsi challenges in the mall. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.23.17, 01:08 AM Flag
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No, Kal Kan was not considered a sex symbol. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.23.17, 01:09 AM Flag
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^Sorry got confused with the 80s mom posts. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.23.17, 01:10 AM Flag
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But what about Micro Machines ad star John "Motormouth" Moschitta, the rapid-fire salesman for that popular line of toys? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.23.17, 01:14 AM Flag
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Now you're talking. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.23.17, 01:16 AM Flag
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Or what about popular character actor David Leisure, aka "Joe Isuzu" from the car ads? Was HE a sex symbol? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.23.17, 01:19 AM Flag
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No. But he was the next door neighbor on either Empty Nest with the guy from Soap, Kristy MacNichol and Marti from Grease or the next door neighbor on that show with the guy who was Joe Kelly on General Hospital, the girl who was Allison on Melrose Place, and the voice of Prince Erik. Oh, no, the next door neighbor on that one was Julia Louis Dreyfus, so he must have been the neighbor on Empty Nest. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.23.17, 02:54 AM Flag
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That shampoo called Gee Your Hair Smells Terrific. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.23.17, 01:15 AM Flag
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Or there was a beer one too. And thick green Prell. Or maybe those were even the 70s. I'm old. [ Reply | More ]
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[ - ] I had a 1st date cancel 5hrs before the date. We had messaged for a day prior. No biggie. Two weeks later he texts and explains how busy he was in that time. It took me a few minutes to figure who the number was. I didn't respond because I feel like it's something lost in the wind and I've lost interest. He just texted me telling me to go fuck my myself!! Wtf? 30 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
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Dodged that one. Good for you. [ Reply | More ]
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Do you have dc? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.23.17, 01:10 AM Flag
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Yes. Why? [ Reply | More ]
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x1,000 [ Reply | More ]
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Consider yourself lucky. [ Reply | More ]
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THIS [ Reply | More ]
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If you truly lost interest, why are you offended? [ Reply | More ]
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When is GFY not offensive??? [ Reply | More ]
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Please. It's totally fine to react when a number not programmed in your phone tells you to go fuck yourself. [ Reply | More ]
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after you already dismissed it out of boredom? This is an odd revisiting of the situation. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.23.17, 01:30 AM Flag
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It isn't odd to retell something like this to my UB girlfriends. Leave my post if it's not for you. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.23.17, 01:34 AM Flag
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The guy had feelings for you regardless of whether you reciprocated and you ignored him on a medium where people kind of expect a response- this kind of 2nd move from him is well within the realm of possibility. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.23.17, 01:38 AM Flag
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People can expect all they want, but reacting to a nonresponse with gfy is not how to get what you want. Social weirdness does not work over text either. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.23.17, 01:48 AM Flag
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It wasnt about advocacy by that point! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.23.17, 01:55 AM Flag
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Someone who is interested does not disappear for two weeks after he cancelled the first date. I don't respond to guys from a dating site who I don't think it will work out with. [ Reply | More ]
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Seriously? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.23.17, 01:26 AM Flag
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It's offensive when a homeless swears at you on the street too. But, sounds like a bullet dodged for sure.su [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.23.17, 01:26 AM Flag
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the homeless guy had no right to expect a response to anything [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.23.17, 01:40 AM Flag
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No offense, but go f yourself [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.23.17, 01:42 AM Flag
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it's a valid question, not to mention why she is surprised when she ignored the guy [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.23.17, 01:45 AM Flag
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The guy is not owed a response. They hadn't met then he took two weeks to contact her. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.23.17, 01:51 AM Flag
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They had a prior contact. It's in the gray zone. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.23.17, 01:57 AM Flag
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What exactly would YOU have said? [ Reply | More ]
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Ignore, not surprised, and dont post on here. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.23.17, 02:10 AM Flag
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Ffs. You have to power to ignore posts you aren't interested in. You're a ninny telling other people what to do! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.23.17, 02:15 AM Flag
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crazy man - block and avoid. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.23.17, 01:15 AM Flag
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Geez. You should put that on Instagram’s Texts from Your Ex. [ Reply | More ]
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Is he an ex if we hadn't met? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.23.17, 01:25 AM Flag
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There are a lot of similar texts - not all are strictly exes. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.23.17, 01:28 AM Flag
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What a nut! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.23.17, 01:25 AM Flag
[ - ] Has anyone had their child in a private school where they pair children with polar opposite behaviors and aptitudes? Why is this done? Frustrated the hell out of my daughter this week. The best answer I had for her was that there will always be difficult people in life and we need to learn to deal with them. Once they get paired, are the kids stuck in that match all year? Should I say something? Thoughts? 22 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 09.23.17, 12:56 AM Flag
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Well, the benefits aren't meant to play out in the first weeks. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.23.17, 12:59 AM Flag
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op: Of course. I'm just seeking info on why they do this, how it's done? My daughter is new to private, has never had this happen before. Very strong student, so it was kind of rough on her. She'll be fine but I want to know how it all works. [ Reply | More ]
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what grade? [ Reply | More ]
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op: Elementary [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.23.17, 01:27 AM Flag
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Learn how to appreciate difference in others and then teach it to dd. I'm a special ed aide and I have observed that one of the brightest children in the room is also the kindest, most considerate person toward my charge. He often partners my charge and my heart bursts to see such casual kindness. Unfortunately, it's rare. [ Reply | More ]
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op: Can you give me more info on how this works? Child she was paired with is not special needs, just very immature compared to my daughter. I already talked to her about that and that she could possibly help this child. I would just like more information on how this works, if you can share anything. How long she'll be paired with this child, etc. Will other children have their turn at 'helping' this child? Thanks. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.23.17, 01:07 AM Flag
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I'm not at a private, I'm at a Montessori charter. The teacher in the classroom tries to allow pairings to happen organically, but there are instances where he choses the literary circle based on "top pick" interest and it's a hodgepodge of temperaments, abilities and grades. This is a 4,5,6th classroom. No one (aside from me) is assigned to this child. I think a permeant pairing is problematic for all children. Taking on a leadership/mentor role does reinforce concepts for the exceptional student and gives them a chance to lead. [ Reply | More ]
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op: Thanks. My child was paired with this one for long periods of time, several days in a row. I'm not sure what happened today. She either sucked it up and dealt with it or she wasn't paired. She was crying after school yesterday, extremely frustrated. Something didn't seem right about it all to me. I feel like the teacher can't see the forest for the trees. She either has an idea about this or someone told her to do it, come hell or high water. And my child is the type to say nothing at school, do as told and then cry to me later about it. Keeps her frustration bottled up all day. [ Reply | More ]
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I question whether this really the job of elementary aged school children. I don't think it's right. Too much on their shoulders already, they are not little psychologists and this is going overboard on teaching empathy. [ Reply | More ]
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i think it teaches useful life skills...this is similar to ITC classes in public although it seems like specific pairs puts more pressure on individuals. but i love the ITC format and have had two gen ed kids enrolled in them. knowing how to get along with others who are very different--and who we don't choose--is so valuable both as a human and in professional environments. i think this will benefit your child tremendously but she may not understand it at her age. [ Reply | More ]
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op: I agree which is why I told her it's part of life. I'm not sure that 8 years old is the appropriate time to expect children to deal with this issue and especially, at this intensity level. I'm all for it, but I feel like the school is giving her way too much of this right now. I could understand a few times a week... it was a lot more than that. [ Reply | More ]
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op: I guess the other thing here is... it's like 'boom, community now!'... uh... real community takes time. Relationships need to build. To simply throw various kids together and say 'oh, this is your community, you have to do X, Y and Z because it's your community'... I think any smart kid is going to see right through that and call bullshit. Which is basically what I think my daughter's reaction was. It's not that she is not kind. She is one of the kindest children at that school, trust me. I think it's the forced community aspect that she is balking at. And frankly, I'm secretly on her side. It's kind of bullshit. I get it, but it's still bullshit. And has many years to learn to deal with others, why go so heavy-handed now? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.23.17, 01:32 AM Flag
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No you should not say something, It is good for your child to learn to be part of a community. Teacher like to pair opposite abilities because it helps both. Kids who struggle learn more and kids who excel deepen their knowledge by explaining to their peer. [ Reply | More ]
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op: I know that. I think when a child comes home crying about it however, they've gone overboard with it. [ Reply | More ]
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why is she crying? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.23.17, 01:28 AM Flag
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Maybe you should tell the teacher she is coming home upset and frustrated what can you do to support her at home? [ Reply | More ]
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op: If the upset continues, I will. Part of why I'm writing this post, just trying to understand the 360 of it all. [ Reply | More ]
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op: Frustrated at being paired with another child who is grossly opposite from her - tantrums, thumb sucking, very different skill/knowledge levels, etc. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.23.17, 01:33 AM Flag
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Sounds like they are trying to make your kid be teachers aid. Better speak up [ Reply | More ]
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op: So if you were to speak up, what would you say? And to whom? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.23.17, 01:58 AM Flag
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it's ridiculous and not helpful for either kid imo (np) [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.23.17, 01:50 AM Flag
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Sounds like lazy ass teachers. Could not imagine paying private school tuition for this. Yes, speak to the head. [ Reply | More ]
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[ - ] What's your favorite thing to do with kids in Italy? 9 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
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Who knows... [ Reply | More ]
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Eat gelato. [ Reply | More ]
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Drink wine while the kids eat gelato. [ Reply | More ]
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This! [ Reply | More ]
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i like them with fava beans and a nice glass of chianti. [ Reply | More ]
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Great veal recipe. [ Reply | More ]
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My favorite things to do in Italy without dc. [ Reply | More ]
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Visit Pompeii and Herculaneum. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.23.17, 01:26 AM Flag
[ - ] I had a panic attack and it was terrifying. I had a breakdown over work. Fortunately I was at home when it happened but another mini one happened at work before. I think I am just over my head between work and 2 SN kids and my own crap. I just want to run away. 17 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 09.23.17, 12:46 AM Flag
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Damn, sorry to hear. I had a panic attack that lasted like 5 days and it was unbelievable. I lost a ton of weight and couldn't sleep. I had to go on meds. Much better now. I hope you feel better too. Maybe get on some meds? [ Reply | More ]
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Please take a mental health day tomorrow as if it was a heart attack. Work can survive without you, as can the kids. take care of yourself. [ Reply | More ]
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Great idea. Np [ Reply | More ]
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I took 2 days off for the Jewish new year but still had to do some errands and things today. Even synagogue I felt like I needed to take care of the kids - that's my one time to just connect with religion on my own. I'm sorry to bitch. I just am scared I won't ever get out from under this. [ Reply | More ]
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Did something specific happen or do you just need to consider finding another job? So sorry, OP! [ Reply | More ]
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My job was changed and I have no expertise in this and a lot of demands [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.23.17, 01:42 AM Flag
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Sounds tough. No advice but I'm hoping things will be better for you soon. [ Reply | More ]
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Can you plan 2 days off while the kids are at school in the near future and do as much as you can to get things settled the first day and then relax the second day? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.23.17, 12:54 AM Flag
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I used to get these in my 20s when I was under severe stress. You can beat these without medication, just fyi. Lots of therapies to deal with it. But yes, you need some help and I hope you find some relief soon. [ Reply | More ]
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My sister suffered from severe panic attacks her senior year in HS when my mother was having her own mental health issues. My sister did kind of "run away" and travelled to a different country. My dad had wanted to her to go on meds, but she was resistant. She really got herself together and is a much stronger person now. I don't think you necessarily have to leave and go to another country, but maybe make an investment in yourself, getting help (either in a logistical or medical sense), and changing your routine in a significant way. Good luck!!! [ Reply | More ]
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^^She also mentioned that she sometimes still feels an attack coming on, but has learned to talk herself out of them. [ Reply | More ]
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What does she say to herself? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.23.17, 01:42 AM Flag
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PP: I don't know...I never actually asked her for those specifics, but I imagine it has mostly to do with the recognition that the episodes have more to do with her psyche/emotions, and are not truly physiologic in nature. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.23.17, 03:16 AM Flag
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Holidays can really overload the stress. Take a day for yourself or just pop on the TV for kids and go to bed early. Also talk to Dr if maybe med would help. [ Reply | More ]
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I relate. I have them a couple times a year. I don't do meds in any other case, but I keep an rx of Ativan on hand for this purpose. Very helpful. [ Reply | More ]
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Is there a light at the end of the tunnel? [ Reply | More ]
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why did you have a 2nd sn kid? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.23.17, 01:44 AM Flag
[ - ] I just saw a quote that said "Character is how you treat people who can do nothing for you." I like that. 16 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
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Excellent. [ Reply | More ]
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op: I really love it. It's how I was raised and I naturally do this every single day. [ Reply | More ]
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But it's derogatory to say that there are people "who can do nothing for you." Maybe they can help you in small ways that you take for granted. [ Reply | More ]
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Np. I can do nothing for Rex Tillerson. I don't know if he'd be particularly nice to me. Therein lies what this quote means. [ Reply | More ]
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I agree with that, I think we have to add to those weaker than you. It's easy to treat well people with more power than you and those who can do something for you (still power). [ Reply | More ]
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So I'm characterless? [ Reply | More ]
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Are you a physician who doesn't take on new patients? [ Reply | More ]
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No. But I have no time for people who can't help. [ Reply | More ]
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You have character. It's just bad character. [ Reply | More ]
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I've always preferred this one: Character is what you do when no one is watching. [ Reply | More ]
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I thought that was dancing. [ Reply | More ]
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+ picking your nose. [ Reply | More ]
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Lmao [ Reply | More ]
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I like this one better, too. [ Reply | More ]
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You have so much to learn. [ Reply | More ]
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Me too. The original quote is somewhat condescending . [ Reply | More ]
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[ - ] have you been in 1136 fifth ave? 2 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
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Nope, you? [ Reply | More ]
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no just on gossip girl [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.23.17, 12:49 AM Flag
[ - ] I am so over my job. The work is so stressful, and I feel like I just can't take it anymore. I can't afford to quit so what can I do to make life bearable until I can get out of there. TIA. 19 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
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Headspace [ Reply | More ]
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It is an app. [ Reply | More ]
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Thanks…I will look it up. [ Reply | More ]
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Headspace sucks. Just canceled my subscription. Any other Recs? [ Reply | More ]
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Meditation studio; calm. NYT has reviewed a bunch. [ Reply | More ]
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Those are names of apps? [ Reply | More ]
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That sucks. I have been there too many times. Start with little things- have an awesome cup of coffee during the day, text with an awesome friend in your life, etc. I hope it's bearable going forward. [ Reply | More ]
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Thanks. Thing is the people are amazing (even upper management) and the hours are nice. The problem is the work itself is extremely challenging and highly stressful. Tons of deadlines that absolutely need to be met and bombardment of emails if you are slightly late. It's making me nervous, anxious, on edge, and a nightmare at home. [ Reply | More ]
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Ugh. Sorry to hear that. At least the people are amazing. I was picturing a company full of assholes! [ Reply | More ]
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No, which makes me feel worse b/c i've worked in companies where the people are toxic. This is so not the case here. BUT the job is overwhelming. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.23.17, 12:44 AM Flag
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How long have you been there? [ Reply | More ]
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2 yrs…looking for next job. Most people don't stay longer than that. [ Reply | More ]
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me too. it's a huge problem for everyone. yet the 1% wants more... [ Reply | More ]
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This. Every day, speak with a friend for five minutes. [ Reply | More ]
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I have a different perspective. What is your financial situation, and why can't you quit? [ Reply | More ]
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I'm with ya but my family needs my income and benefits. Do you have any friends at work? My mentor at work is my savior - she's my former boss. Treat yourself well. Nice cup of tea or coffee, find some downtime, etc. [ Reply | More ]
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Watching. I'm stuck too divorced want kids to stay in their school feel so trapped sometimes [ Reply | More ]
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This is how the ponzi scheme of private traps you, and them. Nothing you can do about it now, of course, but just saying. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.23.17, 01:36 AM Flag
[ - ] I can stick with working out, but I can't stick with Weight Watchers. I've tried other diets and I do think WW is the best one. Any WW moms on? Do you think it'd help if I went to meetings? I'm just very much not the type to speak at those kinds of things. 8 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 09.23.17, 12:27 AM Flag
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IF [ Reply | More ]
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np: Intermittent fasting. Timed eating, no calorie counting. Read 'Delay, Don't Deny' [ Reply | More ]
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How much do you have to control what you eat during eating hours? [ Reply | More ]
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just eat small portions (and don't lie to yourself about your portion size), make healthy choices, and work out. I tried WW once and I couldn't deal with all the point counting. [ Reply | More ]
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I just wish working out counted more toward weight loss. [ Reply | More ]
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Can you enlist someone to do it with you? The meetings work bc they keep you accountable. But I did it twice successfully by having dh do it with me. That way we both reminded each other to enter our points, make good choices, etc, [ Reply | More ]
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I think going to meetings does make a difference, but you may have to try a few different ones for a good fit. Leaders styles are all different and the dynamics of the groups I'd different. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.23.17, 03:33 AM Flag
[ - ] Considering you are living a NYC TT lifestyle (nice luxury building, 4+ bedrooms, private schools, 2-3 nice vacations/year, FT help, etc) with 2-3 DCs, how much in assets/net worth do you think you need to have to be "set for life." 15 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 09.23.17, 12:23 AM Flag
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75MM [ Reply | More ]
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Prob $40m; less if one is still working. [ Reply | More ]
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I am not fake, We have a townhouse downtown, private school, hamptons home, and we don't think set for life because the reality is what you describe is already set for life. Having said that our net worth is about 180 mil [ Reply | More ]
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This does not make sense. [ Reply | More ]
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I'd be elsewhere than UB with that kind of money. [ Reply | More ]
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Interesting. Where would you be? I am in the hamptons now with my kids who have friends with them sleeping over and DH went to King Kullen to pick up some breakfast food for tomorrow [ Reply | More ]
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Why do you say that? We have a similar profile and I like UB for the distraction it provides me. Np [ Reply | More ]
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20m [ Reply | More ]
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I thInk this is accurate if one spouse still working. It's what allows us 4 dcs in private, UES townhouse, vacations and help. We rent 2nd home. [ Reply | More ]
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Do you know Jennifer S [ Reply | More ]
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Oh, FFS. You are too much. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.23.17, 12:33 AM Flag
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$40m [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.23.17, 12:41 AM Flag
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I think we're ok with a th on the UES, one of the one not too large houses in the Hamptons and some investment properties here and there. The kids still need to finish college and DH would like to give them a $2M launchpad in addition to their inheritances from grandparents. We hope to retire in twenty years with about $20M for us and will give the rest to charities, grandkids etc. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.23.17, 12:42 AM Flag
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TRUST FUND. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.23.17, 01:14 AM Flag
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HOW BIG? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.23.17, 01:18 AM Flag
[ - ] Where can I meet someone for coffee near 28th and Broadway? My go to place closed and I am drawing a blank. TIA. 8 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 09.23.17, 12:14 AM Flag
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starbucks dunkin donuts wawa 711 [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.23.17, 12:23 AM Flag
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the smith [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.23.17, 12:44 AM Flag
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what an ugly area- there is a gregory's on 30th & 6th [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.23.17, 12:52 AM Flag
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I like that area. the smith, i would say [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.23.17, 12:57 AM Flag
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Ita [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.23.17, 01:01 AM Flag
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the ACE hotel - great [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.23.17, 01:06 AM Flag
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Yeah, that's near my office and it's a crappy area. Gregor's is OK - kinda expensive but good coffee. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.23.17, 01:14 AM Flag
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Try one of the cute tea places (they also serve coffee and treats) on the north side of Koreablock. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.23.17, 01:44 AM Flag
[ - ] DH had a few affairs (I found texts) within the last couple of years. He claims they are over, and when I told him I'm still upset about them he just repeats that they are over and he won't do it again. Of course, I found these affairs out three times so this isn't very convincing. We went to some couples therapy but it didn't help since the last affair was happening while we were actually in therapy. I feel so much anger and disgust at his general attitude toward our relationship--he believe that saying it won't happen again is enough and life should resume as usual. Sex life was flatline for several year even before the affairs, he had problems keeping an erection and never dealt with that. I delicately asked him to address the erection issue but he never did. I initiated sex but rarely. We have young kids so I feel trapped into staying in this marriage but so confused as to what to do. Marriage therapy again clearly needed but I hate that I have to be the one to lead this. Shouldn't there be more effort from him, after what he did? Talking has gotten us nowhere, maybe a new therapist will help but I feel disappointed that I will be the one to make it happen. I am being stuck with fixing this when he needs an attitude overhaul. I've told him several times that if it weren't for the kids I'd leave. Besides the affairs, we aren't happy and dont' get along well and essentially haven't since kids were born 10 years ago. He loves the kids but he can't seem to handle the pressure kids put on marriage and freedom in general. There is a tremendous resentment and passive aggressive anger from him. 40 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 09.23.17, 12:14 AM Flag
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If the money works, sounds like you should just cut him loose. If it gets that far, the next affair will doom the partnership. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.23.17, 12:16 AM Flag
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And people wonder why I'm single and childless. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.23.17, 12:17 AM Flag
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Why are you on this site? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.23.17, 12:36 AM Flag
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Stocktaking the miserable. You? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.23.17, 12:52 AM Flag
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What do these affairs consist of if he has erectile dysfunction? Are they with women? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.23.17, 12:17 AM Flag
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Having children is the best thing I have done in a pretty great life. Marriage, meh. 10% of them are awesome and 90% are garbage. The unfortunate truth is that most men aren't that great. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.23.17, 01:31 AM Flag
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I don’t see why you need to stay with him. I can see forgiving one affair of you have an otherwise good relationship but if you don’t even like him why stay? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.23.17, 12:18 AM Flag
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Curious how he has affairs with ED. Are you certain they were physical? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.23.17, 12:21 AM Flag
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no i'm not and he claims they weren't. there were lots of texts and naked photos from the women. he sent pics of himself but just his face. i really don't know if they were physical but they certainly were involved enough to be a major violation. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.23.17, 12:26 AM Flag
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Who were these women? Crazy. Perhaps I'm prude but what sort of loser woman sends naked pics to a married man? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.23.17, 12:28 AM Flag
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she was married too. they met at a party. and thru Facebook i saw pics of her with her husband and kids. she was much less attractive than me (just being honest) and looks nothing like me in general. just kind of ordinary. she sent pics in lingerie. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.23.17, 12:34 AM Flag
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This happened to me. I don't normally believe in ultimatums but in these situations you have no choice. I told my dh I needed password to all his devices, email, credit card statements, no social media allowed and we video call frequently. This may seem controlling but it has worked. I am much more relaxed and in turn can be a much better partner to him because I am not always suspicious. I told him no secrets or you are free to walk away. Bottom line, i can't live with the anxiety that my distrust was causing. I am sure UB will say that he can have fake phones, e-mails, etc. Sure he can, but I have zero reasons to believe he is. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.23.17, 12:26 AM Flag
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You caught him in multiple afffairs? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.23.17, 12:29 AM Flag
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No, just one emotional affair that was going on for a couple of months. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.23.17, 12:37 AM Flag
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Did he end it voluntarily? Mine has been involved in one since may, I kicked him out but am secretly hoping he will realize it is all fake. I guess it is physical now too. She is a psycho and he admits that boy can’t seem to stop it, it is like he is addicted [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.23.17, 12:43 AM Flag
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I remember you. I didn't realize you kicked him out. If you are the same person I am thinking of. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.23.17, 12:48 AM Flag
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I caught him. At that point he mesasaged her in front of me and ended it. She was offended, fought back and eventually blocked him on social media. She was a pathetic broken woman. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.23.17, 01:00 AM Flag
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what about the forgiveness part? did he do anything other than to just say he wouldn't do it again? i am not looking for cheesy 80s-movies gestures but I feel like he should DO something (or say something or act some way) and not just act like saying he won't do it again is enough? and how long ago did it happen to you? i am just having a hard time grasping moving on, or if i want to... [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.23.17, 12:31 AM Flag
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It was an emotional affair in February. It was very hard for me to move on because I completely lost my trust in him so i overreacted to minor things and resented him a lot. After a lot of counseling I gave him my ultimatum. No, he didn't DO anything , didnt buy me flowers or wrote me a letter, he simply agreed to live a secret free life and that to me was enough. Every day it gets better. If he gives you the tools to trust him again, forgiveness will come and you guys will move on from this. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.23.17, 12:36 AM Flag
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would you describe your relationship before the affair as strong/happy/passionate (any or all of those)? and another thing, how involved was this emotional affair? curious how long/involved it was? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.23.17, 12:38 AM Flag
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i see that you said a couple of months. how involved was it? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.23.17, 12:39 AM Flag
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We had just had a baby so I was distant, hormonal and tired. Also had a rough pregnancy so the past year prior to affair had been rough. But before that yes" we had a good marriage. He found someone (on social media) who laughed at his jokes and thought he was great. It went on for months. I read every single text and email . She was very forward and my dh seemed hesitant but went along. I don't think he was that involved to the point of wanting to leave me, but I am Sure he would have had sex with her had the opportunity presented itself. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.23.17, 12:43 AM Flag
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ugh. i am sorry. i am glad to hear somehow you harnessed the situation and have turned it around. i do think that having a baby can be very destabilizing for a man. and some react badly. it puts even more pressure on the woman. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.23.17, 12:51 AM Flag
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Find out if he takes viagra. Get him worked up for his ED to see if treatable. He may be feeling a lot of self loathing that he takes out on you [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.23.17, 12:33 AM Flag
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i agree. something about the way you state this plainly makes me feel kindness from you, so thank you. but GEEZ why can't he deal with this himself?! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.23.17, 12:35 AM Flag
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Sounds awful….You have to either work on it or separate. Staying for your dc in this situation is good for no one (including them). DH and I had some tough years, but he has miraculously changed. I ended up giving him an ultimatum (although i'm not sure if that was the reason he changed). But things are so much better now. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.23.17, 12:41 AM Flag
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People don't "miraculously change", sorry [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.23.17, 12:55 AM Flag
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Fix yourself first then worry about your husband. Or get divorced. But you could try being someone he wants to be married to first. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.23.17, 12:43 AM Flag
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WTH? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.23.17, 12:46 AM Flag
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Lol. Too true. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.23.17, 12:53 AM Flag
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OP. I'm cool with me. Maybe you are projecting. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.23.17, 12:59 AM Flag
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Your choice of Dhs, and to repeatedly try to fix something that is unfixable is your problem. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.23.17, 01:17 AM Flag
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^^staying married to a man who doesn't love you is definitely a problem. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.23.17, 01:18 AM Flag
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OP i'm responding to "fix yourself first" [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.23.17, 01:27 AM Flag
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Pp: Some will contend tolerating be is a character flaw. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.23.17, 01:30 AM Flag
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^^BS not be. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.23.17, 01:30 AM Flag
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Is by any chance your DH a musician? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.23.17, 01:02 AM Flag
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no. why? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.23.17, 01:05 AM Flag
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I was in a situation with someone who sounded a lot like your DH, similar timing, details. I ended it though. Partly because I felt so sorry for his wife and didn't want to be that woman. I'm sorry you're going through this. He sounds like he has much he needs to work on and isn't. I hope you can do what is right for you. Sometimes you have to leave a man to get him to wake up. He sounds complacent. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.23.17, 01:10 AM Flag
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A few? Time to cut him loose. He is not going to change. Get out before your finances tank or he leaves you [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.23.17, 01:05 AM Flag
[ - ] would you send your kid to an "academy" at dwight morrow public high school in englewood nj 2 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
NY Schools 09.23.17, 12:04 AM Flag
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The school was the 190th-ranked public high school in New Jersey out of 339 schools statewide in New Jersey Monthly magazine's September 2014 cover story on the state's "Top Public High Schools", using a new ranking methodology. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.23.17, 12:12 AM Flag
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no [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.23.17, 12:14 AM Flag
[ - ] Who is the nut job on here who keeps saying my posts are fake and that I'm Lilly? wtf, seriously? It's like 1/2 my posts. None of which are ever fake and I'm not fucking Lilly. 6 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 09.23.17, 12:03 AM Flag
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It doesnt matter to us if you are Lilly or simply act like her. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.23.17, 12:06 AM Flag
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This. Nonsense either way. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.23.17, 12:42 AM Flag
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Lilly/Stephanie G is pissed she got outed. The rest don't care. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.23.17, 12:43 AM Flag
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Everyone on here gets called Lilly. My posts get called Lilly every time. Happens to all of us. There's a strange Lilly stalker on here who gets really proud of herself when she thinks she found a Lilly post. Every MP post gets called a Lilly post. brush it off ad move on [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.23.17, 12:06 AM Flag
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Yeah dear. Stephanie, get back to your pretend classes. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.23.17, 12:44 AM Flag
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K. Don't care. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.23.17, 12:41 AM Flag
[ - ] My mom did it again - ordered my only dc a Halloween costume. Year after year I tell her to stop. She robs me of the best parts of being a mom. 14 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 09.23.17, 12:02 AM Flag
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No reason your child has to know about it or wear it. My mom started that with a christening dress, but when DD didn't wear it she saw it was pointless. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.23.17, 12:04 AM Flag
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This. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.23.17, 12:53 AM Flag
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She can order what she wants. You can refuse to accept it. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.23.17, 12:05 AM Flag
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Probably has more than one Halloween event, let dc wear it to one of them. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.23.17, 12:21 AM Flag
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This is what I've done for 7 years. It is her willful disregard of my wishes that pisses me off. She also buys him coats, shoes, etc. and keeps it at her house, sometimes until he outgrows it. She has nothing to do. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.23.17, 12:25 AM Flag
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You're mean and heartless. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.23.17, 12:27 AM Flag
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You sound like a huge bitch. Horrible daughter. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.23.17, 12:34 AM Flag
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This. Stop making drama. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.23.17, 12:42 AM Flag
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+1 [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.23.17, 01:04 AM Flag
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Tell her your child will only wear a homemade costume so next time she needs to sew it herself. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.23.17, 12:38 AM Flag
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Be nice. She's your mom. Also, you will be her one day, and be annoying your dc. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.23.17, 12:47 AM Flag
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You think buying a Halloween costume is the best part of being a mom? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.23.17, 12:56 AM Flag
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If you told her you wanted to get it then just refuse it. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.23.17, 01:18 AM Flag
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my MIL does stuff like this. It's annoying. But try to manage around it so it doesn't make you crazy. Find an extra Halloween event to go to and use the costume for that. My kids have a school event in addition to actual Halloween and then various playgrounds do additional dress-up events and you can usually trick-or-treat on a shopping street or mall. If your mom is nearby just have her take your DC to one of these. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.23.17, 01:37 AM Flag
[ - ] bronx moms, which has the best parking, lincoln, jacobi or north central bronx hospitals? 2 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 09.22.17, 11:55 PM Flag
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No idea, but there's no street cleaning in Morris park! I park there when I go on vacation [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.22.17, 11:57 PM Flag
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Why??? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.23.17, 01:44 AM Flag
[ - ] Something that seems odd to me about the Vietnam war - why did people and families back then consent to their sons being drafted in the first place? Someone pointed out that if Trump (or Obama before him) ever imposed a draft order, it would almost certainly be met with violent resistance. The police officers assigned to arrest draft-dodgers would be at serious risk of their lives. An actual domestic insurgency targeting security officials would be a real possibility. But none of that happened during the Vietnam era. Were Americans back then simply more obedient and docile toward authority? 6 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 09.22.17, 11:52 PM Flag
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Sons of people with power didn't go anyway. And history shows us that 90% of people don't revolt, even when it would be in their interest to do so [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.22.17, 11:55 PM Flag
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Drafts were a regular thing every generation from World War I to WWII to Korea to Vietnam. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.22.17, 11:57 PM Flag
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The dads had all been in WW 2. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.22.17, 11:57 PM Flag
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Yes. And the parents of these sons were WWII generation. My grandparents were proud of my uncle who went and came back all f'd up. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.23.17, 12:00 AM Flag
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But my grandfather helped my father not go. My father was a grad student in engineering, not rich. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.23.17, 12:01 AM Flag
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My brother was drafted and served in VietNam. We were here on green cards, it's against international law for a non-citizen to go to war or carry a gun for another country. But Vietnam wasn't a war, our country's ambassador protested (my brother was not the only one), but he got drafted and sent to Vietnam with no gun. No choice. Go or go home. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.23.17, 02:30 AM Flag
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