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[ - ] What do you think of the head of a non profit that serves low income doing a magazine article on her fashion choices? 7 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 12.02.16, 06:02 PM Flag
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All her choices are expensive. She would say that she doesn't wear these things to work. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.02.16, 06:03 PM Flag
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she is rich first, head of a nonprofit second. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.02.16, 06:04 PM Flag
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Depends on the fashion choices. She could be frugal or outlandish. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.02.16, 06:16 PM Flag
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Op here : The real question is do it or not? Is it in bad taste or not?? And the choices are not frugal. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.02.16, 06:29 PM Flag
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I find it distasteful to write about oneself in this manner, whether you are a housewife, CEO, or head of a nonprofit. If someone else finds it fitting to write about what you are wearing, let them. But to write about your expensive, non-work wear is just showy. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.02.16, 06:42 PM Flag
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Of course someone else is writing it. Being interviewed for a magazine. Bad taste or no? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.02.16, 06:50 PM Flag
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I meant if you are in the pages after an event with commentary on what you are wearing, fine. Or if you are interviewed on another topic and the author comments on your wardrobe, fine. But if you sit down to discuss the contents of your closet with that being the intended topic of the article, not fine, whether or not you actually write the words, it is your intent to show off your wardrobe. I think that is bad taste, but I'm not Emily Post, so do as you will. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.02.16, 07:03 PM Flag
[ - ] Can we get some consensus on what the baseline is for a DH to be TT? List any and all attributes and then what they need to be in that category. 36 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 12.02.16, 06:00 PM Flag
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I refuse to engage with you. There is no one factor that makes a husband TT. it is a holistic measure [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.02.16, 06:01 PM Flag
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For example, An exceptionally handsome man (think George Clooney) can be a TT husband at the $1 million a year income level [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.02.16, 06:02 PM Flag
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But a really ugly man (think Danny DeVito) needs an income of more than $6.5 million a year to be considered a TT husband. You see there are no hard and fast rules [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.02.16, 06:02 PM Flag
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OP: You're proving my point. is $1MM income something that is considered settling? I guess under $1MM doesn't qualify? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.02.16, 06:04 PM Flag
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Each area has a different cut off for TT. I have family that lives in Portland Oregon. People are not at all materialistic there so a TT husband does NOT need an income over $1 million in Portland. Move there you will like it [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.02.16, 06:09 PM Flag
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In Manhattan, no man is TT Without income over $1 million. Different standards [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.02.16, 06:09 PM Flag
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Treats you with the same love and respect you treat him and loves your children more than he loves you. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.02.16, 06:04 PM Flag
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Your children? Are they not his too [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.02.16, 06:13 PM Flag
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Yes of course. This is just how I talk. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.02.16, 06:19 PM Flag
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This is incorrect. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.02.16, 07:31 PM Flag
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If DH is a good man and good father, if you both love eachother and respect eachother, he is TT [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.02.16, 06:13 PM Flag
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This question never fails to make me LOL. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.02.16, 06:17 PM Flag
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By all objective measurements i am married to a tt guy, except he is an absent functional alcoholic who constantly cheats on me. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.02.16, 06:26 PM Flag
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then he's not really TT, is he? does he have a fancy PE/HF job? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.02.16, 06:28 PM Flag
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Something like that [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.02.16, 06:36 PM Flag
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And you are still married to him because.....? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.02.16, 06:29 PM Flag
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Because if i divorce him, my kids probably get a trashy stepmom pretty soon, he would have to liquidate one of his profitable businesses to satisfy an asset settlement, he would make my life scorched earth miserable for years fighting me, and i am close with his family (like live 2 miles from all of them) and he would force them to take sides. Easier to sit tight than make him an enemy. Unfortunately. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.02.16, 06:36 PM Flag
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Let me add that his family knows nothing of what he does and he employs several of them. I would be disappeared so fast from all their lives that your head would spin. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.02.16, 06:41 PM Flag
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Well clearly you are married to a horrible person, for all the wrong reasons. If you hadn't been so superficial, you could have married a real TT man. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.02.16, 07:01 PM Flag
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np. Try a little harder with the trolling, you're being too obvious. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.02.16, 07:03 PM Flag
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It's not trolling. It's fact. How dare she say that she's married to a TT man? It's ridiculous. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.02.16, 07:28 PM Flag
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Yeah, you are. "TT husbands" cheat all the time. They're in high demand. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.02.16, 07:38 PM Flag
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Just wanted to let you know you're not alone. Big hug. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.02.16, 07:31 PM Flag
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I think since qualifying someone as TT is already ridiculously superficial, appearances are all that matters [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.02.16, 06:32 PM Flag
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Be careful what you wish for [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.02.16, 06:37 PM Flag
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Sorry OR, makes me appreciate my DH. He's TT for me but probably not to others. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.02.16, 06:53 PM Flag
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If he is decent and hardworking and loves and supports you. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.02.16, 06:32 PM Flag
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This whole concept is revolting. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.02.16, 06:41 PM Flag
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OP: It seems to me that everyone on here that says they have a TT DH is basically just saying they like their DH. There is no rhyme or reason. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.02.16, 06:43 PM Flag
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I don't even understand your point. Of course everyone's idea of "TT" is different. I'm sure Melania thinks her DH is "TT" [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.02.16, 07:04 PM Flag
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Then what's the point of everyone posting about their TT DH on UB? Apparenlty its meaningless. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.02.16, 07:46 PM Flag
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It is about education, family, social connections and HHI and looks. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.02.16, 07:29 PM Flag
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That is because it is stupid to rank DHs like they're schools. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.02.16, 07:40 PM Flag
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My DH. WASP, great family, boarding school, Ivy grad, IB. Handsome in a WASPy way. Tall. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.02.16, 07:07 PM Flag
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My DH is this. Except in media. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.02.16, 07:28 PM Flag
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Well done [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.02.16, 07:38 PM Flag
[ - ] Diagnose this person: 1. Seems to have much more empathy for random strangers than people she is close to/family 2. Has a tendency to not value friends who treat her well and can be emotionally obusive to family members who care about her 3.tends to make choices for shirt term gratification vs long term like success 4. Can be very nice and good to people but it's very unclear why she is good to some but not others 4. Very sensative and not able to receive criticism. Looks for constant confirmation 5. Trusts opinion of strangers over those who truly care about her 43 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 12.02.16, 05:57 PM Flag
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Borderline [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.02.16, 05:58 PM Flag
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she's been burned by someone close to her in the past [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.02.16, 05:59 PM Flag
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Nothing beyond regular relationship drama that she often creates herself. Nothing out of the ordinary. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.02.16, 06:01 PM Flag
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Absolutely ! Burned in te past by people closets to her [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.02.16, 06:35 PM Flag
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beyond some relationships (normal break ups mostly caused by her treatment of the boyfriends) there had been no burning of her. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.02.16, 07:11 PM Flag
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narcissist [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.02.16, 06:01 PM Flag
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Aren't they usually kaoabke if being charming long enough to attract a mate? She is very charming but can't sustain it very long and thus relationships/friendships never last. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.02.16, 06:03 PM Flag
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not necessarily. My mil is a very un-charming narcissist. The random stranger vs family empathy is spot on for her. Part of her savior complex. Also can't take any kind of criticism. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.02.16, 06:13 PM Flag
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Is there anything this type of person can do to change? How is your mil's relationship with her children? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.02.16, 06:15 PM Flag
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I don't think a narcissist can ever change. She has one child, my DH, and they have a very contentious relationship. She can be kind and thoughtful, WHEN IT SUITS HER, but can also be cruel and very manipulative. She'll do stuff like hang up the phone on him if he disagrees with her, etc. It's almost impossible to please her because when you do what she asks she claims she asked for something else. FWIW, she went through two nasty divorces, and continues to trash my FIL 20+ years later at every opportunity. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.02.16, 06:30 PM Flag
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+1. (1) No empathy on family because she is the center of the of the universe not them. (2) devalues those close to her because she is the center of the universe. (4) is nice to some probably because she needs something from them and not to others because they have nothing to offer her. (5) can only trust strangers because if she trusts a loved one that will give them value and narcissists always minizmize those around them. Narcissists always have a way of letting you know, you are not good enough, so she certainly isnt going to listen to a loved ones good advice. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.02.16, 06:36 PM Flag
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Lacks confidence. Is able to confront/disagree with people she knows won't leave but is wary about putting herself out there with others. Is 3 about weight or something else? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.02.16, 06:02 PM Flag
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3 is about choice of men to date. Choice of jobs. Choice of going out now while knowing she has something very important next morning for which she needs sleep. Can't prioritize. She is late 30ies [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.02.16, 06:05 PM Flag
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Back to confidence. If you don't try too hard, you can't actually fail, right? I have the same affliction [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.02.16, 06:10 PM Flag
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She is pretty successful though as she is smart and is a hard worker. She fails in personal relationships both romantic/friends/family and not for the lack of trying [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.02.16, 06:12 PM Flag
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^ however she first destroys and then tries to fix. The more someone likes/loves her the nastier more critical she gets [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.02.16, 06:13 PM Flag
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Okay. I guess that's a little more harsh than what I was thinking. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.02.16, 06:17 PM Flag
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np- she sounds very insecure. when someone cares about her, she truly can't understand why they care about her, and it makes her somewhat angry. it's hard to describe (i get this way sometimes) but it's almost like i think you are patronizing me by being so kind to me when clearly i suck. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.02.16, 06:25 PM Flag
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No, I am pretty sure she thinks she is pretty great. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.02.16, 06:26 PM Flag
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Insecure and shallow. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.02.16, 06:03 PM Flag
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She isn't shallow. She is increadibly compassionate to all types of causes and strangers but not to people who care for her. Doesn't care about material things at all. Well educated. Well read. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.02.16, 06:06 PM Flag
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You just described lots and lots of people. Pretty average I'd say. She'll grow out of it, hopefully. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.02.16, 06:06 PM Flag
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She will be 40 this year [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.02.16, 06:07 PM Flag
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When I was 40 I was a lot more unpleasant than I am now. You can still mature and grow in your spirituality well into your middle age :) Depends what you do with yourself. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.02.16, 06:11 PM Flag
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I see very little change in the last 15 years. Some level of maturity but as far as relationships with people and decision making it seems the same [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.02.16, 06:14 PM Flag
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Most normal people arent engaged in self destructive behavior. Most normal people have long term friends. Am I wrong? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.02.16, 06:09 PM Flag
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Not most, some. And most "normal" people do engage in behavior like this you just don't know it because they are circumspect about it. Also what is "normal" at this point? If most people were normal there would not be so many "mental health professionals" around would there? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.02.16, 06:20 PM Flag
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don't most people have friends and develop relationships? statistically this seems to be the case [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.02.16, 07:08 PM Flag
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omg this could kind of describe me. i wonder if my sister is posting about me... if so, it's not on purpose! i care about people and the world we live in hence the kindness to strangers and giving to charity etc but one on one, people really grate on me sometimes. i'm an introvert. so i'm short with my family members and i say mean things sometimes and really truly regret it afterwords but am too embarrassed to apologize. the reason i'm good at being passive aggressive/ saying mean things (only very occasionally!!!) is because i'm so sensitive, as you say. i know what will get under peoples skins because i understand people. and i look for constant confirmation because i am really insecure. i get defensive when mom or sister give me their "opinion" because i take it really personally, but from a stranger, it's much easier to accept. anyways, sorry i'm a bitch sometimes. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.02.16, 06:20 PM Flag
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this could be me too! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.02.16, 06:24 PM Flag
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how do you care about people who care about you? forget the people/world for a second. do you care about a friend you just met more than a friend who you have had a few years? do you ever worry about your family members? (truly worry about them) [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.02.16, 06:29 PM Flag
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if i'm being honest, i take closer friends/family for granted. or- esp with friends- i know how they must be pretty sick of me by now so i invest more time/energy in new friends because i kind of prefer a clean slate. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.02.16, 06:44 PM Flag
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^but YES, i definitely care about and worry about close friends and family. i just take them for granted in terms of- they'll still be around even if i don't call them back, or send them a birthday gift. or occasionally- they probably don't even want a phone call from me, i'm always such a shit to be around. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.02.16, 06:45 PM Flag
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you seem much more self aware which does make a difference in this kind of situation. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.02.16, 06:56 PM Flag
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I think this description tells me much more about the describer -- this sounds like a pushy, critical family member who is hurt that said person is not always nice to her -- sees person being nice to acquaintances and is hurt that person is not always nice to family member "who cares about her", not seeing that family member's pushy behavior can be grating! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.02.16, 06:28 PM Flag
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+1 [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.02.16, 06:37 PM Flag
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and these "random strangers" could be just anyone who is not immediate family- friends, neighbors, coworkers. maybe the person's immediate family (including OP) just freaking grates on this person! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.02.16, 06:50 PM Flag
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op: I guess so basically she has no friends (except the never ending string of new friends who don't know her well enough yet) She has no family of her own because all of her boyfriends grate on her. I have mentally detached to be honest. She can no longer hurt me but she hurts people I most care about. She hurts herself first and foremost and I do love her and I wish there was a way to "fix" her as she is not at all happy under the mask of never ending fun/travel etc [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.02.16, 06:58 PM Flag
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Maybe she is quite happy with the fun and travel and she is not happy when she is back home dealing with her family. It's possible she is quite happy, just unhappy around you guys. Not saying that to be mean, really. Just an idea. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.02.16, 07:13 PM Flag
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No, she is not happy. Ever since I detached from her psychologically she has become much closer to me and she confides in me. I wish her nothing but happiness. I do not actually judge her beyond hurting those who care about her. If she was happy with her life the way it is I wouldn't have worries about her. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.02.16, 07:19 PM Flag
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Because she took you for granted, and you detached, and she is now reaching out to you again the way she reaches out to new friends. This isn't complicated. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.02.16, 07:37 PM Flag
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OMG you are describing... me .... [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.02.16, 06:36 PM Flag
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Sounds a little like my DH. He's definitely got narcissistic tendencies. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.02.16, 06:42 PM Flag
[ - ] So UB oracle: what can we look forward to in 2017? 3 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 12.02.16, 05:55 PM Flag
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Markets will fluctuate. There will be trouble in the Middle East. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.02.16, 06:00 PM Flag
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Economic growth and prosperity [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.02.16, 06:18 PM Flag
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Repeal of obamacare and privatized medicare. Fun. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.02.16, 06:25 PM Flag
[ - ] I have 4 friends who have changed careers to go into nursing. All went to top colleges and grad schools. They are all happy now and enjoy the flexible and meaningful work that they do. One is pursuing her masters in midwifery, despite having a law degree. I'm happy for them but it is a shame that nursing is somehow a stigmatized career for many ambitious college students. So many people would have been better off just pursuing nursing as a college student. 62 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 12.02.16, 05:52 PM Flag
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I agree. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.02.16, 05:53 PM Flag
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It is all based on the perception of low class vs high class [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.02.16, 05:53 PM Flag
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I know so many moms who love to eat McDonalds but they keep it secret because TT moms will shit on them if they knew that the other moms liked McDonalds [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.02.16, 05:53 PM Flag
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Same exact thing, plenty of college women know they will be happier and better off if they major in nursing but are terrified of the other college women who will laugh at them and shit on them if they major in nursing. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.02.16, 05:54 PM Flag
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By nature, women are snarky and snobby and love to call other women NOKD. If you are impervious to the snark of other moms you will make better choices ! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.02.16, 05:55 PM Flag
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Over Thanksgiving, I was talking to two of my nieces, ages 17 and 19, about their career goals and I felt like they were really out of touch with reality in terms of their dreams about having a successful career while also being a present and engaged mom. I told them to consider careers that have a lot of flexibility and I could sense that they were offended by my anti-feminism. I'm a SAHM mom but this was after having a pretty high-powered consulting career and I know they were judging me. :( [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.02.16, 05:57 PM Flag
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This. Most women live in fantasyland. Women with low IQ go to college anyway and get a degree in psychology or media studies and then get $12 an hour jobs and never pay off student loans. Sad how unrealistic women are [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.02.16, 06:03 PM Flag
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SING IT! Having never earned much money, they have no sense of how much money they are flushing down the toilet getting their worthless degree. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.02.16, 06:14 PM Flag
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.....or, maybe they just aren't as materialistic as you.... [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.02.16, 06:53 PM Flag
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I'm glad nurses do well, but I am put off by the "women as carers" thing. I'd rather see these women become doctors and work to change the system to introduce more flexibility rather than defaulting to a "helping" role [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.02.16, 05:56 PM Flag
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^its basically admitting defeat. These are the women with the most power, education, etc. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.02.16, 05:58 PM Flag
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No, it's not. It's admitting that many women do not want the same things as men and are happy in a traditional women's career. It's not a negative. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.02.16, 06:16 PM Flag
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Op-I agree, but then they should just not go to law school. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.02.16, 06:21 PM Flag
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They didn't feel they could! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.02.16, 06:25 PM Flag
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What?? Op is talking about women who went to top colleges and law schools! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.02.16, 06:29 PM Flag
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Yes, because they felt the pressure and expectations from friends and family and that nursing was not an acceptable path. So they have to get their indirectly. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.02.16, 06:35 PM Flag
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*there* [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.02.16, 06:35 PM Flag
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My friends had no interest in becoming doctors while they were in college. They were all in traditionally "masculine" fields and all felt like their careers did not justify being away from family so much. Nursing is a pretty gratifying job and there are a lot of accelerated programs that get you into pretty good jobs within 1-2 years. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.02.16, 05:59 PM Flag
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I'm not disagreeing with the points you're making, but it's totally anti feminist, and that drives me crazy. I'm in construction management and do very well and have carved out a workable schedule. I think more women should actually try to do this. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.02.16, 06:02 PM Flag
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This is true. All of the smart women I know (all of them) who want to work part time have part time jobs. It is the non smart women who claim they can't find part tiem [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.02.16, 06:11 PM Flag
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Well, then you are just showing your privilege by being in an industry that allows you to carve out a workable schedule. Most people (women) don't have this option. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.02.16, 06:14 PM Flag
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Excuse me? Did you miss the part where I said I work in construction??? Lol. I see maybe two women a week in my line of work. It works for me because I proved I can get shit done and made it happen. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.02.16, 06:16 PM Flag
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Np. I love you. Women who are peoductive and get shit done can easily get thirty hour a week jobs. You need to post more [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.02.16, 06:18 PM Flag
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Thanks! I work 40 hrs and no more. No evening calls or Saturday emails. Make 200k. I'm happy with that balance and enjoy my job. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.02.16, 06:20 PM Flag
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Yes, like nursing jobs. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.02.16, 06:22 PM Flag
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You just said that you carved out a workable schedule. I am literally quoting YOU. You can afford to "get shit done and make it happen" because you have the privilege of having a workable schedule. Many women do not, which is why they quit. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.02.16, 06:22 PM Flag
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Op is encouraging them to not even try. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.02.16, 06:25 PM Flag
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She fucking earned it! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.02.16, 06:28 PM Flag
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We have no clue what her industry is. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.02.16, 07:31 PM Flag
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How is it anti-feminist? These women are choosing their own path and they also happened to lose hundreds of thousands of dollars in opportunity cost by choosing the feminist-way. Yes, women and men are equal, but it's stupid not to recognize that if a woman wants to become a mom and especially a nurturing mom, that sacrifices will likely have to be made if her industry does not allow for flexibility. It's completely misleading to teach young women to pursue the exact same paths as men without warning them of potential consequences. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.02.16, 06:16 PM Flag
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It's not anti-feminist, it's pro-feminist to encourage women to do jobs they are actually interested in (which may involve caregiving and nurturing). We need to giving these jobs higher value. That would be feminist! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.02.16, 06:20 PM Flag
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The his is true. But it's anti feminist to encourage them to do this. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.02.16, 06:22 PM Flag
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This. if you look at lifetime income, Nursing is a higher return investment. You get a good job right away, as opposed to medicine [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.02.16, 06:04 PM Flag
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Most nurses I know felt settled in to a good job at a very early age and as a result had three kids. Female doctors felt unsettled and all had zero or one kid. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.02.16, 06:04 PM Flag
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You're missing my point--hey women, work to change things! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.02.16, 06:05 PM Flag
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I don't even understand your point. To be a brain surgeon you need to stay in training until you are 35!!! No woman can become a brain surgeon and still have three kids [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.02.16, 06:10 PM Flag
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Ok you're starting from "it's impossible". Of course you'll never get anywhere. You don't actually want to. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.02.16, 06:17 PM Flag
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It's one thing to pursue being a medical specialist when you are 18 years old. Fine. But to be 35 and realize that you are never seeing your kids during the weekdays is another thing. Plans change. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.02.16, 06:23 PM Flag
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Things did change and it turns out that most women don't want to toil away at finance and big law and miss their children's childhoods, although 12-15% do. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.02.16, 06:34 PM Flag
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But would they want to if they could leave at 5 every night and take home six figures? I think more would, yes. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.02.16, 06:36 PM Flag
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Absolutely! But the work, especially deal work, is all-consuming and the best employees are those that can devote themselves at any time. The other jobs are mommy track and not near as exciting. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.02.16, 06:40 PM Flag
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I'm an MD and I feel nursing is a different career that requires some different skills. Neither is better or worse or more suited to one gender, they are just different types of medical careers. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.02.16, 07:45 PM Flag
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Lots of women have nurturing abilities as their strong point and are happy and successful in helping roles. Why not celebrate and support that? And other women are cut out to be excellent doctors. But more women than men are cut out to be nurses. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.02.16, 06:15 PM Flag
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That's fine. Then they shouldn't take up space in professional grad programs, or whatevet [ Reply | More ]
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That's OP's point. If we placed a higher value on nursing, women could go directly to nursing school and not waste time in, or fill a slot of, a professional grad program. [ Reply | More ]
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Nursing is rewarding and pays well. But it's not intellectually engaging or demanding, sorry. I'm not sure why we should encourage intelligent girls who are intellectually curious to go there. I really don't. [ Reply | More ]
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Because the vast majority of women do not have the luxury of focusing exclusively on a career, as do most men, due to either their interest in taking care of their children or the lack of support from a husband. Women who want to focus on a career "like a man" need to marry a man who will be the primary caregiver, not marry (choice of many) or have just one child. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.02.16, 06:31 PM Flag
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Or--they could share. And delegate some of the child rearing to others. It doesn't have to be all or nothing. For men or for women. [ Reply | More ]
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Many women shy away from something demanding once they have children. Your thinking is not typical of most women, however much we wish that women were just as ambitious as men. [ Reply | More ]
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I meant intellectually demanding. And if what you're saying is true, that's just depressing. [ Reply | More ]
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Intellectually demanding careers require *focus* and long hours which is exactly what women, pulled in 100 directions, do not have. If women want to focus, it's better to skip marriage and children, without question. But then again, women get to have children, which is a big source of satisfaction for many. It's not like they wish they were men! [ Reply | More ]
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Well I'm Or and I have all those things. Because I fought for them and looked hard until I found opportunities that worked for me. If someone wants to be a nurse, more power to her! But what you're arguing is a total cop out. [ Reply | More ]
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Everyone basically does what works for them. I wouldn't be so quick to call the decisions of others "cop outs." You wanted what you wanted and fought hard and others do what they want. [ Reply | More ]
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Yeah except the decision made by women in the workplace actually affect all women. So it's not so simple in reality. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.02.16, 06:51 PM Flag
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Really? Ever heard of a nurse anesthetist? Intellectually engaging and demanding. Do some research before you make uneducated responses. [ Reply | More ]
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Oh please. Yes, I assume SOME nursing jobs are interesting, sure. But most..come on. [ Reply | More ]
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I'm a nurse and my job is extremely interesting! I work in the NICU and it certainly requires some intelligence - at least to be good at it it does. [ Reply | More ]
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Is there any way to become a nurse without wiping strangers' asses? My SIL, who's a nurse, is constantly telling me to do the same, but I don't think I could get over this part. [ Reply | More ]
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CRNA. Autonomy. Put them under. Bring them back. Take them to the PACU....done. Next. [ Reply | More ]
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I'm talking about the schooling/training, not the day-to-day once your career has started. [ Reply | More ]
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No, when you are in school and doing clinicals, you have to do the work of the nursing assistant as part of your training pretty much. Once you are an RN, you don't really wipe strangers assess unless you don't have a nursing assistant/ tech for some reason that day. [ Reply | More ]
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That's what I thought, thanks for the honest answer. [ Reply | More ]
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[ - ] How much would you guess the Hunter cutoff will be this year. It seems the scores are really high this year 7 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
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More Asians move to NY every year so isn't it inevitable that the cut off will go up every year [ Reply | More ]
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This. [ Reply | More ]
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except that it has been falling for 7-8 years [ Reply | More ]
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Curve adjustment [ Reply | More ]
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My dc is at a G&T citywide and 60% of the class is Asian [ Reply | More ]
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So leave. [ Reply | More ]
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everyone says that every year. I bet 142- 144. [ Reply | More ]
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[ - ] Spin off. I do not understand the people that want New York to give free housing to the homeless 28 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
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Aren't there more than 50 million people in America that would love to have a free apartment in Manhattan? [ Reply | More ]
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If word gets out that anyone can move to New York, sign a form claiming to be homeless and be gifted a free apartment, won't 50 million people move here to claim the free apartment in their name. [ Reply | More ]
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I know the moms who want to give apartments to the homeless have a good heart, nice people. But just seems illogical to me [ Reply | More ]
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"Anyone who is not a socialist when they are young HAS NO HEART - Winston Churchill" [ Reply | More ]
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"Anyone who is still a socialist when they are old HAS NO BRAIN "- Winston Churchill [ Reply | More ]
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+1 [ Reply | More ]
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Not really. If you want that "free" apartment in the Bronx or some equally shitty hellhole, feel free. These apartments are not exactly prime real estate in Manhattan on Park and 63rd. [ Reply | More ]
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I'm sure people would move just about anywhere for a free apt, but they likely wouldn't be homeless. [ Reply | More ]
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+1 it would be grifters. True homeless wouldn't be able to execute a huge move like that. Hell, it's hard for anyone to move a long distance. [ Reply | More ]
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Because it's actually cheaper than having them live on the street. [ Reply | More ]
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How so? It's not like putting them in a house is going to change their need for social services. [ Reply | More ]
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The larger issue is, if word gets out that you can move to Manhattan and call yourself homeless you get a free apartment, millions will move here [ Reply | More ]
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Not really. If you want that "free" apartment in the Bronx or some equally shitty hellhole, feel free. These apartments are not exactly prime real estate in Manhattan on Park and 63rd. [ Reply | More ]
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A lot of them don't even want to live in a house. At least in San Francisco. It requires a lot of work and upkeep to take care of a house vs. sleeping in a tent and crapping on a sidewalk. [ Reply | More ]
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They need MORE social services on the street. Studies have shown that once they have housing, they are more equipped to maintain their health, feed themselves and live relatively stable lives. On the street they need the services of police, hospitals, etc. [ Reply | More ]
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I would question any such study. They are incapable of taking care of themselves. That's why they became homeless. You can't feed yourself if you are having a psychotic episode, are suicidal or binge drinking. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.02.16, 06:07 PM Flag
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Do you want them to live with you? [ Reply | More ]
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Spin off - I am a loving caring generous mom. I agree that homeless people all deserve studio apartments. And I agree that it is better for Society if every single homeless person is given a free studio [ Reply | More ]
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However, if you offer free studios in TT locations like the NY Metro area you get too many people. I propose that the federal government build millions of really nice studio apartments in Tuscon and offer these free studio apartments to any citizen of the US that claims to be homeless [ Reply | More ]
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By putting the studios in Tuscon, only the truly homeless will claim them. But every single truly homeless person in America can have a free studio. It is a win win for everyone in America. It helps the truly needy without attracting fakers and liars to Manhattan [ Reply | More ]
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Omg...you nycers are so fucking elitist. Jeez...move YOUR homeless problem to Tucson where they have a nice affordable standard of living without the problems of NYC. Just outsource your homeless problem to further your ideal utopia. [ Reply | More ]
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Come on, don't you realize you're replying to a troll? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.02.16, 06:35 PM Flag
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Then what stops you from lying and getting stupid apartment rent free? And how will all the other renters feel when they find out they have to chuck upwards of $1k per month and their neighbor gets free rent? [ Reply | More ]
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I like you and all your objections are right. My solution is to build all the apartments in Tuscon- millions of them - that way ONLY the really homeless will claim the aprtment not the fake homeless. [ Reply | More ]
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Suck it up, Tucson. [ Reply | More ]
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Those apartments would get filled not by those who truly need it but by those who are a few levels up - poor but relatively able to support themselves but looking for handouts. [ Reply | More ]
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Correct. That's what I said. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.02.16, 06:26 PM Flag
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Because we know that many lost their ability to have apt.s b/c the rent is too damn high. There used to be tenaments, flop houses, row houses in Chelsea when I was growing up. Little by little in the late 70's and early 80's coops and condos were replacing them. Homeless population began to surge. I know many homeless families too btw. Many are moms who had bad divorces and can't scrape together the cash etc to get a new place. These were blue collar people who always worked. It's interesting at least to me to see this fact. [ Reply | More ]
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[ - ] Benefitted or benefited? Google is not my friend on this one. TIA 1 Reply [ Reply | Watch | More ]
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Benefited. [ Reply | More ]
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[ - ] I went to SUNY Cortland. But I married TT . Major TT. I was 26 he was 38 . Sill very happy, he's a good guy. Married 12 years - 4 DC's. He wanted a wonderful nurturing and loving mother for his children. And he always teases me, that he couldn't pass up my "genes" . Looks do matter, in addition to brains. 26 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
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WTF? [ Reply | More ]
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This. So gross. [ Reply | More ]
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its follow-up to the post about the future of our children, if they just attend "average" schools, will they be ok. [ Reply | More ]
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I agree with the OP. She is right. [ Reply | More ]
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Some TT guys want to marry the hottest wife possible [ Reply | More ]
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Some TT guys marry women who they think are nice [ Reply | More ]
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And some TT guys want to marry women with genetically high IQ. Zuck married in order to have high IQ kids. [ Reply | More ]
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Each TT guy has different criteria. One size does not fit all. that is what the OP is sayin' [ Reply | More ]
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And some TT guys frequent prostitutes around the world. Who the fuck cares?? [ Reply | More ]
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This. OP is correct. OP keep it coming ! [ Reply | More ]
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interesting - i thought it was love [ Reply | More ]
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THIS. He was with her before FB became successful. The women on here can be ridiculous. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.02.16, 06:37 PM Flag
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Ok op [ Reply | More ]
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Well, of course, but most people are not good looking. So, they shop for the best pre-k. [ Reply | More ]
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LOL [ Reply | More ]
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OP Here : My post was about yes that looks do matter - unfortunately this is true. We had a post here a few days ago, discussing if teachers preferred better looking children or if kids who were good looking were more apt to be accepted to the TT Privates. My post has been on my mind since someone asked last night about colleges and I have always been ashamed of Suny Cortland, and embarrassed that I went there. I was into athletics and thought it was a good choice, as I was thinking more about that, than academics, but that despite the school, things worked out OK for me. [ Reply | More ]
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The bigger question is whether you think Trump (or either of his sons) is TT and if that's the kind of guy we are talking about [ Reply | More ]
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Not OP, but yes, they are TTT [ Reply | More ]
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Blech. [ Reply | More ]
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OP : I'm not a Trump Supporter, but I find the two sons to be good looking , well spoken & successful. I dont think they are a bad catch if thats what you are asking. [ Reply | More ]
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You've got to be kidding me. One is kind of good looking but looks like American Psychopath, and the other is NOT good looking. If he was poor you wouldn't say "but at least he's good looking." [ Reply | More ]
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The married "TT" - God, I hate that term - guy I've been sleeping with for years is married to a beautiful commoner. He absolutely values her mothering instincts and appreciates her (fleeting) beauty, but the rest of her leaves him cold. [ Reply | More ]
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TT's will sometimes marry an average looking Ivy TT wife, but bang the SUNY girls on the side. OP managed to get a ring on it , good for her ! [ Reply | More ]
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She never said anything about Ivy. [ Reply | More ]
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Someone up above just said that the Trumps are TTT (I'm not sure whether that's in the "above the law" vernacular or meant to be a compliment). Assuming it's the latter, so did Melania... [ Reply | More ]
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my friend went to CUNY and became a nuclear engineer. All this drivel about tt this and tt that is nonsense. [ Reply | More ]
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[ - ] Looking for advice...My sons daycare -(nice upscale NJ town) is asking each family to share their holiday traditions. We don't have any. We are Russian born, Jewish atheists, so we dont celebrate either Christmas or Hanukkah. I don't know what to do...feel kind of embarrassed:( 44 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
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just ignore [ Reply | More ]
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op: I cant they dedicated each day in December for each family to come and share their traditions. My son's is supposed to be on the 19th. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.02.16, 05:43 PM Flag
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Make it up and pretend you carry out Orthodox celebrations. [ Reply | More ]
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So what do you do if you have the day off? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.02.16, 05:42 PM Flag
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So get off UB and get a life. Then you'll have some traditions to pass down instead of raising your children to be lumps. [ Reply | More ]
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Mean but true [ Reply | More ]
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Then write down that you go out to eat at a Chinese restaurant and then go to the movies. [ Reply | More ]
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I'm sure there are some fun Russian holiday traditions. They don't need to be religious. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.02.16, 05:43 PM Flag
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Bring in some kefir and dixie cups to taste [ Reply | More ]
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Dress like Ebenezer Scrooge. Dress DC like Scrooge McDuck. Bring some saltines and spray cheese. Draw stars of David with the cheese but put an "X" through it. [ Reply | More ]
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Tell them exactly that. We go skiing on Christmas because it's not crowded and half-price. I'd say that's our holiday tradition! [ Reply | More ]
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^ps, god, I hate this kind of shit! [ Reply | More ]
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our school did this too, but in 2nd grade. DS talked about how we go apple picking every year. When DD was in 2nd grade she talked about our annual summer day trip to Coney Island. [ Reply | More ]
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op: it needs to be "holiday" tradition. We do not have any. We usually try to go away for Xmas. We do celebrate New Year, but we dont have anything like baking cookies for Santa etc. [ Reply | More ]
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my school had a recent thing about family traditions. Are there traditions associated with your traveling -- like you always go the same place, or you sit down as a family and pick a destination? If not, talk about New Year's celebration. [ Reply | More ]
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Are you saying you spoke to the teacher and she told you that traditions that don't relate to a holiday are not welcome? I highly doubt this. She may well have written "holiday traditions" because it never occurred to her that some family don't have them. Once you explain it to her, I'm sure she will be thrilled with whatever you come up with. My children's 2nd grade teacher, FWIW, pulled me aside one day to say how much more meaningful my kids traditions were than the vast majority of the ones she usually hears. Her kids are all grown up and she said my children reminder her about how important family time is. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.02.16, 06:23 PM Flag
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if its your first child dont you think its time that you work a little on creating some traditions. ?? [ Reply | More ]
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op: I have older child, who was raised in NYC so it was more diverse in terms of beliefs. [ Reply | More ]
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It's not about belief, it's about tradition [ Reply | More ]
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This. OP, read this again. What do you do on Christmas Day when everything is closed and 90% of people in NYC treat it as some kind of holiday whether religious or not [ Reply | More ]
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OMG. I just read that in a thick, Russian accent. I said, "biuhliffs." LOL. [ Reply | More ]
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Don't you celebrate anything? You dh doesn't believe in anything either? [ Reply | More ]
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op: we both were raised culturally Jewish, but we dont go to temple or anything like that. [ Reply | More ]
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just make up some things ....how old is your DC ? just be honest and say that you are starting to create traditions now that you have DC's and name 3 or 4 - use the word :holiday; very generic. or can you make New Years Eve be the new "special" holiday ? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.02.16, 05:51 PM Flag
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Tell them DH's family was murdered on Christmas. They'll excuse you. [ Reply | More ]
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OMG - LOL. [ Reply | More ]
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Festivus [ Reply | More ]
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yes. [ Reply | More ]
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Your life sounds depressing. Why did you move here? [ Reply | More ]
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You are me. However, I believe in God (although not in organized religion) and celebrate each holidays that comes along. We have had a live tree in our home since "my country" and I have happily kept the tradition alive since I've been here. For the last 39 years. It does not need to be a holiday that signifies specific religious tradition. You can simply have few of your choice and make them fit your understanding of what you're celebrating. Remember its not all about Jesus or Yahweh. It could be about people being a little nicer to each other during two weeks a year and having glittering decorations and a home filled with fresh evergreen smell and baking cookies. [ Reply | More ]
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the tree has lived 39 years ?? [ Reply | More ]
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lol :). New tree each year...And then I harvest pine needles and use them for different things [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.02.16, 06:27 PM Flag
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This. I view holidays as a nice time to be with family...share nice thoughts and good vibes in the community. Give to the less fortunate, make nice traditional foods each year. Lots you can do that doesn't have anything to do with the religious aspects of the holiday. [ Reply | More ]
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maybe what things do you do as a family in the winter: make cookies, drink hot cocoa, go sledding, go for a walk on saturdays, etc. [ Reply | More ]
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Say we enjoy the snow and we don't conform to religion. They should get a clue. [ Reply | More ]
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Do you have any food/cookies that you typically make at year end? It can be a winter or new year's tradition as well. [ Reply | More ]
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Maybe you can read a winter-themed picture book to the group instead? For example, The Mitten by Jan Brett, The Snowy Day by Ezra Jack Keats. This way dc doesn't feel left out if you guys are the only ones who don't do something? [ Reply | More ]
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good ideas, we love the snowy day book - i love this group and i'm not even OP. - p.s . does OP seems rigid ?. [ Reply | More ]
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Yes. She seems like a bah humbug. She should have moved here if she doesn't like holidays. It's part of American tradition. If she doesn't like it, she should keep her mouth shut, figure something out to help her kid fit into American culture, or move back to Russia. [ Reply | More ]
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you sound like a Grinch! So intolerant! Did you read what you posted before you pressed "reply"? Sometime if you read what you wrote you may edit before showing the world the extend of your nastiness...Just sayin' btw. I am not OP [ Reply | More ]
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extent [ Reply | More ]
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LOVE snowy day! Did you see the cartoon? based on that book. [ Reply | More ]
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Do you play in the snow, make hot chocolate? Have cookies? Just do that. The kids DO NOT CARE. [ Reply | More ]
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Summit is awful. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.02.16, 06:47 PM Flag
[ - ] So De Blasio wants NYers to house homeless people and pay them to do it? Is he insane?? 13 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
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Pay them how much? And how is it different from having foster kids? [ Reply | More ]
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He's saying up to $1800 per household. Would you consider it? [ Reply | More ]
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Hell no [ Reply | More ]
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maybe for 1800 an hour [ Reply | More ]
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Link please [ Reply | More ]
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I feel terrible for homeless people. But let me ask in a humble way, if you New Yorkers are a sanctuary city and hundreds of thousands of poor Hispanics move from Guatemala to NY how can you ever solve the homeless crisis [ Reply | More ]
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I mean look at it logically.. Hundreds of thousands of people from Honduras and Guatemala move to Manhattan and declare themselves to be homeless - if you want to help the homeless and do not discriminate between citizens and illegals, aren't you new Yorkers signing up to give housing to hundreds of thousands or even millions of illegals that move to your city? [ Reply | More ]
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I feel like they live with me anyway. [ Reply | More ]
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lmao [ Reply | More ]
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How can anyone possibly offer illegal immigrants any social services? The number of illegal immigrants is effectively unlimited. [ Reply | More ]
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He would prefer that than give up his dirty real estate development deals. He should bring back the voucher program from Bloomberg. [ Reply | More ]
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He would prefer that than give up his dirty real estate development deals. He should bring back the voucher program from Bloomberg. [ Reply | More ]
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I think it's a program to encourage families to take in their homeless relatives. It's cheaper than housing them but I don't get why family needs a paycheck to take care of its own. [ Reply | More ]
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[ - ] Can anyone please recommend tutoring on the upper east side? My daughter is in 8th grade, has ADHD, and cannot get through her homework. She now has a 57 average. I have learned, and accepted, that I cannot be the one to go through her backpack and help with homework. It's a horrible, dramatic battle when I try. She really needs help - either a center she goes to, or someone that would come to our house. Pls share any leads at all. Thanks. 16 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
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Is she on ADHD meds? [ Reply | More ]
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counseling [ Reply | More ]
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She needs to get through algebra. If we have time, she can then go to therapy. Priorities. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.02.16, 05:43 PM Flag
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My DD was diagnosed in 4th grade. By 8th grade, the workload was just too much for her to handle without meds. It was like day and night in our house when she started Ritalin. I highly recommend getting her on meds. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.02.16, 05:49 PM Flag
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She's on meds ffs. I'm looking for tutors, why are we discussing her meds. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.02.16, 05:55 PM Flag
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Why would tutors help if she isn't doing the work now? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.02.16, 06:06 PM Flag
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NP sounds like the dd is lacking executive function skills to organize herself and get her homework out and start on it/complete it. She is a preteen and needs an adult to help her do these things at home so she can pass the classes but there is too much drama when it is mom helping her. OP - look for someone who can scaffold executive function skills. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.02.16, 06:46 PM Flag
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You sound rude. People are only trying to help [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.02.16, 06:12 PM Flag
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This. OP your attitude sucks. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.02.16, 07:02 PM Flag
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Wait. You don't have time for her, only for her to achieve? Hmmm. I don't think this is ADHD.(whatever the fuck that is) [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.02.16, 06:36 PM Flag
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Yup. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.02.16, 05:43 PM Flag
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Look on wyzant. That's where I advertise. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.02.16, 05:41 PM Flag
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Try MAIA, or EBL Coaching [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.02.16, 05:46 PM Flag
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Maybe transfer her to an easier school? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.02.16, 06:11 PM Flag
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I am living this hell with my 6th grader now. Do you think that it is ADHD or could it be something else? We are having dc evaluated for ADHD and dysgraphia. I don't know about tutors on UES but good luck to you. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.02.16, 06:44 PM Flag
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Ask at her school. the teachers must know tutors. or ask the other moms, especially those in older grades. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.02.16, 06:48 PM Flag
[ - ] When I was in my teens and twenties, I visited nursing homes and hospitals first as a volunteer, then to see dh's grandmother. I played piano for them. I was such a nice girl. Now I basically despise old people. 20 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 12.02.16, 05:29 PM Flag
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awww [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.02.16, 05:31 PM Flag
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What happened? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.02.16, 05:31 PM Flag
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I guess I thought my mom would visit my dcs more once her mom finally died at 95, but nope. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.02.16, 05:35 PM Flag
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So basically you used to think they were cute caricatures, and now you realize they're real people and some suck? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.02.16, 05:39 PM Flag
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Wtf. You're a weirdo. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.02.16, 05:49 PM Flag
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Because being one is quickly becoming your reality [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.02.16, 05:32 PM Flag
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What changed? Is it because you are getting closer to old age yourself? because I am just the opposite. The older I get the less I dislike them [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.02.16, 05:33 PM Flag
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I can explain...you're becoming one and you hate it. It's called projected self-rejection. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.02.16, 05:33 PM Flag
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I'm only 43, is that old enough for this? Always had a round baby face which was not an asset but kind of is now. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.02.16, 05:34 PM Flag
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I'm 43 too but some old people are pretty annoying. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.02.16, 05:35 PM Flag
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Wow everything is about you. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.02.16, 05:35 PM Flag
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It's not you. It's them. I'm surprised it took you so long. The best thing you can do is not become one of the bitter ones, in denial about getting old. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.02.16, 05:39 PM Flag
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It's pretty much her. Her mom has the nerve to want to enjoy her life after caring for her elderly mother instead of dancing attendance on ops kids and she's bitter at all "old people " because of it. She sounds like a delight. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.02.16, 05:51 PM Flag
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Nah. I used to work with them. Most of them are awful. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.02.16, 05:52 PM Flag
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op: She used to visit grandma twice per year. She visits us maybe about that often. Lives a 1 hour flight away. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.02.16, 06:32 PM Flag
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I sang the theme to Rocky while my friend played the piano at a nursing home when we were in Girl Scouts. I still think of those poor people, unable to escape us under their own power [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.02.16, 05:44 PM Flag
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lol [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.02.16, 05:48 PM Flag
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hahaha! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.02.16, 05:57 PM Flag
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Lmao [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.02.16, 06:28 PM Flag
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Nice sharing. Here's a lollipop. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.02.16, 06:02 PM Flag
[ - ] What is a quintessential Christmas breakfast? Cinnamon rolls? My in laws requested this since I guess they were not happy with what I made last year (quiche and bacon and fresh fruit). 61 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 12.02.16, 05:20 PM Flag
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they sound like jerks. its not hard to add those to the mix, i would do what you did and have the rolls also. i'm sure lots of others loved the quiche! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.02.16, 05:22 PM Flag
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Aww. sounds nice to me. do all? Then everyone gets something. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.02.16, 05:22 PM Flag
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Quiche is just controversial. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.02.16, 05:23 PM Flag
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what is controversial about it? It's just eggs in a crust. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.02.16, 05:24 PM Flag
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I really dislike quiche...too eggy. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.02.16, 05:25 PM Flag
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LOL ok, so what do you like for xmas breakfast? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.02.16, 05:27 PM Flag
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Pancakes, waffles, bacon, sausage, Potato casserole, hash browns, croissants, french toast. Just not eggs. Not flaming anyone, just not my taste (I get gassy, oK? haha). [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.02.16, 06:03 PM Flag
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*I'd love bagel platter with all the trimmings too. Fish salad (Jewish Xmas, maybe?). [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.02.16, 06:03 PM Flag
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OR: People either love it or hate it. There's not much middle ground with quiche. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.02.16, 05:29 PM Flag
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I find quiche to be pretty bland and unobjectionable. It's an omelet pie. Who can get passionate about that?? It not tripe. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.02.16, 05:54 PM Flag
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I dislike eggs. I can choke down scrambled eggs to be polite, but quiche is just a bridge too far for some reason. It's somehow even eggier than just plain eggs. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.02.16, 05:55 PM Flag
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LOL controversial quiche [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.02.16, 05:26 PM Flag
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I was a guest this year for Thanksgiving and the host made some kind of french toast casserole for breakfast. It was delicious and she had prepared it the night before and it soaks over night and then you just throw it in the oven in the morning. Something like that could be good for Christmas morning. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.02.16, 05:30 PM Flag
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I made that for thanksgiving weekend brunch. Served with sausage and fruit salad to much acclaim. Warm up syrup in a little pitcher. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.02.16, 05:54 PM Flag
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nnp recipe? :) [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.02.16, 05:55 PM Flag
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Np: like what SJP tried to make in "The Family Stone?" [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.02.16, 06:08 PM Flag
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Google a recipe for a french toast casserole type breakfast. I had one once at a friend's house and it was amazing. Everyone loved it and she was able to make it the night before. She just popped it into the oven in the morning. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.02.16, 05:28 PM Flag
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When you're a guest in someone house you eat what you're given and smile in thanks. Your inlaws are tactless boors. Give them dry toast and diner jelly pockets. That should teach them [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.02.16, 05:28 PM Flag
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This [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.02.16, 05:54 PM Flag
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I'm from the Midwest and you absolutely have to have Cinnamon Rolls on Christmas morning. Add in some scrambled eggs, bacon, sausage links, and biscuits...now that's Christmas morning!! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.02.16, 05:30 PM Flag
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That's a paved road to heart disease hell [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.02.16, 05:32 PM Flag
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Calm down, it's one day! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.02.16, 05:36 PM Flag
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Maybe toss in some mimosas so you can nail your liver, too. :) [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.02.16, 05:37 PM Flag
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Y'all must be Jewish, you just don't get this! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.02.16, 05:39 PM Flag
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Kidding. Champagne at Christmas is a thing at my house. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.02.16, 05:40 PM Flag
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Sorry I just cannot eat like this. I dropped 45 lbs in less than 6 months and the weight is still coming off because I am eating right and I fixed my digestive process. My son dropped 14 lbs and went back to his normal clothes size (age appropriate) following modified eating plan. There is no way in hell I'll be ingesting the crap that kills your body. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.02.16, 05:43 PM Flag
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Sounds like you both are genetically predetermined to be overweight. Sucks for you but some of us can enjoy this type of breakfast once a year and live a normal life. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.02.16, 05:46 PM Flag
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This. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.02.16, 05:55 PM Flag
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its not about being overweight its about ingesting shit that will make your body sick. I didn't lose weight to be skinny, I needed to be healthy. Weight loss was a "side effect" of eating right [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.02.16, 06:02 PM Flag
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So what's your quintessential Christmas breakfast? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.02.16, 06:05 PM Flag
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I don't really have one. We eat differently every year. There is only two of us right now so it is much easier not to worry about what we should be eating or doing jut because everyone else does it or expects it. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.02.16, 06:13 PM Flag
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I wasn't asking about "everyone else," I just wondered what a special breakfast might be for you. But it sounds as though this isn't your thing, so ok. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.02.16, 06:15 PM Flag
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No one is making you, it's ok. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.02.16, 05:50 PM Flag
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You sound insane. How fat was your poor kid. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.02.16, 05:55 PM Flag
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No one was too fat. My kid was wearing size 14H when he was not yet 11. He is now wearing 12 regular which is according to his age. He feels better. And btw, I didn't make him do anything. I never do. He wanted to imitate what I was doing because he saw how well I felt. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.02.16, 06:15 PM Flag
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fine for a special occasion [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.02.16, 05:36 PM Flag
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Of course you're in the Midwest... [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.02.16, 05:47 PM Flag
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Maybe OP doesnt feel like slaving in the kitchen all morning. - Maybe In-Laws should bake their own damn cinnamon buns ! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.02.16, 05:32 PM Flag
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this! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.02.16, 05:33 PM Flag
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np: I make the pillsbury ones in the tube. Just like mom used to! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.02.16, 05:35 PM Flag
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I always make my DH go out for bagels. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.02.16, 05:33 PM Flag
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We always have hot chocolate with grilled ham and gruyere, plus fruits. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.02.16, 05:34 PM Flag
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That sounds delicious. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.02.16, 05:35 PM Flag
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Sounds fantastic. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.02.16, 05:36 PM Flag
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YUM [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.02.16, 05:47 PM Flag
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OP, your breakfast sounds fantastic. Cinnamon rolls or french toast casserole would also be great. Your in laws might not have been very tactful, but it's okay for them to have a preference and nice of you to consider it. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.02.16, 05:38 PM Flag
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Traditional for our family: a Scandinavian rye bread (made ahead of time), sausages, clementines, coffee and hot cocoa. Simple but tasty and doesn't require a lot of work. We like a lazy Christmas morning! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.02.16, 05:39 PM Flag
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Panettone french toast, bacon, eggs, fruit, juice, coffee, milk. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.02.16, 05:44 PM Flag
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who cares what is quintessential. They want cinnamon rolls. Give them cinnamon rolls. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.02.16, 05:49 PM Flag
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not op, anyone know of a very easy, foolproof cinnamon roll recipe? not a baker but I'm sure Dcs would enjoy cinnamon rolls christmas morning too. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.02.16, 05:51 PM Flag
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Pillsbury from the can in the dairy section. Not kidding, they are good. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.02.16, 06:01 PM Flag
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+1 (I also posted above) - they are easy, good and idiot proof. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.02.16, 06:03 PM Flag
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pp: really? I'm not against baking help (I do cake and brownie mixes) but other Pillsbury stuff, like cookie dough and rolls, always seems to have an odd processed taste to them. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.02.16, 06:08 PM Flag
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I really dislike their cookie dough, too. The cinnamon rolls are better - they're obviously not the same as homemade, but if you don't want to mess around with cooking rolls from scratch on Xmas or the night before, they're pretty good. They are also smaller (do not buy the cinnabon version) than the giant rolls you see in bakeries, which I like. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.02.16, 06:10 PM Flag
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Thanks, I'll give it a whirl! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.02.16, 06:14 PM Flag
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Hope I haven't oversold them! Just try it randomly some weekend. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.02.16, 06:16 PM Flag
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They just asked for a quintessential Christmas breakfast without being specific. When I asked for specific dishes, they said, "Oh, whatever is easiest for you" so that's why I was asking. The cinnamon rolls were my guess after reading online. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.02.16, 05:53 PM Flag
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WTF? That's very rude. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.02.16, 05:54 PM Flag
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+1 [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.02.16, 06:10 PM Flag
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Make monkey bread. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.02.16, 05:50 PM Flag
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Put a spiral ham on a side board, some nice breads, croissants, butter (composed), lox, bagels, etc [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.02.16, 06:04 PM Flag
[ - ] Looking to buy a 3bd 2 bath apt in NYC - ideally UWS or UES. What price range for decent, not walk up non fancy building? TIA 13 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 12.02.16, 05:20 PM Flag
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$2.5m in a coop, presuming a true 3-bed, not a den that could become the 3rd bed [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.02.16, 05:21 PM Flag
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That seems really low. Everything that's nice is like $3-4MM [ Reply | More ]
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cheapest would be 1.7 and upwards ... [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.02.16, 05:22 PM Flag
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oo nice. that is how much mine is worth now??! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.02.16, 05:25 PM Flag
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1.3MM [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.02.16, 05:23 PM Flag
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op - really I have seen nothing in this price range? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.02.16, 05:28 PM Flag
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sorry I guess my brain is stuck a few years ago when I last searched. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.02.16, 05:31 PM Flag
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op - follow up question - should we hold off on buying given politics etc [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.02.16, 05:29 PM Flag
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I wouldn't worry about that. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.02.16, 05:31 PM Flag
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Why would politics have any effect on real estate prices now? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.02.16, 06:49 PM Flag
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tax changes, instability [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.02.16, 07:06 PM Flag
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we've been looking for exactly this for a while on the UES. In the 60s there are several convertible 3s coops listed around 1.5M (2nd/3rd ave). For the 80s/90s this is closer to 2.2M for some reason. The value is in the 60s. For condos, around 2.5M minimum. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.02.16, 06:08 PM Flag
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I would never want to live in the 60s. BRIDGE TRAFFIC [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.02.16, 06:50 PM Flag
[ - ] My husband and I are both self employed. His business did $7 million this year and he drew $300k, my business is a service business so few expenses and my net was $150k. We own our home (with a mortgage) and two other properties (also with mortgages) and net another $3,500 monthly in rent. We save my entire income and some of his- so about $100k-$130k savings after taxes annually. We have 3 kids in private and I'm very thankful. He did not go to college and I went to a state school. I feel like we're going to do around the same, maybe a bit better every year. I am maxed out in my hours I can work so I'm going to stay around the same. Any tips on what we should be doing to bring our income to the next level? We come from middle class families and are "the rich ones". 6 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 12.02.16, 05:18 PM Flag
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Maybe this year you could just focus on personal happiness rather than taking your income to the next level. What do you have to prove? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.02.16, 05:20 PM Flag
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Very good! best answer of the year...on any topic. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.02.16, 05:34 PM Flag
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Hire a certified financial planner. Seriously. We have so much less and our guy strategized so we have close to a million saved and tons invested. We did skip private school altogether and both our kids went to excellent colleges. Just a choice. We don't own real estate but that would have been good for us too. (HHI 98K) [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.02.16, 05:21 PM Flag
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Define "did $7 million" [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.02.16, 05:28 PM Flag
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You are "the rich ones" in any context. I'm curious what your business is that nets $150k, though? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.02.16, 05:42 PM Flag
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Why can't you save more? What kind of business does he have? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.02.16, 06:51 PM Flag
[ - ] When is the G&T test for K? 4 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 12.02.16, 05:17 PM Flag
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They start january. If you haven't registered for it you are SOL [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.02.16, 05:18 PM Flag
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op: Really? So it is totally over? Oh well, I was going to do it for fun anyway since I am near ps290 and wouldn't really want the haul anyway. Thanks! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.02.16, 05:24 PM Flag
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How is testing fun? [ Reply | More ]
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op: I guess to get a sense of my dc's development. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.02.16, 05:57 PM Flag
[ - ] How do you clean your hardwood floors? I use the swifter wet mops but thinking I should try the swifter wet jet. 40 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
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both suck. Try bona and the bona mop [ Reply | More ]
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You're creating a huge build up with those Swifter products. Start using a mixture of hot water, Murphy's Oil Soap and Pine Sol with a mop [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.02.16, 05:22 PM Flag
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op: Thank you. I just pulled up a rug and can see how beautiful the floor was. Is there something I can do to take off the buildup? What are the proportions of that mixture? Does everyone do that? Thank you for advice! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.02.16, 05:26 PM Flag
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I live in a big house with all hardwood floors and this is the mixture my cleaning lady taught me. 3 gallons of hot water, 1/2 cup Murphy's and 1 cup of Pine Sol. This will strip off that build up after a couple of times. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.02.16, 05:34 PM Flag
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op: Thanks. So the same formula to strip and every other time too? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.02.16, 05:37 PM Flag
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Yes! Throw the Swifters away! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.02.16, 05:40 PM Flag
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op: I will. Thank you. Cleaning lady is here now and I just ran out and bought more wipes and was about to order a ton more on Amazon. There is so much to know that no one tells you. [ Reply | More ]
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op: Have you tried the Bona or the Steam mop? With that mixture do you just use a regular sponge mop? [ Reply | More ]
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Np: I have the Bona spray mop and use Bona cleaners and get a build up [ Reply | More ]
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op: Good to know. And you have polyurethane floors and the water does not strip it? I know nothing of floors. TIA. [ Reply | More ]
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op: Do you think the floors can look shiny like they do under the carpet? They are only 2 years old and polyurethane over oak. [ Reply | More ]
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op: Do you use a microfiber mop or a sponge one? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.02.16, 06:43 PM Flag
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Murphy's Oil is fabulous. Great smell. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.02.16, 07:30 PM Flag
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I hate swiffer b/c to me the pad gets dirty and there's no "rinse" of the pad. So you're spreading dirt/germs everywhere. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.02.16, 05:23 PM Flag
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How are your floors finished. Polyurethane is different from waxed floors. [ Reply | More ]
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op: Polyurethane. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.02.16, 05:37 PM Flag
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I think water is your enemy then. Be careful. [ Reply | More ]
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op: What do you mean? Like water, murphy's oil and pine sol? I believe they are polyurethane high gloss. They are only 2 years old and we spent a fortune on them. Only good thing in my house. Now I am scared! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.02.16, 06:14 PM Flag
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nothing works for me except on hands and knees with pine sol in hot water with rags [ Reply | More ]
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op: I know. Can I hire someone to specifically get on their hands and knees? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.02.16, 05:38 PM Flag
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Love my Bona [ Reply | More ]
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op: How frequently do you change those pads? [ Reply | More ]
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op: So you use all three pads? Dusting? Cleaning and then you polish? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.02.16, 06:06 PM Flag
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a steam mop. works fine on hardwood. we've been doing this for years and I love that we don't have to use any cleansers, with kids around. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.02.16, 05:32 PM Flag
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I sue some white vinegar in steam mop water container. It also disinfects. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.02.16, 05:36 PM Flag
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op: Do you have polyurethane finish? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.02.16, 05:48 PM Flag
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yes. And I need to refinish....Urgh..the floor is 13 years old now. [ Reply | More ]
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op: Mine are only 2 years old and I pulled up my rug and it looks so beautiful. I wish I could get the rest like that. [ Reply | More ]
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does it leave a vinegary smell? [ Reply | More ]
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+1 [ Reply | More ]
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+1 [ Reply | More ]
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NP, I use this one. It is great! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.02.16, 07:31 PM Flag
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i just bought the Bona and it is so hard to push! what is up with that? [ Reply | More ]
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Just had our floors redone, and the flooring guy said only use Bona [ Reply | More ]
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op: Polyurethane? [ Reply | More ]
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Np: I posted earlier and Bona does build up [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.02.16, 06:12 PM Flag
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Years ago my cleaning lady told me that vinegar diluted in a lot of water is best to clean wood floors. After reading this post, I was inspired to wash some floors. I got down on my hands and knees and used a well wrung rag. I have to say, the floors that i just washed look great. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.02.16, 07:27 PM Flag
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This. I earned about it from the contractor. [ Reply | More ]
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