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[ - ] S/O: has anyone been able to go off antidepressants and get the same, or better, results from exercise? 5 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 03.03.15, 04:29 AM Flag
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my friend's been on one or another for like 25 years. nearing 50, he's starting to taper off all of them. no exercise but doing no worse. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.03.15, 04:31 AM Flag
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Yes, daily ashtanga yoga [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.03.15, 04:40 AM Flag
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Where do I even start with that? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.03.15, 04:41 AM Flag
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Find a teacher in your area and go to class every day. Those are the guidelines of the method. Are you in NYC? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.03.15, 04:57 AM Flag
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yes [ Reply | More ]
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[ - ] My neighbor has THREE autistic children. This is my worst nightmare and I feel horrible for her. But she pisses me off because she's rabidly anti-vaccine. I cringe every time I see her because I'm pregnant and worried I will contract illness from her or her dcs. 38 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 03.03.15, 04:20 AM Flag
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an illness like autism? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.03.15, 04:20 AM Flag
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No, like measles [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.03.15, 04:21 AM Flag
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were they vaccinated? obv, if they weren't she should throw her theory out the window. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.03.15, 04:21 AM Flag
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I think they all got their infant shots but she stopped vaxing after the diagnosis. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.03.15, 04:22 AM Flag
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you're prob fine, then. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.03.15, 04:23 AM Flag
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what form of autism. like rocking etc and obvious autism or like super subtle autism eg affinity for lists [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.03.15, 04:23 AM Flag
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Her oldest is more aspergers-like, and the other two are non verbal. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.03.15, 04:24 AM Flag
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ages? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.03.15, 04:25 AM Flag
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Why? I would rather not out them or myself. They are older kids. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.03.15, 04:25 AM Flag
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Her life must be so so hard [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.03.15, 04:30 AM Flag
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It is, but the anti vaccine bullshit bothers me. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.03.15, 04:31 AM Flag
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easier to blame big bad pharma than to say she has bad genese or had kids too late, etc. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.03.15, 04:34 AM Flag
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Or maybe it's many factors that contribute even gasp...possibly vaccines. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.03.15, 04:40 AM Flag
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Are you completely illiterate? Numerous studies have shown NO CONNECTION between autism and vaccines! It's a total red herring. Having kids when you're practically menopausal is likely a bigger issue. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.03.15, 04:41 AM Flag
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Nope not illiterate. The causes are multiple and unknown we all can agree on that. There are numerous cases of vaccines triggering reactions that resulted in autism like symptoms but I won't bother posting. UB is all about see no evil when it comes to this. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.03.15, 04:44 AM Flag
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3 out of 1000 kids who contract measles die. How many kids get this "autism like" syndrome you claim? Lol [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.03.15, 04:45 AM Flag
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Um 1 out of 68 children are diagnosed with autism. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.03.15, 04:47 AM Flag
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You seem to lack critical thinking skills. Studies have shown no connection between the MMR VACCINE and autism. But it is well established that 3/1000 kids who get measles die (this is in modern day USA). [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.03.15, 04:49 AM Flag
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I guess I just don't buy the studies are good enough. Until they figure out the causes definitively vaccines will be under suspicion by many. Especially those affected. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.03.15, 04:51 AM Flag
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Did you actually read the studies, or are you relying on your "anecdotal evidence?" [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.03.15, 04:52 AM Flag
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Read lots of different studies yes. Some which UB automatically dismisses. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.03.15, 04:55 AM Flag
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If vaccines triggered a reaction in one or more of her kids, and there is no way in he you can GUARANTEE it didn't, then honestly your opinion is irrelevant. She needs to protect what's left of her kids chances and do what she thinks best without worrying about sacrificing their safety for your kid. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.03.15, 04:38 AM Flag
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Oh and I'd LOVE to see you with three autistic kids, let's see how quickly you are signing up for vaccines then. Don't talk crap about a situation you can't even begin to fathom. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.03.15, 04:39 AM Flag
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What are you talking about? Vaccines don't cause autism. That's like saying breast milk causes autism. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.03.15, 04:40 AM Flag
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Not cause. But definite possibility they contribute or trigger reactions in some kids. Too much anecdotal evidence to ignore sorry. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.03.15, 04:45 AM Flag
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Lol anecdotal evidence. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.03.15, 04:46 AM Flag
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People's personal experiences with lifelong severely disabled children is lol? Ok. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.03.15, 04:48 AM Flag
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No your faith in "anecdotal evidence" is lmfao. I could claim so much crazy shit based on that. Are you nuts? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.03.15, 04:49 AM Flag
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Hey I live it every day. So don't really cared or what you think. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.03.15, 04:52 AM Flag
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Anecdotal evidence. Great source. Taught me that the world was flat and that Jesus is real. Seriously get a grip. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.03.15, 04:48 AM Flag
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We can agree to disagree. Again your opinion is irrelevant only my child matters to me. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.03.15, 04:49 AM Flag
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So you are willing to leave your child susceptible to measles and polio? Scary [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.03.15, 04:51 AM Flag
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If you must know, I do a very delayed schedule and will get there eventually. With my heart in my throat every time. Yes I am scared of disease. But not nearly as much as I fear autism. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.03.15, 04:54 AM Flag
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She's not doing what's best for her kids. She's putting them in danger. And what if she convinces some other ignorant woman to stop vaxing? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.03.15, 04:40 AM Flag
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Put it this way...once you experience autism even a microscopic chance that vaccines contribute to risk factor will make you risk measles any day. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.03.15, 04:41 AM Flag
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Measles can cause brain damage. This is a known fact. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.03.15, 04:42 AM Flag
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^^so you are risking the pathogen that is known to cause brain damage because you are afraid of the protective vaccine that is 1000x safer. Makes no sense. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.03.15, 04:43 AM Flag
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This [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.03.15, 04:50 AM Flag
[ - ] I have 3 kids ages 7, 5, 3. About 1x a month I will go out on a Friday after work and get blackout drunk. Dh hates this, says I'm irresponsible. Wdyt? I'm not hurting myself or anyone else. 20 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 03.03.15, 04:18 AM Flag
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This has got to be a troll [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.03.15, 04:19 AM Flag
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I hope you are not serious [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.03.15, 04:20 AM Flag
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OR: "I'm not hurting myself or anyone else?" WTF? She's clearly hurting her liver, her DH's feelings, and her kids' future. She doesn't even acknowledge there's a problem. The very least she could do is to send her DH to AlAnon - if she truly doesn't think she has a problem then she will think that he'll learn a lesson about what *real* alcoholics look lie. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.03.15, 04:24 AM Flag
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My liver is just fine, thanks. Look at all the 20somethings who party every weekend! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.03.15, 04:25 AM Flag
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No, I am not trolling. I should add I'm only 38, so fairly young still. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.03.15, 04:20 AM Flag
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uh, about 20 years too late on the blackouts. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.03.15, 04:23 AM Flag
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No, I am not trolling. I should add I'm only 38, so fairly young still. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.03.15, 04:20 AM Flag
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blackout once a month is a problem. "drunk" is ok but blackout drunk is not good [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.03.15, 04:19 AM Flag
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I blackout very easily. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.03.15, 04:20 AM Flag
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they are both problematic. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.03.15, 04:24 AM Flag
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ok but for your own safety you need to stop. it doesn't matter how many drinks it takes. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.03.15, 04:30 AM Flag
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I go with friends, it's not unsafe. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.03.15, 04:32 AM Flag
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you have a problem [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.03.15, 04:20 AM Flag
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What do you mean? I only do this once a month or so, not every day! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.03.15, 04:21 AM Flag
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You can die in blackout. Hire a babysitter to watch over you? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.03.15, 05:01 AM Flag
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You're trying to find a way to de stress and decompress. This just isn't a good way to do it. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.03.15, 04:22 AM Flag
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I suppose so. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.03.15, 04:23 AM Flag
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This was me at one point in my life. It was two things: 1. I was unhappy and bored. 2. My DH said I couldn't do it so it made it the forbidden fruit. We came to the agreement that 1. I had to get a hobby and 2. I could go out and he didn't say a word. It cut back on 98% of the drinking. I still enjoying going out and having a good time but I don't feel the burning need to anymore. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.03.15, 04:24 AM Flag
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man, i'd kill my dh if he pulled this. i can't believe husbands put up with it. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.03.15, 04:27 AM Flag
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Forget DH and DCs for a moment, because it doesn't sound like you're directly endangering them. Do YOU want to be in a position where you could easily be raped or have other bad things happen to you? Trust me, you don't know how bad those things are until it's too late. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.03.15, 05:02 AM Flag
[ - ] Do you know any ladies who converted to Jewish for a DH? 15 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
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Ivanka trump [ Reply | More ]
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Kyle for her tranny loving hubby Mauricio [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.03.15, 05:31 AM Flag
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many [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.03.15, 04:24 AM Flag
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Sure. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.03.15, 04:27 AM Flag
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Of course [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.03.15, 04:28 AM Flag
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Two, though one of them is divorced now [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.03.15, 04:29 AM Flag
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+1 Maybe we know the same woman? [ Reply | More ]
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Maybe? Did she come out as gay? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.03.15, 04:36 AM Flag
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nope. [ Reply | More ]
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Yes I did [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.03.15, 04:59 AM Flag
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Yes. Bothe were drawn to Judaism long before meeting their husbands, but knowing the were going to marry someone Jewish sealed the deal. [ Reply | More ]
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My neighbor, a former Catholic from Mexico City! Plus my niece who is getting married for the third time and had to convert. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.03.15, 05:04 AM Flag
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np: I've looked into this for myself, but for an Orthodox conversion, it's the family as a whole or it's a nonstarter. Does she have no prior children? (I looked Orthodox because I thought if it's not recognized by the State of Israel, why bother) [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.03.15, 05:06 AM Flag
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No kids [ Reply | More ]
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Yes, was Buddhist and now Jewish. [ Reply | More ]
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[ - ] SPM are you here? 0 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
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[ - ] Planning divorce. Would like to line up an amazing, fluent in English live-in nanny, who will cheerfully do chores alongside me and talk to me about NPR as well as about the kids. Let's say 6 days a week, 12 hours a day. Is this a unicorn? Budget $65-100k/yr gross ($17-27/hr) 7 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 03.03.15, 04:15 AM Flag
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not a unicorn... but uh to be honest, i think you need to find friends, not find a nanny who could be your friend. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.03.15, 04:17 AM Flag
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Let me reframe - where can I find a nanny of the approximate demographic of the young people who report to me at work? I'm not looking for Virginia Woolf here, but I find it difficult to have hard conversations if there isn't some friendly chit-chat to lubricate the relationship. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.03.15, 04:26 AM Flag
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you don't want a nanny friend. that'll make it hard for you to be her boss. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.03.15, 04:25 AM Flag
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Agreed. I don't want to hire a friend. But I also don't want someone like my cleaning lady, who I can barely communicate with [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.03.15, 04:27 AM Flag
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it's probb better that way. find some friends elsewhere. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.03.15, 04:29 AM Flag
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OP: I think you want someone "like you" to fill in when you can't be there as well, right? Or even just to help when you are? I know what you mean. Get a housekeeper to keep things in order, and a grad student or recent college grad to help with more "intellectual" tasks (like registering dcs for after school classes, organizing play dates, homework help, birthday gift shopping, etc. [ Reply | More ]
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Get a regular nanny to do the slave labor type of stuff, and a grad student to work whatever hours she can. [ Reply | More ]
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[ - ] How much to spend on bachelorette party gift? 2 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 03.03.15, 04:10 AM Flag
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0 dollars [ Reply | More ]
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This [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.03.15, 05:11 AM Flag
[ - ] Clearblue Easy monitors are $250?! Worth getting one? Or do most people just use the sticks? (I don't have any friends I dare ask to get one used) 7 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 03.03.15, 04:05 AM Flag
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get wondfo sticks on amazon - basically the same, but $20 for 50, and if you have snoopy guests, it's less obvious what they are [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.03.15, 04:10 AM Flag
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+1; they worked fine for me. Pregnant in two months. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.03.15, 04:19 AM Flag
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OP: Congrats! :) [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.03.15, 04:29 AM Flag
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Have sex every two days. You're welcome. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.03.15, 04:11 AM Flag
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OP: Thanks :) [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.03.15, 04:16 AM Flag
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I'd suggest sticks and tracking your temp. That's what worked for me so I could predict when I was ovulating. The monitor never seemed to get my fertile days right. [ Reply | More ]
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OP: Thanks! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.03.15, 04:19 AM Flag
[ - ] S/O: I have a ds and a dc, woh ft, live in a 2br/2ba and have FT nanny. Think a live-in/au pair might make sense but no space for that now. Will eventually need to move so ds and dd can watch have own room. Is it crazy or smart to move to 3br now, get live-in, and then eventually that room becomes one of dc's room? Pros/cons to specific plan or to live-in generally, aside from the very fact of having a live-in? 5 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 03.03.15, 04:04 AM Flag
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limited exp w/ a friend who has had nothing but trouble with au pairs. They are young women - v. the more mature women she had in city - and it's not working [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.03.15, 04:05 AM Flag
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^I had 2 30-something nannies for 8 years for my dc, no problems there. [ Reply | More ]
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OP: thanks, the age is a good point. I specifically hired a nanny with grown kids (so, older). [ Reply | More ]
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i think the point of a live in is to use space you already have to reduce costs and add convenience. moving to add an extra room for a live in seems silly and like it would eat up any cost savings [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.03.15, 04:22 AM Flag
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Except I'll have to move in next fee years anyway, so would it make sense to do it now so I can get the cost savings and convenience of a live-in? [ Reply | More ]
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[ - ] Do you think it is acceptable for brothers to hit each other? 5 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
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It shouldn't be "allowed", but it will happen. Boys fight, hell, I fought with my sister. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.03.15, 04:02 AM Flag
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DH (and I'm gay, FYI, before I get the "why is a guy on here" comments) - I don't know about acceptable, but I think it is perfectly normal for brothers to fight. My brother and I got into it on more than one occasion. And there's a certain level of brotherly teasing that may seem antagonistic to mothers, but comes out of a place of mutual bonding. [ Reply | More ]
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Why is a guy guy on here?? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.03.15, 04:34 AM Flag
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Sure. My brother and I used to hit each other all the time. My parents just closed the door and let us go for it. [ Reply | More ]
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^^I just remembered my brother's battle song: "Freedom's just another word for nothing left to bruise" (hijack of Me and Bobby McGee) [ Reply | More ]
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[ - ] NYT says 25% of women are on psych meds at any given time. Is this possible??? Sounds unbelievably high. 24 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 03.03.15, 03:59 AM Flag
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Among my 8 closest friends in college, I was one of only 2 who was not on anti-depressants or anti-anxiety meds [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.03.15, 04:01 AM Flag
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Sad but true. Why are women so sad? Hormones? [ Reply | More ]
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I think there is a lot of over-prescribing. I remember going through a breakup sophomore year, and my best friend telling me I should get put on anti-depressants because I shouldn't have to feel sad. I remember thinking no, I want to feel sad when I'm upset and learn how to work through it. I don't want to be a robot- I want to feel the highs and lows. That being said, I know that that doesn't apply to people with clinical depression. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.03.15, 04:06 AM Flag
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seems like lots of doped up people are on here [ Reply | More ]
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Men and women together are a tough match emotionally. Women drug themselves up to blunt emotions that are not acceptable to men. [ Reply | More ]
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I think that's kinda true. But men tend to medicate with alcohol and illegal drugs [ Reply | More ]
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Totes. Probably counts women who have an Rx for xanax or the like just to fly or just for public speaking. [ Reply | More ]
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Most people on UB are medicated. [ Reply | More ]
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how would you know?? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.03.15, 04:09 AM Flag
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Hello? Half of the posts on here are about various meds [ Reply | More ]
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Lol [ Reply | More ]
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LOL [ Reply | More ]
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Most of them are not, thus the crazy posts! [ Reply | More ]
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Most of my female friends are on meds. I'm the odd one out! [ Reply | More ]
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how long have they been on meds? are they all single? [ Reply | More ]
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Since grad school, a few years now. Some are married, others are all in long term relationships. [ Reply | More ]
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interesting. [ Reply | More ]
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Same [ Reply | More ]
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I'd bet it is higher than that [ Reply | More ]
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I wish I never started down that road because it feels impossible to get off of. You start a cycle of going on and off the meds and never knowing what your true emotions are. [ Reply | More ]
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I have never been on psych meds, but that sounds about right. Could be even higher. [ Reply | More ]
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didn't read the article, but I remember being surprised at how casually many friends/acquintances mentioned this. seemed like I started hearing about it all of a sudden, people were all casual about it too, kind of like taking advil for headache, midol for cramps etc. And yes, it does seem super high [ Reply | More ]
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Billion dollar business. [ Reply | More ]
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i don't buy it. [ Reply | More ]
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[ - ] Farmer Chris has a hyperhydrosis problem 3 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
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sweat patches? Dh also pointed out that whenever someone is drinking wine or a beer, he is drinking what looks like whisky neat. that, + his DUIs = drinking problem [ Reply | More ]
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He has DUIs?? [ Reply | More ]
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Nothing else to do in his tiny farm town but drink [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.03.15, 04:00 AM Flag
[ - ] My NY preschool that is more like a daycare (def not TT!) pulled me aside to say we should discuss a "game plan" for my 2.4 yo DD because she is "in a league of her own." They say this because she can read three letter words, knows every state, counts to 100, I don't know what else. I think that they think she is "brilliant" but I think she is more blessed with an awesome memory (and is memorizing the words, maybe not really reading them?) I don't want to make a big deal because we are a pretty chill family, but are there any consultants in the city who can shed some light? I want to go into our discussion about a "game plan" with some knowledge. Thanks in advance. 52 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
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Where'd she learn the names of every state? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.03.15, 03:54 AM Flag
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lol [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.03.15, 03:55 AM Flag
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Honestly? I think TV. She watches way too much. I know, bad mom. [ Reply | More ]
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i don't buy that. either you are doing EXTENSIVE coaching at home or you're telling a whopper. [ Reply | More ]
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I don't know, what she rights is more concerning to me than anything. [ Reply | More ]
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just keep on rightin', you. [ Reply | More ]
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Typo obviously :) [ Reply | More ]
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Poster below with autistic ds. He watches a few youtube videos a day. He learned the alphabet from the, letter names, phonics. It is insane. He is obsessed. We had to hide all toys with letters. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.03.15, 04:13 AM Flag
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I work crazy hours, in fact working from home right now, and my nanny is certainly not doing any form of "EXTENSIVE" coaching. Once I relieve my nanny I end up turning on Amazon Fire for hours on end because I still have so much mf-ing work to do. But I'm breadwinner, can't stop. [ Reply | More ]
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i just mean that the name of each state is part of a list and almost impossible to gleam from tv shows or if you only read three letter words. really doesnt make sense. but good luck to you [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.03.15, 04:19 AM Flag
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I know it is weird. OP here. I initially thought they taught her at school because there is a big map in the classroom, but they asked me who taught her? So I know I am totally out of touch with my own child, but my best guess is TV? Or maybe there is confusion in the classroom? I don't know, it is chaotic in there. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.03.15, 04:26 AM Flag
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Is there a song on a video that she watches that repeat the state names? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.03.15, 04:29 AM Flag
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Not that unusual, like you said, more of a memory thing than an understanding. That being said, you definitely want her to end up in a good school where she will be surrounded by her intellectual peers. That is going to be Goal #1 for you. [ Reply | More ]
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sigh. I don't even know where to start. But thank you. [ Reply | More ]
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This was me as a kid. Spent most of my 20s in rehab. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.03.15, 03:56 AM Flag
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ha! me too! [ Reply | More ]
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Wow for what? [ Reply | More ]
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Drugs and alcohol [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.03.15, 04:17 AM Flag
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and your 30s? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.03.15, 04:15 AM Flag
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Got my act together just soon enough [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.03.15, 04:16 AM Flag
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Do the GT test, apply to speyer. If you are interested in private schools, check them out. My 2.5 year old is autistic, but also starting to read. We're in for a long road, focused on therapies now and not so much on school at the moment. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.03.15, 04:03 AM Flag
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Lol. Her child is a genius. Not autistic [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.03.15, 04:16 AM Flag
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Lol this, Dafuq??? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.03.15, 04:18 AM Flag
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I don't know. Precocious reading is often a sign of autism. My daughter had a three year old in her class who sound remarkably similar and he has to have at least aspbergers. I knew a boy my sons age who had remarkable numerical ability at 2 that the parents thought was cool. Autistic. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.03.15, 04:22 AM Flag
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Omg. Stop it, you're ridiculous. All 4 of my kids were very early readers and none are even remotely autistic. Stop projecting your issues onto other people's children. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.03.15, 04:26 AM Flag
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I am not the mom with the autistic son. I would think reading at 2 is more worrisome than normal. The ability to memorize and regurgitate a list of states at 2. Counting to 100 maybe. But on reading of her post my first thought was concern [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.03.15, 04:28 AM Flag
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You're nuts. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.03.15, 04:29 AM Flag
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OP here. I mean, I have no idea. I know that my pediatrician said she didn't have autism markers at her 2 yo checkup, but who knows? I am just way out of my comfort zone with any of this, frankly even if she is totally fine and not autistic (which I think is likely) I don't even want the freak genius child because I don't want it to complicate her life. I want her to live a happy, loved, normal life... I don't want her feeling like she's the most special snowflake ever or that she has added pressure on her life because she can list states. Ugh. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.03.15, 04:36 AM Flag
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I am sure she is fine and her skills will even out and she will just be one of those whip smart kids. Don't sweat the meeting with the preschool too much, I am sure they already have some ideas for you. And she will have a happy, loved, normal life because you will provide that for her. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.03.15, 04:39 AM Flag
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:) hug. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.03.15, 04:52 AM Flag
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Child psychologist: early reading is not a sign of autism. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.03.15, 04:30 AM Flag
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Isn't it called Hyperlexia? http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Hyperlexia [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.03.15, 04:32 AM Flag
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OR: Yes, my ds is likely to be diagnosed as hyperlexic. I am just saying that this is my situation, and while manageable, it obviously isn't ideal. I felt like I shared some appropriate suggestions. I have a very smart child, who can memorize, but has trouble processing. He can barely answer yes/no questions. He is going to need a very special educational setting. I hope OP's child has a very happy childhood, but that she should also consider the bigger picture. These "early geniuses" can be more troublesome than you expect. I have to give my ds reading instruction, because he is teaching himself. And sometimes he teaches himself incorrectly. So I have to really stay on top of it, but also not encourage it. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.03.15, 04:58 AM Flag
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OP here. Thank you for sharing with me. I wish you guys the best of luck on this journey! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.03.15, 04:59 AM Flag
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Yes. I apparently was hyperlexic as a child. You seem smart, book smart, but the rest of your processing doesn't catch up. Special teachers who understand this and your support. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.03.15, 06:36 AM Flag
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Speyer? Hunter, you mean. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.03.15, 04:25 AM Flag
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Both [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.03.15, 04:55 AM Flag
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Hmm... I think my snowflake is a genius who can do everything your kid can do, but she's nearly 4. Heh. Hate to say it but I think there are some profoundly gifted moms on this board who could help you more than the night crew. They usually refer moms to the Davidson Institute IIRC [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.03.15, 04:22 AM Flag
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Thank you. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.03.15, 04:43 AM Flag
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Hi, I'm one of the PG moms. Yes, Davidson is a really good resource, but their main program (Davidson Young Scholars) doesn't start until age 5. They do have some pretty good public forums you can find on their website. The geography piece is a bigger possible indicator to me than the reading - precocious geography and map interest is an extremely common early indicator for PG kids. Debra Ruf's book (recently republished and I don't recall the new title, but I'm sure you can find it on Amazon) is a good first book to use, as it helps parents sort out just how far "out there" a child might be. And, FWIW, if she IS profoundly gifted, the preschool is right - you will need a game plan. Raising a truly PG kid is an extreme roller coaster - high highs and low lows. Traditional schooling situations are likely to be poor fits, and you may need to get creative! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.03.15, 04:43 AM Flag
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Wow thank you. Everything you wrote here is totally new info to me, so thank you for giving me a place to start. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.03.15, 04:46 AM Flag
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Looked up the title for you! The new title is 5 Levels of Gifted: School Issues and Educational Options. Hoagies Gifted is a great first stop - regardless of what "level" she is, she's likely to be some sort of gifted. Hoagies is a repository of just about every gifted resource imaginable (though not as easy to navigate as I'd like). Good luck, OP! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.03.15, 04:51 AM Flag
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Thank you so much. I just added to my cart. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.03.15, 04:59 AM Flag
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Don't do anything crazy, just let her enjoy being a little kid and make friends. If she's truly bright she will figure things out. IMO at such a young age it's more important to give her the space to explore and ask questions imho. Let her enjoy learning wih family and teachers in a social context and on her own... So she associates learning and progress with fun and positive feelings. When she expresses interest in a subject or concept give her plenty of opportunities to explore. Start researching school options and how to apply etc. so you know what you need to do as a parent to go through the process. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.03.15, 04:40 AM Flag
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I want to hug you. Thank you. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.03.15, 04:41 AM Flag
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Sane advice [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.03.15, 04:47 AM Flag
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The first rule of raising a highly-gifted kid is "Don't mess with happy!" If she's happy now (and it sounds like she is!), you've made great choices to date and you're super lucky to be at a school now that seems to "get" her and is willing to help you think through options for what comes next. That's kind of the HG/PG kid jackpot, and you seem to have hit it! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.03.15, 05:00 AM Flag
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A couple of other thoughts... I didn't think my DS is exceptionally bright and definitely not PG. He does seem to be more advanced than his peers in reading, math, logical thinking etc. We also observed a lot of memorizing, organizing, and identification at 2-3 yrs. DS started recognizing classmates' names (in writing) around age 2.6-2.8. Having said that he is pretty much on par with his age group in terms of social and emotional development, as well as fine and gross motor skills. I would try not to get carried away working on "academic" stuff so early.... Unless she is PG. im sure that's a whole different ballgame. Also keep in mind that bright kids don't necessarily get offered seats at TT's in K. Unlike MS and HS it's not just about how bright the kid is. She also has to be a good fit for personality etc. I'm sure you'll have a lot of fun with your DD... It will be nice being able to have interesting conversations with her very soon. GL and enjoy! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.03.15, 05:01 AM Flag
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Thank you. Because 95% of the time I am working, I honestly don't take DD on playdates, and have no idea where she falls on the spectrum of "giftedness". I don't really interact with other kids! So I don't know if she's totally normal or totally not. Sure her grandparents say she is SO brilliant, but don't all grandparents? So that's why I even approached this forum because I thought maybe I could talk to some consultant about where she falls and have a better understanding of whether I should be worried or more proactive or not at all. I was just citing the things that the preschool cited to me this morning as standouts. Thank you. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.03.15, 05:12 AM Flag
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Eventually you will want to get her tested, but there's no rush. When it is time to figure it out with data, make absolutely sure that the testing is done by someone with extensive experience with HG/PG kids (these kids can be HARD to test properly for many reasons). There is a list of recommended testers on Hoagies (names are submitted by parents who have had good experiences with testers). [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.03.15, 05:20 AM Flag
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Unless school is approaching you with potential issues (social and behavioral), it doesn't seem like you have a lot to worry about. Maybe follow up to see what teachers and administration have in mind for "game plan" while she is at school. Keep an open and positive dialogue. It's terrific that they seem so excited and positive about supporting your DD. You'll get a better sense of how advanced she is once she is a little older. And frankly with your own kid anything will seem par for the course. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.03.15, 05:20 AM Flag
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Wow, a mostly kind and gentle giftedness thread. Must be a full moon or something. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.03.15, 05:22 AM Flag
[ - ] My boys got into a fistfight in the living room today. While pulling them apart, my younger son hit me with a stray punch. WWYD? 5 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 03.03.15, 03:52 AM Flag
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Hitting you was an accident. I would address violence amongst the brothers [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.03.15, 03:54 AM Flag
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what? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.03.15, 03:55 AM Flag
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hah- even in a no spanking household, he would get an ass whoopin. sorry, but when mom is on the scene, no more punches fly. if you keep going, you get a memorable sore behind. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.03.15, 03:56 AM Flag
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I had four brothers, that doesn't bother me so much (DH is another story). I'm upset that I had to physically intervene, it should have stopped the second I walked into the room. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.03.15, 03:59 AM Flag
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boys fight [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.03.15, 03:59 AM Flag
[ - ] People love to talk about how unhealthy we are today. But the medical truth is, cholesterol rates have been on steep decline since the 50s. I.e., our diets have been getting healthier. Blood pressure shows a similar decline. Cholesterol medication was not introduced until the late 80s, so it doesn't account for the decline. 12 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 03.03.15, 03:50 AM Flag
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Type 2 Diabetes much higher today. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.03.15, 03:50 AM Flag
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Yes. So many obese people. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.03.15, 03:52 AM Flag
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Diabetes is the only thing that's increasing. I forgot to add, heart attack rates are at record lows. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.03.15, 03:52 AM Flag
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OBESITY duh [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.03.15, 04:08 AM Flag
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Can you read? Heart attacks, cholesterol, and blood pressure are declining [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.03.15, 04:10 AM Flag
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Exercise. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.03.15, 03:51 AM Flag
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that's 15 years ago, LOL, of course it matter. statins are one of the top drugs prescribed for over a decade. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.03.15, 04:07 AM Flag
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What's 15 years ago? What are you talking about? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.03.15, 04:10 AM Flag
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You don't get it. Op is saying the the decline in cholesterol started BEFORE statins were invented. So the decline cannot be attributed to statins, pre-1990 [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.03.15, 04:11 AM Flag
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This. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.03.15, 04:13 AM Flag
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i don't care. we're all gonna die. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.03.15, 04:26 AM Flag
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It would be interesting to see these numbers really broken out in detail. Eg is cholesterol and blood pressure reported on average rather than as % of population with concerning levels? Are the healthier getting healthier while the unhealthy/obese are getting more extreme, or is there yet another explanation? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.03.15, 04:39 AM Flag
[ - ] Can I go off of the pill after only a week? Hating the side effects! Will it totally screw up my cycle? 7 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 03.03.15, 03:47 AM Flag
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Yes, you should expect to get your period within a week. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.03.15, 03:51 AM Flag
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why are you going off? are the side effects that bad? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.03.15, 03:52 AM Flag
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You have to give it at least a month to get used to it. 2 more likely. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.03.15, 03:54 AM Flag
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Really? I feel awful. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.03.15, 03:55 AM Flag
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Will the horrific acid reflux abate? Cannot. handle. it. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.03.15, 03:59 AM Flag
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how often do you have sex? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.03.15, 04:13 AM Flag
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Huh? [ Reply | More ]
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