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[ - ] How do you get a married man to divorce his wife when they have young kids? 31 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 07.29.16, 05:03 PM Flag
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Pick a really big jerk? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.29.16, 05:05 PM Flag
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+1 [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.29.16, 05:19 PM Flag
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Were you looking for urban mistress? You got the wrong site. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.29.16, 05:05 PM Flag
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Get pregnant [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.29.16, 05:05 PM Flag
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yes, this! and he'll never resent you, and his kids from the first marriage will love you too. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.29.16, 05:23 PM Flag
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If he doesn't want to than move on. Everyone I know who did get the guy regrets it. I took far longer than they expected and the divorce and child support is extremely expensive. He is at the peak of his career now but his earning will go down and 2 households is so expensive. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.29.16, 05:07 PM Flag
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^^Wife is a selfish, materialistic bitch who never loved him and is only focused on her career and kids and completely ignores and neglects him. He sacrificed everything for her career and gave her kids when he didn't want them. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.29.16, 05:07 PM Flag
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He sounds like a narcissist, beware. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.29.16, 05:09 PM Flag
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He doesn't want his own kids [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.29.16, 05:12 PM Flag
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Sure. That's what they always say. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.29.16, 05:09 PM Flag
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He sacrificed everything for her career? How is her career? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.29.16, 05:12 PM Flag
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As he characterizes her. What drew him to her and what does this say about him? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.29.16, 05:16 PM Flag
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Then, he sounds like a low-self-esteem-having idiot. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.29.16, 05:16 PM Flag
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What is he going to say about you one day? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.29.16, 05:18 PM Flag
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Are you really this naive? Typical other woman. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.29.16, 05:22 PM Flag
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That's what they all say. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.29.16, 05:24 PM Flag
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Keep on drinking that kool-aid, girlie [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.29.16, 05:25 PM Flag
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Oh yes, and she was also holding a gun to her head and made him marry her. NEWSFLASH: If he was and is so unhappy with her and his life was that bad he'd have left her already. He is feeding you lines of bullshit so that you waste your time and stick around longer. Seriously, for your own sake find someone unattached who won't have as much baggage. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.29.16, 05:25 PM Flag
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^^a gun to his head [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.29.16, 05:26 PM Flag
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LOLOLOL [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.29.16, 05:25 PM Flag
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+1 [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.29.16, 05:26 PM Flag
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If a man did such a thing, I wouldn't want the asshole. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.29.16, 05:10 PM Flag
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General Topics 07.29.16, 05:19 PM Flag
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Um this! If a man leaves his wife and kids, that's not a man I'd want. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.29.16, 05:27 PM Flag
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How old are you? Please, for the love of God, move on. I'm not a member of the anti-ow cabal on here either. Telling you this for your own sake. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.29.16, 05:11 PM Flag
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Get a better man, and next time go for one who isn't married. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.29.16, 05:14 PM Flag
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What's going on? How long have you been with this married man? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.29.16, 05:28 PM Flag
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In my observation, a married man with kids will leave his wife when the youngest is in middle school. They'll leave earlier if the mistress has two kids by him, one hardly ever does the trick. Another good bet is to pick a man whose current wife was an OW, if he has left a wife and kids before it's much easier to do it a second time. Best of luck to you. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.29.16, 05:29 PM Flag
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shit, that's a lot of kids/marriages to support. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.29.16, 05:32 PM Flag
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I have seen it more than a few times. I don't understand it though. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.29.16, 05:36 PM Flag
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You just need to tell him to desert his kids and leave his wife or you're dumping him. I'm sure there's another married man out there who will do just that if he won't. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.29.16, 05:32 PM Flag
[ - ] I consider myself a fairly strong person, but dislike confrontation and conflict. Frustrated because a peer at work (a man, who is a few years older) has been condescending and passive-aggressive for years, to the point that it is impacting our ability to produce good work together. I've called him out on it before (in an overly nice way probably) and it doesn't change. Now I'm looking for a new job because he's been at the organization much longer than me and I just can't stand to deal with him anymore. I know this is light stuff as office problems go, but just needed to vent somewhere safe. 9 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 07.29.16, 04:59 PM Flag
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It is not light if A) it is impacting your productivity and B) it is creating great distress to you to the point of making you change roles. Are you in a very small org that you cannot consider a change in role/BU? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.29.16, 05:04 PM Flag
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OP: A medium sized org., and I'm already as senior as I can be. If he and I got along, I'd be happy to stay and continue to do good work here for a couple more years. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.29.16, 05:13 PM Flag
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This is not light stuff at all. Been there. Your only real options are to find a way to avoid him, earn the real trust of school me one way over his head, or move on. I've done all three in different contexts, but moving on was the only one that really made me happier [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.29.16, 05:05 PM Flag
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Oops--someone way over his head. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.29.16, 05:06 PM Flag
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Not light stuff. He's an asshole. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.29.16, 05:10 PM Flag
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Not light stuff at all. He's going to keep you from progressing in your career and if you can't work around him, leave. What industry are you in? Arts and culture or nonprofit? It's filled with people like that. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.29.16, 05:15 PM Flag
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Nonprofit [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.29.16, 05:26 PM Flag
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OK same here, for several of my jobs. In my experience, personnel is better with larger nonprofits, outside of arts and culture, and with women in the senior position. The men are enabled by boards to keep their low work ethic, petty politics and old boys' network alive. Good luck, you deserve better op. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.29.16, 05:29 PM Flag
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"He's going to keep you from progressing in your career" THIS THIS THIS. currently working with the same type of guy and i'd be so much further if i didn't have to work every fucking project around his ineptitude and communication issues and gender bias and general assholery. it's so nice to be in control of your own products, time and self worth. Get out now before you've wasted more time on him. Do not waste a breathe trying to change things at your current org. He's probably cheaper in the long run than you are and that's why they've kept or grandfathered him in regardless of his conduct. Do you want to work for a place that supports that kind of behavior? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.29.16, 05:31 PM Flag
[ - ] Ahhhh, another wonderful week with the inlaws at our beach house. Just love it when they show up empty handed and expect to be wined and dined for a week, all the while acting like it's an imposition for them to be there. Just because I need to vent, examples are in the comments below. 49 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 07.29.16, 04:56 PM Flag
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^^We have paid for every single meal for MIL, BIL and BIL's DCs all week long. Last night we went out to dinner, and MIL insisted upon paying for herself, BIL and BIL's DCs (but not me, DH or our DCs) and acted like she was doing us a big favor. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.29.16, 04:58 PM Flag
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sorry to kick you when you are down, but why in the world you keep picking up the check for dinners out unless you wanted to? Speak up at the end of the meal and say MIL/FIL your share is; BIL & kids your share is and then put in your share [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.29.16, 05:04 PM Flag
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Op: it's my DH. He's the one who keeps pulling out his wallet to pay. He has witnessed every single one of these incidents and for some reason he doesn't mind. I cant say anything bad about ILs, and DH just keeps going on and on about how happy he is they are here and that he can provide a fun week for them. Never mind the torture for me! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.29.16, 05:09 PM Flag
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ah so your problem is your dh and not the inlaws - just have to smile and nod and let this go, this does not seem like something to start a fight over [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.29.16, 05:21 PM Flag
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I agree. Inlaw problems are almost always marital problems. My mom and my inlaws all have very annoying habits but my Dh always discuss and get on same page. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.29.16, 05:36 PM Flag
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Op: this is our biggest marital problem, and they were a problem even when we were dating. I remember my mom telling me not to worry, that once we married I would come first and his loyalty would be to me, and not to them. Obviously, this is not what has happened. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.29.16, 05:41 PM Flag
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^^BIL has repeatedly complained that we had to buy a house that's too inconvenient for him to get to, and he hated the drive down. He keeps "warning" us that he may not come back next summer, LOL. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.29.16, 04:59 PM Flag
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^^When I wash dishes, I don't like to fill the sink with water and put everything in - dirty dishwater grosses me out, so I wash dishes one by one. The other night when I was doing dishes after I cooked dinner for everyone, MIL came into the kitchen and told me that she prefers when dishes are washed the PROPER way, where the entire sink is filled with water. Then she turned around and walked out without offering to help. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.29.16, 05:01 PM Flag
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One time when my dad was visiting he proclaimed "This car needs an oil change TODAY!" I said, thanks Dad! He said "I'M not going to do it!" ' [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.29.16, 05:04 PM Flag
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Op: yup, this is exactly the sort of thing my MIL would do. Offers unsolicited "advice" about everything but never lifts a finger to actually be helpful. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.29.16, 05:13 PM Flag
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This is my MIL. The day I came home from the hospital with first DB she told me the floorboards in my kitchen needed cleaning. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.29.16, 05:23 PM Flag
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omg what you poor thing [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.29.16, 05:33 PM Flag
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what county [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.29.16, 05:03 PM Flag
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Op: NJ [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.29.16, 05:03 PM Flag
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ocean or monmouth [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.29.16, 05:27 PM Flag
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Ocean [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.29.16, 05:36 PM Flag
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ok, thinking of buying a 3 bedroom there, but dh knows there will not be room for guests so he is fighting it [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.29.16, 05:40 PM Flag
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Op: we love it here! I think you should go for it - I only wish we had no room for guests. :) [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.29.16, 05:45 PM Flag
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^^BIL showed up with around 5 loads of dirty laundry (that he said he didn't have time to wash at home), then without asking permission, dumped all of our clean laundry (which included some of my underwear) onto the couch and began doing his own wash. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.29.16, 05:03 PM Flag
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This isn't a vent, it's a confession. What is wrong with you? Why are you letting these people treat you this way? I would have told him to put my clothing right back where it was and take his dirty clothes out to his car and never invite them again. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.29.16, 05:10 PM Flag
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Op: it causes so much friction with DH whenever I say anything bad about his family. We've been down that road many times before, and I've learned that I have to pick my battles. So instead I am biting my tongue around him (and posting on UB instead) and tell myself they will be gone in 2 days. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.29.16, 05:12 PM Flag
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You should take a similar approach to the UB poster who is traveling alone with the dcs by plane. Except give YOURSELF the gifts every few minutes to unwrap. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.29.16, 05:16 PM Flag
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How is this saying anything bad about his family? You're not "saying" anything. Don't complain. Just stand up for yourself. You should have answered mil in a casual, matter-of-fact way, "Eww. Gross. And let the dishes soak in bacteria? That's crazy." [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.29.16, 05:21 PM Flag
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But he will still be there. How do you have any respect for him?? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.29.16, 05:29 PM Flag
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WHAT THE FUCK? 5 loads (especially for men) is like a month's worth of shit. he didn't have time to wash clothes for a month? rude as hell. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.29.16, 05:33 PM Flag
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Op: it was his and his DCs'. He literally showed up with their dirty clothes in garbage bags and started doing wash the second he arrived. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.29.16, 05:38 PM Flag
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^^BIL started a really inappropriate conversation with our babysitter (giving his unsolicited opinion/advice on what he believes to be behavior problems our children have). We asked him to please not badmouth our kids to our childcare provider, and he got all defensive and said, "I didn't come all the way down here to be spoken to like this by you guys", again, as though it's a favor to us that he's here. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.29.16, 05:07 PM Flag
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You are better off if they don't come. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.29.16, 05:16 PM Flag
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What do you mean, "we" asked him? DH just allows BIL to talk to him that way? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.29.16, 05:22 PM Flag
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Op: BIL is such an idiot - he actually brought it up, like, "so, I was talking to your nanny, and I mentioned that I noticed your kids are really disrespectful to her because......." and DH's jaw practically hit the floor. We started off calmly requesting that he not discuss our children in that way because it stirs up trouble with our nanny (which is exactly what I think BIL was trying to do, by the way), and BIL got all aggressive, like, "I'm not sure I appreciate the tone you guys are taking with me. I didn't come all the way down here to be spoken to like this." At that point I left the room because I was about to lose it. Not sure what DH said or did after I left. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.29.16, 05:29 PM Flag
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Wow. You guys are all dysfunctional. Are you getting this from "Christmas Vacation?" You cannot calmly request. "BIL, why in the hell would think you could discuss our children with anyone!? It's none of your business." And when he gets "aggressive," you say, "You aren't allowed to speak to us that way. Please leave." [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.29.16, 05:35 PM Flag
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Op: I wish I could!! I hate having him here. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.29.16, 05:40 PM Flag
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sounds like your DH needs to grow a pair and speak to his family. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.29.16, 05:10 PM Flag
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^^MIL has spent the entire week disparaging my other SILs and nieces and nephews. She actually told DD that she hopes DD will won't put on weight and get chubby like her cousin. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.29.16, 05:10 PM Flag
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These are sadly hysterical!! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.29.16, 05:15 PM Flag
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Op: I could write a book about these people. Everyone who's ever met them tells me that I win the award for the world's worst ILs. Strangely, DH is very well mannered and nothing like the rest of them. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.29.16, 05:18 PM Flag
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OK, you are a saint! These stories have me cracking up. How do you not lose your cool? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.29.16, 05:20 PM Flag
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Op: I hide in my room posting on UB. I do this every time they visit. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.29.16, 05:36 PM Flag
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Count your blessing on that, OP, and best of luck to you -- you are right to post here instead of complaining to DH about his family (no matter how obnoxious they are.) Except for confusing the babysitter, it's all little stuff (although they sound AWFUL.) [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.29.16, 05:23 PM Flag
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Allowing his wife to take it in the teeth is being well-mannered? Sorry, he's a jerk. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.29.16, 05:25 PM Flag
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Op: this is an interesting take on it. I have been offended by ILs many, many times, but DH never takes my side. He always would tell me that I was overreacting or misinterpreting their behavior, and it was my fault for being too sensitive. But I like your perspective which is that by tolerating them, he's mistreating me. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.29.16, 05:35 PM Flag
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DH has a relative like this. I accepted "she means well" and "I don't think that's what she meant" a couple of times, but after a while, I confronted him and said, "You can't possibly think she MEANT WELL by that comment. You're not an idiot." He admitted I was right. Next, I said, "So, you admit she is treating me poorly, but you are willing to invite someone who treats me that way into our house?" HIs answer was, "the family will think, blah blah blah." I said, "Really? Your family doesn't care about me and how I'm treated? Then, they shouldn't be allowed into our home, either." He got the hypocrisy. He stood up to her. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.29.16, 05:43 PM Flag
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NP: here's the thing, dh is entitled to have his family visit, but if he won't stick up for you and request that you be treated at a minimum POLITELY in your own home, then you do not have to be there to host them. take the week off, visit your family or friends or heck, stay home, but either youare treated w respect in your home, or you do not need to be washing their dishes and dealing w them. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.29.16, 05:46 PM Flag
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They're fake. They keep getting worse and no one would allow someone to talk to their DD like that. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.29.16, 05:23 PM Flag
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Op: I've posted about my MIL many times before. Among other things, she really values the fact that she eats small portions, and talks about this constantly. She thinks fat people are disgusting and isn't afraid to share her views on people who eat too much. I think she puts me in that category (although I am not overweight), so she probably thinks she is doing DD a favor. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.29.16, 05:31 PM Flag
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Sorry OP, but you need to draw boundaries with DH now. That boundary is that they are not invited again. He's clearly trying to win them over, and perhaps that's been going on for many years. But he can't do it at your expense. Maybe he feels guilty because you can afford the beach house and they can't and he feels indebted to the family. But that has to have a limit and the limit should be you and the dc being mistreated. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.29.16, 05:22 PM Flag
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Op: this is exactly it. His family grew up poor, and now that he's made enough to have this house, he feels like he needs to share it with them. I think BIL - who is only 18 months older than DH - resents DH for having more than he does, and that this is part of the reason he's so rude. I think DH feels sorry for them. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.29.16, 05:33 PM Flag
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pp People who had someone close to them do far better than they did can go in a couple of directions. They can be happy and proud of the relative, or they can be jealous. The jealous ones will never be on dh's side, even if you two gave them half of everything you own. You do need to set your boundary about how you and dh will be treated, but let dh know you also understand the pressure he feels. You may need for dh to hear it from a counselor or other person outside the family whom he trusts. These people will never treat you well, but if they can learn to respect some boundaries they might preserve a relationship with you. It's one or the other. Been there with siblings. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.29.16, 05:40 PM Flag
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seems to me you should stay home when they visit - probably better for your marriage, your dh seems to enjoy having them so let him entertain them [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.29.16, 05:40 PM Flag
[ - ] My cure to UB and FB addiction: Election 2016! 1 Reply [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 07.29.16, 04:54 PM Flag
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Try Pinterest. You're welcome. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.29.16, 05:00 PM Flag
[ - ] ISO simple classic chocolate birthday cake + chocolate frosting recipe (feel free to link/source). Streamlined and "no fail." Making DD a birthday cake and it's a busy weekend (family in town etc) I'll also be "assisted" by a 4yo helper. TIA! 4 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 07.29.16, 04:52 PM Flag
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I use this cake recipe every time. The kids love it and it is very easy. http://www.glorioustreats.com/2010/04/recipe-perfectly-chocolate-cupcakes.html [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.29.16, 04:54 PM Flag
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Hershey recipe with Sharfenberger or other good cocoa. Frosting is more difficult and depends on what you like, I like the Hershey recipe but I use room temp butter and add more butter and whip it very good in a kitchen aid. if you want that 'shiny' look finish with a tablespoon of corn syrup again whip or beat it very well. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.29.16, 04:55 PM Flag
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make it from a box and then make frosting http://addapinch.com/perfect-chocolate-buttercream-frosting-recipe/ [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.29.16, 05:16 PM Flag
[ - ] DNCC just hacked today! http://www.wsj.com/articles/house-democratic-campaign-committees-computers-hacked-1469807247 8 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 07.29.16, 04:44 PM Flag
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I think it's old news now. Russian hackers are trying to influence Trump's election. I think it feels like it's working because there are pro-Trump posts all over the internet, but then I was reading how much they are required to post. They are required to maintain 6 twitter accounts each and tweet 50 times a day, make at least 30 posts on each message board they inhabit, all linking to pro-trump and anti-hillary news items. It's making me feel better to know that most of the posts I see aren't from actual Americans. That idea was bugging me for a while. I started counting posts here, though and it's about right. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.29.16, 04:51 PM Flag
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The format of the pro-Trump anti-H posts here fit the profile. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.29.16, 04:52 PM Flag
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Yup. Plus the muslim updates from Europe. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.29.16, 05:02 PM Flag
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Agreed! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.29.16, 04:54 PM Flag
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op: Sorry I mistyped. DCCC. It is just news today. http://gawker.com/it-wasnt-just-the-dnc-somebody-hacked-the-dccc-too-1784518718 [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.29.16, 04:55 PM Flag
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It's really curious, isn't it? Never considered the possibility of the internet being used like this. But they are finding word-for-word copy & pasted comments on multiple sites like NYT, the Atlantic, Reddit, etc. They are just pasting and moving on to the next site. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.29.16, 04:59 PM Flag
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op: I haven't seen it but not surprised at all. I am surprised that the DNC and DCCC did not have better cyber security. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.29.16, 05:10 PM Flag
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We are behind in the hacking game. CIA, FBI and homeland security can't find good people because so many of them smoke pot and that's prohibited. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.29.16, 05:46 PM Flag
[ - ] What do you guys think about that new anti-Clinton ad where they show the clip of her talking to the Indians about how she thinks they don't need to worry because it's impossible to legislate against outsourcing? 18 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 07.29.16, 04:41 PM Flag
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How do you stop outsourcing? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.29.16, 04:52 PM Flag
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Taxes, tariffs, etc. Companies that outsource can't sell to the US market - many ways. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.29.16, 04:54 PM Flag
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have you heard about the term "globalization" [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.29.16, 04:57 PM Flag
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Yes - are you stupid, too, or just condescending? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.29.16, 05:01 PM Flag
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Well, at least she's being honest about that. It is impossible to stop outsourcing unless government starts imposing some crazy regulations which will destroy the economy [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.29.16, 04:55 PM Flag
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How would 'crazy' regulations 'destroy' the economy? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.29.16, 04:56 PM Flag
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ask this question North Korean, China or any other authoritarian, communist or totalitarian counties where governments control the economy [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.29.16, 05:01 PM Flag
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You picked the most extreme examples? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.29.16, 05:06 PM Flag
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Can you give an example of the first word country that successfully stopped outsourcing? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.29.16, 05:14 PM Flag
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That's the spirit [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.29.16, 05:31 PM Flag
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^^^ and here's one where they are supposed to be pretend to be ordinary moms just talking about the news, giving them prompts to respond. http://www.newyorker.com/news/news-desk/the-real-paranoia-inducing-purpose-of-russian-hacks [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.29.16, 04:55 PM Flag
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"Russia’s use of propaganda, dirty tricks, leaks, and hacks in foreign affairs works a lot like a troll farm on a larger scale. The aim is to promote an atmosphere of uncertainty and paranoia, heightening divisions among its adversaries. “Having realized it is unlikely to make any real or lasting friends, Moscow has instead turned its efforts into paralyzing and demoralizing its enemies,” Galeotti writes." [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.29.16, 04:56 PM Flag
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This is why we've got someone furiously googling every police/black/racial violence/muslim event on the planet and constantly linking them here saying it's Obama and Hillary's fault or whatever. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.29.16, 04:57 PM Flag
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She is right. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.29.16, 04:57 PM Flag
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Not in reality. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.29.16, 05:02 PM Flag
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They can orchestrate 10,000 page multinational trade deals to try to control where outsourcing goes, but not to control outsourcing? I don't think so. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.29.16, 05:03 PM Flag
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She didn't allow it in the first place. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.29.16, 05:00 PM Flag
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Should she be offering assurances to the Indians about this sort of thing? She is looking out for India? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.29.16, 05:07 PM Flag
[ - ] What is considered an appropriate 'value' of goody bags for a low key party? Having something in the park with a magician, not a high-end venue type party. I am not from NY originally so not sure of the etiquette 10 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 07.29.16, 04:40 PM Flag
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About $25-35 [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.29.16, 04:48 PM Flag
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ha ha [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.29.16, 04:49 PM Flag
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Is that a joke?I'm not in NY so maybe it is VERY different there, but $30+ per kid sounds like a ton to me. How much do you spend on GIFTS? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.29.16, 04:50 PM Flag
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^^I would say not more than $10 btw, and with careful shopping have kept it under $5 on occasion (e.g. buy kids books online & add some candy) [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.29.16, 04:52 PM Flag
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This is not the norm. I live in NYC and my kid got a $30 goodie bag. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.29.16, 05:06 PM Flag
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I only spend a few dollars per kid. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.29.16, 05:04 PM Flag
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5 dollars [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.29.16, 04:51 PM Flag
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Ugh, I hate goody bags. I do one "nicer" thing of ~$5 and then stickers or candy based on the age. Maybe $7 all in. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.29.16, 04:52 PM Flag
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One time my son got $5 giftcards to a local ice cream place. Usually my kids get little bags of junk. They look at it for a day than I throw it out. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.29.16, 05:07 PM Flag
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the dollar bin at Target or a book -- two or three dollar, five max. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.29.16, 05:09 PM Flag
[ - ] The best book I read lately was _____. It was about _____/ 7 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 07.29.16, 04:39 PM Flag
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Homegoing- [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.29.16, 04:52 PM Flag
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Protecting the gift - about keeping your children safe from violence. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.29.16, 04:56 PM Flag
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End of the Affair - Love, hate and God [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.29.16, 04:57 PM Flag
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The little booklet that came with my Hermes Scarf on how to tie it. How to tie my scarf. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.29.16, 05:03 PM Flag
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Another scarf lover, yay! I never see anyone else wearing them anymore. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.29.16, 05:24 PM Flag
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It's Not Me, it's You. Amazing. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.29.16, 05:20 PM Flag
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Social Media is Bullshit. Marketing and social media. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.29.16, 05:24 PM Flag
[ - ] I haven't been to CMOM in years. Is my almost 7 y.o. too old for it? Trying to find something to do for today. 1 Reply [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 07.29.16, 04:37 PM Flag
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7 is definitely too old. You might try CMANY in Tribeca. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.29.16, 04:48 PM Flag
[ - ] Favorite travel destinations in the US: 1 Reply [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 07.29.16, 04:37 PM Flag
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Taos, Sonoma, Yosemite, Breckenridge (CO), Park City Utah, San Francisco - there's so many! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.29.16, 04:59 PM Flag
[ - ] Hi Urban Baby "ladies" I am a stay at home dad that has been following this board for awhile. You ladies are delusional, bitter, unrealistic and accept zero responsibility in your life. Let me help you out. No you will not be able to lose that last 10lbs because you eat crap, No your husband is not sleeping around..its because you are hard to screw now, yes your nanny hates you because you are lazy and cheap. And to the single ladies without kids who want to meet a man. Get of UB and get a life in the real world. Ahhhh, I feel better 93 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 07.29.16, 04:26 PM Flag
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Preach!! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.29.16, 04:27 PM Flag
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HAHAHAHA [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.29.16, 04:27 PM Flag
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Be a man and get a job. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.29.16, 04:28 PM Flag
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Biatch. I have a job. It's called I manage my money. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.29.16, 04:31 PM Flag
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Do you do any child care? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.29.16, 04:33 PM Flag
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My kids are over their friends house, I just finished making home made meatballs for dinner tonight and have time to kill and I already went to the gym [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.29.16, 04:38 PM Flag
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So you mooch off other people's child care? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.29.16, 04:47 PM Flag
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its called a playdate. kids playing with their friends. Do you know what a friend is? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.29.16, 05:41 PM Flag
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That's not a job. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.29.16, 04:34 PM Flag
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Where did you get your money? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.29.16, 05:11 PM Flag
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No one listens to a SAHD. No one wants a SAHD. 10 times worse than SAHM, they don't do work. No one wants to screw you. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.29.16, 04:28 PM Flag
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I divorced this! So happy now [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.29.16, 04:29 PM Flag
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How is that going moon cow ? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.29.16, 04:32 PM Flag
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Same. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.29.16, 04:35 PM Flag
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Single i bet [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.29.16, 05:42 PM Flag
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Bring it. At least I have money. What do you have? Genital warts? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.29.16, 04:32 PM Flag
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Some of us are here for the drama ;-) [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.29.16, 04:28 PM Flag
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What's your wife like? What does she do? Do you clean the house? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.29.16, 04:29 PM Flag
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She is likely busy trying to hide money so she can divorce this loser. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.29.16, 04:33 PM Flag
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And there it is the mentality that men are losers. YOu are the major loser. You probably have done nothing with your life except wipe the potato chip crumbs off your size 12 shirt. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.29.16, 04:42 PM Flag
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Bond trader isn't exactly Mother Theresa [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.29.16, 04:44 PM Flag
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Wife is in fashion. I do not clean [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.29.16, 04:34 PM Flag
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Who cleans? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.29.16, 05:03 PM Flag
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cleaning person 3 times a week [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.29.16, 05:36 PM Flag
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You write, speak and spread contempt like a woman. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.29.16, 04:30 PM Flag
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Nope. Just getting tired of reading the same old crap from these "ladies" and I use that term loosely [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.29.16, 04:34 PM Flag
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Why hate on other women? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.29.16, 04:35 PM Flag
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Because the ladies here have to understand it is not healthy to hate men [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.29.16, 04:38 PM Flag
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So your post is intended to spread love and affection? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.29.16, 04:46 PM Flag
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stop hitting on me [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.29.16, 05:37 PM Flag
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What was your 'career' before you stayed home? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.29.16, 04:32 PM Flag
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Bond trader [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.29.16, 04:33 PM Flag
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Gross. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.29.16, 04:35 PM Flag
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30 bucks you have bad teeth [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.29.16, 04:36 PM Flag
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Aren't all the other SAHDs artist types? Who do you hang with? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.29.16, 04:38 PM Flag
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Yeah right. I know lots of bond traders, and NFW *any* of them would ever become SAHDs. Buying stocks from your computer at home doesn't make you a "bond trader" [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.29.16, 04:44 PM Flag
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I do not trade anymore. I cashed out 8 years ago and just manage our money now. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.29.16, 04:46 PM Flag
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Please, you were never a trader. Not that I hold traders in high regard, but they are the most testosterone-fueled subgroup of men on the planet, barring WWF wrestlers. Being a SAHD changing diapers and making dinner for wifey would be a huge embarrassment for them. Plus, you used the word "biatch" which is silly and effeminate. Everything about your replies screams "woman." [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.29.16, 04:53 PM Flag
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Or beta. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.29.16, 04:54 PM Flag
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A beta would never have been a successful bond trader. But yes, it could be a male lying about his past job. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.29.16, 04:55 PM Flag
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Trust fund baby [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.29.16, 04:56 PM Flag
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nope [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.29.16, 05:38 PM Flag
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I have enough. Life is not about accumulating [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.29.16, 05:42 PM Flag
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I think you mean they cashed you out in the crash. So you are now unemployable and living off your wife. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.29.16, 04:59 PM Flag
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if you only knew moron [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.29.16, 05:43 PM Flag
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They would if they lost job in '08 and couldn't get back in. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.29.16, 05:00 PM Flag
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You sound like you don't have any kids at all. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.29.16, 04:33 PM Flag
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2 kids [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.29.16, 04:34 PM Flag
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That's all? I have 5. That's more than you [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.29.16, 04:41 PM Flag
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do you know who the fathers are to your brood? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.29.16, 04:43 PM Flag
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Are you sure you don't have any surprise dcs on this planet? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.29.16, 04:51 PM Flag
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nope [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.29.16, 05:38 PM Flag
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Don't describe yourself as "that". You're a "who". As in "who has been following this board for a while". [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.29.16, 04:34 PM Flag
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Does that make you feel better? Correcting Grammar. How about getting dinner ready for your family and not subjecting them to Chef Boy ardee again. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.29.16, 04:35 PM Flag
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What do you cook for your family? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.29.16, 04:36 PM Flag
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See above [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.29.16, 04:38 PM Flag
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What's the vegetable? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.29.16, 04:47 PM Flag
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really??? its spaghetti and meatballs [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.29.16, 05:38 PM Flag
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Oddly, "that" seems more appropriate for this particular kind of non-person. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.29.16, 04:36 PM Flag
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Are you the cankles guy? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.29.16, 04:37 PM Flag
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I thought fat women had cakles only with knee high stockings and tissues crumbled up in their bra [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.29.16, 04:39 PM Flag
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I mean do you always call Hillary cankles on ub? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.29.16, 04:40 PM Flag
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Do you hate women in general, or just UB women? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.29.16, 04:42 PM Flag
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I love women. the acid that comes out of UB women is just wrong [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.29.16, 04:44 PM Flag
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Well you're all sunshine yourself! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.29.16, 04:45 PM Flag
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that i am [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.29.16, 05:39 PM Flag
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How's your self esteem? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.29.16, 04:42 PM Flag
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the size of your waist line. Huge [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.29.16, 04:44 PM Flag
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Have you forgotten to take your antipsychotics? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.29.16, 04:45 PM Flag
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have you forgotten your monistat 7? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.29.16, 05:39 PM Flag
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Are you delusional, bitter, or unrealistic? Do you think you are responsible for the situation you are in now? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.29.16, 04:43 PM Flag
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I am present, excited, and charged up. I stopped chasing the money years ago when I knew that I have made enough to sustain a great life with my family. I have the opportunity to be with my life (my kids) learn new things and have an amazing time with my wife. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.29.16, 04:48 PM Flag
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Can you afford child care? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.29.16, 04:49 PM Flag
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Why would I? Unlike the rest of you. I LOVE BEING AROUND MY KIDS [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.29.16, 05:29 PM Flag
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From the Adderall? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.29.16, 04:52 PM Flag
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oh please [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.29.16, 05:35 PM Flag
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Do you cheat on your wife? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.29.16, 04:48 PM Flag
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Never [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.29.16, 05:28 PM Flag
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How did you discover ub? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.29.16, 04:48 PM Flag
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From the playground [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.29.16, 05:28 PM Flag
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Wow your wife has a pretty raw deal - supporting you to cruise the internet and analyze what you find (badly). Go make her something nice for dinner, stat. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.29.16, 04:54 PM Flag
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Yes, the meatballs need some vegetables and quinoa. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.29.16, 04:55 PM Flag
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Let's see. I bought or apartment 15 years ago. Now worth more than most of you will see in your lifetime and your kids lifetime [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.29.16, 05:29 PM Flag
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i pity your husband to be with an ugly shrew like you who was hated in high school [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.29.16, 05:40 PM Flag
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We defeated him! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.29.16, 05:02 PM Flag
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I am back, I just experienced something outside of UB, like talk to a real person [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.29.16, 05:28 PM Flag
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So she has to leave her 5 kids to pay for you to be "manage your money" surfing UB? You got let go in 08 and can't get a job. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.29.16, 05:03 PM Flag
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i have 2 kids. please go back and get your GED [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.29.16, 05:40 PM Flag
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I'll believe this is real. I am married to a SAHD who was formerly a bond trader. Although, he would never call himself a SAHD, and he really isn't. He is just home. Managing our money. Like this guy. They are out there, ladies. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.29.16, 05:09 PM Flag
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Who does he hang out with? Is he alpha or beta? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.29.16, 05:10 PM Flag
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Is he angry like this dude? Present, excited and charged up, rather? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.29.16, 05:11 PM Flag
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Alcoholic? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.29.16, 05:13 PM Flag
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nope [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.29.16, 05:28 PM Flag
[ - ] The Muslim father of the dead US soldier and the guy who is the Medal of Honor winner are just staying with me today. Donald Trump you have sacrificed nothing. And no one. Wow just wow. What say you Trump? Nothing because there is no response to that eloquence. Just shame. 20 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 07.29.16, 04:23 PM Flag
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The entire Trump family at this point has been shamed. When all of this is over they will just disappear for a long while. Brand destroyed. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.29.16, 04:24 PM Flag
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Their hotel business is down 60 percent The golf courses are starting to see a real dropoff. Ivanka's band is faltering....it is already happening. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.29.16, 04:26 PM Flag
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What sacrifice has HRC made? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.29.16, 04:26 PM Flag
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Uh women didn't serve when she was younger dear...... [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.29.16, 04:28 PM Flag
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Sure they did. My mom served overseas in WWII. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.29.16, 04:29 PM Flag
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The point is that she is willing to recognize and respect the great sacrifices made by others, wether they be Muslim, black, or any of the other groups Trump spouts his hate against. If you are not willing to walk the walk yourself, do not put down those who are, and claim to be a "true" American just because you're white! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.29.16, 04:33 PM Flag
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HRC is not the one mocking POWs and Muslims. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.29.16, 04:33 PM Flag
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An amazing moment. everyone is talking about it. And then General Allen too......And the gold star mom introducing Obama. And who did Trump have? No one. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.29.16, 04:27 PM Flag
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Disagree. Trump has Europe. Evidence is coming in every week as to what happens when you allow Muslim immigration. Europe is in flames because of Muslim immigration. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.29.16, 04:28 PM Flag
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Headline from the first Hillary term: [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.29.16, 04:28 PM Flag
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Terror Wins War on Terror TERRORABAD, Terroristan (FNN) — Leaders from twenty-five allied countries, lead by the United States, signed an agreement of surrender today, effectively signaling the victory of Terror in the War on Terror. The agreement, signed on the aircraft carrier TSS Ramsi Yousef, means that all surrendering countries must agree to Terroristani-sponsored weapons inspections, and therefore must remove any WMDs they possess. Signatories agreed to convert their countries’ respective legal codes to Shari’a with all due haste. All women must be in hijabs or burquas by Ramadan, surrendering countries also agreeing to adopt the Islamic luni-solar calendar. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.29.16, 04:29 PM Flag
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Give it up. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.29.16, 04:30 PM Flag
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Toadie [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.29.16, 04:30 PM Flag
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This. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.29.16, 04:30 PM Flag
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No no....Trump has Russia on his side....Trump/Putin ticket. He is in bed with the oligarchs. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.29.16, 04:30 PM Flag
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We are not Europe. We do not share such borders. It is apples and oranges. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.29.16, 04:32 PM Flag
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Right. Because they just love to hear about how he's going to turn his back on NATO allies. That plays well all over Europe! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.29.16, 04:35 PM Flag
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I've been thinking about that all day also. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.29.16, 05:00 PM Flag
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Shame on Trump. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.29.16, 05:03 PM Flag
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And Ivanka's husband is a slum lord on the Jersey Shore. Pier village gets floods and he does nothing. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.29.16, 05:04 PM Flag
[ - ] COPS SHOT IN SAN DIEGO, thanks Hillary 4 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 07.29.16, 04:19 PM Flag
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she pulled the trigger? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.29.16, 04:20 PM Flag
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Lena Dunham molested her sister [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.29.16, 04:23 PM Flag
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Sing it. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.29.16, 04:20 PM Flag
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Jennifer's Body is a pretty sick movie [ Reply | More ]
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