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[ - ] does anyone on this board have view/comments on york prep? considering it for middle / upper school for ds (needs organization skills) 1 Reply [ Reply | Watch | More
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Teenagers 02.21.10, 04:46 PM Flag
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I live right nearby. The kids seem normal for a NYC private. They are all low performers or have some special needs from what I understand but otherwise - typical [ Reply | More
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General Topics 02.21.10, 06:31 PM Flag
[ - ] Trinity vs. Brearley for high school. Which has better academics? Sports? Student life? Exmissions? 17 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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Teenagers 02.20.10, 07:35 PM Flag
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Trinity is a much larger school (with a wider range of teachers, I am told by our K-8's head). [ Reply | More
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General Topics 02.20.10, 07:42 PM Flag
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sports? neither. academics? a draw. student life? students dont' have lives-- too much homework. exmissions-- draw. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 02.20.10, 07:46 PM Flag
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Sports? Trinity has a full range of high school sports teams. Girls teams include soccer, basketball, tennis, lacrosse, softball, track & field, swimming and volleyball. The girls soccer team won the New York State independent school championship this year. Here's a link to an article in the NY Post on their victory: http://www.nypost.com/p/sports/high_school/soccer/item_VYWa7Qs0pqoBAyf2Z5FqxK [ Reply | More
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General Topics 02.20.10, 09:17 PM Flag
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so wrong. Brearley's x country team just won the mayor's cup. http://www.nydailynews.com/sports/high_school/2009/10/05/2009-10-05_brearley_school_shocks_city_by_winning_mayors_cup_championship.html The volleyball team is fabulous as well as the basketball team. Generally great sports, including basketball, soccer, softball, volleyball, squash, badminton, swimming, gymnastics, cross country, track and field. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 02.21.10, 10:33 AM Flag
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Has your child revisited? At this point, it's really their choice more than yours. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 02.20.10, 08:00 PM Flag
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No, she has not revisited, she shall revisit the schools this week. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 02.20.10, 08:01 PM Flag
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Maybe in your world. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 02.20.10, 08:03 PM Flag
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I know parents who have chosen the high schools for their children, and each one has regretted it. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 02.20.10, 08:27 PM Flag
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Student life - Trinity is better. Brearley is brutal and is a well known pressure cooker. Trinity is tough but doesn't have that dog eat dog kind of feel. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 02.20.10, 08:29 PM Flag
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B most definitely does NOT have a dog eat dog kind of feel. My dd is in the hs, and I was actually really surprised by the lack of competition between the students. Because the academics are so strong I assumed it would be dog eat dog, but it's not. Yes, it is true girls feel pressure--from themselves and the standards set by teachers--to do well, but girls are happy for each other and there's no comparing of grades or anything like that. In general, I think the atmosphere at B is wonderful. Yes, there's pressure, but there is at all of these schools. The girls are all passionate about something, whether that's art or ancient languages or physics, and it makes for a great environment. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 02.21.10, 10:37 AM Flag
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dear lord - brearley. obviously [ Reply | More
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General Topics 02.20.10, 09:18 PM Flag
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The idea that there's an "obvious" choice between these two is absurd. They are both great schools. Academically, and with respect to exmissions, each is among the top handful in the city. That said, there are some obvious differences - size and ss v. coed among the most obvious. Whether larger or smaller is better, or ss or coed is better, is a matter of personal preference. I agree with the poster above that this should be dd's choice. You can't go wrong with either and dd should choose the one where she feels most comfortable. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 02.20.10, 09:34 PM Flag
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you know only B moms would say that. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 02.20.10, 09:59 PM Flag
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I think in high school you really need to want ss for dd. I think that is what your decisions is. Dd will make friends and be happy at both schools, academics+ a draw. Do you think she will be intimidated by boys OR do you think she will benefit from them?? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 02.21.10, 05:37 AM Flag
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Although I agree that the ss/coed distinction is very important, it's not necessarily about being intimidated or benefiting from the presence of boys. Of the girls in my dd's grade nearly all have male friends and like being with boys. But ss allows for a different kind of academic and social atmosphere. The girls come into school wearing sweatpants--even pajamas--and have no problem being 100% themselves because there's no pressure to impress boys. There's also a lot less drama than at many of the coed schools. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 02.21.10, 10:42 AM Flag
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A friend had a ds at T and a ds at B. She always said she thought the social life at T got in the way of academics, and was extremely glad her dd chose B. (FYI dd is very social, lots of friends, just doesn't feel pressured to be at every "it" party every weekend.) B. a much tighter HS community. T. is so large in HS it breaks down into stereotypes ( jocks, nerds, stoners, etc...) in a way that that the smaller schools don't. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 02.21.10, 11:21 AM Flag
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Biggest difference is of course ss vs. coed. Exmissions seem very similar. Check out www.matriculationstats.org. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 03.01.10, 04:53 PM Flag
[ - ] DC moms: is it really all that bad downtown with the snow. We're planning on a President's Day weekend visit, staying at the LEnfant Plaza hotel and looking to see the Air and Space museum, the National Archives, etc. We're fine to walk around in snow, but will things be open? Seems like you got whalloped! 4 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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Teenagers 02.08.10, 06:53 AM Flag
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You would have to be nuts to come here. It is so bad that the District has stopped plowing because it is too dangerous to have the plows out. It is unsafe to let the children out to play. Washington is absolutely beautiful in the spring. You will be much happier if you come then. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 02.10.10, 10:37 AM Flag
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I might have to agree. How long can you wait to decide? If I had to decide today, I'd definitely postpone. Plus gov't may well be closed through Friday, in which case everything would absolutely be shut. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 02.10.10, 12:00 PM Flag
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thanks ladies. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 02.10.10, 12:56 PM Flag
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Follow up -- we went anyway and had a blast. The snow wasn't so bad if you have boots, the Metro worked perfectly for us and there was almost no one at the museums we wanted to see. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 02.15.10, 02:54 PM Flag
[ - ] There are girls giving boys bj's in dc's grade (8). I know the mothers of the boys to say hello to. Do I tell someone in the school, tell a mother who is friends with one of the mothers of any of the children involved, or mind my own business? My friends say to keep my mouth shut. 60 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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Teenagers 02.08.10, 05:51 AM Flag
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How do you know? Do you have a boy or a girl? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 02.08.10, 05:53 AM Flag
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how do you know? can you tell in a way that does not hurt your child? If I were one of the moms of a child involved I would want to know. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 02.08.10, 05:54 AM Flag
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How do you know this? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 02.08.10, 05:55 AM Flag
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Did you see this with your own eyes? Did it happen in the school building? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 02.08.10, 05:57 AM Flag
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Tell your friend you are not the one who ought to be keeping her mouth shut! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 02.08.10, 05:59 AM Flag
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If you haven't seen it with your own two eyes... I would keep quiet. Children at that age tend to lie about things to make themselves look better in front of their friends. If there is sexual activity going on the only thing you should probably do is talk to your child. If you talk to the other parents...they might possibly talk to their children and say "Ms_____ told me that this has been going on in your grade"....which will probably create an awkward situation for your son or daughter. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 02.08.10, 06:00 AM Flag
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School nurse said average age in nyc is 11. 13 in G&T's. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 02.08.10, 06:03 AM Flag
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I can believe that. I gave my first blow job when I was 13 and that was in the mid 80s. I have to say, this is one area in which I'm happy I have two boys. I mean, I will pound it in to their head to be respectful of women, and better yet, their father is a great role model, but still, it's a different set of worries. There was a pretty hideous group of boys in my grade and a grade older and some truly vile stuff went down. If my son turns out that way, I'd be absolutely horrified. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 02.08.10, 08:58 AM Flag
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...AND I don't believe the "mind your own business" mentality when it comes to various situations, under aged sexual activity being one of them. An 8 year old is still very young. Between peer pressure and the kids who are sexually molested, therefore pass on the behavior to their peers, I believe the situation needs to be monitored. If it were my child (son or daughter), I would want to know. It's not about what's right or wrong in relation to sex. It's about physical and emotional safety, which should be our top concerns for our children. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 02.08.10, 09:03 AM Flag
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she said grade 8, not age 8! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 02.08.10, 12:24 PM Flag
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OMG...I can't face this. My first sexual activity was when I was 20.:( [ Reply | More
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General Topics 02.08.10, 09:04 AM Flag
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np 19 here. 13???? Didn't happen in my crowd. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 02.08.10, 12:42 PM Flag
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private or public? i know it's all around, but just curious. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 02.08.10, 09:04 AM Flag
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definitely kids in both. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 02.08.10, 12:41 PM Flag
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The nurse speaking was in city wide public. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 02.11.10, 11:27 AM Flag
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Short of you having witnessed the act, I'm not sure how you could know specifics. If you were told information by an adolescent, treat it as unreliable. Are bj's happening? Most likely. But the specifics of how common it is or the kids involved would be suspect as relayed by any kid. If you suspect it is happening on school property (in the prop room during play rehearsal, etc.), I would talk privately to the school and emphasize that you've heard something and you have no idea if it is true. Do NOT go directly to parents unless you witnessed it. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 02.08.10, 06:03 AM Flag
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Parent your own chid about sex to begin with. Then if you are in a private, bring up sexuality in general at a PIA meeting (if you have them), or talk to your school nurse about how topics of sexuality are handled in school. You can't really know what is going on (and with who), but you can advocate for appropriate support. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 02.08.10, 06:07 AM Flag
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OP, you have yet to answer a single question. I am beginning to think you posted this just to get a conversation going (which is fine), but you should identify as such. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 02.08.10, 06:13 AM Flag
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r u kidding? MIND your own business!..can you do that? unless your own child is involved you have nothing to say, because )these could be just rumors and b) these kids have their own parents. Thank you. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 02.08.10, 06:15 AM Flag
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You are in a difficult position and I feel your pain. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 02.08.10, 06:32 AM Flag
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(Sorry pushed wrong key) the school needs to be aware of this; maybe your best bet is to write a note to the principal, cc pta president, and the nurse and just very discreetly mail it to them, do not use your name; you need to protect your child mentally and physically. And also, If it is your child who confided in you how do you think he/she is going to feel if you do absolutely nothing about it; will your child feel confident enough to come back to you with other problems? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 02.08.10, 06:46 AM Flag
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My mom was great - "If you wouldn't put it in writing and sign your name to it, then don't say it". [ Reply | More
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General Topics 02.08.10, 07:10 AM Flag
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Mind your own business. This is very common in 8th grade, if 8th grade is anything like what I remember. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 02.08.10, 06:33 AM Flag
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A child who I have never known to lie witnessed it and reported it to a few other children. The children inside that particular circle have discussed it and the children involved don't deny it. None of the children seem to think it's a big deal. Many children would have to be lying for it not to be true. It was not on school property. No one seems to think I have a responsibility to the other parents or to teh children involved, as an adult. Everyone seems to think that I should mind my own business, and protect my own interests. I feel a bit guilty as I would like to know if I was the parent of one of the children, particularly one of the girls. There is a sex ed curriculum in the school that seems quite good. My impression is that the school is aware that things like this happen. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 02.08.10, 06:55 AM Flag
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OR: I don't doubt that it is true. But to kids, it really isn't a big deal. You can make sure your child knows your thoughts about sex--it's your job to do so. I just don't think it's your place to go and talk to the other parents about it. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 02.08.10, 06:59 AM Flag
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Lady, this didn't even happen at school... you are nuts to bring it into the school. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 02.08.10, 07:12 AM Flag
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This is the best answer. The school has no dog in this fight. If you feel the need to talk to the other parents, fine, but don't involve the school. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 02.08.10, 08:32 AM Flag
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NP: Sexual experimentation in 13 y/o's is just not unusual. That doesn't mean it's desirable - you should take this very, very seriously as it relates to YOUR CHILD. But I don't see it as an "alert the other parents and the administration" type issue. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 02.08.10, 07:17 AM Flag
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ITDA and I think if I were her I would have a confidential meeting with someone at the school. Maybe they need to adjust their sex ed curriculum. I always wonder why people think oral does not pass disease. I would not want my dd to set herself up for mouth cancer by starting this behavior so young. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 02.08.10, 07:31 AM Flag
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People don't think oral doesn't pass disease (where did this come from). I, for one, beleive it is the parents job to talk to the children about sex. Sex ed in school is great and necessary - but when the rubber meets the road - it is up to the parents. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 02.08.10, 08:23 AM Flag
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no pun intended, I'm sure... [ Reply | More
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General Topics 02.08.10, 12:32 PM Flag
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I still maintain it is NOT reliable information. I'm sure stuff is going on, but how much and by whom is a big question mark. For example, some of the kids who don't deny it may in fact have not been involved. Tremendous peer pressure (and it goes both ways) at that age. You also don't know how different parents will handle the info. If you are really concerned, talk to the school about it generally (do NOT name names) in terms of sex ed, etc., but don't drag individual parents and kids into it. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 02.08.10, 08:19 AM Flag
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WHICH SCHOOL!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!????????????????????????????????????? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 02.08.10, 07:19 AM Flag
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Are you kidding? Name one, and this is happening. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 02.08.10, 07:19 AM Flag
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I want to know. Public or private? Which school [ Reply | More
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General Topics 02.08.10, 07:21 AM Flag
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If it is not happening in the school it has nothing to do with the school, do not involve the school. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 02.08.10, 07:25 AM Flag
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Unfortunately, all you can do is focus on your own child: self-esteem issues, not using/being used by others, information about communicable diseases, and birth control. Girls who do that this young often have self-esteem issues and certainly develop as a result of this behavior. btdt and have seen my nieces and their friends develop all sorts of issues b/c they are just too young psychologically for this one-way "relationship". [ Reply | More
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General Topics 02.08.10, 07:21 AM Flag
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There is definitely a "kill the messenger' mentality among middle school parents. Parents generally do not want to be told about their kids questionable behavior by other parents. Focus on your child. I do think it is worth a conversation with the head of your middle school. They undoubtedly get a number of these calls every year and may have some ideas. I know they would be helpful at my child's school. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 02.08.10, 07:25 AM Flag
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All you can do is teach safe sex. That's normal and you should be delighted they're in 8th grade. My dc's public school had this crap going on in 5th grade. That is WAY too early. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 02.08.10, 07:33 AM Flag
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How, in heaven's name, could you think that this is normal activity for a 11 to 13 year old? Are you a man or a woman? What is your background? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 02.08.10, 12:31 PM Flag
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it is happening all over, whether or not you want to bellieve it. kids as young as 11, but many are having full blown sex by the time they are 13 & 14. scary, isnt it? i just pray that my dd is not participating - we do talk about a lot of this stuff. she knows what a bj is (didnt hear it from me!) she's 12. private school. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 02.08.10, 12:46 PM Flag
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I don't think it's normal per se, but I don't think there's much you can do about it expect keep an eye on your own kid, teach them about self respect, and safe sex. I grew up in a suburb of a midwestern city where we had million dollar homes and trailer parks. Recently, there was an outbreak of 7th and 8th grade girls pregnant and gonorhea (sp?) was spreading like wildfire in the public middle school. Truly sad. Where are the parents?? How does a 7th grader get pregnant? I don't know. I hope I can raise my dc's to make better choices. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 02.11.10, 11:27 AM Flag
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not a school problem, but you might want to talk to other moms to see what they're hearing. Some may have no clue it is happening. it is really up to the parents to talk to their kids about sex. it does happen at this age unfortunately. talk to your kids about safe sex and your feelings about sex. one middle school had an outbreak of gonorrhea of the mouth. parents were dropping middle schoolers at the movies and they would slip out to the back alley and the girls would give bjs. they dont really see it as sex - it seems harmless to them because they cant get pregnant, but they can get soooo many other things, and it bad for their self esteem (and reputation) to be doing this at 11 or 12. i have a 12 yo dd. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 02.08.10, 08:07 AM Flag
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OMG, keep your mouth shut. Talk to your dd about sex and decision making and leave it at that. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 02.08.10, 08:12 AM Flag
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ITA. Also talk to dc about the perils of gossiping. You want to encourage her to confide in you--which believe me she will not if she thinks there is a chance you are going to go around trying to stir the pot. Your primary responsibility is to your own dc. Talk with her honestly and keep her confidences. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 02.08.10, 08:28 AM Flag
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of course they are!! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 02.08.10, 08:15 AM Flag
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If your kid is not involved, you most certainly should stay out of it. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 02.08.10, 08:32 AM Flag
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Teacher here as well as parent of high school girl. Yes, oral sex is not considered a big deal with these kids. The schools are well aware of what is going on and unfortunately peer pressure is more influential than parents' remarks. Very trick situation. Best to be aware and talk about it but believe me, it's happening at every school in 8th grade, private or public. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 02.08.10, 12:29 PM Flag
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Every school in 8th grade? You are what, a teacher who knows every school in every town in the world? Don't care for broad generalizations like this, especially from teachers. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 02.08.10, 12:36 PM Flag
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NP: You are naive. I believe her. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 02.08.10, 01:01 PM Flag
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You posted this to NY schools, is this a NY school in particular that you are talking about? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 02.08.10, 12:35 PM Flag
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What will each of you say to your children about it? What are your thoughts? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 02.08.10, 12:35 PM Flag
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How do you teach a young girl to "be safe" if you think she might be engaging in oral sex? I would think the only way to be safe is to abstain. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 02.08.10, 12:38 PM Flag
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I would call the counselor and leave it in her hands. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 02.08.10, 01:41 PM Flag
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Oh, if there is a counselor....rare in a lot of schools these days. I read this and am so bummed I have 2 dd's [ Reply | More
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General Topics 02.08.10, 01:41 PM Flag
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There is a lot of drinking, smoking as well as sex in middle school. Just be aware. And unfortunately, girls are experimenting with all of the three at a younger age. Just look at some of the videos they watch on t.v. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 02.08.10, 02:36 PM Flag
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Friend here in NYC told me her 9th grade son got another girl pregnant. Seems like they were all having sex at parties. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 02.08.10, 02:41 PM Flag
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I don't understand. If they were all doing it at parties how can your friend know that it was her son that impregnated her? Did they do paternity test [ Reply | More
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General Topics 11.02.12, 06:26 PM Flag
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General Topics 02.11.10, 11:22 AM Flag
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look, this is nothing new. that was going on when i was in 8th grade too, and i'm 32 now. this kind of thing isn't great, but it is normal. it happens at poor schools, it happens at rich schools. keep your mouth shut. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 11.02.12, 06:29 PM Flag
[ - ] I know that the brearley uniform is dark blue and chapin is green. can someone please tell me what the uniforms are for hewitt, spence, sacred heart, marymount, and nightingale-bamford are? 16 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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Teenagers 02.06.10, 10:00 AM Flag
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go to their websites and look at the pictures. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 02.06.10, 10:01 AM Flag
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CSH is white top/gray skirt, white/top/gray jumper/red and white pinafore [ Reply | More
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General Topics 02.06.10, 10:11 AM Flag
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Sacred Heart has the red/white gingham pinafore over a grey dress - very cute on the little ones, looks a little awkward on the older ones! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 02.06.10, 10:12 AM Flag
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Sacred Heart Upper School is like Hewitt/Spence now except not so nice, no judgement is just an unattractive choice. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 02.06.10, 11:38 AM Flag
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nbs is the same as brearley [ Reply | More
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General Topics 02.06.10, 11:24 AM Flag
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No. Only in that they're both blue [ Reply | More
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General Topics 02.06.10, 11:37 AM Flag
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what's the difference? they look the same to me. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 02.06.10, 12:54 PM Flag
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NBS has a blue plaid jumper as well as a navy blue one. They wear white blouses with blue trim everyday. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 02.06.10, 04:19 PM Flag
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Spence and Hewitt have almost the same plaid. A lot green in it. One school's has a back zipper. The other's buttons at the shoulders. Brearley's blue jumper now has red buttons at the shoulders. NBS doesn't and they wear puffy shirts under it. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 02.06.10, 11:36 AM Flag
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Spence has buttons and Hewitt zippers. Spence's plaid runs vertically and Hewitt's is cut on a diagonal. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 02.06.10, 01:31 PM Flag
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wait i thought that spence was dark and light blue and the lower school was plaid... [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.23.10, 08:03 PM Flag
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You have to ask why people want to know this. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 02.06.10, 11:39 AM Flag
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When you are trolling in your van it helps to have a field guide. Why do people answer questions like this? If you need to know the uniforms you'll know. Otherwise don't ask. It's pervy. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 02.06.10, 01:06 PM Flag
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np Oh, please. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 02.06.10, 01:32 PM Flag
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Super nasty..wow! Why don't you just keep quiet? OP has a direct question, you don't like it, then don't post anything. Nobody wants to see remarks like this. Get a life! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 02.07.10, 05:14 AM Flag
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OP, Not flaming, but just curious why you want to know ? Is it for some kind of research or are you just randomly curious ? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.23.10, 08:23 PM Flag
[ - ] Specialized HS notices are being sent out today. Nervous? 1 Reply [ Reply | Watch | More
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Teenagers 02.04.10, 09:40 AM Flag
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Nah...dc in TT. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 02.04.10, 09:58 AM Flag
[ - ] My dc is at Delta 6th grade and I am disappointed - I thought it would be more challenging. He is a smart boy, but from what he is telling me, almost everyone gets 95s on their report cards. He has done little writing. He seems to have only about 30 minutes of homework each night. I am not fishing for compliments - Does it get more challenging in the 7th or 8th grades? I can't see him just noodling around for another 3 years, but I can't afford private school. Is Delta so great? 9 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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Teenagers 02.04.10, 06:37 AM Flag
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Your dcs experience is not typical - homework fluctuates and varies by teacher, but most dc have anywhere from 1 hour - 3 hours or more per weeknight, including time spent on long-term projects. Why don't you send him to Hunter if you're unhappy. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 02.04.10, 06:45 AM Flag
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Friend's dc switched from Delta to Hunter for 7th grade and reports that there was harder work and more HW at Delta. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 02.04.10, 06:50 AM Flag
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If not Delta, where would your child go? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 02.04.10, 06:45 AM Flag
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op: Bingo. Nowhere else to go. I want traditional, rigorous education - that is what Delta is supposed to be. I think Hunter's progressiveness would grate on me, and Anderson's unsettledness would make me uptight. And I'm not even sure those are possible options. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 02.05.10, 11:14 AM Flag
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Well at this point, your dc would have taken the Hunter HS test if he had qualified. Hunter HS, by the way, is rigorous and not progressive. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 02.05.10, 03:20 PM Flag
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Hunter High School is not the tiniest bit progressive, but it's too late to apply, I think. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 02.08.10, 05:44 AM Flag
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Why don't you sign him up for some CTY courses through Johns Hopkins, esp. in writing? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 02.04.10, 07:16 AM Flag
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Are these online? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 02.08.10, 05:55 AM Flag
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Yes,they have online courses. They also have 3 week sleep away summer camp. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 02.08.10, 06:57 AM Flag
[ - ] Does anyone else "translate" dh's directives to dcs so as to make dh seem nicer? For example, today dh asked me to tell ds to put down the "g. d." game controller and come help him. I said to ds, "Your Dad thought you could help him ...." ds hopped up and gladly went to help. I know if I had delivered the message in it's original form ds would have been a sullen helper. 8 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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Teenagers 01.30.10, 06:59 PM Flag
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not anymore. ex dh sent me an email today because dd wants to get her christmas presents from his apartment. he wouldnt let her take them home (itunes cards, gift cards). she hasnt wanted to see him (hasnt for about a month - her choice). so his response to my question on when she would get her presents was that she will get the f#%#ing presents when he f$%#@ing sees her. i showed dd email (she's 14) and she is so disgusted by his attitude. next time she sees him she will probably act out her displeasure.kharma. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 01.30.10, 07:15 PM Flag
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i feel for your dd. what is wrong with some people? i am so amazed by how mean some people are. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 01.30.10, 07:18 PM Flag
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Kim Basinger? Is that you? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 01.30.10, 07:50 PM Flag
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Sorry, but I wouldn't have shown her that. There is obviously a lot of strife between you and your ex and I feel for your child. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 01.30.10, 07:21 PM Flag
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...meant to reply to np [ Reply | More
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General Topics 01.30.10, 07:22 PM Flag
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unfortunately in the past year he has started to speak to her in the same manner. she is under no illusion that her daddy is some prince charming. sad but reality. a mother should never have to translate for the father to make him seem nicer to the kids. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 01.30.10, 07:27 PM Flag
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welcome to my life. insensitive dh and he always says stuff that hurt the kids - usually i get pissed at him..not too functional but i get so upset [ Reply | More
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General Topics 01.30.10, 07:22 PM Flag
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Ask husband how he's going to feel when ds's school calls about his swearing during the schoolday. Kids pick up these swear words and relay them back very easily. Tell him this has to stop. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 01.31.10, 01:27 AM Flag
[ - ] Anyone hav e a child at Regis? Dear friend's son just got in. 2 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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Teenagers 01.22.10, 02:04 PM Flag
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I know a dc there -- very prestigious to get in. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 01.22.10, 02:07 PM Flag
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Congrats to them. Such a great education at Regis! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 01.22.10, 04:11 PM Flag
[ - ] Greetings, 1 Reply [ Reply | Watch | More
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Teenagers 01.20.10, 07:57 PM Flag
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earthlings.... [ Reply | More
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General Topics 01.20.10, 07:58 PM Flag
[ - ] Greetings, 0 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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Teenagers 01.20.10, 07:57 PM Flag
[ - ] Reading your teenager's e-mail and phone texts - spying or responsible parenting? 18 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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Teenagers 01.16.10, 11:49 AM Flag
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both. what do you do? I don't think I would read unless I suspected problem. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 01.16.10, 11:56 AM Flag
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My oldest is 10yo, but I tell her very directly that nothing she does online is private. I tell her she can keep a private diary and I will not read it, but nothing on the computer. We allow our kids extensive computer usage, but monitor every thing. I think it's responsible. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 01.16.10, 12:01 PM Flag
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ohhhh - OR, I like this. Very smart bc they need to learn what they post becomes public - colleges will check, boyfriends will check, everyone. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 01.16.10, 12:07 PM Flag
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OP here. Really torn. I know I would have hated my mother to read my diary but these high school kids are into all kind of things like drugs and sex and drinking. Seem to be a controversial topic with parents. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 01.16.10, 12:16 PM Flag
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I tell my 13 year old the same thing. Nothing she does on-line is private or erasable. I know of a child who had a high school acceptance rescinded because of an on-line posting. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 01.16.10, 02:34 PM Flag
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I think this is exactly right. We gave our 10 yo an Ipod Touch and I allow him access to the WiFi at home with the understanding that at any time I can ask for the Ipod and see what's on and that I may pick it up at any time when he's not around. I like you're refinement that you won't snoop in a written diary -- you'll basically look at what anyone else could look at, but not what she keeps truly private. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 01.17.10, 09:13 AM Flag
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And what software do you use to ensure she hasn't erased anything? I know how to hide my online activity (without software). To make this stick you really have to be as computer-savvy as the kids. Are you? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 01.17.10, 09:50 AM Flag
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Or someone that I pay will have to be. I can hardly work my IPhone. This could be a cottage industry. Probably already exists. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 01.17.10, 01:45 PM Flag
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LOVE IT. She still has privacy in her diary, but when she's out in the public arena, you're taking parental responsibility for her. I'll remember this later when mine is older. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 01.17.10, 11:27 AM Flag
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ITA, this is a great solution. I only have a baby but I'll remember this! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 01.17.10, 11:45 AM Flag
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having email & cell phone is a privilege the she has with the understanding that i can check at anytime. i have passwords for all including facebook. cyberspace is too open to dangers and embarassment. diary is a differnt story. i wouldnt look in that. her father decided to read her personal writings and it has really damaged their relationship because he was angry about what she wrote, discussed it openly with his family and girlfriend, and totally humiliated dd. internet is different because it is public domain. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 01.17.10, 08:55 AM Flag
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I do it all as often as I can. I specifically removed content from his FB page that he posted in anger, which was totally inappropriate (complaining about school and parents), so I just went in and removed it! I explained why, etc....He de-friended me, but forgot I still know his password! I was checking it often, but haven't seen anything bad lately, so am checking less. But, I will still go in and remove anything I think I need to - only I am not telling him anymore, b/c I know he will change his password! I also check phone texts routinely, but haven't seen anything to concern me lately, so have stopped. My DS is about 14. We do not live in NYC. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 01.17.10, 10:55 AM Flag
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Hell- I read my husbands email and phone texts. Yes, I'm invasive, but it's my home and I run the roost. Read as much as you like but here's the thing: you have to let them be teens. Being a teenager includes doing some things that your parents would frown upon. You have to be able to know when to react and when to be like, "Oh G-d, but they will survive" Most importantly you have to know how to handle the situation so that they don't know you snooped. Sometimes that means biting your tongue and keeping watch until the begin slipping up or manufacturing a reason why you know what you know. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 01.17.10, 11:44 AM Flag
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Well, the main reason I removed his post was that he insulted his school and could have gotten in SERIOUS trouble w/school (totally not worth going through all that just to teach him a lesson I can teach him w/o dire repurcussions on his record) and he insulted me. My removing the post, plus explaining why, has seemed to work... [ Reply | More
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General Topics 01.18.10, 07:59 AM Flag
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OR - my children still little, but something doesn't sit well with me about too much intrusion / spying. I really like these opinions, however. I am going to ponder for a couple years. Wow - helpful post - who knew. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 01.17.10, 01:28 PM Flag
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np I'll be intruding/spying PLENTY when my kids are older. Responsible parenting these days, imo. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 01.17.10, 01:31 PM Flag
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You might be right. Maybe its just the marketing here. I do think teenagers need an amount of privacy. I will call it "extreme availability to review electronic devices of chidren". In reality, with 8 yr old, I probably don't have much time to ponder. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 01.17.10, 01:43 PM Flag
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sometimes you get more than you asked for ...I put a keystoke program on our family computer because 15yo dd had been lying to us .. found out dh was having affair with exgf... fml...............but I'm glad I found out [ Reply | More
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General Topics 02.01.10, 08:42 AM Flag
[ - ] Any chance of getting into ECFS 9th grade with 7's and 5's on the ISEE's? All other areas are very strong. 3 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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Teenagers 01.13.10, 12:34 PM Flag
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Which areas got which scores? My dc is applying with lower scores. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 01.13.10, 12:51 PM Flag
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^^^ I wish the application had something for the child to write. It was the only one that didn't require my child to write anything. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 01.13.10, 12:56 PM Flag
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7's in quantitative and comprehension, 5's in verbal and math. Any chance? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 01.13.10, 01:49 PM Flag
[ - ] What is up with Gov Patersons son being reprted as being arrested? I thought it was illegal to report a minor's arrest unless they are found guilty for something? 5 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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Teenagers 01.12.10, 07:12 PM Flag
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and where does he go to school? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 01.12.10, 07:27 PM Flag
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You can look it up I am sure. But isn't it a rights violation to do this unless he is charged with something? Any lawyers on? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 01.12.10, 07:30 PM Flag
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Beacon High School [ Reply | More
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General Topics 01.12.10, 07:41 PM Flag
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"In a unanimous 1979 decision, the U.S. Supreme Court ruled in Smith v. Daily Mail that the First Amendment protects the right of journalists to use the names of minors in newsworthy stories as long as the information is “lawfully obtained” and “truthfully” reported." I think it's a policy of some newspapers, including the New York Times, to not name a minor accused of a crime. The fact that the minor involved is a child of a prominent politician may override the standard policy though. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 01.12.10, 08:54 PM Flag
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^^^ He was not charged, according to Times on-line article that mentions him by name (but not the other children questioned). [ Reply | More
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General Topics 01.12.10, 09:02 PM Flag
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