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[ - ] Out of these 4 options -- texting, emailing, Skyping, FB chatting -- which is more "personal" among teens? How about among grown-ups? 3 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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Teenagers 06.03.11, 08:46 AM Flag
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Teens dont email - Texting or BBMing [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.03.11, 08:52 AM Flag
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Skyping is definitely teh most personal. You can see someone's face [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.03.11, 08:58 AM Flag
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This is what I encourage - not a fan of texting [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.03.11, 09:41 AM Flag
[ - ] Any other ECFS/ Fieldston parents on? What is the story with Joyce Evans, the Interim Head of School. Is she is making as many dumb decisions as possible before she leaves in June? The latest one is that the awesome assistant principal of the Middle School is not even a finalist to become the new principal of he Middle School, and that she's handpicking someone right before she leaves. I think the Board of Directors must be asleep at the wheel - and I wish they'd wake up. 6 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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Teenagers 04.13.11, 05:48 PM Flag
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What about the whole school? No new EC principal. I like Joyce I just wonder about the power if the board. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 04.13.11, 05:55 PM Flag
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If you like Joyce, you don't really know her. She is so vindictive and aggressive toward the faculty...they are losing their minds. Several examples in the last few months. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 04.13.11, 05:57 PM Flag
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I am rarely at school and dc has had great teachers. It is the administrative chaos that bothers me. My impression of Joyce is a gut feeling not based on anything concrete so you probably know more than I do. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 04.13.11, 06:17 PM Flag
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It's the board that is the issue, it's about time for a change! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 04.13.11, 07:12 PM Flag
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That's absurd. The new Head of School, Damien Fernandez, has been very involved in the process and met with all the candidates. To think that Joyce Evans is making this decision is very naive. This is Damian's decision to make, with input from the current administration. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 04.25.11, 03:21 PM Flag
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Absolutely untrue. She made the decision herself - he isn't working there yet. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.13.11, 07:31 AM Flag
[ - ] Tween and teen birthday parties -- what goes on? Generally co-ed? Thanks. 7 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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Teenagers 04.09.11, 07:04 AM Flag
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my tweens wouldn't want a co-ed birthday party, so ask your dc what he/she wants to do before thinking too much about this. Both my dd and ds love slumber parties. It's a tight fit, but they sleep on the floor in front of the tv with lots of snacks [ Reply | More
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General Topics 04.09.11, 07:21 AM Flag
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Thanks. I know my pretweens and I remember the kinds of parties they had and went to. But I'm looking at programming a venue which might be good for older kids parties. And I don't know what those parties are like, beyond what I have seen at Bar Mitzvahs. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 04.09.11, 07:29 AM Flag
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karaoke or those places that people go to play video games [ Reply | More
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General Topics 04.09.11, 07:45 AM Flag
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kissing games [ Reply | More
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General Topics 04.09.11, 07:54 AM Flag
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omg, the drama with spin the bottle at my 7th grade birthday party. definitely. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 04.09.11, 09:07 AM Flag
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why, didn't you ever go to any yourself? you should know what goes on! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 04.09.11, 09:16 AM Flag
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Lots of cocaine [ Reply | More
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General Topics 04.09.11, 09:23 AM Flag
[ - ] My 14 yo son says he feels like he has to pee all the time. His penis has a feeling of dull pressure that is mildly painful all the time. His pediatrician says it's probably a virus in his bladder and is unconcerned. But my son couldn't sleep last night and is upset. He's had a milder version of this before and the pediatrician dismissed it then, too. Advice? Does anyone have a rec for a urologist? Is that who I should take him to? 4 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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Teenagers 04.04.11, 03:10 AM Flag
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I would get him to see a urologist. Statistically, it's most likely that your doctor is right. However, it is better to be 100% sure. Plus, it sounds like it is really upsetting to your son and you don't want to dismiss his concerns...specially, regarding his penis. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 04.04.11, 06:06 AM Flag
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he might have a uti. did he give a urine sample? sometimes they take several days to get results back from lab depending on doctor. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 04.04.11, 08:59 AM Flag
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Try Moneer Hanna - pediatric urologist at Weil Cornell, also has anoffice on LI - really good, kind man, excellent with our teen boy when he had a varicocele. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 04.07.11, 06:04 AM Flag
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sorry - meant to post the link - http://www.mkhanna.com/ [ Reply | More
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General Topics 04.07.11, 06:05 AM Flag
[ - ] Anyone here used Dr. Jonathan Hertz as a pyschiatrist for their teen? 1 Reply [ Reply | Watch | More
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Teenagers 03.09.11, 07:34 PM Flag
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No, but I know his brother, Dick Hertz [ Reply | More
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General Topics 03.09.11, 08:01 PM Flag
[ - ] could anyone give sound advice on a good sat prep course in the city? it is greatly appreciated. 6 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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Teenagers 02.13.11, 06:59 PM Flag
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try ivy link. they're really good. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 02.13.11, 07:13 PM Flag
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THANK YOU [ Reply | More
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General Topics 02.14.11, 12:46 PM Flag
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also dc can register for practice tests year round at bespoke education and tutor associates [ Reply | More
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General Topics 02.19.11, 07:24 PM Flag
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THNK YOU! THAT WAS VERY KIND OF YOU. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 02.21.11, 05:33 AM Flag
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We are using Brownstone Tutors. The tutor is excellent. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.25.11, 02:10 PM Flag
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Buy dc a book and tell him/her to study it. This prep thing is over the top. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.25.11, 02:14 PM Flag
[ - ] My daughter who is 20 works most days and is going to school at night. I work full time Monday - Friday. The problem: my daughter has her boyfriend over often during the day and night. Recently it had been brought to my attention they they are yelling at one another. Thank god for having a teenager son who is home sometimes when they are in my home. Last night I heard yelling, crying and then a loud thud. I ran upstairs and saw them both crying. I can't have this going on in my home when I am at work as well as don't want to have to deal with this when I get home from work. Suggestions???? 9 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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Teenagers 01.25.11, 07:29 AM Flag
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This is why you should set limits for your dc at 3, so you don't end up with this situation at 20. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 01.25.11, 07:33 AM Flag
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Unfortunately, I only became her Mother when she was 12 years old, as she was in foster care prior. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 01.25.11, 07:45 AM Flag
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Absolutely not helpful at all! Her daughter is having relationship problems, not a temper tantrum. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 01.25.11, 08:30 AM Flag
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Do you think she is being abused? Could you give her the national domestic violence hotline number? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 01.25.11, 07:51 AM Flag
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it's your home so you have the right to set the boundaries. tell her this cannot go on any longer especially with bf being there overnight. good luck. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 01.25.11, 07:51 AM Flag
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What is her explanation for what is going on? Sounds like she needs help. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 01.25.11, 07:54 AM Flag
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Your house, your rules. She'll hate it, but some kids (and even at 20 she seems like a kid) need it longer than others. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 01.25.11, 08:10 AM Flag
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I think you need to talk to her and be there for her. It's okay to say that the BF isn't allowed over when you're not home - but make sure that doesn't just mean that she stays away as well. Let her use you as the bad guy if she's trying to get away from him - like she needs to be home for her brother, but you have a no visitor policy. She needs to know that you're there for her and concerned for her well-being above all else. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 01.25.11, 08:28 AM Flag
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I did try to speak to both of them, I got them to calm down and asked what was happening to make them so upset. Of course, neither would respond about the issue. I made it clear that we do not tolerate violence and regardless of their issue, no one should ever been this angry or unhappy. Perhaps they should take a break, as neither one was happy. Later after he left, I tried to calmly speak with my daughter but she would not let me know the issue. I did mention to her that I felt that they should not see each other for a while and that I was afraid for her. At first she said "if you do not want him here", I'll just go to his house, which I do not want. I told her he could come here but they could not hang out in her room but stay in the family room. However, if they continued to argue, I would ask him to leave. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 01.25.11, 08:50 AM Flag
[ - ] Anyone know of a good place to shop for jeans in Manhattan for an 11 year old girl who is 4ft 11in and approx 100 pounds? 12 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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Teenagers 01.21.11, 02:26 PM Flag
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American Eagle [ Reply | More
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General Topics 01.21.11, 02:28 PM Flag
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OR - nevermind. I thought 100lbs was skinny, not wide. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 01.21.11, 02:29 PM Flag
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^^Have you tried Old Navy? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 01.21.11, 02:30 PM Flag
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Haven't tried Old Navy, but Gap plus is too wide, and Gap regular too tight. She won't wear Children's place clothing anymore, but their jeans used to fit her OK. Haven't tried those in a few years. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 01.21.11, 02:35 PM Flag
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OP - will try, thanks for the suggestion. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 01.21.11, 02:37 PM Flag
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Have you thought about looking at adult stores? I'm 5 ft, 100 lbs and I like the Gap petite and Banana Republic petite. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 01.21.11, 03:59 PM Flag
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Believe it or not, we have had great success at JCPenney (33d & 6th). All sizes from ultra slim to plus in children's and junior's and surprisingly nice styles in jeans. The price is also right! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 01.21.11, 04:29 PM Flag
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There's also a big Old Navy right across the street, so you can try both. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 01.21.11, 04:31 PM Flag
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Landsend have plus sizes, try them. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 01.21.11, 04:46 PM Flag
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There is alway hemming. Rarely are people perfect store bought sizes, it is worth the money to hem. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 01.21.11, 04:46 PM Flag
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my daughter is exactly the same size and we found some nice jeans for her at aeropostale. good luck [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.14.11, 07:50 PM Flag
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My daughter is just about those same measurements. She wears Delia's Morgan jeans. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 08.13.11, 08:01 PM Flag
[ - ] Atlanta Moms, I need your guidance ... My 11 year old son took the SSATs, looking to get into Marist School. Any idea what the ranges are that are accepted? He did well on verbal, not so hot on Math ... ;-( Trying to figure out if we are chasing something that is unrealistic. Any info appreciated ... thx 3 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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Teenagers 01.18.11, 03:04 PM Flag
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Sorry - I live in another city -- not Altanta -- but w/some very prestigious private schools, and since my 15-year old DS just took the SSATs, I know a bit about the ranges. Apparently, even 50% in a subject can be considered good for a student taking SSATs for high school. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 01.18.11, 07:01 PM Flag
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Thanks for the insight ... any one know if this applies to 7th grade too? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 01.19.11, 04:12 AM Flag
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Not Atlanta, but DC applying to very competitive NYC private schools. For the ISEE, they said mostly 80s or 90s% with one lower score is great. ISEE doesn't give you an overall score. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 01.19.11, 05:27 AM Flag
[ - ] My son just turned in his common application essay. His older sister who is already at college proofread it for him. My son mentions his mentor prominently in the essay. But he mentioned him by his first name. My daughter apparently thought this was too informal, so she put in his last name. But she got it wrong. And my son didn't proofread it after she edited it, so the mistake went by him. This wouldn't matter, except that the mentor has sent in a letter of recommendation on my son's behalf. How will college admissions offices view this? 11 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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Teenagers 01.05.11, 08:59 AM Flag
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Probably as if your son didn't write the essay. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 01.05.11, 08:59 AM Flag
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i disagree. for starters, if a hired professional had written the essay, they wouldn't have made this mistake. but lots of people don't know how to spell other people's last names, even people very close to them. don't stress out about this. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 01.05.11, 09:48 AM Flag
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wow, sorry about this, but how did he not proofread after she edited it? it's his essay with his name on it, he should've had the final look. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 01.05.11, 09:01 AM Flag
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Depending how severe the misspelling - they probably won't notice it. Often the essays are read by a separate panel... Also - are you sure that you aren't "older sister"? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 01.05.11, 09:01 AM Flag
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second responder from above... sorry if i was harsh, was it just a misspelling (not great, but not such a big deal). when you said "she got it wrong" i thought she had the wrong name altogether.. now that would not be cool! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 01.05.11, 09:05 AM Flag
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She got the name totally wrong. It's a different name entirely. He didn't include the last name and she thought she knew what the last name was, but she didn't. And yes, my son was being lazy and careless and exercising poor judgment. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 01.05.11, 05:13 PM Flag
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Generally speaking, the same person reading the application reads the essay. Your son should have proofread her edits. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 01.05.11, 04:07 PM Flag
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Just send a note saying that you think you may have misspelt x's name. When I was applying to colleges I wasn't that careful and my typing certainly wasn't the best. I think the schools will understand. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 01.05.11, 09:04 AM Flag
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disagree. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 01.05.11, 09:06 AM Flag
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don't. this calls out the mistake in a glaring light. it's almost worse. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 01.05.11, 09:06 AM Flag
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This is a good cautionary tale - students should write their own application essays, they should write their own essays in college, they should write their own stuff period. Writing your own essay = taking proofreading comments into consideration and modifying the essay yourself, not having someone modify it for you. Hopefully this will provide him with a good lesson on academic integrity. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 01.05.11, 10:28 AM Flag
[ - ] I am so heartbroken for my dd i could just cry. she is a freshman in highschool. always had a ton of friends, involved in everything, always in the hub of everything going on. she chose to go to a different high school than her close friends because the school they all went to is very small and didn't appeal to her at all. now she's at her new school and has met many people and has people she interacts with but not a circle of true friends. meanwhile, her old friends have pretty much dumped her and so she's all of a sudden a very isolated and lonely girl. i want to help her but of coure can't make friends for her. my heart is breaking and i don't know what to do. anyone? 16 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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Teenagers 11.27.10, 07:40 AM Flag
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I think it is still early and everyone is still getting to know each other. Try offering to host a gathering or two for her new friends so that they become a more bonded group with her. A skating party to celebrate the start of winter break? A movie? A sleepover? I don't know what to tell you about the other girls who dumped her. If your dd wants to continue those relationships, you could host a sort of reunion sleepover over winter break for them to all catch up. It's possible the girls are just really busy with the start of high school and figuring out their new friends at their new school, and aren't trying to be mean to your dd. Good luck. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 11.27.10, 07:47 AM Flag
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thanks for the suggestion. we still do host things at our house with her old guy and girl friends every so often. the problem is that in her new school, many of these kids went to elementary school together and continued on to high school together so their groups are already established. she can't seem to figure out where she belongs in all this. yet people text her, talk to her on facebook, ask her if she's going to this event or that. so it's not like she's a total outcast, just seems unable to make her way into a group. i just feel so bad for her because this is 100% opposite of how things always were for her. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 11.27.10, 07:51 AM Flag
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Ah, I see, that is hard. I entered a school during an off year and ended up leaving a few years later because I never broke into a group. I think your dd's situation sounds promising because people text her and talk to her, etc. I would bet she will be settled into a group soon enough. The only advice I can offer is for her to keep going to events and to initiate activities as well. They all have shared memories and experiences so it might take a few more months for her to start catching up in terms of making memories with these kids. I think she will fall in somewhere eventually. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 11.27.10, 08:02 AM Flag
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It's hard, but maybe she doesn't necessarily need a group? It sounds as if the other kids like her and aren't really excluding her from anything, so maybe she can build some individual friendships and rely on those for a while. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 11.27.10, 09:06 AM Flag
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Does your dd play sports? Interest in any clubs? I made more friends in H.S.---of all grade levels---through playing sports. Is that possible. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 11.27.10, 07:49 AM Flag
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yes, she played on a sports team in the fall which was great but none of the girls ended up being girls she hung out with regularly at school. she had fun with them at games and practices and everything and i assumed this would be the bunch she fell in with but it didn't end up being that way. there's one girl she especially got along with from the team but this girl is like at the top of the popularity tower as my daughter says. she says they really got along and the girls is really cool and nice, but my dd feels like a "poser" as she told me, if she were to just walk up to this girl and her big group and just try to become part of that. i sound like a whiner, i just want my daughter to be happy and right now she is so unhappy. thanks for all your kind words ladies. it helps :) [ Reply | More
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General Topics 11.27.10, 07:54 AM Flag
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hang in there. i was your dd at one point in my life....and gradually, it happened! be supportive of her (you sound like a great mom) and know that it will happen. remind your dd that this strife is character-building, and she will come thru it with dear friends. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 11.27.10, 07:57 AM Flag
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thank you. i do tell her constantly that i remember these days and how difficult things can be. i try to just validate how she's feeling all the time yet not allow her to fall into any of that "poor me" kind of talk. i emphasize to her that people like her, they always tell her they think she's pretty or has cool makeup or is so smart or whatever. i think she appears to be so confident some people may not realize she does want a friendship, she may seem to be content the way she is because she doesn't betray her feelings to people very often. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 11.27.10, 07:59 AM Flag
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it will take time but I am SURE it will turn out ok for her. we've BTDT and please take comfort and be confident that she will find friends. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 11.27.10, 07:50 AM Flag
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did you have a similar experience with your dd? what happened and how did it all play out? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 11.27.10, 07:55 AM Flag
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it's just november of freshman year... she'll make friends by spring. in the meantime, this is an amazing opportunity for her to learn that she can cope with feelings of isolation while still living at home with her loving mom close at hand, which is a really good thing for her to have in her emotional tool kit before college. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 11.27.10, 08:02 AM Flag
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you're so right and my dh keeps reminding me of that too, that november is so early in the year and it will be different by the end of the year. i know that's true, i guess it's just hard to watch a kid hang out with me so much on the weekend and not take her phone with her everywhere anymore because she knows no one is trying to get a hold of her. it will change, i know that. it's just hard waiting for it to happen. but in the big scheme of things, this is a very small problem compared to what many peoople are dealing with so i don't want to look like an idiot here, i know what real problems are and this is not one of them. :) [ Reply | More
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General Topics 11.27.10, 08:05 AM Flag
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np: very good point! i have a niece who went away to college and this happened and she really got very mixed up with the wrong crowd. Better your daughter learn from this now, OP---than when she is away at college. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 11.27.10, 08:07 AM Flag
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Suggest that she join a club, newspaper, yearbook, or another sport- maybe track to keep in shape for her fall sport. Teams and clubs that meet often are a perfect place to connect with friends. After Friday practice, my kids make plans for Friday night- pizza dinner, movie, party at our house, etc. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 11.27.10, 09:15 AM Flag
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ITA, but her inviting virtual stranges out would be akward, I suggest throwing a weekend event for ALL of the kids in whatever activity she is into (ie: a pasta party for sprts team night before a game or bowling & pizza night for club). [ Reply | More
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General Topics 11.27.10, 09:59 AM Flag
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That's what freshman year is for. She'll grow so much as a person: maybe she can take up an instrument, get into running or another solitary sport, start writing, anything that requires practice and time. By the end of the year she will find a new group a friends with new interests. She's only 14; she has a lot more growing to do and being "alone" for a few months can only do her good. Don't look at it like it's a problem, look at it as an opportunity to grow. Like a butterfly coming out of its cocoon. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 11.27.10, 09:35 AM Flag
[ - ] parents of teens: do your kids spend all of their free time on line? Do they have friends over or go out? mom of hermit needs to know. 5 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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Teenagers 11.01.10, 02:00 PM Flag
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Yes (on-line while watching tv and texting at the same time), no and no. Signed, mom of two hermits who would love to start a support group! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 11.01.10, 02:06 PM Flag
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do you ever worry that they need more socializing IRL? My hermit will happily go where invited, but won't extend an invitation unless prodded. Really relishes time alone, playing games online, watching tv. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 11.03.10, 10:10 AM Flag
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I'd cancel my internet subscription before I allowed that to happen. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 11.01.10, 02:39 PM Flag
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No, but he spends quite a bit. He does go out Friday and Sat night. Sunday night he has a class he goes to. He plays basketball a lot and other sports. Thursday nights there is an extra curricular activity. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 11.01.10, 03:07 PM Flag
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Dc in boarding school, so full day is spent with friends. Social websites are cut off during study hours. Facebook account not updated in 4 weeks. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 11.10.10, 06:46 PM Flag
[ - ] Who has a dc taking the SHSAT? 0 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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Teenagers 10.18.10, 06:33 PM Flag
[ - ] ideas for 1 day outing on sunday near nyc with 14 yo boy? 2 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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Teenagers 10.09.10, 10:02 AM Flag
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Museum of Natural History? If he's into history. NBA store if he's a sports buff. Zoo? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 11.15.10, 03:21 PM Flag
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The New York Botanical Garden holiday train show opens this weekend. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 11.16.10, 03:45 PM Flag
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