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[ - ] I had 128 substantive emails I needed to substantively respond to or address in some way today - and most of them involved more than just an email response - maybe some sort of analysis, or drafting of some type of agreement. This is probably below my average. Where do other lawyers stand on the daily email count? 9 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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New York City 05.22.13, 03:33 AM Flag
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How do you have time to count the emails? I SAH now but was a biglaw partner and never understood it when associates would talk about the number of emails they received. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.22.13, 03:38 AM Flag
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Your inbox counts for you. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.22.13, 03:40 AM Flag
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Yes but then you're counting the "thanks!", "here's the dial-in info", etc. emails too. OP suggested she was referring to emails directed at her requiring new analysis/drafting etc. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.22.13, 03:50 AM Flag
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When you file 'substantive' emails, the files should indicate a count. You will have to tally up the counts but that doesn't take THAT much time. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.22.13, 03:51 AM Flag
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256 here. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.22.13, 03:44 AM Flag
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That's because you spent so much time in meetings. I respond to 90% emails everyday and can go home everyday at 5pm. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.22.13, 03:39 AM Flag
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I get maybe 10-15 emails a day, of which about 5 need some type of lengthy response or analysis. Granted I do not work in BigLaw. I am staff counsel for an insurance company and handle first party auto/medical claims. My emails are mostly from claim reps or other lawyers in my firm. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.22.13, 04:02 AM Flag
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Who gives a shit on your boring life [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.22.13, 05:14 AM Flag
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Yo dat's not very nice slap mah fro! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.22.13, 05:20 AM Flag
[ - ] People take childbirth classes in NYC? any place they liked? 32 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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New York City 05.22.13, 02:20 AM Flag
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Why bother. I didn't and the baby came out. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.22.13, 02:21 AM Flag
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Absolutely this! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.22.13, 02:23 AM Flag
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yes I agree not necessary but it is nice to know what my options are and what to expect. If you are hoping to go without meds nice to have some idea as to things to do, options and management of hospital, etc. baby will come out either way but nice to have some info... [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.22.13, 02:21 AM Flag
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It is a trial by fire. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.22.13, 02:30 AM Flag
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I don't understand what that is suppose to mean? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.22.13, 02:32 AM Flag
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You can read all the books in the world, but until you actually do it you have no idea. It is like the difference between climbing a mountain and reading about climbing a mountain. Your body just takes over and you do it. It just isn't an intellectual thing. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.22.13, 02:37 AM Flag
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not so much true..you would want to know how to tie a knot, what gear you would need, etc before you climb...with some much interventions happening an a lot of it not always needed it is nice to know that you do have other options, it is not about attacking your doctor it is about having a smart conversation with them, they only way you know what questions to ask is by getting info before...like know you don't need an iv if you don't have pain meds...if you did not know this before you would just get a routine i.v. which can make it harder for some people to use natural options for pain management like shower, bath, etc. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.22.13, 02:41 AM Flag
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Ugh, dr's hate this shit. Let them do their job and don't micromanage based on a book you read. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.22.13, 02:44 AM Flag
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wow - I feel bad for you. To be honest I don't really care about pissing doctors off, when it comes to my body I don't see how being able to have a conversation with my doctor and be some what on a level field is wrong. I also don't see how it is micromanaging to not go for an i.v if it is not necessary..there is not reason to have an iv if you don't have meds, if you are able to drink and keep liquids down you will stay hydrated. For many women their birth experience matters and it is not about micromanaging your doctors or nurses it is about know what they hell they are doing to you and know what your options are.. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.22.13, 02:49 AM Flag
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Whatever. I just don't think reading a few articles trumps medical school and years of experience. I found this whole idea of dr's being really pushy during birth to be completely untrue and you could always get a midwife. Trust me, mid contraction you are not going to be thinking about iv's or anything else. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.22.13, 02:55 AM Flag
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Weill Cornell east side has one. It was a waste of time for me, but we useful for DH because he had to sit down and actually focus on what he needed to expect in the delivery room. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.22.13, 02:30 AM Flag
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I did-at a place called "real birth" but I don't think it exists anymore. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.22.13, 02:18 AM Flag
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I did too. Miss that place. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.22.13, 03:43 AM Flag
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I didn't take childbirth class but I took breastfeeding class before db was born (as my friend recommended). I thought that was very helpful. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.22.13, 02:19 AM Flag
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where? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.22.13, 02:20 AM Flag
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I did it at NYU hospital [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.22.13, 02:22 AM Flag
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Did you take a sex class or did you and dh figure that out all by yourselves? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.22.13, 02:27 AM Flag
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laugh...I did read books however... why make fun about someone wanting to educate themselves? Not everyone wants epidural and even if you do want epidural nice to know what all the machines are for. You mean to tell me if you need to have an operation you would not google info on this or ask questions? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.22.13, 02:30 AM Flag
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Honestly, no. I might get a second opinion but google is NOT your friend when it comes to medical issues. You are not a doctor and you will just freak yourself out. I don't need to know and scare myself. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.22.13, 02:33 AM Flag
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that's you. most people like to know about what is going to happen to them. I am not saying to tell doctors how to do their job but I would like to know what is going to happen to my body, it is after all happening to me...knowledge is a wonderful gift to have.. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.22.13, 02:36 AM Flag
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Sorry, in terms of birth it is silly. If it gives you peace of mind and you like doing it go ahead, but don't expect it to really prepare you in any sense for the reality. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.22.13, 02:41 AM Flag
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I guess that is where we are different, I don't see knowledge as being silly. I am also smart enough to know that I really should know what is happening to my body, why doctors would want to do certain things and what things I may not need. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.22.13, 02:38 AM Flag
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Well, I've been through it and feel free to read and plan away. Nature will take over. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.22.13, 02:47 AM Flag
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I never said anything about a plan...birth plans are for idiots...anyone who thinks they can plan their labor should really take a class..I am just talking about know what to expect from the medical side, what my options are [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.22.13, 02:51 AM Flag
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You won't have options in the moment. It isn't really like that. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.22.13, 02:57 AM Flag
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Um, we never did. Needed a team of professionals [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.22.13, 02:34 AM Flag
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To out his winky in your hoo-hoo? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.22.13, 02:38 AM Flag
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Nope, in a plastic cup [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.22.13, 02:48 AM Flag
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Aww, sorry. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.22.13, 02:55 AM Flag
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I met one of my best friends in the class. I [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.22.13, 02:28 AM Flag
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yes I agree, classes can be great to meet people. I still keep in touch with several people I took my class with [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.22.13, 02:29 AM Flag
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Don't bother. I spent a ton on child birth classes and my baby was breech and wound up with a c anyway. waste of money. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.22.13, 02:42 AM Flag
[ - ] Sleepaway Camp Moms - any packing tips? Camp Trunks being picked up in 3 weeks and don't know where to start... 38 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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New York City 05.22.13, 01:02 AM Flag
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I just followed the instructions we got in the final instructions package and got everything they recommended. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.22.13, 01:12 AM Flag
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They pick them up? Fancy. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.22.13, 01:14 AM Flag
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Indeed. Not our camp! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.22.13, 01:19 AM Flag
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we are required to use a company called Camp Trucking - $200+ to deliver trunks. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.22.13, 01:16 AM Flag
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F that shit. I like my Y camp. That is highway robbery. Why can't you just put it in the trunk of the car when you drive DD up? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.22.13, 01:23 AM Flag
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We don't drive kids up they take a bus. on the positive side for the youngest camper their trunks are unpacked and bed made when they arrive and they get them right out playing to help avoid kids getting homesick. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.22.13, 01:24 AM Flag
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Wow. That isn't camp to me at all. We made our own beds and our parents dropped us off. Sounds like a hotel. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.22.13, 01:33 AM Flag
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it definitely looks and feels like camp,a very nice camp with awesome facilities but still camp. Most importantly no electronics which will be this generations definition of the camp - unplugged for 7 weeks! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.22.13, 01:29 AM Flag
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Well, that is good. I go for much much more rustic. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.22.13, 01:37 AM Flag
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Ha, this [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.22.13, 01:38 AM Flag
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Np - yeah that's crazy!!! Not what camp is meant to be - just adds to the entitlement!! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.22.13, 01:32 AM Flag
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Pp- hey, different strokes for different folks. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.22.13, 01:40 AM Flag
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I just posted this on another thread...Fairy Tales Shampoo. It REALLY works at preventing getting head lice in the first place! http://www.drugstore.com/fairy-tales-rosemary-repel-shampoo/qxp227520?catid=183491 [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.22.13, 01:09 AM Flag
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Is it true that once DC gets lice that they are more prone to getting it again? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.22.13, 01:16 AM Flag
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Np - I don't think so. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.22.13, 01:19 AM Flag
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No. My DC got lice once. That was 3 years ago. I have used the Fairy Tales Shampoo and Detangler (Spray Conditioner) on both my kids since then and thank goodness neither has gotten lice since. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.22.13, 01:21 AM Flag
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That's silly, unless you never got all the lice to begin with. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.22.13, 01:17 AM Flag
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you send them to camp with Fairy Tale or use it before camp. They do a lice check of every kid once they arrive. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.22.13, 01:16 AM Flag
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I pack little surprises and a card with. Heartfelt note. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.22.13, 01:11 AM Flag
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what kind of surprises? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.22.13, 01:17 AM Flag
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Stickers, colored pens, comics [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.22.13, 01:20 AM Flag
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Like those little toys you get near the checkout at Barnes and Noble. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.22.13, 01:21 AM Flag
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Mad Libs [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.22.13, 01:24 AM Flag
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Name tape everything and write name on all other things, like toiletries. Extra socks and underwear. Jeans, sweatshirts, tshirts, shorts, bathing suits,towels, personal sports equipment- ie. tennis. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.22.13, 01:24 AM Flag
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what about boots for boys? rainboots like Hunter or waterproof hiking boots like Timberland? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.22.13, 01:24 AM Flag
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That depends on the camp. Ask them- do they hike? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.22.13, 01:25 AM Flag
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np - maybe this isn't UBesque but my kid doesn't have Hunter boots or Timberland boots or any other such footwear. I just send with sneakers until age 12/13- at that point they are usually doing more serious hiking and have hiking boots. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.22.13, 01:35 AM Flag
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am thinking about rainy muddy days at camp more than hiking... wondering if rain boots are dorky. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.22.13, 01:30 AM Flag
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Of course they hike or at least run around in the woods, it's camp. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.22.13, 01:43 AM Flag
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Extra socks, underwear, sneakers, and mostly active clothes (shorts, tshirts). [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.22.13, 01:21 AM Flag
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They probably have servants carry a change of shoes in case the children get wet while hiking!! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.22.13, 01:33 AM Flag
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Spray bottle/fan combo. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.22.13, 01:25 AM Flag
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This [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.22.13, 01:26 AM Flag
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This [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.22.13, 01:26 AM Flag
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Ooooo, I want to go to camp! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.22.13, 01:28 AM Flag
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No way for me! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.22.13, 01:39 AM Flag
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Me too. Mine was the BEST. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.22.13, 01:43 AM Flag
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I love camp! I have the best memories and the best camp friends! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.22.13, 02:02 AM Flag
[ - ] S/O to $67K divorced mom thread. I have helped a friend through her very nasty 2 year divorce. She is a SAHM and I am realizing that her screaming that he does not want to pay for this or for that is really about her and not the DCs. I am pretty disgusted. 4 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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New York City 05.21.13, 09:04 PM Flag
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MYOB. You don't know how she feels. Easy for you to judge when you're not in her shoes. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.21.13, 09:15 PM Flag
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Try again, very hard to understand what you wrote. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.21.13, 09:19 PM Flag
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sorry. friend is going through a nasty divorce and for the past year has complained non stop that DH wont pay for x and a monthly amount lower than she feels is fair in light of his finance salary. She does not work (and because of $ she inherited was not working when she met him). After the legal fees and the amount they settled on, she is very angry because it is not enough and she is going to have begin working to maintain the lifestyle she is accustomed to. Reading the 67K thread, I am realizing that she was counting the "child support" as "her support". [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.21.13, 09:36 PM Flag
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People like her suck. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.21.13, 09:40 PM Flag
[ - ] DS's first summer at sleepaway camp. We are starting to pack this weekend. What are some must-sends that are not on the camp's list? 15 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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New York City 05.21.13, 08:16 PM Flag
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porn [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.21.13, 08:18 PM Flag
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even more bug spray, mini fan, books [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.21.13, 08:23 PM Flag
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Lysol wipes for the shower. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.21.13, 08:35 PM Flag
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Why's that? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.21.13, 08:41 PM Flag
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candy- the "popular" kids bring some candy and hide it in their bags (plus they will think "i have such a cool mom!"), stuffed animal if DC is young, headlamp (better than flashlight for camp), water balloons (though some camps prohibit), baseball mitt, stamped & addressed envelopes (or you'll never get any), shirts of all different colors (for various games), a fun costume piece (animal hat/superhero/whatever DS is into). signed, ex director of sleepaway camp :) [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.21.13, 08:34 PM Flag
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oh also one of those water sprays- that is sometimes attached to the mini fan [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.21.13, 08:30 PM Flag
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Fan [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.21.13, 08:45 PM Flag
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Flip flops, goggles [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.21.13, 08:46 PM Flag
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Lots of bug spray [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.21.13, 08:46 PM Flag
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Be sure to write a few letters or cards and mail to camp before your ds arrives. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.21.13, 08:46 PM Flag
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mad libs, nerf basketball hoop, card or dice games [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.21.13, 08:55 PM Flag
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mace, nunchucks [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.21.13, 11:07 PM Flag
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this [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.22.13, 01:04 AM Flag
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3 in one body wash (shampoo, conditioner, soap), clip on fan for near his bed, nerf basketball, headlamp flashlight, water sprayer, crocs, mad libs, cards [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.21.13, 11:53 PM Flag
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Fairy Tales Shampoo. It REALLY works at preventing getting head lice in the first place! http://www.drugstore.com/fairy-tales-rosemary-repel-shampoo/qxp227520?catid=183491 [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.22.13, 12:56 AM Flag
[ - ] hungry and on a diet! this is the worst part of the day. dinner two hours away. 4 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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New York City 05.21.13, 08:15 PM Flag
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ITA- afternoon slump sucks [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.21.13, 08:10 PM Flag
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Drink lots of water [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.21.13, 08:17 PM Flag
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Right there with you! Except my dinner is 4 hours away. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.21.13, 08:12 PM Flag
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+1000 - just had an apple and a diet coke. i feel fuller but still hungry.... [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.21.13, 08:23 PM Flag
[ - ] I need longish tops for work. I'm tall and every time I buy a top it shrinks and it lands right at the waist - which I hate. I work in a dress-casual type place, so I'm looking for tunic-type things or just long shirts. Any ideas? TIA 3 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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New York City 05.21.13, 07:13 PM Flag
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Dont put them in the dryer and they wont shrink. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.21.13, 07:54 PM Flag
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I just got some at old navy and they were on sale for 6 bucks. Stock up. They had black white navy and white with black horizontal stripes. They are long so probably great for your height. Good luck. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.21.13, 08:02 PM Flag
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Thanks, I was there the other day but did't see those. I'll have to go back. Any other ideas? Loft? I hate J Crew and Banana Republic's stuff. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.21.13, 08:52 PM Flag
[ - ] S/O of Harlem post. Since when is Columbia are West to CPW and North of 125th street considered Harlem? 40 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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New York City 05.21.13, 06:04 PM Flag
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since 1957 [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.21.13, 06:00 PM Flag
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How old where you in 1957? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.21.13, 06:08 PM Flag
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General Topics 05.21.13, 06:04 PM Flag
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You might want to trael up to the area and take a look again [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.21.13, 06:17 PM Flag
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Please look at the police statistics. Black and hispanic men commit 90 percent of the rapes. Why do you want to send daughter to school in that neighborhood instead of downtown ? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.21.13, 06:01 PM Flag
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What really is original poster thinking? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.21.13, 06:01 PM Flag
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Did you reply to the wrong post? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.21.13, 06:08 PM Flag
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Original poster asked why that neihborhood is considered harlem. Everything in mnhattan north of 96 th is harlem. Everything [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.21.13, 06:03 PM Flag
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What? This is laughable. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.21.13, 06:07 PM Flag
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Are you visiting from the 70ies? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.21.13, 06:15 PM Flag
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even if she were, i'd think she might have heard of morningside heights. and Inwood. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.21.13, 06:11 PM Flag
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Yes, everyone knows that black and Hispanic men are verboten below 96th street [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.21.13, 06:05 PM Flag
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Downtown you have to worry about the frat boy lacrosse players [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.21.13, 06:05 PM Flag
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Actually, the black girl that accused the lacrosse players of rape was proven to have lied. Look it up [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.21.13, 06:06 PM Flag
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Plus one. Duke case was a hoax [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.21.13, 06:06 PM Flag
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Duke is a little south of what might be considered downtown on this board [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.21.13, 06:15 PM Flag
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lol! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.21.13, 06:20 PM Flag
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She's baaaaaaaaaaack!!! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.21.13, 06:46 PM Flag
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96 th street is the traditional boundry between the good part of manhattan and the bad prt [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.21.13, 06:03 PM Flag
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Go to park ave and 96 th. south you see a beautiful safe clean neighborhood. Turn and look north and you see a dangerous filthy hood [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.21.13, 06:04 PM Flag
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OP: I am talking about the West side (Columbia U area) [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.21.13, 06:17 PM Flag
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It's not harlem until about 123rd st on the Broadway side. At CPW, Harlem starts around 110th st. Good luck finding anything though. Columbia has scooped up most of it. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.21.13, 06:19 PM Flag
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The area around Columbia in the West 110s is Morningside Heights. It's been known as MH for as long as I can remember and my Dad was on faculty at Columbia in the 1960s and 70s. [ Reply | More
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np: Yes, it is Morningside Heights, but in all honesty, since the 1960s many uninformed people referred to all of Manhattan north of 96th St with the general term "Harlem" except for maybe Washington Heights. The distinction between neighborhoods was less prevalent. For example, although the far east 80s have always been Yorkville, NO ONE used that term to refer to the area in the 1980s when I moved there. People just called the whole thing the Upper East Side. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.21.13, 06:42 PM Flag
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Isnt there a terrible project around 104? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.21.13, 06:42 PM Flag
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You are a treasure. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.21.13, 06:44 PM Flag
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When have you last visiting the West side above 96 street? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.21.13, 06:16 PM Flag
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It sounds like the 10th of Never. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.21.13, 06:21 PM Flag
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This. Her only experience with NYC is through reruns of SATC and Seinfeld. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.21.13, 06:29 PM Flag
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ha ha, I bet she doesn't do Brooklyn [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.21.13, 06:46 PM Flag
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not on the west side. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.21.13, 06:11 PM Flag
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*boundary* learn to spell [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.21.13, 10:18 PM Flag
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Isn't 110th St the boundary with Harlem? Like in the old song? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.21.13, 06:08 PM Flag
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No... On the east side 96 th is the boundary. Mosque on 96th [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.21.13, 06:16 PM Flag
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Best discussion of this was morningside heights mommy. Go to search and read the thread [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.21.13, 06:18 PM Flag
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Sometimes the crap posted on this side makes me laugh. Its Manhattan, there are people of color EVERYWHERE! There are some very good schools north of 96th street, and lovely neighborhoods too, but if you and your precious snowflakes want to stay south, imagining yourselves safe in a soap bubble of whiteness, please feel free. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.21.13, 06:21 PM Flag
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OP: I didn't post anything about my children of people of color. I am talking about neighborhood names and boundaries. Are you off your medication? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.21.13, 06:36 PM Flag
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Sorry - I meant the response to the responder with the black and hispanic men comments. In response to the OP - The neighborhood thing has been that way since as long as I've been in NYC, so 20+ years. Don't know about before then. Now its more official because of the Columbia expansion. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.21.13, 06:35 PM Flag
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*site* learn to spell [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.21.13, 10:19 PM Flag
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I live in Morningside Heights. The official boundary in West 110th to W 125th from Riverside to Amsterdam. On the East side north of 96th street to 125th Street is considered East Harlem. It is primarily a Spanish nabe also called El Barrio. These are both livley areas with great restaurants and diverse folks. Been here in MH for 17 years. Paid less than 100K for gorgeous 2 BR with views. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.22.13, 02:50 AM Flag
[ - ] We need more space. Considering a Harlem brownstone, already live on UUWS and kids are in private. Would you do it? 23 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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New York City 05.21.13, 03:53 PM Flag
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nope [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.21.13, 03:53 PM Flag
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can you be more specific? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.21.13, 05:32 PM Flag
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Depends on where. East side, no. West side, yes. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.21.13, 03:58 PM Flag
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why not the east side? Just curious. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.21.13, 04:03 PM Flag
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you've never been to east harlem obviously [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.21.13, 04:08 PM Flag
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that's why I am asking. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.21.13, 04:10 PM Flag
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go check it out in person [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.21.13, 04:12 PM Flag
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np: The east side did not benefit from having Columbia and it has an above ground train. The area is just much much rougher. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.21.13, 04:48 PM Flag
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I agree it is rougher and less gentrified, but the hot part of harlem isn't near columbia, its where op is looking. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.21.13, 05:33 PM Flag
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There are zero amenities or retail in east harlem. west harlem has cute shops and great restaurants and bars. east harlem is still bodega land. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.21.13, 04:55 PM Flag
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not true, costco, target and best buy on 117th. great mexican restaurants, coffee shops and french bakeries from 104 north. below that is mt sinai [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.22.13, 02:47 AM Flag
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Yes. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.21.13, 03:53 PM Flag
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totally [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.21.13, 04:00 PM Flag
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What part of UUWS are you in? And what part of Harlem? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.21.13, 04:00 PM Flag
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op: We now live near 103 & Amsterdam and we are looking in what realtors call SoHa. South of 125th and between 5th ave/morningside park on the east and morningside park/morningside ave on the west. The best brownstones in this area seem to be between 117th and 123rd. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.21.13, 04:58 PM Flag
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if you can afford this then yes. this is aa very nice part of the nabe. I live on 122 and amsterdam. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.22.13, 02:54 AM Flag
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Heck yeah. Love Convent, Strivers Row and Lenix. Just check it out at night first. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.21.13, 04:32 PM Flag
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^^^meant, Lenox Ave. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.21.13, 04:32 PM Flag
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op: A bit too north for us. We already frequesnt a lot of restaurants on 8th/FDB between 113 and 1222nd. DOubt we'd want to be as far up as the 130s or 150s, plus 2+ more subway stops. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.21.13, 04:59 PM Flag
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Maybe. If you don't care about nice shops & restaurants, and are OK with lots of unemployed underclass hanging on the streets, and ok with the drug dealing, etc., then, maybe. Harlem stalled with the crisis in 2008, but is rapidly changing again, with more and more shops/restuarants coming (to certain blocks/streets). Some beautiful streets, some decent streets, many terrible blocks - you need to know it block by block before you buy. But you can still get a fully modernized, renovated townhouse for $2.75m, only 5 mins further in a cab than your current place. We know people who've left, becuase they don't want their kids so exposed to gangs, drugs, crazies (more meth clinics and halfway houses in Harlem than anywhere else), and the general foul language shouted at each other by the underclass (that will never leave). It is NOT Cobble Hill. That said, it is convenient, nice enough, cheaper than elsewhere, and you can avoid a lot of the crap by living on one of a handful of good blocks. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.21.13, 05:10 PM Flag
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^^ So that basically means ACP - Mt Morris Park, 123rd - 120th Sts; ACP - Lennox, on 119 & 118; Morningside Park - FDB 110th - 124th (though there are some iffy blocks in there) [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.21.13, 05:26 PM Flag
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I take it you visit friends in Harlem, but don't actually live there. We do, and while some of what you say is true, much isn't. Perhaps you haven't been to Lido, 5&DIamond, Bad Horse, Vineteria, Zoma, Chez Lucienne, Corner Social, Maison, or even Harlem Tavern, but there are plenty of good and/or fun restuarants. Admittedly the retail is still weak with not much but a few small but cute boutiques and the craziness of 125th street. THe area that op is interested in is where we live and is super gentrified (we were white pioneers when we bought in 2005). I think the biggest culture shock from downtown is that there are a lot of black and brown people and they hang out outside a lot. Outside of bodegas and corner delis, the scaffolding atop the eastbound 116th stop of the B/C train is a particular hang out spot. THey aren't bums, just people hanging out and talking sh*t to each other, and yes they do speak to each loudly and full of curses like its no big deal. But they are friendly and will help you carry your stroller up/down the subway steps! Oh and otehr than ps180, the schools suck. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.21.13, 05:32 PM Flag
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Nope. Have lived here for 6 years. There is no retail (unless you count Old Navy and dollar stores) - 1 or 2 nice shops in 75 square blocks doesn't count. As for restaurants, yes, FDB has a handful of "good neighborhood places", but again, 6 restaurants in a 75 is close to nothing. Most of the best ones mentioned are new in the last 2 years - hence the rapid current change comment above. The respondent above likely lives on/close to FDB, which is the most UWS like of the micro-hoods. It falls off very rapidly from there... Literally, walk one block over and it can feel radically different (e.g., 120 and ACP vs 120 and Lennox) [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.21.13, 10:11 PM Flag
[ - ] Just accepted a job that is split between midtown and englewood cliffs, nj. I'll be relocating from LA with 2 kids under 3 and we are thinking about hoboken given shorter commute time and family vibe. Any recs on locations to target? Would like 3 bed+ and can go up to $5k/month rental, but would like to keep it closer to $4k. 19 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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New York City 05.20.13, 11:24 PM Flag
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I would check out the schools first. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.20.13, 11:30 PM Flag
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Schools aren't great in Hoboken. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.20.13, 11:30 PM Flag
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There is free pre-school...depends on how long OP will be there. Several nice pvt that are cheaper than the city. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.20.13, 11:26 PM Flag
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i assume you'll drive to englewood and use public transport for midtown. Look at PATH train vs. a New Jersey Transit train to Penn Station for your commute. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.20.13, 11:25 PM Flag
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Call Helen Johnson - hjohnson@empiregroup.com - great agent who really knows the area and has 2 little kids herself. She's helped several of my friend find places out there. Lots of options - row houses, new high-rises with amenities. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.20.13, 11:25 PM Flag
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Hi Helen! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.21.13, 12:15 AM Flag
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Nope, not Helen. I live in the city but met her when she took a friend out and I really liked her. Honest! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.21.13, 01:24 AM Flag
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Live in Englewood NJ, much cheaper, very nice, close to one of your offices. Commute to Midtown when you need to (bus/drive). Better for kids - big house, space, etc. Manhattan living isn't all it's cracked up to be - especially on $4k a month rental. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.20.13, 11:25 PM Flag
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(And Hoboken not that exciting either) [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.20.13, 11:27 PM Flag
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^^not OR but totally agree stay clear of the worst of both worlds. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.20.13, 11:41 PM Flag
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I agree. Englewood is great. Hoboken, not awful, but not so good either. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.20.13, 11:49 PM Flag
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Englewood does not have good schools but there are several adjoining towns that are great. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.21.13, 12:17 AM Flag
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CNBC? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.20.13, 11:41 PM Flag
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If so, the little shuttle vans they have make the commute super easy. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.20.13, 11:48 PM Flag
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^^^ from Englewood or Manhattan. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.20.13, 11:49 PM Flag
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uniliver? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.20.13, 11:58 PM Flag
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The commute in to the city from Englewood is fairly easy, I believe. Def look in to that. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.21.13, 12:20 AM Flag
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bus to port authority about 40 min [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.21.13, 01:31 AM Flag
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Englewood just seems very "suburb" oriented. We are looking for something a bit more urban, so we can really experience city life if that makes sense. Appreciate all the great info! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.21.13, 04:32 PM Flag
[ - ] Mem. Day weekend snuck up on me! Didn't make any plans but would like to do a little outing if not too late. What is a good overnight from NYC with 2 young DC and DH? 2 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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New York City 05.20.13, 11:05 PM Flag
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What about Bucks County? Lots of cute inns and restaurants there. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.20.13, 11:12 PM Flag
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Yeah good luck with that. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.20.13, 11:12 PM Flag
[ - ] This is getting real! Just saw the notice that demolition has started on the garbage station near Asphalt Green and that they will be shutting down the East River Esplanade for some time. So discouraging... 20 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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New York City 05.20.13, 08:58 PM Flag
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Yes, very upset about this too. At this point will vote for ANY mayoral candidate that will stop this! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.20.13, 08:59 PM Flag
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It's too late, no matter who gets elected. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.20.13, 09:15 PM Flag
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Many people seem to disagree. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.20.13, 09:14 PM Flag
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Wishful thinkers. I was one of them to, but the ship has sailed. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.20.13, 09:18 PM Flag
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I own in Yorkville and honestly couldn't care less about this. I just don't think it will be a big deal. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.20.13, 09:00 PM Flag
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+1 people in nyc love to do fuss about any changes! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.20.13, 09:01 PM Flag
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"love to do fuss"?? where are you from? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.20.13, 09:04 PM Flag
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OKC, get a real problem: a tornado on your head! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.20.13, 09:07 PM Flag
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Why are you reading NYC filter then? Someone always has it worse than you, it doesn't mean you can't talk about a problem. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.20.13, 09:10 PM Flag
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Uh I don't have any filters, I see everything, is this a problem for you? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.20.13, 09:12 PM Flag
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No, but you shouldn't be surprised if people talk about their local problems. They have a right to do that on their local filter. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.20.13, 09:14 PM Flag
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Do you live there, too, or just own? Because people who live around there and use the parks, etc. will be very much affected. During the summer, DC and I used to picnic there every day! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.20.13, 09:02 PM Flag
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OR: I live in Yorkville and own my own apt. Not particularly worried about real estate values or about garbage trucks on the street or whatever. Obviously I'd prefer not to have the treatment plant nearby, but it has to go somewhere. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.20.13, 09:08 PM Flag
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np: your are naive. that strip of York starting at 90th Street already has a lot of traffic due to the 96th st entrance to the FDR backing up, it's going to get SO MUCH worse. that area is overall quiet and not commercial and it will become like the major avenues where there are constantly trucks there, and they will be garbage rather than food delivery. going by that playground and field all day long. if you read all the information, it's going to be the most expensive transfer station in nyc by a wide margin. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.20.13, 09:29 PM Flag
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Please, Harlem has been dealing with a sewage treatment center for years. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.20.13, 09:02 PM Flag
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Do you live there? Do you notice it? Or are people on the UES making a mountain out of a molehill? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.20.13, 09:08 PM Flag
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Sewage treatment is totally different situation than garbage sitting above-ground feeding rats. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.20.13, 09:11 PM Flag
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NP. Inside a building! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.20.13, 10:44 PM Flag
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Imagine, people living on a dirty crappy way -overpopulated island having garbage issues. Whoda thunk! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.20.13, 09:44 PM Flag
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It's going to be fine, really. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.20.13, 10:28 PM Flag
[ - ] Delivering at Weill Cornell: would like to hear others' experiences on getting epidural (did you have to wait a long time for it?) and using squatting bars (heard they have them) or other alternative positions. My OB told me they "don't accept birth plans" so I'm curious what experiences you guys have had delivering there and sticking to your plans. Thanks! 41 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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New York City 05.20.13, 08:19 PM Flag
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WTF is a squatting bar? For heaven's sake, I long for the days in which we were chloroformed, came to, and there was the baby. Now there are squatting bars? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.20.13, 08:21 PM Flag
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I used a squatting bar, it was awesome. It lets you squat while supporting yourself on the bar. It's much easier to push squatting than lying on your back. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.20.13, 08:24 PM Flag
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Is this a new thing? It seems so gymnastic. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.20.13, 08:28 PM Flag
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It's new. It exists precisely so you don't have to be a gymnast. You get the benefits of squatting (using your legs, gravity, etc.) without having to support your body in a squat while simultaneously pushing out a baby. Which I'm sure some women can do, and more power to them, but I wasn't that athletic. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.20.13, 08:31 PM Flag
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Wow. I'm impressed that you could do this. Honestly, I was so nauseated and in such pain that all I could do was just lie in bed and try to breathe through it. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.20.13, 08:41 PM Flag
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I tried to push on my back and it was 5 million times harder. I couldn't do it. See my gross poop analogy below. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.20.13, 08:45 PM Flag
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Wow. I'm impressed that you could do this. Honestly, I was so nauseated and in such pain that all I could do was just lie in bed and try to breathe through it. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.20.13, 08:41 PM Flag
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Yes. Why live in civilization if we're still squatting like field peasants. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.20.13, 08:28 PM Flag
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:) Squatter from above here. It might be primitive but god damn is it efficient. Gross analogy: if you were seriously constipated and were finally able to move your bowels, would you rather do it lying on your back or sitting on the toilet? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.20.13, 08:33 PM Flag
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That was really funny. Speaking of pooping, anyone have suggestions for not pooping on the table? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.20.13, 09:39 PM Flag
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You probably will have gotten most of it out before then but if not, no one will care, LEAST of all you. And if you're worried about DH, unless he's down there catching the baby, he won't see it. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.20.13, 09:43 PM Flag
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Yeah I don't want my mom or DH seeing that :) Although part of my "birth plan" is also to have a blanket or gown or towel or something covering my legs so DH can't see down there. I'd like him focusing on me up by my head, and not seeing everything going on down there. I hope the hospital is okay with that... [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.20.13, 09:53 PM Flag
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If he's up my your head, he won't see anything. I know it seems really important and potentially embarrassing now. I remember. But I promise you that you won't care at all when it happens and that he won't see it anyway. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.20.13, 09:55 PM Flag
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Good to know that he wont see. I want him up by my head the whole time :) [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.20.13, 10:14 PM Flag
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I feel like it's so much better to squat. Women tear much less when they're squatting. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.20.13, 09:49 PM Flag
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Yep, I've read that too. Which is why I'd like to attempt to use the bar, even with an epidural. I could manage to hold myself up with DH's help I think. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.20.13, 09:54 PM Flag
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They might not let you squat with an epidural, for liability reasons. If you can't support your own weight, they probably won't let DH. Ask them beforehand though, you never know. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.20.13, 09:56 PM Flag
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I had dd there in 2005. Dr Leonard. I was in beautiful delivery room with views of the river and big flat screen tv for 36 hrs but dd wouldn't descend. Ended up with C Section and shitty private room with really uncomfortable bed. Epidural came as soon as I requested it, no issues there. I think the birthplan thing is really for you and just causes a PITA for the hospital so I get that. Also, 99% of the time, it's not implementable - no way to know what is going to happen with labor and better to leave it up to the DR. GL! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.20.13, 08:27 PM Flag
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Yeah, I'm not majorly into birth plans, but just generally have a few requests (don't want pitocin, want an epidural, etc.) and saying "we don't accept birth plans" made me a little nervous. Interesting that the bed was uncomfortable, I haven't heard that before! Especially considering the private rooms cost $750/night now, the bed should be comfortable! A squatting bar, btw, is a bar you use to hold on to so you can squat while pushing or laboring (instead of laying on your back). Reduces tearing and reduces pain (although I guess with an epidural that doesn't really matter much?). Anyway I have begged my OB to make an exception and give me general/twilight anesthesia so I can be knocked out and woken up with a baby, but she said they stopped doing that 30 years ago (I was born that way). :) So an epidural will have to do. Good to know epidural came fast! I've heard horror stories of people waiting 2-3 hours for them. Also, has anyone ever requested epidural during contraction (at Cornell) so you feel the epidural less? Want as many anecdotes as possible! First baby and freaking out a bit... [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.20.13, 08:32 PM Flag
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who is your dr? they gave me Pitocin bc m,y contractions stopped for 5 hrs. WHen they came back, it was hell. Asked for epi and they came right away. I think some of this depends on how crowded it is at the time. Yeah, my private room kinda sucked and I was really pissed. Yes it was 600 bucks a night [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.20.13, 08:40 PM Flag
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Dr. is Kaufman (Kaufman/Jin/etc). Why do the private rooms suck so much?? For $750/night they should be better than the Four Seasons! Do you not think it's worth paying for the private room? Although I guess even if they're not comfortable, they're probably better/more comfortable than sharing a room with someone else who might be a weirdo with 5 kids running around. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.20.13, 09:43 PM Flag
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I labored at home until I was 4-5 cm, and had an epidural about 1 hour after arriving. I was open to nonmedicated birth but my labor was intense from the beginning (lots of vomiting and diarrhea) and I arrived at the hospital in pretty bad shape. I think the key components for a birth plan are (1) how long do you want to labor at home (2) do you want an epidural, and around when and (3) what other pain management approaches do you want to try (e.g., laboring in the bath (if your water hasn't broken), squatting bars, alternative positions, whatever [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.20.13, 08:30 PM Flag
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^^FWIW, I think it's a little odd that your ob has a blanket no birth plan policy, but hopefully it just means taht they don't want you to arrive with a script and drive them nuts. I delivered with a midwife and didn't have a birth plan, just an overall approach that fit in with her philosophy--as little intervention as possible. I liked kind of just going with the flow, especially for my first. I have stronger opinions as I gear up for my second, but still don't expect to bring a birth plan--though I might have a plan between me and my dh [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.20.13, 08:31 PM Flag
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IDK this hospital but I think it's an awful sign that he said they "don't accept birth plans." It would have been fine to say, "We will try to respect your birth plan but if there are any medical complications, it might not happen." But not even accepting them ... that's not good. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.20.13, 08:27 PM Flag
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np: Can you imagine if the hospital accepted birth plans? They'd have 100 PITA mothers a day suing them because they didn't stick to the birth plan. It's smart of them to just say no. If you want a non-hospital birth, you should go to a birth center. If you go to a hospital, you get a hospital birth. That isn't to say hospital births are bad at all -- mine was lovely. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.20.13, 08:30 PM Flag
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They could have you sign a form RE release from birth plan deviation responsibility. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.20.13, 08:40 PM Flag
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They seriously probably don't want to deal with a bunch of upper middle class PITA pregnant ladies. Would you? Can you imagine having to deliver every UB mom's baby, exactly to her specifications? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.20.13, 08:45 PM Flag
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But they would still have this added thing to read and think about. Much easier if they just ask women their preferences, put it in their chart or whatever, and then ask them again during labor. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.20.13, 09:45 PM Flag
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I've heard so many good things about Cornell hospital that I'm not worried about the no birth plans thing, but I really don't know anyone who has delivered there and like to hear about others' experiences with getting an epidural, or using different positions (ball, squat, etc). Also, anyone request an attending to do the epidural? I've heard that they are usually a bit better at it and make it hurt less than the residents. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.20.13, 08:34 PM Flag
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Can you use a squatting bar if you've had an epi? I don't think so. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.20.13, 08:37 PM Flag
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I have a friend who used one with her husband and a nurse helping to hold her up. Because the baby wasn't moving and they wanted to try a different position. Also, I have friends who used them before getting the epidural, but not for pushing. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.20.13, 09:30 PM Flag
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You can still express your wishes without having a written thing presented to the doctor. I've never had a written plan, but I've had the births I wanted. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.20.13, 09:34 PM Flag
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I think if you get an epidural, you're stuck on your back. That's always been the case for me. Squatting bars, or any alternative positions, would only be available for people not getting an epidural. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.20.13, 09:27 PM Flag
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Actually on the topic of alternative positions- anyone deliver at Cornell and push while sitting up straight at the edge of the table? I've been told that is a good alternative to being on your back, and some hospitals are okay with raising the bed back straight up and having you sit at the very edge so you're not lying down... any Cornell experiences with this? You guys are helpful, thanks so much! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.20.13, 09:47 PM Flag
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Hmmm, good suggestion! I'm not delivering at Cornell but I'll definitely have to remember this one. My doctor wanted me on my back last time, but I wonder if this might be an option for me. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.20.13, 09:48 PM Flag
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I've been told it's a good alternative to squatting if you've had an epi and can't squat for obvious reasons. And it uses gravity a bit more and supposedly helps the baby along. I'm going to request it (where request = yell and scream until they say okay) [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.20.13, 09:57 PM Flag
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I delivered there in 2004 and 2008 but the latter was a scheduled C. if you insist on an attending for your epi or if L&D is really busy, you may have to wait for the epi or in the event of a long labor for the top off on the epi. sometimes they run out of pumps. there was no mention of squatting bars back then, but may have since changed. if you get an epi, a lot of doulas recommend side lying as an alternative position. you really DO want to take all pressure off your tail bone so that your pelvic opening has the ability to expand as much as possible to get the baby out. Somehting I wish I'd known in 2004! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.20.13, 09:43 PM Flag
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Good to know about side lying! I haven't really heard of that. You did that at Cornell? Does it help prevent tearing? This might sound stupid but where do your legs/feet go and how do you push if you're lying on your side?? You may be right about requesting an attending and having to wait for the epi. I guess not waiting and letting a resident do it is probably better. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.20.13, 09:45 PM Flag
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or: i did not do side lying bc i didn't know any better, but i might have avoided needing a C-seciton in the end had i done that. knowing what i know now, i'd get a doula and learn more about L&D. I figured I didn't need to know much since I was planning on an epi, but that's just not the case. and many doulas are not super crunchy - they'll work in Cornell or w a mom who wants an epi. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.20.13, 10:04 PM Flag
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OP, if you want an epidural, you probably won't be able to and/or be allowed to squat. Check with your OB. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.20.13, 10:00 PM Flag
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I'm going to ask about squatting, side lying, and sitting straight up at the edge of the bed. I'll see what kind of response I get :) [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.20.13, 10:22 PM Flag
[ - ] real estate moms: Is a classic seven regarded as a large apartment layout by NY standards? 17 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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New York City 05.20.13, 07:33 PM Flag
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yes. very. unfortunately, as I'd love one, but don't have millions. of course, in any other place, people would think it pretty small. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.20.13, 07:37 PM Flag
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A dc always ends up sleeping in the maid's room until he/she goes to college. I've always found this hilarious about the seven. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.20.13, 07:53 PM Flag
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And this is different from a six how? At least in a 7 you have 3 proper bedrooms + maids. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.20.13, 07:50 PM Flag
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Same thing with a six and its maid's room. DC always ends up crammed in there. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.20.13, 08:01 PM Flag
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What is 7? 4 bed, 1 kitchen, 1 dining room and 1 den? (Do maids quarters count?) Classic in that they are all separate? I actually own downtown and someone asked us if it was a classic x? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.20.13, 07:55 PM Flag
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^and I had no idea how to respond [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.20.13, 07:56 PM Flag
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A true classic six is living room, dining room, library, two bedrooms, and maid's room. (These days the library is gone and the kitchen is counted as the sixth room, or the wall between library and LR has been demolished.) A true classic seven is LR, DR, library, three bedrooms and maid's room. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.20.13, 08:05 PM Flag
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np: for all the prewar 6s I've ever been in, I've never seen one with a library in addition to the other rooms. Where was this the norm? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.20.13, 08:22 PM Flag
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Then you've seen renovated ones. Most people now collapse the wall between LR and library to give more space and openness, but trust me: if you look at the old floor plans, such as the ones online or at NYPL, they all have libraries. The large apartments at 15 Central Park West have separate libraries off the living room . Robert A. M. Stern designed those in homage to the old prewars, where each room flowed into another but was separate. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.20.13, 08:28 PM Flag
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WRONG. A classic 7 is LR, DR, Kitchen, 2 beds + Maids. You count the kitchen. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.21.13, 05:29 PM Flag
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LR, DR, Kit, 3 BR and one maid's room 9which many use as a fourth BR as evidenced by the above responses) it's not "classic" if it doesnt have a maid's room. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.20.13, 08:00 PM Flag
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A Classic 7 has: LR, DR, 3 BR, Kitchen, Maids room and usually 2 1/2-3 1/2 baths [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.20.13, 08:14 PM Flag
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See above. That's the new description. The old description had a library. Very rarely does a classic 7 have 3 1/2 baths, BTW. Usually 2 and 1/2, or three if the maid's bath has been expanded. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.20.13, 08:20 PM Flag
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maybe the ones i've seen have added a half bath, but i've seen a full maids bath (w shower, no tub) and then 2 full baths and a half bath in the hallway. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.20.13, 08:24 PM Flag
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definitely could have been added in renovations. Half baths do add value. I imagine they took some room off the original foyer. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.20.13, 08:29 PM Flag
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definitely could have been added in renovations. Half baths do add value. I imagine they took some room off the original foyer. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.20.13, 08:29 PM Flag
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No library in a Classic 7. And 3 baths - 2 'proper' baths, and the maids bath. No half-bath in a 6 or a 7. You need larger apts for this, or perhaps some of the grandest buildings. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.21.13, 05:31 PM Flag
[ - ] Looking to get a custom bra fitting. Ripplu or Bradelis? Bradelis has great reviews, but some of the reviewers call it "Ripplu" in their review. Anyone know which one is better or have another suggestion? Or are they the same place? Thank you. 10 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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New York City 05.20.13, 03:22 PM Flag
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Town shop. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.20.13, 03:22 PM Flag
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Thx. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.20.13, 04:08 PM Flag
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Town shop sucks!!! Fit me into a huge bra that gave me welts in my armpits--refused to credit or give me anything for a $75 bra I had to give to good will. (I asked at the store during the fitting "are you sure this is the right size?" more than once--the woman told me this particular bra was sized differently but that she was an expert fitter). Bra literally drew blood. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.20.13, 04:47 PM Flag
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I liked them the first time I went there (although I wasn't crazy about the guy who owns the place). But the next time, they couldn't find a good bra for me. So less pleased. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.20.13, 04:51 PM Flag
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Breast size? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.20.13, 03:36 PM Flag
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Around a 34 C. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.20.13, 03:35 PM Flag
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Bradelis [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.20.13, 03:42 PM Flag
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Thanks. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.20.13, 04:07 PM Flag
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Bratenders. Swear by them!! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.20.13, 04:14 PM Flag
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S/O: Overweight (size 12), with all the weight on top right now-- need a large cup (g size). Which place would you recommend? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.20.13, 04:47 PM Flag
[ - ] Anyone have any good recommendations for an airport car service w/ car seat option that is INEXPENSIVE? (Ie less than $100)? From UWS to JFK. I know that Kid Car service is pretty pricey. Just called Dial 7--they make you reserve an SUV for $135+. Just looking for a reasonable rate, if any exists. Thanks a million, everybody. 18 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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New York City 05.20.13, 01:48 AM Flag
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Leave earlier, take the subway. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.20.13, 01:50 AM Flag
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a cab? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.20.13, 01:52 AM Flag
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THIS. Bring your own carseat. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.20.13, 02:02 AM Flag
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Won't you need the car seat for the airplane anyway? Take a cab. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.20.13, 01:48 AM Flag
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How old is dc? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.20.13, 01:48 AM Flag
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How old? If the kid is over 3, you can use the safe rider vest. Google it. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.20.13, 01:49 AM Flag
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i once used Carmel and their car seats were crap- old and the driver had no idea how to install them. after that I always took car seat with me. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.20.13, 01:50 AM Flag
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Just take a cab and put the kid in the back without a seatbelt. You live in the city, that's just part of it. You need to relax. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.20.13, 01:53 AM Flag
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So stupid. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.20.13, 02:02 AM Flag
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How is this stupid? People take kids in cabs everyday in this city. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.20.13, 02:03 AM Flag
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+1000!!! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.20.13, 02:11 AM Flag
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Just take a cab and put the kid in the back without a seatbelt. You live in the city, that's just part of it. You need to relax. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.20.13, 01:53 AM Flag
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You need a carseat for the plane. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.20.13, 02:02 AM Flag
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No, she doesn't. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.20.13, 02:11 AM Flag
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Eastern or legends out of Brooklyn [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.20.13, 01:58 AM Flag
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+1 for legends, great service [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.20.13, 02:24 AM Flag
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I used Dial 7 twice, and had issues with the drivers both times. Once the driver started arguing with DH because he didn't feel that his tip was big enough, and the other time he waited in a different part of the airport than where we were told to stand, and criticized us the entire drive home. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.20.13, 12:25 PM Flag
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love Legends in brooklyn- reasonable- and they have car seats. http://www.legendslimousine.com [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.22.13, 12:27 AM Flag
[ - ] I have a gift cert. for Lord & Taylor & I need some blemish cover-up and powder--what are the most straightforward brands there? Best counter for a makeover? TIA 6 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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New York City 05.19.13, 10:59 PM Flag
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Bobbi Brown [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.19.13, 11:08 PM Flag
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+1 [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.19.13, 11:59 PM Flag
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probably Bobbi Brown although a lot of moms like Laura Mercier [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.19.13, 11:03 PM Flag
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either one is good [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.19.13, 11:12 PM Flag
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+1 [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.19.13, 11:56 PM Flag
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MAC [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.19.13, 11:12 PM Flag
[ - ] Hi we are moving to UES, for my residency over the summer. My wife will be home with our 1 month old, and we were looking to find a half day program for our 3.5 year old (either daycare or preschool). Our budget is around 12K, which I know seems a lot to us, but is low by manhattan standards. Any leads for us. Best Very late in the game 9 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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New York City 05.19.13, 10:26 PM Flag
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try weecare on 83rd and York. low key with down to earth families. they have 9-3pm, and a 3 day option should be in your budget [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.19.13, 10:23 PM Flag
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If your residency is at Cornell, check out Bright Horizons or the PAL. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.19.13, 10:30 PM Flag
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We were not happy at Bright Horizons. It was ok until she started walking. Understaffed and the teachers never lasted more than a few months because of the low pay and the high ratio. When I dropped in, children were eating off the floors because there were not enough teachers or supervision. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.19.13, 10:31 PM Flag
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This...signed former bh employee [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.19.13, 11:10 PM Flag
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Wow. We use the Lex Ave BH for back-up and love it. DS hasd been going there since he was 3 months old and is almost 5. Stable and reliable staf - I wish he could go there every day. I guess each BH is different. I know nothing about the Cornell BH. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.19.13, 11:21 PM Flag
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Pinafore [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.19.13, 10:37 PM Flag
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See if there are openings at St Ignatius Day Nursery....nice program, very sweet teachers, should fit your budget. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.19.13, 11:28 PM Flag
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www.epiphanynyc.org They have a wonderful pre-school, I think it is a little less expensive than some others. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.19.13, 11:49 PM Flag
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74th St Magic. Also, call the Parents League for suggestions. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.20.13, 12:16 AM Flag
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