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[ - ] Suggestions for a good gift for husbands First Fathers Day? He doesn't need or want anything but I'd like to mark the day with something nice. 12 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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New York City 05.07.13, 07:48 PM Flag
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a nice watch? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.07.13, 07:55 PM Flag
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Isn't that a bit much? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.07.13, 07:55 PM Flag
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Nicely framed photo (or professional photo) of DC. Photo book from shutterfly (or other stuff). Engraved pen. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.07.13, 08:00 PM Flag
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Something specific to DC. Small prints cuff links? Completely overpriced for quality but a sentimental thing he will love for a while. Maybe you can take same idea to a real jeweler and have platinum or silver cuff links made. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.07.13, 07:57 PM Flag
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http://www.smallprint.com/index.php/USA?c=1 [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.07.13, 08:01 PM Flag
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We paint a canvas, divide into 4 squares and have dc's handprint and footprint in each square. Ive made it a tradition to give him along with another gift he can use [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.07.13, 08:07 PM Flag
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I gave my dh a BeerTender. Keeps mini kegs of beer cold for up to 30 days. Only heniken and new castle make mini kegs (it worked out cause dh loves new castle). I kept it a secret till fathers day. He LOVED it. Easy to set up (i got 2 kegs). I like to use it from time to time [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.07.13, 08:09 PM Flag
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Watching, it's my husband's 1st Father's Day too. I was thinking about getting a digital picture frame and loading it with pics of our dc for his office. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.07.13, 08:09 PM Flag
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Take him out to dinner at his favorite pre-baby restaurant and take pictures of him with the baby there. The next day print up one of the pictures and put it in a small frame (leather) with a note that says something like "Everything is better when your hanging with your dad" of "5-Star Dad." [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.07.13, 08:13 PM Flag
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ew. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.07.13, 11:12 PM Flag
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I am a DH. I recommend a fun gift and a meaningful gift. Maybe a Blurb picture book of the kid's first year, and then something like this- http://www.amazon.com/Syma-Channel-2-4G-Quad-Copter/dp/B00906PKQ4 [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.07.13, 08:49 PM Flag
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NP: It's so funny that you mention this, I bought for DHs birthday and he LOVED it. He had seen it previously and mentioned it casually. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.09.13, 06:21 PM Flag
[ - ] Any recs for ENT surgeon, preferably at NYU? 2 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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New York City 05.07.13, 07:27 PM Flag
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Adult or pediatric? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.07.13, 07:50 PM Flag
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Adult [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.07.13, 07:45 PM Flag
[ - ] We'd like to go 'camping' somewhere not far from NYC with my 3yo DS. We don't have a tent, so would like to go someplace with decent cabins and nothing too 'rough' as I'm currently 15 weeks pregnant. Does anyone have any suggestions? It would be for a long weekend or so. TIA! 12 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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New York City 05.07.13, 05:52 PM Flag
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check new jersey. let me see if i can find the place- its near sussex. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.07.13, 05:53 PM Flag
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http://www.state.nj.us/dep/parksandforests/parks/highpoint.html#cabin [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.07.13, 05:54 PM Flag
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OP: Thanks! I'm checking it now! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.07.13, 05:51 PM Flag
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So you don't actually mean camping. You want to take an overnight trip to a rural area? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.07.13, 05:49 PM Flag
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OP: No, there are places (state parks, etc) that rent cabins and what not. Some are nicer than others. I'm a transplant, so I'm not as familiar with what is around here but know they must exist. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.07.13, 05:51 PM Flag
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Gotcha. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.07.13, 05:54 PM Flag
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Family Camp at Camp Jewell. http://www.campjewell.org/CampPrograms-FamilyCamp.cfm [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.07.13, 05:58 PM Flag
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OP: thanks! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.07.13, 05:59 PM Flag
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Check out that Jellystone place upstate. Perfect for what you've described. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.07.13, 06:23 PM Flag
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OP: Looks cool - thanks! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.07.13, 06:39 PM Flag
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Family weekend at Frost Valley YMCA. Lots of options for accommodations. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.07.13, 06:21 PM Flag
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OP: Seems so - thank you! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.07.13, 06:40 PM Flag
[ - ] Any recommendation for a doctor that deals with anxiety disorders at NYU Child Study Center? Any experience with a behavorial therapist as opposed to a child psych? Looking for someone who will not go to meds first. Thanks in advance for your help!! 4 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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New York City 05.07.13, 03:57 PM Flag
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Is Psychiatrist mom on? I think she mentioned an anxiety center over by Columbus Circle, also. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.07.13, 04:35 PM Flag
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Ask about their CBT - Cognitive Behavioral Training people. Columbus Circle is Columbia Univ Center for Anxiety Related Disorders ("CUCARD") [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.07.13, 04:47 PM Flag
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So CBT is part of NYU and then there is a separate facility called CUCARD? Thanks so much for the info. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.07.13, 05:33 PM Flag
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Went to CBT therapist for OCD kid and is doing so much better! Highly recommend this approach [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.08.13, 02:00 AM Flag
[ - ] Need help. Getting dressed this am, I tried on several recently bought pants and none fit - I'm at rock-bottom. Need to lose weight but don't know how. I'm in my late 40s and have a demanding job so I don't exercise like I used to. I need a quick jump-start. What have you done to start losing weight? Can't believe I can still be reduced to tears by clothes not fitting at my age... Thanks in advance. 30 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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New York City 05.07.13, 03:00 PM Flag
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Tears? Is there something else going on? That seems extreme over ill fitting clothing. Why did you buy pants that are so tight? Maybe take some of your nicer things to a tailor this week - so a few things fit nicely and maybe that will help your spirits? But sounds like there is more to this story. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.07.13, 02:58 PM Flag
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She is probably just frustrated, [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.07.13, 03:05 PM Flag
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No, it's just been an ongoing battle since I hit my mid-40s. (And the pants DID fit when I bought them a few months ago.) I haven't even been eating more than usual. I used to be a runner, but a bad hip and knees made me stop. I try walking to and from work (about 5 miles roundtrip), but it's not enough. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.07.13, 03:06 PM Flag
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What do the pants look like? Were you buying spring pants months ago? So you gained weight. Get the clothing tailored, or buy bigger pants. Drink a lot of water. What are we supposed to say. It's not like somebody snuck into your closet and replaced your pants with smaller pants. It does sound like a frustrating weight gain, but we can't do much for you other than to tell you to walk more, drink more water, and cut back on some carbs. You can lose a few pounds in two weeks just by cutting out juice at breakfast, and stop each breads. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.07.13, 03:12 PM Flag
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np: you're like the least helpful poster ever. if you have so much anger toward OP, just ignore the post. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.07.13, 03:13 PM Flag
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yeah, maybe. but there's no magic bullet. cut back and the weight will come off. move more. maybe hang the "goal" pants in her bedroom to see every day? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.07.13, 03:27 PM Flag
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I was looking for suggestions, not sympathy. I know all the commonsense steps to take. I just need a little inspiration, a little encouragement. Maybe I'd see something I hadn't thought of. That's all. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.07.13, 03:28 PM Flag
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First thing, is reducing the carbs you are eating. It's the hardest part for me, but it works. Next is drinking water and unsweetened teas. Again, hard but works. 30 day shred w Jillian works , you can get it on you tube. You need to get enough sleep. if you dont sleep enough, it destroys your metabolism. Stick with these things, you will see results. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.07.13, 02:58 PM Flag
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i feel your pain! i just went to JC but i think WW might be better as i go out to eat a lot. you can exercise on the weekends - hour long spin class or something. even walk home from work? add the exercise in somewhere. late 40s here too and what used to be hard now feels impossible! but i see people who do it. just have to eat less. or more strategically - too much less will lower your metabolism even more [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.07.13, 03:04 PM Flag
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^^buy a few pairs of black transitional pants. that flatter. then you wont be so desperate feeling as you reduce, which takes time [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.07.13, 02:59 PM Flag
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I know - it's so frustrating. I just don't know how to fit it in. But I just need to shake something up or it'll just keep piling on. I'm going to try all these suggestions. Thanks. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.07.13, 03:07 PM Flag
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I downloade MyFitnessPal and bought a shit ton of frozen lean cuisine meals. I stuck to app. 1200 calories a day and drank A LOT of water. I plucked in every meal, there is a bar code scanner which makes it easy, and it was incredibly easy to see progress. It also tells you how long you have to go before you're at your goal. I lost 20 pounds in two months. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.07.13, 03:04 PM Flag
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And is it staying off? Have you gone back to regular food or still eating Lean Cuisine? I feel like joining WW, but I don't know that I have the discipline to record everything, etc. I just need a kick in the ass! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.07.13, 03:09 PM Flag
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Hey, yes I went back to real food, but cut out all sweets except for weekends. Now, I eat normal portions and eat whatever I want. Moderation is key. Other than no sweets during the week and eating normal sized portions, everything else is normal. I eat pasta too + bread. I have kept off for almost a year. Just suffer through it for a few months and then eat sensible meals. I actually ended up LOVING controlling what I ate so much and some of the lean cuisine meals are quite ok. Also, the first week is tough because the portions are so small, but you quickly adjust. Don't make plans for the weekend. If you do, eat before you go out and then have a light salad at your meal. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.07.13, 03:27 PM Flag
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Me again, the app I mentioned is SUPER easy to use. You just scan the barcodes and it plugs it in. I loved going the lean cuisine way, I didn't have to cook, measure ingredients etc. it made a miserable situation easier. And it made me skinny :) [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.07.13, 03:24 PM Flag
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Thanks, I'm getting excited. Feeling like maybe I can do this! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.07.13, 03:33 PM Flag
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You're welcome and you ABSOLUTELY can! Seriously, you buy pre made meals, eat three to four every day and voila you'll be skinny. Remember to drink water! Good luck! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.07.13, 03:31 PM Flag
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don't eat dinner. add in walks & stairs where you can. cut out alcohol. watch the snacks at your desk. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.07.13, 03:06 PM Flag
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this! 8 hour diet. Only eat for 8 hours of the day. Fast for 16 [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.07.13, 03:03 PM Flag
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eat less carbs and if you can, avoid them at dinner. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.07.13, 03:18 PM Flag
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Don't panic, don't starve or fast or jump on a trendy diet, you CAN do this in a healthy, sustainable way if you are motivated and it sounds like you are. Drink as much water as you can, make the best choices you can, squeeze in exercise wherever you can. All or nothing thinking is the enemy of weight loss - "I don't have time to go to the gym so there's no point doing anything," "I already blew it for today so I might as well eat the whole pizza," etc. Every second and every calorie counts - take the stairs instead of the elevator, walk home instead of taking the subway, run in the stairwell for 10 minutes after dinner. Think of calories as a financial budget - if you spent too much on a purse, you wouldn't use that to justify also springing for new shoes, you'd cut back future purchases. Go slowly, take your time, make changes you can live with for the long haul. Love, lost 25 lbs and kept it off w/o ever being hungry [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.07.13, 03:21 PM Flag
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Thanks! Now that's inspiring! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.07.13, 03:29 PM Flag
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i feel like pants are a nightmare as I get older (and i'm still in my early 30s!) I just find that my body (stomach, hips, thighs), don't allow for pants like they used to and skirts/dresses just work a lot better...they also generally still fit if i've put on weight or not. In fact, wearing dresses (at least to work) makes me feel better about myself and I think it does a better job of hiding weight gain and I feel more put together. Not that this is an answer to your q, but thought someone might find it helpful. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.07.13, 03:22 PM Flag
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No, it is helpful. I like to wear sundresses in the summer, but now my arms - which always used to be a good feature - aren't so great, so who knows what trauma that will call up when we switch the winter-summer clothes! But dress are good. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.07.13, 03:32 PM Flag
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Eat less [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.07.13, 03:17 PM Flag
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I would go to marksdailyapple.com and read some of the success stories. Many have lost dramatic amounts of weight by cutting crappy carbs and upping protein and fat. I really think weight loss is more about diet and while exercise is important, you don't need hours at the gym to gain the majority of the benefit. Good luck to you. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.07.13, 03:23 PM Flag
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I'm 49 and have lost 25 lbs on Dukan in the past 6 weeks. You can do it! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.07.13, 03:32 PM Flag
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try T-Tapp - great at home fitness program and it doesn't take a lot of time. a little corny, but it works. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.07.13, 03:37 PM Flag
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I just hit maximum density myself. I've been doing a whole foods cleanse for the past week and have lost 3 pounds so far. Basically, I've cut out all meat, dairy, sugar, caffeine and alcohol. I'm eating fruit, vegetables, some whole grains and a few nuts. I'm gonna try to stick with this until i'm down for a total of 15 pounds. It's not as hard as it sounds. I've also been trying to be mindful of when I'm full and not eating just to eat as well as being okay with being a little hungry. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.07.13, 03:56 PM Flag
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Yeah, I don't eat a lot at meals, but I notice I stress-eat before meals. I know it's doable, I just needed to hear it. Thanks! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.07.13, 04:45 PM Flag
[ - ] Writing a cook book is the new children's book. Remember when Madonna, Maria Shriver, and Jamie Lee Curtis were children's book authors? Well, now the thing if you are rich and famous and OR connected is to publish your own cookbook. Hey, Jessica Seinfeld, Gwyneth Paltrow, and now Mary McCartney (daughter of THAT McCartney). People have no shame. No, it's not that. People are just so FULL of themselves, it's amazing. 8 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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New York City 05.07.13, 12:13 AM Flag
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Wow you are easily offended by cookbooks. What'd they ever do to you? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.07.13, 12:25 AM Flag
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Millions of useless people publish cookbooks. Most cookbooks suck. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.07.13, 12:21 AM Flag
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Yeah, but the ones that click stay on the shelves for 50 years:) [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.07.13, 12:46 AM Flag
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did you not get your cookbook published? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.07.13, 12:42 AM Flag
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right? you have friends over for dinner and cook something. they tell you it's fantastic. you think you're a great cook. but really, you simply have polite friends. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.07.13, 01:44 PM Flag
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That's nothing...how about Snooki? Or Paris Hilton's dog? Walk around any bookstore, providing you can find one. Almost everyone needs a "platform" now. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.07.13, 02:05 PM Flag
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^ed, not ing [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.07.13, 02:05 PM Flag
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and selfish. These people NEED more money? Such a need to see themselves reflected, such a need for attention. As if they NEED the money, attention, platform!!! Do any of them write it and just donate ALL the proceeds to a cause? No. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.07.13, 11:13 PM Flag
[ - ] Recommendations for laser hair removal and/or electrologist (sp?) downtown? 1 Reply [ Reply | Watch | More
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New York City 05.06.13, 08:12 PM Flag
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the only place you should go is Romeo and Juliet on 57th. It hurts like hell but works even after one session. They are the most expensive place but in my experience the only place that works [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.06.13, 08:19 PM Flag
[ - ] Can anyone please reccommend a sleepaway camp for 13 yr old with a fabulous acting program? 11 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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New York City 05.06.13, 07:25 PM Flag
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this post is ghey [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.06.13, 07:28 PM Flag
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Don't know for sure, but I've heard Bucks Rock is good. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.06.13, 07:35 PM Flag
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Stagedoor Manor [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.06.13, 07:36 PM Flag
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Only for kids who don't want to do anything else though - if you want other activities too look at French Woods. My dc lives for their time at Stagedoor though. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.06.13, 08:23 PM Flag
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^^^ too many "thoughs" I know grammar moms -sorry [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.06.13, 08:24 PM Flag
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ITA. Niece has been going there for years and loves it, but it is really for kids who live and breathe theater. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.07.13, 12:54 PM Flag
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not technically a sleepaway camp, but check out explo. they have many different courses including lots of acting/performance based ones. http://explo.org [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.06.13, 07:45 PM Flag
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Ooh I did Explo at Wellesley almost 20 years ago. We called it Sexplo! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.06.13, 07:45 PM Flag
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DF's dd loved French Woods but I've also heard that it can be cliquey. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.07.13, 12:06 PM Flag
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Interlochen in Michigan [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.07.13, 12:51 PM Flag
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Isn't that mostly music? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.07.13, 02:06 PM Flag
[ - ] Any BTDT parents: Just requested an iep for my teen who's having a nervous breakdown - any chance it will come through over the summer 5 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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New York City 05.06.13, 06:14 PM Flag
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what is iep? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.06.13, 06:21 PM Flag
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Hugs. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.06.13, 06:26 PM Flag
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why is your kid having a nervous breakdown? is your kid already been diagnosed with a disability? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.06.13, 06:29 PM Flag
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medical issues + stress [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.06.13, 06:27 PM Flag
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Call the office of SpEd in your district. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.06.13, 07:10 PM Flag
[ - ] I am looking for an OB in NYC who takes humana and who will fully support a natural childbirth plan (vaginal delivery with no pain medication or episiotomy). Any suggestions? 30 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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New York City 05.06.13, 06:12 PM Flag
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u'll change ur mind about pain meds...just wait [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.06.13, 06:13 PM Flag
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and no doctor will do an episiotomy if u specifically express ur wish IN WRITING that it not be done. also you can refuse pain meds if you wish [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.06.13, 06:14 PM Flag
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+1. While some doctors are supposedly more supportive, I've never had an issue with any doctor. I just make my wishes very clear up front. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.06.13, 06:39 PM Flag
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Birth plan, LOL. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.06.13, 06:09 PM Flag
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+1 - your birth plan is to enter the hospital pregnant and come out with a baby. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.06.13, 06:11 PM Flag
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no there is actually a birthplan u can download and fill out / give one copy to hospital one to doctor and keep one. it addresses all types of situations and preferences. most hospitals will do their best to honor what u want, and if your doctor bulks at this then he is not a good match for u. they'll follow what u want unless you change your mind while in labor (I did) or your/or baby's life is in danger, otherwise u get exactly what u want [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.06.13, 06:21 PM Flag
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How about leaving it to the professionals? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.06.13, 06:22 PM Flag
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u can still state your preferences. u really should or they'll walk all over u. like i said u can fill it out and later still change your mind while u're on the table. but it will put her mind at ease which is very important. btw, some of these professionals are in the wrong profession. i know of doctors who would schedule surgery or force delivery so they can go on vacation as they planned. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.06.13, 06:35 PM Flag
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How about you work with an OB who you trust during your pregnancy, then trust them to do their job and deliver your baby safely? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.06.13, 06:36 PM Flag
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NP: Well that is what the OP is asking for, no? Referrals to an OB she can trust and wants to work with? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.06.13, 06:39 PM Flag
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i did. i had a birth plan. hospital and doctor both honored it. i changed my mind re pain meds, but everything else was followed as i wanted. if child was in danger they would have taken over no matter what, but its is better to outline what you're absulutely against. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.06.13, 06:40 PM Flag
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Are u an OBGYN? Probably not. Let them do their job. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.06.13, 06:18 PM Flag
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Many of them want to do procedures, to make it easier for you they say, but mostly to speed the process for themselves and bill more. More money and more patients they can cover. Mine pushed and pushed for an episiotomy, I refused and ended up delivering without any tears. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.06.13, 07:08 PM Flag
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spell out the word you please [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.06.13, 06:33 PM Flag
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Exactly. The term birth plan is hilarious. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.06.13, 06:16 PM Flag
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Funny, is this your first ? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.06.13, 06:21 PM Flag
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ya think? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.06.13, 06:23 PM Flag
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Duh. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.06.13, 06:19 PM Flag
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Not sure if they take Humana, but Katrina Bradley and her partners are a good group of NCB-supportive OB's. They deliver at Roosevelt. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.06.13, 06:22 PM Flag
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+1 love them. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.06.13, 07:45 PM Flag
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And Dr Moritz at Roosevelt. I don't know if he takes your insurance, but he is supportive of natural childbirth. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.06.13, 11:41 PM Flag
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do they even do episiotomies anymore? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.06.13, 06:22 PM Flag
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If they absolutely have to. I tore and had 9 stitches. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.06.13, 06:19 PM Flag
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There are still some OBs (mostly older) that do them routinely with first-time moms. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.06.13, 06:31 PM Flag
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that should not be allowed. and u need to state that. its better to tear and have stitches than have a cut that may affect other things later on [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.06.13, 06:36 PM Flag
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np: i think some doctors do, but it's far less common. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.06.13, 06:46 PM Flag
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L&d nurse here. I hardly ever see obs do episiotomys unless there is difficulty with head or shoulders being born. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.06.13, 06:54 PM Flag
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Mine wanted to do one 5 years ago. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.06.13, 07:09 PM Flag
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Yes, I've had two (one each birth obvs) [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.06.13, 08:10 PM Flag
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death is also all natural--no pain med, surgery. it's very simple plan. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.06.13, 08:26 PM Flag
[ - ] sending dd to Hewitt, got 99s G&T test and 98ERB, bad decision?? I am so worried that my decision was right for my dd, people hate Hewitt and seems easily set curriculum school... 8 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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New York City 05.06.13, 03:40 PM Flag
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Over the last several years many high-scoring girls have been admitted to Hewitt. The parents I know with DD there are very happy. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.06.13, 04:13 PM Flag
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If your child already got into a good school seems like you're all set. City-wide G&T is such a long shot. ALthough you could just apply and if you get into G&T make your decision then. Last day to apply for G&T is 5/10. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.06.13, 04:21 PM Flag
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Seems like the day to bash Hewitt. If this post is real, OP should take another tour of both schools. Then she should stand in front of them at dismissal and see if she likes what she sees and hears. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.06.13, 04:21 PM Flag
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I hear it's a really lovely school. Don't listen to the naysayers. Most people have no idea how competitive and hard it is to get a kid in K these days. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.06.13, 04:30 PM Flag
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I hear it's a really lovely school. Don't listen to the naysayers. Most people have no idea how competitive and hard it is to get a kid in K these days. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.06.13, 04:30 PM Flag
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I only know 1 kid at Hewitt, and she is really lovely. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.06.13, 04:43 PM Flag
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Do not listen to this board about this school. Or most of them, actually. I see that most astonishing crap about our private on here. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.06.13, 05:15 PM Flag
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The girls at Hewitt are wonderful and so is the school. Don't even blink for a second. It's a great decision. If you have concerns, ask Kelly Pierre to peruse the blog. It will give you SO MUCH insight into what is actually happening at the school. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.24.13, 02:43 AM Flag
[ - ] DH and I and our 2-year-old want to move to the burbs. We're torn between Westchester and NJ... specifically the Dobbs Ferry/Hastings/Irvington area and the Livingston/Chatham/Summit area. We want a liberal community - the more laid back the better. Schools are top priority, but we care about quality of education and enrichment opportunities, not so much HYP emissions. Pros of Westchester seem to be the beautiful scenery, charming towns, and the fact that it's New York. (We like Cuomo 1000x more than Christie.) Pros of NJ seem to be bigger towns and schools and therefore more potential activities and friends, more box stores (which sounds like a con but is comforting to my Tampa-raised self and DH's Milwaukee-raised self), and lower overall taxes. We both work in Times Square so the commute is pretty much a wash. Help us decide! Is there a big difference in vibe? What are the parents like in these areas? Is one school system way better than the other? And while snobbiness is probably inevitable in the Tri-state area, which has less? TIA! 13 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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New York City 05.06.13, 01:37 AM Flag
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I'm partial to Westchester. I like the location and vibe better overall. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.06.13, 01:40 AM Flag
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I don't know all that much about either, but the people I know on the Dobbs Ferry/Hastigns line seem to be much more laidback, creative, interesting than those that I know from Westchester. I'm generalizing majorly, but if I were to hit the burbs, I would look at Dobbs Ferry/Hastings... and probably Montclair and Maplewood. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.06.13, 01:37 AM Flag
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DF/Hastings IS Westchester [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.06.13, 01:47 AM Flag
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Oy vey. Yeah, the people I know in Dobbs Ferry/Hastings...very laidback and creative. Like partners in big law (3). And a banker. Very creative, very laid back. Sure. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.07.13, 12:10 AM Flag
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I think Metro North is a lot nicer than taking NJ Transit! But overall, I like the area in Westchester you like best. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.06.13, 01:43 AM Flag
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It's worth renting a car for a few weekends in a row and spending some time in each, before you even look at houses. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.06.13, 01:44 AM Flag
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OP: Yeah, we did a quick drive through of each... I think we need to spend more quality time to get a better sense. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.06.13, 01:46 AM Flag
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and test out the commute! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.06.13, 01:47 AM Flag
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At different times of the day. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.06.13, 01:52 AM Flag
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I like Summit, NJ. Lived there years back and It was nice. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.06.13, 01:44 AM Flag
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I live there now and love it. Hate Christie, but all else good. Have met good friends there, plenty of liberals (and some smart conservatives, which has been good for opening my mind a crack). Schools are really good. Nice outdoor pool, you can walk to restaurants, train, movies, etc. has been a good move for us. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.06.13, 03:10 AM Flag
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Livingston is nice but no train (bus or drive to another town's station). In NJ you get a lot more house for your money and taxes aren't that different. The Westchester towns you mentioned have more character & history, but Summit & Chatham probably have better schools (esp Summit). [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.06.13, 02:17 AM Flag
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Why not Long Island? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.06.13, 02:54 AM Flag
[ - ] How early in pregnancy do you need to see an OB? Just found out I'm pregnant - had messed up periods since coming off the pill and have no idea if it's 3 weeks, 8 weeks, etc - but cannot get any NYC OB offices to call me back. Afraid I'm going to have to deliver the child on my couch at this rate. : ) 6 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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New York City 05.06.13, 01:01 AM Flag
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They usually don't see you until 8 weeks or so. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.06.13, 01:02 AM Flag
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Ah good to know. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.06.13, 01:04 AM Flag
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When you do go in they can date the pregnancy for you. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.06.13, 01:10 AM Flag
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Tell them the earlier of the two dates was your last period... if they think you are further along they will bring you in to confirm. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.06.13, 01:07 AM Flag
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Thanks. My last period was in late Feb, 70 day cycles before that, so truly have no idea. My guess is its 4-5 weeks. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.06.13, 01:16 AM Flag
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You really want to get in there by 11 weeks to do proper first trimester screening. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.06.13, 02:37 AM Flag
[ - ] I feel like I need a financial advisor. How many of you have one? I'm almost 40 and have saved about 225K in my 401K over the years and have about 150K in the bank. Nothing else going on. I want to do something with the $$ I have in the bank because it earns nothing but what to do - 1/3 year CDs? Index funds? I am pretty good at saving but not making my money work for me -- investing is incredibly confusing. 16 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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New York City 05.06.13, 12:50 AM Flag
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Watching this because I am exactly in the same position [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.06.13, 12:48 AM Flag
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Real estate [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.06.13, 12:51 AM Flag
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OP- I have low rent. Buying (especially with the inflated NYC prices) is crazy to me. I have considered a weekend place though that could be a retirement place when I get older. Seems a little nuts too though to have my first big purchase be a weekend place! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.06.13, 01:16 AM Flag
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You don't want to put your savings at risk. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.06.13, 12:53 AM Flag
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Wow how do you have so much in your 401K and savings??!! I have only 58K and I'm almost your age (37). Do you make a high salary? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.06.13, 12:54 AM Flag
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She probably maxed out her 401K every year of her adult life. Good girl. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.06.13, 01:02 AM Flag
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ditto here and company matched. about 250k and didn't even contribute last few years after leaving workforce. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.06.13, 01:05 AM Flag
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OP- maxed out every year from the beginning. I just lived without a lot in the early years. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.06.13, 01:13 AM Flag
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Normally I'd say index funds, maybe with some exposure internationally, but the world is so messed up right now that there's no sure thing. CDs are earning practically nothing. The markets are uncertain. Emerging markets might be overblown (China's growth is poised to slow down). You could do worse than to keep a lot of your money in a savings account that earns a bit of interest. I assume your 401K is in the US market. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.06.13, 12:54 AM Flag
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^^full disclosure: I'm fairly exposed to the US and international markets, but I also have about $70K in cash. I keep reading doomsday predictions about the US markets, but I don't know what to do with that money if I cash out... I don't think you should feel bad about not being savvy in this area. Even the experts don't know what to do right now; they're all disagreeing with each other. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.06.13, 01:02 AM Flag
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Ask people for referrals and then go meet with each of them. A financial advisor is a very personal thing - like a lawyer and in some ways like a therapist in that you will share with them details of your life that no one else knows and they really need to be a good fit. Fit is not determined by whether they made other clients a lot of money, but by whether they listen to you, understand where you're coming from and where you want to go, and what you can and can't handle along the way. IMO, when you find the right person, you'll know. When in doubt, it's definitely not the right person, no matter how much someone else loves them. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.06.13, 01:11 AM Flag
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+1 [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.06.13, 01:28 AM Flag
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Ok. I can't give you any advice, as I don't know your income, risk tolerance, need for the cash, etc. but here is some tried and tested generic advice to get you going. 1. Have 6 months living expenses in cash/CDs just in case. 2. Ay financial advisor who doesn't charge you a fee is going to try and sell you stuff you likely don't want. 3. Fees are everything for your retirement funds. You can't predict the market, but if a fund charges you 1% a year, in 20 years they will have taken 20% of Your Money. 4. No one beats the market consistently. At least, not in a way you can benefit from. So, look for low fee index funds and own the market. 5. Invest for the long term. Buy, hold, and rebalance. 6. Your asset allocation (% of stocks/bonds) is all important. Age in bonds is a good start. 7. Learn something about this stuff. It among the most important learning of your life, but for some dumb reason we don't teach it in school. Start with The Bogleheads Guide to Investing. Good luck! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.06.13, 01:13 AM Flag
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OP- thanks! I consider myself a long term investor. I have no debt - aggressively paid off all of my school loans when I got out of school. Lived very cheaply (with roommates, etc) until I could afford to really live on my own. Re #3 - I watched a special on Frontline last week which got me thinking about all of this. I am changing some investments in my 401k and rollover because of it. Thanks for the book rec--I will check out the book! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.06.13, 01:30 AM Flag
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Good luck. My starting point is that you need to know enough to know when outwardly-convincing people are screwing you - like when Aanyone tries to sell you whole life insurance. Red flag, rip off! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.06.13, 02:39 AM Flag
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Your scenario mirrors mine to the T (age, and $ figures) 3 years ago. Now, I am 41 and so, so happy with my FEE based Financial Advisor. She is a savvy 36 year old woman (I really appreciate going to a woman). She listens extensively to our goals (3 year, 5 year) and comes up with scenarios (e.g., school options for DS aged 3, investment options, refinancing scenarios). I get written plans and we review and strategize., She also advises very specifically on investing, risk tolerance, reigning in fees where possible. We own a couple of businesses and deal with a lot of professionals - our advisor is the best move we ever made. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.06.13, 01:43 AM Flag
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