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[ - ] Anyone been to Spa Castle in Queens? How did you like it? 10 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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New York City 06.03.13, 06:36 PM Flag
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Spa castle is fun; be prepared to be butt naked though. I highly recommend the scrub-downs. They are awesome. I hope you're not one of those white people that will make ethnocentric remarks about how shocking it is to see naked Asian ladies everywhere. It's cultural. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.03.13, 06:44 PM Flag
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OP: Butt naked when? In the shower or during treatments. I honestly don't care if people are naked. I am European and not a prude. Just self-consicious about my own body but I can get over that. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.03.13, 06:52 PM Flag
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Naked everywhere except for the common (mixed sex) areas and pool outside. Most women there are naked in the hit tubs and saunas. Youd need to be naked for the scrub I guess but they can drape people who feel uncomfortable. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.03.13, 06:49 PM Flag
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*hot tubs [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.03.13, 06:49 PM Flag
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Hmmm, I need a spray tan. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.03.13, 06:55 PM Flag
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You will stick out the. Koreans are all about the pallor :) [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.03.13, 06:56 PM Flag
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^^then [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.03.13, 06:57 PM Flag
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Oh, I will fit right in then, Except I probably weigh twice as much as they do :-( [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.03.13, 07:01 PM Flag
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Nah. There are lots of Hispanic fatties there due to there being a pool also and being in Queens. Have fun and enjoy the scrub-- you will feel like velvet afterwards. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.03.13, 07:05 PM Flag
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Pluses: very clean, lot of different things to do. Minuses: a la carte menu really jacks up the price, many customers don't know how proper sauna works (so they walk in and out constantly). [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.03.13, 06:51 PM Flag
[ - ] Where can I find good parenting lists/parenting communities in Manhattan? (Most seem to be Brooklyn-based.) I'd love to find folks near Chelsea, Flatiron, southern Midtown, generally around Madison Square Park. 2 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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New York City 06.03.13, 05:30 PM Flag
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Not sure if Hudson River Park Mothers goes that far north, but ask them. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.03.13, 05:33 PM Flag
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Hell's Kitchen Babies is one. Its a yahoo group. Search for it and then ask to join (its a private group) [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.03.13, 06:45 PM Flag
[ - ] Anyone else not able to tell people about your pregnancy until into the 19-20th week? I'm pg w #2 (age 43) and due to some factors, the OB has suggested I wait until the microarray comes back (about 19 weeks) to start telling people. I know it's the right thing to do but boy is it frustrating! 2 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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New York City 06.03.13, 05:03 PM Flag
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Wow - that's tough! I was huge by then so hard to hide. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.03.13, 05:22 PM Flag
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I waited to tell the general population until after amnio - wear big clothes! People assumed but no one is going to come right out and ask about it. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.03.13, 06:32 PM Flag
[ - ] Europe moms/travel moms: We have a few days to kill between Amsterdam and Paris. Traveling with two kids, 9 yo and 6 yo. Any relatively easy ideas as to where to go? Don't think we want to drive between the two, as we'll have been in Europe for a while and just want to go to a hotel and plop down for a few days. Thoughts? I don't know Northern France or that part of Europe at all. Thank you! 20 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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New York City 06.03.13, 04:22 PM Flag
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Bruges in Belgium is great. Normandy is wonderful. We stayed in Bayeux for a few days. Nancy and Reims were terrific too - lots of local atmosphere. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.03.13, 04:29 PM Flag
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+1 on Bruges. It's lovely. Ghent is nice as well, but Bruges is nicer, IMO. I have been twice. Stayed at the Hotel de Orangerie and Hotel De Tuilerieen. Both gorgeous places on the water. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.03.13, 04:47 PM Flag
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OP: thanks!! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.03.13, 05:11 PM Flag
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+1 Bruges. Brussels is worth a visit too. In Normandy Deauville is good place for a few days [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.03.13, 04:49 PM Flag
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I would skip Brussels. The most boring and dirtiest city in Belgium. Another vote for Bruges and Ghent. Also Visit Lille, it's right across the French border, and it's lovely. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.04.13, 02:44 PM Flag
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Another Bruges from me...was my first thought. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.03.13, 05:04 PM Flag
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Ooh, thank you guys! Haven't looked into Bruges. Going to google now. Thanks! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.03.13, 05:08 PM Flag
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Bruges is very pretty, but it may be a little dull for kids. Go to Ghent and see Gravensteen. It is a castle with a moat and all sorts of exhibits on life in the Middle Ages and torture devices and such. Lots of fun. If you have time, go to both Bruges and Ghent. http://www.tripadvisor.com/Attraction_Review-g188666-d245953-Reviews-Gravensteen_Castle-Ghent_East_Flanders_Province.html [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.03.13, 05:41 PM Flag
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OP: thanks! Very cool. Sending this link to my husband. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.03.13, 06:41 PM Flag
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Sounds like fun for the younger kid - the torture stuff. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.03.13, 07:11 PM Flag
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OP: not sure if this is sarcastic or not, but mine LOVED the Tower of London two years ago. 6yo likes to keep up with the older one, so she's okay with slightly older-skewing stuff. Thx! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.03.13, 07:23 PM Flag
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No, no sarcastic. My 6 yr old was scared by that stuff but by 8 or 9 loved it. Each kid is different. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.03.13, 09:20 PM Flag
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OP: totally. Mine is a little bit macabre. :) [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.03.13, 10:15 PM Flag
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i second normandy. go to the d-day beaches while you're there. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.03.13, 06:51 PM Flag
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We loved the historical stuff in Normandy but our kids were older - 9 and 11. Not sure it'd be interesting for the 6 yr old but he can just go along for the ride. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.03.13, 07:12 PM Flag
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mine was 6, if nothing else, going in the gun turrets was interesting. context comes later, but she enjoyed and didn't forget. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.03.13, 07:34 PM Flag
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There is a wonderful WW1 museum in Ypres. We took a train from Bruges. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.03.13, 09:20 PM Flag
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OP: you guys are super-helpful. Thank you! Really don't know this region at all so totally clueless. Thanks again. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.03.13, 10:16 PM Flag
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Have a great trip wherever you end up. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.03.13, 10:14 PM Flag
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TY! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.04.13, 01:01 AM Flag
[ - ] Posted this last night but no one was on. Husband and I want to separate but I am unemployed right now. Do we have to live separately to file the separation agreement? I feel as if I've known couples who lived together under it was final. We have one son, age 4, if that makes a different. 18 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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New York City 06.03.13, 04:00 PM Flag
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Oh the joy in living in the same place until it is final.... [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.03.13, 04:07 PM Flag
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This. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.03.13, 04:01 PM Flag
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No, you can live in same home. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.03.13, 04:01 PM Flag
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Please try with every ounce of your being to be civil in front of DS. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.03.13, 04:02 PM Flag
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OP here: DH and I get alone, but in terms of lifestyle and goals, might as well be Mars and Venus. The relationship is not working, we know it is time to end it. Good to know we can live in the same house. Now: Anyone know a good attorney or mediator in NYC? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.03.13, 04:03 PM Flag
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It can be done, but you both need lawyers right now to get this ball rolling in a timely fashion. Or if you can't afford attorneys and the split is civil, consider mediation--I knew someone who did it and it saved them a fortune. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.03.13, 04:03 PM Flag
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OP: Mediators have been brought up, so if anyone knows or used a good one, speak up. The apartment is his and we have no common assets (all bank accounts are separate) so this should be an easy split. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.03.13, 04:05 PM Flag
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PLEASE do not settle easily. I assume you have been married at least 4 years, maybe longer. In NYS, maritial property would include amounts earned (wages or pship earnings) while married. Does not matter if seperate account. Did you help pay for apt? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.03.13, 04:09 PM Flag
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OP: DH bought apartment 10 years ago with family money long before I was on the scene. We have been married five years. His dad's name is even on the co-op proprietary lease. It is not mine. I honestly just want to be able to live my life, start dating other people and move on. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.03.13, 04:17 PM Flag
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Yeah, jump right back into the dating pool. Great news for your DS. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.03.13, 04:18 PM Flag
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OP: As I said, this relationship has been deflated for quite some time. It's time to move on. Hakuna Matata. Everyone has the right to be happy. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.03.13, 04:19 PM Flag
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Selfish. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.03.13, 04:16 PM Flag
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Np: Smelly twat. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.03.13, 04:36 PM Flag
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That really sealed your argument. How persuasive and well-stated. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.03.13, 04:39 PM Flag
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Of course. Ignore the posts suggesting you can't date any more. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.03.13, 04:21 PM Flag
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You sound really together and ready for all this. Good luck to you going forward. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.03.13, 04:35 PM Flag
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OP: I think if more women had the backbone to *leave* unhealthy or dead relationships there would be a lot more happy women in the world. Men walk away from duds all the time. So should women. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.03.13, 04:50 PM Flag
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It's a myth that men are more likely to leave marriages, but your point is valid. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.03.13, 04:47 PM Flag
[ - ] Any recommendations for a one week baseball sleepaway camp? 1 Reply [ Reply | Watch | More
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New York City 06.03.13, 01:55 PM Flag
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Cal Ripkin down in Baltimore [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.03.13, 03:29 PM Flag
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New York City 06.03.13, 10:44 AM Flag
[ - ] Why are private schools in NYC SO expensive? Can people with ordinary jobs afford them? 216 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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New York City 06.03.13, 01:39 AM Flag
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No [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.03.13, 01:39 AM Flag
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yes! FA galore [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.03.13, 01:33 AM Flag
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np Between 20 and 25% of the student body at most schools gets FA. Obviously most of that is given out to middle and upper schoolers--not kindergarteners. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.03.13, 01:45 AM Flag
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Look it up, Fieldston is one of the most generous schools, and it gives around 20%. Also, when you count number of students getting financial aid vs. the number of $$ of FA given compared to full tuition, the number is a lot lower. $1000 FA counts, yet doesn't help in $40+K school. DF had two kids at a private and got a break of $2K when they applied for FA. They were still stuck with nearly $80K in tuition. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.04.13, 02:48 PM Flag
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but you'd better look dark for the brochure if you want FA [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.03.13, 02:26 PM Flag
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No, they can't. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.03.13, 01:40 AM Flag
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Because, the cost of education in NYC in much more expensive than in other areas. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.03.13, 01:41 AM Flag
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It doesn't need to be. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.03.13, 01:36 AM Flag
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Yes, it does. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.03.13, 01:47 AM Flag
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No it doesn't. Heads of schools and other divisional heads are paid more than some college professors and administrators. That is too much. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.03.13, 01:50 AM Flag
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The cost to educate a child in NYC is around 58K. The 40K tuition doesn't actually even close to cover it. Teachers in NYC need to make higher salaries, because the cost of living is more expensive, cost of facilities is much more expensive, and they offer so many thing. W/O this tuition + significant donations, the schools would not be able to survive. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.03.13, 01:51 AM Flag
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It's not the teacher salaries that are a problem, but the salaries of the administrators. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.03.13, 01:53 AM Flag
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true. the principal of a small private school doesn't need $500,000 K and a free apartment. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.03.13, 02:41 AM Flag
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Exactly. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.03.13, 02:44 AM Flag
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Wrong. They are expensive because they can be. Simple supply and demand. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.03.13, 02:48 AM Flag
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Yes [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.03.13, 04:25 AM Flag
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+2 [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.03.13, 12:23 PM Flag
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+1000. thank u. There are idiots on here. "Why do mansions have to be so expensive??" And if you can't afford private school (or the mansion), oh well. Thank goodness I can afford it for my "dark looking" dcs. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.04.13, 02:16 AM Flag
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The schools are sometimes located in UES mansions. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.03.13, 10:21 PM Flag
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Schools aren't that generous with financial aid if you have two educated, working parents. It's really astonishing the salaries that are needed to send kids to private. Who is making these big bucks? Not everyone is a hedge fund manager or super successful physician?? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.03.13, 01:35 AM Flag
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send them to parroquial schools then [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.03.13, 01:38 AM Flag
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Don't you need to be Catholic or X-ian or something? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.03.13, 01:48 AM Flag
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no, i know Asian parents that do it because of the academic quality and lack of behavioral issues [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.03.13, 02:03 AM Flag
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Where do I find these parochial schools? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.03.13, 02:07 AM Flag
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there are many Asian Catholics. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.03.13, 02:03 AM Flag
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no you don't. parishioners get preference, but there are many parochial schools in the city. the very very good ones (epiphany, st. ignatious) will be tough if you're not catholic or famous. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.03.13, 02:01 AM Flag
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parochial [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.03.13, 01:42 AM Flag
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And the water boarding of the language continues. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.03.13, 02:10 AM Flag
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nice spelling [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.03.13, 03:52 AM Flag
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Rank and file IB and big law people who are talented/lucky enough that they didn't lose their jobs when the bottom fell out. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.03.13, 01:44 AM Flag
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isn't for these guys still a stretch? to put say, 2 kids in private? doesn't it limit their ability to save for retirement/college appropriately? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.03.13, 01:40 AM Flag
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Yes, it is a stretch. A HUGE stretch. We're one of those families. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.03.13, 01:48 AM Flag
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we are shooting for selective public middle. i'm a great investor and the $ that would go towards tuition wisely invested can be a small fortune once they reach adulthood. i visited almost every great private out there and wasn't impressed. both dh and i went to ivy-leagues coming from regular schools. the whole exmissions is blown out of proportion, an advertising gimmick. the kiddos are among some spoilt brats that treat the teachers as servants even during tours. NO thank you, i prefer the regular super smart kids any day. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.03.13, 01:45 AM Flag
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Unfortunately, that's not all you'll find in public schools, many of which have mediocre teachers, principals who are lazy bureaucrats and power-hungry in their own way, etc. etc. Public sucks unfortunately which is why private becomes an option for many even when they can't really afford it. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.03.13, 02:05 AM Flag
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it's not the case at the selectives. you get better teachers and principals than at the privates, it's where the cream goes. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.03.13, 02:22 AM Flag
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I had a child at a selective middle school and the facilities sucked, the teachers sucked, and the principal sucked. Sad but true. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.03.13, 02:24 AM Flag
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which one? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.03.13, 02:29 AM Flag
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Can't name it after the previous post! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.03.13, 02:35 AM Flag
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ok, which district? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.03.13, 02:39 AM Flag
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c'mon don't egg me on like this! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.03.13, 02:45 AM Flag
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sorry!!! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.03.13, 02:45 AM Flag
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I mean rank and file types who are managing directors for a good chunk of their kids' school years. Probably pulling in between 1 and 3 mm a year with bonus; that's "the middle" in private school. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.03.13, 01:53 AM Flag
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$1M = some claim they pay around 50% in taxes (it's gonna get there soon if they don't yet), 80k in tuition after-tax, +100k in housing? ... then they add a second home (i know! a waste, but these guys tend to do it). so i'm not sure they can save a whole lot with those high fixed costs. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.03.13, 01:57 AM Flag
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This was us. Our second home is cheap and our apt isn't fancy. Total for both around 100k. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.03.13, 02:02 AM Flag
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how much were you guys able to save for retirement/college each year with all these high fixed costs going on? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.03.13, 02:23 AM Flag
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If you are already apending $50k/year per kid on school, you don't need to save as much for college. You've got 1/2 covered just by what you are already spending. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.03.13, 03:52 AM Flag
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300k a year. Np I am described aptly above [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.03.13, 10:50 PM Flag
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Let's not forget that most of their comp isn't liquid. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.03.13, 07:43 PM Flag
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i make 350k and my husband 450k and we have two dcs in private. financially it's ok but i do feel well out of our league ... . while everyone is nice, the social scene can be offputting. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.03.13, 02:05 AM Flag
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What % of families would you say are similar to you financially at your dc school? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.03.13, 02:13 AM Flag
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feels like very few. i'd say majority are in the $1mm plus or on FA. Or they made money in the past.. everyone has a summer home, many have winter homes. Lots of families with 3+ kids. Few working mom, those who do are either very successful or doing part time ish jobs for the fun. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.03.13, 02:18 AM Flag
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this! those "newly affluent" are the ones that don't really fit, as much of the lifestyle is sustained by inherited assets (great classic candela, nice summer home...). the newly affluent have no biz trying to catch up with that. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.03.13, 02:31 AM Flag
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what is the definition for "newly affluent"? self-made wall street bankers? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.03.13, 02:33 AM Flag
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those who are well paid now but don't come from family $. they didn't get a free apartment when they got married, for ex. nor can use the family summer house. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.03.13, 02:45 AM Flag
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This. My neice is an only child, her parents bought her a 2BR, she can vacation at the Cape or Boca any time she wants (has her own room in both places, plus guest room if and when she has kids). Its a different life from what my kids will have. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.03.13, 12:57 PM Flag
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Gross [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.03.13, 10:54 PM Flag
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We don't make as much as you do (I stay at home and my husband makes a little more than your husband). I find the social scene stressful and offputting. It's a fancy school and the parents with their drivers, fancy classes, fancy vacations, 2nd homes, enormous (!) city homes and stay at homes with nannies, cleaners, trainers, ability to spend anything they want whenever they want...I sadly leave any time I spend with the parents feeling badly about our place, myself, etc. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.03.13, 02:29 AM Flag
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i would feel exactly the same, and wouldn't like to put dcs under this pressure either. just curious, when you say "enormous", how much sq ft are we talking about? are their homes so big thanks to being in the family for generations? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.03.13, 02:33 AM Flag
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5000 sq ft plus on park, 5th, cpw. most made their money in finance. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.03.13, 02:40 AM Flag
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but they are in their late 40s or 50s now, right? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.03.13, 02:46 AM Flag
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nr: my friend has that set-up (round the clock nannies, FT housekeeper, 4500 sq ft apt, 3 kids in private, Mercedes suv, etc. they are in their 30's. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.03.13, 03:14 AM Flag
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Large apartments are fine - it's more the prestigious buildings. 740 Park type buildings. Lots of 6 to 8 bedroom apartments or a few with 4 or 5 but the Penthouse of amazing buildings with incredible views. Costs from 12 to 20/25 MM. I always thought our 3 bedroom was nice (paid 1.8) compared to others, it's so small and the location on york is not ideal. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.03.13, 02:36 AM Flag
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but these in general are not people who arrived to Manhattan say, 10 years ago. they belong to well established families. that is what makes the difference. a new comer will never be able to compete with that. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.03.13, 02:47 AM Flag
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not true of the ones i know. made their money in the 2000s in finance. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.03.13, 03:01 AM Flag
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or: exactly. it can make you feel very badly. it shouldn't but it does. makes me want to move to a burb where we'd be right in the middle of the pack. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.03.13, 02:40 AM Flag
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We are exactly the same. We feel very mc. Anywhere else in the country we would be living large. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.03.13, 07:39 PM Flag
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I know, it's become normal conversation at our house as we decide on the next school step with public middle or private middle. So expensive. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.03.13, 01:35 AM Flag
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OP: Ours too. It seems exorbitant [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.03.13, 01:37 AM Flag
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couldn't you shoot for selective public middle schools? they seem to be of higher quality than expensive privates to me. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.03.13, 01:38 AM Flag
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I've seen a few and they look like prisons to me. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.03.13, 01:48 AM Flag
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which district? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.03.13, 01:46 AM Flag
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UES and LES [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.03.13, 01:55 AM Flag
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wow, that's the worst. it's huge, so there is a ton of competition for selectives if you find them close to your house. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.03.13, 01:52 AM Flag
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You've never been inside a prison, have you? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.03.13, 12:58 PM Flag
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Well, we're definitely below that! I thought we were rank and file!! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.03.13, 01:54 AM Flag
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This is how the rich keep the non rich out. It's like housing. Really nice towns with large homes carry the highest prices and property taxes..this makes the rich feel "exclusive". It does not necessarily mean the quality of education at private schools is any better just like living in a rich neighborhood doesn't mean their house will never get robbed. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.03.13, 01:36 AM Flag
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"This is how the rich keep the non rich out." they give plenty of FA, it's not about keeping others out. it's more about the insistence on small class settings that drives the cost per student much higher. the school is running for the most part on fixed costs. as classes get smaller, prices skyrocket. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.03.13, 01:42 AM Flag
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Because so many have kids with emotional and learning disabilities. No one is normal any more in NYC because of all this stress and competition [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.03.13, 01:51 AM Flag
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LOL read that after a few years of Dalton started to provide therapy, they found that about 40% of the kids needed some kind of help. but any human under a microscope and you'd find sth not quite right. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.03.13, 01:47 AM Flag
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as a parent, i wouldn't want my dcs to be in a class with kids that have been diagnosed with emotional disabilities [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.03.13, 01:48 AM Flag
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If you have a child in a private school in NYC, chances are that is what you are coping with. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.03.13, 01:50 AM Flag
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in special ed private for sure, but why on earth would i pay $40k per year for my kid to sit next to another one diagnosed with an emotional disability [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.03.13, 01:59 AM Flag
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Because many do in regular privates. Therapists offices all over NYC are FILLED with private school kids from EVERY regular, TT, lower tier, etc. private school you want to name. It's what schools do to take the burden off of educating our kids. When they suck at something, they blame your kid and this crazy situation develops -- especially if you have a boy. Lots of kids with learning disabilities at all private schools as well, and learning disabilities are often accompanied by behavioral/emotional issues. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.03.13, 01:57 AM Flag
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"learning disabilities are often accompanied by behavioral/emotional issues" sure, that's the part that would bother me, the emotional/behavioral one. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.03.13, 02:25 AM Flag
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Well, if there's one, chances are there's the other. You need to get over it because in the workplace your child will also encounter colleagues with emotional imbalances. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.03.13, 02:23 AM Flag
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"get over it" what's wrong with you? why don't you send your kids with those with emotional disabilities? this is my preference on behalf of my kids. seems that you need to get over it and respect it. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.03.13, 02:34 AM Flag
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It may be your preference but it won't be your reality. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.03.13, 02:41 AM Flag
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it's about what type of environment i prefer for my kids, i prefer no emotionally disturbed kids sitting next to them. if you like that, opt for those schools that blend them. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.03.13, 02:43 AM Flag
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No one chooses that. But it will happen to you and your kids as well. Get ready. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.03.13, 02:52 AM Flag
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for sure if they go to Wall Street, hope that's not the case!!! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.03.13, 02:35 AM Flag
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guess that those with behavioral/emotional issues get counseled out if they don't get resolved, right? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.03.13, 02:37 AM Flag
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Typically, yes. IF they don't get resolved it is because there is something bigger going on that can often involve a neurological issues. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.03.13, 02:40 AM Flag
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DS attende peivate school. He had some crazy kids in his class with special teachers. We will be going to public next year. I am not paying 40k for emotionaly disturbed children around my kid [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.03.13, 03:31 AM Flag
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private. emotinaley. typing in bed [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.03.13, 03:31 AM Flag
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IME, the kids in public school were far more likely to receive special services if they needed them. The private schools' way of "dealing" with an issue was to tell the parents to get help, somewhere else. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.03.13, 01:00 PM Flag
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Oh get over yourself. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.03.13, 01:58 AM Flag
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?? thought that all parents cared about the peer group their kids have, you don't it seems. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.03.13, 02:01 AM Flag
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I do, but I know life is not selective in this way. Every child is working on something. So get over yourself. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.03.13, 02:08 AM Flag
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emotional and behavioral issues is not the same as say, delays in reading when it comes to whether it affects the class dynamics or not [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.03.13, 02:13 AM Flag
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.... says the mom whose kid has a reading issue, but purported not a behavioral emotional one. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.03.13, 02:19 AM Flag
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my kid reads and didn't start 1st yet. i mean what i'm writing. what's your problem? if your dc has emotional disabilities, why do you assume that the best thing for my dc is to be in the same class with him/her? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.03.13, 02:26 AM Flag
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Who said my dc has emotional disabilities? Just because I am stating a fact -- that private schools often have a higher proportion of kids with issues -- doesn't mean you need to bite my head off. You also are arrogant and self-righteous and that bugs me too. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.03.13, 02:25 AM Flag
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LOL you actually sound like that by not respecting my preference in terms of what's best for my own kids. so go and get a life! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.03.13, 02:47 AM Flag
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because kids with anxiety are classified as emotional issues. they may keep it inside. you are thinking of psychosis or something. don't you have friends on prozac? if they seem depressed it isn't hurting you and won't hurt your kid's education if another kid is on prozac. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.03.13, 02:40 AM Flag
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"don't you have friends on prozac" no, neither me nor my dh have friends on prozac. you don't seem to get that the peers my kids will share most of the day with are going to be an important influence on them. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.03.13, 02:49 AM Flag
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lmfao - you have NO IDEA what meds your friends are on! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.03.13, 03:16 AM Flag
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not everybody is on drugs, we do know that a ton use pills as soon as they feel their life is not perfect. we aren't that type. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.03.13, 03:19 AM Flag
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"another kid is on prozac" WTF???? never heard abou this. don't we have enough about giving drugs to kids that aren't even tested on them? this is as shocking to me as the amount of kids on ADHD drugs. CRAZY! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.03.13, 03:00 AM Flag
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A smart child who is not being challenged academically might act out because of boredom. My kids go to camp with private school kids and we see the gamut. You just need to be realistic. Your school is not immune from behavioral/emotional issues. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.03.13, 02:26 AM Flag
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which private? i'd do this before considering applying as well. the way kids behave says a lot about the school. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.03.13, 02:34 AM Flag
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All privates have them. No need to implicate one. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.03.13, 02:38 AM Flag
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"The gap" at most schools is at LEAST 10k--so every kid has that covered and if you're getting FA you get that on top of it all. Also, it's PRIVATE, which means it's not a right or an entitlement. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.03.13, 01:55 AM Flag
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"The gap"? sure, but we are talking about whether it's desirable, not whether one deserves a spot [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.03.13, 02:00 AM Flag
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I live in one of those towns and everyone hate the property taxes. Many people move to CT. due to the low taxes. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.03.13, 02:44 AM Flag
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I know someone that has 3 dcs in private school NYC. They spend more on school than our HHI. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.03.13, 01:43 AM Flag
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And you probably hate them and their kids and think you kid(s) is much better [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.03.13, 01:52 AM Flag
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No, they're really nice. I like the parents and the kids. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.03.13, 01:54 AM Flag
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ON UB [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.03.13, 01:50 AM Flag
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We have 4 DC in private school in NYC. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.03.13, 01:51 AM Flag
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Lucky you. Must be very rich. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.03.13, 01:59 AM Flag
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how many on FA? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.03.13, 02:01 AM Flag
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None. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.03.13, 01:55 AM Flag
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SUCKER! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.03.13, 02:03 AM Flag
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np- Why? That's like saying someone is a sucker for paying for their own food instead of using food stamps. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.03.13, 02:00 AM Flag
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You should be thankful that there are people paying full tuition, since you are not able to. If everyone of your DC school was on FA, the school would go bankrupt. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.03.13, 02:03 AM Flag
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i'm not going private [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.03.13, 02:13 AM Flag
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seems like a total waste to me, i'm using sucker in the consumer sense, as when somebody buys $10k pair of shoes. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.03.13, 02:14 AM Flag
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If you can't afford it, then send them to public school. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.03.13, 01:51 AM Flag
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Public would be more palatable if the bathrooms had been renovated at least once in the last fifty years. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.03.13, 01:59 AM Flag
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You're complaining that you can't afford private schools, but acting like you're too good for public. If you can't afford it then face reality and stop complaining. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.03.13, 01:55 AM Flag
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I don't want to. That's what UB is for. If public didn't SUCK in NYC (which it does and it bothers me enormously that our salaries go to supporting these $hitty schools that lack the basic amenities). Frankly, I should be given a refund and use that $$ to send my kids to private and NYC gets its act together and fixes its crappy public school system. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.03.13, 02:10 AM Flag
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Well, that's not going to happen so either get out of NYC or off to public they go! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.03.13, 02:06 AM Flag
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You go off to public and I'll find better alternatives for my kids. BTW it doesn't change because people like you are sheep -- don't fight the system and just put up with crap. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.03.13, 02:09 AM Flag
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There isn't a need for change. So many people can afford private school as it is, many are nearly impossible to get into. If tuition was reduced for everyone, this issue would worsen. For children who are truly gifted, but can't afford private there are great public and g&t options- Hunter, LL, Nest, Anderson, ext. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.03.13, 02:12 AM Flag
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Nothing great about these schools. They have mediocre facilities, three times the number of kids (which is why the exmissions look better than average). Privates are impossible to get into, but there isn't as much $$ floating around NYC -- many of these privates actually had space and departures this year -- so guess what things are changing as we speak. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.03.13, 02:22 AM Flag
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Really and which schools didn't have at least 4X as many applicants as they did spaces? I would honestly love to know, because this is not true. You say nothing is great about these schools, but you're wrong. I know multiple children who went to these schools for LS/MS and onto TTs for HS and onto HYP for college. If you think that there isn't as much money floating around in NYC, you're clueless. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.03.13, 02:20 AM Flag
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I am not. I did not say these schools don't send kids to HPY but they send FAR more to mediocre schools, which means the majority of their students are just average and probably did have learning/emotional challenges of one form or another. You don't need to get defensive about this. Admissions is competitive, but it is not always based on ability. I am sure you know this, especially in a city filled with celebrities and uberwealthy people. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.03.13, 02:34 AM Flag
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They don't send many students at all to mediocre schools. Now you really are beyond clueless. Why don't you look up Brearley/HM/Collegiate's college matriculation right now. Just because a student doesn't go to HPY doesn't mean the school is mediocre. Many go to other ivys, MIT, Stanford, Williams, Swarthmore, Vassar, Amherst, and other top colleges. Few go to mediocre schools. First you say there isn't much money floating around in NYC then you say NYC is filled with celebrities and uberwealthy people. Get your story straight. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.03.13, 02:43 AM Flag
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I do see their stats. Majority go to lower level colleges/universities. That's a fact. Sorry if it offends you. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.03.13, 02:49 AM Flag
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Doesn't offend me, because it isn't true. If you thought this to be true then why would you want to send your kids to these schools? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.03.13, 02:51 AM Flag
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Talk to me when it comes time for your kid to apply to college. College counselors try to place the legacies, hooked kids before any one else. The others will be the losers. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.03.13, 02:49 AM Flag
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This is so untrue. You have no idea what you are talking about, but whatever, keep telling yourself whatever it takes to make yourself feel better about your DCs public school. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.03.13, 02:51 AM Flag
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You will get yours come college time. You are just hoping that the brand name will get you through. Think again. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.03.13, 02:56 AM Flag
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Oldest DD has already graduated from one of these schools, DH and I went to NYU, she got into Princeton unconnected. I'm not worried about younger DC. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.03.13, 03:11 AM Flag
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You sound so uppity. These are great schools. If you could afford private where would you send your DC? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.03.13, 02:21 AM Flag
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Not uppity just honest, and you have a superiority complex. You are all wrapped up in the identity of your child's school. BTW my kids ARE in public. I do pay full fare, but it is a stretch. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.03.13, 02:39 AM Flag
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You pay full fare for public? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.03.13, 02:44 AM Flag
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If you represent the parent body at TTs in NYC, then you have more than proven my point! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.03.13, 02:50 AM Flag
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aren't the kids at the G&T options smarter than the kids in privates? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.03.13, 02:22 AM Flag
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Not all privates, but some. The kids at g&t are probably equivalent to some top privates in LS. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.03.13, 02:23 AM Flag
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but there's no way that the kids at privates are as smart as the kids in the selective public HS, right? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.03.13, 02:38 AM Flag
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Not really, because they've all been prepped, which means, they have seen the questions in advance. No value to G & T any more. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.03.13, 02:40 AM Flag
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but there's has been no value to the ERB either (private nurseries even prep for this) and it's easier. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.03.13, 02:38 AM Flag
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It's not easier, just different. Yes, no value to that either. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.03.13, 02:50 AM Flag
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So only capitalist thieves deserve private schools in NYC? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.03.13, 02:00 AM Flag
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That makes no sense. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.03.13, 01:56 AM Flag
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Who the fuck do you think is PAYING for these privates schools to keep the lights on? Not Occupy Wall Street. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.03.13, 02:03 AM Flag
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They ARE the reasons why tuitions have skyrocketed. They need to overpay schools to find an educational option for their less than stellar, mediocre, learning /emotionally disabled kids [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.03.13, 02:12 AM Flag
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Trust me, "less than stellar, mediocre, learning/emotionally disable kids" do not get into top NYC private schools and if they do then they are counseled out. You are clearly very jealous. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.03.13, 02:08 AM Flag
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This. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.03.13, 02:08 AM Flag
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No, honey, you are CLEARLY in lala land. I am in the field of education and I have taught learning disabled kids who have come from these supposedly TT NYC schools. In fact, they have even graduated from them! So no, they don't all get counseled out. The same networks that got them into K-12 schools get them into colleges. That's the sad truth about private education, but I still believe that it beats the public system even though it's not worth the $$ [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.03.13, 02:18 AM Flag
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np- You have no idea what you're talking about. Do you honestly believe that the 40% of graduates from HM who went to ivy/MIT/Stanford only got in, because they were connected? What about the 36% from Brearley? No these kids worked extremely hard, the few with learning disabilities worked even harder, these kids have to have stellar grades, ECs, and essays to get into these schools connected or not. Does being connected help them? A little, but not as much as you think. The percentage of children that go to the same ivy as their mom/dad went to is very small as well, most get into a different one on their own merit. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.03.13, 02:17 AM Flag
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I don't but you do?? RIGHT! Yes, the majority of the IVY league kids at these schools are legacies. Also, there parents give $$ to their alma mater. They have friends/business colleagues on boards of these universities, faculty, etc. In short, yes, majority are a part of a network. That is why people for the high private school tuitions. The ones who get into HYP ARE smart for the most part, but also very well connected. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.03.13, 02:43 AM Flag
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A friend who is a board member is not a legitimate connection whatsoever. The only legitimate connection is if at least one of your parents is an alum of the college and even that doesn't help much. Many apply to the college that their parent went to, but end up choosing another ivy. Trust me, if they weren't very smart, they wouldn't make it through these high schools. They are beyond rigorous and it takes a special kind of child to thrive in this environment. Many would crack under the pressure or not be able to reach the expectations and make good grades. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.03.13, 02:49 AM Flag
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With all due respect, the privates expand their classes in high school and really recruit the topnotch students, which are infrequently those admitted in K. And in fact many kids to crack under the pressure. Just think back to that Dalton student. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.03.13, 02:57 AM Flag
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That's not what happened. If you want to cite the Dalton student, you really should go back and read up on him. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.03.13, 12:21 PM Flag
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yes but 60 per cent of the kids at Horace mann did not. They take the smartest kids to begin with so of course they go to good colleges. Stuyvesant is free and they probably get as many into top colleges - if not it is because their parents can't give as much. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.03.13, 02:45 AM Flag
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it doesn't beat the best publics at all imho. wonder what do you think that determines which kid gets counseled out and who doesn't? is it behavior? is it parental involvement? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.03.13, 02:36 AM Flag
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OR- Usually TT schools council out in MS kids who make less than stellar grades so that they don't mess up their college matriculation stats. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.03.13, 02:32 AM Flag
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thanks! what's "less than stellar"? bet these privates engage in grade inflation as do the ivy-leagues, everybody is a straight A and those with Bs are in trouble? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.03.13, 02:39 AM Flag
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This is so far from the truth. Those kids are given up to five ours of homework regularly, per night. They must be very smart, motivated, and hard working to obtain As, very very few are straight A students- it's nearly unheard of, maybe a couple per grade. The ones with As and Bs are fine. The ones with low Bs and Cs are not. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.03.13, 02:54 AM Flag
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great to know! now, 5 hours sounds a little excessive, doesn't it? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.03.13, 03:09 AM Flag
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yes and it is easy for a kid to get in from public school in middle school if they have good grades and test scores. My DD got into all the Hill schools at that time - they want kids who will go to good colleges. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.03.13, 02:52 AM Flag
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* counsel * [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.03.13, 02:57 AM Flag
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think that the truth is that those with FA get into the best schools, that's part of why these schools provide more FA during HS than from kinder. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.03.13, 02:37 AM Flag
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+10000000 [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.04.13, 02:25 AM Flag
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Move to a nearby suburb and they will be normal and happy and get into the same college they would have anyway. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.03.13, 02:42 AM Flag
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Warning. Paying for private school in NYC when you honestly cannot afford it, can make you very resentful of the City and your situation. It could possibly turn you into a bigot, when you realize a larger percentage of your HHI pays into a public school system that your family is not using. If you are moving into the city, the best thing to do is to move into the best public school zone you can, and then GO PUBLIC. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.03.13, 02:27 AM Flag
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Except the even the best public school zones also SUCK. So you'll end up being resentful either way and wondering why you didn't go into a career for pricks instead of the low-paying profession you chose for yourself. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.03.13, 02:41 AM Flag
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PS 9, PS 6 don't suck, get a life! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.03.13, 02:40 AM Flag
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OR: ITA! and the parents at those schools can actually afford college and retirement someday. GO PUBLIC! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.03.13, 02:44 AM Flag
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INDEED! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.03.13, 02:50 AM Flag
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GO PUBLIC and let your kid spend the best hours of their day in a dingy establishment, using dirty bathrooms, mediocre teachers, resources, etc. etc. What a great parent you are. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.03.13, 02:59 AM Flag
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really? Dalton's LS seemed totally claustrophobic to me. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.03.13, 03:04 AM Flag
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PS 6 has huge lice and bullying issues as well as many others. Don't know about PS 9 [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.03.13, 02:58 AM Flag
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And pvt schools never have lice? It runs through all schools. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.03.13, 02:58 AM Flag
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the bullying is a huge concern for me. i want a school where those without good behavior can be kicked out. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.03.13, 03:04 AM Flag
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For us, bullying ceased being an issue when we left private for public. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.03.13, 12:45 PM Flag
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PS 9 is great. Lice are everywhere, so that's a bizarre thing to complain about. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.03.13, 03:30 PM Flag
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NP the difference is the DOE does not let you send kids home with nits, they need live bugs, so the public schools tend to be infested. the private schools find a nit and that kid is sent home until they are clear. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.03.13, 10:23 PM Flag
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General Topics 06.03.13, 02:46 AM Flag
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Primarily because real estate is expensive, insurance is high and they have to pay teachers a living wage...and we haven't even begun on facilities. We had ordinary jobs and we managed. Depends on your priorities. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.03.13, 03:00 AM Flag
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What was your HHI and what do you mean by manage? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.03.13, 03:18 AM Flag
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HHI of less than 180k. We did not get financial aid. Basically, we lived on about 145k. No debt, low housing costs, not an flash life style but one nice vacation a year, a car - it wasn't that horrid. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.03.13, 03:16 AM Flag
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I guess 180k was after tax... Otherwise tuition would have been 80k to account for taxes... [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.03.13, 03:29 AM Flag
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Nope - pre-tax but we don't pay that much in tax. Lots of deductions. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.03.13, 12:36 PM Flag
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If you could afford to send DC to private where would you send them? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.03.13, 03:09 AM Flag
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Question is what afford means to everybody? We will try to make it with 2dds second one starting k this year but hhi is 650k, no help, no summer home, rental some savings looking to buy in Harlem or Brooklyn to afford... Hard to justify but hope it will be for the best.. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.03.13, 03:13 AM Flag
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That's not what I asked. If you think that Anderson/LL/Nest aren't good schools, which private do you wish to send DC to? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.03.13, 03:15 AM Flag
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I think Anderson lower lab nest are fine but good luck getting a spot [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.03.13, 03:17 AM Flag
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That's not what you said above? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.03.13, 03:18 AM Flag
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Where would you send DC given the choice of private? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.03.13, 03:18 AM Flag
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To nest Anderson or lower lab of I could get in... [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.03.13, 03:13 AM Flag
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Above you said that there was nothing great about these schools. You said you wished private was cheaper so you could send your DC to private... WTH? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.03.13, 03:22 AM Flag
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Which school are your DC currently in? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.03.13, 03:19 AM Flag
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You said above your DC are in public... [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.03.13, 03:19 AM Flag
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Manhattan Rents [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.03.13, 04:41 AM Flag
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Because NYC has more than enough people who can afford it. Supply and demand. And if a school has lower tuition than the others, guaranteed prospective parents see it as somehow inferior. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.03.13, 02:55 PM Flag
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Because nyers are the only idiots willing to spend that much on a school. Schools will continue increasing their tuition until the majority of parents can no longer pay. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.03.13, 08:00 PM Flag
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And that's the answer. Pure supply and demand. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.03.13, 08:00 PM Flag
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My dream is for one year, not one single parent sends in their deposit for any school. Then they'd be forced to lower the tuition. It's seriously out of control considering 90%, if not more, won't get into HYP. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.03.13, 08:24 PM Flag
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And yet most of that 90% will lead happy, productive lives with degrees for other excellent school. Amazing, isn't it? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.03.13, 11:28 PM Flag
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Productive, yes. Happy? Well judging by UB, I'd say no... [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.04.13, 02:20 AM Flag
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thank u! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.04.13, 02:28 AM Flag
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I feel positioned to see the pros and cons of NYC publics and privates and charter schools. Kids go to private and I rise money for charter and public schools. There are some rational intelligent responders here. And I wish I could highlight them in bold and flag the ones the responders who are simply citing incorrect facts or propagating stereotypes, Ladies who know what you're talking about, you know who you are. The other frauds may not be aware ofthe damage their misinformation is causing [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.03.13, 11:02 PM Flag
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^^my kids attend private and I raise money , excuse typos [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.03.13, 11:03 PM Flag
[ - ] Any law moms on? My husband and I want to separate but I can't afford right now (I'm unemployed) to live on my own. Do we have to live separately or can we work something out in the separation agreement? 5 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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New York City 06.02.13, 11:43 PM Flag
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Not a lawyer, but I think you can live together or separately, if you both agree. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.02.13, 11:46 PM Flag
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I have been living with ex and our kids for 7 years. Separate bedrooms. I have brought boyfriends home. Works great for us. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.02.13, 11:53 PM Flag
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That's odd. Does he bring girlfriends home too? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.03.13, 01:56 AM Flag
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Do you have children? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.03.13, 12:00 AM Flag
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Yes. One DS. Special needs. I do plan on moving out, I just can't right now. But we need to get this moving along. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.03.13, 02:00 AM Flag
[ - ] Okay, moms of boys age 7-10. What are your rules, vs. school requirements that you enforce for reading etc vs. computer screen based games? And will they change over the summer? For example, if your dc's 3rd grade class requires 30 min reading a night, and you enforce this, please list this for it certainly counts as reading even though it's not your own thing. Me, I've lost control - I don't enforce for the 30 min rule from his 2nd grade class - no classroom journal requirement I blame - but it's my fault. Need to get back on track, and want advice on wise rules for summer. TIA! 19 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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New York City 06.02.13, 03:00 PM Flag
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2nd grader here, he likes books. We have to threaten to take them away when he tries to stay up late and read them. We do let him get up early and read for 30 mins. We have no set time a day but he does read for about 45 mins a night. For summer, his school requires they read 5 books, so we will have him budget the time for it. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.02.13, 03:13 PM Flag
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This summer I am having my kids read at least 30 minutes a day during the week. I'm more lax on computer/tv/ds time in the summer but the kids are in camp and do other activities in the city. I would like to incorporate some math activities also. These are my goals. Who knows if they will be accomplished. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.02.13, 03:10 PM Flag
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First let me say forced reading is incredibly ignorant - I never made child do that assigned stuff from school. When dc was in K - (and couldn't read), I filled out form any which way. Reading is a joy and a pleasure - and putting on a timer every day and forcing a child to make it part of homework is extremely short sighted. My child is a dedicated reader now. In K,1, 2, 3 we would all read together - 4th/5th dc will go read on own. He likes xbox and will play on weekends or after homework is done before supper. I don't time it. In summer we don't have tv so it's not an issue. I don't do any academic work over summer with dc and never will. Doesn't mean we don't engage in intellectual pursuits. Summer is our freedom from homework/schoolwork. We love the Lazy, Crazy, Hazy days of summer. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.02.13, 03:11 PM Flag
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You are so wrong and research proves it. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.02.13, 03:31 PM Flag
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lol - high teach. links please. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.02.13, 03:36 PM Flag
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auto correct - hi [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.02.13, 03:36 PM Flag
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Google it. Page 90 of "the read aloud handbook" about requiring children to read. Sonya Carson, Ben Carson's mom required him to read 2 books a week, Michael DeBakey's mom required him to read a book a week. Stephen Krashen has research on it, the national reading panel, the journal of Reading, etc. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.02.13, 03:50 PM Flag
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oh for the love of God... [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.02.13, 03:53 PM Flag
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NP you have to be careful with this research proves it thing. The study you are most likely referring to showed an advantage to lower socio economic children. Children of middle class and upper middle class live lives where academic work over summer is not necessary. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.02.13, 03:39 PM Flag
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I just meant about her first sentence, not about summer, kids do need to read on their own over the summer though. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.02.13, 03:50 PM Flag
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So, according to you (not studies) - not a single child whose parents never forced them to read grew up to be an avid reader? Really? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.02.13, 03:55 PM Flag
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I'm not talking about my opinion. I'm talking about the research that Lucy calkins or Jane Healy or Jim trelease have done. Yes there are kids who do not have to be forced to read. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.02.13, 04:01 PM Flag
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and that research will say SOME, not ALL. Carry on [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.02.13, 10:36 PM Flag
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NNP: My thoughts on making children do homework over the summer vacation - parents are afraid that everyone else is doing it and if they don't their children will be "behind". Teachers love parents doing the work for them and suggest it. All children are different. Some like workbooks and think they are fun (although I'm not sure a child would choose a workbook over swimming, sprinklers, a game of tag, hide and seek, etc). Do what makes you and your child feel right. If it's a terrible battle - then don't do it. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.02.13, 03:46 PM Flag
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I've never given my kids a workbook, but OR saying forced reading is ignorant is unfounded in educational research. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.02.13, 04:03 PM Flag
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nr: I've never forced my kids to read and they are avid bookworms. When they were first learning we built in formal practice time to get over the hump, but since then we've just let them see how much we enjoy reading and made the time and material available. In my experience, setting up formal rules about reading instantly defines it as a chore and no fun. Sometimes you have to do that, but if you want to avoid battles and create a lasting habit, it's better if you can find a way to get them self-motivated - i.e., brush your teeth b/c cavities stink, not b/c I told you so. Read b/c it's fun and expands your world, not b/c the school says you have to. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.02.13, 08:07 PM Flag
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this [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.02.13, 10:37 PM Flag
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There's forcing and there is making time. We "force" our children to shower, eat, go to bed. Just like there is dinner time and bedtime, there can be reading time. What makes it more legit is if you sit down and read with your child. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.02.13, 05:01 PM Flag
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our rules at home have always been that he reads a book to me and i read a book to him. screen time (instituted in 1st grade, before that, nothing) is one night a week "movie night" and "computer morning" on saturdays. the rules are the same in and out of the school year. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.02.13, 03:24 PM Flag
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New York City 06.01.13, 01:24 AM Flag
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I am looking for photographs documenting the several stages of my pregnancy - is there a package for that? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.01.13, 01:32 AM Flag
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General Topics 06.01.13, 01:42 AM Flag
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Oh, boy. Hope you're wearing your asbestos suit. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.01.13, 01:26 AM Flag
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You have just awoken the devil. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.01.13, 01:32 AM Flag
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lol [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.01.13, 01:44 AM Flag
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General Topics 06.01.13, 01:26 AM Flag
[ - ] In Manhattan I need to separate from my husband. I don't know my options, do I have to may for the consult with the matrimonial lawyer? Who has used a good one? 7 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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New York City 05.31.13, 10:04 PM Flag
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I used a bad one, does that count? ;P [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.31.13, 10:06 PM Flag
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Was he raped by a black man who had given him HIV? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.31.13, 10:07 PM Flag
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OP: I'm just not sure if it's normal to interview and meet with people before you retain them, or if I have to pay for each of these consults. Should be a fairly easy case -- we only have one kid -- but I would like to know what people do in erms of picking a lawyer. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.31.13, 10:17 PM Flag
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lawyer can't charge you for time until you have signed a retainer agreement and he has done a search to establish that he can represent you without any conflicts. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.31.13, 10:24 PM Flag
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OP: Thanks! Silly question, how much is a typical retainer in NYC? I don't have a lot of money but this separation needs to be done. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.31.13, 10:29 PM Flag
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Don't know the rule, but its related to how much work (in hours) lawyer thinks project might be * the hourly rate. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.31.13, 10:25 PM Flag
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Yes, ask around and get several recommendations. After which, interview all of them and see what they have to say. Matrimonial lawyers can be notoriously slow to settle so makecsurebyou get someone youbare really comfortable with. . [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.31.13, 11:56 PM Flag
[ - ] Where can I find tshirts with capes for my toddler? I have seen them in the past on kids in the kids but cant find any in the typical kids stores.TIA 7 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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New York City 05.31.13, 09:46 PM Flag
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Target has them. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.31.13, 09:48 PM Flag
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Just make one! You'll have to cut up another t-shirt, though, preferably red or blue, and sew it onto the shoulders of your primary t-shirt. Maybe cut up one of DH's t-shirts. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.31.13, 09:50 PM Flag
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GAP Kids had Superman, Batman and Spiderman at one point (last year?) - maybe they still do. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.31.13, 09:54 PM Flag
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Yes they did! They were super cute. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.31.13, 10:22 PM Flag
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My MIL bought one for our son; not sure where she got it, but I am assuming Macy's. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.31.13, 11:46 PM Flag
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Here's a cute way to make them: http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=5h2WI9Jn9PA [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.01.13, 12:07 AM Flag
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This is an idea for later - go shopping the week after Halloween. Buy scads of costumes at 75%-90% off. Some items are good for daily wear (ex: socks with capes) and the rest are great for the dress-up box. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.01.13, 12:11 AM Flag
[ - ] I have been unemployed for over a year. I keep getting the "You're so senior, so over qualified" line, when all I want to do is *work*. I would take a junior position if it meant money. I am 34 years old, a writer/journalist/content producer. No one ever gets back to me. I think I becoming depressed. 7 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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New York City 05.31.13, 08:40 PM Flag
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You need to freelance. Are you writing and submitting? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.31.13, 08:52 PM Flag
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keep submitting to magazines/blogs/whatever, you need to get your name out there and keep the bylines coming to be taken seriously. Clearly you have aged out of junior positions. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.31.13, 08:53 PM Flag
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IME "too senior"/overqualified means either a) you have not gone far enough for the time invested working/lack momentum or b) have an attitude that somehow conveys entitlement/aloofness or c) person you would be working for does not feel comfortable supervising you (possibly because they are younger and more accomplished or threatened by your proximity in age). [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.31.13, 08:55 PM Flag
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jobs for writers have gone away. I suggest you get in to another field - learn retail or restaurant - something. writing gigs are gone [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.31.13, 08:56 PM Flag
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employed writing gigs are gone. freelance/independent contractors are more needed than ever. OP, come up with a book or column proposal. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.31.13, 08:58 PM Flag
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Look for corporate work rather than traditional editorial, signed ex-journalist now busy freelancer. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.31.13, 09:13 PM Flag
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maybe you can switch to PR or advertising [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.31.13, 11:12 PM Flag
[ - ] I really want to ride one of those Citibikes home - there's a docking station right outside my office and one a block away from my apt. It seems like it would be such a nice break from the subway. Anyone try it yet? (And yes, I know about the accident in the West Village.) 15 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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New York City 05.31.13, 07:42 PM Flag
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I didn't. What happened in the WV? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.31.13, 07:46 PM Flag
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Citibike rider got hit by an SUV, landed on hood of the car. He's ok [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.31.13, 07:47 PM Flag
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so lucky he landed on the hood. Most people hit by SUVs end up getting run over by them and end up under the car with crushed body parts and organs. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.31.13, 08:13 PM Flag
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NP. Clearly, a defect with the bike... [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.31.13, 08:11 PM Flag
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Np: this accident had nothing to do with citibikes but these freakin riders are just a pain in the ass. They don't stay in lanes and don't follow the rules of the road [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.31.13, 08:19 PM Flag
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I was just out in CA last week and there were a ton of bicyclists but they all followed the rules of the road. I remember thinking no one in NYC ever does this. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.31.13, 08:14 PM Flag
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No, even in CA not all follow the rules of the road. Some are assholes. But you can still kill someone with your car, even if they are an asshole, and even if it is their fault, so drivers should always yield and be on the watch for cyclists (and pedestrians) [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.31.13, 08:26 PM Flag
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np. This cyclist ran a red light at Houston St! Talk about stupid. I wonder if he was wearing a helmet. The fact that he's alive probably means he was, but I see so many people on the bikes without helmets. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.31.13, 08:49 PM Flag
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You can't use it until next week unless you buy the annual pass online. The credit card readers at the stations don't work yet, which you need to buy the daily or weekly passes. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.31.13, 07:58 PM Flag
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What about helmets? They don't offer helmets. Byoh? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.31.13, 07:56 PM Flag
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Would you REALLY want to wear a communal helmet? Hello lice. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.31.13, 08:04 PM Flag
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oh good point. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.31.13, 08:00 PM Flag
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NFW - that is nasty [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.31.13, 08:13 PM Flag
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NFW - that is nasty [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.31.13, 08:13 PM Flag
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Right? And if there's not lice, there's sweat. Gross, gross, gross. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.31.13, 08:31 PM Flag
[ - ] reading the comments and seeing the photos that SIL posts on FB, I have to wonder when your spouse is bad for your career. my brother is conservative and very career driven. SIL on the other hand dresses like a wanna-be sorority girl and there is not a pic without a drink in her hand. 12 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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New York City 05.31.13, 07:28 PM Flag
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she might actually be quite popular with his coworkers [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.31.13, 07:23 PM Flag
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This. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.31.13, 07:24 PM Flag
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this! some people from the south dig this for some reason. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.31.13, 07:25 PM Flag
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In the south if your wife is pretty and can drink without getting sloppy, she is considered a prize catch. Maybe they think your SIL is hot and fun to hang out with. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.31.13, 07:32 PM Flag
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Do you generally dislike her? This sounds like something that wouldn't bother someone unless you didn't like her to start. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.31.13, 07:24 PM Flag
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This [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.31.13, 07:32 PM Flag
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So she's fun. People like fun. You should try to have some. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.31.13, 07:26 PM Flag
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+1 [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.31.13, 07:29 PM Flag
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+2 [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.31.13, 08:42 PM Flag
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She is probably good for his career it's always good to have fun spouse to lighten things up a bit. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.31.13, 07:29 PM Flag
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When you say sorority girl, do you mean like stereotypical southern sorority girl who wears Lilly Pulitzer and drinks high-end liquor? Or do you mean like stereotypical trashy sorority girl who wears crop tops to show off her belly button piercing and drinks Natty Lite? Because the first could be good for his career (popular with co-workers, good at entertaining) and I guess I could see how the second would be bad. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.31.13, 07:29 PM Flag
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LOL [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.31.13, 07:37 PM Flag
[ - ] pathetic that finding a peanut butter granola bar in my desk is the most exciting thing that has happened to me all day. 8 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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New York City 05.31.13, 07:17 PM Flag
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Is there chocolate involved? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.31.13, 07:18 PM Flag
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OP there was! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.31.13, 07:19 PM Flag
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Give me minute to visualize... [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.31.13, 07:23 PM Flag
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At least you have a job and it's Friday. Win win. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.31.13, 07:18 PM Flag
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+1 [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.31.13, 08:47 PM Flag
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not exciting but could be worse. hopefully your weekend will be better. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.31.13, 07:13 PM Flag
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OMG I am jealous. Starving and pregnant here. Just ordered on seamless. Can't seem to get away from my desk thanks to pesky clients :( [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.31.13, 07:15 PM Flag
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That's funny and a little sad. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.31.13, 07:40 PM Flag
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