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Wow, do you want any part of your children's lives? And no fucking gum or saying "Yeah"? This has to be fake. AND they have to travel on holidays? Do they get any time off or do you just own them? [ Reply | More

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General Topics 06.19.13, 09:35 PM Flag

AHAHAHAHAHAHAHA. Are you the bitch with the nanny who hates and can't control your son? If so, THIS IS YOUR ANSWER FOR WHY SHE HATES YOUR FAMILY [ Reply | More

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General Topics 06.19.13, 09:36 PM Flag

"Recognizes teachable moments and implements them throughout the day". Teachable Moment #1: don't grow up to be assholes like your parents [ Reply | More

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General Topics 06.19.13, 09:36 PM Flag

Teachable moment #2 fingerprints is one word, don't misspell it like your mommy [ Reply | More

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General Topics 06.19.13, 09:43 PM Flag

This must be a joke. Can you imagagine this princess? [ Reply | More

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General Topics 06.19.13, 09:38 PM Flag

If JC also has a housekeeper and a personal assistant (and a dog walker), why does 2/3 of the nanny's job involve housekeeping and personal assisting? [ Reply | More

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General Topics 06.19.13, 09:37 PM Flag

Because the housekeeper and dog walker keep quitting. [ Reply | More

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General Topics 06.19.13, 09:45 PM Flag

There's probably another ad out there for housekeeper and dog walker. [ Reply | More

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General Topics 06.19.13, 10:31 PM Flag

Setting aside the insanity of the expectations, this is the most incoherent, rambling job description I have ever read. The woman is crazy, on drugs or both. [ Reply | More

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General Topics 06.19.13, 09:40 PM Flag

It is like the UES ADD version of that song from "Mary Poppins". [ Reply | More

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General Topics 06.19.13, 09:49 PM Flag

Hilarious [ Reply | More

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General Topics 06.19.13, 09:56 PM Flag

Hilarious [ Reply | More

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General Topics 06.19.13, 09:56 PM Flag

Sadly, I've seen many similar ads for nanny positions. Some people are nuts. There's one lady who pops back up on sittercity every few months, usually sooner. Her ads get crazier and crazier, she doesn't even post her first name, and she actually changed her screen name a few months back-- made me wonder if her first account got suspended (and that's unheard of!). [ Reply | More

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General Topics 06.19.13, 10:17 PM Flag

3-5 year commitment? Hell no. Actually with a 4 week commitment I'd say hell no. [ Reply | More

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General Topics 06.19.13, 09:58 PM Flag

Nanny here....sometimes I want to send comments like this to parents on sitter city. One mom was paying $300.week for 7am to 7pm. I pity the woman so desperate she had to take that job. [ Reply | More

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General Topics 06.19.13, 10:37 PM Flag

"We are private people"- but we look for our nanny on UrbanBaby. [ Reply | More

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General Topics 06.19.13, 10:41 PM Flag

I am a nanny with tattoos and piercings, should i apply for this job? [ Reply | More

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General Topics 06.19.13, 10:52 PM Flag

[ - ] Manhattan Moms- which do you think are the best NEIGHBORHOOD (easy walking distance) public schools in the city? We are happy for now with our choices downtown, but wondering if we were to move where we might find ones as top-notch as it gets w/o going private/City-wide. TIA. 12 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More

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New York City 06.19.13, 01:32 PM Flag

Everyone has an opinion...and I don't really think the BEST thing makes sense. Most of the district 2 schools are strong, lots on the UES but some people love PS 40, on 2nd Ave & 20th St. Dist 2 covers a big area. Why change if you like what you have now? [ Reply | More

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General Topics 06.19.13, 01:42 PM Flag

More space, better rents are really the only reason we are considering other places... [ Reply | More

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General Topics 06.19.13, 01:47 PM Flag

There are many good neighborhood public schools. None are more "top-notch" than any other. There are differences. I guarantee you that the top students from every public school (including some mediocre ones) get into the same great middle and high schools. Do parents in Chappaqua, Scarsdale, and other suburbs really obsess over which elementary school might be a little better than another. Nope. In fact, it is the high schools people care about, and that's how suburbs are judged. An elementary school in a suburb without a top high school, but actually be a wee bit better than one in the top high school's 'hood, but do you think parents fret about that? They don't. [ Reply | More

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General Topics 06.19.13, 01:38 PM Flag

OK, point taken. We are looking for more space, which is why we are considering it. I'd like for us to always be in walking distance. Same question- can you think of any middle or high schools in Manhattan that would be worth looking into? It's not that far off for us- we're just casting about right now though. [ Reply | More

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General Topics 06.19.13, 01:49 PM Flag

You will probably get the most for your money on the UES, east of 3rd or 2nd. Good schools up there too. [ Reply | More

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General Topics 06.19.13, 02:36 PM Flag

np: to a point, you're right, but people in those suburbs do absolutely pick their homes (when they can) to be zoned for specific elementary schools. [ Reply | More

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General Topics 06.19.13, 02:50 PM Flag

You're already there. 234, 276 and 89. Southern BPC is by far best neighborhood - right on water, often water views, loads of parks and playgrounds, 5-10 min walk using walking overpass across West to where 1/2/3 and 4/5/6 converge and are two blocks apart, next year will have even more access underground to Fulton Street when World Finance complex is finished and 276 has a middle school [ Reply | More

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General Topics 06.19.13, 01:42 PM Flag

Flood zone. [ Reply | More

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General Topics 06.19.13, 02:40 PM Flag

Well, as log as you don't buy there due to the land lease. [ Reply | More

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General Topics 06.19.13, 05:27 PM Flag

Land lease only impacts your common charges. There is zero chance the city of NY will revoke or not renew the land lease to BPC authority. It's 99 years for legal reasons - can't have a longer land lease. [ Reply | More

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General Topics 06.19.13, 06:17 PM Flag

Cobble Hill PS29 [ Reply | More

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General Topics 06.19.13, 02:41 PM Flag

ugh. all these areas with the "good" schools are so damn crowded. who can deal with this? [ Reply | More

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General Topics 06.19.13, 02:42 PM Flag

[ - ] Moving w/ in NYC. Any recommendations for moving company? What is the best source for chep boxes 1 Reply [ Reply | Watch | More

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New York City 06.19.13, 03:01 AM Flag

Moving Company: Moishes. We have used them three times and each time they had the lowest bid and were very reliable. Boxes: look on Craigslist, lots of time people will sell or give away moving boxes after they have moved. [ Reply | More

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General Topics 06.19.13, 01:11 PM Flag

[ - ] What are the pros & cons of living in the coops on grand st - seward park, hillman hous etc..? we have 2 little kids? Are these good options? 4 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More

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New York City 06.18.13, 11:45 PM Flag

No unless you are orthodox jews. Too remote [ Reply | More

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General Topics 06.18.13, 11:51 PM Flag

It is tempting because real estate is so cheap - for good reason. [ Reply | More

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General Topics 06.19.13, 12:18 AM Flag

Friends live there..not Jewish. They have a car and that helps. [ Reply | More

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General Topics 06.19.13, 12:20 AM Flag

Lots of great families. I live close, but not in the coops and I'm jealous of the gated grassy areas and playgrounds. Lots of development is going to start in the area: http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Seward_Park_Urban_Renewal_Area [ Reply | More

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General Topics 06.19.13, 12:54 AM Flag

[ - ] Anybody looking for an excellent Nanny? We are trying to help our Nanny find something 3-4 days a week since we will not be in NYC. She watches our 3 year old son and is truly a wonderful nanny who loves our son like her own. 7 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More

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New York City 06.18.13, 11:36 PM Flag

I don't want a nanny who loves my son like her own, I want one who appreciates that my son is far superior to her own and nurtures his gifts and dotes on him accordingly. [ Reply | More

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General Topics 06.18.13, 11:33 PM Flag

You are an idiot [ Reply | More

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General Topics 06.18.13, 11:36 PM Flag

I am an idiot savant. [ Reply | More

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General Topics 06.18.13, 11:46 PM Flag

You sound like a crazy person. It's an expression - i highly doubt he loves this woman's son like he was her own. DUH. [ Reply | More

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General Topics 06.18.13, 11:43 PM Flag

You have no sense of humor whatsoever. [ Reply | More

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General Topics 06.18.13, 11:46 PM Flag

+1 that OR was clever. [ Reply | More

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General Topics 06.19.13, 12:13 AM Flag

np: You're my favorite person ever! [ Reply | More

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General Topics 06.19.13, 12:02 AM Flag

[ - ] With all the HHI and NW flying around this board - I have a question. Do you ever consider moving out of the NYC area to a lower cost part of the country with good schools, better weather, low-key and low-cost lifestyle? One might not even need to work ever, living passively off investments and doing a little work to pay the real estate taxes. It just seems to obvious to me that 1mm or 5mm or whatever could go a long way in the rest of the country for an easier lifestyle where you get to spend time with your family and friends as opposed to trying to get a tiny bit ahead every day in the never-ending rat race? At what NW would you consider this option and where would you move? 34 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More

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New York City 06.18.13, 08:04 PM Flag

I wish [ Reply | More

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General Topics 06.18.13, 07:57 PM Flag

No, because I like NYC and I frankly can't complain much about it. [ Reply | More

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General Topics 06.18.13, 08:05 PM Flag

I have seriously considered this. The problem is that I do not want to live in places that meet those criteria and that my family and friends are not there. [ Reply | More

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General Topics 06.18.13, 07:59 PM Flag

+1 [ Reply | More

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General Topics 06.18.13, 08:19 PM Flag

no thanks. I would be bored. NYC is the greatest city in the world. [ Reply | More

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General Topics 06.18.13, 08:02 PM Flag

Yes! Totally agree [ Reply | More

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General Topics 06.18.13, 08:55 PM Flag

Go on Trulia. There are tons of custom-built houses on the market in such places where people like you have tried this and become bored out of their minds. I love NYC, I want the excitement, the social access, the fight. Love it. [ Reply | More

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General Topics 06.18.13, 08:16 PM Flag

x1000 [ Reply | More

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General Topics 06.18.13, 08:19 PM Flag

Please expand on "social access"? [ Reply | More

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General Topics 06.18.13, 08:28 PM Flag

I am actually moving from the burbs to the city because low-key and low-cost are overrated. [ Reply | More

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General Topics 06.18.13, 08:11 PM Flag

Many people can't take get similar jobs just anywhere. [ Reply | More

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General Topics 06.18.13, 08:21 PM Flag

OP mentioned not working at all, so no need for similar jobs. [ Reply | More

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General Topics 06.18.13, 08:31 PM Flag

Is it possible that some of you are drinking too much kool-aid? NYC is a great city, and the best in the world I agree. But nonetheless, it is a rat-race, all day. Its not the be-all and end-all of everything good in life. Surely, there are other places one could live as fulfilling a life and surely there are people who realize this and move away? I think CA and FL might offer something, but have not done the math, and have not really checked out cities, apts, schools, other costs in great detail.. [ Reply | More

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General Topics 06.18.13, 08:29 PM Flag

I didn't say it was the end-all, but it's where we want to live and we're happy here. Of course other places exist and other people prefer them. [ Reply | More

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General Topics 06.18.13, 08:34 PM Flag

Being close to family is priceless. A move to FL or CA is just not an option right now. [ Reply | More

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General Topics 06.18.13, 08:56 PM Flag

Your premise is somewhat faulty. Very rarely can you take the income with you. If you're at $1mm or under in NYC, the tradeoffs are likely worth it. 50% give or take income hit but good free school, better work/life balance etc. At the higher numbers, the jobs often just aren't there or aren't there in remotely the same numbers to even pay 50% of what someone makes in NYC. Then, the tradeoffs might not be worth it. [ Reply | More

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General Topics 06.18.13, 08:25 PM Flag

no honey, she means 1-5M in assets. not income. [ Reply | More

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General Topics 06.18.13, 08:50 PM Flag

You can't retire on that unless you're over 60 already and kids are done with school. She said HHI and NW so if that's all you have in NW, you can't sacrifice your income. [ Reply | More

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General Topics 06.18.13, 08:45 PM Flag

np: exactly. what OP is suggesting is, what if you saved rather than spent while earning a lot in NYC and then moved to the lower COL area and barely worked at all bc you could live off your unearned income. i do know people who live like this but it is rare. [ Reply | More

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General Topics 06.18.13, 08:47 PM Flag

BINGO! Somebody gets it! [ Reply | More

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General Topics 06.18.13, 08:48 PM Flag

So by saved do you mean skipped out on private schools and lived in Queens in a 2bed (where the schools are a big question mark)? There are some things that you just can't count on scrimping on. [ Reply | More

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General Topics 06.18.13, 08:52 PM Flag

by saving, i meant even before all that. actually, i think the problem we have, is that we don't think of any of this until we're married w kids in our mid-late 30s or older. but yet many successful NYC professionals were earning substantial salaries by their early 30s. but when you're childless and definitely when you're single, most people esp in NYC earning good money are spending the vast majority of it on a pretty darn nice lifestyle. then they're 35 and getting married and suddenly they also want a bigger apt, and then they have kids and need a nanny and then they have to pay for preschool and they are thinking more seriously about college and retirement suddenly the money doesn't stretch as far. the people i know who saved well and lived moderately before marriage and kids, are in very good positions today wo having to make a 7 figure income. [ Reply | More

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General Topics 06.18.13, 09:11 PM Flag

But still mid-high six figures? [ Reply | More

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General Topics 06.18.13, 09:13 PM Flag

How do you barely work at all on a NW of $1mm if you still need a house, send kids college and retire. I think it would be tough to do that on $5 if your kids are still school aged. [ Reply | More

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General Topics 06.18.13, 08:54 PM Flag

it really depends. we considered living in a small midwestern town where dh's family is. we could have gotten a lovely home for about $250K and quality public schools (nothing phenomenal, but good) and the income taxes, property taxes, etc. in that area are so low. everything is inexpensive - my ILs tennis club costs $200/year for the family for pretty much as much tennis as you can play both indoor and outdoor and includes ball machine use. kids activities all cost under $100. insurance is cheap - car and homeowners. gas is cheaper too. the only thing that stays roughly the same is groceries. if you'd be willing to consider public university (which is very good there), you barely have to save for college. it's a remarkably easy and inexpensive lifestyle. [ Reply | More

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General Topics 06.18.13, 09:21 PM Flag

Why didn't you? I'd have a hard time telling my kids that there only option for college was OSU (or whatever the big State U is in applicable state) or massive loans elsewhere, if I had been in a position to provide much more for them but chose not to. I'm not trying to bash on a particular state u because some are great but the limited worldview of growing up and then spending all of your college years in the same place is not something I want to choose for my DCs in advance. [ Reply | More

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General Topics 06.18.13, 09:35 PM Flag

^yes, I know, "their" [ Reply | More

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General Topics 06.18.13, 09:38 PM Flag

^yes, I know, "their" [ Reply | More

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General Topics 06.18.13, 09:38 PM Flag

The 1mm or 5mm was supposed to be NW not HHI. The premise was that at some NW you might be able to move elsewhere and not have to work or at least earn much money. [ Reply | More

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General Topics 06.18.13, 08:47 PM Flag

As a man and earner, the problem with leaving nyc is your earnings will plummet when that happens. Life in the city can be pretty fuckin amazing when you are pulling down big coin. Would you quit being a wide receiver for the Steelers due to the hours and stress? Most don't, and its the same with finance. You don't see a lot of people quitting at the top of their game. [ Reply | More

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General Topics 06.18.13, 08:37 PM Flag

I agree with that. If you are doing well, you might as well milk it. But there has to be some point, I think, where you've had your fill, you've had a good time, and you have more than enough to just call it quits and take it easy. I'm just wondering where that point is and how many people think about it. [ Reply | More

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General Topics 06.18.13, 08:45 PM Flag

You're not going to quit at the top of the game, like PP said. So, when kids are done with school? Maybe even college if you had your kids relatively young and you'll still be in early 50s when they all finish HS. [ Reply | More

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General Topics 06.18.13, 08:50 PM Flag

At $1mm or $5mm in NYC, I would be very very comfortable. That amount goes a long way here, too. It's not "retire early" money, but it's not a rough life. And I formerly lived in San Francisco during years when that was even crazier money-wise than New York. [ Reply | More

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General Topics 06.18.13, 08:32 PM Flag

The 1mm or 5mm was supposed to be NW not HHI [ Reply | More

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General Topics 06.18.13, 08:46 PM Flag

[ - ] Another HHI question: when is your income trajectory "set in stone"? DH makes about $50k doing back ofice work at a brokerage/bank and claims that he would have had to be luckier when he was young (maybe under 25) if he wanted to get on the six-figure ladder. He'll be turning 40 soon. He thinks he's earning a solid middle-class income but I'd like to see him move upward. Has that ship sailed? 28 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More

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New York City 06.18.13, 06:55 PM Flag

probably yes [ Reply | More

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General Topics 06.18.13, 06:57 PM Flag

He probably would have had to be smarter and luckier to get into even middle office, but many many back office people make a lot more than 50, he should start looking. [ Reply | More

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General Topics 06.18.13, 06:57 PM Flag

He says that there isn't much range in the BO (everyone is about 40-70k). He's been with the same company since graduating, and doesn't want to go back to the long hours of his first few years. I like having him home on time every day, I admit -- just the money could be better. [ Reply | More

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General Topics 06.18.13, 07:03 PM Flag

That's not true. He should look for another job if he wants to make more money. [ Reply | More

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General Topics 06.18.13, 07:06 PM Flag

Something's wrong with this picture, big time. [ Reply | More

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General Topics 06.18.13, 08:01 PM Flag

What's wrong? Enlighten us. [ Reply | More

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General Topics 06.18.13, 08:12 PM Flag

$50K in NYC is pretty low at 40yo. and i don't think career trajectory is set in stone in 20s. my DH's first job post college paid $9/hr (20 years ago) and it took him 14 years to crack 6 figures. but his income has quadrupled in the past 6 years. and this is all in the same field. there was a graduate degree obtained, but it was at about the 10 year mark. [ Reply | More

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General Topics 06.18.13, 06:53 PM Flag

OP: DH also got his master's at year 10! It was in an unrelated field, though, which doesn't pay well. [ Reply | More

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General Topics 06.18.13, 07:00 PM Flag

Do you work ? Does he like what he is doing ? [ Reply | More

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General Topics 06.18.13, 07:00 PM Flag

She has to. He only makes 50k!!! [ Reply | More

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General Topics 06.18.13, 07:01 PM Flag

I work PT. I only have a HS diploma, so no one is going to hire me in this economy! DH is the one with the degrees. [ Reply | More

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General Topics 06.19.13, 02:16 PM Flag

How lazy is he? [ Reply | More

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General Topics 06.18.13, 07:01 PM Flag

Depends on how you define 'lazy'. Straight out of school, he had to work 13-14 hours a day on top of an hour-plus commute, and was paid a pittance. I don't think he'll ever complain about anything ever again as long as he gets to sleep eight hours a day, which he couldn't do in the old days. He's home for dinner 90% of the time and occasionally has at most an hour or so of work-related phone calls or e-mail when at home. Is that lazy by today's standards? [ Reply | More

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General Topics 06.18.13, 08:21 PM Flag

School meaning college or high school? I think it's lazy if you're coasting at your job and never making an effort to think about advancement, so yes. Putting your head down and working like a dog while ignoring any smart way to move up is idiotic. [ Reply | More

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General Topics 06.18.13, 10:42 PM Flag

What type of back office work? [ Reply | More

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General Topics 06.18.13, 07:03 PM Flag

What kind of education does he have? It is never too late to change your career path if that is your true desire but it sounds like maybe your dh is content doing what he's doing. If he wanted to move up in banking, he would have sought out opportunities to do so - either through education, changing companies, etc. [ Reply | More

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General Topics 06.18.13, 06:57 PM Flag

At 40 not much you can do especially in finance and if he is happy that's good. You could move to a lower cost of living area where they do back office like Charlotte, NC. [ Reply | More

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General Topics 06.18.13, 06:57 PM Flag

That seems very low for any work at the bank. Is this in NYC? Can't be. He might be able to get paid slightly more if he moves but hard to get on a different track entirely. [ Reply | More

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General Topics 06.18.13, 07:06 PM Flag

New Jersey. [ Reply | More

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General Topics 06.18.13, 07:03 PM Flag

Seems very low for finance. I was making @70k in advertising at 27 [ Reply | More

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General Topics 06.18.13, 07:13 PM Flag

That is even low for back office work. What does he do and what is his educational background? One way to move up the income ladder from that sort of role is to move into IT and become a business analyst with a specialty in Operations. He doesn't sound like a go-getter, though, so he probably wouldn't do be up for it. Just a thought, anyway. [ Reply | More

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General Topics 06.18.13, 07:19 PM Flag

He processes data; makes invoices to send to other banks; translates material from another language that he speaks well; communicates with other firms in that country. Actually he's more in the mid-$50s now; they slashed some salary in 2009; I think he was around $60k then. He's good with computers and math but I don't think he knows how to program. Isn't IT flooded these days? [ Reply | More

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General Topics 06.18.13, 08:17 PM Flag

I did this in 1998 in nj for 36k. [ Reply | More

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General Topics 06.18.13, 10:37 PM Flag

So low 50s is about right considering inflation since then. [ Reply | More

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General Topics 06.19.13, 03:25 PM Flag

Yes. [ Reply | More

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General Topics 06.18.13, 10:48 PM Flag

OP again: talked with DH some last night. He doesn't want to leave his job because (1) he has great co-workers who respect what he does, (2) has a job where he can use his skills that are very rare (almost no Americans speak the languages he speaks) but aren't in much demand. As for salary he's happy with it because he compares it to what people earn in other countries that he might want to live in; a few years ago he had a chance to go work there but he would have been paid half what he earns now and I have to admit I said I didn't want to go. We would have lived well there but can save for the future better here. And I would have depended on him for basic stuff like just talking t neighbors. [ Reply | More

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General Topics 06.19.13, 02:29 PM Flag

comparing your salary in NYC with what you would make in a foreign (possibly 3rd world) country is really not a valid comparison. [ Reply | More

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General Topics 06.19.13, 02:40 PM Flag

I think he just values his stress-free job more than he wants to make more money. He said he would have to be "bowled over" to leave his company and his relationships and the stuff he has mastered behind. What's the biggest jump someone can make when changing jobs? [ Reply | More

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General Topics 06.19.13, 03:27 PM Flag

[ - ] Daycare between UES and Flatiron: (sorry for post bombing today, but a lot of shit to work out) are there any affordable daycares out there? Holy crap! Everything I look at is crazy expensive. What I would pay for afterschool care for DD#1 and then daycare for DD#2 would cost more than the nanny. Was hoping to have some options but so far only Vanderbilt YMCA, and I have no idea if there is a waiting list or not. 7 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More

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New York City 06.18.13, 03:22 PM Flag

With two I've found nanny to be cheaper, sorry. If money is an issue see if you can do a nanny share with a neighbor or classmate of DB #1. [ Reply | More

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General Topics 06.18.13, 03:35 PM Flag

Thanks for the suggestion! and for your honesty :) [ Reply | More

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General Topics 06.18.13, 03:41 PM Flag

np: this is why so many in NYC have nannies. daycare is far more reasonable in other places, whereas nannies cost the same almost everywhere. [ Reply | More

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General Topics 06.18.13, 03:57 PM Flag

this. [ Reply | More

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General Topics 06.18.13, 04:24 PM Flag

There is a preschool of america on 6th avenue-- no idea what their prices are. [ Reply | More

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General Topics 06.18.13, 03:48 PM Flag

op - thanks...will look into it [ Reply | More

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General Topics 06.18.13, 04:04 PM Flag

Also, Bellevue hospital has a daycare. I've toured it and it looked fine. Lots of young doctors at Bellevue send their kids there. Not sure if they accept out of the bellevue staff, but worth checking out as it could be affordable. [ Reply | More

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General Topics 06.18.13, 04:25 PM Flag

[ - ] I keep hearing people on UB talk about Anderson. What is all the fuss about? I'm sure it's a great school, and granted, I can understand that it is located in a place where many UES and UWS families would find easy to commute to, but I am confused by the hoopla - why would it be better than any city-wide? Many of the city-wide and district G&T schools are filled with 99s, too, so it's not like the classmates are 'smarter' in one place (if you believe that the score means that). And the curriculum is the same as other G&T programs ('enrichment and acceleration'). And I hear that there is a competitive community (tiger moms), though maybe this is just made up. And the building seems fine, but not new construction. I just don't get why everyone talks about it as being so great (after Hunter) for a public option. Teachers? Principal? Better curriculum (and if so, how?) Or does everyone who go there just drink the Kool Aid and the feeling of superior education becomes a self fulfilling prophecy? I don't get it. If you know why, please give me your thoughts. 8 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More

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New York City 06.18.13, 03:01 AM Flag

*grabs popcorn and sits patiently for the fireworks* [ Reply | More

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General Topics 06.18.13, 03:43 AM Flag

I don't think Hunter is all that, either. [ Reply | More

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General Topics 06.18.13, 03:54 AM Flag

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General Topics 06.18.13, 04:20 AM Flag

you nailed it on the head - it's all about geography. NEST is incredibly hard to commute to, TAG is in an "undesirable" neighborhood, and that just about exhausts the options. As competition for the location gets more and more pronounced, the quality of students increases. Just like with Stuy and Bx Sci - Stuyvesant is in a great location, BS is in nowhere, Bronx. Where would you rather go? [ Reply | More

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General Topics 06.18.13, 12:16 PM Flag

These kinds of responses just demonstrate how parochial you are. There are plenty of students who live on the UES for whom the commute to Stuy is definitely not in a great location and it is far easier to get to Bx Sci. You seem to be saying the quality of student at Anderson is higher. Lol! Only if by "higher" you mean there are far more children of crazy UES and UWS parents. For some people, that isn't a selling point. [ Reply | More

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General Topics 06.18.13, 02:21 PM Flag

I meant it as tongue in cheek, which doesn't translate well when typed. FWIW, DC chose Bx Sci over Stuy, and we turned down Anderson for him when we got a spot in 2001 because the commute from Queens would have been hell. Having said that, 17 years ago people weren't all that worked up about G&T and Anderson and all that. You could just go to your good old neighborhood school, get into a decent neighborhood middle, then to SHS or Townsend Harris and not get sucked into this admissions vortex because there wasn't any. I have a younger dd who is in elementary school and the environment is so much more charged and desperate now. We never entertained the thought of privates, and now all of a sudden we think that if we sacrifice big bucks, her life will be set for years of intellectual and financial satisfaction. It's all bullshit, of course, but it's an easy sell. [ Reply | More

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General Topics 06.18.13, 03:07 PM Flag

You can still do that. No one has to buy into all this craziness. Most of the students at the specialized high schools don't come from g&t programs -- they do often come from good middle schools but there are plenty of those, also filled with dcs who went to their gen ed publics. I will be very surprised if that changes. Because ultimately, the g&t programs aren't really going to make your bright kid any more advanced than the bright kid who is at the local gen ed. That is why there's so much tutoring going on at g&t programs, at so-called tt private schools, and so on. But the truly "gifted" kids, whether from a g&t program or a good neighborhood school, aren't being tutored. [ Reply | More

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General Topics 06.18.13, 03:22 PM Flag

That's because the people posting on UB are mainly Manhattan mothers and are obsessed with Hunter and Anderson. Anderson is no better than any other citywide, and some would say it has arguably worse facilities. If you were in Brownstone Brooklyn, with plenty of highly educated parents who don't post on UB as much, you would find very little interest in Anderson because it is simply too far. But those mothers don't post constantly about how BSI and NEST are just so much better than Anderson -- they just choose the more convenient school knowing there's no difference and also knowing that Anderson is definitely not worth an hour commute each way. [ Reply | More

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General Topics 06.18.13, 02:19 PM Flag

[ - ] why does anyone think a nanny resigns from her job after 3 years - burnout? shelf life? this one in particular claims she is going on to do something different and not another nanny job. my 3 kids are going to be so heartbroken. why is it so hard to believe her when she says shes not going to new nanny position? 22 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More

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New York City 06.18.13, 12:12 AM Flag

she doesn't like you. [ Reply | More

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General Topics 06.18.13, 12:08 AM Flag

B/c you see her only as a nanny. [ Reply | More

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General Topics 06.18.13, 12:15 AM Flag

np- a nanny is a nanny. [ Reply | More

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General Topics 06.18.13, 12:33 AM Flag

lol and yes you are right i only see her as that [ Reply | More

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General Topics 06.18.13, 12:10 AM Flag

It's not you, it's her. [ Reply | More

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General Topics 06.18.13, 12:17 AM Flag

What did you pay her for 3 kids? Maybe it's the $ [ Reply | More

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General Topics 06.18.13, 12:17 AM Flag

90,000 [ Reply | More

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General Topics 06.18.13, 12:18 AM Flag

Liar! [ Reply | More

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General Topics 06.18.13, 12:19 AM Flag

Get two nannies and a pt housekeeper insted then [ Reply | More

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General Topics 06.18.13, 12:33 AM Flag

she's going to a new nanny position [ Reply | More

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General Topics 06.18.13, 12:12 AM Flag

Who cares what your kids think. [ Reply | More

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General Topics 06.18.13, 12:19 AM Flag

Forget about her. Life goes on. [ Reply | More

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General Topics 06.18.13, 12:14 AM Flag

Burnout. Its a hard job. [ Reply | More

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General Topics 06.18.13, 12:24 AM Flag

How old are your kids? Have you had other nannies before this one? [ Reply | More

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General Topics 06.18.13, 12:25 AM Flag

I would love for my nanny to make this decision! [ Reply | More

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General Topics 06.18.13, 12:25 AM Flag

I'm sorry, OP. This is definitley difficult. Don't worry about why and instead focus on your kids being happy and finding them a wonderful new nanny. GL [ Reply | More

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General Topics 06.18.13, 12:25 AM Flag

How old is she? Maybe she does want to try something new [ Reply | More

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General Topics 06.18.13, 12:19 AM Flag

Ours did, because we couldn't afford to give her a raise. We were ok, with her leaving and still keep in touch. [ Reply | More

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General Topics 06.18.13, 12:26 AM Flag

I wouldn't put much thought into it. People leave for all sorts of reasons, and you'll never really know unless she tells you. So assume that she wants to do something else, and your kids will accept that explanation. GL! [ Reply | More

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General Topics 06.18.13, 12:27 AM Flag

Maybe she wants a one-kid deal. [ Reply | More

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General Topics 06.18.13, 12:28 AM Flag

God forbid she does not want to be a nanny for the rest of her life. You probably should have paid the slave master a little more. [ Reply | More

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General Topics 06.18.13, 12:40 AM Flag

http://abcnews.go.com/ABC_Univision/News/chilean-nanny-felicitas-del-carmen-villanueva-garnica-slave/story?id=19419931#.Ub-zM5w4wg0 [ Reply | More

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General Topics 06.18.13, 01:06 AM Flag

[ - ] Day 6 of DC fever and cough... half a dozen kids in his class have it too... poor thing... wondering if going around elsewhere in NYC. Pediatrician says nothing really to do, viral. 1 Reply [ Reply | Watch | More

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New York City 06.17.13, 05:34 PM Flag

Thanks for the heads up. Hope s/he feels better soon! [ Reply | More

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General Topics 06.17.13, 05:49 PM Flag

[ - ] My amazing nanny will be available soon. She's been with us for over 4 years and is a special part of our family. Loves my kids like they are her own. She also does much more around the house than just watch the two girls. Amazing with newborns, too. Trying to do anything to find her the right home. You don't want to miss out on this gem!!! Email me. nicolefeig@gmail.com 0 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More

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New York City 06.17.13, 02:42 PM Flag

[ - ] What are the best public middle schools? Trying to figure all this stuff out. Anderson any good? I know that the 1 - 5 is, but wondered about the 6 - 8. I am very new at this and don't even know where to start. TIA. 7 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More

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New York City 06.16.13, 03:24 AM Flag

Anderson has about 6 spots for 6th grade entry. Very hard to get. [ Reply | More

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General Topics 06.16.13, 03:25 AM Flag

6? I thought kids leave Anderson though, for other schools, no? 6 is a tiny number. Ugh. [ Reply | More

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General Topics 06.17.13, 03:13 AM Flag

np: several leave for 7th grade at Hunter. So there are a few seats available for 7th grade. [ Reply | More

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General Topics 06.17.13, 01:27 PM Flag

what district do you live in? [ Reply | More

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General Topics 06.17.13, 01:51 AM Flag

3, so in Anderson district. [ Reply | More

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General Topics 06.17.13, 03:13 AM Flag

delta. [ Reply | More

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General Topics 06.17.13, 12:04 PM Flag

Anderson middle school is academically challenging, if that is what you're looking for. Also, it is a citywide school, so the fact that you're in D3 does not give you priority over any other applicant. [ Reply | More

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General Topics 06.17.13, 01:26 PM Flag

[ - ] Camp moms: anyone have feedback on Camp Canadensis in the Poconos? I'm trying to find a traditional co-ed and/or brother-sister that has nice facilities but isn't crazy fancy/materialistic. Any feedback/suggestions would be so welcome. Open to NY/PA/MA. Also exploring Taconic. TY! (Sorry for the repost - didn't tag correctly!) 4 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More

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New York City 06.15.13, 08:03 PM Flag

My son is going back to Taconic for his sixth year. Good fun all around camp. Kids can find something they like sports, art, theater, water sports. Sign up for rookie day which is usually in July. Your child gets to spend a day at camp. [ Reply | More

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General Topics 06.15.13, 09:52 PM Flag

OP: thanks! Just seeing this. Great to know...I've heard good things about it. I thought I might want a bit more separation between boys and girls, but it seems like the kids and families are very down to earth, and that may be what wins out for me. Thanks again! [ Reply | More

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General Topics 06.16.13, 03:08 AM Flag

We liked Camp Cayuga. Traditional, not too fancy. Lots of outdoor activities. Both DD and DS went multiple years. [ Reply | More

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General Topics 06.15.13, 11:28 PM Flag

OP: thanks! Will google. [ Reply | More

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General Topics 06.16.13, 03:08 AM Flag

[ - ] anyone get their kid into a G&T school for 2nd grade? 4 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More

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New York City 06.15.13, 01:50 PM Flag

We did. Poster above. We are facing 1 hour commute to 165. I am not sure it worth it. [ Reply | More

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General Topics 06.15.13, 02:00 PM Flag

Totally worth it [ Reply | More

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General Topics 06.15.13, 02:10 PM Flag

it isnt [ Reply | More

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General Topics 06.15.13, 02:49 PM Flag

what's your alternative? that sounds awful. [ Reply | More

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General Topics 06.15.13, 03:15 PM Flag

[ - ] Any 97s get into PS11 or 33? 12 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More

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New York City 06.14.13, 10:33 PM Flag

not us. did any 98s? [ Reply | More

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General Topics 06.14.13, 10:58 PM Flag

Thought I read in a previous post someone got into 11 with a 98. Now I can't find. [ Reply | More

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General Topics 06.14.13, 11:30 PM Flag

I wonder if that's true,..because my DS had a 99 and we ranked 11 above where we ended up. [ Reply | More

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General Topics 06.14.13, 11:39 PM Flag

I think for now, only 99s got 11. Maybe in October this will be different [ Reply | More

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General Topics 06.14.13, 11:43 PM Flag

Where did you get placed? [ Reply | More

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General Topics 06.15.13, 12:20 AM Flag

198 [ Reply | More

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General Topics 06.15.13, 12:29 AM Flag

I think that person had one child with 99 who got in and another with 98 who got in via sib policy [ Reply | More

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General Topics 06.15.13, 02:18 AM Flag

yes and it was not for k. it was 1st and 3rd, me thinks [ Reply | More

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General Topics 06.15.13, 11:48 PM Flag

I know two people with 99s who did not get into either [ Reply | More

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General Topics 06.15.13, 12:41 AM Flag

I heard that 11 and 33 closed with 99's this year. [ Reply | More

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General Topics 06.15.13, 12:57 AM Flag

Jeez. Lucky for us ds score was changed to a 99. [ Reply | More

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General Topics 06.15.13, 02:07 AM Flag

some 99s did not even get those [ Reply | More

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General Topics 06.15.13, 10:26 PM Flag

[ - ] > I'm trying to decide between Cornell's 84th & Broadway practice with Hoffman, Sanford and Rossini or Westside Pediatrics at 91st & Columbus with DeMattia, Yaker, Goldberg, etc. Any thoughts on the practices or individual docs would be so appreciated! 2 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More

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New York City 06.14.13, 04:27 PM Flag

We are with Westside Pediatrics and LOVE them - all those docs are GREAT. but the other group is great too - Sanford used to be with Westside Peds. Go with the one closer to your home. [ Reply | More

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General Topics 06.14.13, 05:13 PM Flag

I love Sandford. Like seriously think she's fantastic. [ Reply | More

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General Topics 06.14.13, 05:14 PM Flag

[ - ] I want to treat my 5 year old to a mommy/daughter day out for her BDay and we were going to do manicures. Any recommnedations for a good salon for kids? I don't want to do a kid only place because we have done those before and they were a rip off for the service you go 17 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More

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New York City 06.14.13, 02:21 PM Flag

What a terrible idea. Teaching your kid that adults are there to provide personal services like manicures, is just gross. Adults should not be paid to service children. [ Reply | More

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General Topics 06.14.13, 02:30 PM Flag

You are ridiculous!! You never had a manicure before??? [ Reply | More

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General Topics 06.14.13, 02:27 PM Flag

she's talking about kids. [ Reply | More

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General Topics 06.14.13, 02:48 PM Flag

+1. I think it is fun, and doing it on her birthday shows her that it is something for special occasions. If mom starts taking 5 year old for weekly manicures, that is another story. [ Reply | More

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General Topics 06.14.13, 02:54 PM Flag

+1 but I think we are in the minority here [ Reply | More

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General Topics 06.14.13, 02:46 PM Flag

+2, just for the record [ Reply | More

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General Topics 06.14.13, 06:04 PM Flag

I was getting a pedicure once and a woman brought her son in and they both got one. He got his toes painted royal blue. Yes, gender equality and all that but found it bizarre. [ Reply | More

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General Topics 06.14.13, 03:10 PM Flag

LOL - what a stupid thing to say! So you shouldn't go to restaurants with kids either? Or to a barber? [ Reply | More

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General Topics 06.14.13, 03:53 PM Flag

Try $25 places on 6th ave near w4th subway. They are on the west side of the street (6th ave) [ Reply | More

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General Topics 06.14.13, 02:36 PM Flag

We like Dashing Diva. The salons are clean, the staff turn over (at least at the ones I go to) is very low which indicates they treat their staff well, and it's pretty in there. [ Reply | More

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General Topics 06.14.13, 02:49 PM Flag

I have never been to DD, but this is the first thought I had since it is bright and pink and pretty. A lot of other places are dingy and have an unappealing atmosphere. [ Reply | More

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General Topics 06.14.13, 02:55 PM Flag

+1 I have never been in there, but I pass it all the time. It's very pink and pretty, and I think a 5yo girl would love the atmosphere. [ Reply | More

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General Topics 06.14.13, 03:37 PM Flag

So cheesy [ Reply | More

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General Topics 06.14.13, 02:45 PM Flag

My mom does this occasionally with her granddaughters the same age, but she usually does pedicures (in the summer at least) because the polish lasts longer. [ Reply | More

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General Topics 06.14.13, 02:57 PM Flag

Your kid never gets a haircut? [ Reply | More

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General Topics 06.14.13, 03:34 PM Flag

^^^sorry, intended for the OR above [ Reply | More

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General Topics 06.14.13, 03:34 PM Flag

have lunch at alice's tea cup [ Reply | More

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General Topics 06.14.13, 06:07 PM Flag

[ - ] Saw a post about will below and realize we never discussed this and we have 2 small children. How do we go about having something created. We more want to be sure our kids are in the proper custody of family. 2 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More

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New York City 06.14.13, 02:20 PM Flag

you should consult a lawyer. however, in most cases your kids , even if you don't have a will, would go to a family member over strangers assuming basic fitness to parent. you may want to express a preference for a specific family member, of course. [ Reply | More

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General Topics 06.14.13, 02:38 PM Flag

Ask friends for recommendations for lawyers. Think about who your top few choices are to take kids in case something happens. Also think about what you want to happen to your money - split evenly between kids, have someone as a trustee until they get older, etc. [ Reply | More

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General Topics 06.14.13, 02:39 PM Flag