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[ - ] Any LAUSD mom's on? Have you signed your BIC (Breakfast In the Classroom) letter urging Deasy to vote "No" next week? I can't believe ANYONE would think mandatory breakfast in the classroom every morning is a good idea. 2 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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Los Angeles 05.10.13, 04:30 PM Flag
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Do they serve free breakfast in the cafeteria before school? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.10.13, 05:19 PM Flag
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no they want the teachers to serve breakfast in the classroom to all students. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.10.13, 08:38 PM Flag
[ - ] What is South Pasadena high school like? Strengths? Weaknesses? Anyone venture to compare it academically or socially to Polytechnic? 8 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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Los Angeles 05.08.13, 02:42 AM Flag
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It's way too far for us to travel, what with living in NYC. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.08.13, 02:46 AM Flag
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The Polytechnic School in Pasadena, not Poly Prep [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.08.13, 02:52 AM Flag
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oops. sorry [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.08.13, 03:32 AM Flag
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Weakness has been the majority of the math program, now being addressed with young new teachers and a fulltime mentor to coach these teachers. Strong Calculus, Chem, Physics, US Govt. new science labs to be added this summer. Unique Virtual Business program. English OK. Counselors are mostly complete morons. geesh. Lots of rah rah spirit, football, pep, tons of clubs. Water polo very popular. Don't know exact stats, but maybe half Asian ( lots of high achieving Koreans and Chinese.) Very high turnout for AP tests. Big orchestra. Some stoner/ skaters. Party culture. Nice clean campus, feels safe, cute town. Don't know much about Poly, sorry. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.08.13, 02:49 AM Flag
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Thanks, that's really helpful. Are the other alternatives in the Pasadena area? Magnet or Charters? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.08.13, 03:48 PM Flag
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My friends who live in Pasadena all go/went private as PUSD is unacceptable. My friends' kids went/go to Mayfield and Westridge (girls), St. Francis (boys), or Flintridge Prep (coed.). Don't know anyone who has had kids at Poly or any magnets /charters. People move to South Pasadena for the excellent, very small school district. Pasadena is a separate city/ district and people I know who live there have to add tuition to their budget. . Housing is pricy in SP, and über pricey in nearby San Marino and La Canada whose schools are ranked even higher than SP. I do know some families in SP who pay the high price for a home AND send kids to private. I think SPHS is a overall a fine school, even with the shortcomings I mentioned before. The town is charming, family oriented, lots of unique shops/restaurants, close to downtown LA, and has a light rail station. Visit on the 4th of July for a whole day of hometown fun! Hope that helps. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.08.13, 09:13 PM Flag
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Yes, much appreciated! Very interested in public school but the issue is certainly quality and the cost of housing in a very expensive area. Do people rent just to be in the SP district? Also seems odd that there seem to be no public high schools affiliated with all the universities in the region, like Cal Tech, USC, UCLA, etc. This is such a common model elsewhere. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.08.13, 09:51 PM Flag
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LACSA (Los Angeles County School of Arts) is extremely competitive, part of LAUSD, and located on the campus of CSULA. Art,music, drama.....it's an extraordinary school. My guess is that Poly must have at least some informal ties with Caltech since they are across the street from each other. South Pasadena has pockets of rental apartments (Raymond Hill, Huntington Dr) which are full of Asian families renting so their kids can attend SPUSD (where residency requirements are very strict. ) Many of these kids are here with moms only, or even guardians while dad is working in China or Korea. Arcadia Unified is also worth looking at. Very large, high performing Asian students at AHS. A step down from San Marino and La Canada, probably on par with SP. Must be careful what part of Arcadia you live in because I believe a tiny sliver of Arcadians must attend Duarte High School ( ugh.) [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.09.13, 03:29 AM Flag
[ - ] Filling out app for school in LA. DD has two middle names, one starts with an R, the other a C. When they ask for middle initial on the app, do I use both, R.C., just one, which one? I know, it doesn't really matter, but still wwyd? 3 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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Los Angeles 04.17.13, 08:33 PM Flag
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both, but many computer systems won't be set up for that [ Reply | More
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General Topics 04.17.13, 08:44 PM Flag
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I didn't think of that, see that's why stupid questions need to be asked sometimes. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 04.17.13, 08:42 PM Flag
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General Topics 04.18.13, 12:29 AM Flag
[ - ] LA school rant. Dh went to pick up the enrollment packet for our dd to start TK this year at our public school. The lady handing them out was telling everyone in line that their dc’s name needed to be on the lease to qualify for that school. WTF, who puts their kids name on a lease? It’s not as issue for us as our oldest is already enrolled so we get a preferred space, but still. Plus it looks like the kids will only get 10 weeks of summer again this year. 14 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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Los Angeles 04.16.13, 09:11 PM Flag
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And what if you own? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 04.16.13, 09:22 PM Flag
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We own, so I guess I'll find out when I get home and look over the packet myself. Am I supposed to have the kids names on the deed for f*cks sake! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 04.16.13, 09:20 PM Flag
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Never heard of having a kids name on a lease. Heard of school asking that parents name be on lease, or asking for utility bills and birth certificate. Idiot lady at school. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 04.16.13, 09:24 PM Flag
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The short summers kill me. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 04.16.13, 09:22 PM Flag
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Me too. I was pissed last year when they did it. They promised us this year would be "normal", but so far it looks like the start of 2013/2014 school year will be Aug 8th. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 04.16.13, 09:30 PM Flag
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Ridiculous. Especially when August is the hottest month of the year! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 04.16.13, 09:32 PM Flag
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Wow, why do they do that? Signed, NY mom [ Reply | More
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General Topics 04.16.13, 09:37 PM Flag
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Last year they told us it was due to budget cuts. But they passed a sales tax hike that was supposed to make up the education budget shortfall for this year. I do have the wrong start date though, it's actually the 12th. And pp was correct, Aug is hottest month of the year here. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 04.16.13, 09:52 PM Flag
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In LA, Sept. is hotter. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 04.16.13, 11:46 PM Flag
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when we rented the lease always had the names of who lived in the apartment; we always listed our kids [ Reply | More
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General Topics 04.16.13, 09:27 PM Flag
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I think they probably meant DC's last name. So, for example, if lease is in mom's name and she doesn't have same last name as DC it could be a problem. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 04.16.13, 09:23 PM Flag
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probably this. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 04.16.13, 09:30 PM Flag
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ignore it. not possible to require this. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 04.16.13, 09:30 PM Flag
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ignore this is just to scare off the cheaters [ Reply | More
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General Topics 04.16.13, 09:30 PM Flag
[ - ] What are the most rigorous LA-area high schools, public or private? Can you describe their reputations and strengths? 19 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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Los Angeles 04.01.13, 03:18 PM Flag
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Harvard Westlake, but I don't know a lot about it. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 04.01.13, 03:22 PM Flag
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The most challenging and rewarding high school in the area is whitney high in cerritos. A school where admission is free and based entirely on test scores. Whitney is the los angeles equivalent of hunter high or stuy. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 04.01.13, 03:25 PM Flag
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While Whitney high is truly the best school academically in los angeles, if your hhi is over 500k you are likely to want to live in one of the nice parts of los angeles... Malibu colony, manhattan beach sand section, etc. in the parts of los angeles where 500k plus people live you generally must go private for an academically rigorous school. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 04.01.13, 03:31 PM Flag
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Malibu High is a good school. I don't know how rigorous exactly. Also, Mira Costa in Manhattan Beach is good. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 04.05.13, 05:09 AM Flag
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Whitney has the same ethnic demographics as Stuy. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 04.01.13, 03:44 PM Flag
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Most definitely Whitney! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 04.01.13, 05:22 PM Flag
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Except you have to live in Artesia, Bellflower or Cerritos to go there. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 04.01.13, 07:07 PM Flag
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Harvard Westlake is the only one I've heard of on par with NYC private schools. No public schools are as rigorous as NYC specialized schools. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 04.01.13, 03:26 PM Flag
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I respectfully agree with you that harvard westlake is on par with trinity and dalton. Whitney in cerritos is on par with stuy and hunter [ Reply | More
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General Topics 04.01.13, 03:35 PM Flag
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Spoken like a true UB NYer! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 04.01.13, 03:31 PM Flag
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Pali charter [ Reply | More
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General Topics 04.01.13, 03:31 PM Flag
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I live bear pali charter and it is a warm community but it is no way on par with a hunter or stuy or dalton. Pali charter has no admission test. It takes any child that lives in its geographic area. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 04.01.13, 03:37 PM Flag
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Live near pali charter [ Reply | More
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General Topics 04.01.13, 03:37 PM Flag
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Polytechnic. It's Pasadena not LA, but I thought I'd throw it in here. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 04.01.13, 04:05 PM Flag
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The best public high schools are Whitney, San Marino, Arcadia, and La Canada. All of them have very high Asian populations...La Canada, not as much. For private, Harvard-Westlake and Polytechnic. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 04.01.13, 05:23 PM Flag
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Brentwood, not as hardcore as HW but probably #2 at least on the westside. Polytechnic in Pasadena. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 04.01.13, 06:58 PM Flag
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+1 to both. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 04.05.13, 05:09 AM Flag
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I'd also add Marlborough (girls private). Loyola (boys Jesuit) is supposed to be good too. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 04.05.13, 05:04 AM Flag
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and private boarding: Webb in Claremont, Thacher in Ojai. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 04.05.13, 05:10 AM Flag
[ - ] here's a "how-not-to-store-your-rectal-thermometer" story for the record books: http://theparenteer.com/babys-rectal-thermometer-nowhere-to-be-found-oh-wait/ 8 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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Los Angeles 03.12.13, 09:38 PM Flag
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is this supposed to be the onion for the UB set? Not one tenth as funny [ Reply | More
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General Topics 03.12.13, 09:40 PM Flag
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i totally disagree...it is absolutely hilarious you cow! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 03.13.13, 02:07 PM Flag
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Horrible Horrible Horrible. How dumb can you be, Howie?? Seriously, you guys should have started with a dog first and then progressed, if you could, to a baby. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 03.12.13, 10:11 PM Flag
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Fuck no- that is not fair to a poor dog. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 03.12.13, 10:30 PM Flag
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True, my mistake. Maybe a goldfish?? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 03.12.13, 10:42 PM Flag
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ugh [ Reply | More
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General Topics 03.13.13, 02:04 PM Flag
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ugh [ Reply | More
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General Topics 03.13.13, 02:04 PM Flag
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it was a joke darling.... [ Reply | More
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General Topics 03.13.13, 02:03 PM Flag
[ - ] Any LA moms on? How is the independent school process going for you? March 15 is almost here. 2 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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Los Angeles 02.18.13, 07:02 AM Flag
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we are thinking about moving there in a year or two. how awful is the process? compare to nyc if you can. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 02.18.13, 12:55 PM Flag
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can be stressful with all the open houses, interviews and assessments. Especially when applying for 2 children. I think if you apply to enough schools that you like, you can get in somewhere. Going through the process now. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 02.18.13, 07:04 PM Flag
[ - ] how do i respond to some one looking to hire me for freelance work. but want to keep other clients as well. 2 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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Los Angeles 09.14.12, 06:06 AM Flag
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Are you new to freelancing? Just wondering b/c most freelancers have multiple clients. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.14.12, 11:53 AM Flag
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I hire freelancers and i know they have other jobs, be sure you discuss if you have other clients, if this clients want exclusivity or non-compete in place so you don't have competing industry clients to them. and discuss % of your time allocation and the duration of the contract, as well as your availability - this will clear a lot of potential issues up right away [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.27.12, 06:28 PM Flag
[ - ] An exfriend was diagnosed with breast cancer. I sent a note and her husband says she feels bad about our friendship and she would get in touch but has not. should I reach out? 2 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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Los Angeles 09.14.12, 05:09 AM Flag
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Yes. Let them know you don't care about the past. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.14.12, 05:11 AM Flag
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Yes. Life's too short. reach out. even if she doesn't respond, You will have no regrets that you tried. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.27.12, 06:29 PM Flag
[ - ] Need to get out of private school contract! School starts Wednesay and we just got in to an excellent public with strong parent org. Don't mind paying half the year, but possible to get out of second payment due in 6 months? Erg!!! 12 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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Los Angeles 08.26.12, 05:21 PM Flag
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A contract is a contract. You signed it. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 08.26.12, 05:23 PM Flag
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Also wondering if any portion could be considered tax deduct.....thank you to the lawyer who chimed in....lol [ Reply | More
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General Topics 08.26.12, 05:26 PM Flag
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Read your reply. Ask yourself 'Why?'... [ Reply | More
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General Topics 08.26.12, 05:26 PM Flag
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Huh? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 08.26.12, 05:28 PM Flag
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just don't pay, let them take you to court. they will fill the spot and not be out any money - they will actually MAKE money because of your first payment. Ride it out [ Reply | More
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General Topics 08.26.12, 09:23 PM Flag
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Call the private ASAP in the am. If you're lucky, there may still be a viable and willing w/listed family. The schools have all dealt with this for years, now. Hope they'll ea$e up on you. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 08.26.12, 05:25 PM Flag
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That's what we're hoping...thx [ Reply | More
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General Topics 08.26.12, 05:29 PM Flag
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They won't - NYC private will come after you for the full contract value that you're legally obligated to pay. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 08.26.12, 06:25 PM Flag
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Rubbish. Most will work out a fair settlement. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 08.26.12, 08:01 PM Flag
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I did not have to pay (several years ago). [ Reply | More
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General Topics 08.26.12, 09:24 PM Flag
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You'll have to pay the whole thing even though they will immediately fill your slot [ Reply | More
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General Topics 08.26.12, 07:17 PM Flag
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We're in LA.....but I don't think it matters. It happens to be one of the lower cost private options (17k)... [ Reply | More
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General Topics 08.26.12, 08:56 PM Flag
[ - ] Hello everyone, I'm new on this website. I'm currently 20weeks pregnant and relocating from Brooklyn to Long Beach, CA in one week. Does anyone have recommendations for a good nearby hospital in Long Beach where I can give birth, with a good ob/gyn. Also where to sign up for birthing classes? No one I asked knows, including my doctors. Thanks so much for your help! 3 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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Los Angeles 07.18.12, 10:13 AM Flag
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I hope you get answers here, but i would also check babycenter. they have some pretty active forms and I've seen a lot of people on there from California (not sure what city though). GL! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.18.12, 10:16 AM Flag
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Thanks so much! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.18.12, 10:18 AM Flag
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http://www.memorialcare.org/medical_services/maternity-care/memorialcare-center-for-women.cfm this is one of the better hospitals in the country and long beach.. but long beach is biggg! so.. find out if you have multiples or high risk, you want an obgyn who operates at a hospital with the right trama level/ NICU if you need it. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.27.12, 06:36 PM Flag
[ - ] In nyc EVERYONE wears Lululelemon, is there anything cooler or newer to wear to the gym/yoga? 15 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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Los Angeles 05.13.12, 05:29 PM Flag
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I always wear and have worn Nike. MIL gets me Lululemon stuff which is nice quality but I don't understand why it's so $$$$ [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.13.12, 05:31 PM Flag
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Gotta love brand loyalty to a company that has no problem contracting work to sweatshops that employ small children. Nice. Because nothing says entitled American like threads lovingly stitched by small malnourished third world children. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.13.12, 05:37 PM Flag
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NP-Is there a brand that is better? TIA-just saw this cool quilt on PBS fri night made out of all labels of brands made in sweatshops. What can I buy? I feel helpless. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.13.12, 05:39 PM Flag
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Nnp: re clothing, I don't know. Well spent is a blog that highlights USA, European, Japanese made clothes for men. But many of the brands have women's lines. I would not ever buy or wear Nike, but I doubt many under 40 remember, let alone care about that scandal. I think of stand against Nike as sort of a last gasp before sweatshopping became, for a typical person, unavoidable. It's sentimental. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.13.12, 05:46 PM Flag
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oor: Gaiam, Patagonia, Asana green--all environmentally friendly with fair labor practices in place. Very few items are made in America anymore and no one is saying go insane over it but I refuse to financially support a company that is openly inactive about its labor practices and has had numerous child labor issues. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.13.12, 05:51 PM Flag
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Thank you-good place to start and I should try to research it. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.13.12, 06:07 PM Flag
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Is there a good website to figure out which companies have better labor practices? I should pay more attention to is. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.13.12, 07:30 PM Flag
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ok so any suggestions or are you Lululemon only? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.13.12, 05:42 PM Flag
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That's a good point. I own some Lululemon, but have boycotted Nike forever... thank you alerting me to LL's practices. I feel like a hypocrite. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.13.12, 06:17 PM Flag
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Cooler? I dunno, but I like the Lululemon running gear so much because of the way it fits, wears, etc. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.13.12, 05:31 PM Flag
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I do not wear it. I go to yoga in yoga pants from TJ maxx-no idea what brand and a t-shirt. or(gasp) SHORTS and a tank top. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.13.12, 05:31 PM Flag
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Ralph Laurens RLX brand is so much better IMO. I believe the ll quality has gone down hill. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.13.12, 05:52 PM Flag
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I wear old shirts and pants. I am not going to a fashion show I am going to sweat off the a bite of the 4 slices of pizza I had for dinner. I could care less if people don't like my "Sign up for Verizon" free t-shirt or my bleach stained sweat pants. I figure if they are noticing what I have on they aren't working out hard enough. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.13.12, 05:56 PM Flag
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sure, there are all kinds of ultra-soft tanks and leggings from tiny brands that are a lot edgier than lululemon. lululemon is kind of 40-ish moms attire. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.13.12, 06:00 PM Flag
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Athleta [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.13.12, 06:49 PM Flag
[ - ] Family relocating from New York. 5 year old daughter was accepted to Willows, Echo Horizon and Sierra Canyon. Our choice of school will also depend on where we end up living. Would love any and all thoughts, opinions, etc. 10 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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Los Angeles 03.27.12, 10:06 AM Flag
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Willows is excellent. I always love hearing about the different things the kids are doing there. Great reputation. We also have a lot of friends at Sierra Canyon who love it. Both are excellent schools but obviously in very different locations. What areas are you looking at? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 03.27.12, 10:23 AM Flag
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I love Calabasas. Definitely get the most for your money. My husband works in the valley. The commute wont be fun for him but, I hear the commute is bad wherever you live unless you live in that specific area or just surrounding. Regarding the West Side, if I had $5 million for a house, I would love Bel Air or parts of Westwood, Hancock Park. But, for $2 million, not much inventory on the West side. I really would like a neighborhood feel. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 03.27.12, 10:47 AM Flag
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Don't underestimate how much a bad commute can suck! Why on earth would you live on the westside if he works in the Valley? Go for Sierra Canyon and live in a big house in Chatsworth with an enormous backyard, pool, tennis court. Wouldn't bother with Calabasas. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 03.27.12, 11:22 AM Flag
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Well, if your husband is working in the valley go to Sierra Canyon. The valley is great for families. Calabasas is wonderful. Also, there are really nice parts of Encino, Tarzana, and Woodland Hills south of the blvd. Sierra Canyon is a great school. All the families we know who go there are very cool and relaxed. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 03.27.12, 11:31 AM Flag
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thank you for the feedback. I appreciate you posting... very good advice. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 03.30.12, 07:14 PM Flag
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They're all fine for elementary. Don't overthink this. Live where you want to live--don't let school determine where you live. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 03.27.12, 10:29 AM Flag
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I would go to Willows and live in Hancock Park or HP adjacent imho. You can get something for 2 million. The commute to the valley would be a reverse commute which makes it easier. Sorry, but I think Chatworth is way too far out. If I had to do valley I would opt for Sherman Oaks, Studio City or Encino. Depends on what part of the valley your DH work is. If you are used to a suburban experience or urban living will make a difference in where you want to be in LA. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 04.03.12, 12:22 AM Flag
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WIllows is the best of that bunch for elementary. We were there for nine years and loved every minute. Sierra Canyon is waaaaay out in the east valley. To get there from Calabasas is quite a hike. Depends on your work situation, but if you're working near to Los Angeles, the commute from that far out in the valley will get old very quickly. I agree with Hancock Park..fantastic family neighborhood, great central location. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 04.04.12, 03:03 PM Flag
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Until you live here, you don't realize how hateful commutes can be. If your husband works in the Valley, you should definitely go to Sierra Canyon and live in Sherman Oaks, Studio City or Encino. Though Willows is a good school, I know several families who have left. No school is perfect and I think you consider all parts of the equation. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.12.12, 07:54 AM Flag
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http://la.curbed.com/ this is a great site with the insiders peek into some of the LA neighborhoods. i love that it dishes on whats under development, what the city council issues are per area. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.27.12, 06:40 PM Flag
[ - ] Need some support tonight. I hurt the guy I love, deeply and permanently, because of a stupid mistake I made. I'm not able to forgive myself or move on from the remorse and guilt. He was "the one" for me. He's moved on and is dating again...still polite to me, but very distant. Watching him move on knowing I ruined our relationship, and holding this guilt inside, has been so painful for me that now I've developed an eating disorder. I don't sleep, I wake up depressed each morning, and I cry myself to sleep each night. I binge all day. My question for you all isn't so much as "how to get him back" but rather, how can I let go of the guilt that has ruined me inside? I'm not up for dating, and I'm barely up for socializing. I'm already in therapy. This is just too much for me to handle at the moment. Really need advice.. 10 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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Los Angeles 03.08.12, 10:19 PM Flag
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You say that you hurt him permanently but that he's moved on. Which is it? Also, have you made a fulsome apology? Finally, watch House of Games. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 03.08.12, 10:28 PM Flag
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OP: maybe I mean I've hurt him deeply, and ruined our relationship permanently. The damage I caused can't be repaired within the relationship. He seems able to move on despite his pain...yet because I'm the one who caused it, I can't. Yes, I've made the most sincere apologies I can. He's accepted them but just doesn't want anything with me [ Reply | More
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General Topics 03.08.12, 10:36 PM Flag
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I would not call this 'guilt.' Guilt is when you feel bad for hurting someone else. But he's OK, and the injured party here is you, because you lost your relationship with him. You F----- up. Sorry. But you are paying the price (by not having him). And that is a sufficient price to pay, given that he's moving on. No need for you to feel guilt. Rather, feel like a fool, and try to learn your lesson and move on. No need to play the martyr. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 03.08.12, 10:48 PM Flag
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just hang in there for time to pass. and as soon as you can, go on dates even though you won't feel up to it. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 03.08.12, 11:02 PM Flag
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OR: when i used to feel sad, i would read thomas hardy. i know his stuff is ultra tragic, but somehow, i'd look at all the horrible stuff going on in hardy's fictional world and i'd think, "mine's not so bad as that," and i'd be a little cheered. also, if you don't exercise, taking on a major challenge, like a marathon training, might help you redirect your mental energy. best wishes to you. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 03.08.12, 11:04 PM Flag
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find a good 12 step support group [ Reply | More
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General Topics 03.09.12, 04:00 AM Flag
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Stop thinking he was "the one" for you. There's a lesson to be learned from what happened, so take it and move on. Stop binging TODAY and move on. Do you have kids? Put your effort into them and learn to forgive yourself and change now. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 03.09.12, 07:08 AM Flag
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Should you feel this much guilt, or is it out of proportion to what you did? I think the answer to this question is important. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 03.09.12, 07:12 AM Flag
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In my mind, I should. It might be out of proportion but I have a huge sensitivity towards hurting other people....as in, I become paralyzed if I feel like I've hurt someone [ Reply | More
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General Topics 03.09.12, 08:57 AM Flag
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First, why do you still see him? and know whats going on in his life? I was just hurt terribly in a relationship, just a month ago. I havent made any contact with him, despite the 3 text messages he sent me. While i still love him, miss him and hurt deeply inside my core, I have moved on as well. I know the relationship is over, i know i need to look towards the future and i know i need to help myself heal from the pain he caused me. Im sure you still have feelings for him etc., but it's time to be a big girl, accept that the relationship is done and move on. I know it's hard and life sucks right now, but hurting yourself by crying and binging and feeling sorry for all involved isnt going to help. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 03.09.12, 07:24 AM Flag
[ - ] I'm a NYC transplant in LA and I'm terribly depressed. We don't *have* to be here except that DH insists it's a better life for our future kids. Have been here a decent enough time and still hate it. Any encouragement would be appreciated. Can't stop crying. 20 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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Los Angeles 02.13.12, 12:55 PM Flag
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how long have you been living there? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 02.13.12, 12:57 PM Flag
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have you made any friends? working? try to get out there and meet new people. i hear LA is really nice [ Reply | More
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General Topics 02.13.12, 12:57 PM Flag
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Try looking for a Meetup group of transplanted NYers, I bet there is one. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 02.13.12, 12:58 PM Flag
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How long and what do you think is your biggest problem? Friends? House size? Lots of concrete and steel? Perceived loss of control to DH? You need to identify what specifically is such an upsetting aspect of living here in order to figure out what to do. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 02.13.12, 12:58 PM Flag
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Oh, sorry, I thought you were from LA and forced to be in NYC. Still, what are the big problems? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 02.13.12, 12:59 PM Flag
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If you miss specific people, then there is no easy fix. If not, then there's either a problem with your relationship with dh or a problem with you (I mean that nicely). What I'm trying to say is, it's usually not the city that's the issue. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 02.13.12, 01:01 PM Flag
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That is the most ridiculous thing ever and you must have not ever lived in another city. NYers and LAngelenos are a totally different group of people. Most people feel strongly about one or the other city, but usually don't love both. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 02.13.12, 01:34 PM Flag
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NP: IDA. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 02.13.12, 03:30 PM Flag
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Just come back. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 02.13.12, 01:17 PM Flag
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Most of the people I know in LA are from NY. Lots of people are bicoastal or move back and forth semi-regularly from NY to LA. It took me two hard years to adjust to LA but now I love it. LA definately takes more effort due to the lack of street life, but lots of natural and cultural things in the city to take advantage of. Perhaps your neighborhood is not a good fit for you? That has made a huge difference to me. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 02.13.12, 01:40 PM Flag
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OP: yeah I know...we both work in the kind of industries where we could go back and forth, but it's just that DH is from here, sick of moving and wants to put roots down. I feel like I can either have him or NY. I live in Silverlake and culturally it's the best fit but I feel no sense of community. I have friends (ex NY-ers) but it's so hard to pin people down (as it is in NY)...yes, so much effort. Have been here almost a year. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 02.13.12, 02:46 PM Flag
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OP: and we both are self-employed so we both work at home. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 02.13.12, 02:49 PM Flag
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Yes Silverlake is a cool area. I find LA very hard to WAH unless you already have an established community of friends. Many of my friends when I first got here were also my friends on the east coast. Can feel really lonely to WAH. Perhaps your kids school or another outlet? My husband is a cyclist. I used to run with a group in Griffith Park. I got very involved in education and met lots of like-minded friends that way also a reform temple. It did take two years. Don't despair. So much to love about LA and I still try to get back to NY regularly. Always appreciate business trips when the NYC hotel is covered and I don't have to "pay" to live in NY. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 02.13.12, 03:01 PM Flag
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OP: thanks :) Everyone has told me it takes 2-3 years. That just seems like an awfully long time to not feel good where you're living! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 02.13.12, 03:37 PM Flag
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It isn't Omaha! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 02.13.12, 02:52 PM Flag
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Crying? This might not be about geography. Friend blamed her unhappiness on relo, returned (to Portland) and still happy. Talk to someone, rule out other stuff. Be sure if push a return to NYC that it is what will make you ok. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 02.13.12, 02:53 PM Flag
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BTDT. I moved from NYC to LA for two years. It's a lovely city but it just isn't for me and it was ROUGH trying to get used to it. I think the car thing takes away the spontaneity of the city. You have to plan so far ahead - who's driving, where are you parking, who's the DD. DH and I ended up moving back to NYC and I do love it here but your DH is right in that LA will allow you a better lifestyle if you want a family. Towards the end of my two year stint there I finally saw that it may be possible to love it, but we had already decided to move back. And I'm back in my city again, working too hard to live in squalor! Think about that when you get down. You WILL get used to it and learn to love it. LA has a lot to offer. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 02.13.12, 03:23 PM Flag
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LA is huge and varied. Where are you living? What NYC neighborhoods do you like? We'll translate them into LA. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 02.13.12, 03:32 PM Flag
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OP: Brownstone Brooklyn. Even if some of the people overlap, nothing here looks or feels like it. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 02.15.12, 01:07 PM Flag
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I hear you. I love both cities although have come to really appreciate LA with kids. Two of my best friends moved to LA and hated it, then after several years they moved back to New York and then quickly moved back to LA. Was a pita and expensive way to finally appreciate the things LA offers. This is your first year. I don't think I opened up to loving it for two solid years. I have now called it home for 20 years. I hope you feel better soon. February is the best time to appreciate LA when you are a NYer. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 02.15.12, 11:28 PM Flag
[ - ] Los Angeles or San Jose? (please also say where you're from.. thanks 10 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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Los Angeles 02.11.12, 08:50 PM Flag
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Los Angeles, no question!! It's like comparing apples to oranges. (from MN originally) [ Reply | More
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General Topics 02.11.12, 08:51 PM Flag
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... but have lived in LA and in SF (only visited San Jose) [ Reply | More
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General Topics 02.11.12, 09:55 PM Flag
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Blech, neither, San Francisco! From so cal [ Reply | More
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General Topics 02.11.12, 08:57 PM Flag
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Los Angeles for sure. Live in San Francisco area. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 02.11.12, 10:30 PM Flag
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San Jose. Lifelong California (Fresno, so smack in the middle) but went to college in the Bay Area. Love the Bay Area. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 02.12.12, 12:45 AM Flag
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San Jose. I'm from Fresno too! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 02.12.12, 06:12 AM Flag
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^^ and also went to college in the Bay Area. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 02.12.12, 06:12 AM Flag
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They have a lot of the same strengths and weaknesses. Large urban area made up of different "villages"--can feel very suburban, fairly downtownish, or be walkable and hip. Quality of public schools varies according to district and neighborhood. I have lived in both, though I'm from the east, and liked both. I would personally pick LA, though would not be devastated if I had to move to SJ. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 02.12.12, 08:07 AM Flag
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I'm a native Californian. None of the above. I grew up around San Jose (the nice part--SJ is a hell-hole). I lived in LA (the nice part) for 6 years. I now live in the SD area. SD FTW! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 02.12.12, 08:11 AM Flag
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LA or even better.. THE OC! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.27.12, 06:42 PM Flag
[ - ] Hi LA moms - can you tell me whether the lofts at the old Pabst Brewery are expensive? What is their general neighborhood? Are they nice? Any info appreciated. Thanks! 2 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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Los Angeles 02.07.12, 08:38 PM Flag
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I don't think expensive (if you are coming from NY) but maybe not the best area if you have kids. Assuming that a zoned public there would be out of the question. But this is only a vague impression. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 02.13.12, 12:53 PM Flag
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Spotted on the message boards over at Lotta Living : a furnished sublet in the Brewery Arts Colony, that former Pabst brewery in Lincoln Heights that's been converted into 300 plus artists' lofts. The posting notes: "Our loft is in a quiet corner along what we call “the Garden District. Outside is your private garden with table, chairs & barbeque and your own parking space. The inside is built-out with a spacious bathroom, cozy upstairs bedroom, separate office or sleeping loft, living space, creative work space and kitchen. This is a true loft, located on the ground floor of a 100 year old converted industrial building." Rent for the 1,700-square-foot unit is $1,875, and includes all utilities, cable, and wi-fi. But if you're the Gauloise-puffing cat-owning type of artiste, best look elsewhere: "Sorry, no pets and no smoking."--Pauline O'Connor i hope that helps. :) [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.27.12, 06:43 PM Flag
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