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[ - ] Wondering if other SAHM feel the way I do: I worked full-time for many years before I had DC. Love her to pieces, have really enjoyed being a SAHM although it's so very different from my previous life. My complaint/issue is that I feel like my life is constantly in chaos. I tried doing FlyLady.net recently, it has helped. We have moved 3x in the last 3 years, it's been very hard. Every time my life is ripped up, our things are a mess, I have to reorganize everything, put everything away. It takes me at least 1 year each time, etc. Fortunately we will stay where we are for at least another 3-5 years while we build up funds to buy a house and put down roots (in Westchester County.) My daughter is a momma's girl, she goes to preschool 3x/week 9-2, so that helps... but I feel like I never get a break. I'm constantly on the go, shuffling lists... stuff is slowly getting done, but I still feel like I'm struggling to manage the chaos, the constant interruptions from her, the interruptions of various appointments, etc. I work part-time now (group ex instruction) so that adds to the chaos/scheduling... does it ever get easier/clearer? I feel like my brain has been permanently damaged from the interruptions, sleep deprivation (she's a good sleeper overall, but we've had issues of her waking at night, etc., she's much better now though). I have trouble concentrating sometimes. As I said, I just feel like I'm constantly in a state of chaos, and I want to feel like things are more under control. Have a housekeeper who comes 2x/week to help (house is pretty big, so I can't get it all done myself.) Anyone BTDT, does it get better, what helped you? P.S. Sorry so long. 3 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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OP: oops: housekeeper comes 2x/month... 2x/week, I wish...! :P [ Reply | More
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Can you get a cleaning lady for ones a week? [ Reply | More
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I am not SAHM, but if your DD is 3 - 4 years old, you're coming out of the hardest years from a time management standpoint. As they get older they get more independent, which helps with giving you blocks of time to get things done. [ Reply | More
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[ - ] I spend 250 a week on groceries for a family of 4. Is this normal ? 2 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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Don't know what's normal. I spend $150/week for three. [ Reply | More
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We do about 200 a week for 3 in NYC [ Reply | More
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[ - ] Name for Boy: Ford 1 Reply [ Reply | Watch | More
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[ - ] I assume this varies per person, but if you are early 40s, how many rounds of IVF are "safe"? 1 Reply [ Reply | Watch | More
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Have they done any longterm studies of the safety of IVF? I don't think so but I'd be happy to be enlightened. [ Reply | More
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[ - ] Name post: Ryan, Ryder, Raphael 3 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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Ryan. [ Reply | More
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Ryder [ Reply | More
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[ - ] Who do you think is the most beautiful woman in the world today (the way everyone used to say Elizabeth Taylor was?) I myself love Scarlett Johanson's looks. 40 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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Halle Berry hands down. No one is even in her league. [ Reply | More
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Meh [ Reply | More
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this [ Reply | More
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jealous [ Reply | More
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except maybe Paula Patton-Thicke. [ Reply | More
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ITA [ Reply | More
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there is something very off-putting about her. [ Reply | More
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Absolutely not. [ Reply | More
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CZJ in the "Chicago" era. [ Reply | More
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Oh yes, definitely her during "Zorro". Holy cow, she was so gorgeous back then. [ Reply | More
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ITA [ Reply | More
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Charlize Theron, I would say. [ Reply | More
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+3 gorgeous imo [ Reply | More
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Although, she was pretty fugly in Young Adult [ Reply | More
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not at all, i loved that movie. [ Reply | More
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Yes! [ Reply | More
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Mila Kunis around the time she did Black Swan [ Reply | More
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Salma Hayek or Eva Mendes [ Reply | More
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+1 on Selma [ Reply | More
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Diane Kruger [ Reply | More
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stunning [ Reply | More
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Nope [ Reply | More
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yes [ Reply | More
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Blondes will always be plain looking no matter what. [ Reply | More
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RuPaul [ Reply | More
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Natalie Portman. [ Reply | More
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Plain jane [ Reply | More
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NO [ Reply | More
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Vanessa Williams [ Reply | More
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Penelope Cruz [ Reply | More
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Rachel Weisz [ Reply | More
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^^^or Christy Turlington. [ Reply | More
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Charlize Theron. [ Reply | More
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Angelina- her face is extraordinary [ Reply | More
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This. [ Reply | More
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Thandie Newton [ Reply | More
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[ - ] Tarot card mom are you on? 0 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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[ - ] I am totally confused by last night's episode of "Mad Men". 4 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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Don is still a dog. The thief was awesome. [ Reply | More
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me too! sometimes I feel like I wasted an hour of my life on that show. [ Reply | More
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I loved it. Era of Dr Feelgood. Don is growing but he's forever tormented by his past. [ Reply | More
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I loved it. Era of Dr Feelgood. Don is growing but he's forever tormented by his past. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.20.13, 06:24 PM Flag
[ - ] what would you do? A friend may sign a business deal with the company I work for. The company typically pays people who refer business 10% (not sure how it would be yet, probably $5K - $10K commission). I know from past experience that if the person who would get the commission says to give it back to client, that isn't what the company owner does. He keeps it, sometime offering free service for a period of time, sometime not (at least not apparently). I sure could use the money (2 kids in college, one in private school) but feel a little weird about it. (if I take the money and pass it to her, it would show up on my income so I would pay taxes on it - pass her the net amount?) 10 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 05.20.13, 06:07 PM Flag
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wait, then what is in it for you? [ Reply | More
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nothing, but it isn't my job to get commissions, I work in different department. She's coming to us because she knows me and knows the company as a result. [ Reply | More
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I guess most people would thank the lord for the windfall and keep it. [ Reply | More
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I don't really understand the whole deal. You are getting commission because your friend is bringing her business to your company but your company doesn't want you to keep the commission and you have to give it to your friend AND report it as income? This makes NO sense. Take the money and zip your lips. [ Reply | More
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Sorry, I feel guilty about taking the commission. [ Reply | More
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^but if I tell boss to just reduce her contract by the amount of the commission he won't do it because he feels like it cheapens his brand. So I either take the commission or he takes it. [ Reply | More
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TAKE THE MONEY [ Reply | More
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Don't. You brought a nice piece of business to your company. What's the matter with you? [ Reply | More
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yes -- if you get it, it will be taxable [ Reply | More
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Keep the cash. Your friend is a business owner, and should be making the best business decision for her firm. If you're feeling uncomfortable about it, tell your friend: Hey, looks like you're going with my firm and that's great. But I'm feeling a bit uncomfortable bc I'll get a referral fee and don't want you to think I'm profiting from our friendship. Pls make the best decision for your firm. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.20.13, 06:10 PM Flag
[ - ] S/O Ugly Lena Dunham post: Jennifer Garner is a plain jane (plain jen) who married way above her. Ben Affleck is gorgeous and will always turn heads, especially now as he is aging well and becoming more accomplished in his career. He will be like George Clooney in terms of hotness as he ages. Jennifer Garner is a plain jane who no one would notice walking down the street. People who think she is "beautiful" are likely plain janes themselves who want to believe they can get someone as hot as Ben too. These are the same people who water down the word "beautiful" to encompass anyone, including really ugly individuals. But the truth is -- Ben got a bad deal. BEN IS WAY TOO HOT FOR PLAIN JANE JEN. If you are honest, you will admit Jennifer Garner (though not ugly) is not beautiful and the very definition of Plain Jane/Jen. 52 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 05.20.13, 06:05 PM Flag
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No way, have you seen Alias or Elektra? She's beautiful and her body is slammin' [ Reply | More
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Have you looked at her face? Her body is just thing, nothing extraordinary like raquel Welch. [ Reply | More
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thin, not thing [ Reply | More
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THIS +1mm and he is not an attractive man. Seems like an over compensating arrogant asshole. She is a natural beauty. She just had 2-3 kids so she's in that post baby stage. She will have a major comeback. Never a huge fan but she is beautiful. [ Reply | More
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I don't find Ben gorgeous. [ Reply | More
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Ditto. Looks sleazy, and his gum-to-tooth ratio is too high for my personal taste. [ Reply | More
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Yes. I agree 100 per cent about the gum thing. [ Reply | More
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lolz! [ Reply | More
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This post added nothing for anyone. [ Reply | More
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People who think Plain Jane Jennifer Garner is "Beautiful" are the same people who are uncomfortable with the concept of real beauty, like defined by Angelina Jolie, Charlize Theron, Elizabeth Taylor, Sophia Loren, Cindy Crawford, Christy Turlington, Claudia Schiffer, Niki Taylor. [ Reply | More
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ITA [ Reply | More
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That list is off. Angelina is aging bad. She needs to gain weight. I will give you Theron, Taylor, Loren. Crawford has had way too much plastic work. She looks terrible now. Turlington is a cut above average now. Schiffer and Taylor are both okay. Your list is missing a bunch of much better looking woman of color. [ Reply | More
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Calling "Plain Janes" beautiful allows regular folks to think they themselves are beautiful too. They don't want to compare themselves to the truly physically beautiful women. It would be too depressing for them, so they grab hold of these Plain Janes types like Jennifer Garner and say that is "beautiful" so that they don't feel so bad about themselves. [ Reply | More
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They can reach the Jennifer Garner-level of "beauty" while true physical beauty like Angie and Charlize are beyond their grasp. Redefining beauty to include Plain Janes and the Girl Next Door types allows them to call themselves beautiful. It's kinda like grade inflation when an A is not really an A. So it is now that "beautiful" no longer means "beautiful," but average and not threatening and likable with a good personality. [ Reply | More
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I think JG is beautiful. [ Reply | More
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I think they're nicely matched. [ Reply | More
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Ben is not hot. Jennifer is plain but I think she is retry enough for Ben especially in the movie Butter I thought she was at her best. [ Reply | More
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^^pretty enough auto correct [ Reply | More
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Neither Ben nor Jennifer is all that attractive. Both are average. [ Reply | More
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I agree. They are both attractive in the sense that if they were my friends I certainly wouldn't consider them ugly. If I was dating a guy who looked like Ben Affleck I'd certainly describe him as "cute"....but overall pretty average. [ Reply | More
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I do not take celebrities this serious. [ Reply | More
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Would people be so shocked if a truly gorgeous woman married a very average-looking man? [ Reply | More
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harvey weinstein and one of the marchesa chicks...Not sure I get that since she is independently wealthy, so it really can't be the money. [ Reply | More
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But no one is lying and saying Harvey is gorgeous and handsome. let's just admit Plain Jane Jennifer Garner got a hot guy, probably cuz she got pregnant, and Ben did the decent thing. [ Reply | More
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Like most musician? [ Reply | More
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Ben probably likes being the hot one in the relationship. Jennifer probably likes having snagged a hot guy. If it works for them, what's the issue? [ Reply | More
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She has a great body and flawlessly symmetrical facial features. She's way above average. [ Reply | More
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She has an average body for a woman on the thinner side. Her features are average and she has this weird deformity on her forehead, look like the skull is bulging out. Google her face, and you will see the bulging forehead. Gross! [ Reply | More
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+1 and beautiful skin. she looks way younger and prettier than his exes. [ Reply | More
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Her body is way too thin most of the time. I think she looked great on Saturday. [ Reply | More
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Well, she has very cute dimples. She always looked very cute/nerd on Felicity with her glasses and dimples. Ben might be aging well, but that may be in part due to his wife. He admittedly has an addictive personality. He quit smoking at Jennifer's encouragement, and I don't think he drinks anymore, either. Both of those could age his "hotness" quite a bit. Plus have you ever seen his huge, amazingly awful tattoo that he has? It's on his arm or back and it's absolutely hideous. It's always airbrushed in movies. Many women would have dumped him for that alone. I'm saying it's a tradeoff, not as one-sided as you think. [ Reply | More
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People, especially women, who rationalize this unequal relationship comfort themselves that personality makes up for beauty. It seems true with Jen and Ben's relationship. But don't try to tell me this plain jen is beautiful. She is the girl next door type, which many women are comfortable with. That's why they "love" Jennifer Garner -- she is no threat to their vanity. But you should see the claws come out when we talk about really sexy and beautiful women like Angelina, or Kate, or Megan. [ Reply | More
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who are kate and megan? angelina is beautiful too, and i like her, but it is a completely different look. both are beautiful in their own way. [ Reply | More
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It's not like he's going to be knocking on your door. [ Reply | More
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who ARE you people? are you really as shallow as you seem? [ Reply | More
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Ben was hott when he was with Jlo. [ Reply | More
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Yup [ Reply | More
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That was the last time he was hot. [ Reply | More
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I don't understand the point of this post. Are you trying to argue that equal hotness should be the primary consideration when entering into a marriage? [ Reply | More
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of course, this is what most UBers seem to believe. the only other thing that counts is money. [ Reply | More
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Of course! Completely forgot about the $$. Silly me. [ Reply | More
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Ben is better looking than Jennifer Garner no shame in admitting that but he has had his share of troubles. [ Reply | More
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i think JG is better looking and her ex michael vartan was better looking than ben. [ Reply | More
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I think JG is adorable! Maybe not some great beauty.. her ears stick out but she has adorable dimples and lovely brown eyes. I never really noticed her until that movie Juno. She won me over after that. [ Reply | More
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She has an amazing smile. [ Reply | More
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or, yes she does! [ Reply | More
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agreed -- so pretty. no clue how anyone thinks she is plain! [ Reply | More
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ITA. [ Reply | More
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Who cares ?????? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.20.13, 06:25 PM Flag
[ - ] In pregnancy, past first trimester you're not supposed to exercise flat on your back or even lie flat on your back for very long, right? So if I'm doing yoga (not strenuous), should I avoid lying flat on my back? Can I lie with my spine just slightly turned so my stomach isn't right on top of me? 16 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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Yoga teacher here - I would avoid it past 1st trimester. You can lie on your left side with a bolster next to you, and drape your right leg over the bolster (like a body pillow) - so relaxing, I often do this for savasana even when not pregnant. [ Reply | More
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Thanks! I don't regularly do yoga, but did today, and the teacher said something about not going on my stomach but didn't say to avoid my back. I actually feel perfectly comfortable on my stomach (I'm only 20 weeks), but get so anxious on my back. [ Reply | More
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YW - congrats! I would not really be spending a lot of time on your stomach anymore at this point either (if at all), honestly. You can lie flat on your back if that feels good to you still, just be really cautious about feeling lightheaded and/or winded at ALL. [ Reply | More
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Why not stomach? I've never read about avoiding lying on my stomach, and I actually sleep on my stomach now that I can't sleep on my back. On my back, because I get anxious about the fact that I'm on my back, I get pretty lightheaded easily - self-fulfilling thing I guess. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.20.13, 06:09 PM Flag
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I think it's a blood-flow thing too (not worried about squishing your baby or anything like that!), same as on your back. [ Reply | More
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^we spent a lot of time in yoga school learning modifications for pregnancy for stomach-lying postures, but now that you mention it I can't remember the actual reason for it! [ Reply | More
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maybe it's just that as the stomach becomes very large, it can become nearly impossible for a woman to lie on it - though there wouldn't be any danger posed by it if she could? [ Reply | More
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That's probably what it is. Good to know though moving forward, I'll have to do some research! [ Reply | More
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americanpregnancy.org says to avoid lying on stomach only if it becomes uncomfortable as your stomach gets big. But it says to avoid back for many other reasons - blood flow, etc. (some of which you might not even be aware of at the time you're on your back). [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.20.13, 06:14 PM Flag
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Then go by what they say, by all means! :) [ Reply | More
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Yes - I just wish there was more guidance on whether it's okay to lie on back but slightly turned to the side! I do have an appointment this week so I'll ask then. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.20.13, 06:24 PM Flag
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You can lie on your back for as long as you want. [ Reply | More
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OP here - I've read a lot about fitness in pregnancy, and the need to avoid lying on your back seems to be one of the only things consistently mentioned. It's also mentioned outside of fitness - i.e., when resting, sleeping, etc. [ Reply | More
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You will move when you are uncomfortable. I prefer the advice of my OB to fitness magazines [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.20.13, 06:18 PM Flag
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np - my OB told me to avoid lying on my back after first trimester. [ Reply | More
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OP here - yes, I prefer advice from OB as well. I don't read fitness magazines. Though there are some decent research-based books out that discuss fitness in pregnancy - obviously OB trumps those, to the extent the advice conflicts, though. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.20.13, 06:23 PM Flag
[ - ] Anyone agree with dh you just can't agree and divorce? I feel we are at this point. 6 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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You can't agree whether to divorce? [ Reply | More
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No we can't agree- we agree that we cant agree on hardly anything- therefore we need to live apart and divorce [ Reply | More
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np. Can you at least agree you need to work on your agreeing skills? In all seriousness, if you can agree on some couples therapy, do that first. DH and I have agreed that if we ever reach the point where we want to divorce, we would put a serious effort in therapy first. [ Reply | More
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We have tried it and dh always thinks he's being picked on. He has anger management issues since childhood and its a major problem, but he always wants me to say I'm 50% at fault. At this point I'm ready to say "whatever" [ Reply | More
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Well, there's your answer. He needs anger management if this is so serious. I do not recommended therapy lightly, but if there is no cheating or abuse involved, I say try to work very hard before going through divorce, esp if there are DCs involved. Marriage is hard and it takes work. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.20.13, 06:28 PM Flag
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Is it possible to get divorced without lots of drama? Can you leave it behind and just accept you aren't good together anymore? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.20.13, 06:21 PM Flag
[ - ] Moms of boys: Not that you would know this exactly, but approximately what age or growth spurt does the penis grow? I have a 4th grade 10 yo boy who says he's being teased in locker room. He asked me "is my penis small?" I just said it grows during puberty. I have 2 dds and 1 ds. I have no idea when it grows. Dh doesn't remember (he is on the big side), hopefully it's hereditary. Sorry so long. Tia. 21 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 05.20.13, 06:00 PM Flag
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2 DSs here, age 9. Very different sizes so I think some of it is pre-determined (prior to puberty). But I'm obviously no expert! DH is well-endowed but I think the men on my side of family are more average. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.20.13, 06:04 PM Flag
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op again: So do you think it comes from the mother? Do you have twins? I'm just trying to figure out when 'it' has a growth spurt. Thanks for answering crazy question. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.20.13, 06:06 PM Flag
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np I think you are worrying WAAAAAY too much about his actual size. Very odd worry, especially regarding a 10 yo. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.20.13, 06:08 PM Flag
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I don't get the sense she is worrying way too much. She is asking a question that you would never say irl. Do you have a boy? I do an we notice these things. In normal ways. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.20.13, 06:06 PM Flag
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op thanks for sticking up for me. I love how everything is magnified on this board and I'm worrying waaaay too much. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.20.13, 06:14 PM Flag
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I'm sure there is much variation here. I also think that teasing could be completely unrelated to actual size. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.20.13, 06:05 PM Flag
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np Great point about the teasing. I highly doubt they measured all penises and concluded his was "small"....this sounds more like generic teasing/bullying issues. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.20.13, 06:06 PM Flag
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op again: I never got the feeling he was being bullied or meanly teased. It sounded more like kids saying their observations out loud and then he got sensitive about it. He's asking a lot of these types of questions lately. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.20.13, 06:10 PM Flag
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During puberty. And I agree with above. That teasing is unrelated to exact size. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.20.13, 06:08 PM Flag
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I don't know, but you need to teach him some comebacks: "I wouldn't know. I don't look at other guys' packages." "Your mother doesn't seem to mind." "Don't worry. My doctor says it's hereditary. Mine will get huge and yours will eventually look normal...probably." [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.20.13, 06:08 PM Flag
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Please do not teach him to say "your mother doesn't seem to mind"! WTF!?!? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.20.13, 06:11 PM Flag
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yeah, I would stick with #1 here. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.20.13, 06:16 PM Flag
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Come on, now, that was funny. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.20.13, 06:19 PM Flag
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Ooo, I just got another idea from poster below: "Sorry your parents feed you such crappy food. Guess I'll have the last laugh once you grow that third nipple." [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.20.13, 06:23 PM Flag
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My son is 10 and has not begun to develop at all and his penis is still small. Our pediatrician told us recently that 11-13 it can be any time, but many boys (and girls) are developing earlier becausse of all the hormones in our food supply. If your family doesn't eat meat or eats only organic and natural meats, then you don't have to worry about this early development. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.20.13, 06:10 PM Flag
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THANK YOU. I'm the op and yes we do eat organically and we're mostly vegetarians. No flames we eat fish and my dcs get sweets. We're normal. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.20.13, 06:14 PM Flag
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hair starts first, then gradual enlarging [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.20.13, 06:08 PM Flag
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my son is almost 11, starting to grow some hair, haven't seen him naked in years but lately noticed when he was wearing underwear that it looked much bigger. (I did worry when he was younger that it looked small) [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.20.13, 06:12 PM Flag
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Not that it helps a 10 year old, but remember that there are "show-ers" and "growers" - DH is quite small normally, but grows a lot when erect so that it is big enough to get the job done. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.20.13, 06:20 PM Flag
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+1 please remember this. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.20.13, 06:25 PM Flag
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Buy this book. Seriously, its SO helpful. I read it and learned tons and then read it with my DS. Your DS is the exact age for it. http://www.amazon.com/American-Medical-Association-Guide-Becoming/dp/0787983438 [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.20.13, 06:17 PM Flag
[ - ] What does your toddler eat for lunch and dinner? I need some inspiration. Please don't say they eat what you eat. I've tried that. 11 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 05.20.13, 05:59 PM Flag
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Very picky DS has been big into pasta and red sauce lately, which is great because I can puree and hide extra vegetables in the sauce. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.20.13, 06:06 PM Flag
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^and a lot of yogurt, freeze dried fruit/vegetables, eggs/omelets [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.20.13, 06:05 PM Flag
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Veggies (carrots, tomatoes, broccoli, peas) Meat (Chicken or Turkey whatever is available, sometimes lunch meat) Carb. Pasta, rice, tofu. And I add a fruit (Whatever is at home that day). 2yo. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.20.13, 06:02 PM Flag
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PP- Yogurt/ricotta or apple sauce. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.20.13, 06:02 PM Flag
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cheese, fruit, pb&j, peas, pasta, rice and beans, yogurt, pizza. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.20.13, 06:03 PM Flag
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My picky 4 year old likes beans, rice, cheese and broccoli, he also likes a baked potato with some shredded cheese and broccoli on it. Turkey burgers. Pasta w/red sauce. Tuna sandwiches. Of course grilled cheese and mac & cheese. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.20.13, 06:13 PM Flag
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OP-Thanks. This is what I feed her mostly, just worried it wasn't enough variety. I feel better now! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.20.13, 06:11 PM Flag
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Ditto, I always wonder if DS is off the charts picky, but this sounds like his diet! :) [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.20.13, 06:14 PM Flag
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They don't need huge variety! Just throw in different veggies every now again. Sometimes they have to try something 20 times before they like it, so just give little bits every once in awhile, even if she barely tastes it. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.20.13, 06:16 PM Flag
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Past and meat sauce, meatloaf, applegate farms chicken nuggets, steamed broccoli, roasted chicken. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.20.13, 06:22 PM Flag
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roast chicken, pasta with tomato sauce, turkey sandwiches, mac & cheese, chicken nuggets, hamburgers or chicken burgers, chicken noodle soup, yogurt. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.20.13, 06:31 PM Flag
[ - ] If you use either Seamless or GrubHub to order takeout for delivery, FYI they are merging. 4 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 05.20.13, 05:58 PM Flag
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I've never used either. How do they work? What's so great about them? And yes I live in NYC [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.20.13, 06:10 PM Flag
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You order online, just like you would for Fresh Direct or Netflix. Seamless works with menupages.com, so I just go there and see if the restaurant page I'm looking at has a seamless button on the page. then you click on the link and order. I don't think it's better than phone ordering, but it's more convenient in many situations. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.20.13, 06:10 PM Flag
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I am a seamless fan, hope it doesn't go downhill. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.20.13, 06:17 PM Flag
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Most restaurants have both. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.20.13, 06:23 PM Flag
[ - ] How many calories a day do I need while breastfeeding? I am 5'2". 1 Reply [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 05.20.13, 05:58 PM Flag
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google online calorie counter - enter height and weight - then add 500 addt'l for breastfeeding. no one here can tell you, it depends on your weight and activity level. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.20.13, 06:26 PM Flag
[ - ] S/O Best babymoon destination? 6 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 05.20.13, 05:54 PM Flag
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Las Vegas, so you can't talk about it when you get back. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.20.13, 06:04 PM Flag
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hawaii [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.20.13, 06:09 PM Flag
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Amanyara [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.20.13, 06:04 PM Flag
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We did one to colorado, and another just close by (drive). I wouldn't want to go too far, or take a really long plane ride, even if I felt great. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.20.13, 06:08 PM Flag
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I went to Paris in the first part of my 3rd trimester with DC #1. Love paris but I don't recommend. Too much walking. On the other hand I loved sitting in cafes eating pastries! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.20.13, 06:18 PM Flag
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We went to Aruba. Typically we don't like lazy beach vacations, but after lots of fertility treatments including 2 IVFs, we wanted to chill. Weather is apparently perfect all year round. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.20.13, 06:21 PM Flag
[ - ] Threader took a chunk out of my eyebrow. How can I get it to grow back? 3 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 05.20.13, 05:53 PM Flag
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Latisse [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.20.13, 06:04 PM Flag
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Nothing but time, until then. use an eyebrow kit from a beauty store. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.20.13, 06:12 PM Flag
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+1 [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.20.13, 06:26 PM Flag
[ - ] Going to Paris for the summer, any hotel recommendations ? 600/night max. TIA. 6 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 05.20.13, 05:53 PM Flag
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Four seasons [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.20.13, 06:01 PM Flag
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op. Thanks [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.20.13, 06:00 PM Flag
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The Four Seasons is heaven but way more than $600/night. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.20.13, 06:03 PM Flag
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sorry OP - FS is like EUR800 a night. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.20.13, 06:10 PM Flag
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^^actually it's like EUR1100 a night. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.20.13, 06:15 PM Flag
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You're going to live for the whole summer at 600/ a night? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.20.13, 06:09 PM Flag
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