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[ - ] looking to buy a grace pack and play for my newborn to sleep in once he arrives (for the 1st 3 months). any feedback on this or recommended models? 7 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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Expecting 08.12.12, 01:47 AM Flag
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If you plan to nurse, I would buy an arm's reach cosleeper. It turns into a stand alone pack in play when you are ready for that. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 08.12.12, 01:50 AM Flag
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Get one from a friend or buy used. All the baby gear is such a waste of money. I have 6 pack & plays between all the grandparents houses. The best is the Chicco Lullaby - but only worth it if someone else is paying. The Gracos are all good - don't worry about the bells and whistles, get a basic one if you're buying yourself. We have a few $40 Cosco models that are really just as good - but don't come w/ the bassinet feature, so probably not what you're looking for. If you'll be using it for a crib after 3 months, you'll want a real mattress: http://www.amazon.com/Dream-On-Me-Portable-Mattress/dp/B0030UUBMO/ref=sr_1_2?ie=UTF8&qid=1344738486&sr=8-2&keywords=pack+and+play+mattress [ Reply | More
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General Topics 08.12.12, 02:28 AM Flag
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^^ and that co-sleeper is BS. If you're nursing, you still have to get up to change DB. No benefit to having no rail between you. They're not as sturdy or portable as the pack& plays.. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 08.12.12, 02:30 AM Flag
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And they are heavy to try and transport. Get the packnplay with the diaper change thingie that holds the baby up high until the baby starts moving around. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 08.12.12, 03:47 AM Flag
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np: my dd loved the co-sleeper. In the beginning we put the moses basket in the co-sleeper and she loved being in a semi-enclosed space. When she got a little older we took the moses basket out and she was fine. I think it helped her sttn so quickly. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 08.12.12, 05:06 AM Flag
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It's no different than the pack & play. She STTN because of her temperament and you not picking her up every time she made a noise. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 08.12.12, 06:55 PM Flag
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We have a Chicco and my inlaws have a Graco for when we visit. With both we use the MamaDoo Kids mattress topper for extra support and comfort. It is firm, fits perfectly and folds in 3 so it is very portable. We love it! Good luck to you! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 08.14.12, 06:20 PM Flag
[ - ] Need MFM consult this week!!! Should I go to Carnegie MFM or the Mt Sinai group (Stone, Edelman, etc)???? Both places can squeeze me in tomorrow. thanks 11 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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Expecting 08.07.12, 02:42 PM Flag
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what is MFM? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 08.07.12, 03:03 PM Flag
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maternal fetal medicine [ Reply | More
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General Topics 08.07.12, 04:19 PM Flag
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Either would be great. I was a patient of MFMA (Carnegie) and met all the docs there, I adore them. Was also in the hospital for ages and met Eddleman a few times for BPP. He's very low-key but also seems great. First answer is whichever one takes your insurance, then probing a little deeper I'd ask who the appt would be with at Carnegie. Rebarber/Fox/Saltzman would be my top choices there for an MFM issue. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 08.07.12, 04:06 PM Flag
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Thanks. Dr Fox said he can squeeze me in today. Since this is so time sensitive I don't have a lot of time to do research. I appreciate your help. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 08.07.12, 04:13 PM Flag
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He is a doll. Don't be alarmed by the fact that he is (a) very young and (b) looks younger than his age. He was my primary there and was the first person to tell me honestly about my risk profile and options, and he came to visit me when I was admitted antepartum and when I was in recovery even though I am pretty sure he was not on call at the time (others from the practice were in the hospital). My DH has some kind of bromance thing with Rebarber but Natie is my favorite of the MFM team. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 08.07.12, 04:23 PM Flag
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>>Forgot to add, good luck, hope all is okay w/you and your pregnancy [ Reply | More
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General Topics 08.07.12, 04:33 PM Flag
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Thank you so much! I feel a lot better knowing I'm at least going to a good doc. Thank you thank you!!! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 08.07.12, 04:56 PM Flag
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I got to be honest, didn't LOVE Dr. Fox (at least compared with his associates); I found he was very negative in his consult with me, but the practice overall is outstanding. Good luck. (P.S. -- my outcome was perfect in the end). [ Reply | More
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General Topics 08.07.12, 05:01 PM Flag
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OR above: I never totally gelled with Rebarber for whatever reason, though I think he's amazing and he delivered my baby. Different personalities, I guess. My favorites there are Bender and Silverstein, actually, but that's probably because I lived in the hospital and saw them so much. (OP, you won't see them, they're the OBs who are part of MFMA but not part of Carnegie.) [ Reply | More
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General Topics 08.07.12, 05:23 PM Flag
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Thanks to you all!!! I was very happy with Dr Fox. He was honest and patient which is what we need right now. Baby is doing well. We go back in 3 weeks. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 08.07.12, 11:20 PM Flag
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Fox fan OR: So glad to hear it, I was checking back to see if you posted. Good luck with your pregnancy; I hope for your sake you don't have to have as much quality time with the MFMA team as I did! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 08.08.12, 12:24 AM Flag
[ - ] I am 38 years old and expecting twins through IVF. 13 weeks pregnant and had my NT today. The doctor said that everything looks good but baby B is borderline but 95% of the times it means nothing and we should just wait for the blood tests to come back in three to four days. Of course I feel very nervous and was wondering if anybody else has had this situation and the outcome of it. We will love our babies equally and devote our lives to them no matter what but would love to hear from others that have experienced this before. Thanks. 11 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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Expecting 08.07.12, 12:48 AM Flag
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This isn't quite the same, but I did not do the NT (I planned to have CVS so didn't see the point), and the sonographer later told me that I had saved myself some needless stress because the visual indications were borderline/increased risk. CVS was normal (DC is now 2+ yo). [ Reply | More
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General Topics 08.07.12, 01:28 AM Flag
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Incredible! I am glad to hear this. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 08.07.12, 01:41 AM Flag
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My twins had quite few visual indicators that gave me quite a few heart attacks when pregnant. They were all wrong. Congratulations on your twins. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 08.07.12, 01:31 AM Flag
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Thank you! It's great to hear your twins are fine. I feel much calmer knowing this. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 08.07.12, 01:44 AM Flag
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If it's any comfort, I thought my situation was unique until I spoke to a couple of other twin moms and they told be they had similar experiences. Not sure why this is. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 08.07.12, 01:55 AM Flag
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NP: I think you're right it's common. I have a friend who had visual indicators for problems and baby was fine. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 08.07.12, 05:01 AM Flag
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My DS #3 results for NT was bad and the blood test said 1 in 7 chance for Downs. Had CVS and he was fine. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 08.07.12, 01:33 AM Flag
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We are going to look into having a CVS. You must have gone through so much stress before this test! Thanks for sharing. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 08.07.12, 01:47 AM Flag
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yes and further tests were fine [ Reply | More
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General Topics 08.07.12, 01:52 AM Flag
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Friend of mine had boy girl twins last year. The boy has downs, the girl is fine. She didn't do an amnio because she was at risk of early labor. She wouldn't have done anything had she found out, anyway. They are very happy and the twins are lovely. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 08.07.12, 02:43 AM Flag
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Argh, hated the NT for twins. If I remember correctly, the blood test isn't accurate for twins because the numbers are the same for both fetuses. In my case, one of my babies tested elevated risk for Downs (1 in 150). I was driven to distraction until I did the CVS test. Two healthy babies, now three years old and delicious. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 08.07.12, 04:46 AM Flag
[ - ] I am considering the Louis Vuitton Neverfull bag as a diaper bag. Any suggestions on the gm or the mm? Anyone want to sell me their preowned one? 2 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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Expecting 08.06.12, 07:15 PM Flag
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I can sell you some pre-owned diapers. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 08.06.12, 07:29 PM Flag
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that's an awfully expensive bag to be putting poopy diapers in [ Reply | More
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General Topics 08.06.12, 08:58 PM Flag
[ - ] I am currently hooking up with a guy that is very successful and works at facebook. He is nice, and i'm thinking I might surprise him with a pregnancy. He seems like he would stick around and is very able to afford a baby. How far into the pregnancy should I wait before telling him? I don't want to tell him too early, because if the stock prices keep failing, I will get an abortion before the 3 month mark. 34 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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Expecting 08.06.12, 12:41 AM Flag
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Lolsy [ Reply | More
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General Topics 08.06.12, 12:42 AM Flag
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Nerds have sex? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 08.06.12, 12:43 AM Flag
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Is this a test to see if people are still reading/posting to UB? If so, you need to be more subtle. No one is going to bite on this one. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 08.06.12, 12:43 AM Flag
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please go under a bridge and die [ Reply | More
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General Topics 08.06.12, 12:43 AM Flag
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you should've picked a better company [ Reply | More
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General Topics 08.06.12, 12:44 AM Flag
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So fucking fake. No one in this day and age "surprises" someone with a kid. No fucking way. If you on the %.00000000000000000000000000001 are real, you are the biggest asshole on this planet. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 08.06.12, 12:44 AM Flag
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≠1 abort quickly [ Reply | More
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General Topics 08.06.12, 12:45 AM Flag
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+100000000000000 abort w/in the hour [ Reply | More
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General Topics 08.06.12, 12:45 AM Flag
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I'm an asshole? Well excuse me for not wanting to bring a kid into this world that I can't afford you bigoted welfare bitch [ Reply | More
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General Topics 08.06.12, 12:54 AM Flag
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If that's your logic, you are freaking twisted. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 08.06.12, 12:57 AM Flag
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I'm sorry. You're not an asshole. I meant to say CUNTHOLE. That, my whore, you are. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 08.06.12, 12:58 AM Flag
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What? You can't find anyone to marry you so you are going to trap a man? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 08.06.12, 12:58 AM Flag
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Lol at someone who is in favor of marriage talking about "trapping" a man. If he didn't want a kid he didn't have to have sex with me. Marriage is for insecure people, mid-westerners, and christian fundamentalists. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 08.06.12, 01:06 AM Flag
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Marriage is a mutual decision. Getting knocked up is not. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 08.06.12, 01:40 AM Flag
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Are you accusing me of rape? Or do you think he is too stupid to know that sticking it in can lead to a baby [ Reply | More
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General Topics 08.06.12, 01:44 AM Flag
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Not rape. Entrapment. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 08.06.12, 01:55 AM Flag
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How old are you that you think having a functioning set of ovaries is entrapment? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 08.06.12, 01:57 AM Flag
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Ask him if he wants kids. Are you afraid he will say no? Why not be up front about it. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 08.06.12, 02:11 AM Flag
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I'm not going to to ask a dude if he wants kids, its my body [ Reply | More
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General Topics 08.06.12, 02:13 AM Flag
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You are a loser. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 08.06.12, 02:18 AM Flag
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you are hilarious. you need a blog or something. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 08.06.12, 12:44 AM Flag
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Fakity fake fake [ Reply | More
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General Topics 08.06.12, 12:46 AM Flag
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at least it wasnt yahoo [ Reply | More
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General Topics 08.06.12, 12:47 AM Flag
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CNET, instead of posting things like this, try bringing back the old UB [ Reply | More
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General Topics 08.06.12, 12:48 AM Flag
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You will make a great mommy. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 08.06.12, 12:50 AM Flag
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Obviously you haven't been following FB stock. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 08.06.12, 12:51 AM Flag
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If your FB guy is Mark he's already married. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 08.06.12, 12:51 AM Flag
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This is why trolls are the spice of life. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 08.06.12, 12:58 AM Flag
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So good [ Reply | More
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General Topics 08.06.12, 01:25 AM Flag
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Terrible thing to do to someone. I feel compelled to point out just because someone works at Facebook, doesn't mean they are rolling in money. Unless he's been there for years, he likely doesn't have much stock, which means he doesn't have that much money. No windfall for you! So if you want to saddle your child with a resentful, absentee, working stiff, Facebook isn't a bad place to start. But it is no guarantee of instant riches for your child/money pot. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 08.06.12, 01:45 AM Flag
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He's a project manager, started in 2008. So ya, he isn't going to be like a billionaire or something, but if things stay like they are I don't think he will be too bad a choice for a first daddy. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 08.06.12, 01:55 AM Flag
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Have you been following FB stock? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 08.06.12, 02:12 AM Flag
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I'm trying not to until the lockout ends because its all so up in the air until then [ Reply | More
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General Topics 08.06.12, 02:17 AM Flag
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You wil be disappointed. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 08.06.12, 02:20 AM Flag
[ - ] Does anyone have recommendations for a high risk OB in Manhattan? 1 Reply [ Reply | Watch | More
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Expecting 08.05.12, 11:01 PM Flag
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Any of the doctors at East Side Women's OBGYN (http://www.eswobgyn.com/). Especially Dr. Brightman, but I love them all! They got me through my second pregnancy after my first was born at 32 weeks due to pre-eclampsia. Second DC was born full term (no pre-eclampsia) and I really credit their diligent care for making it happen! GL! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 08.05.12, 11:13 PM Flag
[ - ] Looking for great obgyn who delivers at Mt. Sinai who takes Blue Cross/Blue Shield. Any suggestions? 8 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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Expecting 07.28.12, 12:48 PM Flag
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call your provider [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.28.12, 02:43 PM Flag
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MFM? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.28.12, 02:57 PM Flag
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Did you go to MFM? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.28.12, 03:25 PM Flag
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They are beyond awesome but they do not take BCBS. They will work out a cash price with you and you submit it to the insurance co. Could get very expensive if you have lots of office visits because that's where the reimbursement via BCBS is a little sketchy, I was "lucky" enough to be an inpatient for ages and got reimbursed basically 100% of what they charged me. Adler/Lanzkowski may take BCBS and they are also very nice guys. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.28.12, 03:34 PM Flag
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Thanks! Very helpful. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.28.12, 03:43 PM Flag
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General Topics 07.28.12, 04:51 PM Flag
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I am using Dr Adler, Kurtz, Kassenoff, McNally. So far I've only met Adler and Kurtz. Pretty good so far. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.31.12, 08:25 AM Flag
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Kurtz, kasenoff are horrible! I would stay away from that practice [ Reply | More
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General Topics 02.27.13, 11:37 AM Flag
[ - ] Anyone have a strong recommendation for a baby nurse, based on personal experience, that you can offer? Is it typical to meet/interview potential baby nurses in NYC? Thanks for your help. 2 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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Expecting 07.27.12, 06:25 AM Flag
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Mine no longer works in NYC, but yes I interviewed a bunch. I felt like the personality fit was the most important to me, bc we are living in a small apt and we'd be on top of each other all day. Also, I felt very vulnerable bc I didn't know what I was doing. So I wanted someone who would be nice. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.27.12, 06:33 AM Flag
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Mine will be free! Tonight is my last night that I will have her all of my friends used her if you will like to place a e mail address? Will be more than happy to send you her info! Best of luck! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.29.12, 02:55 AM Flag
[ - ] advice/suggestions please- I will have two weeks off after having 2nd baby before having to go back to school. not looking for people judging me telling me I am a horrible mom, or advice like "take the semester off" (which is not possible- its either take a year off, or go back, and I cannot take the year off). just tell me- what can I do beforehand for my body, and around the house, to make things easier, and how can I make things easy postpartum. my parents live a couple of miles away, so my mom will be helping out. my husband gets 2 wks of leave, so he will be home too. we have a nanny, older son will be in school from 8-3 every day, and mostly with the nanny. Im hiring a night nurse. have crib, will have clothes, diapers, supplies, etc, beforehand. I can pump, but will also be using formula if necessary. please pile on the tips everyone!! id really appreciate any advice/support I can get. 16 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 07.24.12, 08:59 AM Flag
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lets see. medical school = 60k/yr. plus the cost of me NOT working/bringing in a salary. night nurse=4-5k for two months. nanny 500 per month (6k/yr), have had a nanny for the past 5 yrs. I might not be getting my PhD in math, so Ill let you add that all up. we are talking about 5k (for night nurse) vs the cost of me putting off working for another year of our lives. I asked for no judgement. my goodness. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.24.12, 09:04 AM Flag
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NP: yowza, op, that was a totally innocuous post. For most students, it wouldn't make sense NOT to take the year off; obviously it's different in your particular situation. OR was just curious. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.24.12, 10:50 AM Flag
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NP- did you (or the other poster) miss the part where she said "not looking for people judging .... or advice like take the semester off which is not possible...i cannot take the year off" ? she was asking for practical suggestions, based on a decision she already made. "if you have the $ to hire staff" sounds pretty snide to me. IDK though. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.24.12, 10:53 AM Flag
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OP- thanks. yea. my thoughts exactly :). I specifically asked for ppl to not post their opinions. start another thread criticizing me (as was done in the past when I initially posed the question- can going back to school a few wks postpartum be done). dont pollute my thread with your opinions, I dont care! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.24.12, 12:22 PM Flag
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PP: fair enough! It's so hard to read tone on the internet. Good luck to you, OP. DH is just finishing residency, so I can definitely understand where you're coming from. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.24.12, 12:53 PM Flag
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Make sure nanny is OK doing a bit more work than normal during the day( if she is in fact doing so), so I would discuss expectations (and higher pay) with her. cook a bunch of meals in advance, try not to have a c-section, and put a bunch of things on amazon for fast delivery so you dont waste any time shopping for housekeeping items. I think that's it! GL [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.24.12, 09:02 AM Flag
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^^oh and try and see if you can get a weekend nanny. i found that after I went back to work but DB was still waking thru the night at 3-4 months old, I was BEAT on saturdays/sundays. All I needed was a 4-hr nap in the morning, and it was great when I could get some help at home then. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.24.12, 09:08 AM Flag
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np: if OP's parents are around to help (which she said they were), this is something they could do. take the baby for a few hours so OP can sleep while DH entertains older dc. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.24.12, 10:28 AM Flag
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General Topics 07.24.12, 09:02 AM Flag
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Buy a freezer and make a year's worth of dinners in advance. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.24.12, 09:10 AM Flag
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hire a housekeeper that can cook well [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.24.12, 12:54 PM Flag
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a postpartum doula could help too [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.24.12, 10:20 AM Flag
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hi- OP here- how is this different than a nurse? and what would she do? thanks alot! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.24.12, 10:34 AM Flag
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It sounds like you have a good set up. The biggest thing I can think of (outside of what you've mentioned) is maybe hiring a professional to help thoroughly organize the house? Depends on your means and needs but my sister did this before having her twins (db #3, and #4) and it was a HUGE help. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.24.12, 10:40 AM Flag
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does your nanny work weekends? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.24.12, 03:22 PM Flag
[ - ] So we have our 2.5 year old son in a bedroom that has extra space. We have a small 3rd bedroom / study and are expecting another boy this fall. Would people move the boys in together (after a few months), or use the 3rd room for the new kid? 7 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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Expecting 07.22.12, 07:15 PM Flag
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boys together once the baby is sleeping through the night. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.22.12, 07:17 PM Flag
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OP - thanks for the swift reply. That's my gut also, but what are your key reasons - am curious . . [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.22.12, 07:18 PM Flag
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I think sharing a room is nice for kids. And then you or dh have a place to go to close the door in addition to the bedroom and living room. Better for the parents and better for the kids, imo. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.22.12, 07:21 PM Flag
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Thanks. Tend to agree. And we will still have a place for guests (grandparents) to stay, which is nice. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.22.12, 07:25 PM Flag
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probably keep them together - unless you can put study/desk area in another area of your apartment [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.22.12, 07:20 PM Flag
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We have 2 DDs in a room and they love it. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.22.12, 07:34 PM Flag
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we had a 3 bedroom and put the boys in separate rooms. i just couldnt get over the wakeups. in the summers, tehy sleep together, but i like them being separate during the school year. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.23.12, 06:10 AM Flag
[ - ] Any suggestions for maternity 'active wear' that is actually meant for working out? Looking for shorts in particular. Thanks! 1 Reply [ Reply | Watch | More
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Expecting 07.12.12, 11:11 AM Flag
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Beauty of active wear is that it's all stretchy. I just wore regular workout wear throughout. The pants all stretch and for tops, go to Destination Maternity and buy tanks. You don't need maternity activewear. Waste of money to even look. Especially since you're only really big for maybe 3 months tops. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.12.12, 11:44 AM Flag
[ - ] Are those baby teethers made from cornstarch healthy? They seem better to me than plastic, but my mom is worried about DB eating cornstarch. 5 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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Expecting 07.09.12, 10:49 AM Flag
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he's probably going to be hitting some blow someday so not a big whoop. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.09.12, 10:50 AM Flag
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greeeeat [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.09.12, 11:06 AM Flag
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hahaha good one [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.09.12, 11:23 AM Flag
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get a silicone one [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.09.12, 10:53 AM Flag
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why is that better? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.09.12, 11:06 AM Flag
[ - ] New to NYC, holistically minded natural foods chef. Searching for an Ob or Midwife affiliated with NYU who will support my desires for a natural pregnancy and birth. NYU is best for a variety of logistical reasons. Dr. must take insurance. Early in my pregnancy so I'd like to find a doc asap. 12 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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Expecting 07.08.12, 10:38 AM Flag
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Good luck! Watch out, I went with a practice that supposedly supported natural birth--and my OB genuinely does--but it turned out that not all of the doctors genuinely were supportive. The dr on call when I went into labor wanted nothing to do with the birthing center I was supposed to use. She thought it was a major pain to have patients there. My best advice is to use a practice where ALL the doctors are good. Because you could end up with any of them. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.08.12, 10:43 AM Flag
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nyu is not the best if you want a low-to-no intrrvention birth. St. Lukes Roosevelt is the best option. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.08.12, 10:45 AM Flag
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NP: You can look up the c-section rates and other useful facts by hospital on this website. Click on "view intervention rates" on the lower left. It looks like c-section rates are actually about the same at NYU and SLR (though if you use the birthing center at SLR--and many people get risked out, so don't have the option--I'm sure the c-section rate would be lower). http://thebirthsurvey.org/AboutProject.html [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.08.12, 10:52 AM Flag
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or: I was thinking about the birthing center at SLR. My experience with birthing centers is that you only get transferred if there is a medical issue, and if there is a medical issue, do what the doctors say. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.08.12, 10:59 AM Flag
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No, it's not like that there. There are a number of things that can automatically get you disqualified (your age, your weight gain, if you are a couple days late, if your dr has other patients on the regular floor and doesn't want to go back and forth, if there aren't enough patients to open the center, or if the center is filled). There is a class that you can take (an hour or so) to find out about their regulations. It's not like an independent birthing center. That said, if you make it through all of their requirements it can be a great place! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.08.12, 11:51 AM Flag
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^^I gave birth there, but the vast majority of my friends who tried to use the birthing center didn't actually get to make it inside. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.08.12, 11:52 AM Flag
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I have also heard that this is the case - while you may want to and intend on delivering in the birthing center, a majority end up on the OB floor for various reasons. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.08.12, 12:44 PM Flag
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If you look at "interventions" besides c-sections, they're actually really low. The fact that they have a lot of high-risk mothers skews their c-section rate. I found the nurses there (and that's what's important, really) to be very supportive of natural childbirth. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.08.12, 11:44 AM Flag
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at nyu? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.08.12, 11:53 AM Flag
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NP: Really? An epidural is a medical intervention. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.08.12, 11:56 AM Flag
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have a homebirth, its much better, I've had both [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.08.12, 01:36 PM Flag
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it's much better if you have no complications and don't mind risking a dead/vegetable baby/mom. yay natural death! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.08.12, 05:04 PM Flag
[ - ] 4 months pregnant with 1st DB. I work full time and intend to quit when DB is born. Should I tell my boss now or wait until my state disability runs out during leave? Live in CA. I will leave them in a BIG lurch if I don't tell them soon. I don't make much $$. We could really use every extra penny before I quit. Also, I work for a church, not a big corporation or something. WWYD? 18 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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Expecting 07.05.12, 03:48 PM Flag
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^^ BTW, quitting mostly because we are moving for DH's new job. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.05.12, 03:49 PM Flag
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Is your maternity leave paid? Do you get the state disability if you are not employed? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.05.12, 04:08 PM Flag
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Maternity leave is not paid. I will use up whatever sick and vacation time I have. I do not get disability if I am not employed. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.05.12, 04:16 PM Flag
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Didn't you post about this earlier this week? Just look at what people told you then! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.05.12, 04:12 PM Flag
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Yes, I did post earlier, but with a different question. That was about moving and other stuff. We have decided to move before the baby arrives. The question now is whether or not to milk my maternity leave for all it's worth or be honest and do what is better for the church. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.05.12, 04:18 PM Flag
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You would actually consider milking a church for maternity leave when you intend on quitting? That's disgusting. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.05.12, 04:23 PM Flag
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+ infinity. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.05.12, 04:26 PM Flag
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Isn't disability for workers? If you don't intend to return to work after the birth, I don't believe you are legally or morally allowed to get disability. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.05.12, 04:17 PM Flag
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THIS! I hate when people play games with mat leave/disability when they know they are quitting!!!! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.05.12, 04:20 PM Flag
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Keep your options open. If something happens with DH's job, you might feel differently about continuing to work. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.05.12, 04:19 PM Flag
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you sound really high maintenance/whiny. if you plan on quitting, and it will leave them in a lurch, tell them now! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.05.12, 04:22 PM Flag
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If you intend to quit when baby is born, you just quit, no different than if you said, I am going back to college so I'm quitting. Maternity benefits are for people who are returning to their job. Be honest. Tell them you're pg, that you are planning on taking maternity leave and returning to job. You have no idea what's going to happen to your dh's job, right? So I say proceed as though you will continue working until you are 100% sure you are moving and quitting, and then update them with your plans, but don't lie up until the moment you're holding a 10wk old baby and you call in and say, "Oh by the way I moved hours away, I never intended to come back, but thanks for the mat leave pay." [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.05.12, 04:33 PM Flag
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Do what is right. YOu know in your heart what it is. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.05.12, 04:55 PM Flag
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OP: Thank you for your compassionate response. I am just really afraid I will lose my health insurance before DB is born. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.05.12, 05:07 PM Flag
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NP: Doesn't your DH have insurance? If not, then don't quit. You should not have a baby without without health insurance, and if your DH doesn't have a job that covers the whole family, you can't quit. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.05.12, 05:18 PM Flag
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He is changing jobs and insurance will not start for 3 months. I will be 8 months preg at that time. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.05.12, 05:23 PM Flag
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I think they can pay for cobra - believe it does not matter why you left a company, should still be eligible for cobra [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.05.12, 05:28 PM Flag
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I was in a similar position. I just quit at 5 months along. They paid out my unused vacation. It was best for everyone. I loved having time off before the baby. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.05.12, 05:29 PM Flag
[ - ] high end maternity anyone, that is shippable? during my last pregnancy, both saks and neimanmarcus.com had "maternity" sections. i guess they werent popular enough to keep. where can I conveniently ship stuff to me that isnt crap? I dont need lots of stuff, saved e/t from my last pregnancy, but I do want to update a few items. willing to spend $ on expensive, presentable-looking professional/casual attire, just tell me where! thx! 5 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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Expecting 07.05.12, 09:53 AM Flag
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Isabella Oliver [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.05.12, 09:58 AM Flag
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Veronique Maternity has a small site (store in 90s/madison is better), Rosie Pope, Isabelle Oliver. Veronique store will probably just mail you stuff if they don't have in stock on website. Their pants rock! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.05.12, 10:42 AM Flag
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I think only jeans are being sold in the department stores now - if you can get by with empire waisted things, you can buy regular [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.05.12, 11:15 AM Flag
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maybe nordstrom or pea in the pod? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.05.12, 11:20 AM Flag
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thanks everyone! keep the suggestions coming! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.08.12, 01:47 AM Flag
[ - ] Help. I am 17 weeks pregnant, first DB. I work 1/2 hour away from home where we pay no rent (family arrangement). DH just got new job 1/2hr away from home in other direction. We will need to move to the new town because he will be on call. We want to save $$ in the meantime with me still working and not paying rent. I plan to be SAHM. Now I work for a church, I am planning programs that I will not be here to run in winter. When should I quit and when should we move? Before or after DB? I am intensely frustrated at work because I don't see how I can design a program and then leave. I feel dishonest not telling them so they can get someone new during summer before programs start. Also, I am worried about moving with a newborn. TIA 6 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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Expecting 07.03.12, 02:18 PM Flag
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If you can afford it, just give your notice now. Moving and planning for the new db and supporting your dh in getting ready for his new job is more than enough to keep you busy for the next few months. And now is probably not realistically the time to build savings. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.03.12, 02:26 PM Flag
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OP: Actually, because of the rent-free situation we are able to bank my entire paycheck each month. Going to one income, plus rent is going to be a big big big financial shift for us. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.03.12, 02:30 PM Flag
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np: I don't know what you're looking for. You need to move, but don't want to quit your job because you like the money, but don't want to leave job hanging. There's no perfect solution. Someone is going to get the short end of the stick. Decide if that person is going to be you or the church. Or you can keep working and just take the longer commute. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.03.12, 02:34 PM Flag
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OP: I guess a big part of my question is will it be easier to move in the 3rd trimester or with a weeks-old infant? I think it will be easier pregnant, but DH thinks it will be easier with a baby. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.03.12, 02:40 PM Flag
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Neither will be "easy" and people have done both. If you have a choice it would be much better for you as a family to be settled in to new place before DB is born. Life as you know it, free rent and all, is coming to an end. Accept that and welcome the new adventures. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.03.12, 02:56 PM Flag
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Easier pregnant, for sure. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.03.12, 03:44 PM Flag
[ - ] I'm starting to interview doulas today. What questions MUST I ask? Thanks in advance!!! 3 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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Expecting 07.03.12, 10:52 AM Flag
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Ask why they are useful. I've always wondered this. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.03.12, 12:01 PM Flag
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origin of the word Doula [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.03.12, 12:43 PM Flag
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Here is a start: http://www.dona.org/mothers/how_to_hire_a_doula.php [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.03.12, 04:31 PM Flag
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