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[ - ] 7 weeks into first pregnancy. I had to unbutton my skinny jeans today. Does that seem early? Also had a very dark positive line on the pregnancy test, which I read is a possibly sign of twins. Twins do not run in my family, just wondering why I am showing so quickly. Two people have already asked me! 14 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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Expecting 04.24.12, 03:45 PM Flag
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That is not too early to show. Every body does its own thing for pregnancy. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 04.24.12, 03:46 PM Flag
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bloat. most likely you'll go back to normal around week 11. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 04.24.12, 03:47 PM Flag
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OP: So what can I do about this? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 04.24.12, 04:11 PM Flag
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metamucil or miralax. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 04.24.12, 04:12 PM Flag
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get some comfortable pants-seriously, you can't figure this out? FYI you are only going to get bigger. It is a side effect of being pregnant [ Reply | More
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General Topics 04.24.12, 04:30 PM Flag
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no need to be rude, I was like OP and bloated the first few weeks of pregnancy, but now I'm at 14 weeks and still not showing. I can't imagine buying maternity clothes at this stage. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 04.24.12, 04:42 PM Flag
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Get a belly band - an elastic sleeve thing you put around your waist to hold up your pants while they're unbuttoned. Or wear bigger pants. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 04.24.12, 05:32 PM Flag
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It's definitely bloat. Congrats! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 04.24.12, 04:00 PM Flag
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you might be farther along than you think. this is what happened to me. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 04.24.12, 04:03 PM Flag
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I was insanely bloated with both pgs. Congrats! (with #2 though I was showing around 10 weeks. Insane.) [ Reply | More
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General Topics 04.24.12, 04:27 PM Flag
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That's not a sign of twins. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 04.24.12, 05:10 PM Flag
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If it's really, really dark then you are having triplets. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 04.24.12, 05:10 PM Flag
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I'm also about 7 weeks pregnant (with my second). Tried on a dress I bought in February and it doesn't fit! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 04.24.12, 05:14 PM Flag
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have you gained weight? besides the bloat? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 04.24.12, 05:34 PM Flag
[ - ] Name poll for DS (due 5/15): Luke, Charles/Charlie, Keiren/Keir, Jacek (YAH-tsek), Davis/Davi, Skye, Sullivan... What do you like? 29 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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Expecting 04.23.12, 10:46 AM Flag
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Luke or Charles. That's it for me. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 04.23.12, 10:47 AM Flag
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I have a neighbor named Jacek, pronounced how you have it there. I would've never guessed that's how he spells it! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 04.23.12, 10:54 AM Flag
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Op: how do they like the name?/do you like this person? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 04.23.12, 10:58 AM Flag
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Why? do you expect your child to be just like the other person because they share a name? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 04.23.12, 11:05 AM Flag
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I've never asked how he likes his name.. he's in his early 40s I'd guess - and he is a blast! He has an accent, but not sure where he's from. I would think that growing up here, a kid would get sick of always telling people how to pronounce that.... [ Reply | More
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General Topics 04.23.12, 11:15 AM Flag
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I love the name... But only fear DS will be so tired of mispronunciations that he will not. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 04.23.12, 11:59 AM Flag
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Luke, Sullivan [ Reply | More
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General Topics 04.23.12, 10:51 AM Flag
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Keiran. Best one of the bunch. Keiran Jacek. Great name. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 04.23.12, 10:51 AM Flag
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Keiran Jacek, LOL unless you are very Irish and very Polish. Two names both strongly associated with a particular nationality but different ones...sounds ridiculous to me. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 04.23.12, 11:03 AM Flag
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so? They flow, and she clearly wants to use Jacek in some way. Jacek will sound 'strange' with any non-Polish name anyway. Charles Jacek? Same thing. Keiran is sucha great name. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 04.23.12, 11:06 AM Flag
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Shouldn't it be Kieran? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 04.23.12, 07:41 PM Flag
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Charles [ Reply | More
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General Topics 04.23.12, 10:51 AM Flag
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OP: What about nicknames - any that make you cringe? T! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 04.23.12, 10:56 AM Flag
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Sully is annoying, but I live in Boston. Most of your names a nn resistant. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 04.23.12, 11:04 AM Flag
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Luke or Charles [ Reply | More
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General Topics 04.23.12, 10:57 AM Flag
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Also Sullivan if it is a family name. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 04.23.12, 10:58 AM Flag
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Op: no, just like it... [ Reply | More
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General Topics 04.23.12, 11:45 AM Flag
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Yahtsek? No one will ever get that on the first try. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 04.23.12, 11:00 AM Flag
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Good lord, don't you know anyone Polish? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 04.23.12, 11:04 AM Flag
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np, is that Polish or Czech? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 04.23.12, 11:19 AM Flag
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Polish. The other names are miat [ Reply | More
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General Topics 04.23.12, 11:56 AM Flag
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mostly Irish .. I am 1/2 polish my DH 100 Irish [ Reply | More
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General Topics 04.23.12, 11:57 AM Flag
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But will they remember it? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 04.23.12, 11:45 AM Flag
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I don't get the whole nn thing. It's not like these names are long and difficult to say. Davi as a nn for Davis? If it was something like theophilus then okay.. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 04.23.12, 11:17 AM Flag
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Op: Kids often tend to get nicknames... Even for nmes that aren't easily nn'ed. For instance, our DD also answers to Hopes & Hopey. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 04.23.12, 11:55 AM Flag
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I'm familiar with the concept of a nn. In some cases it just seems to be trying way too hard. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 04.23.12, 11:58 AM Flag
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Jacek!!!! Awesome. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 04.23.12, 12:45 PM Flag
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What about Americanized: (JAY-sek) [ Reply | More
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General Topics 04.23.12, 01:21 PM Flag
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Nn Jace [ Reply | More
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General Topics 04.23.12, 01:23 PM Flag
[ - ] I need some advice. I'm scheduled to have the Nuchal screening test when I'll be 10 1/2 weeks pregnant. If the numbers are bad I won't be able to have CVS done at the same time because I'll be leaving the following day for a 3 week long trip abroad, and they don't want me flying in the days after the CVS. By the time I'm back it'll be too late for CVS. Should I just cancel the Nuchal and do amnio later on? WWYD? 5 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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Expecting 04.20.12, 11:23 AM Flag
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You should weigh your age, previous misses and what your doc thinks. Also need to consider, what would you do if the either tests comes back with a negative responce? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 04.20.12, 11:28 AM Flag
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How old are you? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 04.20.12, 11:32 AM Flag
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I'm 34 yo, this is my first pregnancy. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 04.20.12, 11:34 AM Flag
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Get the nuchal scan done. This will inform you if you want to do the amnio later. If you have good results, you may not want the amnio and you don't want to risk an amnio for no reason. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 04.20.12, 11:38 AM Flag
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BTW, I was in almost the exact same situation as you 2 years ago and never thought twice about the nuchal. Went on a 3 week trip to China the day after our scan. I was 31. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 04.20.12, 11:39 AM Flag
[ - ] Newly pregnant and having my first OB appointment tomorrow. What questions should I ask? 6 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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Expecting 04.18.12, 11:51 AM Flag
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How far along are you? If far enough that the pregnancy is considered viable, then they'll likely give you a packet of info. But if not, here are some basics in case you don't already know the answers. What foods, medicines, etc. should you avoid? Do they recommend a prescription prenatal vitamin? What level of activity and fitness are ok for you? What types of tests and ultrasounds can you expect over the course of the pregnancy? How often will you have appointments? What is your OB's practice when it comes to delivery - will your OB definitely deliver you or do they have a group of doctors that rotate on a schedule? What hospital do they deliver at? Good luck! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 04.18.12, 12:20 PM Flag
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np: you might also want to ask about their approach to things like genetic testing and natural childbirth (e.g. what is their threshold for intervention, csection, etc). You can briefly review your diet and discuss weight gain goals. Obviously, ask questions about any preexisting conditions you have or medications you take (routinely or only on occasion). And find out about their policy for after hours calls. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 04.18.12, 12:52 PM Flag
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thanks- I'm 8 1/2 weeks along. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 04.18.12, 12:32 PM Flag
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c/s rate [ Reply | More
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General Topics 04.18.12, 12:50 PM Flag
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How many scans they do, how often you will see the doc, how aggressive they are about prenatal testing (i was 33 and my OB had a hard time believing i didnt want CVS or Amnio, bc all her other patients always got them. but she didnt push). where she delivers. what happens if you have an after hours emergency, do they have an on call doctor/nurse/paging service? GL! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 04.18.12, 01:46 PM Flag
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OP:very helpful, thanks! am a bit clueless about those things. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 04.18.12, 02:58 PM Flag
[ - ] Anyone own a Stokke Sleepi? I am looking at the Stokke vs. the Oeuf Classic crib. Thoughts? 6 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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Expecting 04.17.12, 01:33 PM Flag
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out of curiosity, are you looking at those because you see a real benefit or are just wanting it because of style? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 04.17.12, 01:51 PM Flag
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Looking at the Stokke because the nursery is a bit small and like the idea of wheeling it from room-to-room. The Oeuf is the #1 pick if we go with a regular crib (style, eco-friendly). [ Reply | More
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General Topics 04.17.12, 02:02 PM Flag
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does it really fit through door though? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 04.17.12, 02:22 PM Flag
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love our stokke cribs. they look great, are small (great for smaller rooms). [ Reply | More
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General Topics 04.17.12, 02:10 PM Flag
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love stokke - I just posted somewhere else. Have been using ours for 5 years (2 dcs) and it is in great shape. Very sturdy and very practical in small spaces. It does fit through our doorways, though we have rarely moved it. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 04.17.12, 02:28 PM Flag
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What kind of dresser do you have with the crib? I wish Stokke would make a matching one! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 04.17.12, 02:36 PM Flag
[ - ] Anyone who has had both a CVS test and an HSG - how do they compare in terms of discomfort/pain? Obviously through the stomach would be quite different, but interested in thoughts on that type, too... 1 Reply [ Reply | Watch | More
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Expecting 04.16.12, 05:11 PM Flag
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I had both. They're not great but they're not horrible. Very fast and you just forget about it. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 04.16.12, 05:12 PM Flag
[ - ] Is it rude to ask friends "are you pregnant"? I am just six weeks and will likely announce at end of first tri. Friends (close and distant) keep asking me and I am beginning to think maybe I am being overly sensitive? Talk to me...let me hear what others think. 25 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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Expecting 04.13.12, 10:02 PM Flag
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If they know you are trying, it's not rude. If they think you are fat... [ Reply | More
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General Topics 04.13.12, 11:21 PM Flag
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I would ESPESCIALLY not ask someone who I know is trying bc that can be so stressful for them if they've been trying for a while. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 04.14.12, 05:28 AM Flag
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then they should not be telling people they are trying if they do not want to be asked or to talk about it - I have friends that would be offended if you did not ask - so damned if you do and damned if you dont [ Reply | More
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General Topics 04.14.12, 05:33 AM Flag
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Exactly. These people are friends you've chosen to disclose this aspect of your life to. If you don't want people to ask don't tell them. If you are indeed fat, their rudeness is the awakening you obviously need. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 04.14.12, 12:38 PM Flag
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I never chose to disclose anything. They nosily asked when are you having kids....are you trying? How long have you been trying? Are you pregnant? ("uh no")...are you sure you're not pregnant and just not telling us? These are all verbatim questions, fyi [ Reply | More
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General Topics 04.14.12, 09:03 PM Flag
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wow, you have rude friends - only the friends I have mentioned ttc to have ever asked me how it is going [ Reply | More
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General Topics 04.15.12, 05:13 AM Flag
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I think I do, unfortunately. And what if I told you one friend asked me if I was pregnant over brunch... A brunch where they decided to formally announce THEIR pregnancy? True story. Happened last month and I still haven't been able to get this bad taste out of my month. Trying not to let it get to me. Dh keeps encouraging me to stay happy and relaxed. :) he's the best. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 04.15.12, 09:57 PM Flag
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i think your friends are super sensitive. not being asked if they are trying or if they are pregnant? i mean grow up. that's like getting upset if your friend doesn't notice you lost weight or have better skin (after some procedure)? those people are just crying for attention. i feel bad for you having friends like that. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 04.16.12, 03:07 PM Flag
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OP here: exactly. I agree. It blows my mind grown adults r so clueless and lack self awareness. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 04.14.12, 08:47 PM Flag
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I was agreeing with someone's response above but dont agree with those that say the nosey ones r not in the wrong. They ARE wrong. And just to b clear, I never told them we were trying. They again asked me!,, and to let you know where my frustration comes from, I tell them I am not pregnant cuz I am not ready to announce) buy their response is "c'mon... U r gregnant". So they won't even give me a chance to keep my pregnancy under wraps. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 04.14.12, 08:51 PM Flag
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Is it rude to ask a friend "Are you pregnant?"...i dunno, rude is a strong word but it's a little tactless and you're being a little insensitive. I mean, there's a reason why they haven't told you yet, so why would you ask them?? Most people don't actually confirm or make the official announcement until 13 weeks around first trimester. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.04.12, 01:08 PM Flag
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as a blanket statement, it is rude. but if you are say a big drinker and you are at dinner and opt not to drink at all it's a big flag. order a glass of wine and sip. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 04.13.12, 11:47 PM Flag
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Buy my desire to have a healthy baby (by not drinking) outweighs my desire to cater to their immature and unaware questions/comments about my pregnancy) [ Reply | More
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General Topics 04.14.12, 11:22 PM Flag
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I've been in the same position twice, and except for mt BFF whom I talk to daily about evrthg, I always find this annoying. It puts the person in a position of having to choose between telling you smthg that they obviously don't want to share with you (or else they would) or lying. I never ask ppl this if I suspect it... It's so personal and everyone knows that it's common not to share until 12 weeks so why pry? So annoying. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 04.14.12, 05:26 AM Flag
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Op: Agree. It's odd though..how can there be people who don't understand this common knowledge? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 04.15.12, 10:05 PM Flag
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Not to scare you, because this won't happen to you, but I miscarried at 7 weeks and since then several people have asked me when I'm having a baby or hinting that they think I'm pregnant. I had told a few very close friends, basically only people who I'd want support from if something went wrong. Being asked about it by anyone else feels intrusive. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 04.14.12, 05:50 AM Flag
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Op: sorry to hear. But that reminds me if something. Miscarriages r so common when ttc. So asking someone if they r prego is doubly rude and insensitive because who knows, the person being asked if they are pregnant could have suffered or is suffering from a miscarriage recently. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 04.15.12, 10:09 PM Flag
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I would like a good answer for this too. Have been in the position where I was asked when no fetal heartbeat and waiting for scheduled D&C, so yes I guess technically I was still pg but since it was dead then no, and I don't want to discuss, and it's really none or your business anyway. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 04.14.12, 12:28 PM Flag
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If you told them that you were trying, then it's not surprising they're asking you. In that case, just say, "No, still trying." If you haven't told them you were TTC, just say, "No, but hopefully someday." [ Reply | More
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General Topics 04.14.12, 03:10 PM Flag
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I feel like the majority here agree that you shouldn't ask if your friend is pregs. Just google it and you'll get ur answer. And see my post earlier... I never announced to anyone I was trying. They again ASKED me! Bottom line is pregnancy is personal..there are ups and downs with the journey so as a general rule, you should respect privacy. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 04.14.12, 08:59 PM Flag
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OR: Sure, of course you shouldn't ask if someone's PG. However, if you tell people you're TTC, you're opening a door. They understandably will think that it's an acceptable conversation to have, since you started it. That's why DH and I never told anyone either time. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 04.15.12, 06:52 AM Flag
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Focus on that it is nice that they care and want to share your joy, but protect your privacy. A good answer would be,"I'll let you know when I am" - I had a few miscarriages and did not discuss my pregnancies until I was ready to do so. I would only tell people I would know that I would lean on if I had a miscarriage. I didn't even tell my Mom until pretty far along for a few of my pregnancies. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 04.14.12, 08:58 PM Flag
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Rude may be a slightly strong word but it's a known fact that it's incredibly IMPOLITE. Why else would there be such a things as "couples announcing"? Couples always collectively decide when to make the big announcement so why would you want to beat them to it and ask them to confirm your suspicions? It's like you're ruining their chance to make that special announcement. Not sure why you are posting this though..you can just google it and you'll get your answer. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 04.19.12, 01:41 PM Flag
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Yes it's rude. Such a no brainer. I had one friend defend herself by saying " but I'm close to her...why can't I ask?". And my response was "well if she WANTED you to know, she would have told you". [ Reply | More
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General Topics 04.22.12, 08:19 PM Flag
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RUDE. Next question? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 04.28.12, 08:08 AM Flag
[ - ] What is the best national baby registry? Buy Buy Baby? Babies R Us? Or should I just go with Amazon? Do you get any perks with certain registries? First DB, will need lots of stuff, prefer natural/organic. 4 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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Expecting 04.10.12, 04:14 PM Flag
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If you want natural/organic why not ask for used items? Better for the environment and also the products have had time to off-gas. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 04.10.12, 04:15 PM Flag
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a few yrs ago, buybuybaby had fewer than 10 stores located in the north east only. check where there locations are. They have a more upscale selection than babies r us. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 04.10.12, 04:16 PM Flag
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OP: We have BBB in California. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 04.10.12, 04:18 PM Flag
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OP: Also, what about Diapers.com or BabyEarth.com? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 04.10.12, 04:18 PM Flag
[ - ] Nicknames for Elizabeth? I don't like Liz or Beth derivatives. Middle name Ann. 50 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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Expecting 04.10.12, 03:47 PM Flag
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Libby, buy it might read as Southern. Eliza. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 04.10.12, 03:47 PM Flag
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PS: I would give her a more exciting middle name than Ann, in case when she gets older she wants to live on the wild side or something. There's nothing wrong with Elizabeth but you might want to balance it with something more unique. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 04.10.12, 03:48 PM Flag
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OP: Ann is a family name. I like Eliza, but I'm afraid people will shorten it further to Liza. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 04.10.12, 03:50 PM Flag
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DD is Elizabeth Ann - named after both her grandmothers. Would have reversed it but dh didn't like it. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 04.10.12, 04:21 PM Flag
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Love Libby, but I also like Lizzie. Betsy? Beth is a bit Little Women, frail flower for me. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 04.10.12, 04:18 PM Flag
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Betts, like on Mad Men? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 04.10.12, 03:48 PM Flag
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Stick with Elizabeth [ Reply | More
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General Topics 04.10.12, 03:48 PM Flag
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Liza, Lisa, Betsy, Bettie, E, etta [ Reply | More
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General Topics 04.10.12, 03:48 PM Flag
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Betta [ Reply | More
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General Topics 04.10.12, 03:50 PM Flag
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OP: I like Betsy, but there is a cousin in the family named Betsy. Does it matter? Like Betty too, but DH does not. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 04.10.12, 03:51 PM Flag
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I love Betsy. I don't know any who are young girls. Charming. Also, Bonnie. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 04.10.12, 03:52 PM Flag
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OP: Is Bonnie a nickname for Elizabeth? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 04.10.12, 03:54 PM Flag
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The beauty of both Bonnie and Elizabeth is that you can connect almost anything to either of them. Bonnie is like Daisy in that way, or like Skip for a boy of any name, just roughly meaning junior. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 04.10.12, 04:01 PM Flag
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NP: Daisy is a nickname for Margaret. I [ Reply | More
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General Topics 04.10.12, 04:45 PM Flag
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Daisy is a nickname for anything in my book. I would have totally nicknamed a dd Daisy (an issue here since we were giving a cumbersome last name as a first name) if it did not actually have an unfortunate sounding result with our last name. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 04.10.12, 05:01 PM Flag
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OP: How can something be a nickname for anything? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 04.10.12, 05:54 PM Flag
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Eli. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 04.10.12, 03:50 PM Flag
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OP: Eli pronounced like in the Bible or Ellie? I could go for Ellie. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 04.10.12, 03:52 PM Flag
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Ellie. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 04.10.12, 03:56 PM Flag
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I know a couple who did this! They live in Texas and call her "Miss Ellie" ... She is three. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 04.10.12, 04:03 PM Flag
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Lilibet ... Queen elizabeth's childhood nickname. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 04.10.12, 03:50 PM Flag
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this!!!! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 04.10.12, 05:41 PM Flag
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Elle [ Reply | More
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General Topics 04.10.12, 03:53 PM Flag
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I love Libby but I know a girl named Elizabeth who goes by Bess. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 04.10.12, 03:53 PM Flag
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OP: My understanding is that names with 3 or more syllables almost always get shortened to 2 anyway, so I am thinking it is better to start off with a good 2 syllable nickname so she doesn't get stuck with something. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 04.10.12, 03:53 PM Flag
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You don't know anyone who goes by Elizabeth? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 04.10.12, 03:54 PM Flag
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OP: I think I've known one young Elizabeth who went by Elizabeth, but some people called her whatever they wanted to shorten it. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 04.10.12, 03:56 PM Flag
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Ella, Ellie, Betta [ Reply | More
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General Topics 04.10.12, 03:59 PM Flag
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I am one. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 04.10.12, 03:58 PM Flag
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Birdie is the best nn [ Reply | More
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General Topics 04.10.12, 04:06 PM Flag
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Birdie is charming !!! But daring. I would admire the mom who has the confidence to go there, because you have to really own that. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 04.10.12, 04:10 PM Flag
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I'm an Elizabeth. I would have turned into a Lizzie (Borden) if my mom had inflicted "Birdie" on me. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 04.10.12, 04:25 PM Flag
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OP: Birdie seems tough after age 10. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 04.10.12, 05:12 PM Flag
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What about Zia or just Z? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 04.10.12, 04:15 PM Flag
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Lisi [ Reply | More
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General Topics 04.10.12, 04:28 PM Flag
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Pronounced leesee [ Reply | More
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General Topics 04.10.12, 04:29 PM Flag
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Iza. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 04.10.12, 04:43 PM Flag
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OP: Yes! Love. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 04.10.12, 05:11 PM Flag
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This reminds me I knew an Elizabeth nicknma [ Reply | More
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General Topics 04.10.12, 04:56 PM Flag
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- sorry, nicknamed Liese, also pronounced Leesee [ Reply | More
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General Topics 04.10.12, 04:57 PM Flag
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Re-think Liz (maybe Lizzy?). I am an Elizabeth, called Betsy and I really wish I was a Liz, or a Beth...something more closely associated with Elizabeth. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 04.10.12, 05:28 PM Flag
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OP: Liz sounds bleh to me. Like people my mom's age are Liz. 50+. Betsy is old-fashioned in a cute way. Why didn't you like Betsy? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 04.10.12, 05:53 PM Flag
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Lili, Betty, Liz are probably your best options. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 04.10.12, 05:45 PM Flag
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Please go with Betsy - who cares about the cousin. it's a great name. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 04.10.12, 06:20 PM Flag
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Millie [ Reply | More
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General Topics 04.10.12, 06:29 PM Flag
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Bettina, Betty Ann [ Reply | More
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General Topics 04.10.12, 06:42 PM Flag
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BeBe Anderson's real name is Elizabeth so I assume this is a nn in whatever Nordic country she comes from [ Reply | More
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General Topics 04.10.12, 07:36 PM Flag
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My niece is Elizabeth and while the family calls her little nicknames, she is Elizabeth to friends and at school. I love the name and hate the nicknames. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 04.10.12, 07:52 PM Flag
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Busy or Bizzie [ Reply | More
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General Topics 04.10.12, 08:15 PM Flag
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Sorry,late arrival...but did anyone suggest Lissie? (Rhymes with Kissee) [ Reply | More
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General Topics 04.10.12, 08:22 PM Flag
[ - ] I am ex[pecting DB this summer. will want a nanny to start when db is 3-4 wks so i can spend time with them both. suggestions on payrate for FT (i will eventually WOH) 50 hours a week. also, how can i find a good nanny? this is NYC 6 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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Expecting 04.09.12, 01:38 PM Flag
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I pay $825/hr for 50 hours, one DB, but that might be on the higher end. I'd expect to pay $13-16/hour. Check out park slope parents nanny survey. Look at baby bites nanny exchange. Pre-screen applications on the phone to save yourself interviewing time. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 04.09.12, 01:43 PM Flag
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it sounds a bit high, but will look at resources you suggested. may i ask if your nanny has any other household responsibilities [ Reply | More
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General Topics 04.09.12, 01:44 PM Flag
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All things child related (cook for child, child's laundry and room clean), general tidiness around the house (but have a housekeeper for true cleaning). [ Reply | More
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General Topics 04.09.12, 01:46 PM Flag
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PS. I found I got what I paid for. There were definitely nannies willing to work for less, but I wanted someone with a long history with another family, thus was looking for a bit more pay as she'd received raises over the years. Clearly we didn't want to start her at such a high level that she'd previously been at, but did compromise for a bit higher rate to find a long-term keeper. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 04.09.12, 01:48 PM Flag
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do you have a camera? i assume you WOTH [ Reply | More
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General Topics 04.09.12, 01:56 PM Flag
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No camera. I wanted one at first but realized if you have the right nanny you will just trust her. Plus other "checks" like doorman, dog walker, housekeeper who would hopefully mention something if something were amiss. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 04.09.12, 02:03 PM Flag
[ - ] Posted yesterday about being 7 wks pregnant and worried about spotting. You were all so kind to me. Unfortunately there was no more heartbeat on the ultrasound when we went in today. The dr was very supportive and assures us that we will be able to conceive a healthy pregnancy next time. 13 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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Expecting 04.09.12, 10:15 AM Flag
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So, so sorry to hear that. Take good care of yourself and take it easy for a few days. And best wishes for another healthy pregnancy. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 04.09.12, 10:17 AM Flag
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I'm so sorry. I've been there and it sucks. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 04.09.12, 10:18 AM Flag
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+1. Be gentle with yourself. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 04.09.12, 10:47 AM Flag
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So sorry. Do whatever makes you feel better (take a nap, go to a movie, eat a pizza, whatever works) [ Reply | More
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General Topics 04.09.12, 10:19 AM Flag
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Very sorry about that, I've also been there and it was disappointing but it happens very frequently in the first trimester. Usually you do fine next time. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 04.09.12, 10:22 AM Flag
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sending good thoughts your way. hang in there. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 04.09.12, 10:25 AM Flag
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I'm so sorry. Been there 3x, and there is really nothing I can say to make it better. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 04.09.12, 10:25 AM Flag
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so sorry op [ Reply | More
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General Topics 04.09.12, 10:50 AM Flag
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I am so sorry. I have been there and have two healthy kids. Best of luck and take it easy right now. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 04.09.12, 10:56 AM Flag
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Been there. Such a bummer. 3 kids now. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 04.09.12, 10:58 AM Flag
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Oh I'm so very sorry to hear this. Best wishes. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 04.09.12, 11:01 AM Flag
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If there is a chromosomal abnormality, it is quite common for the fetus hb to stop by week 6 or 7. Sorry for your loss. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 04.09.12, 12:17 PM Flag
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Thanks everyone. We're sad, but agree - better this way than to keep carrying a pregnancy that will ultimately not be viable. Hoping to try again after my body clears this. I know it's common and many couples go through this (my own parents included, before they had me). I've put all my books etc. in a bag so they're ready for me when I do conceive again, and made a little bag with our positive HPTs and ultrasound photo and my journal pages, so I have a little memento of my first pregnancy. Thanks for all your support. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 04.09.12, 12:50 PM Flag
[ - ] Are there any websites with reliable advice on nutrition during pregnancy? Or maybe a book? I have ordered Nina Planck's Real Food for Mother and Baby and some general pregnancy books so far. 6 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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Expecting 04.04.12, 09:17 AM Flag
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Quite honestly, all you need to do is to eat healthily and avoid specific foods (that are be specified in most pregnancy books). You don't need to increase your caloric intake by a lot - your doctor will tell you how much based upon your personal stats, but it is surprisingly little. GL! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 04.04.12, 09:22 AM Flag
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I agree. Just try and eat 3 healthy meals a day with plenty of fruit and veg and make sure meat, fish and eggs are cooked right through. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 04.04.12, 09:32 AM Flag
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www.commonsense.com [ Reply | More
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General Topics 04.04.12, 09:40 AM Flag
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OP: Is this really a stupid question? It seems reasonable for a first-time mom to research what she should eat. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 04.04.12, 09:52 AM Flag
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It's not stupid. I think you are just getting the benefit of other people's experience as once you've had your first you realized all the food directions are over hyped. Unless you're eating raw eggs and sushi every day then you'll probably be fine with most foods, just try and keep it healthy. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 04.04.12, 11:13 AM Flag
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"I'm Pregnant, Now What Do I Eat?" is written by a wife and husband - wife is a dr, husband a chef. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 04.04.12, 07:28 PM Flag
[ - ] What books would you recommend to a first-time mom? Which popular books are not worth buying? 20 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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Expecting 04.01.12, 04:11 PM Flag
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the what to expect books [ Reply | More
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General Topics 04.01.12, 04:12 PM Flag
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these are in the NOT worth buying category. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 04.01.12, 04:14 PM Flag
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well, that is your opinion, I loved them [ Reply | More
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General Topics 04.01.12, 04:15 PM Flag
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why? Honest question. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 04.01.12, 04:17 PM Flag
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I thought it had a lot of good information. I didn't agree with everything, but I wouldn't with any book. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 04.01.12, 04:21 PM Flag
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the tone didn't bother you? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 04.01.12, 04:22 PM Flag
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no, what do you mean? not being sarcastic, I really didn't detect a tone. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 04.01.12, 04:24 PM Flag
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I hated What to Expect. Filled with fear-mongering and you-better-eat-healthy diet tips [ Reply | More
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General Topics 04.01.12, 04:13 PM Flag
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low-fat cheese anyone? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 04.01.12, 04:15 PM Flag
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I like the contented baby book and weisbluth's happy sleep habits [ Reply | More
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General Topics 04.01.12, 04:15 PM Flag
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I found the mayo clinic book most helpful during pregnancy, but honestly, I found watching episodes of A Baby Story most helpful for the labor and delivery part! Once db was here, Weisbluth was a great help. Even if you don't want to CIO, it's great for observing nap patterns, etc. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 04.01.12, 04:18 PM Flag
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+1 weissbluth's book. very helpful. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 04.01.12, 05:44 PM Flag
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I thought the Positive Discipline book was dumb. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 04.01.12, 04:18 PM Flag
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The Poo Bomb. Hilarious [ Reply | More
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General Topics 04.01.12, 04:34 PM Flag
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The one by Paul Reiser about Dads. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 04.01.12, 04:58 PM Flag
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You don't need a book. Trust your instincts, love your kids, pay attention to them, lead by example. It's not difficult. People make it very difficult. Remember to pay attention to your marriage and to talk! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 04.01.12, 05:09 PM Flag
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I'm pretty low-key and have always used books. They're not always how-tos, they're often just informational, i.e. "What the hell do I do if my kid pees in his eye?" Instinct doesn't necessarily walk you through this stuff. Always liked Brazelton. I liked the What to Expect series because I liked how it was laid out. As to sleep, I loved Happiest Baby on the Block. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 04.02.12, 07:23 AM Flag
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I'd recommend: Your Pregnancy Week by Week, Girlfriend's Guide to Pregnancy, Heading Home with Your Newborn. I'd skip: The Womanly Art of Breastfeeding. I learned enough through Heading Home and KellyMom.com [ Reply | More
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General Topics 04.01.12, 05:31 PM Flag
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Heading home with your newborn was pretty good. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 04.01.12, 07:12 PM Flag
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Baby 411 [ Reply | More
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General Topics 04.01.12, 07:52 PM Flag
[ - ] Newly pregnant and a little worried about my child care situation. DH currently freelances and makes good money when he can get work, but work isn't as regular as we'd like. He'd love to find full time permanent work but hasn't had luck for the past 2 years in this economy. I'm fulltime and we get benefits from my job, and I feel like I can't leave to be a SAHM because we. 19 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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Expecting 03.30.12, 07:19 AM Flag
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^depend on stability of my income. Always thought that my parents would want to watch our DC every once in a while. However, my best friend has a sweet, easy 7 month old and my mom babysat for a day, and found it stressful and overwhelming. The baby is at my mom's house again today and my mom called to make sure I can come over and help. Suddenly realizing that although I have a GREAT mom, she's not going to be the help I thought she was. Is she just out of practice? Will it be different when it's her own grandchild? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 03.30.12, 07:21 AM Flag
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Probably not. It sounds like your DH needs to step up and take care of the child. Why can't you have DH care for the baby 3 days a week and put them in daycare for the other 2? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 03.30.12, 07:25 AM Flag
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I'm a bit confused about your mom's role here. If you were a SAHM, why would you be terribly concerned about your childcare set-up. And if you were a WOHM, you'd need your mom to watch db more than "every once in a while". Fwiw, I live far from my mom, but when I visit, she doesn't help with the kids. Eldest is 10, and I can think of one occasion when my mother babysat (5 years ago after both kids were in bed--dh and I went out for 2 hours). [ Reply | More
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General Topics 03.30.12, 07:27 AM Flag
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Actually, I was mainly hoping she'd be able to help me get the hang of things when DB is newborn, and then spend occasional time with DB if we need to go out or if childcare falls through or something like that. I lived right upstairs from my grandmother and so we never had babysitters, but I guess that's when we were older, not infants. I didn't expect my mom to be so jittery around babies and now I'm thinking I may not be able to ask her to help out even occasionally. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 03.30.12, 08:55 AM Flag
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Have you asked her if she wants to take care of your child on a regular basis? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 03.30.12, 07:29 AM Flag
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No, I wouldn't presume. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 03.30.12, 08:56 AM Flag
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sahd [ Reply | More
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General Topics 03.30.12, 07:25 AM Flag
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Our situation was similar. DH stayed with DC, as he could, depending on work load, and we hired a neighbor to watch DB when he was on deadline, etc. Worked very well for us until DC started school and then we used afterschool daycare. As long as you both are on board and respectful of one anothers roles and see yourselves as a team of parents, this works great. My DH was great with our kids and they really benefitted from having a actively parenting father. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 03.30.12, 07:38 AM Flag
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We might try something like this, thanks. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 03.30.12, 05:24 PM Flag
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DH should take care of DB for the first year. Then find PT nanny or daycare. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 03.30.12, 07:39 AM Flag
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OP, where are you? Have you asked your mom if she wants to be as involved in child rearing as you want her to or were you making assumptions she would just do it/ [ Reply | More
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General Topics 03.30.12, 07:56 AM Flag
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I'm in NYC. Parents live across the river, about 10 mins away. I haven't talked to her about how involved she wants to be - as I mentioned above, my grandmother (her mother) lived downstairs from us, so I had a very close relationship with my grandma and she was a big part of caring for us. I guess I did assume that my mom would want to do similarly, given that she emulates my grandma's example in every other way and has always expressed a wish to have grandkids. But if she's too nervous around babies, it'll have to wait until DCs are older. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 03.30.12, 08:58 AM Flag
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Isn't that something you think about before getting pregnant? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 03.30.12, 08:00 AM Flag
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Right. No one's allowed to have DC until they have every detail of childcare figured out. And if DH loses his job or your circumstances change, guess you're SOL. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 03.30.12, 08:50 AM Flag
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F off. OP: this is a common conundrum amongst my social circle, self included. I can tell you that the most well intentioned grandparents can't care for dc's the way they would like to (or you'd like them to) in many cases, bc it's just too physically exhausting. I'd look into sitters or daycare (you'd be surprised--they are not as scary as you'd imagine and sitters often become just like family!). Dh should work. You'll need the income. GL [ Reply | More
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General Topics 03.30.12, 09:20 AM Flag
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^^^one last thing, and I hope you don't get offended, but think long and hard about some of these suggestions that dh be a SAHD. No matter what you two think you are prepared for in terms of parental/marital dynamics, he could end up resenting this role and feel emasculated, you'll secretly resent his closeness to db. I've seen it happen. And if you for whatever reason separate one day, a SAHD is far more likely to have leg up on shared physical custody. Just want to make sure you're fully aware. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 03.30.12, 09:23 AM Flag
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Thanks, appreciate the advice. You're right, it is physically exhausting to care for very little ones. My parents are currently healthy and young for their ages, but I know I can't expect them to have the stamina. I know my DH is going to be great with the baby, but I don't know that he desires the role of SAHD - if anything he'll feel guilty about not bringing in income, and he's convinced I'm going to be a better parent because I work with kids as part of my job. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 03.30.12, 05:24 PM Flag
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speak to your mom before you pass judgement, maybe your mom just wanted your company or something or felt because it was your friends baby you might want to be there too and just used it as an excuse (no idea, just projecting) - just talk to her [ Reply | More
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General Topics 03.30.12, 05:49 PM Flag
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Yeah. After spending the day with her, I now think it was a combination of feeling out of practice, being upset at the circumstances (we are babysitting bc there was a tragic death in my friend's family) and not feeling that she had the right paraphernalia to care for the baby by herself, i.e. no high chair, limited diapers and food and toys, lack of a routine. I did actually want to be there, just misunderstood the source of the anxiety a bit. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 03.30.12, 06:35 PM Flag
[ - ] I can only imagine how many times this topic has been covered here, BUT - I am new to Park Slope, and pregnant for the first. I haven't a clue about hospitals or OBs here, and am desperate for recs. Is New York Methodist considered a good hospital? And if so, can someone recommend an OB there? I have received one rec for Dr. Anita Lasala at Columbia Presbyterian, but that sure is far uptown. Is it worth the trek? Any help GREATLY appreciated!! Thank you!!! 4 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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Expecting 03.29.12, 07:46 AM Flag
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Post on PSP if you can, but I'd say Methodist is not well-loved. Most slopers go to Manhattan. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 03.29.12, 08:11 AM Flag
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Thanks for taking the time to reply. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 03.29.12, 08:23 AM Flag
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I lived in Park Slope for many years and the Park Slope Parents website is indeed a good resource. It has a large recommendations section. I hear it is making a great effort to improve but no, New York Methodist is not considered a particularly good hospital. My friend did not have a good birth experience at Long Island College Hospital, and it's struggling anyway. I had both my babies in Manhattan, at NYU Downtown and NYU Langone respectively. For one thing, I was working in Manhattan and so I would go to appointments on lunch hours. For another, that was where my long-time and beloved OB/GYN was affiliated. All my Brooklyn friends had their babies in Manhattan but not as far uptown at Columbia Presbyterian. Park Slope does abound with highly recommended midwives, doulas, lactation consultants, prenatal yoga and postnatal yoga and prenatal and postnatal pretty much everything you can think of. I also hear that Maimonides is improving rapidly but don't know anyone who has had a baby there. It has a rep as more of a cancer hospital, I believe. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 03.29.12, 09:38 AM Flag
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Thank you very much for your reply! I really appreciate it. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 04.01.12, 03:52 PM Flag
[ - ] Thoughts on Beth Israel Maternity Ward? My current OB/GYN is affiliated with Beth Israel (Dr Lucy Gade) but I have an appointment with another doctor (Dr Waterstone) at Cornell. I love Gade but have serious concerns about Beth Israel. Does anyone have any feedback or comments or experience?? 3 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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Expecting 03.27.12, 11:07 AM Flag
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They were hard-ass about not letting me eat or drink for AGES, even fought me about the ice chips. 23 hours of labor starting late at night, hours after my last meal, so nearly 30 hours with nothing. Still convinced that near starvation is the main reason milk didn't come in. They were otherwise competent, didn't push c-sec despite my pre-eclampsia and prolonged labor. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 03.27.12, 11:15 AM Flag
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Dr Waterstone was not my ob but she delivered my dc at Cornell. For the short time I was her patient she seemed good. She dealt with what appeared to be a bad situation with my delivery calmly and confidently, thankfully db was ok. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 03.27.12, 11:23 AM Flag
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They were AMAZING! I had my son there, they saved his life. I recommended them to a friend and she had a wonderful experience there as well, she raved about them endlessly and was very happy with her choice. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 03.27.12, 11:40 AM Flag
[ - ] Prettiest name/most interesting name you have NEVER heard before: I will start: Bretta. 7 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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Expecting 03.25.12, 08:18 AM Flag
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Gracelyn [ Reply | More
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General Topics 03.25.12, 08:20 AM Flag
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Della [ Reply | More
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General Topics 03.25.12, 08:21 AM Flag
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Emblyn. It was the name of an ancestor of mine born in the 1500s in England. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 03.25.12, 08:39 AM Flag
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You mean the cop of tv played by Robert Blake? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 03.25.12, 09:26 AM Flag
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LOL!!! Thinking the same thing or Britta the water filter. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 03.25.12, 09:43 AM Flag
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I knew a girl named britta, also there's a character on Community with that name [ Reply | More
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General Topics 03.25.12, 01:16 PM Flag
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Sentra [ Reply | More
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