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09.18.13, 01:59 AM General Topics
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Roll Call - Age/City/HHI. I'll start 36/NYC/300K [ Reply | Watch | Flag ]
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30/nyc/375 (300 me, 75 dh) [ Reply | More ]
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What do you each do? [ Reply | More ]
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Lawyers. Me biglaw, him public interest. [ Reply | More ]
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Are you a 5th year? I thought big law made more $. I don't feel so bad being inhouse now. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.18.13, 01:58 AM Flag
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I wish. Coming on 8th year. [ Reply | More ]
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How are you only 30? [ Reply | More ]
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I am. Can't say more or may out myself [ Reply | More ]
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Yeah, you're the girl who skipped law school? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.18.13, 02:12 AM Flag
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No. Foreign qualified. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.18.13, 02:13 AM Flag
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Ive also known two other American women who came in very young. Both skipped a year of primary school then did college in 3 years [ Reply | More ]
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Partner? [ Reply | More ]
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Trying. Hard as a woman, especially as a mother. We'll see. At least a couple of years away yet unfortunately. Our track is really stretching out there.. [ Reply | More ]
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NP - I'm a 6th year at biglaw and base is $250K, bonus around 30K. What do you make inhouse? [ Reply | More ]
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43/OH/220k (130 DH, 90 me), 2 kids [ Reply | More ]
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34/NYC/700k [ Reply | More ]
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Split? [ Reply | More ]
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130k me; DH the rest [ Reply | More ]
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what does dh do? $570k is a lot for a 34 year old [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.18.13, 02:16 AM Flag
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More interesting question - will you still work when you have kids? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.18.13, 02:10 AM Flag
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Yes. We only want one and I plan to work. That said I left finance for less stressful better hours job [ Reply | More ]
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Finance [ Reply | More ]
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50/NYC/600k (400k me, 200k DH) [ Reply | More ]
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How old are your kids [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.18.13, 02:07 AM Flag
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12 & 10...why? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.18.13, 01:59 AM Flag
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Like to see other women who are able to make a career work with kids [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.18.13, 02:10 AM Flag
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Oh good. Thought you might be DH ;-) [ Reply | More ]
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Me too! You go, 50 y/o OP! [ Reply | More ]
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ty :-) [ Reply | More ]
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What job pays you 400K????????!!!!!!?!?!?!?!?!?? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.18.13, 02:14 AM Flag
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????!!!!!?????!!!!whaa? Whaaat jooob can pay that much? Never heard of such rich peoples!!!#^*'m [ Reply | More ]
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31/nyc/3.1 [ Reply | More ]
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Let's add number of kids [ Reply | More ]
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33/NYC/2.8mm (all dh I sah) [ Reply | More ]
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How old is dh [ Reply | More ]
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32 [ Reply | More ]
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Lucky gal [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.18.13, 02:16 AM Flag
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Can you tell us his field? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.18.13, 02:07 AM Flag
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I'm guessing hedge fund, unless it is the actor's wife mom again. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.18.13, 02:20 AM Flag
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Let me guess - HF? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.18.13, 02:11 AM Flag
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Big bank [ Reply | More ]
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Finance [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.18.13, 02:14 AM Flag
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43, Detroit area, 150K [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.18.13, 02:08 AM Flag
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^that's 100something DH, 50 me. Pretty pathetic huh? Nonprofit work: I don't recommend it. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.18.13, 02:10 AM Flag
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Not at all. Six figures in Detroit probably means a much better standard of living than some of us in NYC. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.18.13, 02:15 AM Flag
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Maybe, we do OK ... in a nice suburb, excellent public schools. Still, it's not anything like what others are listing. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.18.13, 02:20 AM Flag
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Money doesn't get that far in the locations where we live...trust me! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.18.13, 02:14 AM Flag
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Not pathetic at all and probably goes a lot further in Detroit versus NYC. [ Reply | More ]
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36/richmond, va/1.5 mm [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.18.13, 01:59 AM Flag
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You must live like a Queen earning that in VA! [ Reply | More ]
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np. I am retired but also in Virginia. DH continues to work. Not sure what I want to do anymore. Just enjoying my babies for now. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.18.13, 02:19 AM Flag
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"Retired"?? You are 36...let's be honest, you quit. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.18.13, 02:25 AM Flag
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But I made enough money that I never have to work again, if I don't want to. Isn't that how we describe retirement. I am a NP. I am a bit older than 36. Early 40's. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.18.13, 03:06 AM Flag
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37/Chicago/$450k/ pregnant no kids yet [ Reply | More ]
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Congrats :-) [ Reply | More ]
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Thanks! [ Reply | More ]
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37/Long Island, NY/200K [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.18.13, 02:02 AM Flag
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^^ thats 100K me w a 15K p/t job, and 85K is DH. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.18.13, 02:23 AM Flag
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Where in LI? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.18.13, 02:38 AM Flag
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South shore, Nassau county. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.18.13, 02:48 AM Flag
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OP - Wonder if these responses self-selects because only responders with HHI opt to respond. Or if this is a board that is actually very skewed in terms of reflecting the thoughts/opinions of a specific socioeconomic group? I think its the former. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.18.13, 02:14 AM Flag
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Ahem, Detroit mom here. Not a high income. [ Reply | More ]
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Np. 150k in Detroit is like 1.5 mil in NYC [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.18.13, 02:09 AM Flag
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Um, not. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.18.13, 02:19 AM Flag
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Not even a little bit. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.18.13, 09:22 AM Flag
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agree [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.18.13, 12:21 PM Flag
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Many people lie. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.18.13, 02:15 AM Flag
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No they don't. They just don't answer. There are lots of well-off people around here. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.18.13, 02:09 AM Flag
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This board spends a lot of time discussing 40k+ private schools so not unlikely to have a few 1m+ posters. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.18.13, 02:16 AM Flag
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Why? Whats the point? DH and I take in 200K. Not shabby but nowhere near as high as the other posters here. Great for them I guess. Im just happy to have a job. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.18.13, 02:22 AM Flag
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yes self select [ Reply | More ]
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40/nyc/900k [ Reply | More ]
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24/arcata/nil [ Reply | More ]
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humboldt? [ Reply | More ]
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humboldt? [ Reply | More ]
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Yep [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.18.13, 03:16 AM Flag
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27/NYC/30k [ Reply | More ]
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37/BK/$120K [ Reply | More ]
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37/BK/$120K [ Reply | More ]
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37/BK/$120K [ Reply | More ]
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37/BK/$120K [ Reply | More ]
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OP - Welcome! I'm glad there is some diversity on here. [ Reply | More ]
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23/NYC/140k [ Reply | More ]
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Great! Field? [ Reply | More ]
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dh & i make 70k each. research institute. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.18.13, 02:25 AM Flag
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That's REALLY high for undergrads out of college in research. What kind of research are you doing? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.18.13, 02:17 AM Flag
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we're postgrads (1yr MA overseas). security... but i'd rather not say specifically. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.18.13, 02:21 AM Flag
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You are married already?? Let me guess blonde from the south. [ Reply | More ]
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i'm not blonde and not southern. nyc born and raised. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.18.13, 02:22 AM Flag
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Why did you get married so young? If I married the person that was the love of my life when I was 23, I would be divorced by now because I still had a lot of growing up to do. [ Reply | More ]
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Np- yea but thats you. I know some couples who married young and are still going strong. Dont assume all newlyweds who marry before age 25 are headed for divorce. Signed, UBer who got married at age 35 [ Reply | More ]
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OR - Don't put words in my mouth. I'm curious why PP decided to get married so young and simply provided perspective of my own maturity level at that age. Go back to Reading Comprehension. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.18.13, 02:41 AM Flag
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By referring to her as a dumb blond from the South, then mentioning you had a lot of "growing up to do" as a way to accuse her of being immature, you are clearly insinuating her decision to marry young was a poor choice. Your attempt to discredit my post is merely subterfuge for an obsequious attempt to feign superiority over those who dont share the same opinions or values as you. [ Reply | More ]
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OR - I am not the poster who accused her of being a blonde from the south. Stop trying to use SAT words to compensate for your ignorance. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.18.13, 03:05 AM Flag
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^^^ You should first try to learn how to spell. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.18.13, 03:06 AM Flag
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Ran out of material? Stopping to spelling errors now? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.18.13, 03:10 AM Flag
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That would be "stooping". [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.18.13, 05:37 PM Flag
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I guess I'm not a typical 23. I had to grow up very fast, my father was abusive and I'm a pessimist, don't trust easily and always the 'sensible' one. I've had 3 boyfriends before my dh. The first was my 'high school sweetheart' the other 2 were nothing of the sort. I'm typically a cynic but when I met my dh I knew he was a guy I could marry and that was scary. Every time I tried to be 'sensible' about our relationship I made myself unhappy and hurt him in the process. I'm going with what makes me happy and he hasn't let me down yet. Maybe he won't, putting myself out there for love, even if it ends in hurt. :) [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.18.13, 02:33 AM Flag
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OR - That's great. Sounds like you went in eyes wide open. Good luck to you! Sounds like you are off to a great start with your careers and marriage. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.18.13, 02:43 AM Flag
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Np. That's you. A lot of people get married young and make it work. I am the Austin poster from below. DH and I got married when I was 24. Still going strong 8 years and 3 kids later. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.18.13, 11:54 AM Flag
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33/Miami/130k [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.18.13, 02:20 AM Flag
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Is this like when guys pull their dicks out to see whose is biggest? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.18.13, 02:22 AM Flag
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OP - Not meant to be. Really just wanted to get a sense of the some of the demographic stats of those that I seek/take advice. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.18.13, 02:25 AM Flag
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Well no offense, but would you not take what sounds like good advice from a poor person, or a rich person, or just what difference would it make knowing what the background or living conditions are of those from whom you seek advice? Not trying to bust your balls or anything, but it just reeks of elitism and/or classism. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.18.13, 02:30 AM Flag
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OP - You are making your own ignorant assumptions. I wanted to understand how skewed the board is for the precise reason that I hope to get various perspectives. Everyone on this board is well aware that a good number of UBers are wealthy as a good number of posts are regarding NYC private schools, second homes, and demanding careers. But I wanted to get a sense of the MC which if you did not notice, I am part of at $300K in NYC. Feel free to take your cynical attitude elsewhere. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.18.13, 02:50 AM Flag
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You keep telling yourself that. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.18.13, 02:55 AM Flag
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OP - I don't need to tell myself anything. You are obviously extremely insecure - you should work on that. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.18.13, 02:48 AM Flag
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Np- nothing wrong w this thread. I do agree it is helpful to know who is the one doling out advice. Its like asking a priest whether you should get an abortion..lol. If you dont know hes a priest, well...you know where I am going w this...lol [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.18.13, 02:59 AM Flag
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YUP! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.18.13, 02:37 AM Flag
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Yes. That's exactly what this is. "Who bagged the richest hubby?" [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.19.13, 11:55 AM Flag
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37/Babylon/varies 350K -500K [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.18.13, 02:32 AM Flag
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Your standard of living must be amazing! What type of business do you own? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.18.13, 02:26 AM Flag
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lawn care [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.18.13, 02:42 AM Flag
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What made you think she owned a business? Or is this the OR complimenting herself? [ Reply | More ]
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HAHA seems like it [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.18.13, 08:52 PM Flag
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Nope. I asked the question and I'm not the OR. Making that much money with such a great level of variation in Babylon, I knew it had to be their own business. Doesn't take a genius. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.18.13, 10:32 PM Flag
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39 / NYC / 110 (70 me, 40 dh) [ Reply | More ]
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Wow. How do you survive? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.18.13, 02:54 AM Flag
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^^^ I'm sorry! Posted way too quickly resulting in a very rude response. I'm sorry. I meant how do you survive in NYC with a 110K income? Wouldn't it be better to move to the suburbs? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.18.13, 02:49 AM Flag
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No - the commute from suburbs would add stress, would require a car, and we'd see dc less. We're doing fine and have all we need. We don't eat out or order in. I cook everything from scratch (we're even able to buy antibiotics free meat and dirty dozen organic produce). No vacations except weekend trip by train once a year and a few day trips. We don't go out except on my birthday. No expensive clothes. Stopping at one dc. Were lucky to get into a great unzoned public school. We are happy. We do what we love. Of course, we are working on ways to grow our income because we would love to live in a safer neighborhood and be able to save for college. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.18.13, 08:39 PM Flag
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NP: Are you serious??!!?? This is WAY higher than than the median income in NYC. Open your eyes. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.19.13, 03:27 AM Flag
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True, but you fail to understand that median income has nothing to do with quality of life. Most of those 50% in Manhattan whose income is under $60K live in poverty and in unsafe neighborhoods; many of them get reduced housing. The fact that someone make more than the median income does not mean they are rich. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.19.13, 01:25 PM Flag
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Survive?? Plenty of people survive on less in NYC!! My parents grossed 90K last year and they live quite well in Queens. Its all about priorities. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.18.13, 03:00 AM Flag
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And housing costs. Theirs are probably much lower than ours (we rent in Harlem, $2200/month). [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.18.13, 08:27 PM Flag
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OP: why did you start this post? To brag about your high income? Is money a measure of your worth as a person? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.18.13, 02:48 AM Flag
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OP - See above. I'm not repeating myself because you don't read. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.18.13, 02:54 AM Flag
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Well, smartypants, congratulations on having such a fast-moving post. Your response was not posted when I asked my question, but you validated my hypothesis. [ Reply | More ]
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Not OP, but I'm also interested to see "profile" of posters here [ Reply | More ]
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33, NYC, around 3 million but it varies (I am currently and newly a sahm, so it is all DH) [ Reply | More ]
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Let me guess. Hedge fund? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.18.13, 02:48 AM Flag
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I hope he has a prenup. [ Reply | More ]
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27/nyc/110k (25k me p/t, 85k dh) [ Reply | More ]
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45/NYC/550, all me. Dh has been unemployed for 1 year and may never go back to traditional job. [ Reply | More ]
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30/Sanibel, FL/200K [ Reply | More ]
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34/NYC/ 600k [ Reply | More ]
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47/nyc/400 [ Reply | More ]
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32/NYC/ food stamps plus 10k but unstable [ Reply | More ]
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38/Birmingham/$70K combined [ Reply | More ]
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33/Seattle/300K-ish. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.18.13, 07:33 AM Flag
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38, nyc, it varies. both dh & i have large trusts and receive income from them. we both work, but make more money from the trust accts. total hhi is usually around 900k. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.18.13, 10:24 AM Flag
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I've responded 4 times with made up info. Hope that helps with your data collection OP. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.18.13, 10:51 AM Flag
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Bwahahaha! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.18.13, 11:27 AM Flag
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LoL. Who actualy responds to these? It is creepy. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.18.13, 05:37 PM Flag
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You sound like a champ. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.18.13, 10:38 PM Flag
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37/NYC/160K all DH at this point, I'm home with our toddler and will go back when he's in school full time. I was a receptionist didn't even make enough to cover childcare. [ Reply | More ]
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32/Austin/600k [ Reply | More ]
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29/Charlotte/250K [ Reply | More ]
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38/DC/430K (300K me, 130K DH), one 3yo and currently pregnant with DC2. Both MDs [ Reply | More ]
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35/NYC/1.2 (all me) [ Reply | More ]
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ps i'm a DW not DH [ Reply | More ]
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36/NYC/300k/2 small kids [ Reply | More ]
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29/NYC/900K [ Reply | More ]
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31/NYC/$250K with bonuses [ Reply | More ]
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39/NYC/360k (all me)/1 kid/1 SAHM [ Reply | More ]
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45/NYC/1.8 (dh) [ Reply | More ]
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32/NYC (Brooklyn)/300K [ Reply | More ]
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35/NYC/80k [ Reply | More ]
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36/NYC/500+(200 me, 300+ DH, + is his profit sharing and OT) [ Reply | More ]
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38/Brooklyn/450K (100 me, the rest DH) [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.18.13, 06:15 PM Flag
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You all realize you're being mocked on Gawker, right? Wealthy urban moms trading their high-income bona fides ... how lovely. [ Reply | More ]
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Well now we know where all the trolls are coming from today. Btw, this is how I found UB. Via a link on Gawker. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.19.13, 12:17 AM Flag
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Who cares? No matter who you are, you're being mocked by someone. You can't stop your life every time that happens. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.19.13, 05:14 AM Flag
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Right. And it's fun to trade info on how much money your "DH" makes, right? Let's see which young urban mommy bagged the richest man!!! [ Reply | More ]
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37/NYC/60k [ Reply | More ]
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31/NYC/1.1MM [ Reply | More ]
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^^^al DH [ Reply | More ]
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24/nyc/ $225K [ Reply | More ]
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37/Jersey City/$55k (DW is unemployed, before you ask) [ Reply | More ]
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37/Charlotte/600K [ Reply | More ]
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