[-]Just took my measurements and I have the weirdest body. I am 36D-26-35. No wonder I am a size 2 even though I'm 130lbs. My ass is smaller than my middle area by 2 inches. Damn pregnancy pooch. I have such a weird and disproportionate body now. Sigh..
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[-]If there's the dc of a celeb/"bold-named" in your dc's class is it completely 'normal'-- do they interact w/class, go to school functions. Do they befriend any of the other parents? Are your dc friends? BTW -I'm a public school parent, just curious.
64 replies [ Reply | Watch | Options ]Good question, but I believe most people on here will feel that they are to "cool" to answer question.
[ Reply | Options ]I grew up in WashDC. Parents of my friends were household-name politicians and journalists. (Nothing like talking to BF's dad when his face is on the TV in the background.) Just act normal and talk about normal things. But don't pretend you don't know who they are.
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Hey! Sidwell alum here. Big names were everywhere. But unlike NYC, the big names in DC actually WERE important. Not just rich or famous.
[ Reply | Options ]politicians are NOT important. they are high-level bureaucrats. they are not glamorous. and they are ugly. would much rather see movie stars at curriculum night than some loser congressman.
[ Reply | Options ]Let me assure you, top pols are every bit as exciting as movie stars. And second-tier pols as boring as your average TV actor.
[ Reply | Options ]I'm the Sidwell poster and I wasn't referring only to politicians, in fact, didn't think of them in that post. Bob Woodward, Marion Wright Edelman, Mike Wallace, etc. But of course, meeting Bill and Hillary at the annual auction was cool too.
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there was a celebrity dad we knew. his wife was really nice and did all pick-up/drop-off. he was usually on tour, but when he was around he was not very nice. our kids were friends, but even at playdates, if he was around he was really cold and aloof. i think it had more to do with being a jerk than being a celebrity, though! didn't volunteer to fix/build things like many of the other dads or anything like that.
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there was one family in dd's school. very normal. mom (who was the celeb) would pick up her own kids and others after school in her suv. kids participated in plays, chorus, fundraising - just like anyone else. Parents showed up to conferences etc, no fanfare. i didnt know her personally (differnt grade)but she always said hi to me and everyone else and she had several close friends in other moms who were not celebs/super wealthy. It;s probably one of the few places where they can feel normal. their kids hung out with all the kids in their classes.
[ Reply | Options ]When I was a little girl I saw Roxie Roker and her kid at the airport. That kid, who was about my age, grew up to be that one guy on the radio. And they totally snubbed my mom and I.
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I'll bite- there is the dc of a famous actress in my ds's preschool class- I noticed this child from the get go because they are exceptionally beautiful looking- had no idea whatsoever that the parents were famous until I got the class list. This should give you a clue- they are very low key parents- the less famous parent is an active member of the school community - the much more famous one is much lower key- just modestly does pick up and drop off- some kids in the class with nannies do playdates with this child- who, despite being child model looking- is a typical charming normal 3yo-you'd never know in a million years.
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Not me, but a good friend's dc goes to school w/dc of someone extremely famous. My friend has become a "mom friend" of this actress and it is hilarious to think about b/c my friend is so down to earth and non show-biz. But the kids have play dates together etc. and she and this actress are just like regular mom friends.
[ Reply | Options ]i'm a public mom with experience with a couple bold-faced names. the ones i know are completely normal in their interactions with the class but there are boundaries. the home is pretty much off limits, personal information isn't included on the class list. that sort of thing.
[ Reply | Options ]We have the child of a very famous personality in DS's class. The Dad (the famous one) has been around upon occasiona nd his wife goes to all b'day parties etc. It must be hard for her but she sucks it up! Very good for the kid, I think. Half the class skips parties because of country houses but they go.
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[-]Pediatrician & vaccination When I told our pediatrician that I won't have my little one having his shots before he is 1 year old, he told me I should not come back to his office. Who can recommand a pediatrician (can be homeopatic) in Manhattan who respects my decision and will treat my little one nevertheless?
17 replies [ Reply | Watch | Options ]Good luck. Many are open to spreading out the vaccines, but not avoiding vaccination all together
[ Reply | Options ]My ped once told me the name of the one ped in the city she knew who was okay with this. It is a man but not sure of his name. Maybe try the message boards at mothering.com. Someone ther might know. That said, I would not do this (and I spread them o ut a lot) What are your reasons?
[ Reply | Options ]Re: My ped once told me the name of the one ped in the city she knew who was okay with this. It is a man but not sure of his name. Maybe try the message boards at mothering.com. Someone ther might know. That said, I would not do this (and I spread th Any chance to get the name of this one ped? Is it Dr. Lawrence Palevsky? My reasons are that I don't want to stress this little body with formaldehyde and mercury (just to name two ingredients) as long as its immune system, nervous system and neurological processes are still in the developing stage.
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[-]What are the boarding schools close to NYC that are good? Which are good but not all that well known?
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[-]Moms with babies born during this flu season: What is your plan for going out, especially if you have an older child? I would like to carry on with our usual routines, but I am paranoid about exposing nb to crowds, germs, etc. in libraries, at classes, school, etc. Normally, I am not germaphobe, but with all the hysteria surrounding the swine flu, I am concerned. Entire family except for nb has had the swine flu vaccine.
7 replies [ Reply | Watch | Options ]are you nursing? You pass on your immunities to db while nursing, so that's the best prevention.
[ Reply | Options ]op: yes, I am nursing. So based on the responses, everyone else is staying home for 3 months? What about your older kids? They are not going to want to be cooped up for all of that time.
[ Reply | Options ]My ped. said to avoid public places for 6 weeks because if they get a fever in those first 6 weeks, they will be automatically hospitalized. So try to farm out your older kids as best as possible during that time. After that, you just need to use common sense; your nursing will provide some protection. Your whole family can't stay inside for 3 months.
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[-]Warning! Please do not use the AMBY Baby bed - at least three babies have suffocated to death in this bed as far as is currently known. Now, the company has suddently disappeared from the US, all of its websites are down and phone numbers disconnected. Please be careful if you have this bed.
1 reply [ Reply | Watch | Options ]I was able to find active websites for this product - the hammocks right??? http://www.babyhammocks.com/
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[-]ps 87 or ps 166? Which is better? Do either have extra teachers in the classroom?
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dd tested over 2 mos before 4 bday(while stilled rared by %iles for HCES). Hit ceiling on sbV. Tester requested a consult w/us/no fee.
[ Reply | Options ]I'm pretty positive they adjust for age, so if the kid is only 3.9 it is scored differently than if he were 4.2.
[ Reply | Options ]The test is scored in age-bands (3.9-4.0 at time of test are scored differently than 4.1-4.3). My dc took it before 4th birthday and made the cut-off last year.
[ Reply | Options ]I'm curious, what do you think they were looking for in round 2? just the normal, social behavior you would see at any school playdate or is there something else?
[ Reply | Options ]From what I've heard, it seems that they are doing another assessment test, in groups. The observers are some of the psychologists who were the 1st round testers. So I think they are interested in the kids' performance on individual and group tasks, and also how they work together. And not just how well they work together: They want to know and balance leadership roles, collaborative styles, etc. I gather that it's more than just playing nicely together. But I don't have a direct in at the admissions office; that's just what I've heard, and it may not be accurate.
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[-]Can someone tell me what 99% means for ERBs scoring statistically? What are the percentage of children taking the test that actually get this score and what does it mean for the admissions office at TT schools? TIA
10 replies [ Reply | Watch | Options ]I don't have the data for each year. UB is skewed not b/c I think people lie but b/c people from from the past ten yrs, for one reason.
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But why would someone lie? What on earth does it get them? Some people in cyberspace who don't even know who you are read that your child got a 99? How crazy is that? People lie to get out of an uncomfortable situation or because it makes them feel better... If it's anonymous it doesn't make any sense. By the way, amongst my dc's preschool classmates from last year, I know of a 98, a 99, and two 97s. That's three kids out of a class of fifteen. My other dc's year I knew of a 94, 91, 98, 99. I think parents whose kids get in the 80s just don't talk about it.
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[-]who has the decision making power for Kindergarten at Trinity? the woman who runs the playdates? who is she anyway? DOA jennifer levine seems powerles.
11 replies [ Reply | Watch | Options ]it all seemed very odd. only school we went to where the DOA didn't observe the dcs.
[ Reply | Options ]who did observe your dc? we haven't yet gone on our apts there but everyone i talk to says they never met doa. weird.
[ Reply | Options ]our playdate/interview was with another couple. an older woman takes the two dcs into a small room for about a half hour. during that time the doa or assistant doa talks to the two sets of parents. in our case it was a bit of a monologue by the doa who was very nice and talked all about the school, but did not ask one question about our dc or family.
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I get the feeling it is b/c the school only cares about the connections anyway at that stage
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[-]Based on the Ivy exmissions post, Brearley is a better school than Chapin?
41 replies [ Reply | Watch | Options ]Br. alum and ivy admission percentages in any year whether a school drops a few points or goes up a few points means nothing when it comes to all the schools in that league. People here who think these schools are only worthwhile because of the number of DCs that go to Harvard one year as opposed to another are sending their DCs there for the wrong reasons. Do remember that we are talking about a class of 45 children, so if one more one year goes to Yale than another school who cares, it doesn't make Br, a 'better' school than Chapin anymore than Chapin would be a 'better' school three years ago for having put more DCs in Yale one year than Br. Also remember there are a number of dcs at those schools who get into ivy and don't always cho...
[ Reply | Options ]I think the number of college legacies throw all of these comparsions out the window.
[ Reply | Options ]You are wrong. College legacies are really nothing these days. I understand people want to believe that though, but the truth is difference in education. Not saying intelligence necessarily but education and preparedness overall to perform.
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I am sure you believe that, but I am on the other side of the fence so my perspective is different and not as skewed toward wanting or needing to believe otherwise. Millions of dollars may make a difference but it would have to be a considerable sum. Not that people that wealthy or willing even here, and coming from those schools you don't really need it
[ Reply | Options ]I'm not saying that legacy status guarantees an in, or that you can't get in without it. I'm saying it gives you a leg up. Do you really think that H would have such a healthy endowment if this were not true? That every donor is a selfless philanthropist who believes in the school even if their kids can't get in?
[ Reply | Options ]you must agree that between two equally qualified candidates the legacy will get preference...
[ Reply | Options ]No I really don't, I have seen it happen a lot, you cannot always account for a colleges decision year to year. The board may want diversity geographical or racial, they may want more activities, fewer, more arts, more science. Really not every candidate qualified as they are has the exact same strengths.
[ Reply | Options ]I did college admissions for many years at one of the most competitive in the country. I agree in principal with what you're saying, but I also must tell you that any kind of name recognition IS a good thing for a candidate. It adds weight on the scales.
[ Reply | Options ]I question the veracity of your statement that you did admissions at college, but if you did it sounds as if it was not an Ivy where perhaps endowment means much more.
[ Reply | Options ]not an Ivy but as competitive as an Ivy if not more. I meant name recognition as in family name.
[ Reply | Options ]We were and they still are, some but not the majority. Even the overtaxed ones performed and had the base skills to perform at a higher level with little effort. You must know that to be true. Maybe not an A student but B without much study Now whether that is worth it to waste a spot on the student is the call of the college and can be determined as the student continues but overall that they will perform is not a question.
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^^^ based on what do you question my veracity? I am trying to inform you, from my extensive experience, that official policy does not match what actually goes on in the process.
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Is the point of this post to rile the troops? Brearley, Spence, and Chapin are all excellent schools and they jockey for top honors into HYP every year but the two or three more each year makes no difference and means nothing. If dc is in one of those schools you should count yourself as lucky.
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[-]Was in a store near ps 186 (I think) and those DCs were more obnoxious and entitled than any of the girls I knew at SS tt.
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Right, a couple of obnoxious girls pretty much represent the entire public school student body. How do you know they were from public school, anyway?
[ Reply | Options ]No uniforms, upper east side about 5th grade flowing into cell phone store in Tory Burch shoes flipping their hair and speaking through their noses. And there were about three different groups of them. And you think that people on here who bash ss TT girls know EVERY girl in the entire class?
[ Reply | Options ]When you make a decision about a private school being filled with entitled celebs and money what are you going on for evidence?
[ Reply | Options ]um, the many celebs who have kids there? i think it's far less accurate to judge a public school based on a few students. privates are much smaller and much more homogeneous, socioeconomically and racially.
[ Reply | Options ]um, the few that do in each grade do not make up the whole school not even the whole grade and who is to say celeb kids are all awful?
[ Reply | Options ]i don't think celeb kids are awful. i would worry about my dc getting involved with kids who have a lot of money and not a lot of supervision. celeb/super wealthy kids seem more likely to fall into that category.
[ Reply | Options ]I don't think you understand there are plenty of wealthy dcs at public school in wealthy areas. You aren't required to have money to get to a great private in NYC you need to have intelligence, I know a lot of dumb wealthy people.
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Ummm, you'll have to give an example if you want people to agree with you. Also, you're probably talking about 10 year olds at the most who are not allowed out to lunch (school policy) so what the HECK are you talking about??? A little insecure at your SS tt???
[ Reply | Options ]I think OP was being a bit of a jerk but - she said nothing about lunch hour. I think she saw these kids after school. A weird thing is that it also sounds like the OP is comparing these current kids to the girls SHE went to school with - not the current 5th graders at SS schools (who I'm sure are the same as these 158ers). At any rate, these kids are growing up on the UES, for feck's sake. They ARE entitled children, whether they go to public or private school. A difference would be that 158 has 20% of their kids eligible for a free lunch, which is vastly different from being "poor" enough to get FA at a private school. But the richie riches at both kinds of school? The same.
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[-]DIVORCE: Just read a post that said that divorced women are threats to other women AND that divorced women are pitied by their female friends. Wanted to take a poll, I have two divorced friends and I don't feel either way. Do you divorced friends? Do you pity or feel threatened by them?
21 replies [ Reply | Watch | Options ]divorced women are single and therefore as much a threat as a never married woman. maybe more if the divorcee really wants to be a married woman. and if its assumed or known that she had an affair while married that would be seen as a threat. pity is a strong word but don't you feel a little bad for any friends who don't have what you have and would like to?
[ Reply | Options ]no one has everything, so while you can feel bad for someone that his/her marriage didn't work out (which is a sad thing) it's very paternalistic to think that you are being envied
[ Reply | Options ]what if you have a friend who has said "I would like to have a husband and a family like yours someday". I don't think she envies me, I do feel a bit sad that she hasn't gotten what she says she wants.
[ Reply | Options ]I have said that to friends of mine who envy me for being single, when actually I don't want their lives at all but just to make them feel better. I think everyone does this. Friends tell me they envy me when I feel low that day, it is what friends do. I like to think we are all choosing lives that improve the past whatever that was.
[ Reply | Options ]of course, you want your friend to be happy...but pitying her would be different...probably, the only people i'd pity would be people stuck in a terrible marriage...being single certainly isn't pathetic
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I really can't consider anyone a threat because they are divorced that seems ridiculous to me. I will admit to feeling something, not pity, but something for divorced women with children. Not pity but just .... a wonder why they didn't keep it together. I am sure people might like to flame away for that but that is how I feel.
[ Reply | Options ]Well people are different and their situations are different. I am divorced and decided to leave because of things that you might be able to look beyond. Or maybe what I dealt with was far more insidious than you could ever imagine having to deal with.
[ Reply | Options ]I totally hear you. I am sure everyone has their good reasons that are right for them and their family. I guess it just makes me think about my relationship and my family?
[ Reply | Options ]if a friend of mine divorced because she was dealing with something far more insidious that I could ever imagine, I would have sympathy for her. Not because she got divorced but for having to go through the pain to get there. I realize people can be better because of overcoming the hardship but getting there can be hard.
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It depends on the friend. I do worry about one of my friends who recently divorced. She is desperately unhappy, really wanted kids, and divorced her husband because she didn't feel fulfilled (no counseling attempts). Now she is more lonely than ever! But for other friends, it was the right choice and they feel better. I don't pity or feel threatened for people who are divorced. I guess I feel sympathetic for single moms (divorced or not) because I feel like they have the hardest job in the world! Props to them.
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[-]i rented a cot a few years ago from www.grandmasrentals.com . I can't find them online. Any recs to rent cot or furniture in NYC?
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[-]hi: i'm still looking for a middle school or ongoing school for my bright dyslexic son. he's been in a school for kids with learning disabilities, but has overcome most of his issues and really scores quite high in some areas. he needs a place where can be way ahead in math and even reading, but still need some direct teaching (and understanding) in terms of writing. we live in manhattan but are willing to relocate to other boroughs or suburbs if need be. public or private. thank you in advance for responding.
17 replies [ Reply | Watch | Options ]No flames, please, but I know a few kids from LD schools who have been "mainstreamed" into Browning. You may also want to check into BWL.
[ Reply | Options ]I don't know what type of learning issues or what ages these kids are, but my experience with browning is very different. The school really does not have the resources to support dyslexics and the like and these boys tend to leave (generally by their own choice after the pace picks up in terms of writing skills needed, etc. at third or fourth grade. Birch has a much better support system and resources available, but is very traditional in its academic approach. I know a boy who has mainstreamed into Claremont with great success. I don't think that they have the resources birch has, but they have been warm and welcoming and he loved the more progressive style in the classroom.
[ Reply | Options ]^also, whatever you do, stay away from York. They have this huge support system "for a price" and, as a for profit school, no interest whatsoever in getting these kids to the point of not needing the extra assistance. Also check out Columbia grammar. They have a good system for mainstreaming but have been over-subscribed in recent years and weren't taking more kids into the program as far as I know (but it is always worth inquiring). Good luck!
[ Reply | Options ]Agree, but the kids who were "mainstreamed" were because they no longer needed support.
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You might want to call the Gow School (it is in upstate NY). Gow is a boarding school for dyslexic boys. They are very tied into schools who support dyslexic students. They might be able to steer you in the right direction. You might also want to call the the Dyslexic Association in NYC (forget the full name). Good luck!
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