[-]Preseason started. I dread it. Now I have to sit with the mothers. We all despise each other.
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[-]BF: Is it the milk or the bonding that makes it so beneficial? I ask because I enjoy BFing DB, but hate pumping. So I have to wonder, your antibodies immunitiations etc, if you're nursing it gets passed on to DB, right? So why go through pumping? I'm really curious, not inviting flames against FF, which I think is fine.
13 replies [ Reply | Watch | Options ]I wonder about this myself. As a Canadian with good mat leave, I find the cultural pressure that US Moms BF, without any paid leave, very odd. It seems like a commoditization of the milk itself while ignoring all the other aspects of the BF relationship. And IMO BF is supposed to make Mom's life easier, not harder. Have any studes been done on pumping Moms?
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There a many different reasons women pump. The infant might have insurmountable latch problems (or be in nicu), the mom might need to get back to work or want more than 2 or 3 hours where she won't have to nurse, pumping might be easier for both mom and baby. I am sure there are more. Not sure if you were being genuine with your question because it seems easy to imagine reasons a woman may pump either occassionally, often or exclusively.
[ Reply | Options ]I think you're misreading my questions, which is genuine. I WOHM and pump 3 times a day. I am trying to figure out if it is really necessary. DB is already in the rhythm of breastfeeding and we have no issues. He is already bonding with me. He is already getting my immunities and antibodies. I'm not asking why women pump, I'm asking if it's necessary.
[ Reply | Options ]np Canadian poster here. How old is DB? I went back to work at 9 months and I pumped for 2. She was nursing about as often as you describe and daycare still had to supplement a bit because I could never pump very much. Her night nursings increased when I went back to work (reverse cycling is apparently common). I pumped because I was worried about my milk supply dropping, BF ending before I wanted it too, etc. I won't do it next time, I think it was unnecessary. You will have to use your judgement though. FWIW I admire all pumpers for any reason! Pumping sucks.
[ Reply | Options ]pumping is only necessary then if you can provide enough milk without pumping. For many women, not pumping during a 12 hour work day would kill their supply and baby wouldn't have any breast milk during the day. You could always bf when at home and supp with formula if your supply wanes.
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To keep up milk supply! I breastfed my daughter for a year (went back to work after 3 months) and had to pump during the day because my milk supply steadily decreased once I went back to work and by a year had stopped completely. Had I not pumped, it would have been gone by 6 months (I had to start supplementing with formula at 6 months b/c of my decreasing supply).
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[-]Does the WSJ article "Not so Fast" bother any other parents as much as me - all about how our kids screen multi-task and what it does to concentration levels? http://online.wsj.com/article/SB10001424052970203550604574358643117407778.html
1 reply [ Reply | Watch | Options ]^^^ I mean, we're far from Luddites - all of us on UB - we were literate on computer work long before we had kids, but geez, txting, watching TV prog. on the computer, plus UTUBE videos, plus txting - with that kind of multi-tasking, how can a kid concentrate just using his or her ears in a classroom with a teacher for more than two minutes? Can't be healthy.
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[-]If I travel to some European states and want to take an insecticide with me just to lightly spray around the baseboards or boxspring of the mattresses, are some better than others? I'm staying at five star places but that's no guarantee of cleanliness.
21 replies [ Reply | Watch | Options ]traveled all over the world and never had a problem at a true 5, 6, or uber-luxury unstarred place. don't worry.
[ Reply | Options ]OP - I'm not bug-freaked. And I've also never had a problem in a luxury hotel, but bedspreads aren't laundered as much as sheets are changed and there could be problems - even in luxury hotels.
[ Reply | Options ]I think bedbugs are way more problematic than something Raid could handle. If that's your specific concern, go online and see what's best for them. My friend in Paris had them and it took MONTHS to get rid of them.
[ Reply | Options ]np: this is silly. If there are bedbugs there's no way to tell in advance & Raid isn't going to kill them but might give you cancer if you sleep in it. I travel to E & W Europe all the time & can't remember a bug. I"m sure they're there but not nearly as memorable as they are in say.... Texas.
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I doubt that European bugs are any match for NYC roaches!!! Just bring some of those with you - they'll scare them away...
[ Reply | Options ]I hate to tell you this, but bedbugs live in anything wood: furniture, flooring... and they come out at night to feed on your yummy blood. You will not find them during the day. So, here's what you do: you peel back the sheets and inspect the mattress pad. If there are any small dark spots, get a damp cloth or tissue and wipe it. If it smears and is rust colored, thats a blood stain. Then you request a room change. Repeat as necessary.
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[-]It's funny,isn't it, that despite how parents handle decision-making, there are always kids in school who seem more mature in any given class about making individual decisions, pushing the envelope JUST ENOUGH with a teacher so they get their way, or manipulating other classmates. Is it inner maturity or a lax parent?
7 replies [ Reply | Watch | Options ]your post is confusing. you state that DESPITE how parents handle things some kids seem more mature but then you ask if it
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OP - What I've noticed after K - 10 years is that no matter how lax or strict a parent is at home, a kid's nature dictates how he or she behaves in a classroom. And I think it must be inner maturity. Other things that factor in are whether the kid has siblings (and whether they're the shy or bullying type) or whether an only child is shy to begin with and parents cater to him at home, which sometimes happens. It's rare that an only won't be indulged by the family.
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[-]Anyone offended by the term Top Tier? I'm in DC, and every time someone brings up the term the "Big 3" on a similar parenting forum, half the people will agree which 3 schools we know we're all talking about, while half start flipping out that there IS no Big 3, and that you need to choose a school that "fits" your child. You guys all seem so much more comfortable with the TT term...
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[-]So who's making boeuf bourguinon after watching Julie & Julia?
35 replies [ Reply | Watch | Options ]I saw it last night and am now dying to make it. Can you get the recipe online, or do you have to buy the book?
[ Reply | Options ]just found this: http://www.nytimes.com/2004/08/15/dining/child-beef.html
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that's a dish for the fall. wait till november to pull it off. (have made it before, tastes good)
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np: I made cold honeydew melon and lime soup the other night and BLTs (farm fresh/vine ripe tomatoes) yowza!
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here it is: (http://www.epicurious.com/recipes/food/views/Chilled-Minted-Cucumber-Honeydew-Soup-14134) I took some of the left over honeydew and a tiny melon baller and made tiny balls (bite sized cubes would work, too.) I stuck these in the freezer while I made the soup so they had time to freeze, then floated them in the soup when I served it. A nice treat AND it kept the soup colder. If you had a really nice bright red hot oil, a couple of drops floated on the top would look beautiful and could be a nice variation. (Oh and I used the full on Fage yogurt. It worked VERY well.)
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Yuck! That is always a dish that I have found repulsive . . . I just don't get it - how can anyone find that appetizing
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I love Boeuf bourguinon but "spa-y and healthy" am I missing your sarcasm or did you not read the recipe? (NOTE: IMHO, it should be served over egg noodles and nothing else. And that recipe looks good but not great.)
[ Reply | Options ]Hahaha, the spa and healthy comment was referring to the cold honeydew melon and lime soup. See the double arrows and indentation? It's kind of difficult to read sometimes but there was no sarcasm at all. Above posters said bland, etc...and spa comment was a response to that.
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[-]I need some advice. My DH and I live in the city. My DH is a tenure track professor at a university and I am a primary care physician. We are both in our early 30s. I don't want to live in the city any more and want to move back home to the suburbs (upstate NY). My DH applied for jobs in upstate but didn't get an offer from any of the universities he liked. I really want to be closer to my family before we get pregnant, but I also want him to have a job he will like. Has anyone dealt with a similar issue? How did you resolve it??
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My parents dealt with a similar issue. My father ended up taking a position at a less prestigious university, which he didn't really like though he made the best of it. But he ended up starting his own consulting business, which he did enjoy and paid off well. So we got to grow up in a nice big suburban house with yard, low stress and comfortable, and both parents feel they were happy though they sometimes wonder what would have happened if Dad had taken the job at Columbia.
[ Reply | Options ]somewhat similar except we already had a db. opportunity presented itself to dh that would require a 5 year commitment to staying in the city. truly too good to pass up and important for him. so we stayed and i adapted but always knew the next step would be back to burb living which is where we are now. looking back i didn't love it but made the best of it and some parts were fine even better than fine. it was about compromise. good luck to you.
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[-]I think Obama is learning a few things (1) Town meetings are a waste of time, (2) Popularity only takes you so far and no further and (3) It's better to test a product before unleashing it on the public.
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[-]Any good teen summer programs out there? Teen dd aging out of the 7 week summer camp and I need to start researching some good programs for next year. Any feedback from teens who came back this summer?
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OP - jobs for inexperienced teens tend to go to college students taking everything from unpaid internships to photocopying jobs. Teen will be going into 12th grade and will still be eligible for pre-college summer course programs, that's why I'm asking how teens liked this summer's programs.
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I think that when the are teens they work as camp counselors. You could try the Y or other local programs. BTW, I think it is great that you are doing this.
[ Reply | Options ]Thanks. It's sometimes hard for a teen to find constructive things to do from end of school until Labor Day. Mine has been a CIT at her camp but wants to branch out to do academic summer programs. This is possible but the programs don't last that long - five weeks at most. That leaves almost all of August, and it's a problem. There is community service but bits and pieces - no solid 9 -5 program for a teen with nothing to do in August.
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