[-]What do you do when you are ignored by your family and his. My husband is a mama's and daddy's boy. They ask him everything about our childs life as well as ours. My family tends to do the same. When I am talking, my husbands starts to interrupt and immediately I tell him that I am in the middle of talking. Tonight we were out to dinner with my mother and aunt. When I said this to him, my aunt kept saying i'm done talking, it's ok. She wasn't. What do I do. I told my husband, I no longer want to see his family if I am going to be ignored.
4 replies [ Reply | Watch | Options ]i'm sure they love you just as much as they love him. i'd carefully analyze what you say vs. what your husband says about certain topics. do family members prefer hearing his version because he's more upbeat/humorous/smiley? next time, try to break out of your shell and pick 1 story that you are excited to tell. perhaps it is a story about your kid. my family loves to kid anecdotes. see if they cut you off then. also, it could be that your husband is just a better conversation "jumper in-ner" than you are. in that case, learn from your hubby. figure out what he does that's so great and emulate it! you can learn from your spouse, too.
[ Reply | Options ]99% of the time when I am talking about a topic, something about my son etc... By husband always repeats what I say and adds to it. I tell him, I just told them that, and hes like oh. I have told him so many times to stop repeating and to stop adding to what I say. He then says he's not
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[-]Does anyone have a rec for a babysitting service in DC. Hotel said Family and Child Care or Wee Sit but wish I had a personal rec
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[-]For those who have been to both: which is more interesting for kids, Mt Vernon or Monticello? TIA.
8 replies [ Reply | Watch | Options ]Williamsburgh. (I know that is not what you asked. Just throwing that out there.)
[ Reply | Options ]so skip the others and just do Williamsburgh? Stay one night there and two nights in DC? Thanks.
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[-]How do you get rid of "watched" posts when you no longer want to follow them but the "stop watching" link has disappeared?
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[-]-mom to be searching for baby nurse to travel to baltimore. Hi, I am moving to Baltimore on June 15 and don't know a single soul. My baby is due on July 25th and I am having a C-section. We don't have any family or friends available to help us the 1st couple of weeks and we're desperate to find a baby nurse in Baltimore or one that will come to baltimore PLEASE HELP!!!! Happy Mother's Day!!!!!!
8 replies [ Reply | Watch | Options ]i live in dc...we have the same problem..due in oct! i'd call the breastfeeding centre of greater washington they will reccomend someone...also post on DC Urban Moms.
[ Reply | Options ]Re: i live in dc...we have the same problem..due in oct! i'd call the breastfeeding centre of greater washington they will reccomend someone...also post on DC Urban Moms. Thanks for the tip- If i end up w/ a good one I'll let you know. I never would have thought I'd have a harder time getting pregnant than finding a baby nurse!!!!
[ Reply | Options ]Re: Re: i live in dc...we have the same problem..due in oct! i'd call the breastfeeding centre of greater washington they will reccomend someone...also post on DC Urban Moms. I just spoke to someone absolutely fabulous for your october due date- SHE SOUNDS AMAZING!!!!!! Unfortunately, she's booked into Oct but could work for your needs- Meredith Ball reach her at 917 674 7241- YOU OWE ME BIG TIME ;)
[ Reply | Options ]Re: Re: Re: i live in dc...we have the same problem..due in oct! i'd call the breastfeeding centre of greater washington they will reccomend someone...also post on DC Urban Moms. Hello it's Meredith Ball. I would be happy to talk with you about your needs. The only problem is that that is not my number. :) Call me at 410-274-9329. Thanks!
[ Reply | Options ]Re: Re: Re: Re: i live in dc...we have the same problem..due in oct! i'd call the breastfeeding centre of greater washington they will reccomend someone...also post on DC Urban Moms. Oops, I should have added my website www.babiease.com
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I can help..I am a Licensed Registered Professional Baby Nurse. I care for moms and babies in the immediate postpartum period. I do a great deal of teaching, care for the baby overnite, laundry, meal preparation, I review cpr for parents and grandparents, I can help with all your lactation consulting needs, and much more. I can be reached if interested at interalia@aol.com I am fully Licensed and insured..and have many local references.
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[-]We just got back from a week in Florence and I want to thank everyone for their tips on different things to see and do aside from the guidebook. We had a great time and can't wait to go back.
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I ended up wearing black most of the time, with sandals and a beige jacket. I needn't have worried about appearance - June is all tourists in Florence and everyone wore sandals and summer wear. I did see some gorgeous Florentine women dressed very nicely but they were in the minority, and weren't charging all over the city looking at art and architecture. The food was great, the ice cream was superb and my dh loved it - can't wait to return next year.
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[-]If a student can't verbalize the opening letters of a word, what is this problem called?
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This is an older ESOL student - in her '20's and I am a volunteer with an adult literacy program. I don't understand why she is having such a challenge with reading English out loud - her verbal skills are pretty good but there seems to be a limited connection between reading, writing and speaking which I don't understand how to help. She has trouble articulating "Who, What, Why, Where, and How" questions - often confuses them. It's as if she can't "see" the opening letters.
[ Reply | Options ]I am not clear on what you are saying is the problem. Are you saying her oral skills are pretty good (you said verbal, but verbal includes oral and written word skills)? You say she has trouble 'articulating' those words -- do you mean forming and pronouncing the words orally? Or understanding the differences in meaning?
[ Reply | Options ]I am referring to the student's oral word skills (the literacy program has students read out loud) and the student has difficulty forming the opening word of a sentence - especially "Who, What, etc". She can read slowly but when she hesitates over the initial word "What", I'm not sure what challenge she is facing.
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This then sounds like a learning disability. Could be language processing? Does she have the same issues in her native tounge?
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I'm trying to help with adult literacy and wonder what the term is when someone can't verbalize the first few letters of a word even if they know the English alphabet - the difficulty is with many "Who, What, Where, Why and How" sentences - someone is having trouble with this - how do I help and what is the problem she has so I can address it? I'm only a volunteer and there is little 1:1 help - the class is a large group one. I sit at one end and the senior teacher sits at the other and conducts the lesson.
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[-]WWYD? A friend and I went to visit another friend after she had her first DD. I have one 1YO DS and my friend has 2YO twins. I brought my DS and my friend left her girls at home. Well, we get there and my DS begins to explore her house-walking around the kitchen, dining room, etc. I followed him as he did this. Then he walked into the bathroom and the new mother said "RYAN, GET OUT OF MY BATHROOM!" I was right behind him and he was just looking. I thought it was an entirely inappropriate response. So did my friend who wanted to say something but I stopped her. WWYD?
18 replies [ Reply | Watch | Options ]Above responses seem nuts to me. I would never do this. Why can't friend have simply said to OP "do you mind keeping him in here with us?" or "I left my glass owl collection on the vanity--can you keep him out of the bathroom?" I have VERY few friends whose kids I would scold directly. Though I don't get this--is the kids seriously 1yo? Who yells at a 1yo? That said, sure that friend was all post-partum and tired, so I wouldn't hold a huge grudge about it.
[ Reply | Options ]wwid? nothing. why did she do it? perhaps she was hormonal, perhaps she had things in bathroom that were personal. i would have apologized on the spot and "scolded" ds.
[ Reply | Options ]She was letting the kid roam around, as she states above. Doubt she was following him as closely as her post suggests.
[ Reply | Options ]ITA. I also seriously doubt the other df (who showed enough judgment and empathy to leave her 2yo twins at home) "wanted to say something" to the new mom. if she did, it was probably more along the lines of saying not to worry, ds wasn't doing anything, not to scold new mom for saying something, as OP seems to want to do.
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[-]Any tricks for keeping a rambunctious 3YO DS quiet and occupied on a 2 hour plane flight so as not to irritate the other passengers and the flight crew? Going on vacation and am slightly worried about my 3YO who really really hates confinement.
10 replies [ Reply | Watch | Options ]I found a great toy from Matchbox which kept my 3yo entertained on a long flight. It was a farm set (they also do a construction site etc) in a box which when opened out has a barn, tractor, animals, farmer etc but closes up so everything is contained and fits into hand luggage. Worked well for us as did the seat back tv. Have fun
[ Reply | Options ]Same age, same issue for us. I went to the dollar store and got a bunch of stickers and a bunch of colored tape and some crayons and a notebook. The colored tape alone gave me 30 minutes of occupied time! Also there are those books with the reusable, vinyl stickers that they can stick in the book itself or on the window of the plane and they come right off. GL!
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[-]What would be some reasons for people always walking away from you at cocktail parties?
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last time they spoke to you they didn't like what they heard. they're looking for someone else, they're only interested in talking to people they think will make them look good. the good hors d'oeuvres comment is a good one, as well as anything booze-related. drink is low, saw the waiter w/a tray of bubbly etc
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Centrifuges send stuff away - via spinning. I think the planets rotate around the sun due to plain old gravity.
[ Reply | Options ]If you are the center, the force that makes things move AWAY from you is centrifugal. (The centrifuge is a good way of thinking about it.) The gravity of the sun pulling in the planets actually is offset by the centrifugal force of them rotating and this is what keeps the planets from all getting sucked into the center of the solar system and burning up in the sun. -or
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[-]i am getting married in three weeks, and i feel like my fiance may be getting cold feet! everything seems to be going great in our relationship, so i am not sure where this is all stemming from. last night he freaked me out by saying, "do you really think we are a good couple? i want us to stay together forever but sometimes i am not so sure because we are so different." i was floored because i really don't see how we are so different other than looks! i'm sweating bullets here...i don't want him to marry me if he is unhappy, but i don't want him to wait until day of the wedding to break it off!
9 replies [ Reply | Watch | Options ]wow. deep breath. ask him if he needs time to think about it. ask him what will help him decide for sure. marriage is a little bit of a leap of faith - but both parties have to be willing to make it. There is nothing wrong with delaying the wedding (not too many times of course). If you feel sure about this and love him, prove that to him by not freaking out yourself and focus on whatever it is he needs right now. that is a true sign of being there for your potential life partner.
[ Reply | Options ]Men often proposes marriage because 1) they want to fit in (everybody in their age range or peer group is starting to pair off), 2) they think that you won't gain weight and / or age (short sighted thinking - that you'll remain perpetually spank-worthy), and 3) you'll be a relatively effort free source of sex and companionship. Conversely, men call off weddings if 1) you're determined to be a liability - i.e. you don't have marketable job skills that can cover at least 75% of his base salary in the event of job loss, 2) you're high maintenance and bring revolving cc debt to the table, 3) your FICO score sucks, or 4) your family is trashy or meddlesome.
[ Reply | Options ]sorry, honey -- i know that must have been hard to hear. the important thing is to sit down with your fiance and have a serious discussion with him. tell him that everything is ok to discuss, and all options are on the table. he has to feel comfortable telling you the truth. and you need to figure out if he is really ok with this. better to postpone or call the marriage off than to marry someone who doesn't really want to get married.
[ Reply | Options ]i am OR -- answered this right away. where did OP go? was this a pot stirrer? geez.
[ Reply | Options ]op here- sorry my morning got busy. yes i am young, i am 23, fiance is 28. we are of different races as well. he is white and i am half white/half indian. but i do not think this is an issue at all because we grew up in very similar backgrounds, and share the same views about politics and religion. his parents were divorced when he was young, and i am thinking this has given him some deep rooted anxiety about marriage. i want to talk to him about it, but not sure what to do. wedding is in three weeks, would hate to cancel it if he is just having normal wedding "jitters"...
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[-]Does anyone else have this problem with their 6YO DC? We limit the tv but do let him watch it. However when we tell him to turn it off because it is time for bed, he goes insane. What do other people do?
3 replies [ Reply | Watch | Options ]Give him a 5 or ten minute warning before the program ends, "You're going to bed when this is over." Then hou need to be clear that if he goes insane, he loses the privilege of watching the next day. And you have to stick to it (even though it's more of a punishment for you if he doesn't watch for a little bit!).
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[-]Am I the only person on the planet who hates mother's groups? I mean HATE them!! And the women who attend them drive me nuts too-they run the gamut from the braindead to the uberorganic involved helicopter mom. Am I?
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Mothers-usually new ones-get together to "discuss" parenting techniques, discipline strategies and basic laws that govern all children. Mindnumbing-went to one when I had first DS, discussed bottle types for an hour-had to call DH to meet me at a bar to "uncramp" my brain. Thought it was just hormones. Went when second DS was 6MO and first DS was 4, nope, not hormones.
[ Reply | Options ]Oh, I'd probably intensely dislike that as a structured setting. I loved meeting other moms and seeing how in love they were, but that doesn't sound like my style. Do you live in a rural area? I live in nyc, so it's simple enough to sort of 'audit' people you encounter and possibly reconnect. The built in hen party format of what you describe makes me sort of itchy.
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You should try a playgroup instead. DCs play and moms talk about stuff that may have nothing to do with parenting. I used to have one at 4:00, with wine. that was nice.
[ Reply | Options ]I'll try that maybe-have some "old" friends that I get together with, but yeah a playgroup might work. My "friend" was upset last week-ran into her at a birthday party-that the children had chocolate cake and ice cream. Went on a tirade about sugar, chocolate, wheat, dairy and overstimulation. Again, DH and I met other friends from the party at a bar afterwards-no we aren't drunks. :)
[ Reply | Options ]Even with playgroups, you sometimes have a try a few groups to find moms you click with. And even then, you are not going to agree on EVERYTHING- very few parents do. I might consider starting to meet a few other moms at a playground, and if that goes well after a few times, try to get a formal schedule going.
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I joined a "playgroup" when DS was just a few months old (and he could barely roll over, never mind interact). We had just moved to the suburbs and I didn't know anyone and it was a nice way to meet people. Over time, the group has evolved (DS is now almost 2) - 5 of us meet 1x/week (and our DC also go to a Mommy and Me class along with others on a different day).
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I've volunteered lots of places -- spent time living abroad and volunteering, have delivered food on holidays to elderly and infirm folks (to lots of hugs and kisses!), have volunteered w/austic kids and city kids and economically disadvantaged kids. is it satisfying? i don't know -- i never thought about it in those terms, exactly. it's fun, interesting, i always learn a lot, and i enjoy being able to help and contribute. it's also nice to feel that i've done something for humanity. most times, the feeling of appreciation is amply returned. Worthwhile is probably the word I would use for how I feel when I've volunteered doing something large or small.
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