[-]If you have an especially gifted child with mild Aspergers, where would you send them to school? Mainstream? Is there a SN school for high-functioning kids who are very very bright but need help socially? (Sorry for the ignorance....)
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[-]Anyone on whose child gets Orton-Gillingham reading help? Can you please give me some idea of how much these sessions cost? I'm a little freaked out. Also, does 100 hours of treatment sound right? TIA
1 reply [ Reply | Watch | Options ]You can do that system at home. It isn't that hard to learn how. I went to a free seminar at our public library given by the woman who runs a company and uses the system and then I bought the package - maybe 90.00?? It was easy. I like the system btw. The ladies name was Emily Levine (sp?)
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[-]Trying to make tough decision: had preemie born almost 3 months early. Spent most of maternity leave going back and forth to NICU. After just a few weeks with baby at home, I have to go back to work. Baby will only be two weeks old adjusted, so still TINY. I am contemplating quitting my job. After nanny (for older child), metro pass, etc., I only net $800 from working. However, I carry the health insurance. We would have to pay $1,200/month out of pocket for insurance through DH's company (by eating into our savings). And we could just barely squeak by on husband's salary alone as far as monthly expenses. This would be a short-term situation (plan to move out of this area to somewhere with a lower standard of living by next fall). Have alre...
12 replies [ Reply | Watch | Options ]With the health issues of a preemie and the economy the way it is, I wouldn't give up my job that provides medical benefits.
[ Reply | Options ]Something is telling me to tel you not to quit your job. How much does your dh make?
[ Reply | Options ]About $90K. But other than our mortgage, we don't have many expenses. We live very frugally. I know the responsible thing is to go back to work but I will be utterly miserable. And when you go through something as difficult and emotional as this, it seems wrong to just hand such a tiny, vulnerable baby off to a nanny. I will be utterly miserable working, I know. So setting aside the paltry $800 I bring home, I can't help but wonder is it worth it to spend $10K on insurance from our savings to be able to stay home with her for most of her first year. And then I will be happy and my baby will be with her mom.
[ Reply | Options ]I think you would do what you want. It is workable and even though you will have to dip into your savings to afford it, isn't it worth it? Isn't that what savings are there for? It sounds like you really want to stay home. You can save money by shopping smarter and avoiding luxury items. Stay home with her if that's what YOU feel you should be doing. You might regret (one day) going back to work too soon but you will never (one day) look back and regret staying home with your baby.
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I know this is a very stressful and emotional time for you and you want to be home with your baby. Havign said that, and having been through somethign similar, I wouldn't quit until you try to work something out with your employer. It's worth it to ask them to work with you on the hours for 4-6 weeks while you transition back into the workplace. Your insurance costs are likely to be higher than 1200/month and you may be disqualified from the plan if you max out the annual benefit. Just somethings to think about before putting in your 2 weeks.
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[-]Just spoke to my wonderful IEP coordinator at the DOE and she suggested that I consider requesting a resource room for DD if DD is struggling. Anyone has any experience with that? DD is in 1st gr, currently getting Speech and OT for 'delays' and is somewhat struggling with reading. What's your experience/thoughts on the resource room?
6 replies [ Reply | Watch | Options ]Is your child in a public school? The RR is pull out remediation for smaller groups of kids - 5-8 kids usually where they focus on learning issues with learning specialist. We are in private so when we get this service we have to find someone who contracts with the DOE and filling the mandate is close to impossible.
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The question is then, do they have a resource room on site, if not, welcome to my nightmare.
[ Reply | Options ]Hmm.. Good question. I'll find out. It's a small school that just opened, so I guess they may not have a resource room. What do you do? Do you think DC would really benefit? The teacher is already working with her and 3 more kids (the weak group) on reading, so I am not sure the resource room would make a lot of difference.
[ Reply | Options ]Like so many things, depends on the teacher, both classroom and resource room. What about having DD tested to better define issue?
[ Reply | Options ]I'd like to do that, but not sure where to go. She's had so many evals from board of Ed, none of which even recommend to follow up with any given specialist, let along point out a specific issue. I don't have 5K to spend on some fancy neuropsych. as people suggest on this board. Any rec?
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[-]I am looking for a social skills group for my 8 yr old son, very hi functioning aspergers. Ideally, one that is based on the work of Michelle Winner, the guru of social thinking. And also ideally, in Brooklyn. any leads?
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[-]My 33 month old toddler boy doesn't SPEAK should I be worried. He basically only says bubbles and ball , but not even very often. Will it just come later. I am dying to hear his voice...and he doesn't even say mama. he just screams whenever he wants me or something I give him ample opportunity to make sounds and words but it just isn't happening I am so sad.
20 replies [ Reply | Watch | Options ]of course all kids are different, but i'd be worried. my 27 month old has been speaking in 5 word sentences since about 20 months, now carries on extensive conversations with me all day long and has a huge vocab.
[ Reply | Options ]Yes, yes, have him evaluation. While most people will tell you that kids develop on their own time and he will be fine in 2 years, I have a very diff. story to tell. DD seemed to start talking on time, but incorrectly. Then around or after 2, her speech just was not improving. It was pretty much on 1.5 level. Everyone including ped kept telling me that I am too paranoid and she will talk when ready. Well, at 2.5 I finally contacted EI for eval. She was majorly behind, I think close to a year in her speech dev. Preschool at 3 was very hard. Other issues were uncovered as well, such as her not talking due to low muscle tone, etc. Long story short, she is 6.5, still behind in her speech dev, school has been a struggle, and she is continuing to...
[ Reply | Options ]OMG thank you so much for posting this! My 24 mo is the EXACT SAME WAY. I sometimes wonder if something is wrong with him since he fell off of our bed a few times in infancy.
[ Reply | Options ]Honestly boys do speak later. If he has been in therapy, they should help you there. Not sure what else to do besides therapy. My ds didn't speak until around 3, then I honestly can't remember when or how, but next thing I knew he spoke with amazing finesse. Once he started reading though things really took off beyond belief--tested in June as 13 year old reading level at age 7 and I think that is low, has an adult vocabulary.
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[-]My friend in Seattle has a new baby with colic/lots of digestion issues/allergies. She is thinking of hiring help, ideally a retired nurse, so she can pump and get sleep and just deal with a demanding baby. Any suggestions of people who do this?
4 replies [ Reply | Watch | Options ]1-800 Suck It Up. I did and so can she. This isn't a financial issue, it's a parenting issue.
[ Reply | Options ]np: that's awesome advice. And when this new mom completely loses her shit and the baby, mom, and dad all suffer, I'm sure they'll be so happy they took the "suck it up" route. Loser. The mom should hire a baby nurse if they could afford it. A coliky baby is a challenge for even the best of mothers.
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[-]Had Parent/Teacher conf yesterday, and DD is way below the standard in reading (1st gr but was assessed at mid-year K). I knew she was a bit behind, but did not realize it was that much. We practice reading 20 min every day. What else can we do? Reading is just really hard for her and she is making very slow progress. I am not ruling out a LD, and need ideas on how I can help her.
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really disagree. if your child is struggling, 60 minutes of reading every night is torture. my advice to the op is to start incorporating it in other areas. you can play alphabet or word memory games. you can play rhyming games while you get dressed. you can label things in your house so she gets familiar with seeing written words. speak to your dd's teacher and a kindergarten teacher for ideas. speak to your school's resource room or a special ed teacher for ideas. and most of all, don't freak out about it. sometimes kids are slower to pick it up. good luck!
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Let her be - mine was the same way and if you push it too hard you will delay it even more. I call bullsh$t on the LD for crying out loud she is K...I let my DD go at her own pace and assured her we all learn differently. Because, actually, we all do learn differently. DD in grade 2 now and doing really well across the board. Also some kids are slow start and fast finishers. Please, don't let UB make you neurotic about this.
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what's the specific nature of her problem? transposing letters, going too fast and missing words? not decoding?
[ Reply | Options ]Hmm.. teacher did not go into details. From what I see at home, decoding words that either don't follow phonics rules or are a bit more lengthy than 3-5 letters. Overall, she does not recognize many high frequency words, and is very slow to read (words per minute) and has high rate of error.
[ Reply | Options ]We do flash cards for the high frequency words - the 20 or so they originally gave us in kindergarten plus any I notice DD is having trouble with when I'm reading with her. DD's K teacher also recommend starfall.com, which helps with phonics and decoding (and DD considers more of a treat than "homework"). I've also found it's important to pick books that are the right level for DD - a lot of the ones we have at home are too hard for her and she gets frustrated. (DD is a 1st grader reading at an early 1st grade level, but like your DD she struggles with it and progresses slowly.)
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Have you already tried helping her "relearn" with a phonics program, like "teach your child to read in 100 easy lessons"? Some kids never get the basics of phonics down, and then reading is an uphill battle that never seems to get easier. I might try going back to the beginning to see whether that helps, and if it's still a struggle... maybe explore whether she might be battling an LD?
[ Reply | Options ]Hmm, the teacher might also be wrong. We had same assessment, I knew it was not right, as dd was reading very well at home. But just to get more one on one, I let her go into remedial reading group, by end of 1st grade, they said she had suddenly jumped to 3rd grade reading level.. so do not worry too much. Go to really good bookstore, Bank St or similar, and have them help her pick out good books that she will really love.
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[-]Help trying to decide between two people to do my dc's neuropsych exam. Both good people. Who are the really good practitioner's in NYC? I am at a loss to figure out what is our best choice. I am interested in who is good at diagnosis as well as someone who will write good reports to get funding if needed. TIA
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[-]I think my son may need Orton (?) sessions. I know very little about them, but am worried about cost -- is there anything that covers this? Insurance? Bd of Ed? For a 6 y o in independent school. TIA
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[-]Repost: Has anyone had their school age child evaluated by the Board of Ed? What can I expect in the meeting? I called but woman on the phone was kind of rude so couldn't get much from her. TIA
14 replies [ Reply | Watch | Options ]Yes -- I found them to be surprisingly compassionate & thorough. Was warned all sorts of horrible things that didn't turn out to be true. DS is difficult to diagnose, too, so they really had to be open-minded. If you have a teacher willing to vouche for you, see if they can be on speaker phone during the mtg. That helps. But really just be yrself & advocate for yr child. GL
[ Reply | Options ]They have 2 diagnoses for every problem - ADD and ADHD. A friend of mine went through this and they said ADHD, she took her son to every doctor until she found one that would listen. Turns out he just needed his tonsils out and now he is on the honor roll and Dean's list and a straight A student.
[ Reply | Options ]we did this when dd was 5 in K. it was great actually. the will do a whole bunch of tests - IQ, reading level, school readiness. Usually the school psych does it. Then you will meet with the psych, teachers and therapists to come up with an agreeable plan for services. It was a very positive experience for dd and she ended up "graduating" from the services by age 7.
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She didn't get a dx per se. More like visual distraction, auditory processing issues, and muscle weakness. She was given OT 2/week, PT 2/week in school. She loved it, did it with a couple of other kids and they were a nice little trio together so it was good for her social skills too. She thrived at her public school and they had a little party for her when she "graduated" from services. She is still there in grade 4.
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I did it and had very positive experience. I remember I called the DOE and asked for an eval myself bc. of some concerns. They provided a psychologist who came to school and observed the child. She then called me and discussed her observations. She also recommended follow up evals by SLP and OT. At the end, my husband attended a meeting where they recommended services and he signed the papers. Since then, I've been in contact with the DOE for a few years. The lady who handles our case is VERY nice, talks to me whenever I call with questions and is very helpful.
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[-]Have a dd (1st grade) who is struggling with reading at school. I read to her every night but was wondering if there are any online sites or products that I can buy to help her more. I don't want to make it a big deal for her (or me). Just thought it would be a change of pace for her once in awhile than me just reading to her. Thanks.
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