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  • [-]My ds scored terribly on the erb any suggestions as to what I should do? All I ever hear in that everyone in Manhattan scores in the 90th percentile and above. How can this be true? Is it?

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    11.05.09, 05:30 PM [ Flag ]
    • go public. there's no shame in it...

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      11.05.09, 05:31 PM [ Flag | link to this post ]
    • People lie. Especially on UB. Your ds will be fine. Just send him to a good public. It worked for most of us.

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      11.05.09, 05:33 PM [ Flag | link to this post ]
    • Give me an O...O!, give me an L...L!, give me an S...S!, give me an A...A!, give me a....

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      11.05.09, 05:35 PM [ Flag | link to this post ]
      • What does that stand for please excuse my ignorance. I only have one child and I had 5 miscarriages before I was able to have him. I feel as though I failed him.

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        11.05.09, 05:42 PM [ Flag | link to this post ]
        • Attempt to say redirect your energy towards OLSAT, the test for gifted and talented public schools.

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          11.05.09, 05:53 PM [ Flag | link to this post ]
        • OMG, please don't say that. you didn't fail anyone. he is what he is, and love him regardless of a silly test score. he'll do great in the long run...just wait and see!

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          11.05.09, 05:56 PM [ Flag | link to this post ]
      • What does O L S A mean?

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        11.05.09, 05:50 PM [ Flag | link to this post ]
    • what does "terribly" mean? what did ds get? Just apply to schools that will be right for that score. PSD will be able to guide you

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      11.05.09, 05:36 PM [ Flag | link to this post ]
      • np Ditto. People want those top 15 or so schools, though.

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        11.05.09, 05:38 PM [ Flag | link to this post ]
      • He scored in thee 55th percentile. He is bright. Thank you for your kind words. I spoke with someone and she tried to indicate that there was something wrong with him. He went to a well known Prek for 3 years and now he is in a Montessori school. He has learned mored since September than he learned in the previous 3 years. I moved him because they did not get boys at all.

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        11.05.09, 05:39 PM [ Flag | link to this post ]
        • the honest truth is that a 55th percetnile will not get you into NYC private schools. I might consider staying at your Montessori if he can, if your local public is not an option. Where you applying for 1st grade?

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          11.05.09, 05:56 PM [ Flag | link to this post ]
          • I am hoping to keep him in the Montessori for Kindergarten then take the erb again and hopefully apply to a boy's school-Browning, St Davids. Do you have any ideas?

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            11.05.09, 06:02 PM [ Flag | link to this post ]
            • how did he have 3 years before this year?

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              11.05.09, 06:06 PM [ Flag | link to this post ]
              • A playgroup at the school when he was 18 months to ensure that he would have a spot in the preschool

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                11.05.09, 06:09 PM [ Flag | link to this post ]
            • honestly, with a 55, I would try and understand why his scores were what they were....perhaps an indicator for something you need to work on (could be shy-ness or focus, not necesarily an "issue"). Schools will see your previous score as well as this one. St. David's can be very competitive.

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              11.05.09, 06:09 PM [ Flag | link to this post ]
              • Do you think it can be a maturity issue- he was at a new school, in a strange room with a stranger and had only been back at school less than a month?

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                11.05.09, 06:12 PM [ Flag | link to this post ]
                • sure, ti could be anything! he is a little kid. But you need to read the commentary as well as the scores of individual sections.

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                  11.05.09, 06:38 PM [ Flag | link to this post ]
                • np Unless you're a Trump, 55 isn't going to get your kid into those schools. Lots of kids get 99x3 at erb office--strange room, strange place and stranger. Be realistic. Really.

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                  11.05.09, 06:45 PM [ Flag | link to this post ]
              • What if I transfer him into a school in 5th or 6th grade do those scores still follow him?

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                11.05.09, 06:22 PM [ Flag | link to this post ]
      • She has been great!

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        11.05.09, 05:47 PM [ Flag | link to this post ]
    • he is your darling little boy-the same child before you found out his results.Please don't treat him like there is something wrong with him-children can feel that.And make sure you don't treat him in a way that will change his behavior-self-fulfilling prophecy?(sorry if I make mistakes,English is not my first language).There is a lot of pressure on this children nowadays.I agree with a good public school(move/rent if you have to).Try to find out the areas where he did less well-if speech,see a speech therapist a few times to find out how you can stimulate him etc.You did not fail him, it is just a test and expectations are too big at this age.OLSAT is a free test, you will get some more feed back from those results.

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      11.05.09, 06:40 PM [ Flag | link to this post ]
      • Thanks for your kind words. You are right he is my darling boy and I love him. Warren Buffet was reject from Harvard Business School and Bill Gates and Matt Damon dropped out of Harvard. I have to keep this in perspective.

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        11.05.09, 06:47 PM [ Flag | link to this post ]
        • Matt Damon is quite nice, but not that smart

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          11.05.09, 07:46 PM [ Flag | link to this post ]
        • if you think the scores are not correct and you can afford it, have him privately tested. if you go back and do ERB again, they must report scores. if the private tester does it, you can send them to schools if he does better and, if he does the same, chuck them. these tests are nothing more than an indication. If he's bright, he's bright. It just sucks for you.

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          11.05.09, 07:53 PM [ Flag | link to this post ]
          • i think that this is good advice. heave him tested privately. if the scores are radically different, you can certainly send them to the schools this year. if they aren't, you will have to sit down and figure out an alternate plan. of course he could transfer into a private school later (these scores will not follow him). but you need to worry about right now. if the montessori has been as good for him as you say, there is no reason not to keep him there for a few years. my friend's son was a very smart boy with a bad erb. they didn't get in anywhere and ended up in westchester where he is thriving. i am not telling you to move out of the city. i am just saying that there are many options other than a nyc private school. you just need to re-...

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            11.06.09, 07:51 AM [ Flag | link to this post ]
            • Thank you for your kind words/

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              11.06.09, 12:56 PM [ Flag | link to this post ]
              • I am glad you read them in the kind tone they were written (ub posts are sometimes hard to interpret because there is no "tone". Seriously, though, I feel for you because I watched my friend go through it and it was very difficult to watch her stress and suffering ( it hurts to have your wonderful child rejected by people who really know very little about him/her). Having said that, I am a big believer in always having a plan b (and c and d if possible). It sounds like you have a few options to consider. And that is a very good thing.

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                11.06.09, 01:17 PM [ Flag | link to this post ]
    • DS got 50 x 3. I was so new to NYC that I thought that meant he was perfectly on track, which he is. Test score does not shake my faith in him or the environment that his 2 PhD parents provide for him. We only applied to a few privates; rejected at a very tough one, rejected at his sib's school, accepted where we had a strong connection (not sure if they saw ERB score).

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      11.06.09, 03:19 PM [ Flag | link to this post ]
      • I am glad to hear that. I am sure that your son will grow up to be a wonderful person and it is a testament to how you and your husband raised him. I feel better when people are honest and supportive. I had felt so isolated and cried for 3 days. Thanks again.

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        11.07.09, 01:31 PM [ Flag | link to this post ]
  • [-]Who here is NOT in NYC? What's your impression of NYC moms from this board?

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    11.03.09, 11:18 AM [ Flag ]
    • I think the NYC moms use this board as a local forum. I'm a former NY mom and I read their posts and get nostalgic, and then relieved that I don't have to deal with their preschool woes.

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      11.03.09, 11:20 AM [ Flag | link to this post ]
      • Ditto that! We left when our DS was 8 months old. He's now 3, so I'd be in the thick of all that preschool application crap...so glad that I'm not. But I do really miss my friends.

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        11.03.09, 11:22 AM [ Flag | link to this post ]
    • moms are moms no matter where they are

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      11.03.09, 11:21 AM [ Flag | link to this post ]
    • NYC moms are a special brand of crazy!

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      11.03.09, 11:33 AM [ Flag | link to this post ]
    • I'm not NYC, and I've found that this board is actually full of very supportive women. Sure, there are crazies, but that's not a NYC thing. I do avoid all the school-themed posts, mostly because they don't have any meaning to me at all.

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      11.03.09, 11:42 AM [ Flag | link to this post ]
    • There is alot of interesting input here. Just be weary....

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      11.03.09, 04:14 PM [ Flag | link to this post ]
    • i live in the midwest and i don't think nyc moms are any different than moms anywhere else.

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      11.04.09, 05:31 PM [ Flag | link to this post ]
      • i live in the deep south and i don't think nyc moms are any different than moms anywhere else. there are some who are nice, some who are helpful, some who are clueless, and some who are mean as hell in every group....

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        11.04.09, 05:33 PM [ Flag | link to this post ]
    • I think NY moms are definitely more competitive, measuring their child's success against that of other kids. It happens everywhere, but it seems amplified in NYC, and it's hard not to when everyone around you is. My SIL lives in an expensive suburb and the self-promotion is incredible. I think that's also a NY thing- not with everyone, but a lot of people seem to need to project that for business, so it just filters down.

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      11.04.09, 05:39 PM [ Flag | link to this post ]
    • Moms are moms. Shrug.

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      11.04.09, 05:42 PM [ Flag | link to this post ]
    • I'm in D.C. The big difference that constantly jumps out at me is the high number of NYC moms who have disordered thinking about food. If two drops of high fructose corn syrup pass their dcs' lips at a party, well clearly this is a high crime and someone's head must roll. Perhaps the dc should have a charcoal purge? And speaking of purge, it's also fun, yet disturbing, to read all the 'I gained 11 lbs in my first trimesters; is it safe yet to diet in your 3rd trimester?' type posts.

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      11.04.09, 05:49 PM [ Flag | link to this post ]
  • [-]Does anyone see or know anything about Dr. Sami David??????? I use him myself but have mixed feelings.....

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    07.21.09, 08:41 AM [ Flag ]
    • No, but all I think is Sammy Davis, Jr.

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      07.21.09, 08:57 AM [ Flag | link to this post ]
    • I really liked him and his holistic approach of figuring out what was going on with my body and dh's body when trying to conceive. However, I had 2 failed iuis with him and went on to a successful ivf with Martin Keltz.

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      07.29.09, 01:23 PM [ Flag | link to this post ]
      • What a coincidence. I have seen Dr. Keltz who recommends IUI or IVF but my acupuncturist recommended seeing Dr. David. I have to wait until January when i will be covered under my husband's insurance. I haven't done any IUIs or IVFs and have been trying for 1 year with 1 m/c. I'm interested in your experience with both Drs. I am actually debating whether to go at all to see Dr. David since it's $600 the initial consultation.

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        10.29.09, 12:02 PM [ Flag | link to this post ]
    • never should have joined the Rat Pack. Always thought Sinatra was a total asshole. Loved the eye patch and the Jew conversion thing though. Never dug The Candy Man but did like his cover of Mr Bojangles

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      07.29.09, 01:40 PM [ Flag | link to this post ]
    • are you doing IUI? I saw Sami David. Was going to do IUI- after 2 failed IVF cycles @ RMA. We were planning on using sperm donor, but DR David said maybe try with DH first. Well, DH sperm was n/g. then an unravelling of marital problems followed, so we haven't been back. I am going to my OBGYN in 2 weeks, planning to start at square 1 with male factor, see where she reccommends for IUI + sperm donor.

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      07.31.09, 08:49 PM [ Flag | link to this post ]
      • He wants me to do IUI as well. But only because he can't really tell me why I am not getting pregnant which is quite frustrating and doesn't seem like a good enough reason. I am sorry to hear about the failed IVF cycles and marital problems.... God knows I now this whole fertility process puts so much pressure in your relationship!! What does n/g mean? We got all sorts of tests done:antisperm antibodies, post coitals at different times..... did Dr. David tell you that your husband's sperm seems to be the problem?

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        08.04.09, 02:26 PM [ Flag | link to this post ]
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