[-]OOPS. Whenever you press return it posts! So normal Pap smear and positive for high risk HPV. What does this mean?
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[-]my spouse and i are trying to figure out how to best deal with the following situation. our 3 y/o daughter has caught a cold that worsens at night. she starts coughing and then wants to be comforted. we differ on how to manage the situation. should you comfort her and agree to her requests ... such as sleeping in our bed, getting water, being held. or should you make a brief check to make sure she's ok and then let her cry it out. obviously, if she is on the verge of choking to death, we'd go in and check in on her but it's always about the grey areas right? she's not dying, but she's clearly in discomfort. is it better to let her cry out or comfort her when she's sick at night. when she is healthy, we agree on letting her cry it o...
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[-]Jack and....Isabelle, Allie, Luna, Lily, Isla? Name suggestions please!
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Luna sounds like looney. Jack, well how many times is he going to be mad fun of? "HiJack!!" Don't do that to your kid.
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I have a Ginger (nn for Virginia) and kind of want to have a Jack to go with her!
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How many of us growing up REALLY knew what our name meant or cared? You think our parents looked up in books what names "meant" before naming all of us? It's ridiculous that someone wouldn't use a name just because it's SOOO common. Choose a name that you feel is beautiful regardless of what anyone else will think. And STOP worrying how much your kid will be made fun of!
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[-]I have a 7 month old daughter and we considering moving to San Francisco for a job. I would like to live in the city but the jobs I am considering are in Menlo Park and Berkley - what would be the best neighborhoods to live in that would ease each commute? We are very into food and wine and our child, of course. My husband will not consider living in Burlingame, Menlo or Berkely and woudl realy like to live in San Francisco proper.
2 replies [ Reply | Watch | Options ]Berkeley you can live anywhere in the city becuase you just hop on the bart. Marina and Cow Hollow are quaint kid freindly hoods. For Menlo Park I would stick to neighborhoods close to 280 or 101 like Cole Valley but I did the commute from the Marina to Redwood City for a year, left the house around 7:20 and got to work at 8.
[ Reply | Options ]I recommend staying on the SF side of the bay so you don't have to deal with crossing a bridge or relying on the just-reduced service of Bart. Would your DD remain the city while you and DH are working? If so I would think twice about commuting for the sake of living in the city.
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[-]What is wrong with pizza? Can someone please tell me why some mothers get all upset when they see pizza on the table at a birthday party? I have never heard of this until this year. Thought some mother was going to call social services for my serving pizza at my 3YOs party.
36 replies [ Reply | Watch | Options ]How dare you not serve organic tofu, organic bean sprouts, and organic beet dip at a child's birthday party! You should be shot!
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These are just complainers---Now you know who the PITA mommy is...Avoid mommy & child in the future. BTW: How was the quality of her gift?
[ Reply | Options ]LOL-DH's best friend's wife. It was okay. They are kind of strapped so it was good. BTW-we never get a thank you from them for gifts. But those sulfate laden hot dogs are sure good!
[ Reply | Options ]This is why we always have an "adult only" lemonaide/bar selection and adult snacks/food at all b-day parties... We never have complaints about the pizza.
[ Reply | Options ]We couldn't do this at this place. There was an "after party" back at our house for the adults-she didn't come.
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I really don't understand adults who can't go an hour and half without foie gras. Jesus, it's a kids' party! They should have a sandwich before they leave the house if pizza offends them so!
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Every single bday party we've been too for 5 and under has had pizza as the main course. never heard anyone getting upset about it.
[ Reply | Options ]i had one of those moms at my dcs party last year. it was the first bday party of the school year, and i was nervous about it and meeting all the kids and parents. this mom made a comment right in front of me "pizza and cake?! this is healthy." i was so embarassed and felt horrible. then every other party had the same thing. it's what kids like, and parties are supposed to be fun. (of course that mom didn't have a party for her dc)
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[-]I was at a friend's house and noticed that her 1YO DD's crib is right next to the window. When I immediately said, "you need to move that crib", she looked at me strangely. Who doesn't know that a crib doesn't go next to any window?
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I wasn't rude about it-just matter of fact-shouldn't be there-she could tumble out of the crib and the window.
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I agree. We don't have window guards, so we don't open the windows in db's room I would be more concerned about any blind cords though.
[ Reply | Options ]You are so right. I've been trying to convince my husband that blind cords and these hanging lights we have are dangerous and he's so nonchalant about the whole baby safety issue. I finally had to bring in a baby-proof consultant (had a free coupon) to prove to him I didn't suddenly turn into whack job with regards to safety and baby. I'm actually not over-protective. He's the one afraid of germs jumping on the baby with bottle of Purell everywhere. LOL.
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ITA. If anything I would have phrased it as a benign question. And I would never issue an order to a friend such as....you need to move that crib. It's not your home and not your baby and certainly not your right to be throwing around orders. A simple...do you think it's safe for the baby to sleep in a crib by the window?
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[-]For those who have BTDT, what are the pluses and minuses of having children close in age (i.e. under 2 years apart)? Same question for having children who are, say, at least 3 years apart?
8 replies [ Reply | Watch | Options ]I think it depends more on the sex of the children. A friend of mine had her 2 dd's 4 years apart and all they did was fight all the time, another one had kids two years apart and they play okay but don't really get along (boy/girl) my brother and I are less than 2 years apart and we don't get along either.
[ Reply | Options ]Having your kids further apart - it's easier to handle both of them at the same time since the older one is less dependent on you when the new one is born. They can at least somewhat comprehend that they have to be gentle with the baby, why you can't attend to them right away if you're doing something for the baby, etc. If you're a SAHM, it also means you get to spend more time one-on-one with the younger one since the older one is probably in school already or soon after the second's birth. I was also pleasantly surprised at how much they play together, even though there's over 3 years age gap. Negatives - just when things are starting to get easier with # 1, you're back in the really intensive baby / toddler stage, and it does draw ou...
[ Reply | Options ]My kids are 14 months apart. The first year and a half was hard, but now, it is awesome. (currently ages 4 and 5) They play together, like many of the same things, and we enjoy it. Not for everyone though.
[ Reply | Options ]here are the pros that i've experienced by having dcs close in age. it's easier in a lot of ways: you already have diapers and other paraphernalia around and it's just a question of which kid gets which size, you can do things with them together, there's less jealousy b/c they basically don't remember a time when their sibling wasn't around. it's easier on you in some ways b/c there's an overlap on the age that htey take your full attention, instead of giving your full attention to one dc for 2 years and then starting again with another dc a few years later. the cons, in my experience, are that it's a lot of work in the first few years. but again, you are compressing all that work into a combined time.
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[-]Has anyone had an anatomy scan before 20 weeks? Mine is scheduled for 18.5 weeks and I'm concerned that it's too early.
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I didn't question my dr. when it was scheduled because I didn't realize that 20 weeks is the norm. If it doesn't make a difference, why would 20 weeks be the norm? Has anyone who has had it done early have any insight?
[ Reply | Options ]It's ok. You are using the word "norm" as if it has more meaning than the people I've talked to all had it at 20 weeks. Honest, it is fine at 18.5 - but if it is going to upset you and make you worry, just call back and tell them something came up and you need to reschedule and make it a week later. It really, truly, honest to goodness doesn't matter.
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I think that's just a set time so that parents know when it turns 20 weeks they can find out the sex but I don't think it's b/c of any potential danger. I know people have had it done earlier. I also think that a lot of technicians (unless they are well skilled) can sometimes give the wrong sex if it is done to early but if they are skilled then it's not likely.
[ Reply | Options ]I just want to know that a potential problem won't be missed because the scan is done "early."
[ Reply | Options ]are you worried about something specific? Do you have a family history of anything? They will be chekcing for club foot, spinafidia, hair lip, retared growth, heart defect, thickening of the skin at the back of the neck (and some other stuff) but all of this is viewable at 18 weeks - but - as other poster said, if you are goig to worry just change the appointment. Why not?
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I had a scan at 17 weeks for different reasons and they tried to do the anatomy scan at the same time. Some things were still too small so they couldn't see well enough. At 20 they could see everything. But 18.5 is a week and a half later so you might be fine. Worse they'll have you come back two weeks later and you get to see your baby again.
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[-]Is there such a thing as "spirited" children? Anytime someone says their kid is "spirited", I always see an out of control, loud, forceful child. Can someone enlighten me?
22 replies [ Reply | Watch | Options ]thanks-makes me feel better-the one mother is a former teacher who is now a stay at home mom and says that her children are 'spirited' and this usually happens at the same time I want to punch the little girl in the nose. Personally I think a swift swat on the behind would do these two good. My children are not "spirited"-they can just be "rambunctious" at times...
[ Reply | Options ]Of course, there is such a thing as "spirited" children. Just because some parents may use it as an excuse not to parent their children does not mean that there aren't children who by nature are more persistent, sensitive, active, etc. I agree with above poster who said it's a more positive label than "difficult." My ds is what I would call spirited insofar as he can be difficult to redirect because he gets very focused/fixated on an idea and is very high energy. He's not aggressive and people find him to be quite sweet, but I battle every day with getting him to listen when it's time to leave what he's doing to do something else. Reading a book about it right now and finding the tactics in the book work better than others I've read in o...
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People picked up the term from the book "Raising Your Spirited Child". My ds fit the definition perfectly. But when one actually reads the book there is a sentence which reads "being spirited does not entitle one to be a jerk." There's a lot of good advice in the book about setting boundaries, helping kids transition and getting kids to recognize and manage their energy and impulses as they get older.
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I think if your child is described as "spirited", it could mean they are somewhat willful in the classroom. To help with this, a "spirited" child needs steady, focused routines so he/she knows what to expect and what the general rules are. That's why routines work well with young children (and older ones too).
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I was responder above with 3.6 yo and I totally agree with you. I am reading this book too and am already coming up with strategies for dealing with some of our challenges. These strategies work better than others I've seen in other books, and the truth is my boy is a good natured, sweet kid. Each kid has their challenges whether it's being shy, or high energy or whatever.
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I think people may use this when their kids are very high-energy and daring, also very talkative. I don't think this always equates to spoiled -- spoiled to me means a kid who's rude and self-centered -- the two sets of characteristics don't always go together.
[ Reply | Options ]ita. i think it's a good description for kids that are adventurous, curious, willing to try things, high energy, etc. all very positive qualities but they can be hard to harness and hard to parent a kid like that. i think that's why 'spirited' has become synonymous (or at least a euphemism) for "bratty" or "uncontrollable".
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I think of my son as spirited, he's not rude or out of control. He has a lot of energy and jumps into everything with both feet. He talks to everyone and is thankful and friendly. I am a strict parent and I do not allow spoiled behavior.
[ Reply | Options ]of course there is...it's a personality trait...the trite answers above that attempt to assign the entire concept to neglectful parenting miss the point completely...children have personalities just like adults do...some are gentler, some are shier, some are friendlier, some are more active, some are more sedentary, and yes, some are more spirited (wild, stubborn, etc.)...of course this should mean more effort for the parent rather than merely an excuse for bad behavior...but yes, some kids are clearly more spirited than others
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[-]need an umbrella stroller recommendation. i know everyone has the maclaren volo but have heard that it breaks easily. any thoughts on the volo? or uppa baby g-lite? or chicco? i just need something really light and easy to maneuver.
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WTF - my father-in-law (who sis 77) is cheating on mother-in-law with a younger woman (in her 50's). What's worse is he lied to his wife that he went to a counciling session and stop the relationship. But m-i-l still see emails business as usual. I'm really disgusted by him because he always a project righteous image on the outside: goes to church and deeply disapproval of his other son's recent divorce etc...
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