I would love some input from btdt moms to ds. Lately my 4 yr old Ds has been very unkind ot his best friend. Whenever they play eh is bossy and says mean things, to the point where I need to end the playdate. I talk to DS about his behavior and he just shuts down. He only acts this way with this one friend. I don't want to be too intrusive a mother (a problem for me) but I want my child to be kind to his friend. Advice?
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Dear DH: The reason I am always so frustrated & angry with you is because it's like you're another child for me to take care of. I know that's hard to believe, but it's true. I understand that our 2yo wanted those scissors & you were awfully busy reading the paper, but did it not occur to you that perhaps that was a bad idea? I also understand that you work very hard all day -- I can really commiserate because I also have a job outside the home -- but do you not think getting the kids in bed takes priority over your iPhone? I can see how you thought the housework gets done all by itself because it's always so nice & neat around here, but honestly, the cleaning fairy doesn't really exist. These are hard truths to face, but I think you'r...
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[-]What's fun for us to do in NYC with 5 y/o that's not expensive? (Besides going to a playground). has anyone see that new kids movie j51?
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[-]What NYC restaurant would you go to for Thanksgiving dinner with a 3 year old boy?
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[-]what should i pay our nanny to stay overnight when my husband and I are away? and what about to stay over and work for a weekend while we're away? we have two children (currently six months and almost three years).
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[-]Looking up some old posts about preschools in westchester - particularly Elmwood in White Plains. Most seem very favorable but a while back someone called Elmwood a "Pressure cooker". What does that mean and does anyone know how it is now?
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[-]What are the boarding schools close to NYC that are good? Which are good but not all that well known?
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[-]When do sibling applicants hear about kindergarten? Not sure that my ds will get in and very nervous.
16 replies [ Reply | Watch | Options ]If you applied through Early Notification then you hear sometime in December or January. If you're so nervous, what's the matter? Why can't you talk candidly with the AD. If you're nervous, maybe the school isn't the right fit for the next child. I have three dc in three different schools. Sure it's a lot of work, but I care that they have the right place for themselves. I get so annoyed with selfish parents who just want expedience and don't look at other schools for second, third and fourth kids. Did you even bother to apply to another school or two? Take the tour?
[ Reply | Options ]I hear that schools are trying to admit more only children from older parents so they won't have so many difficult sibling cases.
[ Reply | Options ]The dumbest kids in my ds class are siblings. Schools should take kids who merit the spots and not stupid siblings. Would help for development too.
[ Reply | Options ]Dinging sibs is surely *not* good for development! It just makes families angry.
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Our #3 was dinged, with 99erbs, 2nd round hunter scores, and with what our psd was such a good school report, she did not think it was worth applying elsewhere. So we didn't, and ended up having to scramble. Sometimes there is just not enough space, we were not big donors, just kind of unimportant people.
[ Reply | Options ]OMG I can't even imagine how upset you must have been, assuming this post is real (and I really want to believe it isn't).
[ Reply | Options ]Sadly, it is real, and while dc is very happy now at another school, I feel unwelcome at the school now, and I used to be very involved. I feel like they do not like us, and it is hurtful for younger one to now come along to school functions etc. Raises questions I do not want him to deal with at such a young age.
[ Reply | Options ]wow... that is a really awful position that the school put your family in!! I just hope it works out better for your 3rd in the long run. I can totally see how it now colours the experience for you/your elder two DCs too. We are applying out this year with our 1st but your post makes me very nervous for #2/3 in a couple of years!
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There are so many sibs in my ds class that there is barely room for any new families in the school. Agree that sibs tend to be the weakest in the class and the parents get really clannish.
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neither. just make sure your child gets plenty of rest and read to them a lot and analyze stories and pictures
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[-]ps 87 or ps 166? Which is better? Do either have extra teachers in the classroom?
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[-]Any Brooklyn Friends moms on? How do you like it? Saw it last week and it seemed really nice, but looking for btdts about experience there and how it compares to other schools in Brooklyn or downtown (like, LREI, or Friends, etc). TY!
3 replies [ Reply | Watch | Options ]tell us more about your child, age, gender, interests, and I will try to provide helpful info about BFS (btw you don't need to give exact age, I am interested in whether you are looking at lower school, middle, or high, for example). I would not recommend the high school (or perhaps even the middle) to a very high scoring dc. In my experience BFS is not the best place for such students. I have known high scoring kids who were underachievers there, and had to go elsewhere to have their talents or abilities recognized or nurtured.
[ Reply | Options ]IMO the lower school is better for girls than for boys, for example, there is a lot of time sitting and in recent years very young boys were given no recess (but lunch) until after 1 PM, and guess what, there were behavior issues with large numbers of the boys! Surprise, surprise! Last year in one lower school classroom about half the boys in that class left the school for other schools (public as well as private though, so some might have been financially motivated)
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[-]We have visited several schools and VCS is our fc, followed by Fieldston. Any views on VCS from btdt? thanks a lot
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[-]erb question: if a school does not require the erb (example PK Fieldston) but says it would welcome any materials, would you send a copy of your report, or have the ERB send it directly? Also, which is the minimum score would you send (if not mandatory)? thanks
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[-]dcs that took erb 3 weeks ago. did you get your report already? thanks
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[-]preschool observation question---dd has an expressive speech delay which is rapidly improving and by 3, should be minimal if at all (kknock wood). should we mention anything at the interview/observations? they are looking for verbal kids, so not sure if info would help/hurt chances of getting in. any opinions? tia
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[-]Need weekend activity ideas for 4.5 yo dd. Specifics appreciated. we have a car. Naturally we've got the museums, play grounds, etc. covered but I'm looking for something new and different. Thanks.
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There is a mine in NJ my dc are dying to go to where you actually can go in sift and mine some rocks yourself. But my dc are really into rocks and gems. Also, Land of Make Believe in Hope, NJ esp with Xmas approaching; Skytop Lodge is fun and in the Poconos too. Philly, Boston, DC are fun overnight city trips.
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