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really - i think mine could "read" it but definitely wouldn't understand most of it. and then would never read it again so we are holding off
[ Reply | More ]She understood it all. I would not let her read it if it wasn't her level. I teach English and thus have raised both dcs in a very, very literature-rich environment. She reads for an hour a day. At lights out I always let dcs read with a flashlight (for fun) for another 20 minutes or so..
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[-]Help please! My 4 yo DD will not stay in her bed all night. She goes to bed fine with her brother, but always wakes up in the middle of the night and ends up in our bed. I turn on the light (she says she is scared), have tried bribes, but nothing works! When she wakes up she screams and screams, waking up brother, or just comes to our room. What suggestions do you ladies have?
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I believe she is right at the age when dreams become very vivid and scare the hec out of them. We did the following: nightlight, special lovey, I put "fairy dust", which was actually glitter on her head before she went to sleep. I told her that a fairy had given it to me it would only give her good dreams. Before we would turn the big light out, we would take a flash light and my husband would check the whole room for "monsters". Also, we hung a poster or sign on her door that was a "no monsters" sign. She will grow past it, try to help her fall back asleep in her bed when she wakes up. I would even go through the routine a second time in order to get her to relax.
[ Reply | More ]Put an air bed in your room. She can sleep on it without waking you up. My friend's ds did this routine for a few years. Now sleeps alone.
[ Reply | More ]my brother's ds did this for years. he would wake up terrified and would go into their bed. eventually, they put a mat on the floor and told hime he could come into their room but not their bed. it took him almost two years to be able to sleep by himself in his room. their ds is now 16 and you would NEVER guess that he was once afraid of the night. my advice is be patient and let her outgrow it by herself. let her come into your room if she needs to, but it is ok to keep her out of your bed if her presence bothers you. (FWIW my brother can be a bit harsh, so i was really glad that he and SIL were gentle about this)
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[-]I had recently moved from my native Ghana to a fine townhouse in the upper east side of Manhattan with my dd to work at a consulting firm. With my complex schedule I need to find a reliable sitter for my dd. I have received several applications but am rather skeptical of hiring a white woman because of the stereotypes that I have heard in this country. I have heard they are lazy, quite uneducated, and lack proper social skills. Useful advice would be greatly appreciated.
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I personally believah thatah US Americans are unable to do so becausah some people out there in our nation don't have maps. I believe that our education, like, such as, South Africa and the Iraq, everywhere, like, such as people over here in America need to do so for our education over here in the US.
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I hope you are prepared to deal with all the stereotypes as they relate to Africans as well, since you seem so ready to burden others with them. But to answer your question, if this is a legit OP to begin with, our experience with our white nanny was wonderful. She was excellent and didn't suffer fools who felt obligated to question her relationship to our DC.
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Does anyone send their DC to the West Side YMCA co-op nursery? We are considering applying there for our DD there when she turns 3. It would be helpful to know the tuition amount (I can't find it on their website), and what kind of experience anyone has had with the program. Thanks.
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[-]Need some advice on how to convince my wife that she is making it much more difficult to discipline our boys than it needs to be - I look to avoid unnecessary fights and simply explain the behavior that I'd like to see, and the consequence that will occur if that behavior is not met. If the request isn't followed the consequence is (calmly) enforced.
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Need some advice on how to convince my wife that she is making it much more difficult to discipline our boys than it needs to be - I look to avoid unnecessary fights and simply explain the behavior that I'd like to see, and the consequence that will occur if that behavior is not met. If the request isn't followed the consequence is (calmly) enforced.
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[-]How many playdates does your preschooler have a week? My almost 3.5yo averages about one a week. He's happy and doesn't seem to want any more. But other parents tell me their kids have multiple playdates a week, and often standing playdates with certain friends. Is he missing out on a chance to grow socially? TIA!
13 replies [ Reply | Watch | MoreGet a grip. He's 3. Let him be a happy 3YO and stop worrying about what other kids are doing.
[ Reply | More ]Isn't he in preschool? IMO, that's where the most important socializing takes place. We do playdates occasionally as well, but honestly, those tend to be more for me, and I think that's the case for most Moms.
[ Reply | More ]^^^ also, even without a formal "playdate" kids that age often form impromptu friendships with whoever is at the playground, and I think that's probably an important aspect of socializing too, and one that is missed if your Mom is always scheduling who you are going to play with and when.
[ Reply | More ]OP: He is in preschool for 3 hours a day, and is happy socializing with the kids there,although he doesn't have any one particular friend or buddy yet. He also doesn't yet join in on the group imaginary games the kids play (superheros, etc). He's young for his class, and most of the kids are 4-10 months older than him, so I assumed he was just a bit young to get the group socialization things yet. Teacher isn't worried- says that at 4yo there is often a dramatic change in their socialization skills. But I can't help but wonder if he "needs" more playdates, even though he doesn't want them. Thanks for your reassurances!
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Why don't you just set up an additional playdate a week and see if he enjoys it? You might be surprised.
[ Reply | More ]OP: That's what I'm trying to figure out. Is this something that I Should do? Right now, we're happy as we are. But if its "better" for my child than letting him play with his toys at home, or at the playground/park in good weather, then I'll do it. Hmmm....
[ Reply | More ]you might be overinterpreting the term "playdate." most playdates are exactly what you are describing--being in your house playign with your toys or going to the park, only with another kid there as well. it really is much more fun for the kids most of the time. see if you can arrange to meet another family at the park/playground. the kids can play together. when dd was younger, we had a standing playdate with a friend. what that meant was every sunday we were in the city and the weather was nice we would meet at the playground.
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[-]Has anyone recently gone through the CPSE process in Nassau County Long Island? I was wondering what schools you'd recommend......
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[-]Preschool teacher told me that I should get evaluation for My 3-year-old DS for ADHD. She is also concerned about his hitting other kids. He is doing OK at home except for mildly/occasionally hitting us or his younger btother. The teacher is new and has been at the school for a week. I understand that staying concentrated at the circle time is very important but I do not want to put too much restrictions on him. Will he be a menace to the society, should I see the doctor and even direclty evaluators from the Early Intervation Program? Any insights or opinion highly appreciated!
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That is very strange. I've taught in 3's classes and no way would I rec evaluation after one week
[ Reply | More ]Same. I worked with preschool special ed and some kids DID have attentional issues as part of many other developmental problems, but after one week it'd be impossible to tell. In one week the class isn't even adjusted to the teacher and her routine and rules. Hitting is a concern, but could be happening for many reasons besides ADHD.
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No real doctor would ever ever ever diagnose a 3YO (or 4, or 5YO for that matter) w/ ADHD. Not even a 6YO - although that seems to be fairly common lately (super sad). Ignore the teacher's comment and teach your son that hitting is absolutely unacceptable. How does she handle it in the classroom?
[ Reply | More ]When you say teacher, what do you mean? Is she a daycare provider (which can mean virtually no education) or does she have an early educ degree? Either way she is wrong.
[ Reply | More ]Thank you all for the comments, much appreciated. OP here. The teacher has early education degree and has just started at Preschool of America. In her class there is a boy who has a helper from a private agency for his being a bit autistic (he looks normal to me), and she thought the similar help may be beneficial for DS. My DS loved the class two teachers ago. She and the sub-teacher were fantastic. No hitting during the time. He started hitting after they left the school. The new teacher also does not like guy-play. I am totally anti-gun and understand it's a no no more than from the perspective of political correctedness, but I think this could be the only time boys can play fantasy guns. The scary part is that the young direct...
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I just shuddered when I read this- my DS hits and pushes, seemingly more to get a rise than genuine agression but a hit is a hit. Many boys his age can't sit still and do annoying things to each other (one poured sand over the teacher's head!)...while there's nothing wrong with getting an evaluation, I can't imagine this is a big deal at this point
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[-]OMG. My dd went to a birthday party hosted by a kid from school. Small party, only three or four kids from class invited. Just got a text message from a mom whose kid was not invited to party. Said her kid found out that she was not invited to the party and is very upset. Demanded to know all about the party, including who was invited! Why is she texting me about this party? Text the parent who threw the party and please leave me out of it! This mother is a wack!
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The mother may be whack (wack?)...but so is this insistence on texting! communicate face to face, or at least over the phone; it is too hard to judge tone in email or in a text! If you do decide to talk to the mom, even to suggest she call the party mom, please don't text! And yes, I know that suggesting one "unplug" on an anonymous online board is a bit ridiculous...
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[-]Has anyone heard of Gold Material Montessori School System with branches in Bensonhurst Brooklyn, East Vill and Kips BAy Manhattan? If you know anything about these preschools/daycare? Thinking of this as an evening school for a 3 yr old whose morning preschhol is 3 mornings/week
2 replies [ Reply | Watch | MoreMy son went to Gold Material Montessori School in Brooklyn for slightly over a year and that was great experience. He loved the school, but what is the most important is the knowledge and education he got from there. When my son took a test for gifted and talented he did score 99 and we were able to get to the Brooklyn School of Inquiry and that is probably the best public school in Brooklyn. Before getting to the Gold Material Montessori School we tried 2 other preschools and there is a big difference. If you care about education, skills and knowledge then that would be an excellent choice. I cannot say anything about Manhattan branches because it is something new, at least last year when we were attending their school in Brooklyn they...
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[-]Day two of my 3yo son has urine that smells sweet....reading about childhood diabetes and freaking out. Pediatrician isn't available after hours. Anyone else ever had that happen?
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that's what i'd think, too. but one or two days won't make any difference so try to relax.
[ Reply | More ]I just wondered if it could be something else. Diabetes runs in our family, I just thought it was dangerous
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Is he drinking and peeing a lot? Has he lost weight? List of warning signs: http://www.jdrf.org/index.cfm?page_id=103498.
[ Reply | More ]The real question is, is he newly thirsty all the time? Like asking for a drink every hour? He may also be lethargic and grumpy. Good luck.
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Okay, impossible to diagnose without actual lab test, but excessive new thirst is one of the prime indicators in my opinion. Try to keep him with water and milk till you see ped, not juice or soda, def see them tomorrow, don't take no for an answer. I ask about nyc cause if it is you want to get hooked up with people who deal with diabetes all the time, not just let your local peed manage it.
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