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I think its fine. My 20 mo decided she is in love with Obama before he was even the nominee - his name was one of her first words, and we were big Hillary supporters... so if she asked for an Obama t-shirt, or I found one in her size, i'd put it on her
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[-]Can we all take a moment and recognize that women as a group, if they united for a cause, could radically alter life in America. Free on-site child care? Mandatory parental leave? Excellent public education? You name your issue, rally the troops and it could be done. Why don't we?
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[-]dh makes slightly over 500k. we have three children under the age of 5. we recently left the city. we purchased a house and have a jumbo mortgage of almost a million. we put down about 275k. we have full time live-in help as i would not survive without it. i would be in a looney bin. it was a tough year with the move and all, though we are pretty much broke. our move was delayed and we were carrying two places. we have little money in the bank. i'm very worried! dh is annoyed we can't put money into 529 etc. he makes a decent living and to most of the world an amazing living. why is it that in the tri-state it feels so much harder? i feel "poor"...our expenses are high and i fear they are just going to increase and with the mar...
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with interest rates at under 5, you mortagage amount is fine on the new place. sell the old place! i do not understand why you are keeping it.
[ Reply | More ]You really overextended yourself. Try to find a way to cut back. I would never take out a 1MM mortgage on a 500K income.
[ Reply | More ]If you lived in a smaller home, it would be more affordable and you wouldn't need the help to assist with the upkeep. You'd be using less resources such as heat and electricity and possibly water. It seems to me you have put yourself in this situation and can't see the forest for the trees.
[ Reply | More ]Now that you are only carrying one place things should get better, but you need to build your nest egg back up. Can you cut back for a while? Keep in mind that some of the dcs should be in school at least part of the day soon and you will be able to cut back on the full-time live-in help. Enjoy it for now, but don't get dependent on it.
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dh makes slightly over 500k. we have three children under the age of 5. we recently left the city. we purchased a house and have a jumbo mortgage of almost a million. we put down about 275k. we have full time live-in help as i would not survive without it. i would be in a looney bin. it was a tough year with the move and all, though we are pretty much broke. our move was delayed and we were carrying two places. we have little money in the bank. i'm very worried! dh is annoyed we can't put money into 529 etc. he makes a decent living and to most of the world an amazing living. why is it that in the tri-state it feels so much harder? i feel "poor"...our expenses are high and i fear they are just going to increase and with the mar...
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[-]Opinions on "nanny cams"? How would that work, anyway - you'd have to have one in every room, no? Otherwise, nanny would just go into another room to do something inappropriate - as obviously they would know that the cam existed? Or do you tell them it exists from the start? Seems paranoid to me to have one, but it IS your child after all....thoughts? Has anyone *actually* witnessed something bad happening on one?
39 replies [ Reply | Watch | MoreDon't want to upset you but there was something on the news about a decade ago where a family used a nanny cam and saw this evil woman hitting their baby with something wooden. It breaks my heart to think about it. And I am sure this is not an isolated case as there are evil people that fall through the cracks. I am more for random unannounced visits, but I also think nanny cam is a good idea.
[ Reply | More ]The advice I was given is that if you get one you're guaranteed to see something you don't like and that will ruin even a good nanny relationship. I do agree with the poster below about unnanounced visits, asking people you know to walk by the park when you know she'll be there with DC, etc.
[ Reply | More ]we have one, we love it. it streams over the internet to our work computers. I feel much more connected to my kids and it enables me to better manage my employee -- I know the details of what is going on so I can talk to her about how to deal with certain situations etc.
[ Reply | More ]OP- thanks - so, did you tell her about it from the beginning so she knew it existed?
[ Reply | More ]No, she doesn't know (and neither did the two I fired before her). It gives me great piece of mind, and having had a bad nanny (the reason I got the camera) and a nanny that started out great but then became neglectful after a year (which I suspected but was able to confirm with the camera) I wouldn't ever have a nanny now without one. We love our current nanny and rarely watch it, but if anything seemed off, I am glad I have this tool to use if needed. We got it at the Spy Shop on 34th street.
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Would you allow your nanny to use her laptop to watch live stream of her kids in daycare while on the clock for you? I bet 90% of UB nanny employers would fire their nannies for such things. lol
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I feel like if a person is on the look out for wrong doing...they'll always find it. I think nanny cams are okay as long as you let the nanny know she'll be under constant surveillance. I feel like when you set a nanny cam up without telling the person your simply looking for trouble and waiting to catch her messing up.
[ Reply | More ]Stay home and look after your own kids if you're unable to interview well enough to make you feel secure and trusting.
[ Reply | More ]- NP you are one annoying sod -- on so many levels. Not only do you know nothing about this woman's situation and choice in her childcare choices.. but if you seriously think an interview is all you need to trust a virtual stranger with your children, you are one NAIVE little lamb. Watch the news pet.
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we have a nanny cam. it is a live feed and i check in throughout the day (more when they were infants). they are 4 and 5 now so they will tell me if something is bothering them. My previous nanny told me that my ds was climbing out of his crib and she caught him just in time. of course, the tape told another story. she was somewhere else and he climbed out, fell smack on his back and was running around looking for her. It was no big deal in the sense that she was downstairs doing laundry, but why did she lie. i wasnt thrilled with her-that lie gave my the extra kick to look for someone else-if she lied about something that was not her fault what else was she lying about.
[ Reply | More ]we had a nanny cam because my DC has a health condition and i wanted peace of mind. I told the nanny where the camera was and she was ok with it. i think honesty is the best policy. put it in the living room (assuming that's where the baby will play). i ended up not checking the camera that much and to be honest, i knew the nanny was great because my DC was always smiling and happy....
[ Reply | More ]Wow I just had an incident last week caught on my nanny cam! My nanny (who was recommended by someone I know) was basically ignoring my db and sleeping when he was awake alone! I would not have known if I didn't have a nanny cam (db is still an infant). Bottom line - I highly recommend one
[ Reply | More ]There was that case a few years ago on the news where the nanny cam caught the little baby rolling off of the couch as the nanny was watching tv, the nanny picked up the baby by the feet and put it back on the couch. They showed the footage on the news. It was so haunting. Esp. when babies are that young, there is nothing wrong with that if you don't know the nanny.
[ Reply | More ]i would get one for everywhere, or just have my house "wired", this way you can monitor every room while on line. chances are if you can afford nanny you can afford the one time fee to have it done.
[ Reply | More ]I would get one. The people I know who have one never saw anything that bad. My friend found out that the nanny was blasting the heat after they left- and denying it, and calling her cheap on the phone. She was great with her kids so she kept her for a year until she started school. No one is perfect. I wouldn't tell the nanny about the nanny cam. It will only make the nanny keep your child in the library or starbuchs all day.
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[-]I waited for the most graphic,disturbing part was over but ask that anyone who receives WLNY tv station to turn it on.Listed as Documentary"Abortion on the channel guide is a program depicting fetal heads,limbs and strong,heavily biased Anti-choice propaganda.It is OUTRAGEOUS!They've moved on to a series of vignette interviews perverting the right to choose as a death knell for our US economy.Please contact the channel and your cable service providers.This is mad-regardless of your stance on this issue.
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Enough with the Tucson tragedy, presidential visit, Palin sidewhow, etc. With all due respect, let's have some fun. Anyone have any good on-topic jokes? Me, I keep wondering how many terms she'll serve. I mean, its not like she has the kind of job where she actually needs to show up. She could be our first SAH Representative.
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