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Didn't think anything of it but then read on a morel mushroom recipe site that some lady was buying some from a farm stand and the farmer told her she shouldn't eat them while pregnant. Said she looked it up (didn't say where) and found that to be true. But I can't find any sources saying they're not safe during pregnancy, so I didn't know if I was just missing something or if her information was bad...
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Help! What is the best baby monitor for twins? I have an audior monitor for my son but was thinking of getting a video monitor for the new babies. I will also still be using my son's monitor for him, so one that does not get a lot of interference is important. I have also seen video monitors that have 2 cameras, this may be good for when the babies are each in their own crib. HELP! TIA.
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[-]My DS is almost 5 months old and weighs 16 lbs and 27in long. I just stopped breast feeding and am giving him 4 8oz bottles a day. Should I be giving him more? When should I start him on solids? Sometimes he freaks when the bottle is done but he sleeps 12+ hours a night. I guess sometimes I just feel like he is still hungry. Is this possible?
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[-]question on joining a temple - we have a 1 yo ds and are thinking about joining a temple on the uws. dh and i are both jewish - sort of reform/conservative and have been putting off joining until we had a family. aside ffrom a leg up in nursery school admissions (?) what are the benefits of joining? is it worth the $$? (how much is it anyway?) also does it really help to get us into nursery school? what temples would you recommend?
6 replies [ Reply | Watch | Options ]all temples are different (in terms of $$). we go to an UES reform temple and membership plus hebrew school for one year cost about $5k. we didn't join until the summer before dc started hebrew school. it's worth it to join earlier if being a member of a temple is important to you.
[ Reply | Options ]On the UWS, the reform synagogues are Stephen Wise and Rodeph Sholom. SW is smaller. Dues are 3k/year. Rodeph is about the same. Much bigger. Tiered dues based on where you sit at high holidays. Both have preschools and give preference to members. I'd say go with whichever one is closest to start. Both have tot shabbat, which is a nice thing to do with a toddler on a Saturday morning.
[ Reply | Options ]We went through/are going through the exact same thing- we decided to join Bnai Jeshurun our decision was based on attending tot shabbats and services at Stephen Wise, Rodeph and BJ- and touring the temples that had nursery schools- We liked that BJ was a non-denominational temple- and that the services were very welcoming filled with song- and the family activities and community service opportunities were a big draw to us as well. In the end, we wanted a secular schooling experience for our dc so the nursery portion didn't matter to us at all, however, I know in the tour Stephen Wise (and I loved their preschool) mentioned that on the tour. Rodeph, I think because of its size, wasn't as upfront about members having preferences- GL!
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Also, I know that there are a bunch of non-practicing and mixed (religiously) couples at Stephen Wise. They like the community and the school. I think to get a preference at any of these places, you would have had to be a member for at least 2 years before you are applying though - so the point of being a member is to be a members.
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We just joined Habonim ( conservative ). The membership dues were included in our pre-school cost. Because we were not already members of the synagogue, we were wait-listed when we applied and eventually got in. Both my husband and I really like the temple, it is conservative and yet liberal and egalitarian. It is a very warm and friendly place and we are happy there. They have many programs and events for young pre-schoolers. Our dc is making friends and we feel that we are part of a community now that extends far beyond just pre-school.
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[-]anyone else VERY bored with their job and know they should be doing more challenging work but just do not know what to do? I am an exec asst and make $90k BUT BORED and makes me feel stupid.
8 replies [ Reply | Watch | Options ]Makes you feel stupid because other people at work as SO much smarter than you? No? Makes you feel stupid because the work is so easy? That makes no sense; if work is easy to you, then you are too smart, not too stupid. Accept that its a job that pays well, and that you will move on to something more challenging.
[ Reply | Options ]This website sells things like monster spray and all kinds of things to help kids who are afraid of monsters- http://www.theshrunks.com/
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Hi, My nanny has been with my family for 3 years now , she was referred to me by a close family friend but now we're moving and I want to help her place with a new family. Does anyone have any suggestions. She is so awesome we could not have asked for a better nanny and I would really like to help her connect with the right family. She started with me 2 weeks before I delivered and is experienced with newborns right thru school aged children. She's also worked with twins in the past. She has awesome communication and is trained with CPR. She prepares food for the baby from scratch, does babies laundry and shopping and cleaning of all areas where the baby is. Arranges great playdates. Does lots of reading and singing and interacting with my ...
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[-]Looking for BTDT - considering having a live-in nanny. Currently have a live-out nanny who works from 8-6. The hours really are not working for us as we both need to be able to work later than that most nights (just an hour or so, but current nanny not willing to work later). I grew up in the south and would love to find a recent college grad from a southern school with a similar value system (essentially looking for me, but 10 years younger). Looking for any insight...
10 replies [ Reply | Watch | Options ]You would be better off finding a live out nanny who can work over time. You, 10 years younger, would never have worked as a nanny.
[ Reply | Options ]OP: We are actually looking at shifting how we alot our budget - we would essentially shift some of the money we spend now on nanny to our apartment (so we could get a bigger apartment to accomodate a live-in). To elaborate - I have spoken with several people including my old neighbor who is about to graduate and is a good Christian girl with a good value system who said if she was graduating in December she would love to do something like this... So, I guess my question is if someone has done this before and how the dynamic in the house works... I feel like this is only going to work if we find the right apartment at the same time we find the right girl...
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I have had both live-ins (when I was working way more) and live-outs. There are 2 varieties of live-ins - the ones who actually live with you and the ones who have someplace else to go on weekends etc. The former situation only works if you have separate quarters for the nanny otherwise it is like having another spouse (hopefully without the sex part). The latter is preferable. Au pairs have restrictions on work hours and the experience can range from having an unruly teenage nightmare in the house, to having a grown child. Having a live-out is WAY better for your private life. I'd try and find a new nanny who can stay a few hours later each night. I would not look for you ten years younger, but fat/ugly preferably speaks a foreign l...
[ Reply | Options ]Just wondering. If you work from 8-6 (which is 10 hours) but want to work later, your nanny is basically working 10-12 hours a day. When do you see your kids? I am not anti-working mom or anti-nanny but working everyday for 10-12 hours seems lot of awful lot for both parents.
[ Reply | Options ]Our nanny works from 8-6, I would like to work at least that long, but end up getting to work at 8:30 and leaving at 5:30 - for NY those are not bad hours and actually working from 8-6 is pretty good hours for my field. You are correct - it is not ideal, but you have to pay the bills... This is not a cheap city to live in and we don't want to move to the 'burbs because that would just keep us out of the house longer by adding commute time.
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While I haven't BTDT exactly, I have had "just out of college" nanny's and they seldom last long because they usually have bigger amibitions. So if you go this route, I think you need to be prepared for a lot of turnover.
[ Reply | Options ]Yeah - I am going into this with my eyes open that there will be turnover. I would like to ask whoever we find to commit to at least one year. I do not think we will need to go the live-in route for more than 4-5 years, and then we will go to just an after school sitter that could be more long term...
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[-]anyone else go through this? I had bacteral vaginosis in Sept, took Flagyl antibiotic, came back in Oct, took flagyl again and came back. The antibiotics aren't kicking this infection. Freaking me out. I have the thin, watery discharge that smells like urine and I have to pee a lot (not UTI - from the bv) I have to go back to dr but any advice?
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[-]For the past 2 days, my 3 1/2 week old baby wants to nurse every hour and a half and wont nurse for very long . Before this, she was on a 2 1/2 to 3 hour schedule and nursed for longer. Any ideas how to break this bad pattern?
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[-]new to this. if you co-sleep with db when, where, and how frequently do you have sex with dh?
6 replies [ Reply | Watch | Options ]sex is easy with a newborn because they sleep so much - put db somewhere safe (moses basket, stroller, on a blanket on the floor) - and you are good to go. It is much harder when they can open the door (get a lock and a new video)... having babies is so romantic!!
[ Reply | Options ]I agree. We often co-slept with dd but even when we didn't we had her crib in our room for the first year anyway but it didn't matter bc she slept so often. Even if she awoke and happened to look at us she didn't know what was going on at 6 months. If she was in our bed we would do it against the wall, bent over the bed, or take it out to the living room. It was great. Now at 3 she caught us and asked "what were you doing to mommy?" ugh.
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[-]My friend in Seattle has a new baby with colic/lots of digestion issues/allergies. She is thinking of hiring help, ideally a retired nurse, so she can pump and get sleep and just deal with a demanding baby. Any suggestions of people who do this?
7 replies [ Reply | Watch | Options ]1-800 Suck It Up. I did and so can she. This isn't a financial issue, it's a parenting issue.
[ Reply | Options ]np: that's awesome advice. And when this new mom completely loses her shit and the baby, mom, and dad all suffer, I'm sure they'll be so happy they took the "suck it up" route. Loser. The mom should hire a baby nurse if they could afford it. A coliky baby is a challenge for even the best of mothers.
[ Reply | Options ]Hey, 1-800 Troll, you are a turd. I've dealt with colic and it was crazy-making. Many studies link shaken baby syndrome to the same timeframe that infants experience colic. If someone is starting to lose it from lack of sleep, then by all means she should get assistance if she can. I doubt she'd be asking for help if she didn't need it. Even you, Troll, deserved some kindness while you were going through it, I hope you had some relief from friends or family. Judging by the tone of your reply, you didn't and that's a shame.
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1) Disposable CVS bed pads make awesome disposable diaper pads. 2) Mince the carrots and broccolli in the morning omelette and you've squeaked in 2 veggies by breakfast and 3) Say, "Yes," to your toddler as much as possible.
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They are who they are, try your very best to raise a child that doesn't need you but wants to keep in touch, your marriage is just as (if not more) important.
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[-]Any NYC moms able to recommend a lactation consultant? I'm suffering from flat nipples and my 1 week old baby won't latch on. I've tried all the advice La Leche League gave me over the phone but I need someone to come and help me hands-on.
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[-]To those with more than one: did you deliver as close to your due date for each? Expecting my second in about 5 weeks - my first came a little before 39 weeks - can I expect about the same?
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[-]At what age did your toddler start saying sensible words-words that he knew he was saying? 'Apple, nose, doggie"? My 18 mo ds babbles all day long "mamama, bababa", but yesterday at peds office she said it wasnt enough. Should start to make sensible words now. I am so worried for my son. When did yours say sensible words
24 replies [ Reply | Watch | Options ]Both of mine started around 12 mos. They were not super-verbal, but they said words that made sense around a year. By 18 mos, they had about 5 words, I think. So, on-track for their age, but they were definitely saying a few things by then. Did your ped recommend EI or does he want to take a wait-and-see approach?
[ Reply | Options ]My son is 2 and was slow to say sensible words the he knew. A part of the problem is that we are a duel language home. I had that moment of freaking out and a friend in the same boat suggested a DVD called Baby Babble. My son loves it and it really has made a difference. He's been watching it for 2 months and his babbling increased and then a month in they turned into sensible words. I highly suggest looking into it. The DVD is made by two speech therapist so it's geared towards kids who need a boost.
[ Reply | Options ]I understand your concern and I would certainly keep on top of the situation but don't despair. Children have individual rates of development and sometimes they evolve slowly then suddenly improve exponentially. I became concerned for my twins at 12-18 months as their verbal skills were nowhere close to their older sibling at the same age. By 18 mos, my eldest had a vocab of 50+ words, knew the alphabet, all colour/shapes etc. My twins however, didn't have 10 words to share between them at the same age. Sought EI for them at 18 months but didn't qualify; finally got them services at 2 yrs. The progress they have made in 6 months of therapy is astounding. Prior to EI, my DS didn't babble, interact, or identify pictures. Now I can h...
[ Reply | Options ]Hi there-what is your phone # or email address. I want to learn more about EI from you. Will you plz be so kind as to talk/email with me in greater detail?
[ Reply | Options ]don't feel comfortable posting my email address on a public forum but truthfully, the best thing to do is contact a EI service provider and get the whole picture from them. We went through Sunny Days (www.sunnydays.com) and they were AMAZINGLY thorough in helping us negotiate the process. They have offices in the city and Staten Island.
[ Reply | Options ]NP: I am having similar issues with 14 mos DS (not talking and no response to name). Can you please shed some light on what to do? I mean, do I call Sunny Days and say what? Do I have to pay for evaluation? What happens during the evaluation and how will it help? TIA.
[ Reply | Options ]OR: EI evalutions are free. Sunny Days (or other EI service coordinator) will ask you a lot of diagnostic questions on the phone (have your notes ready) and then will likely arrange for several therapists (speech, occupational, physical) to evaluate your child in your home. The evaluation itself asks for a lot of specific information from the parents. They also observe your DC and try to interact in a age appropriate fashion (for younger kids, maybe try to pass items back/forth... for older kids, can you point to the bunny?), etc. After the eval, you will receive a comprehensive report of their findings which you review with Sunny Days. If DC is deemed eligible (I believe your DC must be found to be at least 30% delayed in one area t...
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My son is 18 months and has about 75 words, though most dont' sound too much liek the real word, though usually the initial syllable is right. (like he calls pasta Noony, for noodles, calls Pizza peetie). He probably has about 20 words that other people would recognize right away.
[ Reply | Options ]pick one or two words you want him to learn - something easy to say and that db really likes - say them a lot while varying your voice - try to get dc to look at your mouth while saying them - "UP" is a good one - say it while lifting him up- be silly - make your voice louder and softer, higher and lower- use a hand gesture too- make sure dh and babysitters play similar games
[ Reply | Options ]Is your toddler getting enough language interaction during the day with the nanny? Read easy board books with lots of pictures to him and point to the pictures as you read the words. And then have him point to the pictures. There are lots of ideas online of ways to encourage talking - check them out and then have your nanny follow through with what you and dh do. I'm sure he'll start blossoming out soon but it sounds like he could use some encouragement
[ Reply | Options ]NP: 15 mo has no words. Ped will follow up in 2 mos. In meantime what can I do to promote language? What exercises does EI give?
[ Reply | Options ]As I suggested above, read easy board picture books with dc; point to the picture as you read the word and then have dc point to the picture. Check out online for tips for encouraging language deveopment/talking. Once the words begin, you'll see them blossom. It sounds like Sunny Days is a great EI service provider.
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First real words and animal sounds came around 11 months, but I hear that's considered early. By 15mo he had a dozen words, by 18mo maybe 40-50, now at 20mo I lost count, probably close to 100. But although these are real words, a lot of them only the family understands. I don't think it's unusual for a boy to be mostly nonverbal at 18mo. Good luck!
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[-]db (3 months) has begun waking up every 20-30 minutes of a nap and is still tired/cranky (cries). only time she doesn't wake up is if i am wearing her and walking outside. only thing working inside right now is to nurse her and she is out ... for 20 minutes. trying to get her to take pacifier but no success yet.
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Requested a transfer at work, but just found out I am 8 weeks pregnant, a surprise. Our DD is only 1 - we're really excited, but completely freaked out. 2 under 2? And how do I explain this at work...um, cancel that transfer request....I think I will just sit tight until I go on leave?
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