[-]What is a TT school, and what are the best ongoing schools in manhattan?
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[-]How much do you spend on your high school DC's clothes if they go to a nyc private school?
6 replies [ Reply | Watch | Options ]Maybe $400 a year, mainly shoes, basics. They work on day a week to earn money for clothes.
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np: if they are working too then they are adding to the OP's 400. budget, right? That's not bad.... say the dc babysits for $10/hr one day a week, that could easily add $200./month.
[ Reply | Options ]Actually, gets paid $15 an hour, 5 hours a week, and I give them $200 twice a year at beginning of season to get shoes and basics. That goes quite far.
[ Reply | Options ]I think that's a great model actually. May I ask an indelicate Q? Are you on a tight budget or do you have means but have chosen this structure for education purposes? I ask because we have $ but I don't ever want my dc to be over-privileged in that they expect everything handed to them. My dc are younger but I think your plan might work for them when they're old enough to work.
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ds will not wear anything but Levi's (preferably old), sneakers (preferably Converse) and dark-colored t-shirts from old rock bands. In other words, exactly what I wore to public HS in the '70's. I couldn't be happier with the style--just hope this keeps up when dd gets to HS! (Though Target and Loehmann's are her favorite stores, so I'm not too worried.)
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[-]Re: Fieldston openly gay guy who resigned to hang out with his lover in the country: I think a Head of school is also a role model for the students. Any school who has a head that's not in a stable, married relationship (preferably with children) living a moral life is not fit.
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[-]Discouraged about post-baby body. Was in really good shape, and even now am no slacker. But abs are just so stretched out, they don't hold my belly in like they should. I still look pregnant. I am doing all the right things, exercise-wise. When will this change?
14 replies [ Reply | Watch | Options ]Your abdominal muscles might have separated. Mine did. To check, lie on your back and do a little crunch. If your stomach sinks in (like a hole) then your muscles have separated. It is called Diastasis Recti. Mine is extremely bad but I had twins and got super stretched out. I am trying to figure out how to correct it. I think I need surgery.
[ Reply | Options ]I had that, and did pilates with a sports medicine guy to correct it. Very specific exercises. My insurance paid for it, since I was diagnosed as having diastasis. It really worked, I was amazed, as my doctor was talking surgery to correct it.
[ Reply | Options ]How bad was yours? Was it one small spot or did it extend all the way from top to bottom of abdomen? I am so discouraged about mine right now. It is hard to imagine that pilates or any exercise could correct it (not that I do not believe you - I am just feeling overwhelmed).
[ Reply | Options ]It was big, also had hernia at belly button. I was amazed at the results, but I was made to work very hard by instructor, and it is very specific, small exercises for this condition, so definitely only try this approach with someone who knows what they are doing in terms of diastasis. You would be surprised how many trainers know nothing about it.
[ Reply | Options ]Okay. that is what I need to do. I have the belly button hernia too. I had that even from my first pg with singleton. What do I do? Go to my regular doctor for a diagnosis? Or OB? Not sure where to start. Gosh who will watch my kids while I go for treatments. I don't know if I can swing this. Maybe I need my mom to retire first. Can too much time pass before you begin?
[ Reply | Options ]My dc was 2 before I got properly diagnosed. Go to Doctor, see if they will refer you to sports medicine, or therapist that your insurance accepts...If not, then pay for a session with good person once a month, and have them write notes for you on exactly what to do at home. All we ever used was one of those big rubber balls.
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I thought that that was the case with my abs and then I did T-Tapp and my abs looked better than before (and I'd had a c-section).
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website is www.t-tapp.com - you can look at it for yourself. i found it effective.
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[-]If any of you can give me advice or refer me to someone who can, I would greatly appreciate it. Long story short....I fled an abusive marriage (verbal, emotional, financial, then physical). We're in Family Court to deal with Child Custody/Visitation and Support. My former attorney left me stranded when I could no longer afford to keep him on retainer. I requested and was awarded a court-appointed attorney for the Custody trial. But, I just found out from Family Court that court-appointed attorneys are not given for Support cases. I'd have to either hire another attorney or represent myself. I can't afford another $300+/hr attorney and representing myself isn't an option. My husband has convinced the judge that he has no money. Meanwh...
20 replies [ Reply | Watch | Options ]just go and represent yourself. the judge will walk you through what you need to do and say. chances are you will end up getting the support you need to get on your feet again. those judges have seen and heard everything and will be able to see through ex.
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an organization that helps abused women (such as The Retreat, in my area www.theretreatinc.org)may provide legal advocacy. I was helped with custody problem, no charge. A rep even came to family court with me and waited all day to see judge. if they cant help they may refer.there must be something like this in nyc. good luck!
[ Reply | Options ]don't know if they take such cases, but try the Legal Aid Socienty.... http://www.legal-aid.org/en/home.aspx
[ Reply | Options ]Thanks ladies for the support and referrals! Wanted to clarify, we're in NYC. We've already had two hearings and judge wasn't at all sympathetic to my situation. He keeps saying "You know, you've got to go out and get a job!" And I think to myself, "Yes sir, duh, I know that, but there's the small matter of not having enough money to pay someone to care for my child." That's why a (great) lawyer for trial is so important. Need someone who can get us more $ so that I can get back on my feet.
[ Reply | Options ]call everywhere you can and try to get pro bono attorney, DO NOT REPRESENT YOURSELF. whoever posted that does not know what they are talking about. i am attorney and wouldn't even represent myself, anyone who does is a fool. there has to be resources for you in NYC, i'm not there but looks like you should find something. why were you denied spousal support? do you have copies of your tax returns and other documents that show what your husband makes?
[ Reply | Options ]Denied spousal support because husband is paying off debt that I wasn't aware of: owes ex-wife child support in low six figures!, that payment is $3K/month, plus others. His financials show more going out than coming in, but like I said he's living in nice 1 BR with plans to move to 2 BR in same bldg. So, there's something wrong with this picture, and I can't fix it on my own. As for taxes, he skated by without filing for the past few years. And although he works as a consultant, thank goodness right now his income can be traced because company is paying him as if he were salaried.
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[-]I want to get my 2 yo ds a little piano for his holiday recommendations. anyone recommendations for a particular brand? he loves real pianos (we don't have one, but family does), but is also 2yo so a bit destructive!
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[-]Who can recommend a great foundation. Wiling to pay but need something that really looks good?
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[-]Our whole family has swine flu. My fever has been gone for 2 days but I still have the awful cough with (sorry, TMI) green phlegm. Supposed to go to SIL's baby shower tomorrow. This is a big occasion for her, and I don't want to miss it. However, I've done some research and while it's not concrete, general consensus is that I'm still contagious if I'm coughing. Should I ask SIL if she still wants me there, or should I go? DH thinks I'm being dramatic and trying to get out of going. I think I'm being considerate of the other shower guests. WDYT?
13 replies [ Reply | Watch | Options ]I wouldn't go and I wouldn't want to be around someone whose whole family had swine flu particularly when I am pregnant.
[ Reply | Options ]OP here: Thanks, guys. I think it's spectacularly bad form to bring my sick ass to a gathering in a small enclosed space, too! I keep telling him that I'd LOVE to get out of the apartment (I've been cooped up since Sunday night with three sick kids) and gab and eat cake. It's not that. I just don't think it's right. SIL had the vax, but there are other people to consider.
[ Reply | Options ]I think your DH probably does not understand the risk to pregnant women and the general cautious feelings, even paranoia, of pregnant women and the people who love them! Call your SIL and explain that you really want to be there but that it doesn't seem very wise. I think she will be grateful.
[ Reply | Options ]You are not contagious if you have been fever free for 24 hours. With a pregnant SIL I might be overly cautious and go with 48 hours. The cough means nothing if there is not a fever.
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[-]does anyone know if LREI is harder to get into at preK or K?
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I don't know but the fact that regular nursery is about $18K and ongoing pre-K is about $30K probably keeps some people away. Also, some people don't realize that some schools start at pre-K until they apply for K and it's too late by then. This happened to us at some schools (town, Grace, etc)
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There are less spots at K because of all the preK kids moving up. And siblings often wait until K to enter.
[ Reply | Options ]I have been told the opposite. That most of the sibling/legacy/and board-connected people get in at the pre-K level. Not that this makes K easy, but it may be slightly more so just because those people are *mostly* dealt with by the time K admissions happens. To give you a sense, one close friend of mine (the principal of one of these schools--not LREI, another uptown) told me last year that they had 28 sibling/legacies for something like 18 spots...so they took half of sibling/legacies, and that left only 4 spots for other pre-K's. crazy odds.
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Several years ago, when we considered applying to LREI for preK, they actually sent out a letter to prospective applicants warning that preK slots were almost all taken due to sibs and legacies (the message being, you are welcome to apply if you're unconnected, but don't hold your breath). We applied for K the next year and got in (but did not take the spot). I think this means that if you're connected, you've got a better shot at getting in if you apply for preK, but if you're unconnected, your chances are better if you apply for K.
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It's about the whole school. Why would you want to send your child to a school where the director is not liked? My friend who is there says the director just needs more experience on how to talk to parents and get over her authoritative personality. Hmm, that sounds like quite a bit to overcome to me.
[ Reply | Options ]Toured the school. Met the new director and admissions person. Very unimpressed with the director...she barely spoke. I hear the old director was very different (in a good way). School was clean, but I am hearing from friends who are already there that they are unhappy with new administration and teachers.
[ Reply | Options ]The school is going down hill very fast. Ever since the old director left, the school has been a mess!
[ Reply | Options ]you did a search and posted this on both threads regarding Rhinelander -you have some bone to pick. What happened? Did they reject you?
[ Reply | Options ]No, I have one child who is still there and one that went through already. It's just not the place it use to be. The new pre-k teacher doesn't even know all the kid's names and it's November! She just really doesn't seem to know what she is doing.
[ Reply | Options ]I agree! Not the school that it was. Oh well! We are moving next year, so this is our last year there. I would not recommend it to those who are searching for pre-schools.
[ Reply | Options ]I can't believe that some current parents are bitching so much! There are many kids who did not get a spot at preschools. You should be thankful that your child has a place to go and socialize w/ other children. If you're so not happy, why don't you just pull your dc out? What matters is that "are your child happy?" If you say "yes", then that's your answer.
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My niece just took her sb - the tester said he knew a lot and asked where she went to school - it was rhinelander - so there you go
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[-]Is Regis a public school? What is up with the testing to get in? thanks.
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[-]Cold weather activities in Brooklyn - any ideas for what we can do today? My boys are 5 and 2, and we've done the Brooklyn Children's Museum to death already. Any new spots?
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you've got to pace yourself. if you've already done the BCM to death and it's still Fall, you need to get creative. And I agree w/above poster, they can be outside today. Other inside stuff: Brooklyn Museum arty facts or just walking around, Chuck E. Cheese, Mad Fun, Power Play, Aquarium, Transit Museum
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[-]what is your 5th grade ds reading? Need new book ideas - tia
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[-]This pic of Mariah Carey makes me feel better. http://theskinnywebsite.com/site/2009/11/new-mariah-carey-swimsuit-photos/#more-6619
20 replies [ Reply | Watch | Options ]I think she looks great- caveat: she is a horrible horrible dresser- wears clothes 3 sizes too small and trashy- if a good stylist got a hold of her- they could do wonders- I'm jealous of how toned her ass and upper thighs are - yeah, she's not a size 2 but so what.
[ Reply | Options ]yah... she's definitely a yo-yo weight celebrity a la Janet Jackson. I really don't think she looks that fat here relative to real people (vs 120lb, 5'9" models photoshopped to look 97lbs). Tacky - yes, fat - no.
[ Reply | Options ]hate the suit, but I think she looks pretty good. I know plenty of men that prefer a curvy body type to a boy skinny type.
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[-]SB question: If tester doesn't matter, then why are some much more popular? Why do I keep seeing the same tester names on UB, while others (on that Hunter tester list)are rarely or never mentioned?
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fwiw, i took sb when i was a kid and i just didn't "click" with my first tester. got a decent but not great score. due to a teacher's urging, my parents had me tested with another private tester. the improvement in score was so significant that i think it had something to do with "clicking" with the tester. to this day, i remember the 2nd tester ... almost 30 years later
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[-]Planning on delivery at the end of the month via c-section at Cornell. Would you recommend paying for a private recovery room? It cost so much $ and not sure it is worth it.
16 replies [ Reply | Watch | Options ]I did and i thought it was a good way to spend money; how many times are you going to give birth. I am a very private person and a germophobe. I would have been very unhappy if I had had a roommate.
[ Reply | Options ]Yes. I didn't have a c-s, but a difficult recovery - had to be hooked up to a catheter bc I couldn't urinate afterward. Also couldn't walk without help. Was forced to spend an extra night in the hospital bc of recovery issues. I felt lousy. Having a private room minimized the embarrassment factor and gave me the privacy I needed at a bad time.
[ Reply | Options ]You are going to get "yes" from those who thought it was a priority and did it and "no" from those who didn't think it was a priority and didn't do it (me). I think it depends on how private you are, how much money you have and your ability to ignore others in the room.
[ Reply | Options ]Ive delivered 3 kids - 2 by c/s - we always requested a private room, but didn't get one for at least the first night - it was fine until #3 when my roomate's family was a NIGHTMARE - they were there constantly, they yakked on the phone, they came into MY area to talk on the phone so as not to disturb roomie & they didnt leave for hours. I finally ended up in a private room for the final night (night 3) and I was exhausted. So I'd say it varies.
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[-]4 yo DD is driving me batty. Pushy, demanding and draining me. I'm seriously thinking, that I have to enroll her in activity (already do soccer and prescool!). I know we're not outside as much with the colder weather upon us, so I need to get creative! Any suggestions?
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