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  • [-]Who here truly feels that where DC goes to preschool/elementary/high school truly will affect his/her life that dramatically? Honestly I don't believe it matters as much as people think it does. I went to public schools, second-tier college, and ended up in fabulous job.

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    11.20.09, 12:15 PM [ Flag ]
    • My major concern is that DC spends that time reasonably happy. School is a waste of time for many kids, and a miserable one at that. I am sure that he will do fine in the long run, but I don't want him to waste his time in a crappy school--I want all of these childhood years to be as nice as possible! I don't think there is anything wrong with public schools or second-tier colleges if they are a good match for a child.

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      11.20.09, 12:18 PM [ Flag | link to this post ]
    • I hear you, but where I went to high school demented as it sounds gets people's attention in away you should understand from reading this board alone plus it opens you up to a completely different level of networking (when you are older of course) my classmates are doing incredible things and the common tie between us allows us to call up the other for a career change, discussion or opp. Does that make sense?

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      11.20.09, 12:19 PM [ Flag | link to this post ]
      • op: yes, but most of my colleagues went to ivies, and there i am in the same place as they are. agree that networking makes a difference, but it's not the only difference.

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        11.20.09, 12:20 PM [ Flag | link to this post ]
        • But it is such a huge network that is dispersed, all going to Harvard for instance while wonderful I am sure is not the close and similar experience that being Spence '83 is for instance. Or Spence any year for that matter. I went to an ivy but I never use the alum directory for networking only my private it actually has a more impressive roster for my year!

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          11.20.09, 12:25 PM [ Flag | link to this post ]
      • I don't know, I went to fancy-schmancy schools, and I don't think I have ever really used that network in my career. In fact, I'm always a little embarrassed to mention where I went to school. I still talk to my best friends from high school, but I don't think any of us feel we benefited much as far as networks. I do appreciate the great education, and I think it is natural that if you get a bunch of pampered, educated rich kids together they will go on to do some pretty incredible things relative to kids with less resources.

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        11.20.09, 12:29 PM [ Flag | link to this post ]
        • I think 'fancy-schmancy' is what gave away the fact that you didn't actually go to one but ok

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          11.20.09, 12:32 PM [ Flag | link to this post ]
          • op: huh? do they train those little spence darlings not to say "shmancy"?

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            11.20.09, 12:34 PM [ Flag | link to this post ]
          • LOL, nice try. I do think it gives away the fact that I don't take where I went for K-12 very seriously, and I definitely don't think it determined my life's path. I can't even think of a situation in which I have gone through an alum directory to "network"! I now teach at a fancy-schmancy University, and the students I most enjoy working with--and many of the brightest-- are usually from publics. Different strokes...

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            11.20.09, 12:35 PM [ Flag | link to this post ]
          • NP. i hear/use "f-schm" all the time and i went to andover/stanford (2 degrees).

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            11.20.09, 12:49 PM [ Flag | link to this post ]
          • Ha! I love these assumptions. I went to a fancy-schmancy school too (not in NYC) and have never used it for any networking or anything else.

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            11.20.09, 07:04 PM [ Flag | link to this post ]
    • To me, the education itself matters more than the job it leads to. It is possible to get a great education at second rate schools, but its easier to do so at first rate schools. My guess is that the first years of that education matter about as much as the other years. So, yes I do care.

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      11.20.09, 12:31 PM [ Flag | link to this post ]
      • is this bc you are SAHM?

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        11.20.09, 12:40 PM [ Flag | link to this post ]
        • Wow; astute (if a bit cynical), but not quite on the mark. I'm DH who can't get or keep a job, but who manages to contribute in a variety of different ways... for which a well-rounded education is very useful (e.g. reading laws, navigating bureacracies, solving technical problems, coming across as a high-level person), as well as life-enhancing.

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          11.20.09, 02:52 PM [ Flag | link to this post ]
    • I suspect that more moms without Ivy-level college are more private school obsessed than moms who have BTDT. That is always the sense I get, at least on this board. They ramble on and on about the import of education, yet their posts are full of spelling/logic/grammatical errors. I think moms who have it don't worry so much about it either way. They know there are many ways to get to HYP, or not, and have a great, rewarding life either way.

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      11.20.09, 12:46 PM [ Flag | link to this post ]
      • ^^^OTOH, i also think there is another cohort of moms obsessed with private not neccesarily for educational reasons, but as if they are trying to get into (or were accepted by) an exclusive country club.

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        11.20.09, 12:52 PM [ Flag | link to this post ]
      • i ignore spell/gram issues -- i never proofread and i assume no one else does either. the ignorance and lack of curiosity is a bigger problem. suggests posters are rich folks living in a bubble.

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        11.20.09, 12:54 PM [ Flag | link to this post ]
        • Lazy writers are lazy thinkers.

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          11.20.09, 02:14 PM [ Flag | link to this post ]
          • np: i think that everybody makes typos sometimes, but i agree that some posters consistently make elementary mistakes (your vs you're is a pet peeve) and it makes me wonder.

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            11.20.09, 02:16 PM [ Flag | link to this post ]
      • You are totally on the mark. I went Ivy and have a grad degree too. I know you can transfer into Ivy easily - although many here probably don't know this or believe this. Dd zoned for a good public so private is not a necessity. There are actually some very good schools that don't cost $35K a year and your child will still get a great education.

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        11.20.09, 07:09 PM [ Flag | link to this post ]
    • It doesn't matter one bit for the majority of people. Then there are those rare few who rise above against insurmountable odds from the ghetto school and wind up at Harvard and those mediocre students born with a silver spoon in their mouth who know how to rub elbows and work connections.

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      11.20.09, 12:56 PM [ Flag | link to this post ]
    • I absolutely believe it's important at the university level--but as for elementary, junior high and high school--not important. The rest of the country could give two craps whether your kid went to a tt NYC school or not. Seriously, it's ONLY the NYC crowd who gets spun up over this and we want to believe it's globally important so we don't feel like schmucks for putting ourselves through this self-induced hysteria.

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      11.20.09, 01:28 PM [ Flag | link to this post ]
      • ITA but it's funny - my city friends who went to Stuy and Ivies have never even heard of most of the tt schools UBers talk about!

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        11.20.09, 01:32 PM [ Flag | link to this post ]
        • ^^^plus I grew up in nearby NY burb and always knew about Stuy/BxSci/BklynTech but had never heard of a single NYC private school. So it is a pretty insular world.

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          11.20.09, 01:38 PM [ Flag | link to this post ]
    • prestigious schools have nothing to do with accomplishing things in life. Life in general or in a Career. People talk about it so much on here and it seems like insecurity. Its probably the greatest thing they ever did that they can still hold on to. If a person has talent, focus and drive they can accomplish anything. I went to a million different no name schools in different states, never finished college and still have worked for 6 major NY companies making 6 figures by my mid twenties. Peoples obsession with who is who and who went where on this board is laughable.

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      11.20.09, 01:54 PM [ Flag | link to this post ]
      • Ok, but then you have no education, who cares how much money you make if going to Europe is going to be lost to you

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        11.20.09, 02:08 PM [ Flag | link to this post ]
        • NP: I know plenty of kids who went to TT schools but are not educated. Going to an elitist school and taking trips to Europe does not an education make. Ask Paris Hilton.

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          11.20.09, 02:11 PM [ Flag | link to this post ]
        • Who said I have not gone to Europe? What a weird comment

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          11.20.09, 02:13 PM [ Flag | link to this post ]
        • np: you think only people that have gone to prestigious schools can appreciate europe? really? what about asia? or africa?

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          11.20.09, 02:15 PM [ Flag | link to this post ]
    • I think it is important. I don't care about prestige, but I do care about the quality of education--probably because mine was mediocre until college (where it was above average) and grad school (were it was excellent). Did my not-so-great high school stand in my way careerwise--not at all. Do I feel inferior or lack confidence--absolutely not. But I am aware of a missed opportunity to be challenged in a meaningful way, to be exposed to subjects on a deeper level that might have made a difference in career choices I made.

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      11.20.09, 04:11 PM [ Flag | link to this post ]
  • [-]school just instituted a no-gift policy to teachers. now we'll have to slip gifts on the sly or mail them home. i guess the mediocre teachers protested that they went home empty-handed.

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    11.20.09, 12:19 PM [ Flag ]
    • why don't you just follow the policy?

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      11.20.09, 12:26 PM [ Flag | link to this post ]
    • i can't believe how shitty your comment is.

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      11.20.09, 12:26 PM [ Flag | link to this post ]
      • doesn't make it less true. why else would there be such a policy. seem unenforceable anyway. they can't tell families what to do with their resources.

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        11.20.09, 12:39 PM [ Flag | link to this post ]
        • do you really want an answer? because there is one, and it's logical: 1. most teachers don't like or want expensive gifts. they actually would prefer a nice drawing from your child. they also think parents who go overboard with expensive gifts are trying to buy them. 2. most schools don't like the appearance of impropriety or favoritism. 3. some parents, believe it or not, don't celebrate christmas and hanukkah. 4. some parents, also believe it or not, might not have the money to match your swanky gift.

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          11.20.09, 12:42 PM [ Flag | link to this post ]
          • sorry, no teacher wants a child's drawing. they want cash.

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            11.20.09, 12:45 PM [ Flag | link to this post ]
            • sorry, my mom was a teacher, many of my friends are teachers, and i know ds's teachers right away. they're not waiters, looking for a tip.

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              11.20.09, 12:47 PM [ Flag | link to this post ]
              • true. but given a choice between drawing and cash, they won't hesitate.

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                11.20.09, 12:51 PM [ Flag | link to this post ]
                • maybe you wouldn't, but i would absolutely refuse cash if i were a teacher. in fact i refuse expensive gifts all the time in my job. not everyone is craven like you, op.

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                  11.20.09, 01:01 PM [ Flag | link to this post ]
                  • you're not typing to op

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                    11.20.09, 01:08 PM [ Flag | link to this post ]
                    • ok. then my response is to anyone who agrees with op that the best way to deal with a school policy is to flout it, and that teachers are like trained seals waiting for the generous rich mommies to toss them a yummy sardine.

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                      11.20.09, 01:09 PM [ Flag | link to this post ]
          • 1. when did you conduct your survey of all teachers? 2. surveyed all schools? 3. holiday gift/end of year gift 4. who says gift has to match and how would those poor parents know what i gave?

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            11.20.09, 12:49 PM [ Flag | link to this post ]
            • you could just play by the rules, you know. you are just the kind of entitled parent people abhor. apparently the community standard applies to everyone else but you.

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              11.20.09, 01:03 PM [ Flag | link to this post ]
        • The school can't tell families what to do with their resources but they can tell their employees not to accept gifts from the families. What will happen if they do is the question. If its public its almost impossible to get rid of the teachers. Privates could more easily fire them for taking gifts.

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          11.20.09, 12:46 PM [ Flag | link to this post ]
          • i honestly don't think they will enforce such a ridiculous rule. next they will tell us that we cannot talk to the faculty

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            11.20.09, 01:19 PM [ Flag | link to this post ]
            • you don't see the difference between a discussion & giving a material gift?

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              11.20.09, 01:38 PM [ Flag | link to this post ]
              • neither are bad things. since when is a material gift a bad thing? unless the school believes the gift would have influence on grades given, in which case this policy wouldn't help. their problem is immoral teachers.

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                11.20.09, 01:45 PM [ Flag | link to this post ]
        • right, every family should be allowed to bribe their children's teachers

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          11.20.09, 01:05 PM [ Flag | link to this post ]
    • does this preclude gift card from the whole class?

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      11.20.09, 12:48 PM [ Flag | link to this post ]
    • Gosh, I read this and thought it was a fake, but I guess that's just wishful thinking.

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      11.20.09, 01:40 PM [ Flag | link to this post ]
    • This makes sense to me. There are so many potential problems with giving individual teacher gifts. I believe it's unethical for teachers to accept cash gifts. It's prohibited ethically in many professions for good reason. Even postal carriers aren't supposed to accept gifts over $20 value.

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      11.20.09, 02:55 PM [ Flag | link to this post ]
    • The real problem is that some people will give gifts anyway, and others will wonder if they should or shouldn't.

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      11.20.09, 03:53 PM [ Flag | link to this post ]
    • Our school has this rule; however, the PA collects money from all families and divides it up among all people at the school.

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      11.20.09, 04:07 PM [ Flag | link to this post ]
      • I think this is worse. Some of the teachers really do suck and if the parents of her students don't give she'll still get $/gifts from being subsidized by others.

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        11.20.09, 04:13 PM [ Flag | link to this post ]
        • This is really a strange post. I give gifts to my child's teachers to show how much I appreciate their hard work. I give gifts to every teacher. This is something I feel strongly about and choose to do. Not everyone feels the same way, and that is fine. I try not to go overboard, but to find something thoughtful - a book, a plant, tickets to an event, sometimes something else that I really think they would enjoy. Gifts are not forbidden at our school, and many people, but not all, do give them. I don't think anyone is trying to "bribe" their kids teacher. That is ridiculous. I really want to show my appreciation for the great job they are doing.

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          11.20.09, 05:40 PM [ Flag | link to this post ]
          • its a strange post, or a strange policy?

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            11.20.09, 05:47 PM [ Flag | link to this post ]
            • strange attitudes towards teachers. Do you really think you could bribe a good teacher with a holiday gift? That suggests you have a pretty low opinion of teachers.

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              11.20.09, 06:23 PM [ Flag | link to this post ]
              • if it isn't favoritism the school is trying to stop, what do you think is the reason for the new policy?

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                11.20.09, 06:26 PM [ Flag | link to this post ]
    • what a great policy

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      11.20.09, 06:35 PM [ Flag | link to this post ]
    • So do you only give gifts to teachers you like? I've honestly never heard of that before. I give [small] gifts to all the teachers b/c they're all working really hard. It's not a reward; it's a token of appreciation. There is a policy at our school for a max of $20 per family to be distributed evenly throughout the faculty and staff. It makes total sense to me. Expensive gifts are OTT and inappropriate, and whether or not a parent is genuinely attempting to bribe or buy a teacher, a teacher can feel obligated to show preference to a student if they have accepted a large gift--I've seen it happen on both sides: the teacher, as well as a parent who thinks she deserves something from the teacher b/c of the gift she gave.

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      11.20.09, 07:02 PM [ Flag | link to this post ]
  • [-]Based on the Ivy exmissions post, Brearley is a better school than Chapin?

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    11.20.09, 06:36 AM [ Flag ]
    • Br. alum and ivy admission percentages in any year whether a school drops a few points or goes up a few points means nothing when it comes to all the schools in that league. People here who think these schools are only worthwhile because of the number of DCs that go to Harvard one year as opposed to another are sending their DCs there for the wrong reasons. Do remember that we are talking about a class of 45 children, so if one more one year goes to Yale than another school who cares, it doesn't make Br, a 'better' school than Chapin anymore than Chapin would be a 'better' school three years ago for having put more DCs in Yale one year than Br. Also remember there are a number of dcs at those schools who get into ivy and don't always cho...

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      11.20.09, 06:51 AM [ Flag | link to this post ]
      • I think the number of college legacies throw all of these comparsions out the window.

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        11.20.09, 06:55 AM [ Flag | link to this post ]
        • You are wrong. College legacies are really nothing these days. I understand people want to believe that though, but the truth is difference in education. Not saying intelligence necessarily but education and preparedness overall to perform.

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          11.20.09, 07:06 AM [ Flag | link to this post ]
          • I really don't believe that college legacies are nothing.

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            11.20.09, 07:08 AM [ Flag | link to this post ]
            • I am sure you believe that, but I am on the other side of the fence so my perspective is different and not as skewed toward wanting or needing to believe otherwise. Millions of dollars may make a difference but it would have to be a considerable sum. Not that people that wealthy or willing even here, and coming from those schools you don't really need it

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              11.20.09, 07:15 AM [ Flag | link to this post ]
              • I'm not saying that legacy status guarantees an in, or that you can't get in without it. I'm saying it gives you a leg up. Do you really think that H would have such a healthy endowment if this were not true? That every donor is a selfless philanthropist who believes in the school even if their kids can't get in?

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                11.20.09, 07:22 AM [ Flag | link to this post ]
                • Getting your Chapin dd into Harvard when she already has a very good shot at it on her own merit does not account for the majority of endowment

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                  11.20.09, 07:27 AM [ Flag | link to this post ]
              • you must agree that between two equally qualified candidates the legacy will get preference...

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                11.20.09, 07:23 AM [ Flag | link to this post ]
                • No I really don't, I have seen it happen a lot, you cannot always account for a colleges decision year to year. The board may want diversity geographical or racial, they may want more activities, fewer, more arts, more science. Really not every candidate qualified as they are has the exact same strengths.

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                  11.20.09, 07:26 AM [ Flag | link to this post ]
                  • I did college admissions for many years at one of the most competitive in the country. I agree in principal with what you're saying, but I also must tell you that any kind of name recognition IS a good thing for a candidate. It adds weight on the scales.

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                    11.20.09, 07:29 AM [ Flag | link to this post ]
                    • And so name recognition like Collegiate didn't stand out? Come on.

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                      11.20.09, 07:30 AM [ Flag | link to this post ]
                    • I question the veracity of your statement that you did admissions at college, but if you did it sounds as if it was not an Ivy where perhaps endowment means much more.

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                      11.20.09, 07:31 AM [ Flag | link to this post ]
                      • not an Ivy but as competitive as an Ivy if not more. I meant name recognition as in family name.

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                        11.20.09, 07:34 AM [ Flag | link to this post ]
                        • I know what you meant, and I am saying the school name means much more. You can bank on the success rate of how well a student from any of these schools will do in any college.

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                          11.20.09, 07:37 AM [ Flag | link to this post ]
                        • More competitive than an ivy. Goodness, a super ivy?

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                          11.20.09, 07:38 AM [ Flag | link to this post ]
                        • must be REED!

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                          11.20.09, 07:40 AM [ Flag | link to this post ]
                        • hahahahaha

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                          11.20.09, 07:41 AM [ Flag | link to this post ]
                        • I agree with that too, but again I said equally qualified candidates. Don't agree, however, with your statement on success rate. Some of these kids are really burnt out by the time they reach college.

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                          11.20.09, 07:41 AM [ Flag | link to this post ]
                        • yeah, imagine that. Sheesh

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                          11.20.09, 07:41 AM [ Flag | link to this post ]
                        • We were and they still are, some but not the majority. Even the overtaxed ones performed and had the base skills to perform at a higher level with little effort. You must know that to be true. Maybe not an A student but B without much study Now whether that is worth it to waste a spot on the student is the call of the college and can be determined as the student continues but overall that they will perform is not a question.

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                          11.20.09, 07:45 AM [ Flag | link to this post ]
                      • ^^^ based on what do you question my veracity? I am trying to inform you, from my extensive experience, that official policy does not match what actually goes on in the process.

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                        11.20.09, 07:35 AM [ Flag | link to this post ]
                    • If that is true than why did you post your comment OP? So full of it.

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                      11.20.09, 07:40 AM [ Flag | link to this post ]
        • Maybe in the 60s, not any longer

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          11.20.09, 07:07 AM [ Flag | link to this post ]
          • I know a (large) family who has had several generations, I mean every single one of them, go to H

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            11.20.09, 07:09 AM [ Flag | link to this post ]
            • So do I. I also know another family that for four generations have gone to H, until the most recent who didn't have the grades and went to a UC

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              11.20.09, 07:16 AM [ Flag | link to this post ]
          • I went to H for college, graduated in the late 90s. I had 4 roommates, all of whom were legacies.

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            11.20.09, 10:27 AM [ Flag | link to this post ]
    • Is the point of this post to rile the troops? Brearley, Spence, and Chapin are all excellent schools and they jockey for top honors into HYP every year but the two or three more each year makes no difference and means nothing. If dc is in one of those schools you should count yourself as lucky.

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      11.20.09, 07:34 AM [ Flag | link to this post ]
      • but at least a handful of those will be murdoch, kennedy, bloomberg, etc. i don't think they count.

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        11.20.09, 07:46 AM [ Flag | link to this post ]
        • another Brearley hater I see. You cannot get through Brearley on a name, you need the brain. You may be able to get in with a name but you will not finish.

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          11.20.09, 07:48 AM [ Flag | link to this post ]
          • huh? i am not a B hater. i don't even know what you are talking about? i have no opinion on any of these girls schools! lol.

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            11.20.09, 07:50 AM [ Flag | link to this post ]
            • The point is that you know nothing about these schools so why comment.

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              11.20.09, 07:52 AM [ Flag | link to this post ]
              • omg. what is wrong with you. all of those people had dds who went or currently go to ss schools. and their dds will get into top colleges even if they graduate from a no-name school anywhere in the country. are all B moms this paranoid and defensive?

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                11.20.09, 08:24 AM [ Flag | link to this post ]
          • BS. Brearley is a celeb/billionaire whore beyond even Dalton. Doubt the girls from these families ALL have high 99x3 erbs and SBs to match.

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            11.20.09, 06:35 PM [ Flag | link to this post ]
      • agree completely. the gradu

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        11.20.09, 06:30 PM [ Flag | link to this post ]
        • the graduating classes are quite small so one or two students in either direction moves the %s. they're all about the same in quality. different parents, cultures perhaps but not education

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          11.20.09, 06:31 PM [ Flag | link to this post ]
    • Prize for most obvious post of the day.

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      11.20.09, 10:29 AM [ Flag | link to this post ]
    • you know admission season is heating up when the Brearley v. Chapin war begins.

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      11.20.09, 06:08 PM [ Flag | link to this post ]
  • [-]Was in a store near ps 186 (I think) and those DCs were more obnoxious and entitled than any of the girls I knew at SS tt.

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    11.20.09, 11:43 AM [ Flag ]
    • they are dreadful itttta

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      11.20.09, 11:52 AM [ Flag | link to this post ]
    • what and where is this school?

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      11.20.09, 11:53 AM [ Flag | link to this post ]
    • Right, a couple of obnoxious girls pretty much represent the entire public school student body. How do you know they were from public school, anyway?

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      11.20.09, 11:58 AM [ Flag | link to this post ]
      • No uniforms, upper east side about 5th grade flowing into cell phone store in Tory Burch shoes flipping their hair and speaking through their noses. And there were about three different groups of them. And you think that people on here who bash ss TT girls know EVERY girl in the entire class?

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        11.20.09, 11:59 AM [ Flag | link to this post ]
      • When you make a decision about a private school being filled with entitled celebs and money what are you going on for evidence?

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        11.20.09, 12:05 PM [ Flag | link to this post ]
        • um, the many celebs who have kids there? i think it's far less accurate to judge a public school based on a few students. privates are much smaller and much more homogeneous, socioeconomically and racially.

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          11.20.09, 12:09 PM [ Flag | link to this post ]
          • um, the few that do in each grade do not make up the whole school not even the whole grade and who is to say celeb kids are all awful?

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            11.20.09, 12:12 PM [ Flag | link to this post ]
            • i don't think celeb kids are awful. i would worry about my dc getting involved with kids who have a lot of money and not a lot of supervision. celeb/super wealthy kids seem more likely to fall into that category.

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              11.20.09, 12:17 PM [ Flag | link to this post ]
              • I don't think you understand there are plenty of wealthy dcs at public school in wealthy areas. You aren't required to have money to get to a great private in NYC you need to have intelligence, I know a lot of dumb wealthy people.

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                11.20.09, 12:21 PM [ Flag | link to this post ]
                • look, face facts. the chances a Dalton or Horace Mann kindergartener being from a wealthy familiy is pretty great. the odds aren't anywhere near that in any random public, even one like PS 6, in a wealthy area.

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                  11.20.09, 12:24 PM [ Flag | link to this post ]
                  • So then the three groups of hideously obnoxious girls in outfits far too expensive for them that were streaming out of this public means nothing to you because....you want to stick your head in the sand? Nice.

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                    11.20.09, 12:29 PM [ Flag | link to this post ]
                    • oh, honey, believe what you want to believe. you're exhausting me.

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                      11.20.09, 12:31 PM [ Flag | link to this post ]
                      • "sweetie" its not believing what I want to believe it is seeing with my own eyes. And yes, I would like another piece of pecan pie please and a refill on my coffee.

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                        11.20.09, 12:34 PM [ Flag | link to this post ]
                        • if i were your waitress and you were this annoying IRL, rest assured i would "accidentally" give you regular instead of decaf and sneeze on your pie.

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                          11.20.09, 12:38 PM [ Flag | link to this post ]
                        • Nice manners they teach there at the diner. Shame.

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                          11.20.09, 12:41 PM [ Flag | link to this post ]
                        • lol, i guess i should look to you for behavioral cues because you're so charming. go back to your TT private school. they know how to raise those girls right!

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                          11.20.09, 12:44 PM [ Flag | link to this post ]
                        • My reference was to the use of the word "honey". God you people are so uptight and on a crusade to prove your backgrounds have value. Please send your DCs to private if they get in or else they may grow up with mommy's insecurity complex.

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                          11.20.09, 12:46 PM [ Flag | link to this post ]
                        • i am rotflmao at this point. you win, seriously. i'm going to stop responding to you now. have a great afternoon. switch to decaf. i'll bring some to you at your table if you're polite.

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                          11.20.09, 12:49 PM [ Flag | link to this post ]
                        • Ok deal!

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                          11.20.09, 12:53 PM [ Flag | link to this post ]
                • me too, at private schools.

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                  11.20.09, 12:37 PM [ Flag | link to this post ]
    • How about doing your homework b/f smearing a school?

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      11.20.09, 12:26 PM [ Flag | link to this post ]
    • Oh...What kind of post is that? Are you 'like...12-or 15?

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      11.20.09, 12:44 PM [ Flag | link to this post ]
    • Ummm, you'll have to give an example if you want people to agree with you. Also, you're probably talking about 10 year olds at the most who are not allowed out to lunch (school policy) so what the HECK are you talking about??? A little insecure at your SS tt???

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      11.20.09, 02:36 PM [ Flag | link to this post ]
      • I think OP was being a bit of a jerk but - she said nothing about lunch hour. I think she saw these kids after school. A weird thing is that it also sounds like the OP is comparing these current kids to the girls SHE went to school with - not the current 5th graders at SS schools (who I'm sure are the same as these 158ers). At any rate, these kids are growing up on the UES, for feck's sake. They ARE entitled children, whether they go to public or private school. A difference would be that 158 has 20% of their kids eligible for a free lunch, which is vastly different from being "poor" enough to get FA at a private school. But the richie riches at both kinds of school? The same.

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        11.20.09, 02:48 PM [ Flag | link to this post ]
        • is that a current statistic? i have trouble believing that anyone who can afford to live in the area zoned for 158 is eligible for free lunch. there are not even any housing projects. otoh, up until 5 years ago, 158 still had a lot of kids there from out of zone with a variance.

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          11.20.09, 06:35 PM [ Flag | link to this post ]
    • 158 also houses East Side Middle. Those were probably middle school girls. Middle school is middle school. Not the most charming age - cut them a break.

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      11.20.09, 05:51 PM [ Flag | link to this post ]
  • [-]Ivies+Duke+Chicago+MIT+Stanford+Amherst+Williams+Caltech (20005-09): Brearley 53%, Horace MAnn 48%, Trinity 47%, Spence 45%, Chapin 41%, Dalton 39%

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    11.20.09, 08:36 AM [ Flag ]
    • did you pick out the schools that B sent the most dcs to? please stop already. caltech? isn't that a (gasp) PUBLIC school?

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      11.20.09, 08:38 AM [ Flag | link to this post ]
      • np: FWIW I am the poster you slammed below for being some Crazy B mom, I did not post this.

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        11.20.09, 08:41 AM [ Flag | link to this post ]
      • Caltech is probably one of the toughest ones to get in and it is sort of like MIT

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        11.20.09, 08:48 AM [ Flag | link to this post ]
        • of course. but it is not small, ss, private, elitist, or any of the many reasons B moms give for B's alleged superiority.

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          11.20.09, 08:51 AM [ Flag | link to this post ]
          • You people really have a bug up your a$$ about this school what it the problem here?

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            11.20.09, 08:53 AM [ Flag | link to this post ]
          • I would have added Cooper Union. Nobody from Brearly went there. It's extremely competitive bec it's free and their engineering is top notch. Probably smarter kids apply there than MIT or Caltech.

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            11.20.09, 08:54 AM [ Flag | link to this post ]
            • That is sort of a random and unqualified comment don't you think?

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              11.20.09, 08:54 AM [ Flag | link to this post ]
            • That smarter kids apply to Cooper Union over MIT/Cal Tech is not really relevant. CU only offers 3 programs and one is in fine arts. I would say that the smartest boys in the nation apply to Deep Springs College most of all.

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              11.20.09, 09:32 AM [ Flag | link to this post ]
              • ^^^So let's look at the average SATs for CU vs MIT vs Cal Tech anyway. Cooper Union is 710M, 665V (1375) - 9.26% applicants accepted; MIT is 760M, 710V (1470) - 11.86% accepted; Cal Tech is 785M, 730V (1515) - 17.36% accepted.

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                11.20.09, 09:37 AM [ Flag | link to this post ]
            • FWIW, I know a B girl who transferred to CU.

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              11.20.09, 09:54 AM [ Flag | link to this post ]
              • outing myself, I went to Spence and Cooper Union! I also got into Caltech and MIT, but Cooper is free.

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                11.20.09, 01:58 PM [ Flag | link to this post ]
                • ^^I'm actually not sure what this thread is about, but I never see Cooper discussed so I had to jump in.

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                  11.20.09, 01:59 PM [ Flag | link to this post ]
            • Shows what you know. You look super smart. Hahahhaa, not.

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              11.20.09, 01:16 PM [ Flag | link to this post ]
          • You don't know anything about Caltech, do you? It's private and smaller than almost all of the Ivies.

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            11.20.09, 09:39 AM [ Flag | link to this post ]
          • are you insane? Caltech is a smaller MIT. Just as many oddball students as MIT. It's private and just as difficult to get into.

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            11.20.09, 11:54 AM [ Flag | link to this post ]
            • More difficult--but since it's here on the West Coast all the wannabes on the East Coast either dismiss it or have never heard of it.

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              11.20.09, 01:15 PM [ Flag | link to this post ]
              • i'd heard of it and knew it was a good engineering school, but thought it was public like Va Tech. in any event, I do have a hard time believing it's the top choice of any ss tt type.

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                11.20.09, 01:25 PM [ Flag | link to this post ]
      • Cal Tech is not public - it's a private university

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        11.20.09, 09:27 AM [ Flag | link to this post ]
      • caltech is a wonderful private famous engineering school. how do you not know that?

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        11.20.09, 11:41 AM [ Flag | link to this post ]
      • Cal Tech is not only private, but back in the early 90s when I was applying to college, the average math SAT score there was a perfect 800. I joked that there was no way they were ever going to accept people w anything less, no matter how good their app, bc they were not going to give up that perfect number!

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        11.20.09, 11:49 AM [ Flag | link to this post ]
    • The problem is that if you go to one of these private schools, or even some top notch public schools in 'burbs, you are often "brokered" much like preschools do. You may love Harvard, but if the school decides some other kids are going to be the kids they recommend for Harvard, your chances of getting in are much lower. It's fine if you are the chosen one for the school you love, but if not, you are better off being one of the top students at a no-name public school and applying to that school.

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      11.20.09, 08:45 AM [ Flag | link to this post ]
      • This is just not the case. You are never better off at a no name public school in the burbs. We are talking about a 50% 'rate of return' on excellent schools for only 50 dcs. That is 25 every year in the top schools. The other 25 also go to top schools with an exception of one or two, schools that would make any no name public drool. And that is not even beginning to discuss the comparison in the education itself

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        11.20.09, 08:48 AM [ Flag | link to this post ]
        • but it's apparently worthy to graduate B and go to a HUGE PUBLIC UNIVERSITY in California. um, ok.

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          11.20.09, 08:49 AM [ Flag | link to this post ]
          • Ok, your comment does not address the points in my post, plus you have no idea how many dcs went to Caltech or why. For your piece of mind, it is always worth while to get an education at any of those school instead of any public school.

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            11.20.09, 08:51 AM [ Flag | link to this post ]
          • to poster above: maybe if you went to public school, you would know it is peace of mind. lol.

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            11.20.09, 08:57 AM [ Flag | link to this post ]
          • Um. Caltech is a TINY PRIVATE university. It has half the number of undergrads as Amherst.

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            11.20.09, 09:08 AM [ Flag | link to this post ]
        • I would choose MIT, Stanford but the other schools are random. I could have chosen different schools to judge. Clearly, B mom put together a list that puts them first. And how she did not include Collegiate is telling. Trinity did not even publish 05-09 stat, so I don't know where she got that number from.

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          11.20.09, 08:51 AM [ Flag | link to this post ]
        • Sure it is the case. If all you care about is getting into "any" highly ranked college, and you need extra help to achieve that, then a private school is for you. However, unless you are one of Brearley's "chosen" Harvard applicants that year, you probably won't get in. If you are the top student at a no-name school, you have a far better chance of getting into Harvard, and frankly, can easily get into one of the other top schools you list if you are a top student.

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          11.20.09, 08:53 AM [ Flag | link to this post ]
          • If all you care about is college admissions and judge a school by that alone than I fear for your DC. The difference a top education makes is immeasurable. Beyond that, you would never convince anyone here that a no name public with 500 students has numbers like any of those listed above. They just don't. Why fight it.

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            11.20.09, 08:57 AM [ Flag | link to this post ]
            • but they might know how to use colloquialisms appropriately. like peace of mind.

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              11.20.09, 08:59 AM [ Flag | link to this post ]
            • and i would also add that df from no name public tutored C grad at her Ivy. This despite the fact they were in class together.

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              11.20.09, 09:01 AM [ Flag | link to this post ]
            • LOL -- I think YOU are the one judging a school on college admissions! I'm just pointing out that I'd far prefer my extremely smart dc to apply and attend the school of her choice than to be "told" which school she can apply to because the private school decides which kids should go to which colleges. Of course a no name public with 500 students doesn't have those stats because 490 of them don't even apply! But if you are one of the 10 students who do aspire to those schools, you get a great chance to go to the school YOU want, not the one that helps the private school have good exmission stats! That's what I want for my dc -- don't you?

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              11.20.09, 09:10 AM [ Flag | link to this post ]
              • omg, a sane mom.

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                11.20.09, 09:12 AM [ Flag | link to this post ]
              • In your anger you failed to address the first part of my post which was pointing out that education, rather than admissions stats, makes a school. That, rather than a perceived shot of HYP by their mother, is what I want for DC. So clearly you would prefer - in your belief that public allows you to go to better schools more easily - that your dc suffer from a poor education so that they can struggle at Harvard rather than a great education and excel at U of C.

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                11.20.09, 09:29 AM [ Flag | link to this post ]
                • LOL -- do you think if you call me "angry" enough I'll actually get angry? Because I won't! I just laugh! This post is about admissions stats. I've posted my own opinion on a "better education" elsewhere, but I'll say it again. My sibs and I went from a no-name public to those schools listed above and graduated summa and magna cum laude. Surprise! The top achievers at all those schools are as likely to be from public schools as privates.

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                  11.20.09, 09:34 AM [ Flag | link to this post ]
                  • ^^^and the only conclusion I can make if you keep insisting that the education at a private school is far superior is that the kids from private schools are far more stupid to begin with! Because if education was indeed "superior", then smart kid + 13 years "tt" education should easily surpass smart kid + 13 years "poor" education when they get to college, right?

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                    11.20.09, 09:35 AM [ Flag | link to this post ]
                  • NP. I thought everyone knew that at top colleges, the private school kids do well first two years. Then the public school kids catch up and blow them away.

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                    11.20.09, 11:58 AM [ Flag | link to this post ]
                • i have posted this question before and i'll post it again. if nyc privates are so superior to publics and privates anywhere else, why oh why, pray tell, is there not ONE SINGLE NOBEL PRIZE WINNER from any of these schools for the last 100 years? please, someone, anyone, answer!

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                  11.20.09, 09:36 AM [ Flag | link to this post ]
    • Crazy B moms are active again. INteresting choice of schools.

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      11.20.09, 08:47 AM [ Flag | link to this post ]
    • Hey, you left out the B mom who was all upset that dd ended up at SUNY when neighbor's Stuy dc went to Dartmouth.

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      11.20.09, 09:04 AM [ Flag | link to this post ]
      • Where was that post? b mother here and I would say that sounds like someone posing as a b mother to get a reaction

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        11.20.09, 09:21 AM [ Flag | link to this post ]
        • no, no, it was a serious post from last spring. no one was snarky, people were really supportive, and saying that whatever school it was (i can't remember) is actually strong in the arts. i think she said she felt embarrassed to have spent so much $$$ when neighbor didn't. but people responded like, well, dd got a great education for K-12, and she'll always have that. but if you're at B (I am guessing you are at the lower school), you have to know that in addition to substantial turnover at MS/HS, many dcs just don't go to great colleges.

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          11.20.09, 09:29 AM [ Flag | link to this post ]
    • Why are these the only impressive schools in your mind?

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      11.20.09, 09:09 AM [ Flag | link to this post ]
    • Golly, you don't supposed the kids who attend these schools have a leg up in terms of wealth, privledge, education, vested parents, etc etc, do you?

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      11.20.09, 09:35 AM [ Flag | link to this post ]
      • They probably have a leg up over you in spelling. What's your point? This is not comparing

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        11.20.09, 09:41 AM [ Flag | link to this post ]
        • ^^ private vs. public.

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          11.20.09, 09:42 AM [ Flag | link to this post ]
          • actually, not even. see "piece of mind," above.

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            11.20.09, 09:43 AM [ Flag | link to this post ]
          • You know the % of the Bushes that went to Yale? What a special family!! Must be all very smart.

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            11.20.09, 09:46 AM [ Flag | link to this post ]
            • Not a Republican, didn't vote for any of them, but last time I checked, they were Presidents and Senators. Who are you?

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              11.20.09, 09:48 AM [ Flag | link to this post ]
              • Not sure what your point is. Mine is that posting these stats are meaningless, because the Bushes didn't go to Yale or became Senators because of their own merits, but because they have had several legs up in their lives. The kids who attend these private schools have several legs up, too, so posting what their "exmissions" are does not mean the schools are magical places that churn out Ivy grads.

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                11.20.09, 09:51 AM [ Flag | link to this post ]
              • but first they went to yale and harvard! and they got in without graduating from C! bc they got in on the name, not the brain. and there are others like this (well, maybe not this extreme) who come out of C/B/etc. every year.

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                11.20.09, 09:52 AM [ Flag | link to this post ]
            • of GHWBush's 4(?) kids, only Dubya went to Yale. Because after admiting him, Yale decided it could do better than take the bottom-quarter of an Andover graduating class. Bush's 3 other kids did not go Ivy. True story.

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              11.20.09, 12:03 PM [ Flag | link to this post ]
              • I just looked the six of them up. Other than GWB, none of them went to great schools. UVa, BC, Tulane, and UofT/Austin. (The first Bush daughter passed away at 4 yo.) Dubya's girls are 50-50 Ivy.

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                11.20.09, 06:31 PM [ Flag | link to this post ]
    • I, for one, would like to than you for collecting and posting the numbers. Haven't read a word of the nonsense in between, but I find your post very helpful - are you the one who offered to do this last night? Thx!

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      11.20.09, 10:36 AM [ Flag | link to this post ]
    • Did Collegiate do better? Guessing so.

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      11.20.09, 02:26 PM [ Flag | link to this post ]
    • I think schools with similar sized graduating classes should be compared with each other; i.e., Brearley with Spence, Chapin, NBS, Collegiate, etc and in another group, HM with Trinity, Dalton, etc. It doesn't seem fair if a school gets 5 kids into Harvard, say, and have it total to 10% of their class whereas another school needs to get 20 kids into Harvard for it to count as 10%.

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      11.20.09, 02:35 PM [ Flag | link to this post ]
    • Saint Ann's doesn't publish, or do they? Anyone know their recent numbers?

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      11.20.09, 02:37 PM [ Flag | link to this post ]
    • Where did you get these percentages from? I just calculated Brearley and I came up with 45% - not 53% - attending the same schools during those years. It's kind of nitpicky and yet it makes me not believe any of your numbers.

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      11.20.09, 03:13 PM [ Flag | link to this post ]
    • wow. all of you are crazy. so am i for sitting here reading this.

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      11.20.09, 05:46 PM [ Flag | link to this post ]
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