[-]I would love some input from btdt moms to ds. Lately my 4 yr old Ds has been very unkind ot his best friend. Whenever they play eh is bossy and says mean things, to the point where I need to end the playdate. I talk to DS about his behavior and he just shuts down. He only acts this way with this one friend. I don't want to be too intrusive a mother (a problem for me) but I want my child to be kind to his friend. Advice?
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Dear DH: The reason I am always so frustrated & angry with you is because it's like you're another child for me to take care of. I know that's hard to believe, but it's true. I understand that our 2yo wanted those scissors & you were awfully busy reading the paper, but did it not occur to you that perhaps that was a bad idea? I also understand that you work very hard all day -- I can really commiserate because I also have a job outside the home -- but do you not think getting the kids in bed takes priority over your iPhone? I can see how you thought the housework gets done all by itself because it's always so nice & neat around here, but honestly, the cleaning fairy doesn't really exist. These are hard truths to face, but I think you'r...
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[-]The past 6-8 months I feel like my hair has really thinned. My ponytail seems so thin and I feel like I see a lot more scalp. Can anyone recommend treatments? Thanks.
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[-]New to NY --if you give, how much do you give to your preschool in terms of donations? What's your HHI. Thanks!
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[-]Having first hot flashes. Thoughts on hormone replacement, anyone?
2 replies [ Reply | Watch | Options ]Don't. I think messing with one's hormones is a really bad idea, unless a.b.s.o.l.u.t.e.l.y necessary. My gut tells me it leads to many more health problems down the road. Menopause is a perfectly normal process...challenging at times (hot flashes, mood swings), but not a medical problem. Mind over matter, and lots of tank tops and open windows!
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[-]dd is 7wo, i'm increasingly anxious that something's wrong with her (past history includes healthy 4yo, 2 miscarriages, failed ivf, genetic testing), feel sad, overwhelmed...etc. is this post partum depression? what do i do?
2 replies [ Reply | Watch | Options ]what makes you think that? sounds irrational if you've had testing and are seeing pedi on regular basis.
[ Reply | Options ]anxiety about newborn is not uncommon, esoecially since you had such a stressful time conceiving. Most likely post-partum after such stress. If you have the presenec of mind it would probably help you a lot to talk to someone, if you just can't do that, find a friend or sister if you have on that you give just give voice to all your anxieties just to get them out of your head. Don't worry all will be fine.
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[-]What's fun for us to do in NYC with 5 y/o that's not expensive? (Besides going to a playground). has anyone see that new kids movie j51?
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[-]Want to buy a new set of dishes--any recommendations for dishes that won't chip? TIA
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[-]how bad is it if you're giving eye drops to a baby for an infection and the dispenser touches the eye? does this contaminate it?
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[-]Instead of having holiday pics taken before the holidays, anyone have holiday photos taken DURING the holidays when all family/friends are in one place? Was thinking this might make a nice gift for grandparents.
1 reply [ Reply | Watch | Options ]Sounds nice but depends on how many little kids there are. Trying to take a group picture with lots of toddlers is not easy b/c it is very hard to get them to look at the camera and sit still. If it is all older kids then it should be fine. However, most places charge a sitting fee per person so make sure to take that into account when you total the cost.
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[-]How do you wean a 15 month old when he is loving the breast for comfort at bed time? He isn't getting much milk at this point. I want to be able to put him to bed without a boob pretty soon.
5 replies [ Reply | Watch | Options ]I guess play the same music, give the same snack, read the same books...try to set up an atmosphere that he associates with feeling drowsy....maybe have a little sippy cup of warm water...not really the same thing, but hey.
[ Reply | Options ]I have heard others say to have dh handle the nighttime routine. He is old enough for a sippy cup of milk at night. DS knows that his father does not supply the milk so he will probably take the sippy from him more than from you.
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[-]Ideas; Advice. My 5 year old brother (yeah, I'm 27 years old, big gap, etc..) was recommended for a vanguard program going into 1st grade. He is taking the Stanford test in January...what score should I/we be expecting? I WILL be raising this kid in 15 years, so I want to knowwhat I'm in for. TIA!
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[-]I'm going Speyer. Done. I don't care what you guys say. It is the best for our family. AND I don't have to keep up with the Jones's.
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[-]Annual fund question: is it common for a school to send out different versions of the letter asking for donations? some got a letter asking for 500 dollars (not financial aid family) others 5000. how do they know how much money people have/want to give? does this seem right to you?
37 replies [ Reply | Watch | Options ]Good fundraising mentions a specific amount. A good fundraiser knows what to ask for.
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They know based on previous donations. It's common to have a targeted process and I don't really see a problem with it. I used to to fund raising for my college and it was the same in that we had people whom we called and asked for amounts based on what the giving history was.
[ Reply | Options ]Yep, fundraisers assess a lot of public info to draw conclusions about what a family might give (i.e. property values, what other orgs they give to, employer, etc.).
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I am sure we get googled if they are serious about a family. They do not want any embarrassing pasts.
[ Reply | Options ]Hijack: how much googling takes place? I mean, if my wonderful dh has major criminal conviction in his past (which you would find from some skillful Internet searching) then are we totally out of luck? Should I disclose to the school? (ps it's bad)
[ Reply | Options ]Maybe in the meantime he could become a major donor somewhere instead, to mitigate the bad stuff.
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np And if you're not getting FA, they'll call to see what you'll give. It's not complicated.
[ Reply | Options ]we got FA, and we still got the call. It was expected that everyone give something, and the amounts were not published, just whether you gave.
[ Reply | Options ]op: that's not what happened. they targeted different people for different amounts, without ever talking to us
[ Reply | Options ]the schools all have development offices and this is what they do for a living. they target people based on past giving history and if there is no history, they base it on whatever information they can find - addresses, jobs, publicly listed donations, etc. if you work at Goldman Sachs, they will target you for a different number than someone who is a lawyer at a non-profit.
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[-]What NYC restaurant would you go to for Thanksgiving dinner with a 3 year old boy?
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[-]Any women on here who actually LIKE The Big Lebowski? I'm not aware of a single woman who likes it, or a single man who has said he doesn't like it.
25 replies [ Reply | Watch | Options ]op: me neither. dh is watching it now... it's just as bad as I'd remembered! but he's enjoying it (and he generally has good taste in movies). i don't get it...
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Hate it. Don't even get me started on The Hudsucker Proxy (or No Country) If dh puts that movie on one more time . . . I do grudgingly admit to liking O Brother, Where Art Thou?
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[-]second year applying for ds at his sister's school. getting negative signals from admissions. if he doesn't get in, I'd like to pull her out and have them go somewhere together, but the public school we're zoned for doesn't have a preschool.
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[-]what should i pay our nanny to stay overnight when my husband and I are away? and what about to stay over and work for a weekend while we're away? we have two children (currently six months and almost three years).
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[-]I did the post asking what you are most proud of, thinking of a big accomplishment that you worked hard to achieve. Now the opposite question: what single thing did you do as an adult/parent that you most regret or are most ashamed of? Some one thing you could go back and get a "redo" on if it were possible?
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Said really hurtful things to my dh early on in our marriage that still affect us today. I wish I would have kept my mouth shut about past relationships. I think he still resents things I've said.
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i'm not a parent, but the two bad things i did were ruin my gpa by working too much. i didn't save any money like i should have, and it was not worth the drop in GPA. with my 2.7, I am having a really hard time applying to any grad school, even conditionally. I have a 1400 GRE score but everyone looks at my GPA. I'm unemployed, and I can't even get a job as a grocery store bagger...sometimes I wish I chose a more 'vocational' field. I don't really care about being 'well rounded' when I don't have money to pursue any interests at all
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