[-]what should i pay our nanny to stay overnight when my husband and I are away? and what about to stay over and work for a weekend while we're away? we have two children (currently six months and almost three years).
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[-]Religious UBers: where is God when little girls and boys are getting raped and sodomized for years on end in Missouri?
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I thought this was for folks who religiously UBed - like a trick question only folks who've been here a lot would get
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What?? YES! It's been on the news for about a week now: http://www.cnn.com/2009/CRIME/11/20/missouri.family.sex.abuse/index.html
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Good grief, I am not religious at all (atheist in fact), but could your post be any more baiting?
[ Reply | Options ]OP: it's an honest question. There are people out there who are very passionate about their religion and I'm curious how they work this one out in their minds...
[ Reply | Options ]i guess, but wow, so hostile. you can't blame "religious people" in general for this sort of thing.
[ Reply | Options ]OP: what do you mean hostile and how is this blaming anyone? To repeat: I'm interested in hearing how they work this out in their minds
[ Reply | Options ]i think it's the tone of your original post. the question is a good one, and worth discussion, but the tone struck me as hostile. maybe it's just me, though.
[ Reply | Options ]I agree. I'm 'religious' (I don't even like that word) and I didn't want to touch this post with a ten-foot pole. You sound like you've already made up your mind and just want to slam people who believe in God. If you're interested in a genuine, open-minded debate, that is one thing. But from what you just posted about 'working it out in their minds' it sounds like you really can people who can possibly believe in God in an evil world.
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I saw that news story, and it is pretty out there. Perhaps these things really happened. But there is a good chance that they did not. Remember the case of rampant sexual abuse in a daycare center in CA... that got tons of media attention, despite having not actually occurred? Innocent until proven guilty. I don't think that it makes sense to question God every time you hear a wild story in the news.
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big words and even bigger concept coming from someone who can't back it up. better hope you are right when the end comes, otherwise you've made an infinite mistake. i'm always curious by people who are so black and white when it comes to God...after all, what makes you the authority on the Almighty?
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God gives us free will because he desires a loving relationship with us that we freely choose. Also without free will, so much of the beauty of honorable, decent human behavior would be lost. Yet, because humanity is flawed and often deeply broken, we use that free will to make hurtful and sometimes horrific decisions. As much as we think our hearts are broken by the wicked crimes people commit, God's heart is infinitely more broken. Although God offers forgiveness and redemption for those who seek it, those who commit these crimes and do not repent will face judgment far greater than any we can imagine. Just because God does not make all of us souless robots who always do good does not mean that He abandons us when awful things occur; ...
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So, why does God allow innocent children to drown in a tsunami or get crushed in an earthquake?
[ Reply | Options ]As Christians, we do our best to indicate some of the reasons why God permits evil in the world (free will, natural law, soul-making); but we have finite minds and will never fully understand God's justifications. Corrie Ten Boom, a Dutch Christian whose family hid Jews during WWII, lost seven family members including her father and sister in a concentration camp. She often quoted this poem about God's love exceeding all suffering and evil:
[ Reply | Options ]My life is but a weaving between my Lord and me. I cannot choose the colors, He worketh steadily. Oft times he weaveth sorrow, and I in foolish pride, Forget He sees the upper, and I the underside. Not till the looms are silent and the shuttles cease to fly, Will God unroll the canvas and explain the reason why The dark threads are as needful in the Weaver’s skillful hand As the threads of gold and silver in the pattern He has planned. Author Unknown
[ Reply | Options ]Right, so you have no idea. We will "never fully understand God's justifications". If I applied your lack of intellectual rigor to the world, I could believe in anything I wanted. I'm afraid it's just not remotely credible that an omnipotent, omniscient, supremely benevolent being exists.
[ Reply | Options ]Some would argue that acknowledging the limits of moral knowledge constitutes intellectual courage rather than laziness. Perhaps arrogance is thinking that, just because our minds cannot conceive of something's (or someone's) plausibility, it cannot exist. If God does exist, I would guess that His character and ways would far exceed our mind's ability to comprehend them. At the end of the day, horrible things are still happening in the world and despite our struggle to explain why, broken people still need our love and care.
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[-]PSA: Most people will like receiving a holiday card with your kids on it. Some may even smile. No one wants to see you or DH, cheesing it up for the camera.
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i take one 3-second look at any pic, say, "oh, isn't that nice," and then toss it. flame away.
[ Reply | Options ]I'm with you. I'd much rather get a great card MoMA holiday card than some insipid photo card.
[ Reply | Options ]gimme a break. a MoMa card is the height of pretentiousness. i love photo cards with or without the parents.
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Get a well-designed photo card, then. No one says you have to go to a department store portrait assembly line if you want photo cards. There are plenty of private photographers who work with professional graphic designers to design beautiful holiday cards that will be personal because of the photos.
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[-]DH taking myself and dd on Royal Caribbean cruise to Mediterranean in May, DD will be 25 months. Cruise to Rome, Florence, Barcelona, Cannes, Monaco. Anyone been on cruise and anyone leave their dc in the care of the cruise daycare facility? I've never been on cruise and travel agent talking up ability to leave child with providers but don't know if this is okay or not for a toddler. Any experience with this will be greatly appreciated. TIA
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[-]Sarah Palin's son, Trig, was one of the "hot topics" on The View today. Barbara Walters read a statistic that 90% of fetuses found to have down syndrome are terminated. Last poll I read said something like the split between pro-life/pro-choice in the US is close to 50/50, so I don't see, mathematically, how it can be that 90% of ds pregnancies are terminated.
87 replies [ Reply | Watch | Options ]I think it is probably bc many people are pro-life until they are faced with having to raise a DS child.
[ Reply | Options ]Or that pro-choice people have a disproportionate number of DS pregnancies. Maybe it has something to do with age--women who wait to get married and have children in order to build their careers are statistically more likely to be pro-choice. Then they are older when they get pregnant so DS is more likely.
[ Reply | Options ]NP: Just a hunch, but I would guess what you say may be more true for NYC, where many women wait to have children... but for the country as a whole, I would guess more pro-lifers tend to have babies with down syndrome, because many don't believe in birth control and thus continue to have children into their forties. In our Catholic church there were many babies with downs-syndrome (usually the youngest in the family). I imagine that not every woman feels she can handle that at forty with many other children to care for as well (pro-life or not).
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I don't agree entirely. I opted at 40 not to have a cvs or amnio because I knew that whatever I learned wouldn't change anything, I was going to have that baby anyway. Some of us know what we believe on this subject without being tested.
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Yes, but as someone pointed out below if you know you won't terminate there's no point in getting the testing done. By opting out of the tests I was making a descision to have my child regardless of the number of chromosones he had.
[ Reply | Options ]Not true. There is a point to getting testing, even if you will not terminate under any circumstances. If you do have a DB that will have a problem, then you have the time/ability to prepare for what's coming. Arranging for necessary specialists, arranging leaves/benefits, preparing older DCs, etc.
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The great irony is that the traditional "red" states have (1) higher divorce rates, (2) higher # of abortions and (3) higher % of poverty... People don't do what they "believe"--they are better at telling other people what to do...
[ Reply | Options ]residents of red states, on average, tend to be less eductaed, poorer, less white- this contributes to higher rates of all that you suggest above. The education levels and incerased poverty have way more to do with it than the political convictions-
[ Reply | Options ]i thought poor are more likely to have baby, whereas wealthy are more likely to have abortion?
[ Reply | Options ]actually, lots of poor women have multiple abortions- lack of access to health care and bad choices lead to lack of birth control, so they use abortion as a form of birth control- also teenagers pregnant more in poorer areas (and places where sex education is weak- hello red states!) and they get abortions-
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what a tragically black and white way to look at the world. do you teach your child that the people in "red states" are ignorant, right wingers? how sad.
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I wonder what the ages of the moms who terminate are vs those who don't. IME its easier to be pro-life, or see any issue in black and while with no shades of grey, when you're young. As we get older, wiser, and have more life experiences to draw from most issues enter the grey area.
[ Reply | Options ]I never claimed to know what others could/should do but I always said I would never opt for termination of my child. Then quad screen said 1:4 for Trisomy 18/21 and I did research on what T18/21 is. And I thought about the two kids we already had. And the world got very very gray.
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because a) many people who are pro-life don't have an amnio b/c they know they wouldn't abort no matter what the test shows and b) some people consider themselves pro-life but still make exceptions so in a poll they would answer that they are pro-choice, but what they really mean is that abortion isn't a form of birth control.
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Yes, I think I have heard that some pro-lifers will not have an amnio because they feel it implies that they MIGHT abort.
[ Reply | Options ]I am prolife and I choose not to have an amnio. Not because of what it might imply to anyone. I choose not to because of the potential risk of amnio. I know many prolife people and having an amnio or not is just a matter of what they feel comfortable with. Some people just need to know. Just like some people just need to know the sex of the baby.
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Palin's behavior after she went into labor with Trig was so completely bizarre and showed such indifference to the health and well-being of her child that I can't help wondering whether she did not want him to live.
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Not only give a speech--fly home from Texas to Alaska!! http://andrewsullivan.theatlantic.com/the_daily_dish/2008/10/palins-medica-2.html
[ Reply | Options ]Andrew Sullivan, the daily dish, is a kook. He is not a responsible journalist, but a conspiracy theorist who does not report facts.
[ Reply | Options ]Really? I'm not a huge fan of him personally, but don't consider him remotely kooky or inventive re facts. And the Atlantic is pretty tough re that kind of thing. What supposed non-facts do you have a quibble with here? Most people on UB would tell you that most airlines won't even let you fly after 8 mos. and it's true that she was leaking amniotic fluid. If that were you, would YOU get on a long flight? No way, unless you felt indifferent or worse towards your baby's health and survival.
[ Reply | Options ]How do you know for fact that she was leaking amniotic fluid? SHe gave birth in a HOSPITAL, and there were no complications. Not on the plane, not on the road, not on the bus, but in a hospital room.
[ Reply | Options ]Andrew Sullivan started the conspiracy theory that Sarah Palin was actually the grandmother to her son. I do not think the Atlantic truly vetted that story, surprising that they still stand by Sullivan. He went off the reservation a long time ago.
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Yes, that whole thing was weird as hell. I never believed the "Bristol is Trig's real mother" rumor but Palin's behavior surrounding this birth was just crazy. I never thought of that as an explanation but actually I can sort of believe that she was losing her mind a little bit and feeling very, "Let God decide what he wants to happen," about it.
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We're not the ones who got on a 8-hour plane flight while in labor. Now that's creepy.
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Her water was broken! This was her fifth pregnancy, you can't tell me she didn't know that was a sign of labor.
[ Reply | Options ]Are you quoting Plain who said her water broke or are you getting the info from the dubious Andrew Sullivan of the "daily dish"... this is beyond creepy.
[ Reply | Options ]According to the New York Times, Palin herself has said that her water was broken when she got on the plane.
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[ Reply | Options ]never read the link, but the discussion of amniotic fluid as if this is pertinent information that needs to be addressed months after a safe delivery is strange. Move along and discuss her policies, not her amniotic fluid.
[ Reply | Options ]LOL--if SHE never discusses her policies then why should we? She literally told Oprah that she thought that she and Katie Couric would be talking about being working moms and dealing with teenaged girls (as if anyone would want to take advice from her on that subject) and was shocked, shocked! when Couric actually anted to discuss you know tough stuff like what newspapers she reads. If that's not foolish AND sexist than I don't know what is. Palin is the one who has made her family the center of every discussion including her oh-so-noble decision to have a DS child. I personally think the circs. were completely suspect and so do many other people. If she ever stopped harping on it, then it wouldn't be relevant.
[ Reply | Options ]The moral superiority that you insinuate in your"oh-so-noble decision" comment is the problem that most critics have... no substance. Couric's interview was nasty, not informative... your right Palin does not read newspapers!!! couric got to the heart of that one. The reason you think she is so "suspect" is because you don't like her politics so you go after amniotic fluid.
[ Reply | Options ]LOL!! Again it was the choice of Palin and her crew to put her family at the very heart of her candidacy, so I don't know why they got so upset when things started falling apart. And the way right-wingers have beatified her for giving birth to Trig is at the core of the "moral superiority" drumbeat here--how many times do we have to hear and read "a liberal would've aborted that baby blah blah blah?" My personal opinion, based on her actions as described by her at the end of her pregnancy, is that she did not value the life of that baby but didn't want to take responsibility for ending it's life. NO ONE on this board would condone doing what she did and risking the life of their unborn child. If that's your idea of a saintly mom then so be ...
[ Reply | Options ]frankly if Clinton had based a substantial part of his candidacy on his family values, his fantastic, rick-solid marriage, moral uprightness, etc. then yes--it would have been more relevant. But we knew from the start that we were getting a rogue--no secret. I'm not defending his behavior, but it's the hypocrisy that stinks here.
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These studies are flawed in that people who pursue prenatal diagnosis in general are more likely to terminate an affected pregnancy. I am a genetic counselor and work in a population where I would say 80% of patients decided against amniocentesis/CVs, so we have no idea what they would do if they found out a pregnancy was affected. Prenatal diagnosis of Down syndrome by maternal blood sampling is coming. When the risk from the procedure is taken out, and more people have testing, we may get a better idea of what the true statistic is.
[ Reply | Options ]I'm Catholic, would not have terminated a pregnancy and had an amnio. I grew up with a cousin who had Down's, and knew that if there was something wrong with my DB, I'd want to know, so that I could be prepared to manage the situation - line up the right specialists in advance, prepare other family members, arrange DH and my leave/benefits, etc. Just having an amnio doesn't automatically mean anything.
[ Reply | Options ]we tried 8 years to have my daughter and were told during one of her screenings she had markers for downs. i'm pro-choice, but refused a amnio and refused to abort. i never thought about raising a special needs child, but i knew that she was a miracle and couldn't wait for her arrival regardless. anyway, all went well despite concerns and we delivered a perfectly, beautiful, brilliant and happy baby. so you never know.
[ Reply | Options ]I am pro-choice but I knew I would never terminate a Downs baby. I did the nuchal fold testing (both for my twins and my singleton) to get some idea of the risks. When it was normal, I opted not to do CVS or amnio. If the nuchal fold had shown a high risk, I likely would have done more testing just to do as an earlier poster suggested - line up specialists, read up on the challenges etc. etc.
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bc many people don't think beyond elective abortions in the event of unwanted pregnancies - so they say they are "anti abortion" or "prolife". those same people can feel very differently when faced with the possibility of a db w DS or other serious medical/physical/congenital issues.
[ Reply | Options ]many people think that being "pro-life" means that they personally would never get an abortion and that being "pro-choice" means that they would. they don't get that it's a political viewpoint: being prolife means that you think that NO WOMAN should be allowed to get an abortion and being prochoice means you think that the choice to terminate or continue a pregnancy should be in the hands of the woman. It's kind of like being anti-poverty does not mean only that you personally don't want to be poor...
[ Reply | Options ]you are wrong... I am pro-choice for others, pro-life for myself. Quite frankly, if women want to abort their children there is nothing I could do to stop them. Therefore, I believe women should be able to abort their babies, I just would never abort my own.
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or: that is EXACTLY what I am saying. pro-choice is a political stance meaning that you believe women should ahve the right to choose to terminate OR to keep a pregnancy. Pro-life means that you believe that women should NOT have that right - that the government should make it illegal to terminate a pregnancy. Neither has anything to do with what decision you would make about your own pregnancy.
[ Reply | Options ]I am prolife. Everything is not as black and white as your perceive in your views of what it means to be "prochoice" or "prolife" and most of America is in the gray area. I am cognizant that some mothers will abort their children.... and again, my energies are better spent in living my life than worrying about mothers who abort their children. Most of America is in the grey area. Not the black and white world you insist is reality.
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I am absolute about this. f there is any chance that baby would be DS or even be slightly mentally retarded, or have any birth defects, I would abort it. No way jose.
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[-]Instead of having holiday pics taken before the holidays, anyone have holiday photos taken DURING the holidays when all family/friends are in one place? Was thinking this might make a nice gift for grandparents.
2 replies [ Reply | Watch | Options ]Sounds nice but depends on how many little kids there are. Trying to take a group picture with lots of toddlers is not easy b/c it is very hard to get them to look at the camera and sit still. If it is all older kids then it should be fine. However, most places charge a sitting fee per person so make sure to take that into account when you total the cost.
[ Reply | Options ]This would be a great idea if you had a private photographer come to your home (if your home could accommodate this) or meet you in Central Park. You don't just need to do one big family portrait, you could have the photographer spend time with your family and take photos of different groupings and turn the whole thing into an album.
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[-]Ideas; Advice. My 5 year old brother (yeah, I'm 27 years old, big gap, etc..) was recommended for a vanguard program going into 1st grade. He is taking the Stanford test in January...what score should I/we be expecting? I WILL be raising this kid in 15 years, so I want to knowwhat I'm in for. TIA!
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[-]Found out in January that my husband was/is having an affair-and it wasnt the first time. Finally filing for a divorce now (have been separated on and off since January). Have one dd, 2 years old. Know I am making the right decision, but am so sad for the loss of my family. when will I feel ok again? How long does it take?
3 replies [ Reply | Watch | Options ]I am very sorry for your loss. I guess it is like any physical injury; it will heal over time, but you will probably be left with some residual. My dh had an EA about 1 1/2 yrs ago. We are still together, but
[ Reply | Options ]I am going thru a similar situation - found out in Feb-09 about husband's affair, we've been in couples therapy ever since but I found out they still call/text - in Oct. it was 96x! So i kicked him out a week ago. I've seen a mediator 2x this week and a lawyer and believe the only choice I have is to legally separate. Did you also legally separate? We have an 18 month old daughter and I am very sad about this but know I am making the right decision because I can't trust him and he can't have his cake and eat it too. Hey - we can schedule a playdate and gripe!
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[-]I am in the process of getting legally separated. Should I wear my wedding band still? I have an 18-month old daughter.
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[-]My ds has language school for 4 hours on saturdays and HATES it. He is 7. It is very important for us culturally that he speaks it. Do I stick to it? I think he would really regret quitting when he is older.
34 replies [ Reply | Watch | Options ]I think you are teaching something important by making kids stick with something. Maybe stick through this year and then give him an out option. You may be surprised- he might change his mind a few years from now, especially if you go to the country where the language is spoken and he makes friends. But my parents made me play the cello for years which I sort of hated, but it really taught me self discipline which I really needed later in life to get through college and some of my jobs.
[ Reply | Options ]I feel like he has such a rich life full of things he loves but that this is important. I hope I am not making a huge mistake
[ Reply | Options ]Hum, I just thought of something else. I despised Sunday School, not because it was religious and boring, but because I went to a different school during the week than all the other kids and it was extremely stressful for me to go there and not have anyone to sit with, etc. I had a nice group of friends at my school, and I felt really uncomfortable there because I was an outsider. Wonder if something like that is going on.
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This "lesson" of sticking with something is more appropriate for a 12 year old, not a 7 year old. Why are you putting so much pressure and stress on this child? If it's so important to you "culturally" that he speak the language, then perhaps you and your DH should make an effort to speak ONLY in that language at home, so he's immersed in it.
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Is there another program that is not as long that is maybe more fun? You also don't want to hate it so much that he resents it.
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If it's so important for you culturally, why aren't you just speaking the other language at home so that he learns it organically? With my dcs, we've been speaking both languages (English and our "mother tongue") since they were born, and they are now fluent.
[ Reply | Options ]I do and he speaks back in english. plus there is a social element that is very important. kids speaking "kid language" between themselves
[ Reply | Options ]OR here - Then it seems like he won't really pick up anything from his classes either - he clearly isn't motivated right now. Maybe he will be later, but it sounds to me like a waste of time. My parents forced 10 years of piano on me, and I hated it. Didn't enjoy it, never practiced, and wasn't able to retain anything after I left for college. I think perhaps if it was something I ACTUALLY WANTED to do, I would have put more effort in and continued with lessons (or at least would have retained some of what I learned).
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I think you are right. He would probably regret quitting it when he is older. Making sure that he learns the language well is a gift you are giving him--I bet he will appreciate it when he is older! Music lessons are often the same. I am so grateful to my mom for making me practice piano, though there were whole years when I hated it!
[ Reply | Options ]I would look for another program. He has school all week and then has this so he really only has 1 day off a week. I would find a program that he will like, that is fun. Plus there are a ton of DVD/CD-ROM programs that teach kids language. You don't want him to hate it so much that he ends up resenting it or you for making him go.
[ Reply | Options ]I honestly think you should let him quit. For a 7 y/o, it is really not fair to have less than even 1.5 days of a weekend. He may regret it when he's older, but you can ask him every year if he wants to re-enroll and one day he may surprise you by saying yes. My parents forced language school on me, I hated it, and seriously resented it for so long.
[ Reply | Options ]This is tough. I had good intentions to speak to my DD exclusively in another language except DH does not speak it and he would have felt left out. I am an educator and a foreign language teacher told me that as kids grow up, they want to speak that language with other children not just with their parents and that exposing them to other people who speak the language is also important. I do think he may regret it down the line if he quits it now. Sometimes as parents we have to do what we think is best, not just what the kid wants.
[ Reply | Options ]Do stick with it, but look for another program. If he hates it I wouldn't push this particular one on him, but find one more child-friendly for him.
[ Reply | Options ]Can you find a different class that is NOT 4 hours long? My dd is in a chinese class, but it is only 2 hours, and not at all like the hardcore classes that many other chinese classes I know of.
[ Reply | Options ]LEt me put it this way - I am very grateful that my parents let me have my weekends when I was growing up to be a kid and do what activities I wanted to do. If he wants to do sports, let the kid have childhood and do his sports. Don't force him in a stuffy language class for 4 hours, thus giving him a 6 day school week. If he wants to learn a language later, he'll do it, but childhood only comes once.
[ Reply | Options ]how about hiring a babysitter who will play / hang out with for a day / a few days a week?
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[-]How much input does a preschool director have? If preschool director thinks DC is a good candidate for HM but had a less than stellar playdate, do you think HM will take a pass? Obviously, this is all spec.
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[-]Just moved to LI and about to turn 40...where can i have my 40th bday party (other then my house or back in manhattan? Prefer the North Shore/Nassau County. Thanks!
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[-]how much breastmilk should I leave with my 5mo db for 24 hours?
4 replies [ Reply | Watch | Options ]someone can always take more out of the freezer if necessary, but I would overestimate what you think he eats. It's okay if some of it has to be tossed. You don't want to worry about this while you are gone
[ Reply | Options ]I am dropping db with the ILs so I need to decide in advance.... I feel like I usually over estimate and end up tossing so much and since I ebf, I pump only once a day, so it takes me 2 days to make one bottle and it just kills me to see it get tossed.... but I would be too worried not to leave enough... maybe I will bring 40oz.. but is that way too much?
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[-]dd is 7wo, i'm increasingly anxious that something's wrong with her (past history includes healthy 4yo, 2 miscarriages, failed ivf, genetic testing), feel sad, overwhelmed...etc. is this post partum depression? what do i do?
3 replies [ Reply | Watch | Options ]what makes you think that? sounds irrational if you've had testing and are seeing pedi on regular basis.
[ Reply | Options ]anxiety about newborn is not uncommon, esoecially since you had such a stressful time conceiving. Most likely post-partum after such stress. If you have the presenec of mind it would probably help you a lot to talk to someone, if you just can't do that, find a friend or sister if you have on that you give just give voice to all your anxieties just to get them out of your head. Don't worry all will be fine.
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yes, I think this is ppd. Discuss with your doctor asap. You've been through a lot of stress with your past history, but anyone can run up against ppd. I experienced it after my 2nd and was very anxious and sad for no realistic reason. I ended up taking meds for several months, and that was the right answer for me. GL
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[-]What NYC restaurant would you go to for Thanksgiving dinner with a 3 year old boy?
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[-]Having first hot flashes. Thoughts on hormone replacement, anyone?
6 replies [ Reply | Watch | Options ]Don't. I think messing with one's hormones is a really bad idea, unless a.b.s.o.l.u.t.e.l.y necessary. My gut tells me it leads to many more health problems down the road. Menopause is a perfectly normal process...challenging at times (hot flashes, mood swings), but not a medical problem. Mind over matter, and lots of tank tops and open windows!
[ Reply | Options ]had a hysterectomy at 35 and have been on HRT ever since. I take the lowest dose of premarin they make only every other day. Works fine for me, does away with all hot flashes, sleep disruptions, etc, and isn't enough of a dose to cause problems (the opinion of all docs I've seen). It's totally your call after discussing with your doc
[ Reply | Options ]I'm going to give you a warning based on my df - she also had a hysto, was on an estrogen hrt for maybe ten years, developed later stage breast cancer when it was discovered, and she is dead now. Most drs. now also use hrt during the worst symptoms of menopause and then take pts. off. I wish you well.
[ Reply | Options ]yes, there are always tragic examples of how this can go wrong - and I'm sorry about your friend. But there is a huge difference between going through menopause and retaining ovaries that continue to release a small amount of hormone for the rest of your life and losing those ovaries to surgery. I stay up with all the latest recommendations, but this is the right thing for me at the moment (which doesn't mean things won't change in the future)
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[-]Any women on here who actually LIKE The Big Lebowski? I'm not aware of a single woman who likes it, or a single man who has said he doesn't like it.
28 replies [ Reply | Watch | Options ]op: me neither. dh is watching it now... it's just as bad as I'd remembered! but he's enjoying it (and he generally has good taste in movies). i don't get it...
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