[-]I'm expecting triples girls! What do you think of the names Anita Louise, Clarice Amalia (or Amelia), Helena Maria?. My last name start with D and dh last name start with L.
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I was wondering this because my first thought when I read this was that you were Hispanic. These sound very Hispanic, especially Helena. Cute names would be Anita, Clara, and Helen - all not popular but are pretty and all close variations of the names you already have. Good luck with your pregnancy.
[ Reply | Options ]I don't understand. There is something wrong with choosing a hispanic sounding name? Why did you feel the need to anglicize the names that the OR chose?
[ Reply | Options ]I am not I am just saying that to me if I heard the names, I would assume the parents were Hispanic. I didn't say there is anything wrong with being Hispanic or choosing Hispanic names. I like to know so I don't suggest other names that are maybe too American or too 'other culture' for them.
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I think all of the names are lovely. I am not a fan of Clarice, but that is just my personal taste and I think it goes well with Amalia and the others. Congratulations and best of luck for a long and healthy pregnancy!
[ Reply | Options ]Or Amalia Louise, Clara Anita, Helena Maria. Just to break up the phonetics a bit.
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Enjoy these last moments when you have time and energy enough to ponder. Consider perhaps Anita, Bonita and Conchita.
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What's so mean? Triplets are going to take up a lot of time and energy. Why not be organized and have an A,B,C?
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[-]Waiting to find out early (FISH) results from my CVS yesterday...please let them call this afternoon...I just want to know, even if it's bad news.
7 replies [ Reply | Watch | Options ]don't worry, dear, you'll be fine. in fact, the longer you go without hearing anything, the more likely it is that everything is fine.
[ Reply | Options ]it's true of lots of medical tests. if something abnormal comes back, the doc is going to make that call first. the normal results will be reported to patients after that. which doesn't mean that an early call always means something it's wrong--could just be a slow day. just don't panic.
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[-]Anyone know the NY family legal system well? I'm not in a relationship with my baby's father. I dont agree with his lifestyle at all and he is not responsible, wont get a real full time job etc (because apparently he is destined to be famous- ha!). I want to get child support - even tho he probably wont give me much since he wont work and I have a very good income - but I still need help!
15 replies [ Reply | Watch | Options ]file for support. just understand that he has parental rights too. (and don't make fun of the man, you had a kid with him)
[ Reply | Options ]I kept my baby because I love her... I 'had a kid with him' because I really liked that bottle of wine. I think men who refuse to step up and take on responsibility of any kind are kind of a joke.
[ Reply | Options ]Please its the same with divorce. My ex DH turned out to be a loser, you never know sometimes
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Well, since you think he is so bad, why would you want to open the door for possible visitation rights with db? I am in same situation, and did not pursue $ from father, as I did not want dc to be with him at all. And he has never wanted to see dc, so it makes life simpler for me.
[ Reply | Options ]didn't know if there was a way to get financial support but only have to give limited/supervised limitation. He wants visitation but not any responsibility.
[ Reply | Options ]Well, no judge is going to take your word that he is unfit father. So you would need to prove i. Big $$. And be careful, he gets a clever lawyer, and you might end up paying support to him if he is not working but wants to see child.
[ Reply | Options ]i hope an email from his mom confirming his coke use, photos of him partying all night through my pregnancy at weird parties with naked guys and his living in a 5x7 room with no bathroom kitchen or water would suffice??
[ Reply | Options ]It would help, but you would be surprised in NY. I had page 6 story about dh's drug use to back up my side of the story, and judge would not discuss it.
[ Reply | Options ]Can I just ask though, why do you want to have any contact with such a f-up? It surely can't be about the money? Do you want to get him to become more responsible? Why do you care at this point? Isn't it time to move on, and not even think about this guy and his problems? You sound great, maybe you should get on with your life, meet someone else etc.
[ Reply | Options ]Its one of the options I'm considering.. and would prefer. But I think I get a little freaked out about finances, with the nanny and the bigger apartment... and also think he should grow up and take some responsibility. I know he wants to know her but then I feel that it should be in moderation and with him contributing financially
[ Reply | Options ]I guess you would have to get a 3rd party to supervise, (I am assuming you don't want to have to hang around) It would be nice for db to have relationship with dad, perhaps set up school fund for db, have hi contribute into it, after 6 months or so of regular payments, maybe consider visits of a few hours at a time. Unless you want to go to court etc, you could perhaps figure out something between you. And with his parents too?
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[-]I had a CVS yesterday morning (at Mt sinai) and have had no cramping or bleeding...am I out of the woods? I'm not planning to run a marathon or anything, but I've been walking on eggshells and trying not to move around much.
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[-]Any feedback on CBS midwifery? or any recommendation for a midwife?
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[-]27 weeks pregnant and just saw BRU coupons for this weekend (http://babycheapskate.blogspot.com/2009/11/printable-bru-tru-coupons-for-this.html?utm_source=feedburner&utm_medium=feed&utm_campaign=Feed%3A+blogspot%2Faxic+%28Baby+Cheapskate%29&utm_content=Google+Reader). Should I use the 20% off for the pricey breast pump I want now or wait for better holiday sales (will there be better?) or wait to see if anyone buys its from my registry for the shower? TIA
8 replies [ Reply | Watch | Options ]Is this your first baby? I nursed my two girls, first for 12 months, second for 16 months. My advice is NOT to buy a pump. You can rent one for two months at the hospital which you deliver OR upperbreastside in manhattan. The one you can rent is far superior to the ones you can buy, and if you really want to nurse, will help you build a very healthy milk supply. That said, if you really want to nurse, you should not even be pumping for a few months, until you'r ready to go back to work. If you are still nursing after 2 months, I would suggest buying a pump then. Soudns silly, but the ones you rent are much stronger, and reallya whole lot better. Good luck to you!!
[ Reply | Options ]Completely disagree. If you are a wohm, a good breastpump is essential. Easier to have your own and can use for all dc. I highly rec the pump in style. Suction is excellent. I was able to pump both breast in 20 min. I also rec that you begin pumping and freezing asap, if you plan to ebf. Sometimes, due to scheduling, a decrease in supply or whatever, you may be unable to pump enough milk at work and need the extra at home to ensure that you leave a sufficient amount.
[ Reply | Options ]I am the OR from above. I can see the points of both the other responders. Too much pumping early on can definitely impede successful bf'ing with your little one. For the first 6 weeks or so the best way to build supply is to put your baby to the breast as much as possible. Good for baby, good for you. But if you are going back to work, you will need a good pump and it will be nice for you to get one at a good deal before the baby is born. The Medela Pump In Style and the Ameda Purely Yours are both very good and IMHO (I have used all) just as effective as the hospital grad pumps. I nursed my singleton and then my twins exclusively for 13 months and I pumped at work so lots of experience!
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thanks everyone! i did not know about the additional 10% off for twins. i'm not having twins though - will they ask for proof of some kind? i would like to get the medela handsfree double pump for when i return to work. i also want to pump so that my husband can help with feedings.
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[-]Anyone pay for 3D ultrasound to get a better look at baby? With my daughter (2.5 years ago) we were given it automatically with our anatomy scan, this time around at same hospital they only did 2d and acted surprised that we got it before. And the tech wouldn't let me see the screen at all, just the blurry tv. So I'd love to have 3D done somewhere, just not sure where to find it.
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You're welcome. Try Dr. Google sometime. Don't expect everyone to jump all over themselves.
[ Reply | Options ]wow. I did and had trouble finding anything in the city. Obviously this ultrasound would just be for fun. Posted here because there are better NYC specific info, plus recommendations. but you know that.
[ Reply | Options ]Fine, here you go. First try on Google: http://www.4d-ultrasounds.com/new-york.htm.
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i found her dismissive, distracted and kind of a phoney bitch!. she asked me every visit if I "did fertility treatments" (i'm 37), even though I told her each time, no this was an unplanned pregnancy. I didn't want ultrasounds on every visit, but when i asked ways to see if the pregnancy was progressing (like monitoring hgc, etc) she snapped at me and said "if you're worried, get the ultrasound, if you don't want it, just be happy". my blood pressure was in the 70/50 range all during the 1st tri and she said "my patients don't have problems with their blood pressure" ??? the best was each appointment she came in with a phoney smile and said "i'm glad you're here"
[ Reply | Options ]^^ also - it's like night and day with the new ob so i don't think i was being overly critical with worth... maybe she was having a tough time coincidentally when i was seeing her but it just wasn't worth trying it again.
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[-]Had to give up breastfeeding at 6 weeks due to db having a milk protein allergy, and although I know that it was necessary, I am still upset that I had to give it up. I know I tried as much as I could, even went on a dairy free diet and everything. I am not depressed or anything, but I'm totally obsessed. I see others breastfeeding their babies, and I get so upset that I had to stop. Anyone bt?
18 replies [ Reply | Watch | Options ]yup. dc had milk protein allergies AND i have inverted nipples AND he had latch issues AND i had mastitis AND i had ppd. i pumped for 7 months and felt like sh&t because i couldn't do more. but you know what? i did what i could and so have you. your dc will be healthy and happy and will never remember if he was bf'd or not. let go and enjoy your beautiful db.
[ Reply | Options ]Yes. My first had severe latch issues--even after 2 months of pumping and trying everything, lactations consultants, etc, I gave up. I felt terrible about it, and wondered what I did wrong--she just never took to it! I've since had 3 children who all breastfed easily, so I still wonder why it didn't work out with dd.
[ Reply | Options ]I have BTDT. My child had/has severe reactions to dairy as well as bad reflux and I powered through. Proud to say he's never had an ounce of formula. It was brutal but has gotten much better. Why was it necessary to give up bf-ing? How come modifying your diet didn't have an impact?
[ Reply | Options ]I couldn't bf either because my dd was biting down (with her gums) and I ended up with welts and bruises. I used to cry when bottle feeding her and would go into the breastfeeding rooms when we were out b/c I felt like all the BF moms were judging me. She is now 2, smart and everything but the regret I have hasn't gone away. I actually cried for about a week b/c I wanted to but I just couldn't.
[ Reply | Options ]I exclusively bf for two months and then was told that my baby was not gaining well due to acid reflux. Freaked me out (even though doc and husband assured me no big deal), completely undermined my self-confidence that I knew what to do. I started supplementing with formula and stopped bfeeding around 4 months. I regret it everyday (dd now 7 months, is fine and wonderful but can't believe that I just didn't stick with it)
[ Reply | Options ]I'm sorry this was your experience. I think what you describe is common and that more women would breastfeed through these types of challenges if the social support were there. Sorry you didn't have that. Stinks to have regret. But I'm sure your dd is healthy and thriving, so enjoy!
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I'm surprised the with a totally dairy free diet that you couldn't have kept going.
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sometimes people think they are dairy free, but not. daity is everywhere in the form of whey, cassein. also, some babies who react to dairy also react to soy, which is also everywhere (soy lecithin in bread). signed, mom who gave up all traces of dairy and soy for 12 months of bfing.
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[-]I am 8 and a half weeks thanks to IVF. Now my new thing to worry about is the nuchal screening in 2 weeks. I am 38 and terrified. I was under the impression that they "hand pick' the best looking embryos to implant and the chances of Downs. etc. are diminished. We didn't do PGD and now I regret it. I am learning that IVF doesn't make any difference since they can't tell by looking at it- Great.
3 replies [ Reply | Watch | Options ]I did IVF in Dec. Had 25 viable embryos and they transferred one back, "the best of the best". It took...and then I terminated in March due to a Downs diagnosis. I was in utter shock! How could the best of the best have Downs? Well...something must have made it stand out. Transferred two frozen embryos in July and am now 23-weeks pregnant with a little boy.
[ Reply | Options ]It's true, without PGD there is no better or worse chance but just enjoy this time, right now. I was a five time IVFer and I worried my entire pregnancy. If I could do it all again, I wish I had enjoyed it more and worried less. BTW, I was 37 when it finally worked for us. So, congrats and enjoy being preggers mommy!!!!
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[-]thinking of naming dd after a dear friend...but she said she hates her name. so is it a bad idea?
3 replies [ Reply | Watch | Options ]and you really need to ask this--friend HATES her own name and you want to name DC in honor of that person...its questions like this that make me question the right that each person should get one vote...my vote would be offset by this one knucklehead who cannot think on their own..why should I research the voting issues if my vote will be diluted so easily
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[-]4 y/o dd is very, very keyed in to db #2 being another girl. Any advice on whether or not to bring her along to the ultrasound? She wants to come, but if db is a boy, would it be better to break the news to her in a different setting?
10 replies [ Reply | Watch | Options ]DO NOT DO THIS. Suppose there is some problem/concern. Even if minor, do you really want to deal with your 4 yo while you're sorting through your own emotions? (We had a small finding that in the end was meaningless, but I was a nervous wreck while they were telling me about it.)
[ Reply | Options ]Really, for all the stated reasons, don'd do it. If its a boy, she may be genuinely upset and you don't want to take away from your own happiness right then. If it is a boy, maybe you and DH can go and get her a boy baby doll and tell her that way?
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[-]Hi, i want to get a pregnancy massage gift certificate for a friend. It's been so long since i've been pregnant. What are some nice spas in the city who have it? Thanks!
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