[-]37 weeks pregnant and my husband is driving me crazy. I know its probably the hormones but everything he does/says seems to get under my skin. I feel bad for him because I know I haven't exactly been fun the last couple of months but i feel we are starting to snap at each other a lot more and it takes all my patience not to rip his head off at the smallest things.
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Get rid of the stash and everytime you want a piece just imagine the same amount of fat as the size of the chocolate being added to your hips.
[ Reply | Options ]there is candy everywhere at work- someone sent us a 5 lb box of see's choclate. I've had like 10 pieces already, plus some halloween candy this morning. I have been SUCH a junk food junky this pg-
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second- I care less about being healthy and weight gain this time- though I am up 19 pounds with 6 weeks to go, so not terrible, but I'd like to just gain 2-3 more pounds if possible-
[ Reply | Options ]wow, i am jealous. i gained 50 lbs with all dc's and normally very skinny/tiny. eat the chocolate -- enjoy -- you have nothing to worry about. and sees are the best!!
[ Reply | Options ]thanks, but started out this pg with 5 pounds left from last pg (from which I only gained 25 pounds so I might not gain a lot but then I don't lose a lot either) and started the first pg with 5 pounds of infertility weight. So I actually really need to limit the weight gain- normal BMI but I know myself and I was overweight to start-
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nothing wrong with chocolate - enjoy. Simple pleasure while your pg. Unless your obese I guess
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[-]10 weeks today and my morning sickness/fatigue has abruptly faded. It was mild to begin with but it's freaking me out. I saw my OB 10 days ago and everything was fine; not supposed to go back for 2 more weeks...is it weird to call and beg for another ultrasound? I'm not bleeding or cramping so far.
12 replies [ Reply | Watch | Options ]it's not weird at all and I would go if it's going to give you peace of mind. totally normal for m/s to stop, but I'd go in because I know I worry a lot. good luck!
[ Reply | Options ]op: I know I must sound like a drama queen but I know so many people who miscarried around 10 weeks and said they
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I know. but many also don't have pg symptoms suddenly and it meant absolutely nothing! I had severe m/s constantly so I can't help, but the "normal" range is very wide!! like I said, I'd go only because I worry a lot. esp. when I was pg with #1, I worried about almost everything. GL!!
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If it makes you feel any better, I didn't have any morning sickness for the first 11 weeks and had it only from 11-12 weeks and then it stopped abruptly. Relax and enjoy as everything is probably fine. I too know a lot of people that miscarried around 10 weeks but there's nothing that you can do about it if you do so enjoy what you have and more likely than not, everything will be fine.
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[-]Anyone had a cesarean at Roosevelt hospital? What happened? What is the procedure? Did they separate you from the child? Was your partner allowed to stay with you while you recovered? I am almost two weeks over due. I have had painful contractions since week 30. (I have had small contractions - not painful but consistent every minute. Plus painful contractions.) They are now measuring the baby at over 11 pounds after doing the ultrasound five times. (I understand that measurements are inaccurate.) In addition, they think my pelvis is small. I have made no progress not effaced or dilated and still carrying high. This is my first child. Any opinions about having a cesarean at Roosevelt? They wanted to try induction first, but my d...
11 replies [ Reply | Watch | Options ]I had an unscheduled c-section at SLR. It was fine as far as c-sections went. Partner stayed with me while I was in recovery room but the floor was strict on visitors. I think partners could come at 8:30 and had to leave at 10:30pm. No exceptions. That was difficult unless you had a private room which we did not. Nurses nice. Aides were so so. I was separated from child for some time after the birth but my husband was with baby. It's really a little bit of a blur
[ Reply | Options ]I had two c-sections there. I thought the hospital was great. In both cases my husband was there the entire time. They let him see the babies and take pictures while they were checking the kids on the other side of the room. When they were done and wrapped in a blanker he was able to bring them right by my side as they were finishing the operation. They brought them to me quickly in the recovering room, encouragin me to let them rest on my chest. My kids were both 3 weeks early and had "young" lungs so the each had to go to the NICU for a few days, so for that reason I did not get to spend as much time with them initally, but your kids will not have that issue. they do have an amazing NICU, but the flip side of that is that I think they are...
[ Reply | Options ]I am little, 5'2", small framed, and whilst I had long labor with first, I had vaginal, 9lbs, ...last baby they thought would be at least 10, was 9.1 again, it never dropped, and 2 hour labor....they are not that accurate, even with sono. So maybe go for induction, and see how it goes, but be prepared for C? And Roosevelt is fine, if you can afford it, go for private room..
[ Reply | Options ]You are two weeks overdue and the baby is estimated at 11 lbs? This is either fake or you've got the worst OB in town. Instead of worrying about where you are going to have the section done, why don't you look into how many times your OB has been sued for malpractice?
[ Reply | Options ]i delivered at SLR by unscheduled csection in 2007 (2 weeks overdue, induced, labored for 36 hrs, then csec) & 2 months ago (6 weeks early, baby in nicu for a bit). Both times I had dh and mom in recovery room with me, and dh then stayed with baby for bathing (2007) and nicu (2009) while i stayed in recovery. 24hr visitation allowed in both shared and private room for dh. both times i got private room after 1 night in shared room (waiting list). I'm not sure when folks delivered that posted they had limited visitor hours. it was 24 hours for all visitors both times in private room. & 24 hours for dh in shared room too.
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[-]38 week pg insomnia MISERY! And ds will wake up in an hour. GET THIS BABY OUT OF ME!!!!!
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[-]Expecting first db in november and have been told that good nursing bras are a must. Can anyone recommend a good brand or where to find them?
11 replies [ Reply | Watch | Options ]depends on how much support you need/what size you are. for sleeping/lounging at home, I love majamas nursing bras. i have one very expensive, more supportive bra that looks nice under clothes. i don't remember the brand, but i got it at upper breast side. otherwise, i generally wear glamourmom or bravado nursing tanks. they are great, and glamourmoms are long and cover your post partum belly nicely. i got glamourmom and majamas at diapers.com.
[ Reply | Options ]It is kinda difficult to buy a nursing bra until after you have established bf'ing because your boobs get so much bigger. That said, I found the nursing bras to be a pain (nmaybe I never found a good one) and ended up just using bras with no underwire that I lifted up over the breast during feedings. Congrats on your little one on the way.
[ Reply | Options ]Honestly, I stopped wearing a nursing bra halfway through nursing my first baby. I just pull the cups of my regular bras down, and flop the breast over the top of it. I generally wear padded bras, so any milk that drips gets absorbed. After your breasts get accustomed to nursing, they stop dripping. I might be in the minority, but it works fine for me! Signed, mom who breastfed three babies.
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[-]ttc here and Expecting period on Tuesday. Took pg test this morning and negative. Am I wrong to think it's not going to happen this cycle? I don't feel any different. Tia.
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[-]Our whole family has swine flu. My fever has been gone for 2 days but I still have the awful cough with (sorry, TMI) green phlegm. Supposed to go to SIL's baby shower tomorrow. This is a big occasion for her, and I don't want to miss it. However, I've done some research and while it's not concrete, general consensus is that I'm still contagious if I'm coughing. Should I ask SIL if she still wants me there, or should I go? DH thinks I'm being dramatic and trying to get out of going. I think I'm being considerate of the other shower guests. WDYT?
15 replies [ Reply | Watch | Options ]I wouldn't go and I wouldn't want to be around someone whose whole family had swine flu particularly when I am pregnant.
[ Reply | Options ]OP here: Thanks, guys. I think it's spectacularly bad form to bring my sick ass to a gathering in a small enclosed space, too! I keep telling him that I'd LOVE to get out of the apartment (I've been cooped up since Sunday night with three sick kids) and gab and eat cake. It's not that. I just don't think it's right. SIL had the vax, but there are other people to consider.
[ Reply | Options ]I think your DH probably does not understand the risk to pregnant women and the general cautious feelings, even paranoia, of pregnant women and the people who love them! Call your SIL and explain that you really want to be there but that it doesn't seem very wise. I think she will be grateful.
[ Reply | Options ]You are not contagious if you have been fever free for 24 hours. With a pregnant SIL I might be overly cautious and go with 48 hours. The cough means nothing if there is not a fever.
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OMG, don't go! I can't believe you would even consider it! Your poor pregnant SIL does not need to get swine flu from you. By even asking her, you are putting her in an awkward situation. It's only common sense that you would not put a baby's health in jeopardy because YOU don't want to miss a big occasion.
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[-]Anyone do the childcare center at their gym? So debating it, with the swine flu/germs this winter....Honestly, I'm afraid, that I may go stir crazy, if I don't get to the gym either.
4 replies [ Reply | Watch | Options ]DH and I are very relaxed about social situations and the germ craze, but even we stopped putting dd in gym childcare a couple of winters ago when she was little b/c she was constantly getting sick - they just don't clean like they do in "real" childcare/educational settings. There were noticeably fewer colds after dh stopped dropping her off there.
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[-]I'm so frustrated at my current nanny job I'm over worked and underpaid for my qualifications. I've spoken to my boss about a pay increase but she wouldn't budge,so been searching hopelessly for a new ft position but nothing seems to work, any ideas how I can be marketed to a new set of parents searching for a good nanny.
1 reply [ Reply | Watch | Options ]How much are you making now/hours/#dc? Are you leaving just because of money (otherwise happy with your current job)? I know earning a certain amount is important, but I'm not sure it's realistic to think you can find that amount in this economy. Nannies are being hit hard. But of course, I reserve my final opinion about your realistic job prospects until hearing your current salary.
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[-]What do early signs of kicking feel like? I'm going on 11 weeks and have been feeling as if I've had terrible gas/bloating all day that has come and gone. Is that the first signs of this little one moving around that I can feel?
11 replies [ Reply | Watch | Options ]I believe that's too early. I remember watching my twins moving around, kicking, etc. on ultrasound at 11 weeks and I couldn't feel a thing. I didn't start feeling anything until 20 weeks. Now, at 23 weeks, I can clearly feel it on the inside, but not from the outside yet. Hard to describe, but it just feels like babies poking me from the inside!
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earliest you'll feel the baby with the first pregnancy is likely 18 weeks. Earlier with subsequent pregnancies.
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[-]If you could choose between delivering in what sounds like nice cushy hospital in CT (Greenwich or Stamford) or one of the hospitals in the city (Lenox Hill, NYU, or St. Vincents), what would you pick? Does anyone live in NYC but deliver in the burbs?
18 replies [ Reply | Watch | Options ]you want to reverse commute for a cushy delivery room?...why not just rent a suite at the mandarin oriental & bring in an obstetric team for your comfort and convenience?
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I have delivered at both Lenox Hill and Norwalk, CT, and while the CT hospital was like an inn compared to Lenox Hill, it's really not worth the commute.
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I was so uncomfortable while I was delivering, it probably wouldn't have made a difference WHERE I was. I delivered at Lenox Hill and it was fine. The nursing staff was amazing.
[ Reply | Options ]OP: I work in Stamford and live downtown NYC - for doctor appointments, CT is easier (I am waiting as long as possible to tell my office and its much easier to sneak out here) but not sure where I will be when I go into labor (expect to work up until then). Its not about the cushy delivery room per se - its more about the fact that while everyone I talked to who delivered in the burbs has good things to say about the hospital, I can't seem to get that consensus about any hospital in NYC...
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i live in downtown manhattan and delivered at south nassau in oceanside and was pretty happy about it. work in manhattan so i knew if i went into labor i would be near hospitals and it would be fine. ended up staying with family in long island two days before i delivered, it turned out fine
[ Reply | Options ]^^ also, went to hospitals in the city twice during pregnancy for emergencies (didn't feel baby moving late in third trimester, got scared, turned out to be fine) and dh and i were like, oh god, i hope we don't have to deliver here. city hosptials, facilities and staff were AWFUL compared to our experience at south nassau
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Honestly what matters is your OB. Will he travel to either one? Also, while expecting an uneventful delivery with my #2, he ended up in NICU. So expect the best but plan for the worst. Which hospital has better NICU if need be, better doctors on staff, etc? Would your ped visit the baby in either one of the hospitals or you would rely on the hospital ped?
[ Reply | Options ]I did SLR in the city with my first. Morristown for the second. Morristown was a far, far better experience. Better nursing staff (or at least not spread as thin). Not to mention all the rooms are private, which saved me $1500. And a massage. And better food. Just all in all a better experience than a big, busy, urban hospital.
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[-]Needs advice! I'm the previous "my SIL lives 10 mins. away" poster. I want to schedule a playdate for the cousins at a local children's toy store. I am mainly not interested in having any closesness w/ this SIL, because my other SIL & MIL are toxic beyond belief. This particular SIL is somewhat close to them....Do I preface the invite with I'd like the kids to get together, but I would like it to be about them and that I'm not interested in involving any other family drama. I worked really hard on myself and in therapy to deal with some of these issues, I'm fearful about going backwards in life?!
6 replies [ Reply | Watch | Options ]no, I wouldn't bring it up. You need to develope coping skills to deal with these people since you can't ignore them. Prepare some standard replies that are ready to toss out if the SIL starts a touchy topic. You can make it clear at that time that you don't want to have that discussion. Be polite, but be firm. She'll get the idea that you aren't going to react or engage. Good luck
[ Reply | Options ]I wouldn't bring it up, unless the MIL or other SIL was mentioned. I'm torn. This SIL is very delusional and immature. However, she has a new baby and lost her Mother a few years ago. I have a soft spot in my heart and want the kids to get the chance to meet-up. My MIL will take this as well, then we are all spending the XMAS together and will try to tear down the boundaries. I feel so torn, since I have to be firm. What do I say?
[ Reply | Options ]I'd say... let's just enjoy the day and not talk about family. If she presses for drama, then you can decrease the contact. Am glad you've worked on the issues and agree that you don't want to go backwards, but I think you can face these people and stay above the problems. It might take a few tries, but it's all good practice
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I wouldn't mention anything about not wanting to discuss family drama. Just keep it casual and see how it goes. If it becomes a drama rama fest just leave and don't do it again. FWIW I don't even know my SIL on my husband's side. MY DH hasn't spoke to his brother in over 5 years so it could be worse.
[ Reply | Options ]Why do I feel torn? I have a huge plate full right now. I want to be the better person, but why do I have to prove it. I think your'e right, to keep it casual. It would be, so long as its not at my home.
[ Reply | Options ]Keep it casual, short and sweet. If the family drama, other family members are brought up, look her in the eye and, in the nicest tone possible (with perhaps a hint of humor) tell her you've been through enough therapy to know you can't have this conversation. Thank her for understanding and redirect the conversation. If it comes up at all, her response will let you know the future possibilities. I do think that you should do it though. The fact that you are considering it at all tells me it is the right thing for you to do. I speak from experience, one cousin has maintained a relationship with me and our kids and one hasn't. It bothers me that the one who hasn't has chosen this path. But I know I offered more and it gives me some peace of ...
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[-]SIL lives 10 mins. away. Our DS's are 5 mo apart. DH's entire family is not close, however, I saw her at the checkout today and didn't even said hello...avoided her and kept going thru the aisles. Part of me wants to "do the right thing" and contact her and schedule a playdate, but a BIG part of me, doesn't want the drama of all of DH's family drama. I'm a softy, but have come a long way in dealing with all of this. Is life too short...should I get these two boy cousins together or what? I feel wishy-washy today.
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I teach my kids to love their family members no matter what my opinions of them are. Unless a relationship could be considered very toxic for my dc, I do not shut out family members just because I don't like them. This is a touchy subject for me. I am so tired of hearing about grandparents who are shut out from their grandchildren's lives just beacuse the parent's find them annoying - etc, etc. Grow up and treat your family with respect.
[ Reply | Options ]I teach my kids to love their family members. Honestly, this situation is more unique, so I am carefully weighing my decisions. I agree that shutting out relatives is not appropriate, but toxic relatives, where their are alcoholic/mental toxicities are not appropriate and need boundaries.
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[-]dh's firm just dropped BCBS insurance. now need to decide btween united and cigna - any preferences? i am 6 months pregnant.
6 replies [ Reply | Watch | Options ]i love united. for our plans, the difference is that united has a national network and cigna is limited to the tri-state area (to stay in-network). also united requires no referrals or primary care provider. same for you? when united was only a little bit more expensive, we decided to go with it. next year we will be switching to cigna, b/c united will be MUCH more expensive. i think they are both nice, but the tri-state thing may be hard if you travel a lot and have an accident prone family (like me).
[ Reply | Options ]I had United with #1, Cigna with #2/3 and am currently very happy with the comprehensive coverage. Both are fine insurance companies, reimbursements are fairly timely and low co-pays. CIGNA has an annoying voicemail help-line but once you get to a real person, they've been very helpful. Don't think you can miss with either one but I have found Cigna to be probably marginally more user friendly
[ Reply | Options ]Very happy with Cigna. And I do NOT need a referral to go to specialist. The important thing to look at is the out of network coverage. Go with which ever plan is higher.
[ Reply | Options ]Are the plans the same and jus tthe companies different? Then I would check with your doctors and see which is accepted more universally. I had CIGNA POS and I loved that there was no paperwork, but OTOH not everyone accepted it. Next year I will have a United Healthcare plan and it involves paperwork, but it seems more universally accepted. This is not my choice, just tthat my company keeps changing plans - I've had CIGNA POS, BCBS PPO, Aetna PPO and now United Healthcare (some combo of a PPO and an Indemnity plan).
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[-]Question. Due in a few weeks with DB#2 this pregnancy is completely different, carrying differently, different side effects, I even smell different. Wondering if #2 is a boy, did anyone notice a big difference when pregnant between boys and girls?
3 replies [ Reply | Watch | Options ]I'm carrying the same now with #2 as I did with #1 but the biggest difference is that with #1 I had zero morning sickness and felt great and energetic throughout the pregnancy. This time around I'm at 18 weeks and have been tired and exhausted from the beginning and had the most terrible morning sickness from week 7 until just recently. #1 was a girl, this one is a boy.
[ Reply | Options ]Completely different. #1 was a boy, mild morning sickness and some exhaustion towards the end. This time around I am having a girl and I have had every problem in the book: morning sickness that has been unbearable (taking Zofran, still at 25 weeks), migraines, carpal tunnel pain, back problems, you name it... Weight gain has been the same for both. In my case the girl pregnancy has been brutal.
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[-]Swine flu shot and 5 months pregnant - with or without thermisol?
17 replies [ Reply | Watch | Options ]I am 30 weeks pg and just asked my OB the same question yesterday. She said that she would advise getting it with thimerosol over not getting it at all (assuming you cannot find it without thimerosol which seems to be the case right now.)
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I'm 30 weeks also. I asked OB y/day at appt and she said if I can find it w/o thermisol, then yes I should def get the shot. If however I can only find it with thermisol then skip it. But since I can't seem to find it anywhere in the city - with the exception of Goldman & Citi - it's a moot point.
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Apparently you cannot post links on this site! Go to nyc (dot) gov / flu or you can google "nyc flu shot locator". Usually first link that appears. Halfway down the page is a "flu shot locator" you can search by h1n1 and/or seasonal. The locations may not be a nice as your regular doctor - but they have h1n1 shots! I went on Monday. Great success. Good luck!
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OP: I have not found it without thimerosal (spelled properly for the english teacher poster) but have been given the option to take it with thimerosal by another doctor of mine. I'm tempted to wait it out for a few more weeks to see if I can get it without from my OB as she said they ordered it and are waiting but will probably take it either way by Thanksgiving.
[ Reply | Options ]I took it this week with thimerosal - my OB said that it has less mercury than a can of tuna and that drs who advice their patients to wait for a shot that is very hard to find are doing them a big disservice. I am so glad that I got it b/c i just found out that a woman I know who is due around Christmas caught swine flu a few weeks ago and was in the hospital for 10 days.
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