[-]Bumping - any recs for online shopping for reasonably-priced work clothes? tia
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[-]I went to a friend's house and it was FREEZING inside. Asked if she had the heat on and she said she doesn't turn the heat on until November. I have never heard of using the calendar to determine when to turn on the heat or am I just "spoiled".
6 replies [ Reply | Watch | Options ]I just put the heat on yesterday, but got used to a date when I lived in NYC since apartment buildings weren't required by law to provide heat until October 15 (and I always lived in crappy apartment buildings that waited until the last second). If it's cold in October, I'll turn it on, but I also try, particularly in April/May and Sept/Oct to wait to use the AC/heat just because I think we get so used to central air the rest of the year and I think it's a nice time to force ourselves to keep the windows, get some fresh air, and save money on our exorbitant PSEG bills (we're in NJ now), so I can see why someone would do that.
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I know a lot of buildings in NYC don't turn on the heat until a certain day. I think it's sometime in October. So there is always that few couple of weeks when buildings are cold. I'm not surprised by someone making it personal choice to turn on their heat later rather than sooner. I'm not sure if it saves money or resources. Maybe some environmental moms can comment on this.
[ Reply | Options ]How could it not save money/resources? Anyway, the temp here (not NYC) went from quite warm (using fans) to quite cold (hate to admit it, but the furnace is on) in a week. So that's a bit of a shock to the system and people are not used to putting on sweaters, warm socks/slippers, etc at home. And I think those are the first things people should be doing when the weather gets cold. Otherwise you are not really adapting to reality IMO. Hate to see people in sweaters in July (because their AC is set so low) and in t-shirts in January (because their heat is so high). So, I can understand putting a date limit on it to force your family to adjust to the new season. Although it can get a little extreme the other way too... if you are spending all...
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[-]looking for a female OB in Chicago who takes insurance. thanks!
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[-]Have no diagnosed infertility issues, but am 39.5 so doc suggested HCG injection this month. Had it on Monday and today (thursday) still haven't ovulated. Follicles have stayed around 23mm since Monday's ultrasound. Has anyone ever had this happen? I misscarried (only time ever happend this summer and still haven't gotten AF). But ultrasound on Monday made doc think it was happening. Any thoughts?
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[-]When I had my first DS, I called up an old friend and told her. Her response was "Is that what you wanted?" I thought it was an odd response. When I had our second DS, her response was "you can always try again, you're young enough." Now fast forward to my 45th birthday and she got downright angry with me. She said "I can't believe you don't have a girl and you don't want one." I'm very confused with this. Can someone help me? I never stated a preference and I have two healthy, smart, funny and intelligent human beings that I cannot imagine being without.
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[-]Entering the mommy wars. Went to a friend's house for a party. The DH quit his job to stay home full time while the DW went back to work after being home for 4 years. My DH and I have always worked full time with our kids in daycare. Well at one point, she turned to me and said "We felt it was important that one parent always be home. Daycare kids are so awful." Now, I never once critized her in her decision to stay home but apparently she felt it necessary to knock me. Any ideas how to handle this instead of just popping her in the nose?
17 replies [ Reply | Watch | Options ]don't pop her in the nose. she's entitled to her opinion, and if she's a friend, she can express it.
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It's lame - just said that daycare kids are more likely to be overweight. But even they admitted that they didn't take into account affluence or parents education level, which is a big factor. I mean, I WOHM but not out of necessity and both my DH and I have grad degrees from top 10 universities - are any of my family members fat - NO. Different story if I'm working to help keep the family afloat and more likely to eat cheap fast food/crap, regardless of whether I worked or not. Also said that SAHM's are more likely to take their kids to the park, etc, than child minders would be. PLEASE. The study was obviously not done in NYC because those parks are more full of nannys and kids than actual parents!
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Just be confident in your own decision. I have a frenemy who says this sort of stuff all the time. When I was suffering through the private school admissions process, worried about where dc would land (they decided to move to the burbs) she said"We know Jenny would have scored through the roof and gotten into a tt school but we felt it was terrible to test a four year old and would not do that to our child"--whatever
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[-]Help me out with a school dilemma, please. My daughter is in a public school that has great test scores and a great reputation. She is only in K, but so far she is happy. My biggest complaint is the class size. 32 kids and 1 teacher in each classroom. Socially we fit in at this school. But I can most likely get her into a K-12 private school with very strong academics, a wealth of resources, and much smaller class sizes. However, if she goes to this school we will be among the "poor" families there, as we will be getting financial aid. How important is social comfort level in a school? Should we go for the private given the better academic opportunity even if it means we might not "fit in"? Or should we stick with the public and h...
6 replies [ Reply | Watch | Options ]I live in California and I have considered these things myself, wanting to put my child in a private school (which are scarce here). Being really poor during childhood I was picked on b/c I didn't have the 'right clothes' and the other things that the richer class could afford for their kids. I never fit in and this was in public school. When I considered sending my dd to private it came to me once again that if other parents could afford the school with very little (or no) help, they could more than likely afford the finer things for their kids as well, such as the latest kids fashions and other things that (to my dd) would be considered a luxury and (in some essences) not a priority for someone on a fixed income. It is very important soci...
[ Reply | Options ]socially and emotionally that kids fit in with their peers as much as possible in the school years. Therefore, since I am by no means rich, I decided that I would choose public. Not because it was better or worse academically but because my child would fit in and not feel less superior to her peers.
[ Reply | Options ]OP here, I understand what you are saying, but I think you can fit in without being in the same economic bracket, especially if the kids form their friendships early on. But this is obviously something I am concerned with, and worry about. I guess I should ask more questions about this in the interviews. Thank you.
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I would go for the education. My 13 year old dd is in a school where we receive aid and are one of the less well-off families (I'm a single mom earning around 60K with a child in a NYC independent school.) My child knows we have less money than most families in the school, but I wouldn't say that either of us feels like we don't fit socially. At a younger age, kids make friends without taking family money into consideration. (The kid with the fanciest birthday party is often not the most well-liked kid, for example.) By 13, schoolwork is the main activity of kids. Parents have common concerns about their children, no matter their income. Also, the current economic situation has changed the financial situation of some families, making it eve...
[ Reply | Options ]OP here, this is pretty much my situation. Single mom, similar income, large city. I attended an independent school in this city, and never noticed or cared who had money and who didn't. Well, I knew who was totally rolling in it, but that was maybe one or two families. I didn't really notice among the rest of the kids. That's why I feel like my kids would be OK there, even if we were the "poor" people. But I had no idea whether things had changed. Seems like if the kids begin there in the early years, it should be OK. And I suppose I should be happy that we have a decent public school as an option (though changing school 3 times is not ideal). Anyway, thanks for your input on this. It has been very helpful.
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[-]IVF questions... first, what age will docs not do this for you anymore (most docs)... what is the cost (insurance covers, but I have co-pays), and what is involved? How many appts .. can someone walk me thru how this works and time commitment? If we go this route, we will have to drive to neighboring state which is 2 hours away.. so wanting to figure out how this all would work.
3 replies [ Reply | Watch | Options ]Go to http://www.ivfconnections.net/board/. It
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[-]Just got a promotion at work, long time coming, why do I suddenly feel depressed?
7 replies [ Reply | Watch | Options ]Is it maybe a bit of "performance anxiety"? You know actually being responsible for everything you knew you could do but didn't have to?
[ Reply | Options ]Sometimes I put too much stock into a long hoped-for goal, lay too many expectations on it - and when I attain it, it's a let down. Anti-climactic. Try to step back and realize that you've worked hard for this, it's a great thing (esp in this economy) and be proud and happy for yourself. Congrats!!
[ Reply | Options ]OP - thanks for the insights - seriously been working for this for the past year and I cannot believe that i kind of want to put my head in the oven now
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[-]Has anyone had luck with the ClearBlue Fertility Monitor and is it worth the money?
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why do you say just get the strips? It is about 20 bucks a box and there are only 7 in a box.. so if you use more than one box a month, you would have paid for the monitor in a few months. Just wondering if you want to test more often, it would give more info and be more specific?
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the monitor was actually recommended by my OB. Yes, it is expensive, but you can get a second-hand one from a friend (despite what the co says). Mine was used by 2 of my friends. Thanks to it, I discovered I never ovulated, friend #1 got pregnant and friend #2 discovered she also had fertility issues. Friend#2 and myself are pregnant after IVF at Cornell.
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[-]What is the best time to post on UB to get responses? Seems like since they changed the look a year or two ago, fewer folks are on line. But what time of day is better to get more responses?
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[-]what would you do if your boss kept asking you (and others in office) to chip in money for monetary gifts for the office assistants? We're talking over 100 buck contribution. For holidays, etc. I think it's total crap, but if boss asks, how can you refuse without jeopardizing his view and performance evaluations?
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[-]Jack and....Isabelle, Allie, Luna, Lily, Isla? Name suggestions please!
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Luna sounds like looney. Jack, well how many times is he going to be mad fun of? "HiJack!!" Don't do that to your kid.
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I have a Ginger (nn for Virginia) and kind of want to have a Jack to go with her!
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How many of us growing up REALLY knew what our name meant or cared? You think our parents looked up in books what names "meant" before naming all of us? It's ridiculous that someone wouldn't use a name just because it's SOOO common. Choose a name that you feel is beautiful regardless of what anyone else will think. And STOP worrying how much your kid will be made fun of!
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[-]Need some ideas for a 6 year old boy birthday party for 10 kids. Not really looking for themes, just party simple party ideas. We did a nature center one year, firehouse next year. Don't want a cookie-cutter gym place. We are in the burbs.. need to save $$$ tia.
5 replies [ Reply | Watch | Options ]how about the police station? they gave us a tour. or a pizza place? One near us let the kids make their own pizzas. I tried a local doughnut place, but they make most of their doughnuts in the middle of the night. Mom and Pop-type of stores usually are the most enthusiastic, particularly if you pick something during their slow time.
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[-]What's Evanston like for SAHMs? (Or SAHDs, for that matter.) We live in NYC now, but are going crazy for more space; all the vintage buildings in Evanston look great, plus DH's family is nearby. I'm worried though that I'll feel even more isolated than I do now, plus without the distractions/activities of new york all around. Is it incredibly boring? We drove around, and it *looked* boring, though the trees and lake were lovely. I'm looking for a less suburban, less country club area, more bookstores and alternative parent-type places. and some sort of community of parents. We have a 6 month old, and I'm going to stay home for at least a while....really, any thoughts on the NYC-to-Chicago transition would be welcome.
5 replies [ Reply | Watch | Options ]I only ever lived in the city before moving from Chicago to NYC, but if you are only talking about space, you get way more of it for your money in Chicago city proper than NYC anyway. I knew folks who moved to Evanston after kids as a compromise between burbs and city and they liked it - I kind of equate it to moving from Manhattan to Queens.
[ Reply | Options ]Try Lincoln Square of Bucktown/Wicker Park. Both will seem dirt cheap compared to NYC.
[ Reply | Options ]OP here: when we drove around, we ended up in Wicker Park. Liked it a lot more, but figured the schools would be better in Evanston, close to the lake/parks for the kid, probably more parents around -- no? Would love to hear more about the area if you can, we were on our way to the airport and ended up there by mistake and had only an hour to look around.
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