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Went out for dinner with a friend last night. Mmy share was 27$, hers was 76$. Because of the vast difference, we paid our own way. Friend left only a $7 tip. I mentioned this to her, thinking it was an oversite and she said she is not leaving 11$ and if I have a problem with it, I could pay the difference. wtf?!? I was so annoyed.
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01.27.12, 04:02 PM Flag ]
- ick. i don't think i could be friends with somebody who rips off waiters.
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  01.27.12, 04:03 PM Flag
- wow that's not even 10%. She's cheap
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  01.27.12, 04:03 PM Flag
- the whole tip should be $20, so she should at least pay $10.
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  01.27.12, 04:04 PM Flag
- she probably ordered $$$$$ thinking you two would split evenly and now was pissed. She sucks
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  01.27.12, 04:04 PM Flag
- I would have just paid it but avoid dinner with her in the future.
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  01.27.12, 04:04 PM Flag
- I had a friend who would go out to dinner with us, order lots of things including drinks and at the end of the meal would says...I only have $7. She always did this that ppl stopped going out to dinner with her.
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  01.27.12, 04:06 PM Flag
- Op.... She mentioned ahead of time that we'd pay our own way... I'm not drinking atm, and she ordered the most expensive thing on the menu, plus a side dish. Took half of it home. i think she didnt realize it would be so expensive. She did this once before at a sushi place I go to alllll the time. No more eating out with her. RUDE!
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  01.27.12, 04:07 PM Flag
  - yes don't go out with her esp back to this restaurant where the waiter was stiffed. He'd spit in your meals
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    01.27.12, 04:09 PM Flag
- Even $11 would have been cheap of her. I would leave $15 or $16 on $76. 20% is the new norm.
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  01.27.12, 04:07 PM Flag
- A someone related note, I regularly go out with 2 friends who always order multiple apps, drinks, dinner, and dessert. I generally order a salad and water (I'm on a strict diet). When the bill comes, they tell me I should just pay for my salad plus tax and tip, but I always get the feeling that they are annoyed with me.
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  01.27.12, 04:08 PM Flag
  - somewhat related, that is...Not sure if they are annoyed that I'm spending so much less or eating so much less or what.
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    01.27.12, 04:09 PM Flag
  - well screw them if they're annoyed. You can't pay equal parts if you're only ordering a salad. If not just ask for sep. checks
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    01.27.12, 04:10 PM Flag
  - They are. You should do non-dining activities with them like movies or bowling.
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    01.27.12, 04:11 PM Flag
    - np: I would never mind if a friend on a diet would order just salad and water
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      01.27.12, 04:12 PM Flag
      - ^^I'd applaud them for their effort unless they have an eating disorder
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        01.27.12, 04:12 PM Flag
      - I don't wanna watch you diet- it is boring and sad.
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        01.27.12, 04:14 PM Flag
        
        but we're there to chat and chew..not stare at each other eat. It's about conversation and not about what's on my plate
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        01.27.12, 04:16 PM Flag
      - Poster above: I guess it is a little more complicated. I'm "on a diet" but I'm really trying to maintain my weight after having lost 40 pounds a few years ago. I almost stopped going out with them because I found it so hard to resist ordering something fattening, but I decided to keep meeting up with them because I really enjoy their company.
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        01.27.12, 04:15 PM Flag
        
        I think as long as you're eating something there's nothing wrong with just ordering a salad. Salads are great and meals on their own these days. Don't understand the issue the other poster has with those ordering just a salad
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        01.27.12, 04:17 PM Flag
  - I get annoyed by people like you. Not because of the money, but because it really puts a damper on the conviviality of the get-together when one person is punishing themselves with a water and salad. It makes the other people feel like gluttons or feel sorry for you. That said, no reason it should put an end to the friendship- just plan to do other things that don't involve restaurants.
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    01.27.12, 04:13 PM Flag
    - np: I'm on a diet with pre-made meals. I can only have a salad when I'm out. That shouldn't get ppl annoyed. I'm trying to lose 50 lbs
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      01.27.12, 04:14 PM Flag
    - I'm the salad poster above. I know. I can totally see how I would be a drag. To add to the fun, I'm a vegetarian. It's amazing that I have any friends at all. ;-)
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      01.27.12, 04:18 PM Flag
      - np: you need to lunch with us. I'm on a diet (strict diet) so will only eat salads out, my friend (who I had lunch with yesterday) is a vegetarian, another friend is so skinny she moves her food around and eats maybe 1/4 on the plate. these ladies don't care..you'd fit in :)
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        01.27.12, 04:24 PM Flag
    - np: Yeah, you sound convivial.
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      01.27.12, 04:34 PM Flag
- why are you annoyed?
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  01.27.12, 04:16 PM Flag
- I wouldn't have said anything to her. Nothing good can come of it. Just pay your $5 or whatever you thnk is a fair tip for your portion and leave it at that. It's not your problem. It's not your problem. It's not your problem....
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ick. i don't think i could be friends with somebody who rips off waiters.

wow that's not even 10%. She's cheap

the whole tip should be $20, so she should at least pay $10.

she probably ordered $$$$$ thinking you two would split evenly and now was pissed. She sucks

I would have just paid it but avoid dinner with her in the future.

I had a friend who would go out to dinner with us, order lots of things including drinks and at the end of the meal would says...I only have $7. She always did this that ppl stopped going out to dinner with her.

yes don't go out with her esp back to this restaurant where the waiter was stiffed. He'd spit in your meals

Even $11 would have been cheap of her. I would leave $15 or $16 on $76. 20% is the new norm.

somewhat related, that is...Not sure if they are annoyed that I'm spending so much less or eating so much less or what.

well screw them if they're annoyed. You can't pay equal parts if you're only ordering a salad. If not just ask for sep. checks

They are. You should do non-dining activities with them like movies or bowling.

np: I would never mind if a friend on a diet would order just salad and water

^^I'd applaud them for their effort unless they have an eating disorder

I don't wanna watch you diet- it is boring and sad.

but we're there to chat and chew..not stare at each other eat. It's about conversation and not about what's on my plate

I think as long as you're eating something there's nothing wrong with just ordering a salad. Salads are great and meals on their own these days. Don't understand the issue the other poster has with those ordering just a salad

np: I'm on a diet with pre-made meals. I can only have a salad when I'm out. That shouldn't get ppl annoyed. I'm trying to lose 50 lbs

I'm the salad poster above. I know. I can totally see how I would be a drag. To add to the fun, I'm a vegetarian. It's amazing that I have any friends at all. ;-)

np: you need to lunch with us. I'm on a diet (strict diet) so will only eat salads out, my friend (who I had lunch with yesterday) is a vegetarian, another friend is so skinny she moves her food around and eats maybe 1/4 on the plate. these ladies don't care..you'd fit in :)

np: Yeah, you sound convivial.

why are you annoyed?

I wouldn't have said anything to her. Nothing good can come of it. Just pay your $5 or whatever you thnk is a fair tip for your portion and leave it at that. It's not your problem. It's not your problem. It's not your problem....