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Been married for 6 years (together for 9), any tips on how to rekindle and respark our marriage? We still do date night but it just doesn't seem like enough. DH is constantly stressed about work which is stressing me out. Just wish we could be "in love" again like when we first starting dating.

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  • Been married for 6 years (together for 9), any tips on how to rekindle and respark our marriage? We still do date night but it just doesn't seem like enough. DH is constantly stressed about work which is stressing me out. Just wish we could be "in love" again like when we first starting dating.

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    04.07.10, 01:39 PM Flag ]
    • you are me. exactly. but we dont do date night.

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      04.07.10, 01:44 PM Flag
      • i would never divorce, it's not that severe but sometimes i wonder if i will ever be as happy/in love as i was when i was younger....it makes me understand why people cheat and divorce.

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        04.07.10, 01:47 PM Flag
        • i think having kids changes a lot. i think you have to really really work on it. but i agree.. young love is way different - but so is your life now

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          04.07.10, 01:49 PM Flag
        • all marriages go through ups and downs. we've been marreid 19 years, together 25 total. sometimes i feel bored, sometimes we have the best time together. when you have small kids its often really hard to also be romantic. Adn if one partner is stressed or depressed that's hard too. but it isn't permanent.

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          04.07.10, 01:53 PM Flag
          • it almost feels like we are best friends, but have lost the romance and excitement- that is what i want back. i wouldn't even consider things to be bad between, we just don't have the ummphh that we used to.

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            04.07.10, 02:09 PM Flag
            • really really normal, again, especially if you have small children. doesn't mean it won't come back.

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              04.07.10, 02:12 PM Flag
              • no children yet...so it will get worse? wonderful! i thought maybe that would bring us closer.

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                04.07.10, 02:13 PM Flag
                • IME it does bring you closer -- it smoothed out a lot fo rough edges fro us -- but romance sort of takes a back seat for a while.

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                  04.07.10, 02:19 PM Flag
    • If you both are constantly stressed then it will be hard to get that spark back. The home, and especially the bedroom, should be as insulated as possible from work stress. I know it is easier said than done, but I think it is the first step that you both need to commit to before things get better. Also, instead of going out on date night every time, you can sometimes stay in your bedroom for some real fun and instruct the baby sitter to keep the kids away unless you open the bedroom door.

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      04.07.10, 02:14 PM Flag
      • oooh, gross and weird, having sex in your locked bedroom while the babysitter is in the house with the kids?

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        04.07.10, 02:43 PM Flag
        • np Ittttta. How truly f-ed up. Sitter would have a great laugh about you with her friends later, that's for sure.

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          04.07.10, 02:45 PM Flag
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