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  • If PSD gave you very good feedback from your FC does it mean you're in? She said don't count your chickens until they hatch.

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    02.09.10, 07:48 AM [ Flag ]

    • I have friends who had "accept" feedback in years past and got accepted, and friends with "accept" feedback who got waitlisted at that school and everywhere else (presumably because psd said that they were going to the school that promised to accept). This happens more often than you would think. Don't count on anything until you have a contract in hand.

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      02.09.10, 07:52 AM [ Flag | link to this post ]

      • What kind of feedback is "accept" feedback? Do they say "you will be accepted to our school" literally?

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        02.09.10, 09:20 AM [ Flag | link to this post ]

        • No. It means, "We LOVE dc and we can really see her at our school." At least that's what we got - and then got wait listed...

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          02.09.10, 02:01 PM [ Flag | link to this post ]

      • np: i think that sometimes very strong feedback can turn to WL and some PSD's let other schools know that your family is shooting for XYZ school so other schools WL. I think a savvy PSD would not though.

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        02.09.10, 09:33 PM [ Flag | link to this post ]

    • was your feedback an "accept"? b/c like or I too have friends that had an "accept" that turned to a wl at the last minute. Nothing is for certain until you've gotten the contract.

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      02.09.10, 07:57 AM [ Flag | link to this post ]

    • just the fact that your psd gave you that line should tell you that you don't have a definite accept.

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      02.09.10, 08:04 AM [ Flag | link to this post ]

    • For us it ended up meaning WL

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      02.09.10, 09:02 AM [ Flag | link to this post ]

    • I will give you one example: a few years ago, our PSD told us "Collegiate called and she said she really liked your son and your family" and we got rejected.

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      02.09.10, 09:26 AM [ Flag | link to this post ]

    • friend got a "we love your dd and hope she calls ____ home" from a TT, only to be REJECTED. another tt gave her an accept. unbelievable, but true.

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      02.09.10, 09:41 AM [ Flag | link to this post ]

    • With the "don't count your chickens" qualifier it's not "very good" feedback, imo. We got definite "will accept" feedback, and it was accurate.

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      02.09.10, 09:46 AM [ Flag | link to this post ]

    • Of course you

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      02.09.10, 09:46 AM [ Flag | link to this post ]

    • very good feedback means they really like your dc and would like to accept them, but it is not a guarantee. "accept" feedback is just that - PSD says "dc is in at X school". We got that feedback from FC and another school and PSD told us that she would not "release" the other school until FC committed to her verbally that dc was definitely in. FC confirmed and dc was accepted, other school became a WL.

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      02.09.10, 09:31 PM [ Flag | link to this post ]

      • Wow. Our PSD would never play that sort of game. Our school is not "connected" at all.

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        02.09.10, 09:41 PM [ Flag | link to this post ]

        • i wouldn't call it a game. there was no need for dc to be admitted to more than our FC (although he was at a school wo feedback) and it meant that another dc from our preschool might get the spot that we would have turned down anyway. It helps no one for some kids to get into 4 schools and others not to get in at all and than have a ton of WL movement.

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          02.09.10, 09:45 PM [ Flag | link to this post ]

          • Right. However, your DC's spot may go to different kid from different school but your PSD would like to get the spot for another DC from you preschool, correct? Our PSD got some feedback but nothing is "your DC is in" type of feedback, that can change it to WL anytime. If PSD is connected, maybe she can negotiate better? So your DC was in your FC before their official day and another spot your DC declined became another DC from your preschool, and maybe a DC from unconnected preschool who had a good feedback may have lost his or her spot. That does not sound fair at all.

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            02.09.10, 09:55 PM [ Flag | link to this post ]

            • Actually, no, the school that PSD told we were headed elsewhere did NOT take another dc from our preschool bc no one from our preschool got in there last year. And regardless, NOTHING would have been gained from my dc getting another acceptance (I don;t need to stroke my ego thank you). I think that dc from unconnected preschools stand on their own merits - the great ones get multiple accepts, but unfortunately, the middle of the road ones don't have anyone rooting for them. It's very possible our "definite" feedback was rare, I didn't share that information with anyone else or ask them about theirs. And until we had the letter in hand, I didn't really believe it. But things did work out exactly as PSD had said.

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              02.09.10, 10:14 PM [ Flag | link to this post ]

              • I see. I would only want one acceptance (preferably from FC) too and don't need multiple acceptance. I see your point about middle of the road DC in unconnected preschools have disadvantage.

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                02.09.10, 11:25 PM [ Flag | link to this post ]
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