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wwyd if your 5 or 6yo said he doesn't want tuna sandwiches for lunch anymore b/c the kids in his class make fun of it?
64 replies [ Reply | Watch | Options ]i'm annoyed about it. it's a good thing i don't work in his school b/c i'd take these little kids and give them a good shake
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When that happened to my dc, I spoke with the teachers and they moved him to a table with other kids who had similar type of lunch.
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op: the appeal for me is that tuna is very easy to make. no cutting chicken off the bone and making into salad. besides which, if they make fun of tuna i'd think they'd make fun of chicken salad too. although maybe not. thanks for the suggestion. i guess i'll try it one day and see what happens.
[ Reply | Options ]or-i just thought that because it doesnt have a smell. I buy pre-made rotisserie chickens, and just pick them clean, chop the meat and make chicken salad with onions and celery. One chicken makes enough for a week of sandwiches. It will keep in the fridge.
[ Reply | Options ]thanks. i'll certainly try it. i'm surprised that no one is advocating ignoring these kids and just sending tuna anyway.
[ Reply | Options ]well, I guess I would just hate to be the child being teased.. if there is something I can do to ease the burden on my child, I will do it. Kids can be so mean, and its only for a short time.
[ Reply | Options ]op: thanks. i feel very out of my league with this age. now they have real interpersonal problems and i have no patience for it.
[ Reply | Options ]I guess this will be a period of awakening for you then. It is always interesting when you start to notice all the signs of your dc being his own little person with his own developing life and social relationships. You should cut him some slack because this is just the beginning of his social navigating career, and this tuna sandwich request will be the first of many requests he makes of you to help ease him through this difficult period. Its up to you to guide him through these situations.
[ Reply | Options ]op: ita. i just wasn't sure if i should guide him by saying "ignore them, they are just being stupid" or by not sending tuna fish if it's an issue for him.
[ Reply | Options ]I am well aware that parents do both, and there are positive points to each, I am just telling you what I personally would do, and if that jives with you, Great! If you feel you want him to grow a thicker skin, tell him to ignore them, thats what my dad would have done and I turned out fine.
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i don't. but we are so limited as to what we can give and what he'll take. to have tuna taken off the list b/c some bratty kids in his class need to make fun of something is very annoying
[ Reply | Options ]i agree. i'd send once a week.. with a delicious snack like a choco chip cookie, so when the brats make fun, he can devour sammie then gloat over cookie in their faces!
[ Reply | Options ]np: this is a GREAT idea. Even if you have to break your nutrition rules for a while. My kids often complain that other kids get junk food for lunch and they don't. Then DH bought a huge box of Oreos at BJ's (arg!) For about 3 weeks, they were the most popular kids at the lunch table.
[ Reply | Options ]op: thanks to you both. i am definitely going to try this. even if i don't send the tuna, i think it's time to start giving ds some ammunition.
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yes it is "giving dc ammunition" only proves it. let him fight his own battles. don't pack his lunches with an agenda for chrissakes. because it will backfire and he will only be picked on even more.
[ Reply | Options ]no, she is giving dc ammunition to play HIS game. The game that he has to play to survive in school. You can pretend it doesnt exist, but you aren't doing your kids any favors.
[ Reply | Options ]as a dc that young, you survive by avoiding. not by inviting the bullies to dogpile. adults may enjoy the fun of this but dcs don't.
[ Reply | Options ]np: my son stopped bringing hard-boiled eggs into school because some kid (a "friend," no-less) was teasing him. There are gobs of lessons here, but sending your dc in with cookies isn't going to hurt at all, and may actually help give the kid the confidence to bring whatever he damn well pleases.
[ Reply | Options ]i would wait until it blows over. sending dc in with a tuna sandwich and a cookie invites the following: "look! turd boy's mom packed him a stinky tuna sandwich again. grooooosss! even his cookie stinks! ewww! tuna chip cookie! barf! there's no lesson and there's no point in this. a cookie is not going to give the dc confidence. he'll learn that on his own.
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Isn't this the easy peer pressure? I mean, everyone gets teased about something or just quickly retreats and conforms. Isn't this a very basic teaching moment? Not that its ever easy to go against peer pressure, but if you acquiesce so so easily to 6 yo's, aren't you going to be held captive from here on? Maybe this isn't the battle to fight, but it'll be BJ's, pot, drinking or someother nonsesne a lot earlier than you remember. This is NYC, Christ, some kids are eating effing sushi...
[ Reply | Options ]Say, oh yeah, I hated it when I got teased for eating xyz. Isn't it good that it's not something important like getting teased for brushing your teeth? Then, you'd have to take a stand. Then you can discuss 5yo peer pressure. Then you can ask...What do you want me to pack you for lunch? We can have tuna together on the weekend! (Maybe he will eat something NEW in order to stay with the pack?)
[ Reply | Options ]Tuna fish is number one on the list for teasing-don't you all remember??? C'mon ladies we were all once kids. We should never forget how we felt/what we did as children. This knowledge helps us to understand what our dc go through Didn't you hate when mom packed any kind of smelly foods for your lunch? You can never go wrong with pb&j and it can be very healthy provided you use the right bread,nut butter, and fruit spread.
[ Reply | Options ]People: do you bring fish to work? Oh a few of course have tuna fish but are you bringing some bass and heating it up in the office microwave? If you do, your co-workers hate you. Once dc enters k, they're entering the real world. Its just a more immature version of the same one they will encounter as adults. School is their job right now complete with the same issues of etiquette among their peer set.
[ Reply | Options ]I have to agree. I actually ge annoyed (would ever say anything) when women (mostly) bring hard boiled eggs to work. It semms up a whoel section of the office. It's pretty rude, in my opinion. your lunch shouldn't bother other people. Fish is not appropriate except at home or in restaurant.
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I once sat in an office next to a woman who frequently brought tuna sandwiches for her lunch (to eat at her desk), and the smell made it very distracting for me to work. I think it's horrible that your son is being teased, but I bet that's the reason. A switch to chicken salad, with rotisserie chicken, is a great idea.
[ Reply | Options ]lesson - you don't change your food because other people tease you. does the child like tuna? (we went through the gamut with this issue)
[ Reply | Options ]Had a similar problem. Tuna is one of the only sandwiches DD likes. She doesn't like cheese and I don't like to serve lunch meat. We aren't allowed to send pb because of life-threatening allergies in her class. So, tuna it is -- once a week. That is the only time I ever send chips, so she enjoys it. I also tuck in a note telling her I love her or "saying hello". In other words, I make tuna fish day extra special. And, I remind of that some kids have terrible manners or eat things that she doesn't like the taste or smell of (like school lunch) we she also finds disgusting, but to each his/her own.
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