11.21.09, 08:30 AM 15 replies
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FYI: All of this tier nonsense you discuss here only gets handed down to your DCs. By the time we were 10 we knew the rankings of each school and which was considered filled with brainiancs and which were filled with just rich kids with the means not to be dumped in public. If you think that will not hurt or in some alter your DCs perception of themselves you are wrong. The cycle and the tiers have existed forever how about you start to break the cycle by growing up?

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  • FYI: All of this tier nonsense you discuss here only gets handed down to your DCs. By the time we were 10 we knew the rankings of each school and which was considered filled with brainiancs and which were filled with just rich kids with the means not to be dumped in public. If you think that will not hurt or in some alter your DCs perception of themselves you are wrong. The cycle and the tiers have existed forever how about you start to break the cycle by growing up?

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    • If the tiers have "existed forever", how would posters' "growing up" change anything?

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      11.21.09, 08:38 AM Flag

      • Which point are you attempting to debunk because your statement accomplishes neither. Yes, the tiers have existed as they now stand forever, valid or not the significance of them is propagated by tense mommies who need to be ahead of everyone not the dcs themselves.

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        11.21.09, 08:45 AM Flag

    • I so, so agree. Besides, it is all BS. The best school is the best school for your particular child. People are kidding themselves. It is such a shame that parents in NYC can't get a grip on their social/status anxiety. I actually know parents who make snide comments about the schools their so-called friends kids are applying to. How f--ked up is that?

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      11.21.09, 08:39 AM Flag

      • I know, we have watched it go on for years and our parents still tell stories about so-and-so saying a,b, or c about this or that school. I understand it is human nature to be competitive but really it is so damaging to the dcs themselves no matter if they are at collegiate or hewitt

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        11.21.09, 08:48 AM Flag

        • some of the nastiest behavior comes from parents with children at the less competitive schools. When my ds was accepted to Trinity for HS, you should have seen some of the behavior from acquaintances with children at some of the lower tier schools in manhattan. One mom actually went out of her way to be mean to my younger ds. unbelievable.

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          11.21.09, 09:15 AM Flag

          • Yes I hate to agree with you but I have to that it is very much the standard norm here. I am sure there are a lot of nasty obnoxious moms who want to broadcast that their dc is at a tt, but there are more angry and bitter mothers who did not get a slot for their child who make it their mission to attack the children who did. Sick.

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            11.21.09, 09:19 AM Flag

          • so opposite of my experience. but it is much more subtle than that.

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            11.21.09, 01:19 PM Flag

            • I think it depends which side of the fence you are on. If you are a mom with a dc at a tt, you think people make nasty bitter comments if you are a mom with a dc and 2nd or 3rd or worse bashed school you may be defensive and take everything that is said badly.

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              11.21.09, 02:08 PM Flag

    • Actually, even if the parents did not say a word, the kids still figure out on their own. Human nature.

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      11.21.09, 10:20 AM Flag

      • true, but parents should not fuel the fire that will eventually burn their own dcs

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        11.21.09, 10:30 AM Flag

        • Absolutely. I don't really understand how these kids figure things out but it happens at publics, too, thta house G&T. Kids as young as 2nd graders figure out G&T kids and gen ed kids. Even if the school and the parent body make every effort to not distinguish at all.

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          11.21.09, 10:52 AM Flag

          • We all found around 3rd grade when they started counseling out. My best friend at the time was asked to leave and go to another ss and I was devastated. She told me why she was going and it stays with you.

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            11.21.09, 11:59 AM Flag

            • OMG, her parents or the school told her the reason? What school starts counseling out at 3rd grade?? brearley?

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              11.21.09, 12:04 PM Flag

    • I went to what is considered here a 2nd tier private in manhattan and have no idea what you're talking about. Maybe tt alums are smarter and can make sense of what you're saying.

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      11.21.09, 01:46 PM Flag
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