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Do you 'enjoy' spending time with your kids?
- Yes, most of the time we really have fun together
- Sometimes it's fun, sometimes it's really dull and aggravating
- Honestly most of the time it's not fun at all, but it's not supposed to be fun
- I really don't enjoy it at all, and wish I could spend less time with them
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do any of you ever worry about having your dc is a constant culture of achievement as opposed to just being? serious question - this goes for all NYC schools - publics and privates
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new york city has always been about drive and success, amassing more and more money. I am from here and my family managed to raise three very low key children who went to private and had thing, some things, but focused on the correct way to live. Its about who is raising you not who your neighbors are.
[ Reply | More ]I mostly agree with you but I have also lived in some very downscale areas during parts of my life and when everyone has very little you would be surprised at how the subliminal differences and the toll NYC can take on a person.
[ Reply | More ]OK I don't get your point really. Will your experiences and expectations be different in you lived on the UWS as opposed to a low income housing development in Arkansas? Yes. But really why do you want your child to have the low income arkansas experience? Why not give them opportunities and the knowledge to succeed with a balance of realism about life. I don't understand this strange desire among the elite her to expose their children to poverty to keep them 'grounded'. There is no such thing.
[ Reply | More ]I have often wondered: are NY area kids more competitive because they grew up here, or because their parents are more competitive and live in NY because of their personalities?
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I think often the pressure comes from the kids themselves. There are few kids who are almost like geniuses who just absorb everything instantly and have always been several grades levels above. Even though all the rest of the kids are very bright in their own right, they compare themselves to those few kids (let say top 10%) and want to be in that top 10% and for these 90% of kids, they have to put in so many hours to perform at the same level as those kids who only need, say, 30 min.
[ Reply | More ]Yes. I think this is a very valid question. I find myself fighting my own type A upbringing for my dc all the time, though not that successfully.
[ Reply | More ]I completely agree- though I think some is genetic because I have discovered that some of my kids got my type A gene and some kids did not. I try to keep all of my kids out of hyper-competitive groups though because environmental influences seep in, no matter how much I say "it doesn't matter, this is just for fun."
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