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for those of you who are divorced and have joint custody... do you not see your dcs for several days at a time (or even a week) and how do you deal with that? I don't think I could! I wouldn't necessarily mind missing them every other weekend, but longer than that would be very difficult.
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11.20.09, 05:33 PM [ Flag ]
- You get used to it, and it is a good opportunity to have some me time.
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  11.20.09, 05:40 PM [ Flag | link to this post ]
  - how much time in between seeing them?
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    11.20.09, 05:41 PM [ Flag | link to this post ]
    - at most, 7 days, except in the summer, then a month.
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      11.22.09, 12:59 PM [ Flag | link to this post ]
- We sold our apartment and each got a new apartment in the same school district and within a few blocks of each other. We do a three-days-on, three-days-off schedule, but we're both nearby so if there are ever emergencies, there's no problem with either of us picking the kids up from school.
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  11.22.09, 12:41 PM [ Flag | link to this post ]
- If the divorce was not your idea (or a mutual decision), I'm not sure that it ever gets easier. I, too, have a lot of "me" time and make a point of using it well, but vacations and holidays without my dc's are still pretty rotten. Now that my dc's are older (high school), it helps a lot that they prefer to spend as much time as they can at my home. I also suspect that the "empty nest" I'll get in a few years won't be quite as painful since I'll be somewhat used to it.
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  11.22.09, 01:43 PM [ Flag | link to this post ]
- I have my youngest all the time. exDH takes the older two every other weekend and has dinner with them one night a week, usually wednesday. Honestly, I'm relieved when it's his weekend. I always need the break to get things done around the house and relax.
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  11.22.09, 05:09 PM [ Flag | link to this post ]