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My ds scored terribly on the erb any suggestions as to what I should do? All I ever hear in that everyone in Manhattan scores in the 90th percentile and above. How can this be true? Is it?
39 replies [ Reply | Watch | Morewhat does "terribly" mean? what did ds get? Just apply to schools that will be right for that score. PSD will be able to guide you
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He scored in thee 55th percentile. He is bright. Thank you for your kind words. I spoke with someone and she tried to indicate that there was something wrong with him. He went to a well known Prek for 3 years and now he is in a Montessori school. He has learned mored since September than he learned in the previous 3 years. I moved him because they did not get boys at all.
[ Reply | More ]the honest truth is that a 55th percetnile will not get you into NYC private schools. I might consider staying at your Montessori if he can, if your local public is not an option. Where you applying for 1st grade?
[ Reply | More ]I am hoping to keep him in the Montessori for Kindergarten then take the erb again and hopefully apply to a boy's school-Browning, St Davids. Do you have any ideas?
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honestly, with a 55, I would try and understand why his scores were what they were....perhaps an indicator for something you need to work on (could be shy-ness or focus, not necesarily an "issue"). Schools will see your previous score as well as this one. St. David's can be very competitive.
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he is your darling little boy-the same child before you found out his results.Please don't treat him like there is something wrong with him-children can feel that.And make sure you don't treat him in a way that will change his behavior-self-fulfilling prophecy?(sorry if I make mistakes,English is not my first language).There is a lot of pressure on this children nowadays.I agree with a good public school(move/rent if you have to).Try to find out the areas where he did less well-if speech,see a speech therapist a few times to find out how you can stimulate him etc.You did not fail him, it is just a test and expectations are too big at this age.OLSAT is a free test, you will get some more feed back from those results.
[ Reply | More ]Thanks for your kind words. You are right he is my darling boy and I love him. Warren Buffet was reject from Harvard Business School and Bill Gates and Matt Damon dropped out of Harvard. I have to keep this in perspective.
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if you think the scores are not correct and you can afford it, have him privately tested. if you go back and do ERB again, they must report scores. if the private tester does it, you can send them to schools if he does better and, if he does the same, chuck them. these tests are nothing more than an indication. If he's bright, he's bright. It just sucks for you.
[ Reply | More ]i think that this is good advice. heave him tested privately. if the scores are radically different, you can certainly send them to the schools this year. if they aren't, you will have to sit down and figure out an alternate plan. of course he could transfer into a private school later (these scores will not follow him). but you need to worry about right now. if the montessori has been as good for him as you say, there is no reason not to keep him there for a few years. my friend's son was a very smart boy with a bad erb. they didn't get in anywhere and ended up in westchester where he is thriving. i am not telling you to move out of the city. i am just saying that there are many options other than a nyc private school. you just need to re-focus your efforts now. good luck to you.
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I am glad you read them in the kind tone they were written (ub posts are sometimes hard to interpret because there is no "tone". Seriously, though, I feel for you because I watched my friend go through it and it was very difficult to watch her stress and suffering ( it hurts to have your wonderful child rejected by people who really know very little about him/her). Having said that, I am a big believer in always having a plan b (and c and d if possible). It sounds like you have a few options to consider. And that is a very good thing.
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DS got 50 x 3. I was so new to NYC that I thought that meant he was perfectly on track, which he is. Test score does not shake my faith in him or the environment that his 2 PhD parents provide for him. We only applied to a few privates; rejected at a very tough one, rejected at his sib's school, accepted where we had a strong connection (not sure if they saw ERB score).
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