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SIL lives 10 mins. away. Our DS's are 5 mo apart. DH's entire family is not close, however, I saw her at the checkout today and didn't even said hello...avoided her and kept going thru the aisles. Part of me wants to "do the right thing" and contact her and schedule a playdate, but a BIG part of me, doesn't want the drama of all of DH's family drama. I'm a softy, but have come a long way in dealing with all of this. Is life too short...should I get these two boy cousins together or what? I feel wishy-washy today.
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11.04.09, 12:09 PM [ Flag ]
- I would have said hello but probably not ask for a playdate. I have a SIL whose DD is 11 months older than my DS. We are civil at family functions but we don't plan playdates. I don't need that drama in my life.
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  11.04.09, 12:12 PM [ Flag | link to this post ]
- you should call jerry. asap.
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  11.04.09, 12:15 PM [ Flag | link to this post ]
  - WTH?
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    11.04.09, 12:16 PM [ Flag | link to this post ]
- Life is short: Give it a try! Set up an take-it-easy-playdate in the park/playground.
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  11.04.09, 12:18 PM [ Flag | link to this post ]
- I teach my kids to love their family members no matter what my opinions of them are. Unless a relationship could be considered very toxic for my dc, I do not shut out family members just because I don't like them. This is a touchy subject for me. I am so tired of hearing about grandparents who are shut out from their grandchildren's lives just beacuse the parent's find them annoying - etc, etc. Grow up and treat your family with respect.
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  11.04.09, 12:18 PM [ Flag | link to this post ]
  - I teach my kids to love their family members. Honestly, this situation is more unique, so I am carefully weighing my decisions. I agree that shutting out relatives is not appropriate, but toxic relatives, where their are alcoholic/mental toxicities are not appropriate and need boundaries.
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    11.06.09, 12:07 PM [ Flag | link to this post ]
- i'd say it depends on the nature of the drama, but on the whole, not knowing your cousin is kind of heartbreaking. i used to play at my cousins' house all the time.
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  11.04.09, 05:08 PM [ Flag | link to this post ]
- you can call and say "hi, how's it going" without infviting her over for a playdate.
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  11.04.09, 05:18 PM [ Flag | link to this post ]