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I need support/feedback on this: My mother-in-law works full-time and basically NEVER comes to see us and her 22-month old grandchild. (it is about 40 minutes away) and expects us to periodically haul out to her for a late SUnday dinner (inconvenient time and dc tired). She does not STOP approaching dc which keeps dc in a state of hysterics because dc does not know who she is. We ask her to give dc space and she does not stop (this is very stressful for me as I try to soothe dc.) DC was very hungry last SUnday and we asked for an early dinner plate for dc in which she responded "I am going to feed all of the guests now" and then proceeded to give plates to other people first.

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  • I need support/feedback on this: My mother-in-law works full-time and basically NEVER comes to see us and her 22-month old grandchild. (it is about 40 minutes away) and expects us to periodically haul out to her for a late SUnday dinner (inconvenient time and dc tired). She does not STOP approaching dc which keeps dc in a state of hysterics because dc does not know who she is. We ask her to give dc space and she does not stop (this is very stressful for me as I try to soothe dc.) DC was very hungry last SUnday and we asked for an early dinner plate for dc in which she responded "I am going to feed all of the guests now" and then proceeded to give plates to other people first.

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    • Mother-in-laws suck and all you can do is vent to other people. It's just the way it is.

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      11.03.09, 02:16 PM Flag

    • ITA with OR. MILs are a major pain even when they do not mean to be. I think it is the law of nature of something. Sorry. FWIW I am in the exact same situation as you. My family is far and MIL is close. It stinks.

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      11.03.09, 02:21 PM Flag

    • you need to take responsibility for your own dc's schedule. bring food that you can give her if this is a persistant problem. My IL's live in California and we have to visit twice a year and they ALWAYS books dinners in restaurants to see all the grandkids at once as mine sleep through every dinner in my lap. They always ask if dc are sick. Of course they are jet lagged out of their minds. They never travel, will not come east and will never really get it. I just suck it up because they gave me dh.

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      11.03.09, 02:21 PM Flag

      • I agree but can't help but say that I don't much credit my ILs with giving me my DH. More I feel that he survived despite them.

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        11.03.09, 02:28 PM Flag

    • LOL. The ultimate revenge is when all you bitches become the dreaded MIL.

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      11.03.09, 02:51 PM Flag

      • I am the OP. The situation makes sad. My family is out of state. I don't understand it. How can she care so little?

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        11.03.09, 02:56 PM Flag

    • Can you suggest a Sunday brunch instead? Sounds like it's a huge PITA for you and you need to negotiate a better alternative for you guys to get together. Have you tried declining and inviting them over to your place? DC may be more comfortable in your home.

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      11.03.09, 04:24 PM Flag
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