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I am 37wks pg w #2. Am working full time in a high pressure industry, and have been told I am not been "living up to my bosses expectations" recently. I have never pulled the "but I'm pregnant" card the whole time, and have been burning the candle at both ends to meet deadlines. Until last week I worked 2 1/2 weeks of 16 hour days, 6 days a week. Went to OB last week and my BP was 150 over 100. Was sent to the hosp for monitoring but sent home on modified bed rest until my next appt at hosp later this week. I checked in w office this morning and they have called a few times today, but I was going to doc's for additional tests. I just don't have it in me to call them anymore, and am afraid of going back to finish work, but don't want to waste my leave before DB comes. I feel so stressed because I know they won't respect my health limits on their own and I'm afraid if I push back it will only further my boss's impression that I am not doing my job well. (meanwhile I have had this job for years and never had a problem before these last few months).
12 replies [ Reply | Watch | MoreGet your Dr to sign you out on short term disability. You're only three weeks away, and clearly cannot do your job (high bp, etc). Your firm should have disability coverage.
[ Reply | More ]we do have STD coverage and I know I can get paid for at least 6 weeks for delivery and possibly more for additional health issues, but my concern is FMLA which only allows 12 weeks total in a year. I was planning on using it all for the maternity leave.
[ Reply | More ]I don't think your FMLA leave would be affected by going on maternity early. Leaving early would be covered by STD, not FMLA. The number of weeks alotted for STD is extended with a medical note from your doctor. Of course, I would check this all with your HR dept. I'm sorry, this shouldn't even be an issue for you, or for any other pregnant woman. Take the time to take care of yourself and your baby.
[ Reply | More ]NP - FMLA starts the day of birth. I wanted it to start earlier, but that's what I was told. What a crappy situation, I wish you luck. And, agree with the poster below - document!!
[ Reply | More ]OP- I discussed w/ HR today and unfortunately FMLA starts as soon as I am put on disability - be it for delivering the baby, or due to pregnancy complications. In addition, despite a Doc's letter saying I can work from home until further notice, my boss has told me she does not want me answering emails or doing many things that would be related to my job! She wants me to start my leave immediately. But the sooner I officially start, the sooner I have to come back, regardless of how old the baby is.
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Prioritize. At this point you need to take care of yourself and your baby. Trust me-no employee is indispensable. If possible do a brief memo, so they know whats on your plate, and where everything is -they can handle the rest.
[ Reply | More ]^^Also- make sure you document everything! If they are out to get you, you want to make sure you have a paper trail. Make sure they know your leave is med necessary- what your limits are per doc, If possible work your really long hours into an email, ect.
[ Reply | More ]I agree. I was fired at 7 months and then a co-worker called me to tell me that the partner who was out to get me said in a meeting that they wouldn't be hiring any more women b/c they take maternity leave.
[ Reply | More ]illegal. I wish someone would sue them for this. Our country has the most hideous approach to working mothers. I worked for PwC when I was pregnant. I received 4 weeks paid leave prior to my due date, plus 12 weeks of leave after, plus another week or so of vacation time that had been accumulated while I was on maternity leave. I then didn't officially quit my job until 3 months after my maternity leave was over (my job was saved for another few months). They understand that working mothers are a fantastic workforce, as well as that women who decide to SAH usually return to the workforce after 4-6 years. On-boarding takes so much time and money that they keep the door open for quality employees. I was told that if/when I am ready to come back, and provided there is a job opening, I have a job. We shouldn't have to fear losing our jobs when we have children.
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Catch your breath; then prioritize. Your baby and their health is what's top priority, always will be. A job is a job, cannot compare. Get your Dr. to write that you need to begin maternity leave NOW. That BP is indicative of potential problems that are serious if you continue as is, you don't need any more writing on the wall to know it's time to leave work.
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