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  • How do we break it to my 85 yo extremely religious MIL that we will not be sending our dc to CCD this Fall? She said that if we don't it will "kill her." I am Jewish BTW. I agreed to let our dc be baptized, but that was supposed to be it.

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    08.30.09, 07:42 PM [ Flag ]

    • ccd?

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      08.30.09, 07:42 PM [ Flag | link to this post ]

    • I am also extremely religious but I also realize that parents are the ones who make the decision. All you have to say is "I had them baptized (I assume she's catholic b/c they baptize infants) b/c it was important to you but that your religious beliefs are not the same and you will do what is best for your kids." Trust me, it won't kill her. Make sure to expose your kids to different religions also b/c it is important for them to know what each has to offer and to make their own decision, it should not be forced or family obligated.

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      08.30.09, 07:47 PM [ Flag | link to this post ]

    • How old is dc? Do you attend Mass regularly? Wouldn't it be weird for dc to go to CCD if you don't go to church every week? (This is a serious question - I truly have no idea, since I do not go to church every week as I did when I was growing up.)

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      08.30.09, 08:05 PM [ Flag | link to this post ]

      • Never, never, never. We are not religious, not practicing of either Judaism or Catholicism. I thought that getting dc baptized would be no big deal if it would make MIL happy.

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        08.30.09, 08:37 PM [ Flag | link to this post ]

        • Well, my guess (without any real knowledge - hopefully someone can chime in who actually knows about this) is that your child would not be allowed to go to CCD without a commitment to going to Mass weekly.

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          08.30.09, 09:22 PM [ Flag | link to this post ]

        • It's not that simple. At the baptism, the priest specifically asked if you were prepared to raise your kid in the Catholic faith, and you answered in the affirmative. If you were never sincere about that, then you should not have had your child baptized.

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          08.31.09, 03:32 AM [ Flag | link to this post ]

    • i cant belive that you let your kids be baptized. that is disturbing.

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      08.30.09, 08:19 PM [ Flag | link to this post ]

    • Wow- haven't heard that term in a while. I hated going! My mom even jokes about it now "I don't know why I did that to you" Most of the time after our parents dropped us off we would sneak out the back and make out with the other nice Catholic boys.

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      08.30.09, 08:26 PM [ Flag | link to this post ]

      • I went until I was 15 and I still don't know what the CCD stood for! Catholic Children's Detention or Central City Dump were the two we came up with. That said, I will admit I learned a little bit about the bible, which served me well in college in some literature courses and for my general cultural literacy.

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        08.30.09, 08:34 PM [ Flag | link to this post ]

        • What DOES CCD stand for? I guess I never questioned it. Would like to know-now that I'm 39 and had to endure it from 1st grade until 9th. I'm sure some uber-catholic mom will chime in and let us know in a really rude way.

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          08.30.09, 08:41 PM [ Flag | link to this post ]

    • One of my friends who is a huge pot-head actually teaches CCD. Tell you MIL that.

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      08.30.09, 08:44 PM [ Flag | link to this post ]

    • I would tell her after having some strong feelings recently about raising your dc Jewish, you have decided not to. She might just be too relieved to push the CCD thing.

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      08.30.09, 09:09 PM [ Flag | link to this post ]

    • this is a personal decision that you and dh make; it's not her right to say one way or the other (not that that's stopped her). stand firm on your ground that you were OK with the baptism, and that is all there is going to be.

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      08.31.09, 01:46 AM [ Flag | link to this post ]

    • It's just one of those things she'll have to live with. Don't devote too much time or thought to this! Are you & DH in agreement about how you're raising your kids? If you got your dc baptized, then you technically agreed to raise your child as a Catholic. Sounds like you're doing things a little half-assed, but really it's none of my business. I guess if you weren't planning on raising your kid Catholic, then you should not have gone ahead with the baptism in the first place.

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      08.31.09, 03:31 AM [ Flag | link to this post ]

    • It won't kill her! We did not baptize our kids and we did not get married in church (just city hall) and while we always get letters that we would rot in hell (I am not kidding), it did not kill my MIL and SIL. We are still friendly with them, we just ignore these letters and even joke about them.

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      08.31.09, 04:28 AM [ Flag | link to this post ]
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