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the Guilt is killing me! I yelled a couple of times at my 2.5 year old today - she was pretty unbearable at times and then I feld HORRIBLE. I also suffer from anxiety and I am just about to get my period. In my mind I think I made the situation so much worse - don't get me wrong she was very difficult BUT the rational side of me says "what is the big deal - just a kid throwing a tantrum - why get so upset" Guess I am angry w/ myself for getting so irritated at my child. ALL DAY I have been obsessing about how I reacted to her, if I am a bad mother etc etc etc which is alos making everythibng seem so much more exaggerated.. help
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08.30.09, 05:51 PM [ Flag ]
- I responded to the other post below. I want to give you some way to contact me but I am not sure how. My situation is eerily similar to yours, almost identical. It could be great if we could talk. You sound like you need support and I know around PMS time, I certainly need support too.
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  08.30.09, 05:54 PM [ Flag | link to this post ]
  - hi there. THANK YOU so much. You are very very kind. how many kids do you have? did you always have anxiety etc. I had PPDOCD after my baby was born. This feels like a ever so slight version of it. The guily, dwelling, distorted thinking etc..
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    08.30.09, 06:00 PM [ Flag | link to this post ]
    - Have all of it. They diagnosed me with post pardum anxiety. I have one dd who is 2 and definitely going through the terrible 2 stage - being defiant and not listening, laughing at me. My dh tries but just can't understand why I act so crazy sometimes.
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      08.30.09, 06:02 PM [ Flag | link to this post ]
  - np: make quick gmail or hotmail dummy account. takes 5 mins. post address and don't use it for anything else.
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    08.30.09, 06:02 PM [ Flag | link to this post ]
    - ok I'll do that now..
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      08.30.09, 06:06 PM [ Flag | link to this post ]
      - I have no idea how so I'll leave it up to you :)I will b on for awhile b/c dd is eating dinner.
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        08.30.09, 06:07 PM [ Flag | link to this post ]
        
        thx - I'll try to get back to you.
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        08.30.09, 06:08 PM [ Flag | link to this post ]
      - actually have to take care of db right now - really don't have time... I can maybe check back in 1 hr or so - thx so much
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        08.30.09, 06:08 PM [ Flag | link to this post ]
- You didn't hit her, you raised your voice. Really, seriously, this is OK. 2.5 year olds can be spectacularly annoying. You have to allow yourself to be human in all your relationships, including with your kids. So yes, feel bad enough about it to try not to make it a habit, but don't beat yourself up about it and please don't feel like a bad mother.
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  08.30.09, 05:57 PM [ Flag | link to this post ]
  - Thank You. Your post made me cry. I know I am hard on myself and have beat myself up in the past about things like this. Perhaps I have to work on a much larger issue like my self esteem - I was just thinking that if I had more confidence in myself maybe I wouldn't beat myself up and think I am bad etc etc tec
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    08.30.09, 06:04 PM [ Flag | link to this post ]