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Every summer I've been helping a now 14 year old wheelchair bound child navigate around the city and over the years I've been able to observe peoples reactions and respnse to her. I've been enlightened about culture and kindness.
57 replies [ Reply | Watch | MoreHispanics or AAs. I found WS-type white men *never* offered me a seat on the subway when I was pregnant.
[ Reply | More ]I got a seat on the subway every day when I was pregnant, mostly from white men. I'm white myself, wondering if that makes a difference. What race are you?
[ Reply | More ]Asian. DH is a WASP WS-type. He always offers his seat, offers to carry old ladies' groceries, etc.
[ Reply | More ]^ BTW just to vent: I don't always expect to be offered a seat just b/c I am pregnant, but it really pissed me off one day when a 20-something white guy cut me off and sat down in the empty seat in front me. That was the only time I was ever really pissed about being pregnant and standing. Okay vent over.
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How nice that you've been so happily impressed by society's kindness and good manners.
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NP Except by saying "You'd be surprised by the answer," you are turning to use of (negative) stereotypes.
[ Reply | More ]no. I'm sorry if I offended. I just meant you might be surprised by the answer. I grew up in the Bronx and have ridden the subway all my life and have had my share of confrontations over my skin like every other born and bred new yorker. no biggie. just talking personal observation and about my own experience
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How funny. My mother who is 65 and overweight has knee problems. Recently she has been having to use one of those scooters they provide at the supermarket to do her grocery shopping. She has been telling me how rude people have been to her and how they don't want to get out of the way to let her through.
[ Reply | More ]Meanwhile whenevr I take my 21 month old son grocery shopping whenver he drops a ball someone is always there to pick it up, even when he acts ups, people are still so nice to him and think youth and good looks have a lot to do with our people are treated, handicapped or not.
[ Reply | More ]I think that is a result of discrimination against fat people and not necessarily handicapped people.
[ Reply | More ]np Lots of those scooter people are very obnoxious. Act like everyone else is supposed to scatter to let them barrel through.
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op here: I should mention, the child is white and so am I. I'm not here to hurt anyone's feelings .. just to raise awareness. Again, who actually made eye contact with her and smiled or tried to just lighten her day a little. I have a deeper appreciation for this group.
[ Reply | More ]in a way i'd find this more offensive. as if kids/people in wheelchairs don't get the same respect of being ignored. is she mentally ill?
[ Reply | More ]I feel like I'm walking a fine line when it comes to people with handicaps. I mean, I always hold open doors and stuff, but am I supposed to make eye contact and smile? Isn't that a little condescending when I don't do that to everyone else? It's like, Hey, look at you, you're so special!
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she was just run over by a scooter, but in her last dying breath, she whispered:...
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OK, Rosebud. We're home from shopping... Here's what I experienced. African Americans were far and away the warmest and kindest people toward the person in the wheelchair. I include many afro-carribean people, (eg. Jamaican) as well. This is informal and just personal experience.
[ Reply | More ]Whites and Hispanics were generally equal. Maybe the whites were slightly less willing to interact. Least friendly and avoiding eye contact almost all of the time.. east Asian. Maybe it's just not a cultural thing to do but, I tell you what... My respect for the AA and AC cultures has deepened. I can see the way they are just, concerned. Brought up very well, I think.
[ Reply | More ]OK, so back to my original question, and this is serious: How do you expect people to treat you? I avoid eye contact with everyone. Isn't it condescending to look at a wheelchair-bound person and say Hey there! I see you!
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