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do you think initial chemistry is a secret to a happy marriage? dh and i never had chemistry, although we have a lot in common and are great friends, there was never that initial spark, and to date we don't have a terrific sex life, or any sort of chemistry. wonder if i had married someone with that spark if I would be in a better union? thoughts? btdt?
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08.11.09, 09:29 AM [ Flag ]
- It's a toss-up. Some people maintain a great sex life for their entire marriage (much to the embarrassment of their teenagers), and some people start off with great sex that quickly fades out when kids come along and routine sets in. Have you tried sending the kids to a friend/relative for the weekend, giving your husband some great head, and saying, "our sex life sucks, so do I, your move."?
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  08.11.09, 09:46 AM [ Flag | link to this post ]
  - There's more to a great sex life than giving blow jobs.
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    08.11.09, 09:50 AM [ Flag | link to this post ]
    - thats what i mean, we don't have much chemistry, so although we are so close, he is such a good friend to me, and me to him, the bedroom is pretty blah, and that really sucks for me bc i am a horny wife!
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      08.11.09, 09:52 AM [ Flag | link to this post ]
    - Very true. There is also the back door.
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      08.11.09, 09:59 AM [ Flag | link to this post ]
  - my husband just has a very limited sex drive...he is just not a horny dude, and overall just very blah in bed although sometimes he is ok, but generally just goes through the bases not very inventive.
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    08.11.09, 09:51 AM [ Flag | link to this post ]
- Your better off having a great friendship bond and allot in common.
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  08.11.09, 09:53 AM [ Flag | link to this post ]
- Slightly off topic, but I am lmao that for generations men have complained that as soon as the wedding ring is on, the sex life is off, and now in 2009 on this board, almost every sex post is about a husband who isn't putting out. Maybe the sexual revolution really did work... Memo to the men: This is no longer the heir-and-a-spare era! Your duties are not completed just because the kids are born!
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  08.11.09, 09:57 AM [ Flag | link to this post ]