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Is it ever possible to safely smoke pot and then watch kids (a 2 year old an a 6 month old)?
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nope didn't see the other post. Know a couple where the DH smokes a few time a week. The mom doesn't smoke and came to me for advice. She works and is concerned about leaving kids with DH in the evening. Apparently he plays with kids when smokes but is in bad mood when he doesn't, and then ignores kids. I have no idea what to tell her.
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i had a friend who was in a similar situation...the dad would either smoke in front of kids and/or the kids knew he did. the oldest kid told a counselor at school that father smoked pot and in the blink of an eye the kids were taken into custody by child protective services. awful.
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yes. seriously. in a nutshell what happened is described above. terrible situation. lots of grief and heartache. not to mention public embarrasment. cannot say more.
[ Reply | Options ]oh my gosh, tons of my friends' parents growing up smoked pot, and that never happened! i can't believe they would take a child out of a loving home for that!
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give her the number of the local chapter of NA and also one of a really good attorney in case NA doesn't work out. That sucks.
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No prob. But, now you've made me rethink my stance on legalizing mj. phooey. Good luck to your friend.
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if he can't kick the habit and would continue to put his children's life in danger then yes, i think it is. he displays that his chidren are not his priority, the pot is and, at least to me, that is not a man i would want to grow old w/ or be a model to my kids.
[ Reply | Options ]That is a little harsh. Is he really putting his kids life in danger? Would you divorce a man for speeding, smoking cigarettes?
[ Reply | Options ]that's not the same thing in my opinion.(well, the speeding comes closer). this guy is a drug addict. if i was in this situation and he refused to kick the habit i would def look into divorce. if he would rather be high than take care of his children there are big problems there. you do what you want, but i'm calling a lawyer. this isn't a good way to keep your kids safe or a good environment for them to grow up in.
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I think the question should be: why would anyone want to smoke pot while caring for 2 young children? Why wouldn't said person wait till children were asleep or another person was there so they could relax? I don't get it. And I'm not sure it's safe: those are young children and you never know what would happen that would require sharp thinking.
[ Reply | Options ]Apparently he tends to be jerky when not smoking (can get angry easily, throws man-tantrums) and is fun and happy when smoking. But mom is concerned because of some recent accidents with the kids. Lifted the ds into the moving ceiling fan. He is fine btw.
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I tend to agree. I really dont know what to tell her. The DH won't stop, he has flatly said it is not a problem. She is thinking about quiting her job to stay home full time, even though she earns twice as much as him and he is in financie and his job is not that secure.
[ Reply | Options ]why would she have to quit her job? does she work in evenings? sounds like they or he needs counseling.
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I would not do that, especially if there was a possibility that their marriage were to go south. I imagine she has someone stay with the baby during the day while she is working....she should make that person stay with baby until she gets home. Or, better yet, have a long talk with hubby about how his recreational activity is not in the best interest of their children.
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Quitting her job because of this situation would be a REALLY BAD idea, IMO. She wants to be financially dependent on this loser?
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If he is only nice when he's high, the guy has a problem and should not be trusted w/the children. She should leave him and get custody of the kids before something awful happens.
[ Reply | Options ]Why would you assume she would get custody? Is pot smoking enough to loose custody?
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are you serious?? did you really just ask this question? sorry for being rude, but as someone who is no stranger to illicit drugs when baby comes along you shelve them. not only are you risking arrest every time you buy, but you're exposing them to harmful substances. if YOU want to get high go do it on your own time and far away from your kids!
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I agree also. I know it seems extreme, but if I had a spouse who was only cheery when high I would be missing out on a real relationship. Not to mention lose respect for that person as a husband and a father. He needs to go to rehab or counseling and kick his habit. Sometimes people think pot is no big deal but this guy sounds like a classic addict who can't exercise good judgment and fulfill his basic responsibilities.
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A reasonable question. How about adding: Is it ever possible to safely drink (wine or beer for instance) and then watch kids?
[ Reply | Options ]Yes, it is possible. I occasionally do it (kids are 3 and 1). Makes that umpteenth game of Candyland or whatever a lot more fun, and I find I usually am sillier and more playful after than I had been. It's not like I suddenly forget what the proper dose of Infant Tylenol or what my pediatrician's number is. Some of you sound like you just watched "Reefer Madness." And I think the poster who made the comparison to a parent having had a few drinks makes a great point. To clarify, I don't do this regularly, I don't need to do it, and I'm a good, involved mom otherwise. But in answer to the original question, yes, it is possible to safely smoke pot and then watch kids.
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