I know someone who had a very close family member die today (a cousin who was raised like a sibling) and they have to go to a conference and wont be leaving until this Sunday and won't be back until 8 days after that. He is thinking of asking his cousin's family to wait until he comes back for the funeral. Is that a reasonable amount of time to ask someone to wait? I thought he would just cancel his trip but apparently he thinks asking them to wait isn't far fetched.

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  • I know someone who had a very close family member die today (a cousin who was raised like a sibling) and they have to go to a conference and wont be leaving until this Sunday and won't be back until 8 days after that. He is thinking of asking his cousin's family to wait until he comes back for the funeral. Is that a reasonable amount of time to ask someone to wait? I thought he would just cancel his trip but apparently he thinks asking them to wait isn't far fetched.

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    08.06.09, 10:34 AM Flag ]

    • we have people do this in our community all the time. people kept on ice for weeks. he probably thinks it's ok because he's seen it. why won't he cancel the conference?

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      08.06.09, 10:36 AM Flag

      • because he's a robot who has no emotions and thinks business is everything...and it's not even a deal breaking kind of conference, it's an academic conference.

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        08.06.09, 10:45 AM Flag

        • don't be melodramatic. if he were a robot with no emotions, he wouldn't care about missing the funeral, would he?

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          08.06.09, 12:41 PM Flag

    • he's probably still in shock.

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      08.06.09, 10:46 AM Flag

      • no...he's not in shock, just thinks everything is black & white, no flexibility or grey. X died, I have a conference, if X's funeral is when I get back I will go, if not I will miss it because my calendar already has something in it that day.

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        08.06.09, 10:47 AM Flag

        • so he's socially impaired? then you shouldn't be surprised by his actions and his family probably won't be either. the question is: will this sway them?

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          08.06.09, 11:00 AM Flag

        • wouldnt the funeral be sunday anyway?...he would still be around

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          08.06.09, 11:03 AM Flag

          • i'm catholic and typically funerals aren't on sunday, but that can be gotten around. OP, what religion/culture/community does your friend come from?

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            08.06.09, 11:06 AM Flag

    • that's a cultural thing...jewish people bury the dead w/in 48-72 hours and would never make an exception like what he's asking

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      08.06.09, 10:46 AM Flag

    • think it would be very self of him to ask the family to prolong their grief and wait until he could show up for a funeral. He should skip the conference. If not, he should simply miss the funeral. This isn't about him.

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      08.06.09, 11:11 AM Flag

    • I guess he can ask them, but if they say no, too bad for him. If he wants the body put on ice, is he going to pay for it?

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      08.06.09, 11:12 AM Flag

    • the only thing that's even remotely appropriate to ask would be to have the funeral as soon as they reasonably can--hopefully this weekend--so he can attend that prior to the conference

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      08.06.09, 11:13 AM Flag

    • Geez, people die at the most inconvenient moments don't they?

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      08.06.09, 12:38 PM Flag

    • that's ridiculous. it's not about him.

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      08.06.09, 12:45 PM Flag
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