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Anyone here ever left a decent marriage (nothing 'dramatically' wrong, no abuse, bad parenting, etc.) because it just wasn't a good match? I need some btdt insights about why you left, how spouse took it. I'm at a crossroads here. TIA.

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  • Anyone here ever left a decent marriage (nothing 'dramatically' wrong, no abuse, bad parenting, etc.) because it just wasn't a good match? I need some btdt insights about why you left, how spouse took it. I'm at a crossroads here. TIA.

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    08.06.09, 10:31 AM Flag ]
    • don't know anyone who has done this, seems extreme.

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      08.06.09, 10:40 AM Flag
    • I don't see why you would get married if you weren't a good match but no. If the relationship was decent then you should work harder to keep it.

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      08.06.09, 10:40 AM Flag
    • why did you marry?

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      08.06.09, 10:42 AM Flag
    • No. You need to work on your decent (your word) marriage. Go to counseling to find out what's wrong. Figure out/remember what drew you to him in the first place and try to recreate that.

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      08.06.09, 11:15 AM Flag
    • I had friends who did this after 4 years of marriage. No kids though. They say it was the best thing they could have ever done for each other. In total the were together 10 years. 6 years dating/living together. 4 years married. Literally one day they were talking at the dinner table and decided to end their marriage. Both are now married to other people. The ex DH has 2 children. The ex DW has 1 child.

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      08.06.09, 11:18 AM Flag
      • sounds like someone I know!

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        08.06.09, 11:20 AM Flag
      • That was me with my first marriage. But with second, and children involved, absolutly not.

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        08.06.09, 11:27 AM Flag
      • the no kids is a huge factor here...OP didn't disclose this tidbit

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        08.06.09, 11:27 AM Flag
        • op: Have one 5 yr old ds.

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          08.06.09, 11:34 AM Flag
      • this sounded like a couple i know, too, until the remarriage part. but yeah, friends of mine were together 10 years, married 3 of them, and decided that they weren't passionately in love and wanted to try to find someone they liked more.

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        08.06.09, 11:33 AM Flag
    • op here: I had hesitations when I married him but I was in love and he is a good man, and I was a different person then.

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      08.06.09, 11:35 AM Flag
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