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  • Man Advice - Got back together with an ex who was a very serious bf before ex DH. We dated for 2 years and then I moved away to grad school and his mother got sick so we parted romantically but remained close friends. Dinner, movies etc. We jumped right back into the old routine and it has not been very long but I want to move faster and he wants to take it slow, see over the next year where things go. Should I wait for the commitment or move on? Feel like after all the dating we did he should know Yes or No about us. WWYD

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    08.06.09, 09:06 AM [ Flag ]

    • Since you've had a marriage, a presumably dc, since your last dating episode, I don't think it is unreasonable for him to want to take things more slowly to determine how those factors might have changed you and could change his life. If he seems into you, I would stick it out.

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      08.06.09, 09:12 AM [ Flag | link to this post ]

      • Thank you. Yes all of these things have happened. I find it frustrating. He says things are moving along but right now he can't offer marriage but asked me not to leave.

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        08.06.09, 09:15 AM [ Flag | link to this post ]

        • asking him to be a stepfather is a big commitment. i agree with taking it slow, for him and for your dc(s), even if you want things to move along more quickly.

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          08.06.09, 09:16 AM [ Flag | link to this post ]

          • Then you believe he is not being coy or messing around but serious enough to invest the time. Thank you

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            08.06.09, 09:21 AM [ Flag | link to this post ]

    • oh, I wish I were in your shoes. Stick it out!! He has every reason to ask for that. (signed, poster who turned down bf 15 yrs ago, remained friends (as you did), and now wants bf and he's not interested). Give it some time. A year is reasonable. If he said "I just need more time" and was less specific, maybe it's reason to give yourself your own time limit for waiting. GL to you. Hope it works!

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      08.06.09, 09:19 AM [ Flag | link to this post ]

      • Thank you, and I am sorry that things have not turned out for you as you would have liked. Remember things do happen for a reason and the guy who feels like the last guy you will love is never the last guy you will love

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        08.06.09, 09:22 AM [ Flag | link to this post ]

    • he sounds intelligent and responsible to me. being a stepfather is not easy and he wants to make sure it's the right direction to go. this is wise not just for you but dc as well. give him time; now in a year, if he's still saying this, time to move on!

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      08.07.09, 12:53 AM [ Flag | link to this post ]
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